How To Make A Lasting Impression | Jeffery Keilholtz | TEDxRockville

Uncover the secrets to cultivating lasting influence, capable of not only transforming your own life but, also leaving a profound impact on others. Join Jeffrey Keilholtz as he introduces a revolutionary concept centered on prioritizing your 'unseen reputation,' empowering you to stand out from the crowd and make a significant mark in life. Jeffery Keilholtz, an Emmy Award-nominated producer and Senior Vice President, holds a key role within one of the world's fastest-growing entertainment companies. With a Harvard Business School education, he bridges the worlds of art and commerce, and has experience managing global communications, marketing partnerships, and substantial sales portfolios in corporate settings. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@anonisanonymous]

Miss Connor's act of kindness is a prime example of the impact of small, intentional actions. It's a reminder that we all have the power to make a positive difference, even in seemingly ordinary situations.

[@margaretstrom]

Absolutely. It reminds me of all those time travel movies like, make sure you don't do anything that'll affect the sequence of events... why don't we have that level of care towards our lives? It's the same principle.

[@hirominakahara2285]

The comparison between stage/screen and real-life interactions is a perspective shift. It's a privilege to create lasting impressions every day in our personal and professional lives.

[@PostNowIMeanNow]

The Miss Connor story was deeply touching. It shows how genuine kindness can ripple through a community and ultimately change lives.

[@keilholtzj]

Thank you for the kind words!

[@duncanboone8226]

I think that's going a bit far I mean sure she may have impacted that kids life and made things a little more bearable for her but maybe not the community as a whole. Like there is a limit to how much personal affect can change

[@Take-Away-Step]

Making another person feel seen and heard is the greatest thing you can do in life, it's like reassuring someone that they matter. That's huge.

[@waltersiegismund]

Miss Connor's selfless act with the anxious little girl is a beautiful example of empathy in action. It's a reminder to approach others with kindness and understanding.

[@shannelnasir2218]

Absolutely, it's kind of what you'd expect from any teacher though tbh

[@stratulatlucian8064]

Jeff's personal connection to the topic adds a relatable touch. It's nice when speakers share their own experiences - makes the message more authentic.

[@shannelnasir2218]

yup that's exactly why they do it

[@keilholtzj]

@@shannelnasir2218 thanks for the warm words!

[@keilholtzj]

thanks for the warm words!

[@katyabradova]

Listening to this, I couldn't help but think about the teachers who made a difference in my life. It's just not about the teaching, it's the way they truly saw me hey, took the time to understand. Really does mean the world to a child!

[@rapid-transit]

definitely my mind went there as well

[@duncanboone8226]

The insights on unseen reputation really hit home. It's not just about what we show to the world, but the small, genuine interactions that define us. Makes you think about your daily actions differently.

[@nae3185]

Yup this stuck out to me as well, and it's so true whenever I think about other people it's always the little things they've shown me that stick out

[@themessimadetoday]

The connection between lasting impressions and the unseen reputation is so intriguing. It's like crafting a personal brand through our daily interactions.

[@duncanboone8226]

that's an interesting way to put it, about the personal branding, it's very true though especially with the way commerce is going these days

[@rubyguil4622]

"Life is short, live the fantasy" - those words hit differently. A powerful reminder to chase our dreams and not get caught up in the daily grind. Thanks for the motivation!

[@anonisanonymous]

Yup, I'm all for living the fantasy

[@keilholtzj]

Those words hit me hard too when I heard them. Keep going, my friend.

[@vivianacorinacabarcaherrera]

Aww, the story about Miss Connor really touched my heart. it's amazing how a small act of kindness can have such a lasting impact.

[@logan-steele]

Absolutely, especially coming from a teacher when you're a child

[@keilholtzj]

@@logan-steele thanks, so much, for watching. ms. connor is incredible, right??

[@micdaskel3313]

Man, I wish I had a teacher like Miss Connor when I was in school. Growing up, I struggled a lot with anxiety, and having someone like her who understands and cares makes all the difference.

[@IAmTheRealMagicMan]

Sorry to hear you never got that... but it's not too late to seek out some kind of mentor or friend who can still provide that for you

[@keilholtzj]

Me too -- on all accounts. Keep going!

[@jackrouse1987]

The story about the cousin's widow giving advice was powerful. Authenticity really shines through in unexpected moments. A reminder to embrace the fantasy and live life to the fullest

[@alicemonay]

Absolutely, it's the times where you know there's no faking it

[@taniagill4673]

I think so too, this was a really nice moment

[@dannyduncduncan]

Jeff's CEO moment illustrates the power of sincere acknowledgment. It's not just about the work; it's about recognizing the human behind the role.

[@keilholtzj]

Thank you, my friend. Keep going!

[@AngelInfinity]

Empathetic listening as a cognitive superpower is such a beautiful idea. It's not just about hearing words but understanding the emotions behind them and making that person feel seen. I think that could do wonders for a lot of fronts on which we are currently struggling

[@nelsonpierse]

This talk highlights the importance of authenticity, vulnerability, and empathetic listening in making a lasting impression and it's great to see these values being emphasized in both personal and professional contexts.

[@sophiachandler4662]

I think so too, if we're always being authentic then our "unseen reputation" builds itself up

[@nelsonpierse]

@@sophiachandler4662 true!!

[@geemaleishere]

Vulnerability as a strength is a concept worth embracing. It shows that being open and genuine can lead to deeper connections and mutual understanding, lots of good stuff within that.

[@rapid-transit]

I can see how it leads there but actually doing those things is not so easy

[@geemaleishere]

@@rapid-transit this is true

[@makeitso1017]

Jeff's story about his CEO's vulnerability is inspiring. It's a testament to the impact a sincere moment can have on a relationship. Truly touching.

[@logan-steele]

Definitely, those kinds of make a huge difference in how you perceive someone

[@CindySmall-np5tt]

Fabulous! I love the real like connection to a teacher. It’s a perfect example of what it means to leave a lasting impression!!

[@shanteydevers]

Miss Connor's approach is so rare these days. We're often caught up in our busy lives, but this presentation is a wake-up call. It's the small, intentional actions that make a lasting difference.

[@bcacres9837]

Is it? I'm sorry I don't know what the standard of teachers is like nowadays if just showing empathy and kindness is held in such high esteem.

[@shastadeed]

@@bcacres9837 I think it's more so that she got on the bus and - apparently - went all the way home with her

[@kcon5307]

You’re incredibly lucky to have experienced so many amazing teachers 🩷 I wish every student was able to experience the same!

[@shannelnasir2218]

@@bcacres9837 Yeah I had the same thought! Like sure it's been a minute since I was in school lol but I feel like that's just a basic kindness right?

[@shannelnasir2218]

@@shastadeed Ahh okay I guess

[@williamsmythe]

The concept of "emotional surprise" and how it can be used to forge stronger, more memorable connections is pretty cool and it's nice to think that we can leave such a positive impact on people

[@ZeekKingdom]

definitely, and it's very true about how much you remember those moments and how people have made you feel

[@user-jo2hy1qn3p]

Lasting impressions are so much more important than first impressions...emotional engagement is key. Thank you for these connections!

[@orlaithhill]

This is the kind of knowledge that fuels people to be kinder to one another

[@keilholtzj]

Great takeaway. Keep going. Thanks!

[@be-present-now]

Jeff's vulnerability story is a powerful reminder that authenticity can transform relationships. It takes courage to open up, but the results can be life-changing.

[@IAmTheRealMagicMan]

It absolutely does but if we know that we're doing it with empathetic people who will listen gently with compassion then the risk is less than the reward

[@elviragabriele]

The part about vulnerability really resonated with me. It takes courage to open up, but the connections that are formed are so worth it!

[@marktferris]

Miss Connor is an inspiring example for all of us to remember to be humble and empathetic.

[@keilholtzj]

I totally agree. Thanks for listening!

[@SmartThrill]

It's amazing how much impact one teacher had. Miss Connor is goals.

[@colincampbell5068]

It's fascinating how he bridges the gap between art and business to teach us about lasting impressions. The analogy to performing arts makes it so relatable and impactful.

[@execusensellc]

Wonderful message Jeff! I can definitely relate to this.

[@msamymorin]

This talk is a great reminder to practice empathy in our daily interactions.

[@bencycaitlin]

Authenticity and vulnerability are so underrated in terms of building rapport. I think this talk really shows their power quite beautifully, not just for ourselves to live more happily but for how other people perceive and feel about us too.

[@rapid-transit]

I'd honestly not realized that's what it was about

[@salsadevrees]

The beach trip analogy is so relatable! It makes me want to focus on creating positive peaks in my day-to-day life.

[@keilholtzj]

right?? so many of us have that exact beach story! ;)

[@Steven-Francis]

Vulnerability as a strength is a concept worth embracing for sure. It is always such a surprising moment when someone takes that chance with you and the examples Jeff gives really show how being open and genuine can lead to deeper connections

[@IAmTheRealMagicMan]

The story of Miss Connor got me thinking about the teachers I had who went the extra mile for a shy anxious child and the difference it made to my life. Honestly learnt so much beyond the standard stuff during school because they took the time and thought I was worth it. That's pretty special.

[@user-fm6kg1nd9x]

Saw the talk live. Very inspirational, kept everyone listening. Enjoyed every minute. Must see his next talk.

[@margaretstrom]

He's definitely captivating

[@justinesaxenn]

Life is short, live the fantasy" - a mantra worth embracing. It encourages us to pursue our dreams and not be held back by perceived limitations.

[@thisisjustright]

definitely a cool way to think of things

[@logan-steele]

It's always heartwarming to hear about teachers who go above and beyond to make a difference in their students lives. 💜💜

[@taniagill4673]

Agreed ❤

[@carlasteadman]

It's lovely and sadly something that's getting rarer and rarer.

[@logan-steele]

@@carlasteadman What do you mean?

[@snakejohnson2740]

The concept of unseen reputation is lowkey mind-bending. It's like our vibes are leaving a trail wherever we go.

[@AngelInfinity]

Hahaha yeah that's a great way to put it

[@dannyduncduncan]

LOL not how I would think of it but definitely true!

[@duncanboone8226]

Well trust a snake to think of it that way haha!

[@AlienCruise]

Miss Connor's story was so inspiring. It's amazing how one small act of kindness can have such a huge ripple effect.

[@SingularDesire]

For sure but I would argue that in her case it's not just one simple act of kindness but a whole bunch of ongoing behavior that made her so memorable in that community

[@mindsetmanager]

The analogy of the beach trip really resonated with me. It's a great reminder to cherish the positive moments and not let the little hiccups overshadow the experience.

[@sophiachandler4662]

Definitely, I think this is a powerful thing to remember in your day-to-day

[@toxic-head-shot]

The stuff about unseen reputation really resonates. It's a powerful reminder that our actions, especially when we think no one's watching, define us more than anything we put on social media.

[@sophiachandler4662]

Yes!! This is something that really struck me as well

[@sophiachandler4662]

So easy to act a certain way when people are watching but who we are during all the other time is just as important

[@toxic-head-shot]

@@sophiachandler4662 fr... also important for us to know who we are and that we're acting authentically

[@colincampbell5068]

@@sophiachandler4662 Yeah see it's weird for me to think that people could act so differently when people are around than just how they are

[@colincampbell5068]

@@sophiachandler4662 Like why aren't you just being who you are all the time?

[@regissanford7104]

The blend of personal stories with actionable insights in this talk was perfect.

[@user-yz8ki3tu8n]

A fascinating point of view. I know that saying things with meaning is important, but being intentional about the element of surprise is a concept I never considered before. A marvelous talk!

[@keilholtzj]

thanks, so much, for your lovely words!

[@taniagill4673]

If only all teachers could show that level of kindness and understanding ❤

[@logan-steele]

I like to think that most of them do. This was just an opportunity for someone to go above and beyond

[@anonisanonymous]

@@logan-steele Maybe you should think again. Were all your teachers this nice during school?

[@keilholtzj]

Totally agree. Thanks!

[@jenniferkeilholtz1802]

Meaningful Emotional Surprise....what a wonderful way to give language to lasting impressions we can't always identify. ❤

[@itscricketworld1651]

😊 lololol

[@kannappank8778]

​@@itscricketworld1651p😊😊

[@kannappank8778]

😊😊😊😊

[@luisasanchez5532]

Empathetic listening should be an essential skill we all try and master, helping us improve our relationships and creating a lasting impression.

[@IAmTheRealMagicMan]

I agree! As someone who really benefited from just a little extra care I know how much it helps and it would be wonderful if we saw that in our peers and community instead of just an extra perceptive teacher or two if you're lucky while growing up

[@ZeekKingdom]

he is a natural storyteller - I was hanging on every word. Feels like I just took a masterclass in making an impact!

[@anndibsdale]

Yeah he had me pretty captivated too!

[@MatterMonkey]

When we go the extra mile in our interactions with others because we care about them, it will be remembered.

[@katyabradova]

Yes, absolutely, people can feel that

[@SweetPeePandora]

The vulnerability of this story is powerful. It shows that sometimes taking a risk to be open can lead to unexpected and positive outcomes.

[@eva-singer]

Meaningful emotional surprise is such a captivating concept. It makes me think about how I can infuse more emotion into my interactions and create some lasting memories.

[@ImgurNow]

It honestly sounds exhausting to me

[@dannyduncduncan]

Same yeah this a moment that resonated for me as well

[@bobskillings113]

"Life is short, live the fantasy" - damm straight! Time to chase those dreams, no holding back.

[@dannyduncduncan]

NIce!

[@leotencall]

The moment he had with his CEO as he was leaving was really poignant... I know exactly how much that would have meant to him and the fact that Jeff took that chance to be vulnerable is really commendable! Glad it was met with such a positive response.

[@rapid-transit]

I've always thought networking was about social media connections, but this talk shows it's much deeper... to think it's about emotional and authentic interactions leaving a lasting memory really flips everything on its head

[@evanesterneg]

The analogy with the beach trip really resonates with me. It's a beautiful reminder to cherish the moments that matter most and not sweat the small stuff.

[@chandrazu1085]

I've never thought about the concept of "lasting impressions" in terms of job hunting. The ripple effect of our social network is something to consider. Good insight!

[@taniagill4673]

Really?

[@forsaken-lover9508]

This talk made me pause and reflect on how I can leave a lasting impression in my interactions. Thanks for the thought-provoking insights!

[@phyllismknapp6038]

Empathetical listening is indeed a superpower. In my experience most people want to interrupt you with their story, which is bigger and better than yours thereby make you feel invisible.

[@bcacres9837]

Maybe if you didn't use made up words people would want to listen to you more

[@hortonm554]

This talk really got me thinking about how I interact with people. I'm gonna start trying to create more meaningful emotional moments in my daily life.

[@blueangel7998]

Hearing about Miss Connor warmed my heart ❤

[@X-e-n-t-r-i-x]

The speaker’s advice on how to be memorable is genuinely useful.

[@iamtherealdeal]

Miss Connor’s story was so inspiring! Makes you think about the small things we do.

[@carlasteadman]

I love the analogy with the beach trip! It's true; we tend to remember the peaks and surprises in life more than the everyday routine. Gotta make those moments count!

[@nae3185]

I love that he gave some concrete tips I can actually use - empathetic listening, vulnerability, authenticity. Gonna put those into practice ASAP.

[@ZeekKingdom]

Same! Super helpful

[@SingularDesire]

Definitely he backed it up with a lot of solid facts too

[@valteradnan]

The peak and end rule got me thinking about the memorable moments in my life. It's fascinating how our brains evaluate experiences based on emotional intensity.

[@dannyduncduncan]

It is fascinating! Makes a lot of sense though the way he broke it down

[@rangatvespaldy]

Listening to understand not just respond is the kind of thing so many people need to learn about

[@MichooseCherisol-tx8ns]

Shia miss Connors sounds like a superhero for tat anxious little girl!super heartwarming stuff

[@belloarturo]

I really love what he says about emotional surprise and meaning. It makes a lot of sense for creating lasting impressions but for me personally it also speaks to how you can create meaningful peaks throughout your life and within that moments to be cherished and remembered.

[@bencycaitlin]

Mmmm now that is interesting too!

[@shannelnasir2218]

The explanation about flashbulb memory really puts into perspective the importance of how we make others feel.

[@thisisjustright]

yeah I thought that was super interesting

[@sophiachandler4662]

The concept of unseen reputation is something everyone should learn about

[@colincampbell5068]

Yeah I think most people understand this concept though like inherently

[@TheRealShinedownShimmy]

Whoa, Miss Connor sounds like a superhero for that anxious little girl! Super heartwarming stuff

[@AngelInfinity]

Yeah definitely a lovely part of the story

[@keilholtzj]

As a dad, my jaw dropped when my wife told me what happened. Meaningful emotional surprise is all around us. It was incredible to hear about this, particular, example. Keep going, my friend!

[@why-why-why-why1]

The comparison between stage/screen and real-life interactions is spot on. It's a unique opportunity to create lasting impressions daily. Let's make each moment count!

[@rubyguil4622]

Yeah I found that part really interesting!

[@iamajuxtaposition]

Maya Angelou was spot on when she said people will always remember how you make them feel. They will take away the feeling of being seen and heard.

[@astridableman]

Vulnerability as a strength - I needed to hear that today. It's refreshing to know that being open and honest can lead to stronger relationships. Thanks for the encouragement!

[@taniagill4673]

I've always thought this way but sometimes you get torn down and pushed around so much you need a little reminder!

[@anonisanonymous]

It can but it's hard work.

[@anonisanonymous]

Emotionally, I mean

[@therealcadenceflow]

Authenticity creating oxytocin is like a social chemistry lesson. Keep it real for those bonding vibes.

[@raejenson]

Love that all of this is geared towards positive, lasting impressions

[@bencycaitlin]

same! would be awesome if that's how everyone wanted to impact one another

[@ivanahelenka]

Lash bulb memory is a new term for me. Yes there are moments etched in all our memories because of the emotions attached to them.

[@ronaepstien]

Empathetic listening as a cognitive superpower - couldn't agree more. It's a skill worth cultivating in our personal and professional lives.

[@rubyguil4622]

I think so to, the ability to connect with people on that level is so over-looked

[@user-sj9lf6fl6k]

I love the story about the teacher -- inspiring!!

[@thekaylaconner]

My littles are my biggest accomplishment! ❤

[@rooseveltmartens9918]

The mention of oxytocin and its role in social bonding adds a scientific touch to the importance of authenticity. Fascinating stuff!

[@margaretstrom]

Yes!! This was super interesting

[@mariaciacci]

The story about vulnerability with his CEO really hit home. It's a testament to how opening up can transform relationships and even our career trajectory.

[@colincampbell5068]

Absolutely, when people are vulnerable with you it's so much easier to see them as actual people

[@piamirra]

@@colincampbell5068 oh okay but someone's in the comments being vulnerable and you look down on them? do better, seriously

[@UnforgivingSpleen]

Making every interaction count seems like very worthy challenge!

[@colincampbell5068]

Love that

[@sabahachim]

The illusion of things happening on stage appearing for the first time every time - it's like a challenge to bring that freshness to our everyday roles, whether in art, business, or life.

[@pascaldegarde6756]

That story about vulnerability hit home and really rings true for me, being open and genuine can create powerful connections

[@shastadeed]

Absolutely, it makes you way more relatable and people will feel safer being vulnerable with you... so many benefits.

[@carlasteadman]

Yes! You have to just put yourself out there and be afraid of the outcome

[@urdadiam]

I agree, this made a lot of sense to me and had me thinking about how I can be more present

[@urdadiam]

Do you mean, NOT be afraid of the outcome?@@carlasteadman

[@bestpractice4040]

I think that if you're true to yourself you'll naturally attract and impact on the people you're meant to. Just be who you are, and be confident within that.

[@urdadiam]

I don't know that I'd agree with that. Often you don't really know much about a person before getting to know them, if you haven't made an impression on a person they're not really going to spend much time trying to get to know you, right?

[@anndibsdale]

Wish I had this advice back when I was hustling for jobs! But better late than never - lots of wisdom to apply in all areas of life.

[@MonicaKirkpatrick-hh6yt]

This was inspiring. The presenter is very passionate. When is the next talk?

[@teddybearlemaire]

Lasting Impressions as snapshots of our sensory DNA? That's some deep poetic wisdom right there.

[@anndibsdale]

I don't know about deep poetic wisdom but it definitely made something click in my brain

[@freedomplace5239]

Personality goes a long way, naturally in tune to the environment around you and focused on others in interaction. The way you make people feel!

[@anonisanonymous]

It does. The ability to read the room is paramount

[@kotakgmasuk]

Authenticity creating oxytocin is such an interesting concept... it makes sense of how powerful those moments are when you finally feel like you've found safe places/people to be yourself around

[@nae3185]

So true! Yeah I was kind of blown away by that fact

[@SingularDesire]

Definitely that was where my thoughts went as well, like how good it feels when you have a d&m with someone

[@anndibsdale]

Yeah for sure I always thought those moment were just from being a bit heightened but hearing it actually positively affects our brain chemistry was crazy

[@sgauldinggaulding7031]

Great talk, very informative and insightful.

[@TheBoldBazooka]

"Lasting Impressions are pictures of our sensory DNA" - what a poetic way to express the enduring impact of emotional experiences.

[@harrisonstenson8324]

Really brilliant talk, thanks Jeffery...

[@margaretstrom]

I didn't realize how meaningful emotional surprise was for building relationships. That's very good to know, thank you

[@Digivantrix]

The concept of the peak and end rule is intriguing. It makes me reflect on the memorable moments in my own experiences.

[@shiasmarglent8554]

I agree it's those small moments that can make the biggest impact

[@nae3185]

absolutely

[@pat-j-d]

Ohh the stuff he says towards the end about the illusion of things that happen on screen was really interesting, and following it up with how often we get the chance to do those things made it such a great point. Way to drive the message home!

[@janetsplace1953]

Loved this, true words. If we work to to leave good impressions we come from love.

[@WEisMEnow]

I'm not sure about the beach analogy, but I get the point about the lasting value of emotional experiences, it's really interesting how our memories are shaped by those peaks and surprises.

[@alicemonay]

Yeah, I think it makes a lot of sense that when something really affects us emotionally that experience lasts a lifetime.

[@shastadeed]

Definitely! I find it fascinating the way our emotions are so linked to our memories.

[@thekaylaconner]

Such a tremendous honor to have been mentioned in something so important to you! I’ll forever be grateful for your family! 🩷

[@kgraves4728]

Love this!