How To Not Look Frumpy In Winter | Feminine Style

[@juliecarns]

I wear a black beret, black gloves, black suede ankle boots with delicate detail from Talbots, and black leggings under my skirt to stay warm. I live in the snow belt below Lake Michigan but get too hot wearing my wool coat in my SUV or in stores. A solid long sleeve tee shirt and a vest keep me quite warm. Try adding a silk scarf tied around your neck and see how warm that keeps you! I shoveled snow in -4 temps last week and my silk scarf kept me so warm I was actually too warm. Silk base layers work wonders and add zero bulk. Thanks for sharing your ideas! Julie 🌷

[@Aquietlyfrugallife]

You look so pretty in your beret and scarf!

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you!

[@ConsidertheLilyoftheField]

I’ve worn skirts only for about 10 years. I’m now just getting into dresses because they solve a couple of problems and i love the idea of simplicity when getting dressed. I live in Michigan and have layered my skirts with leggings and sweaters and sometimes a knit skirt i use as a slip and have kept very warm. I tend to get cold easily too. My style of dresses is more loose bohemian style and maxi length. I was thinking it would be easy with this style to layer cuddl duds underneath and a cardigan over that for really cold days. Our house is old and very drafty, especially upstairs. I love how dresses make me feel though so it’s worth the effort.

[@gingerrogers5062]

I thought I was impervious to much of your message, especially the fashion portion. I now own four pair of “Nikki shoes.” FOUR. Really enjoy your channel.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I love that! Thank you for sharing, Ginger!

[@gwenewing6837]

You are so feminine and elegant, I appreciate your time!

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you so much!

[@shannoncutshall8229]

I love what you said about dressing and how our bodies look. I know for myself I definitely look different as I age than how I looked when I was younger.

[@aliciaannewoodward]

Nikki, this is absolutely my favorite subject for you! You are such a wealth of knowledge when it comes to feminine dressing. You've studied it, you understand a woman's body, and you have exquisite taste. As far as I'm concerned, you could do nothing but this and never run out of subject matter. I actually have your double-breasted swing raincoat in navy and in black and always feel like I'm wearing a "Nikki coat"! You really do have a gift for bringing that elegant "old fashioned" way of presenting one's self into the here and now. I'm going to go watch this one again! Love, Alicia 👗🥀🐦

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I'm so glad you enjoy this subject matter, Alicia! You're so funny, I'm wearing that coat in navy right now. It does so much for the figure 🌹

[@CrownofCoils7]

I live in the Midwest and we just experienced some extremely cold weather. Cuddl Duds and flannel lined tights have been a life saver!

[@Keapix]

I definitely need to invest in more coats! I’ve been living in a very unstylish and drab (functional) parka all winter. You look lovely in the blush pink!

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

They have some stylish and warm ones out there that would be lovely! Thank you!

[@ellen823ful]

I think 🤔 your “frumpy” things are darn cute 🥰. Cozy is the new chic at 5 below zero.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Awww, thank you Ellen 🌹

[@jessicafjohnston23]

You’re fashion videos are the best, and that beret is adorable on you too!

[@kimerlyvail]

Where I live in Maine our state is definitely a winter state. So dressing warm.and looking stylish is important. Thank you for the ideas on how to make your winter style feminine.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I'm so glad this was helpful!

[@LotusesGalaxyOcean]

I would love for her to analyze how to do this for the more extreme winter or if there is serious snow. What fabrics, cuts and layering work best for those issues? Strategies for a wet cold winter versus one that is windy with blowing snow and so on..... It takes so much analysis and thought usually women just give up in these scenarios. But, considering modern fabrics and tech it most likely is feasible.

[@Lwuergs]

Merino wool base layers are great for extreme weather. They get pricey but definitely worth it as they last long (if washed and treated Correctly)

[@ashl3ymich3ll3]

I think people who live in cold climates like myself couldn't wear these coats and boots and be warm enough. During the coldest time of year we need parkas and actual snow boots..

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Exactly, that's not something I'll purchase just for a video but I can understand that in certain climates something else is completely necessary.

[@gwenewing6837]

Although back in the day women wore these types of coats everyday!

[@krissykimono]

I think it’s possible, with some exceptions. You just have to be choosy in layering. For instance, flannel lined stockings, thermal undergarments, longer coats opposed to shorter coats, etc. These are things I do, personally when the weather is super unkind. If those don’t work, you can always opt for everything in the prettiest colors and try dressing it up with some embellishments. 😉

[@marijabadovinacskrinjar443]

I agree Ashley

[@ashl3ymich3ll3]

@krissykimono it was so cold this winter, my hand froze to the doorknob instantly and our garbage can was frozen shut for a week lol halfway through shoveling a foot of snow off my vehicle I had to go back inside and put on another pair of gloves because my hands were going numb with just the one pair.. at that point I could care less if I look frumpy.

[@pinkroses135]

You can always use a little belt with a boxy cardigan

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Very true, especially if it were a thiner cardigan, this one is rather thick.

[@pinkroses135]

Yeah that would probably seem off balanced

[@donnadoverspike9139]

I love these video's that help us dress better.Have a bless week!

[@HomemakersOasis]

Oh, so chic! That coat is incredible. Are those wrap dresses? I'm looking for some nursing-friendly winter dresses. Usually, I do a skirt, or jeans, and a top. Love the silhouette of a dress and I feel more comfortable in one. Winter is my favorite, with all the layering. So many options to add a feminine touch. While you are searching for the perfect pair of boots, look for some fancy boot socks. I live in my "cowgirl" boots and love the boot socks that peek over the top. They look knitted and have lovely lace-edging, while others have pretty buttons.

[@kayburris8464]

Nikki you look beautiful. I first thought of Jackie O Kennedy! Thank you for sharing great idea's and showing us how to look and feel beautiful. HAPPY New Year.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you kindly, Kay!

[@amybain7127]

Bravo! Well said, Nikki. Our style should compliment our body in such a way that we don’t have to strive for a perfect body (an opinion which is changing constantly). Healthy is better than perfect.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you Amy! This was the perfect subject for today's newsletter. I appreciate your thoughts.

[@tiffanyjetter7254]

U look adorable 😍 I’m tired of looking frumpy in the winter!

[@shannoncutshall8229]

Thank you for the ideas. You look beautiful as always.

[@barbarapeterson8030]

Definitely agree; living in a cold climate in Pittsburgh PA I have had to invest in every type of coat, hat, and boots that you can think of. Thanks for the fashion show.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Exactly! It was my pleasure!

[@maggytrafford3969]

You always look beautiful Nikki, love the hat🇦🇺❤️💜🥰

[@cambiumlayer1318]

Hi Nikki, That is the perfect video for the new year. Your frumpy face was hillarious. I remember seeing some elegant ladies wear a silk pashmina over their coat and they use a brooch to keep it in place. A good option to a bunching Scarf. That Coat IS the most beautiful Coat I have ever seen. It's gorgeous and fits you and your personality perfectly. You can try to have another one sewn for yourself from that pattern in a different color. Sending love.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

That's a lovely look! Thank you so much 🌹

[@Jenekks]

A short cardigan or shrug might give a more defined look.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

This is true, thank you!

[@cristinac.m.523]

You are so right, Nikki, about how today most women feel they have to have the perfect body in order to wear the clothes that are fashionable. Wearing the right clothes for our bodytype really eliminates so much unnecessary anxiety. I love the pink sweater dress, where did you find it? xx

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you for your thoughts on this, it helped me decide what to write about for today's newsletter. That was from EZPOPSY, I believe it's linked below.

[@michelehope8353]

Excellent video Nikki!! Very helpful and fun to watch!! Dressing feminine in cold climate can be such a challenge!!

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you so much, Michele!

[@michelehope8353]

@@TheLadyoftheHouse ♥️

[@lune.etsoleil]

this is really feeling such very feminine and so elegant, i love this! you are absolutely look so pretty of those all outfits you wear ✨❤️

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you kindly 🌹

[@southwestfarmhousebliss6659]

Thank you for the ideas! You look beautiful in all your dresses and coats ❤

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you!

[@leadmetopeacejeanie]

I really enjoyed your video, Niki. You are so inspiring. I love sweater dresses. I live in Florida but it does get a bit chilly here and I've been wearing dresses, not all the time, a lot more than I wear pants, and I just feel so ladylike and feminine. When my daughter was little, I taught her to act like a lady at all times, and my son, as a gentleman. They are grown and they do. I love this inspriing video. Thank you and Happy New Year!

[@snowymountainmama]

Another lovely video! Thanks to your video featuring your Collectif coats, I asked my hubby for a beautiful green one from Top Vintage as a Christmas present and my, oh my is it STUNNING and so feminine!! Thank you for helping me find my dream coat, I dress with a lot of 1940’s vibes and that coat was a key piece to building my winter wardrobe with a vintage look. Now, I must find a hat like the one you are wearing to match my new coat! You look absolutely adorable in it and I love the scarf as well, those colors are lovey on you.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

That makes me so happy to know! I'm sure you look amazing! I'll be looking for matching hats, especially for the end of this year. I prefer the matching look myself 🌹

[@teresawakim582]

Your little fashion show at the beginning was so fun! It's so cold where I live, I tend to cover myself up at the grocery store and school pickup and the playgound in a floor-length puffer coat for 5 months. :) It keeps me warm and no one even knows if I wear pajamas all day! Haha. I'll start to get it together in the spring. You look beautiful though!

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I'm so glad you enjoyed that! Thank you!

[@Divinefemininemiracles]

Couple of comments I have, for ladies asking about colder climates, I am in UK which is pretty cold, very, very rainy too, some options could be; look for youtubers from colder climates - jonnajinton is stunning and lives in freezing climate. Also I tend to look at scandinavian winter fashion which I think is beautiful and practical, but I hear you, I work outside gardening and worry about the mud ruining my outfits, it's a conundrum indeed, any ideas gladly received, I want to keep on wearing beautiful dresses but they have to cope with mud, rain, snow and wind.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

That's always my suggestion too. Each person's climate will vary but it's true to them.

[@alysonwallace6600]

You look beautiful as always. Happy New Year! Wardrobe videos are my favorite.

[@r.alghamdi4522]

Thank you Niki for your feminine videoes.. I enjoyed watching this one🌷🌷 You look stunning in all of the coats.... but I need to mention that you look extra-stunning in that dark green dress 😍

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I'm so glad you enjoyed this, thank you kindly!

[@cathywhitney5974]

I’m from Canada and warmth is more important than looking frumpy. Then some of has auto immune diseases that can cause us to be cold so again frumpy is better than being cold.

[@iriswelch3553]

Here in the Pacific Northwest when it's freezing and very windy, we layer up like we're going trekking through the Yukon!

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

This video was solely intended for those who didn't want to look frumpy in winter. If that's not a desire I say, frump it up!

[@donmataciachenault9556]

I loved the comments about if you dress for your body type, you don't have to worry what's showing or how you look from behind. But what I loved best was the hand knit entrelac scarf/ cowl!! I'm a knitter, and now, I must have one! I'm off to find yarn and needles in my knitting cupboard.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I'm happy you found value in my thoughts on the subject. I hope your scarf turns out the way you envision it 🌹

[@samantha_budhu]

Beautiful looks Nikki! 💖

[@lindaleclair8938]

I chuckled at your expression when wearing the cardigan, which does look frumpy. I've been keeping my house at 65 this year, so wear a long cardigan and a down vest over my clothing. I do have cute coats with hand knit scarves to look nice when I am out.

[@AshaCattette]

I live my life by thermal tights especially in the winter. I bought my footless pair from Amazon BUT I do know that Target also has thermal layers for under clothes and tights, the absolute best investment I’ve made along with a Hobonichi mega weeks, I fee my most feminine warm and well organized 😂😊

[@MargaretBieler]

I’m personally on the hunt for winter night wear that doesn’t look like I’m a toddler. I love to sleep in night gowns or slips but lately I’ve be freezing.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

You're so funny!

[@ElinorFitzgerald]

Your style is incredible! Definitely inspiration!! I'm envious that you've found what suits you so well! I'm still figuring it out

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you! I'm constantly learning as well.

[@sabrinaa4872]

Nikki I absolutely love what you said about dressing for our bodies, to be beautiful rather than trying to live up to an unrealistic standard of sexy. It takes a lot of pressure off and rather allows us to dress in a way that lets us celebrate our God-given beauty!

[@leslieb4553]

You look like someone from the ‘40’s I love it!!!

[@mariondapsance7803]

So beautiful !

[@nadegearmour9378]

That navy dress is stunning on you. Thank you for such an inspirational video.

[@barbarapeterson8030]

Hi Nikki, family, and fur babies. Watching on 01.14.23 STTB

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you, Barbara!

[@susanvelez6534]

Happy New year Darling. I loved the pink and I loved how you said “Abuella” ❤🤗🤗

[@andreiadetavora8471]

Such a beautiful style!!You look stunning!!! I love my dresses too

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you!

[@CammyHell]

Can you be any cute or more of an inspiration to be a lady. You always show us how to be graceful and fun and I love you for that.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

You're so kind, thank you!

[@marilynhodgkinson5299]

Hi Nikki l absolutely love that green dress the colour on you is perfect, then you put my favorite coat on and honestly l love it. It just looks stunning. I haven't got a long coat because in Australia where l live l don't really need one. I have shorter coats. I understand about being feminine l always do my makeup before l go out and make sure I'm wearing the appropriate clothes. Thanks Nikki for another wonderful video ❤❤

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you so much, Marilyn! That's wonderful that you do those things 🌹

[@pinkroses135]

I love getting gloves that are dusty pinks, blues, greens, purples. Where did you get those?

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Those were a Target find a couple years ago I believe.

[@Beauty4rmwithin]

Love this Nikki👏🏽🌻

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you!

[@jenniferb.7250]

Nikki, I loved this video!❤ The sweater dresses are gorgeous! I live in Michigan and deal with very cold temperatures. I have tried to make my winter wardrobe more feminine with color. I have a cozy parka in a beautiful pink. I also bought a dress coat in a light blue and have received so many compliments on it. I know many people in cold climates wear snow boots to get to work and then change at work into nicer shoes. (As long as you don’t forget your nice shoes😊that works.) One problem I’ve had with tights and dresses in the winter is the tights sticking to the dress because of friction or static. I’m thinking maybe wearing a slip might help? Static in cold climates is a huge issue with dresses. I will continue to try though because I love dresses! The words at the end were so encouraging and so true! Happy New Year!

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you so much, Jennifer! Color is a lovely way to make your winter wardrobe more feminine. Your coats sound so beautiful! I didn't show it but yes, slips are a must under all dresses, especially the sweater dresses. A fabric refresher spray is great for those moments of sheer cling!

[@amandazplace5663]

Definitely a slippery fabric slip will significantly reduce skirts & dresses riding up as you walk. I have the very same problem. You can also rub a dryer sheet over your tights and slip before leaving the house.♥️🇨🇦

[@patriciabond4860]

Happy New Year Nikki to you & your family 😍 thank you for this video I live in the UK & sometimes it's pretty chilly here lol so it's good to see I can still look good in dresses & keep warm! Thanks again God bless you 🙏

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you, Patricia! Happy new year! Yes, you can. It's all about layering and the form.

[@mina_ophelia.Moonbeam]

That coat it's amazing beautiful and suits you very very well, you're so classy and vintage as always, Marvelous dresses. hank you for the tips, because where I live it's really really coild, and this video helps me so much, thanks again.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

You're so kind, thank you! I'm so glad this was helpful!

[@mina_ophelia.Moonbeam]

@@TheLadyoftheHouse thank you too!! You're marvelous.

[@abigailbolin8015]

I may have missed it but I didn't catch where the beautiful green coat is from. I'd love to know if there's a link available. It's stunning!

[@amandamckevitt7890]

You have the most beautiful style Nikki! Truly reminds me of Catherine the Princess of Wales.😍🥰 I loooove how you pair coordinating colors together and you’ve inspired me to figure out how I can do that in my own wardrobe! Thank you so much for being such a feminine inspiration for us all.☺️💗

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you so much, Amanda! I'm so glad this could inspire you 🌹

[@maryannecage492]

I wonder what you suggest for a 65+ lady who wears a size 16? Do you think the same guidelines apply?

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

There are differing guidelines for different shapes, sizes, personalities and ages. I recommend seeking out those who specialize in whatever category you may want help in.

[@darksidesr7]

Thank you Nikki, i am 62 now and feel in shape, but i always cared about my health and weight ( not to be overweight, ) then you will forget the bulky clothes, which are not nice ( for me ), i don't know in the us, but in France, many young girls or women wear bulky clothes not only because it s trendy but also because it s the way to hide their forms, sometimes it s a pity as they are beautiful with their forms ( in a normal way i would say, not overweight ), and they hide ,and others they just want to look like men, just to confirm their personnalities as strong persons , the world has changed, i remember when i was 20 , even if we have forms and we did, we did not care so much to be the skinny one, we were much more feminine , i really appreciate this video Thank you Nikki

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

That’s so nice to know! Yes, I see Billy clothes everywhere and especially in the stores. I’ve stopped shopping for clothes in stores and just look online.

[@darksidesr7]

@@TheLadyoftheHouse 🌺

[@danielleb6064]

Nikki, can you share where you got your clothing rack? It is so pretty. All the ones I've been finding are so industrial-looking.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Try this description box: Fancy event get ready with me... | Lady of the House Life kzbin.info/www/bejne/mmrUnqFjpJiHesU

[@danielleb6064]

Thank you ❤️

[@briannab5296]

My only real issue with clothing is if you dress for the cold weather outside then go inside a store or other public area you get miserably overheated. And it's not always easy or appropriate to take off layers. Then in hot weather if you dress for it and go shopping & such then you freeze to death under the AC. So yeah, it's hard to balance all that.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I hear you on that!

[@MelanieRiley62]

Your dresses are very pretty, but what about cold weather fashion for those of us who don't wear dresses? My days are spent cleaning, cooking, working outdoors, working with animals, running errands, exercising, going to yoga classes, etc. I live in jeans and yoga pants! I also live in a very cold and snowy climate. Dresses in the winter would be super impractical for those reasons, too!

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you! I’m sure there are plenty of options for such lifestyles and those who don’t prefer dresses. That’s all I share on my channel though to make sure to share what works for my lifestyle and to keep what I share authentic. I love swimming and make sure to wear a suit when I do that sort of exercise but definitely won’t live in it. Each climate has different requirements too, try seeking someone who could be of more help with something similar to your climate. A climate like yours and what you may wear would be rather impractical for me and my mild winters. I hope this helps🌹

[@kellidominguez7167]

I love your clothes but I'm an older 50+ lady who is plus size. Do you have suggestions on where to find feminine plus size clothing.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I have seen many brands that have plus sizing although I don't have recommendations for you. My biggest suggestion is to find others your size that have a style you admire and see where they shop as they have the most experienced to speak on the subject.

[@simpleadventure2857]

Beautiful! Where are your sweater dresses from? :) I'm wearing mostly dresses this winter and love it. -Clare ❤️

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you, the green and blue were from Monsoon London, hopefully linked in my description box, the soft pink was from EZPopsy.

[@simpleadventure2857]

@@TheLadyoftheHouse I love the a line dresses, which can be difficult to find in a sweater dress. My favorite this year is from RW&co. And a slip adds another layer for warmth! :)

[@HitherandYarn]

I look frumpy in Summer because I live in a hot part of California and sweat and wrinkled clothes is a problem. I want to wear long sleeves but it's so hot, it literally makes me ill. And, I don't like to show skin. Any tips on this would be much appreciated.

[@marguerittetwinkle3624]

19:51 You look like Anastasia (1997 movie) in this scene ❤️ In my country, we don't wear coats, gloves in winter...it's not so cold. But I'll purchase sweater dresses, they look fabulous. Thank you, Nikki.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I see it! Thank you so much! Yes, we must wear what's appropriate for our specific climates 🌹

[@jackieconway8095]

Beautiful as always be blessed 0:)

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Thank you!

[@jmr8265]

Would you recommend the green dress as a 1st/2nd trimester maternity outfit? It is the only one still available in my size!

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

Absolutely! Beneath the waistline it’s got plenty of stretch.

[@debif3230]

❤

[@kristinburton4953]

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[@davidthompson5766]

My girlfriend rarely wears dresses, am I allowed to try and talk her Into wearing dresses all the time,

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I believe it would need to be her desire but if you tell her how lovely she looks when she wears them it will be quite encouraging to her.

[@briannab5296]

David .. i once went on a date wearing a dress. I can't even tell you who he was or how we spent the evening but what i'll always remember is him thanking me for wearing a dress! Buy your wife a couple dresses with the understanding she can take them back and swap for dresses she's more comfortable wearing. Then every time she wears them thank her and lavish her wih heartfelt compliments. She'll get the message. 😉

[@davidthompson5766]

You, frumpy.....never

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

That's so kind of you to say.

[@sarahthatcher123]

I would like to see a video about how to dress feminine when a woman doesn’t have a waist and can’t wear form fitting, knitwear due to a large, lumpy, rolling belly. To give examples you would need to use a friend or Pinterest. The majority of women in North America are ‘overweight’ and many women lose their waist when weight is gained. Let alone how many women are postpartum. Your style is lovely but when it is so specific to a body type ( a very tiny waist) that is so unrelateable for me. It is difficult for me to find anything helpful. I’m not trying to be mean, just sharing my experience.

[@TheLadyoftheHouse]

I appreciate your request however this isn't my expertise. My biggest suggestion if looking for someone you could relate to with style and what to wear for your size is find someone who's size looks similar to yours who's style you admire. My basic message is to inspire others to make the everyday beautiful, which will look different for everybody and I share how I do that based off of my own experiences and strengths. That's how I have found I can present things most authentically.