How to Overcome Frustration in Life

Frustration occurs when your life experiences aren’t aligned with how you want or expect them to be. Whether it’s a dream or goal being harder than expected, or whether it’s other people not acting the way you think they should act, frustration will be a part of life, and it’s wise to have the right approaches to dealing with it.
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This video will seek to give you 4 tips on how to overcome your frustration in life so your frustration and anger doesn’t derail your life.
1. Stop Triangulating
Many times we vent our frustrations others are causing us to other people.
In psychology, this is referred to as triangulation, where person A(victim) talks to person C(the rescuer) about a problem they are having with person B(persecutor), instead of talking to person B directly. Often, person C validates person A’s stance and the conflict between A and B doesn’t get resolved
Remember, what other people say and do will frustrate you throughout your life and at times you’ll need help on how to handle it. But don’t triangulate the problem by becoming the victim and having someone rescue you with their sympathy and support, but instead seek advice to handle the problem and address your persecutor directly
2. People don’t follow your unwritten rules.
If you stop to think about it, a lot of your frustration can come from someone breaking an unwritten rule of yours. Maybe your unwritten rules are never raising your voice at people, always paying people back as soon as you can, or showing up to meetings on time.
I’m sure you’re unwritten rules are great and logical, otherwise you wouldn’t have them. But assuming everyone else will follow them and being upset when they don’t is just foolish on your part.
So remember, you’re unwritten rules are wonderful and in an ideal world everyone would follow them, but the reality is they don’t always follow them and when they don’t, be willing to confront them about your frustrations or let the frustration go.
3. Pull the tooth.
Dr. Henry Cloud explains in his book, 9 things you simply must do. That there are parts of your life, such as your relationships, your career investments, or how you spend your time that aren’t providing you value, but are instead hurting you like an infected tooth. Although it can hurt to remove these parts of your life, the tooth needs to be pulled to prevent long-term pain and complications.
It took me a couple years, but I eventually accepted I made a poor decision with those jeans and put the loss behind me. Now, the proverbial tooth you have to pull today may be much bigger than a pricey pair of jeans. It may be ending a relationship that you’ve had for years that’s taking you down the wrong path, or it may be a career choice that isn’t bringing you fulfillment. But remember, sometimes to bring better things into our lives, we have to be willing to make room by letting some things go. As hard as it can be at times, be willing to pull the tooth and cut your losses.
4. Embrace the Pause
I’ve learned over the years that when you’re overly emotional about something, whether it’s excitement or passion, or anger or stress there’s a good chance you’re not thinking clearly. And if you let those strong emotions allow you to act impulsively you may say something in an argument you can never take back. Or you may also make a purchase that can put you in deep debt.
I’m learning to see it like this, be willing to embrace short-term frustration by delaying a decision to avoid long-term frustration of making a poor decision. So if you’re in the throes of a confrontation with someone, pause to take some deep breaths before saying something you’ll regret. Also, sometimes you’ll hit a wall with one of your problems and becoming frustrated and consider giving up, but before you do, be willing to pause by walking away and working on something else, or stepping away to do something fun and relaxing. This short pause may allow you to come back to the problem with a fresh perspective and a new solution.
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[@goldenhelmet403]

These are nice tips for situations where you have control. Does not address dealing with the emotion of frustration when you can’t control the situation, or where anything you could do besides just taking it would lead to greater problems or conflict.

[@heatherallingham7120]

Yeah that is my problem with this, too. I hate pat answers

[@mounirsaidi8893]

Only 11k views over 2 years. People should really start to care about their mental health. Thank you for this amazing video🙏🏼🙏🏼I needed it

[@skewwhiffoverthinker5689]

My frustrations are with useless companies who won’t acknowledge their poor or non existent services even when I’ve written to alert the issues. And the government trying to dictate when and where we can and can’t go under the guise of global warming. And the constant buildings being erected leaving no country or green space. And the constant price increases and tax raises I, nor millions of others can afford. How do I handle that level of frustration?

[@saltyskin_photography1575]

If you found an answer please let me know! I’m struggling with people’s daily incompetence and stupidity here! 🙏🏻

[@ButtersCCookie]

First sentence is a life saver. I guess my own but more importantly someone else's! I have no pockets, agency, voice or direct person to act out. Not that it would matter. Good luck to everyone else. I'm the misery that doesn't like company.

[@hamwa5620]

Thank you for sharing this with us.❤❤❤😊

[@allmight8808]

thanks bro very helpful i learned a valuable lesson

[@mattgieslerrocks]

That's all great except my frustrations are over life circumstances and obstacles to make a change instead of people. I was taking a course in cybersecurity where I was to do create a penetration testing lab as part of an assignment only to be unable to connect the machines on my virtual network no matter what I did.

[@EstherChristensen]

Thank you so much this help me a lot ❤

[@MichaelUnks]

You’re welcome 😃

[@minadarling8584]

Thank you for the content, great artwork! Much appreciated :) keep up the good work

[@jennifermarie3158]

Everyone SAYS they prefer others to address problems with them directly, but the reality is that most people don't respond to direct feedback well

[@MichaelUnks]

Yeah, that seems to be the case a lot.

[@MichaelUnks]

Yeah, that seems to be the case a lot.

[@chanceblevins6682]

Redesigning the wheel i.e. where the light switch is located in a room

[@joelupchurch3024]

my power has been out for over a day, im losing it

[@dwhitt15]

“Hey this dude got on girl jeans” Lol that part. Great video👍

[@MichaelUnks]

Looking back now, it was funny and I can laugh at myself lol

[@FLmanvlogs]

I dont understand this video, Im so frustrated because im too stupid at understanding something and remembering it. im trying to pass an asvab test so i can join the army but everytime i take the test i rank below average and it dont matter how much i study i keep getting the same stupid answers wrong even when i was studying i knew them all. my mind is always blank and i dont have thoughts, like at all. my everyday days are like pure emptiness, not a single thought crosses my mind. what is wrong with me?

[@alightworker9520]

Perfect timing! Thank U!!

[@MichaelUnks]

You’re welcome!

[@bannisterharpes8496]

Thank you as always bro. God bless

[@MichaelUnks]

You’re welcome and thank you for watching! God bless

[@ashleyricker7082]

Psychology also says talking to other people about things can be a way to process information for some people… only 2 minutes in and already giving bad/situation specific advice. What if I did talk to person B and they didn’t give a shit about what I had to say? This is more like “how to stop getting frustrated at the first sign of conflict” cause trust me it’s not just a one done frustration mode for me buddy.

[@karlylougreen]

On my break at work trying to relax 😥😅

[@husainmustafaaklerawala6621]

By watching this I get more frustrated

[@ioan9040]

What about medical problems type of frustration? I am in my twenties and it frustrates me that I have a few medical problems that stop me from doing workouts, and I am worried that in the future other will occur all the time..

[@MichaelUnks]

Do you think these medical problems can improve? Are there workouts to work around the medical problems?

[@ioan9040]

@@MichaelUnks they are temporary, and can be solved, and will solve them, but it still frustrates me

[@MichaelUnks]

Oh okay. What type of medical problems are you having if you don’t mind me asking?

[@ioan9040]

@@MichaelUnks some nerves on my hands, recently did a surgery for one, but 2 other small ones bother me, and you know, if you have surgery you can't workout for some time, my worry is that it could appear to some other nerves in the future and it annoys me, it's not a disease so I can't know for sure, but it can happen

[@MichaelUnks]

@@ioan9040 yeah, I get what you mean. How long have doctors said you have to refrain from working out? Plus, I think seeing the big picture can help...if you have to rest for six months for full healing, you can then have decades of exercise ahead of you.

[@badjokes237]

Thanks for rule 2

[@nancygreene5838]

I was so pissed off and came across your vid. Thanks buddy.

[@MichaelUnks]

Happy to hear it helped you!

[@nancygreene5838]

@@MichaelUnks Yeah I just subbed and now I'm going through your videos. So many good ones. Thanks for your hard work.

[@lrowe272]

How about a roommate who destroyers your personal belongings out of spite.

[@kwameamichel7770]

Great video

[@MichaelUnks]

With You In Mind Coaching LLC I appreciate that. Thank you!

[@ChannelPabilona]

This is a superb video!

[@MichaelUnks]

Happy to hear you enjoyed it!

[@abdelll9737]

The worst thing you can do is talk to person B.

[@utkarshgupta5833]

Thankyou🙂

[@MichaelUnks]

You’re welcome!

[@roywit7836]

Well worth more views

[@MichaelUnks]

Thanks a lot. Happy to hear you enjoyed it!

[@giorubi8852]

Hello Mr, Transform your Thinking I am an eighth grader searching for better ways to relieve my frustration that I have in my daily life. I am just asking on your opinion on what your routine would be if you were really frustrated. From, Giovanni Rubino

[@MichaelUnks]

What specifically frustrates you? What do you do right now to deal with it?

[@raeadrianarevalo8739]

im letting go

[@MichaelUnks]

Of what?

[@daveyvane]

Triangulating is not the fucking problem!!!

[@wilfigs9705]

👍👍👍

[@MichaelUnks]

William! Haven’t heard from you in awhile. How have you been?

[@wilfigs9705]

@@MichaelUnks I'm doing ok Michael but need to stay more focus! Have a great year brother!

[@MichaelUnks]

What strange timing, I’m editing a video this week on overcoming distraction! Lol. Hope your year is great!