How To Reach A Man's Heart, Even If He's Depressed Or Not Motivated Right Now - With Rori Raye!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

The last five minutes of this interview gave me chills, I'd love to hear your thoughts on it! Join Rori's "From Anger To Love" Masterclass here: roriraye.ontraport.com/t?orid=11853&opid=27 Get Rori's "How To Talk To A Man" Masterclass here: roriraye.ontraport.com/t?orid=11853&opid=41 Get Rori's "Puppetmaster Control" Masterclass here: www.coachrori.com/the-puppetmaster-masterclass/?orid=11853&opid=38 Here's where you can learn more about Rori's "Bring Him Close" Private Coaching Program: roriraye.ontraport.com/t?orid=11853&opid=21 Join Rori's Siren Island Coaching Group here: roriraye.ontraport.com/t?orid=11853&opid=20

[@Amber-rk6em]

Wow....you recommended this video to me and I must say, it is such a gem!! It is so refreshing knowing that I am not alone and that these issues are common. My fiance and I are on such a rut and all I am doing is nagging the crap out of him to the point it bothers me. Thank you again for helping us through these issues. Much love!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Amber! ❤️ I’ve also recorded three podcast episodes with Rori Raye that should also be really helpful - you can find them on Spotify here: open.spotify.com/show/2sQpQcwuijinXm5y8G06O3 …or on Apple Podcasts here (feel free to leave me a review!): podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/master-your-magnetism-with-helena-hart/id1585522214

[@vibehigh690]

"Only try to reach a man's heart if his heart is first reaching for yours and his energy is coming to you sincerely" You don't have to prove your worth to him to get to his heart. If he's the right guy he will definitely know your worthiness.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, absolutely! That’s the foundation for so much of what we teach. 💞

[@springfauna1465]

I think if we all took our attention off him and started loving ourselves more and loving our own lives, maybe he'll show up and can tag along for some fun. We have to feel okay on our own regardless of what of his deal is. I think we show up as a whole person this way, and there's a real freedom in that, don't you think?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here! Yes, I actually talk more about that in these videos: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p3KZc5p9Z5lpmLc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/baPCk5RqoLeYl7M and kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYe1gqOdiMmgmNE.

[@springfauna1465]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you, I'll definitely watch them. 🙂

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@elopez198725]

I got coached from one of the Rori Raye coaches and my goodness was it phenomenal with helping to express myself in the best way. My guy said I'm too nice about everything. After the help he was like " whoa you stood & honored your feelings about what you needed & wanted, that's sexy" I can't wait to get coached again!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so happy to hear that Emma, thanks for sharing your experience here! If anyone is interested in getting this type of coaching, you can learn more about Rori's "Bring Him Close" Private Coaching Program here: roriraye.ontraport.com/t?orid=11853&opid=21

[@januarybaby]

You're easily the most effective dating coach bringing on all these great people. With other channels you dont get the other perpesctive. Another GREAT video.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much, I’m glad you enjoyed it! ❤️

[@rad9623]

Love this, SO true!💞 “Like your whole body is you but when it’s the ‘brain stuff’, there’s nothing of YOU - the gorgeous creature in that..”

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad that resonated with you! 💖

[@bthechange1633]

Totally brilliant it's TRUE we explain ourselves ..looking for that OLD approval story.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, Rori and I actually talked about that in this livestream: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE

[@aprileve411]

This video has been wonderful and couldn’t have come at a more perfect time. My boyfriend and I haven’t been on the best terms of late. I’m very unhappy with a lot of things he’s doing so he grows cold when I approach it and I needed to learn how to handle that, help him feel better, and not take it personally. Thank you.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! These livestreams I did with Rori might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE, kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8.

[@dianneciresi6324]

That's what Adrianne Everheart says is to use the I feel statements instead of saying or asking him the why statements. Going to try it & see how that works.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, these livestreams I did with Rori might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE, kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8.

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

My takeaways are be happy even when he's not ☺️ and don't ask him if he wants something, instead tell him what you want and how you feel

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your takeaways here! 💕

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you both for making this! So insightful

[@huongnguyen2504]

OMG! What Rori shared with us is so powerful and crucial to me. When she explained what the feminine energy is, I feel so resonated and help me get back to our powerful position. Thank you so much Rori and Helena!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m glad that resonated with you! 💞

[@maryshores6818]

Rori and Helena are simply brilliant 💖

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you so much! ❤️ Here are a couple of our latest episodes if you’d like to check them out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pqbahmqNaKZ8ec0 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/eGrYhpemg7eej6M.

[@emma_ametist]

My summary/notes (hope I got this right): Intro: - Don't explain yourself! - Nobody is attracted to that masculine energy not letting your gorgeous self shine through. - Don't keep yourself in relationships that makes you feel pushed up against a wall - no one deserves punishment like that. JUST STOP explaining yourself and explore why you are doing that and identify your triggers. 1. Focus on yourself and do (fun) things that makes you feel good. - Focus on yourself & your own mental health & life & what makes you happy & bring that into his life if he choses it - BUT DO NOT BABY HIM by asking do you want this, do you want that etc! - Let him see you dancing (or similar)and happy on your own so he knows you're okay se he don't feel worse by the fact he doesn't provide happiness for you & then he might "forget" his issues for a while and even feel like smiling/being intimate/spending time with you etc. 2. If he does or says something you like: APPRECIATE HIM! - You can say: "Wow, that felt good". - Seiez those moments where you can appreciate him and show that appreciation. 3. After step 2 you can tell him: "I really enjoyed these moments with you (be specific). I'ld love more of that - any ideas?" 4. I you are single and dating: Don't be exclusive yet until he meets the basics of calling you, seeing you in person and moving things forwards etc. But when he does - APPRECIATE HIM! - Also ask yourself: "Would I 'chase' a new female friend?" - If you're pushing a ball up the hill - let it roll down. - You're not going to be happy chosing someone who doesn't chose you. 5. Don't REACT! Just acknowledge and listen to him = be RESPONSIVE (get out of your own head and perspective) 6. Be AUTHENTIC in how you really feel and express it truely and honestly from that authenticity with yourself.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your takeaways here, Emma! 💕

[@emma_ametist]

@@HelenaHartCoaching Thank you for the appreciation :) Glad you liked it :)

[@TheRalphie2020]

Love this.

[@ilsewenzel9046]

This is something I experienced today. He was to fly in to see me. I had not heard from him all day till a while ago. I thought this was rude because I am to pick him up at airport. I was agitated, worried and upset. When he finally did contact me he said he missed his plane but they were issuing him another ticket since he missed the flight and they were giving him a hotel room overnight. He seemed irritated and was removed from our conversation. I thought love is not suppose to be hard. Now I am thinking I don't need this even though I love him very much. He is so into himself and doesn't seem to care about me. One thing which irritates me is "I have told you many times"

[@matcha_mage]

Oh my goodness this is amazing! I’ve been wondering about this as my boyfriend has been in a really dark place. This has been soooo helpful, you both are amazing ❤️ can you talk more about overfunctioning and our tendency as women to want to nurture, take care of a man, etc.? Where does that come from? How do you draw the line between giving back to a man and being your empowered feminine self vs overfunctioning and playing that masculine role of a seemingly feminine act (nurturing, caring, almost babying a man)? What is the empowered feminine version of being there for your man? I get so much joy from taking care of my man, but I'm not even sure if it's from an overfunctioning place. How does one know if a man is going to take you granted for what you do for him or use you? PS in love with your content as always!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

These are great questions, I’ll keep them in mind for future video topics! In the meantime, these ones might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qaCzg3ifr91moM0 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZqPQpqagoK1gopI.

[@deliciacathleenauchas9870]

I experienced this.... I always wanted him to reach out for us to do things together, he never did so I started to prioritize myself and do it on my own he definitely started to reach out....even mentioned that I am fun....surely I am closing the gab

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here! Yes, that’s exactly how it works! 💞

[@melaniedonoghue8103]

Thank you Helena for recommending to me this video . I am engaged now and his snappy ways are getting more frequent. I feel like I had to put in a boundary. I’ve told him I’m disappointed and that changed behaviour is what I’m looking for .. I’ve leaned back and now I’m going to start to do things that make me happy and let him have his space to be grumpy x

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Melanie! 💕

[@maysaraali5772]

This lady is phenomenal! Thank you for your host Helena

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! These livestreams I did with Rori might also be helpful if you haven’t seen them yet: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE.

[@laibamaqsood9613]

You know Helena! I was literally craving a video on this topic from you and I was wishing plz Helena do a video with rori 😂. And here it is! I'm watching it and enjoying. Love u😘😘

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Amazing, I’m glad you enjoyed it! These livestreams I did with Rori might also be helpful if you haven’t seen them yet: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE, kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8.

[@tianiemitchell5692]

I know I noticed I do that with new dates if there's a miscommunication I do it and I think women have the tendency of doing it to reassure whoever it is they care about or are thinking about that they're not doing anything wrong which of course you know looks like you're trying too hard when you're just trying to make sure there's no misunderstandings

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Tianie! 💜

[@soystef]

Ahhh this video feels sooooo refreshing & validating!! Thank you, beautiful ladies!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m happy to hear that! 💗

[@radhikaraj7394]

I was meant to watch this today THANK YOU!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Here are some other videos I recorded with Rori that might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE and kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8.

[@radhikaraj7394]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thanks so much!!!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@shelleypetersen1608]

Last fall I did the listen part and didnt react to a guy I was spending time with. I have to say, I felt good about myself when I did! Thank you to both of you for the years of information that finally sank in. 😊. Better late then never hahaha

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Shelley! Thanks for sharing your experience here. 💗

[@tanjao.4312]

ADORING the two of you together ❤️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Tanja! 💞

[@katharazz5163]

I was thinking the same thing. It's adorable actually. You can see how much the both of them JUST LOVE each other! Especially how Helena loves Rory! That's a statement right there! RORI RAYE! Two Sacred Devine Feminine's right there without a doubt!

[@Drcbinev]

You both are amazing women!!! And i am truly thankful for all this amazing advice :) you have changed my life forever

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you Christine, I’m so happy to hear that! ❤️

[@michaelellis141]

Thank you both for sharing such excellent wisdom. Men respond to the women's energy. If she gives off positive vibes he will be influenced by her. The bible speaks about this same concept in 1 Peter 3:1-6;

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Here are a few livestreams I’ve done with Rori on similar topics if you’d like to check them out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE and kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8.

[@michaelellis141]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you for sharing Helena. You Go Girl!

[@kaydencegauthier3857]

Wow you are amazing this feels like my man right now thank you for this

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! ❤️

[@meixu6187]

This is absolutely amazing!!! And, so simple too. Love you two and THANK YOU 🙏 💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m so glad this was helpful! ❤️

[@tobebetter6528]

Thank you very much, it was incredibly valuable and profound)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! This video might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZqPQpqagoK1gopI

[@universoulhealing]

You are very sweet and grateful to your mentor❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! Here’s the latest video we recorded together if anyone would like to check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jGTHoomarMlma68

[@meliel1715]

I'm exited to watch this tonight! 💜💜💜

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hope you enjoy it! 💝

[@milasalinas4629]

Both of you are amazing 🤩 I am so grateful because I am totally a changed woman. I feel so loved 🥰 .!!! Thank you.❤️♥️

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Mila, I’m happy to hear that! 💗

[@Grace.Margate]

If he isn't your husband or actively pursuing marriage, you are basically just friends.. in my opinion.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your insights here, Grace! 💙

[@Vesta588]

Right, your single until your married basically.

[@aditisubba7729]

Thank you so much Helena 💓 your advice on relationships truly has helped me a lot .Finally my boyfriend has reached me after 2 weeks of no contact and now we are happy again 😊

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! Thanks for sharing your experience here, I’m happy to hear that! 💞

[@MagneticUnicornVlogs]

This is awesome news! Congratulations 💐👏

[@Nappygurl8021]

That was amazing thank you so much helena. One day I can't wait to work with you and my dating life. I'm working with anya right now and it's been absolutely life changing. Much 💕

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m happy to hear that! The only way to work with me personally right now is in the Magnetic Mentorship Circle, you can learn more about it here: www.chelsearoses.com/magnetic-mentorship-circle

[@dh.maitrijit4462]

Thank you so much Helena ..... !

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💜

[@irinakushnir8338]

Very grateful...I used to explain myself a lot lol and got it all wrong

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Irina, this livestream I did with Rori should also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE

[@mafegalve620]

Thank you ladies !! Very usual full!!

[@mafegalve620]

Useful!!!:))

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💝

[@1disciple66]

Awesome information! I already feel like a goddess😊🌹

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, I’m happy to hear that! 💖

[@Miswhitness0520]

This is so true every time my man is in a bad mood and he says something rude to me I just walk away and ghost him until he comes crying back to me and wanting to shower me with love and gifts and attention LOL

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, Whitney! 💞

[@kimmiller6029]

Great thanks. I needed this

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, Kim! 💕

[@nessiecullen3247]

Would you suggest giving chance to a man who wasn’t stepping up before but is now suddenly pursuing you for more?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

In my opinion, the answer lies in your intuition and how this feels to YOU. This video might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/hKiUpKCIpt-XbKc

[@nessiecullen3247]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thank you soo much ❤️❤️❤️

[@cryptointegrations9854]

Great topic!! Thank you!

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💕

[@denizcelestin7901]

Absolutely brilliant!! A bit mind-blown, to be honest. Goodness, in my quest to help & fix, I've f'd up so much apparently!!! 😅 #themoreyouknow

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m glad you enjoyed this! These livestreams I did with Rori should also be helpful if you haven’t seen them yet: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE, kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8.

[@2wyn379]

So good

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you! 💚

[@kurisutaru206]

Rori mentioned a coach working with both in a couple would be helpful towards the end of the video... Is this something available with Rori?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m not sure if that specifically is available, but you can learn more about Rori's "Bring Him Close" Private Coaching Program here: roriraye.ontraport.com/t?orid=11853&opid=21

[@janelle2471]

Absolutely love Rori Raye!❤

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Yes, Rori is awesome! Here are a few more livestreams we’ve done together if anyone wants to check them out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE, kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8.

[@janelle2471]

@@HelenaHartCoaching thanks! I purchased her entire program in 2019 the best investment EVER!!! Learned so much about myself and improved my communication skills in all my relationships. Not perfect but definitely catch myself when I do it makes a difference:)

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome, I’m happy to hear that! She’s actually doing a new live Masterclass on Sunday, April 11th - here’s where you can learn more about it: roriraye.ontraport.com/t?orid=11853&opid=27

[@shannonkingston2658]

Amazing content

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thank you, Shannon! 💕

[@cheri6352]

Hi Helena! Coaching would be helpful in my case. I tend to get angry when I'm confronted bc the words of confrontation usually come with put-downs, negative assumptions or half-truths. I feel I have to defend my honor bc he certainly isn't! I cannot seem to bridge this issue, one I had for many years with my father. Can you help? Am I salvageable??

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

It would be helpful to get a few more details to make sure you’re not in an unhealthy situation to begin with, based on what you wrote here. If you’re interested in private coaching, feel free to send an email to [e-mail] and my assistant will get back to you with some options. If I’m not able to help, I know many top coaches may specialize in your situation. 💜

[@kaydencegauthier3857]

It hasn't been where he pulls away but he does not want to go anywhere with me to my family or out to my dad's he does put himself down a lot i notice my mood has changed and I'm not liking how i feel i hate when he gets into his moods I'm glad i work cause if i didn't we be together every day every evening and every night so is this worth it

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing your experience here, I know many women can relate. These livestreams I did with Rori might also be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc, kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8 and kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8.

[@tjf1980]

This is the best message I received tonight 🌺

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so glad this was helpful! ❤️

[@knitnpaint]

This is the best advice ever.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’m so glad it was helpful! 💝

[@maryshores6818]

Question about circular dating How are we intimate if we have been seeing someone for several or more months but can't have sex with multiple men? Is there ever a point where we are in a bf/gf relationship? I agree it can be a trap and waste years of you life. I spent 14 years in 4 different relationships that lasted years each!

[@coreoflife]

Well why does one particular guy even smell better than the others. I am seeing 3 guys and I have no feelings or interest in one and one really likes me and says he wants me in his life forever. The last is the one I like the most but of course, he is not available like the others. Yet, I feel most attracted, even his natural body smell. The guy that says he loves me, I do not like the way he feels when I hug him or his smell. Why?????

[@springfauna1465]

Isn't that the weirdest thing?!! I remember dating this guy I really liked, but the smell of his skin just turned me off. I don't know if it was his vegan diet or love of exotic spices, I just couldn't get close to him and eventually broke it off.

[@Grace.Margate]

❤

[@beebeeguest]

Is there a video on what rori was discussing at the 24 min mark?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

I’ll keep that in mind for future video topics, thanks for the suggestion! In the meantime, this one might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc

[@heathermclean-smith5893]

Rori and Helena, my boyfriend is pushing hard for me to move-in with him and get married to him soon. He has a controlling, and at times a critical nature, so I am very hesitant to move too quickly. My mother also recently passed away and I’m concerned about moving away from my elderly father who really needs my assistance at this time. I don’t want to lose this relationship but how do I get him to understand I’m not ready for this step of moving in together? To be honest, my biggest concern is him controlling my entire life if we live together, but I can’t find a way of communicating this to him without an angry outburst from him.

[@AngelAng40]

You don't deserve to walk on egg shells with someone.. my advice is don't move in with him. No one is worth being controlled!! Stay soft in your own energy and don't let him make you fee small!! You got this.. don't do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable 🙌

[@heathermclean-smith5893]

@@AngelAng40 Thank you so much, Angela! You are completely right!

[@awatson8832]

Have that "controlling your life" conversation with him. If he gets angry then you have your answer. He's thinking of himself not you. You've had your father longer in your life than him. Separate your heart from your head. If there are doubts, you have your answer. Run away. You're in your hindsight now. Don't regret later what you could have done now.

[@stevieleigh4250]

Been there done that. I moved away and it messed up my whole life when my ex decided after he used me for expenses to find himself another wife. I left my family behind, my Dad was ill, but I left. It ruined my Sibling relationship forever. I had to then find a place to live on my own. He left me full of debt with our lavish expenses. So I was stuck up there and away from home for 8 additional years before I could get back home. Girl RUN!!!! If I could go back and tell my younger me not to go, not to move I so would. Sounds very similar to my narcissistic ex. They never change they just try to trick. Be very careful and if you are questioning this listen to yourself. You know the answer, hell I KNEW the answer and I DID NOT LISTEN TO IT. If I had I would not have waisted 10 years of my life trying to crawl back from that horrible failed relationship.

[@TaraHower]

What if he is depressed over another woman?

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

If he has feelings for another woman, personally I would steer clear of a situation like that. I talk more about that in these videos: kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZukg6uho8hkbJI and kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3jOc5xmos-meaM.

[@tjf1980]

Awesome Thank you for sharing

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome! 💝

[@donnahilton8043]

What if u have a disagreement and he runs for several weeks and says he trying to work on his self, and u just want to work it out and talk , but he shuts down for weeks , but he says he loves u .. Do I just move on ?

[@crayonofdarkness215]

Date other men. Go on dates. He is not in a relationship with you if he is disappearing & shutting down. Trying to chase him down to make him talk does *not* work. He needs to figure himself out.

[@aprileve411]

IMO weeks is too long. I think when a man truly cares he wouldn’t risk not seeing you for several weeks. It sounds like he’s not ready bc has his own issues to deal with.

[@reginal24]

24:32 I want you girls to talk about that. What to do when you are angry your needs aren't being met and yet he thinks you need to meet his needs. I need help with this

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Hi Regina, I believe Rori talked more about this in these livestreams we did together: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jJSxhoqHh7R3la8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/qXaZfalvrLNjeK8, kzbin.info/www/bejne/pmPVmaaDg7atgbc and kzbin.info/www/bejne/e5vCdqRqhbhqitE.

[@spencernoble3079]

Please help your girl out here! 😭 I’m nearing the end of my no contact period. I am female (20yrs) and 20 days ago I was fed up with my ex (21y male) because he stated he wasn’t ready for a committed relationship (we dated for two years before). No major fights or arguments occcured between us. I just had enough. I had treated him like a king for years trying to make him realize that I was still a worthy girlfriend, even being friends with benefits with him...But still, he refused to try dating again. I want to get back together, I’m hoping no contact works. He texted me last week to see how I was doing-> I ignored it. Does this sound like a lost cause ..or is there a chance? Do I say anything when 30-40days is over??? What do I do when it’s over. I watched your videos...but my situation seems to be a little unique. AND DONT WORRY I SUBSCRIBED. And btw...I have worked on myself during no contact..I feel great ...but I would feel even better if he was there...

[@spencernoble3079]

I guess my situation seems different because I’m all the videos I have watched titled. “What should you do after no contact.” It sounds like you should become friends, or casually date them again. But....I don’t think that would work for me ...since casual dating and friends with benefits was the problem in the first place ....I need it to progress to committed dating.

[@spencernoble3079]

Btw I have subscribed!

[@ramonaphillipsteach3284]

Yes….when we stop making it about us.

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

Thanks for sharing, Ramona! 💕

[@erykab3688]

Helena. My boyfriend is in a dark place right now. His been dealing with alot and has distance himself. He communicated with me that himself "I'm sorry I've just been dealing with alot im a dark place right now .dont worry it's not you its nobody ,i just need time to fix myself ". Other than giving him space. What do I do? Please advise

[@donnahilton8043]

I feel yr pain I’m in the same situation .. It’s co confusing .. I’m just gonna let him go .. I can’t grasp if someone loves u so much how do they shut down for weeks .. It’s just beyond me ..

[@erykab3688]

@@donnahilton8043 yes. One comment from Helena's videos has helped me so much. It says "If its meant to be, nothing can come between you and him".

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

This video might be helpful for your situation: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZqPQpqagoK1gopI

[@kimtarga_exotic]

Absolutely loved this! Thank you, Kim

[@HelenaHartCoaching]

You’re welcome Kim, I’m glad you enjoyed it! 💜