How To Social Engineer ESTJs | Cognitive Functions | CS Joseph

[@tajmarie1329]

So, let me get this straight: Step 1: Dress and look sharp and smell nice (first impression matters) (Se < Si) Step 2: Make ESTJ "comfy" . . . I take it they are the type that is most wowed with powerpoint and glossy proposals (Se Ne) step 4: Make them feel good by validating his/her reputation and tie it to the intent ( Te + Fi emulating Fe < Fi) or ( Se + Fi emulating Fe Se) . . . . Got it.

[@CSJoseph]

#nutshellsareus

[@taekwondoista3697]

I thought the intention should be about what you want not they want... the Te hero wants to give you what you want?

[@artsyswarley]

As an ESTJ I really appreciate a good summary of points but also loath the fact that the "s" in Step 4 is not capitalized like the other steps.

[@andromaxbse6459]

Do you mean Se critic?

[@andromaxbse6459]

@@artsyswarley what do you mean by not capitalized?

[@PumaSimona]

ESTJ here- confirming everything. Just be aware, we can read the body language, look in the eyes of estj. never avoid the eye contact, that the first red flag where you might loose it all

[@parivanleaf]

I’m ENFP and I met an ESTJ and I want to become friends with them and I want them to open up to me. Should I just be myself or should I follow what CSJ is saying on this video? I feel like as an ESTJ you would know best.

[@winchester591]

@@parivanleaf Maybe a little bit late, but as an ESTJ I can tell you: If you try to manipulate, do it right. As soon as the ESTJ notices, that you tried to manipulate him, it is over

[@kurodesuuuu]

@@winchester591 How do you figure out if someone is trying to manipulate you? Genuinely curious, as ESTJs have Ni Trickster (which means they don't know what they want most of the times)

[@andromaxbse6459]

@@kurodesuuuu They don't, he/she just bluffing.

[@dana102083]

@@kurodesuuuu Estjs are VERY observant so they notice patterns and details very easily. We are more assertive so respect assertive communication and dislike sloppy, lazy and lack of ethic or lack commitment. We like efficiency so strive for everyone to be happy if we can..also as we are loyal and commited. We know whats best for others than ourself as we pruoritize differently. We are committed to improving and adapting as we learn quite quickly of our coming off strongly to others. We know if someone is into us so we can make the easy practical choice. Manipulation is easily read.

[@pavelbobrov5019]

I’m ISTP and my wife is ESTJ. And all our conversations are going just how you describe it. Funny thing that she actually tells just the same. “If we do some changes, i need guarantee that i will be fine.” She asks often “Are you going to be with me forever?” (i.e. will you be loyal to me?) What i didn’t figured out yet is how to understand her “good/bad” judgement. E.g. she’s saying: “Our place is small!”. I hear: “Our place is small.” (True) ut she means: “Our place is too small! This is bad! You need to do something about it!”

[@jasminemariedarling]

@Ill Bag yeah, I was going to say, my estj husband never has multi layers to his statements that I must decipher. Lol, what he says is exactly what he means. Me, and other women, often want others to pick up on cues and read into our statements. This definitely a woman thing, not an estj thing. As well as the "loyalty checks" lol...I do them often, even though it is horrible and I'm trying to cut it out. My estj husband never does this.

[@jasminemariedarling]

@Ill Bag Very interesting! CS Joseph mentioned that my type- infj- does this a lot and it can be borderline abusive 😳...Always needing reassurance isn't healthy so yep trying to work on that haha. But helps to know that other women struggle with it too, inherently! 👍

[@dana102083]

Estjs usually say exactly what they mean. Was she being sarcastic..?😬

[@sushibaby9675]

The best descriptions of personality types. I've just watched "How to social engineer ENFJs by simulating INFPs" which is again 🎯

[@bojanvrangeloski]

As an intp i dont know why this sentence got my attention " the best lies are the one that come true " yeah :)) long live the cameleon

[@Selina_33]

Having that crap as a Super Ego is a doozy. It’s so dumb!!!

[@generalpatton838]

Same here. I have had that experience of being on the other side of their Fe demon and yes, you're right; you don't want to be on that other side! Their "poetic justice" is NOT a good experience. -INTJ

[@Leneah99]

"How to Social Engineer..." is my favorite series now. It is awesome!! I appreciate the wealth of useful information I'm getting from this. Even if you only watch one of these, you can take the info and run with it for other types (if you know their cognitive functions). Thank you C.S. Joseph, for all your efforts :)

[@Akg-d2e]

do you mean if they have the same cognitive functions of the estj in their ego ??

[@yoiiru]

I feel bad for ESTJs because all the comments here are like "I hate ESTJs they are such a pain and they are assholes". They are almost like the "villain whose story has not been told" lol. My dad is ESTJ and growing up as an INFJ daughter was a lot of hurt and arguing but if I were to look through his view of the world and intake his feelings and frustration as my own then I just feel plain sad for him. It's like they don't absorb enough love when growing up haha. My dad is almost 60 now, and his INFP side has developed a ton in the past five years so he is like a changed being. It really bring out the best of the ESTJ I think, they can be really amazing with that activated INFP side and their Te, and give the best practical advice. They really just want the best out of you, in their own (often misunderstood) way.

[@Punchy5224]

I feel I am turning into that good side too. Im nealry 32 with our first baby on the way and being a vengeful, lazy unmotivated, in the shadows person for a while becasue I thought thats who I was did no good. Once I followed my moral compass and lined it with things of the highest value I beleive in like honesty and respect. Iam becoming able to love again and turn that negative energy into postitive. I love seeing people in their passions and what they love doing not for what pays the most and the side I looked away from in me for so long because I was and still am scared of letting people see who I really am is allowing me to be that person I was a kid and just loved everything and everyone for who they are. I am happy for you and your dad that it is changing in a positive way. If I am like he is in anyway then I know just how heavy the heart is when you are the state of mind where you are the villian because your ability to feel and express emotions has been beating into your brain that it is bad and as a man people put me down as I grew up for expressing how I felt. I dont know why but I felt like I needed to not show pain or emotions so others would not have to worry or carry the burden that I carry. As a kid I would cry when my dad or mum said the loved me when they where mad at me for something silly I did. Its not easy and it feels like you need to suffer inside so the outside is hard and ready or that the people closest to you could rely on you as the hero so the story of the villian has been written its just not released to anyone and the hero is in progress for part 2. Give the old fella a hug for me and say I love you from a random 32 year old man on youtube.

[@lucca.c1788]

As an enfj I am so grateful for the help. This type has always been difficult for me to understand in a way, and this will help me deal with them better.

[@AmyAllways]

This is BEYOND amazing. As an INFJ married to an ESTJ (worst match ever I know!), this video is invaluable for me!

[@monicadehek5484]

Same..how right you are!

[@Julia-ey4zd]

What pushed you to make that desicion

[@joon_choco]

Omg I want to know what kind of arguments do you have and any tips you have for an infj ?

[@AmyAllways]

@@Julia-ey4zd I wasn't pushed. I decided to lol. And the by that time (11 years ago) I knew nothing about MBTI. But I honestly don't regret it at all

[@AmyAllways]

@@joon_choco gosh that would need much more than a youtube comment lol! But I will say that it may take alot of maturity on both sides. Mainly look at the reason BEHIND ESTJ behaviour. They are strongly opinionated but do things out of love

[@one5872]

I typed my mother as ISTJ I'm INTP thank god this video exists. I would have never realised she was getting mad about my SE trickster. She litteraly take pictures when my room isn't cleaned up xP

[@MusicCrackhead]

*big evil grin* excellent information. *Rubs hands together* excellent info indeed - INTJ lady whose up to no good

[@MusicCrackhead]

Lin Yen Chin Haha! Get out of here, with your ability to see of Future Intentions! I don’t like being exposed. And no husband for me. I will never legally marry!!

[@CSJoseph]

well said

[@Sniegel]

@@MusicCrackhead "I will never legally marry" Hahaha! XD /Fellow INTJ

[@justinjbolyard]

Ironically being an INTJ, and my boss is an STJ this will really help me. And we’re in an office setting! He is very clean cut, definitely has read the 48 laws because I see him using them against me but I catch on thankfully and he’s very aware on how to catch on to people with intentions. For example one late night two other co workers ENFP and ISFJ werent keeping me in the loop about needing to stay late one night and they tell me that I needed to stay late as I was about to leave. So I actually got pretty upset and pretty much told them they should’ve told me sooner and because of that I’m leaving at regular time. So come Monday I went to my boss ISTJ and told him what happened because I had actually felt guilty about it all weekend. I told him he needed to be more direct with me and He seemed calm, but he simply said for now on, if 3rd shift people to not come in to inspect glass, then that means I stay late. So I was in the clear I believe, but last past Friday he had tested me again AND to still see if I had a vindictive ongoing grudge towards the ENFP. Since I got him suspended for take almost two hour lunch breaks lol oops! 😊 He gave me an ultimatum, he first asked me if I could stay late I said yes, and he had did what I asked somewhat to be more direct, and he said if it gets too late and you need to leave just maybe ask ENFP to finish off the rest for you. Which right there set off some alarms in my brain, so I told him that I’d stay until the work was done and which tells him that there’s no grudge against ENFP, and also letting him know that I value justice instead. Which in my eyes would be a “company man” trait. This ISTJ is all about being a company man. Which I need to learn to be more like which will be tough because I’m just different in my appearance but I’m getting better. I’m already pretty neat and clean I just have body modifications (tattoos/etc) but I’m still pretty clean cut when I goto work. Collared shirts and slacks most days. I blend well.

[@CSJoseph]

awesome!

[@kindauncool]

I love the way INTJs think.

[@XavierGuillaume]

Oh god...I just found out I am an ESTJ...It all makes sense now. yeah I went on a date with a guy, and he wasn't standing up straight. I told him to stand up straight, and he did for a little bit. He looked so much better, but then he started slouching again. I tried a few times more, but it would only last for a minute or two. I think I am super shallow. There is no way I could date someone obese or who looked bad, who had bad hygiene, etc. At one of my old jobs I would always dress nice, with a vest and a tie. I would be the best dressed, and people treated me better for it. It was impressive. And an attractive well dressed guy, my eyes are locked onto them like a target. Lol!

[@AppVenturesxD]

are you a Taurus?

[@WillTheFrozen]

my sister is estj, im istp. she always wants to kill me and I find her basic as fuck and nitpicky. I don't know how it could work. But we when do sports together it's fantastic. Really like that there's no touchy feeling too much with us.

[@moonshoestarkid]

im an infp w an estj mom. it's hell...so thanks so much for this.

[@jasminemariedarling]

Ok, this is crazy. You are giving me the insight, the superpower to truly please (and manipulate?) the people in my life. I promise to use this knowledge only for the greater good! I literally bought a new notebook to take notes. I've decided after this one, to just start with your first video/lecture, and work my way through them all. Sorry for so many comments, I (probably) won't leave them on every single video. 🤣😂

[@haizley9988]

extj with a notable enough sensing preference here. i'm "shallow," sure, but not to the extent that i will completely rule someone out based on their appearances. it just contributes to my idea of the person; that they're not good at keeping themselves presentable is just about all that it means to me. it signals more traits about the person to me, but i'm impartial enough to that to really not care unless more factors come in that rule them out. one flaw does not break an impression, because we all have hundreds of them.

[@dana102083]

Agreed!

[@knotlock]

I’m so happy this season is finally coming out, I’m hooked on this show ;)

[@scartdarcy]

ESTJs beware, people kind of hate you guys, this will be used against you, by me included but the most that I want is your candy so just give some and I'll go away

[@brotherlyelk7296]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@devrajpatil-j3o]

Well i am an estj and i know this stuff too take care of your loved ones I hope they have a good life ❤

[@davidpapojr8531]

They don't have to study this to use it against us trust me... This explains ESTP.

[@TheQdubb05]

As an INFJ with an ESTJ best friend, this is incredibly accurate. He's all about the first impressions lol. I'm loving this season already. More please!!! INFP maybe? ;-)

[@Jess-yv7zc]

The owner of our company is an ESTJ and before I go into his office, I use a tape gun to remove the dog hair from my shirt. lol

[@therealyeti1482]

Jessica P That is quite funny, my boss sometimes picks the cat hair off of me and asks me to use a lint roller haha

[@outrageousmermaid9073]

State your intentions, not the actual ones you want. I love learning how to social engineer Thanks C.S. Joseph!

[@stephenlavely2930]

The world needs an ENTJ episode in this series. The sooner the better.

[@4thNebula]

Very useful video for me since I work daily with a male ESTJ (very poor version of one IMO and my Fi expects high moral standards which he does not meet) and am married to a female ESTJ (a very well developed version with a well developed INFP side who has well developed Fi moral code). I look forward to the INFP Social Engineering version to contrast. Unfortunate that you were not able to talk much about the subconscious part since I am Fi.

[@blackkitty9098]

The relationship between me and my estj instructor on my training: On my first day of training . I have to admit I didnt properly know how to wear the uniform. Welp , he underestimated me the way I looked. He dragged me down in public. My reaction: 🤨... ............... After the training was over, he always asked questions.I didnt know that he was interested in me .I answered DIRECTLY and stated what I wanted. Then , he saw me that I was punctual, knew how to take care of myself on my job. Him:" well. I DIDNT KNOW youre good at your job." Me: 🙄🙄Are you THIS shallow? Him: *He giggles* You remind me of someone... About never ask/let them what they want, YOU ARE RIGHT! Never ask/let them what THEY WANT . Otherwise, they'll end up tarnish their own reputation.😅😅

[@kalamatokane]

I needed this video! My brother is an ESTJ. He's a pain in the ass, but I love him.

[@greg49284]

This season is awesome! I really hope INFJ episode is coming soon.

[@Anonymous_Anon882]

ESTJs claim to love social-interaction but often-times (unless they’re of sturdily-formidable moral-conviction) all they do is use people and gossip about them. I’d rather be reserved but friendly than an outgoing two-faced backstabber.

[@phieble]

From an ISTP - Man FORGET this! On to ESFJs I go! I am NOT about to strive to fit myself into your box of acceptability and "play a part" to win your affection. Pass

[@lyaz0939]

This season will be great. Nice job on this one.

[@davidpapojr8531]

Oh my god you're so correct I'm petrified of intentions and it goes back and forth..

[@taekwondoista3697]

Thank you - my boss is ESTJ

[@naruto0o0o1]

Im an intj and my dad an estj everything you said about how they interact has been so accurate i never knew why we had so many problems. wow. Thanks for all the advice!

[@wonderfulrafita]

Very informative. My lover is an ESTJ. And I’m an INTJ. 😑

[@user-ep4jo1ev3j]

Why the sad face 😂😂

[@tylernelson9039]

V Godwin If it’s anything like the relationships I’ve had with ESTJs, they most certainly aren’t the easiest. -INTJ

[@user-ep4jo1ev3j]

@@tylernelson9039 I am an ENTJ. We get on very well.

[@scouttrooperhh-1487]

Get out of that man, get you an infj

[@erinjk123]

It may take a while to get to INFP. I'm their subconscious. :)

[@evangeliamintzai6302]

Damn! I'm always optimistic. That's why I make my estj colleague mad. This is a very useful video. The comments about the first impressions are spot on.

[@thegreenpersonality8599]

Looks like you are starting with all the extroverted types. Would love to see ISFP as one of the first introverted types! Married to one. They need so much freedom but they can get lazy, and I get on their bad side a lot I think (INFJ). Thanks! :)

[@andromaxbse6459]

Their default is being lazy.

[@hannatalks8437]

I like your presentation very much!!!! I have experience with trying to social engineer an ESTJ.

[@scouttrooperhh-1487]

ESTJ are nosy micromanagers, most annoying type

[@andromaxbse6459]

Always overbearing, never understanding.

[@renegade619]

This is exactly why I subbed, you made a strong impression and gave me a good experience, although I would suggest getting a shave and a shirt that actually fits.

[@CSJoseph]

My weight goes up and down too quickly due to a health condition hence the sometimes baggy clothing.

[@joon_choco]

C.S. Joseph your beard is amazing, please don’t mind others 💕

[@AbbaOjcze]

That doesn’t work when estj is a narcissist. They’ll just keep manipulating you to cater to their comfort and you’ll only be used

[@codidrake1]

Can already tell this will be my favorite season

[@elizabethglavinis6539]

ESTJ here..i do love a good experience

[@dnmbd]

Out of all 16 types i hate estj the most....

[@scouttrooperhh-1487]

Same

[@abigailcb685]

Sooooo against my nature to give them what they want.

[@davidduran2984]

I was absolutely mesmerized by this talk. Awesome job!

[@sandrahall9030]

My 16 year old 3rd generation fatherless niece seems to be ESTJ, and now I'm her guardian, thanks COVID. My other kids are successful but this little critical pill does not buy it. She wants to burn down her life. You may be giving me the key to social engineering her into succeeding in her own whole life. Little sh*t. I'm ENTP and she works my last nerve but, like you, I'm trying to end fatherlessness. If I can succeed in giving her a great life experience, it will be my piece de resistance. Useful, helpful, educational and insightful. Thank you, sir.

[@davidpapojr8531]

In retrospect she played me because the apartment she was in the owner of the house was a basement apartment had told her she had I don't know a year to get out or something basically I'm the fool got out of my SI comfort zone got us a place fixed her car took care of everything to give her a good experience but the whole time she was sleeping with another guy and oh my God what a fool. Well lessons learned

[@henkster6067]

Chase, great video! Thanks for great information and your thoughts, once again! It was clear that you tried your best to put it across balanced this time, thank you. If this is how it works, then it means the information you gave us which applies to ESTJs would work for any type, all a person needs is to know their functions as you said and target the pessimistic functions, right? I can't wait for you will share more details of it with us soon, it's very exciting ! ☺ Thanks again!

[@ariannam4635]

Can you please make a video on how to social engineer an INTP? I myself am one and I think it would be very helpful to know how other people or my friends could possibly manipulate me

[@CSJoseph]

its not out yet, please be patient. It can come out faster if you are a patreon subscriber :)

[@backstabbedhermit2949]

Ah yes, an intp preparing itself so it can outsmart others manipulation.

[@gallevran]

Finallyyyyy Ive managed to successfully type my mother 😱 And damn...have I been making some mistakes for the past 44 years as an INFJ 🤣🤣🤣 Excellent lecture. Thanks!

[@jasminewithf]

Have a test tomorrow. Instead of studting i'm watching this.

[@Percival2755]

What if we say to the ESTJ - "Hey, if you do this you are going to have a bad experience and everybody is going think badly of you" Is that conducive to a successful social engineering attack or is it something that is going to backfire on me?

[@CSJoseph]

try it out

[@manfredzalud7914]

Did it work? You're basically attacking their NI trickster and then reinforce your view by telling them that they will lose reputation as a consequence (TE). If you can lay out your reasoning in a logically consistent way in TI fashion, they should technically trust you and follow your lead. However the most important thing seems to be their SE critic and their need for having a good experience, so if they don't like how you look or you're making them uncomfortable in the process you will probably not succeed.

[@turtlespameater]

Looking great dude! Keep up the good work.

[@CSJoseph]

much appreciated

[@davidpapojr8531]

Oh my god you got me laughing and smiling here This is dead on. And everybody thinks I'm so complicated I'm very simple

[@plusultra6094]

Evil genius. I used to think I was pretty good at pressure points. Teach us the ways master.

[@davidpapojr8531]

Aw this is so accurate. Coming to work in the morning and I walk up to the management I said where do you want me okay no problem

[@DionneKovaleva]

I'm an ISTP but these ESTJs sound like so much work 😓 and I hate shallow people.

[@phieble]

Subsi Inco Right! And won't my need for freedom and spontaneity and complete disregard for social norms turn them completely off because they're so critical, prissy and traditionalistic? Like I really don't get the attraction there for EITHER of us. Unless we find it sexy how we utterly annoy the heck out of each other! But really, I am not picking something up.

[@benaoao6753]

Just dress up proper for once and you’ll avoid everything shallow

[@MamaBo26]

Ben Aoao 😂

[@scouttrooperhh-1487]

They are the worst

[@abrahiemdash7676]

@@phieble actually they will give you All the freedom in the world you want Go check the ISTP compatibility video

[@davidpapojr8531]

So this is why I thought it was an IMTP and even typed this INTP as I comfort zone from pessimistic parent. Along with TI and ne.. fe. Half conscious half unconscious

[@danielcherry4675]

If someone doesnt notice their shoes untied or is too lazy to re-tie it why should i trust them to do a job that requires an eye for detail?

[@Heroqualle9]

Pretty interested in isfps, infjs, intps and i/entjs in that order. Have you already decided in which order you'll do the types? Anyway thank you this seems like a great video series

[@CSJoseph]

aye the order is chosen

[@fleetingfootnotes9133]

@@CSJoseph Order and chosen in one sentence? Why does that remind me of Darth Vader? :P

[@sandradibiaso7316]

Actor Humphrey Bogart was an SJ and his wife actress Lauren Bacall was an ESTP. I believe he was an ESTJ but could have been an ISTJ. Even ISTJs want the same experience as ESTJs.

[@MusicCrackhead]

Oh and still anticipating that God Function! I have not forgot!

[@Entyipo]

He is actually just now about to talk about the God functions

[@bethany9563]

I am having a nightmare experience with estj as a mother in law! Sooo controlling.

[@latindancevideosgr4442]

Love this video. Eager to see the next.

[@feedyourhead731]

Ugh... I'm infp, I can't deliver Se. :-\

[@taekwondoista3697]

Chase: quick question. You mention ESTJ wants to know what you want, but not making them uncomfortable. I went to far and made them uncomfortable. How do I do damage control once you’ve accidentally made ESTJ uncomfortable?

[@CSJoseph]

make them feel good

[@taekwondoista3697]

C.S. Joseph thank you - so that means telling them what a good reputation they have with others, how much good they are doing, dress nice and show them how something will solve their problems with data?

[@taekwondoista3697]

You’re amazing by the wAy, thanks for these videos

[@BookofYAH777]

9:15 I don't understand. Sometimes you say "focus on optimistic functions first" (like for ISTP and ENTJ), and sometimes you say "focus on pessimistic functions first" (like ESTJ). Which one is it?

[@bellarose8511]

Biggest obstacle: figuring out what type you’re dealing with......like my boss....😒

[@Polibo3836]

29:29 literally described my dad(estj) and his relationship with my mom, excpet it ended in a really ugly way and is the reason why im watching these estj videos in the first place, I just wanna know what would compel a man to do what he did 😐 He even got scammed out of his money according to my mom by a man who used these exact tactics...

[@mrdamavandiii]

Useful, enlightening, sightful 👍

[@CSJoseph]

Glad it was helpful!

[@rogerdear]

I'm an INTP trying to emulate Se in order to get along with an ESTJ coworker. Oof 😬

[@andromaxbse6459]

Your Ti+Fe combo is more valuable to move them.

[@INFamousJudge576]

Get an Se user to help you dress up better.

[@OpportunisticHunter]

Oh noes... ESTJ one of 4 most common, when will INTJ be done?

[@CSJoseph]

soon (trademark?)

[@blehman5574]

Hey CSJ, I've watched all of season 21 and one thing that boggles my mind is how in this video (and a few others), at 9:14 you mention how ''we want to target the pessimistic functions first'', yet in other videos you mention just disregarding the pessimistic functions and going for the optimistic ones first, what is the true order of what to go for first? is there even a true order? is it type dependant? Could you please clarify

[@CSJoseph]

It changes by type, there is a standard to follow, but it’s per type. Pay attention to their attitude slots.

[@blehman5574]

@@CSJoseph I've been on a wild goose chase ever since reading your comment going through all of my notes on your social engineering series to find which two functions you appealed to first and I got this list: ESTJ: -+ ESTP: ++ ENTJ: ++ ENFJ: ++ ESFJ: -+ ESFP: ++ ENTP: ++ ENFP: -+ ISTJ: -+ ISTP: -+ INTJ: +- INFJ: +- ISFJ: +- ISFP: +- INTP: ++ INFP: +- I tried to find patterns within the specific functions you targeted for XYZ type and considered the functions that would cause pain (while keeping in mind you may have gone a bit random with some), I've come to some conclusions that I think make sense: Ti/Te in parent/hero makes going for the optimistic functions ideal, minus ESTJs as passing the shallowness check is neccessary Certain types that are too optimistic in regards to external influences, like ENFPs with Te Child + Ne Hero you can go straight to their inferior to immediately make it comfy since they're not pessimistic about what you think or your intentions, etc So I think based on my observations and reading why you go for XYZ functions with each type (prime example being going to optimistic functions for ENJs because of Ne Critic), it's mainly determined by if pessimistic slots are occupied by Ne & Te functions, combined with high thinking functions needing an optimistic approach, alongside the certain exception that's vulnerable like an ISFP despite having pessimistic Te, having Ne Trickster that allows people to butter them up straight up due to not being aware of intent Am I onto something here? I'd appreciate a hint

[@baaf777]

I should have watched this video before I pissed off an ESTJ Vice President. Burning bridges in front of me is one of the things I’m really good in... But I enjoyed the light of the fire. :)

[@michaelwajda9771]

ESTJ Vice President? Let me guess: Mike Pence? 😂😂

[@boxy_tocs2035]

Si paren- SE critic idk 7:50- 9:10- 10:30- 11:30-13:17 First impressions 13:17- 16: 32:30-35:20 35:20-35:56 recommend

[@davidpapojr8531]

Oh yes if you got body odor forget it I've had bosses here put me with people that don't shower and I had to go to them and say don't put this person with me again I can't no it's overwhelming it's disgusting

[@RaximusPrime]

My ESTJ mother, used to tell me my ex gf was ugly 😂

[@davidpapojr8531]

I don't know I don't think I'm that shallow just be dressed appropriate for the situation is fine it doesn't have to be fancy but it has to reflect self-care

[@ssanimess]

I’m an INFJ female here crushing on an ESTJ guy! Would activating my ESTP subconscious work in social engineering him?

[@LornaLens]

I love your passion. 😀 Enfj and ok with it 😉

[@brycerenfeldt330]

This was SOOO good

[@bellarose8511]

You played the fiddle like a guitar....

[@CSJoseph]

lol yes

[@sananaji3707]

I accidentally social engineered an estj by doing everything mentioned in your video .. the problem is that he is my boss and he is trying to cross his boundaries . I don't know how to get him back to formal mood without offending him .

[@vignesh8392]

Lol any update?

[@sananaji3707]

Omg! Yeah 😂 I ended up insulting him (gracefully), calling him out for his bs and quitting my job .

[@adrienneb5445]

OMG, I’m in love!!!

[@Zactastical]

12:22 I laughed too much at that.

[@henkster6067]

Lol! Watched it like ten Times! Love it!

[@henkster6067]

22:49 was very i had a good laugh! 😁

[@Heroqualle9]

@@henkster6067 the melody :D

[@henkster6067]

@@Heroqualle9 yes I love it hahaha!

[@davidpapojr8531]

So what am I so afraid of cuz I've never let fear stop me before? What am I afraid that I'm not a good person what's going on?

[@Dakuta12]

what if the thing I want is a break up? that's literally the opposite of a compliment

[@CSJoseph]

How do you know what you want?

[@Dakuta12]

@@CSJosephI(INFP) want to let her down easy. Not create another horrible experience for her. She seems to be a bit scarred by an INTJ-relationship in the past. Do I just compliment, to soothe Fi-inferior, and try to not make her feel like she's a bad person and it's her fault? Cuz that's what she'll think, right?

[@Dakuta12]

thanks for answering btw :D

[@elvien1640]

But its about what the shoe lace represents - if they can't tie their own shoe lace/not realise it is untied wtf would I trust them to manage my company when they don't even have an eye for detail 🤔 😒 😑

[@enraged1584]

But you don’t know what their shoe lace represents

[@mayhawthorn5092]

This is helping me ALOT

[@パフ最高]

play at 1.5x speed 21:44 *checkmate* gotta make dank memes outta dis

[@erinjk123]

I compliment people without any intention behind it. I don't try to munipulate or anything lol.

[@brucewayne2184]

Mmm yeah you do.

[@LV-bk4it]

Yes, you are trying to manipulate them by making them feel good about themselves, and they'll have a better day because of it - you are doing a good thing.

[@szpoganicz]

post about the INTJs and ISTJs soon! i wanna toy with my friends hahahahahahahaha

[@davidpapojr8531]

Yeah I'm aware honestly let me be honest I'm even had cautious thoughts about you but I'm verifying and you're correct and even if you are social engineering me which will help because the path you're pointing me is the direction they need to go anyway so thank you because yeah you can't get past those defenses it's going nowhere that's for sure but I don't I'm not here learn how to social engineer people that's not my goal You want to help me social engineer myself so I can do the right f****** thing that's a different story🎉

[@someonerandom713]

So... How about groups of people? Type diverse groups?

[@CSJoseph]

can be done

[@raven5347]

Thnx...Csj🤓

[@BartholomewHenryAllen]

The last thing I want to do as an INTP is seduce that ESTJ. That sounds like a lot of work. I'd basically be undoing everything I've learned. 😭 I'd assume it's a problem with my Si Child function. But I'd like some help figuring this out so I can avoid problems.

[@emolly93]

“Always state your intentions to the NE Child” - So as an ENFP I prefer to be indirect about my feelings and hint that I like someone without saying it point blank 🤪 So do you suggest I tell my ESTJ crush directly how I feel as he won’t understand the hints since he’s super direct & also a sensor?

[@grimmseti]

The answer is yes. The guy's not a mind reader LOL

[@emolly93]

@@grimmseti 😂😂😂 I hate being direct it’s so awkward

[@nyasha9623]

I’m an enfp with an estj boss. I find it really hard to work with her because I’m textbook enfp and she’s textbook estj. I personally think romantically an e is better matched with an i. Though I don’t like my boss; I use her organisational skills and her direct attitude as inspiration to improve on my weakness. The main issue I have with her is she judges a book by its cover. I’m a black African , female and very soft spoken and she’s taken one look at me and has decided I do not know my job and just micromanages. I’m not saying she’s racist but I know I’m not the stereotype of a professional. I work as a manager and she was already telling my staff that she did not think I had the management and communication skills. I have an MBA and she doesn’t and she tells me that I am still new to the company and need to learn; but I’ve worked there for almost three years and her other staff members come to me first before going to her. Enfp’s are not worried about status. I don’t try to announce my management. Even though I’m giving you my professional experience with an estj I thought it would be a good side for you to be aware before wanting to engage with them romantically. Words affect us enfp’s deeply and estj’s will say something really honest, direct based from what they perceive is their truth.

[@emolly93]

@@nyasha9623 you are absolutely right! Although in general I have had very good experiences with ESTJs. I love how reliable & responsible they are and I really need structure as I am all over the place, I also love their fun laid back attitude and their sense of humor . But I will consider your perception for sure, I have also had my doubts about them (similar to your observations) but I’ll get to know him first before I go in too deep in the relationship. Thank you for taking the time to write and explain, I appreciate it so much ❤️

[@claimyourshame6196]

Whats a good way to encourage their own self destruction?

[@davidpapojr8531]

There's more to it we're going to test you I don't think it's a conscious test it's more of an unconscious thing but we're going to test you but he is right if you can get past those we are pretty much stupid here and you've won