How to Stay Stable in Chaotic Situations

[@blueberrylinequilting4527]

I can so relate to the first caller!! My ex had me thinking I was so crazy with his gaslighting and lying!!! Along with the triangulation with his mother and myself, nearly sent me over the edge. They had me believing I was less than a human and no worthy of even our kid's love!! I have so glad for a friend who was wise enough seeing this happen and sit me down and make me aware of it and that it is was not ME!

[@denisecampbell8128]

The My Husband Lies All the Time- I know how this life is. It is so gradual and SO hard to identify when in the middle of it. Thoughts and prayers!

[@jasondima1411]

I relate very well with the 2nd caller. I understand exactly where he is coming from. Thank you for calling the Dr. John Delony show. I needed to hear this

[@GwenMotoGirl]

Wow, I could have benefited from Leeann’s call when I was married to a man who lied. My ex did have affairs. He lied to cover up or denied every thing I and my daughters (he was the step father) ever asked him about, even when the evidence was right there, from the simplest to the most complicated things. I stayed way too long. We finally separated about 6 years ago after 17 years of marriage, and I proceeded to clean up all the crap that he did, lied about, and left behind. It cost me a lot of money, but I’m free, and I never have to question my own sanity again. I hope she gets out. There is no fixing this.

[@mercys1412]

So basically her husband has no character, maturity and integrity. Doubt he was those things either before they got married.

[@jonbonart7191]

Sounds to me like he's really good at making it seem like he does.

[@sobeliever1638]

@@jonbonart7191 exactly she gave examples of how he presents himself better than what he is. He could have been faking it then little by little his true self emerged and now she is married to a loser.

[@razmiddle9410]

He may have chosen her specifically because she was too young and naive to recognize that he had no character or integrity.

[@dannelle17]

I think it should be illegal to marry until 27

[@thembisaodendaal]

I love this 30 year old guy..wish him the best..has a lot on his plate but a good guy trying to juggle life and find hapiness

[@and1813777]

How are you unable to take care of a cat? Change a litterbox once a week, fill food and water bowls, and that's literally it.

[@thekezzey95]

He probably thinks he's too good to take care of a cat. He may be a narcissist. I can't believe this woman has lived like that for 10 years. :(

[@sobeliever1638]

Probably does not care about it.

[@l-train7876]

For the love of God I hope you’re scooping the litter box more than once/week😳

[@samh5218]

@@l-train7876 That was my reaction. 😳

[@christinam81]

@@l-train7876 Same. If I go past 2 days, my little bougie cat will start peeing on the floor like, “I know you don’t expect me to go in there. Remember this moment” 😾

[@catherinejohansson2402]

Living in an atmosphere of constant gaslighting, it’s amazing just how prolific it is. Speaking personally, it took me years to realize just how much of it there was. It also took me getting out of my decades long marriage before I fully understood everything. Distance and safety allowed me to see clearly for probably the first time in my entire life. I remember being so confused and feeling like I was going crazy, while my ex was burning the gaslights bright. For others in that living nightmare, get out. Formulate your plan and follow through. Decide that you are worthy of love, safety, being heard and having peace. You’re NOT crazy, but you will become unstable the longer you force yourself to exist in the alternative reality. If you don’t want to lose yourself forever, get OUT. I’m proof that life can get much better. You can too!

[@Getupandholdon]

I needed that first call, thank you ❤️

[@Drowning_Girl]

The hardest thing ever is having a loved one with schizophrenia. Not a lot of support out there for it. I have a family member that refuses to get help for it and it breaks my heart.

[@chrisnowicki5494]

You’re so gaslit you got third-degree burns. That is so Flippin accurate.😂

[@hoyeonim8708]

That's endeed a GREAT title. Had me press "notify me" button instantly, i hope it's as good as it seems/sounds...i didn't know you before, but i stumbled upon your episodes randomly, watched 2 or 3 of them, and oh man were you spilling some truth, almost everything you say hits home + the helpfull advices/guidance just ads to it's overall value more.♡love what you doin' man, keep it up^^👏

[@flashthecorgi2053]

Welcome to the Delony gang as he would say! Also if you look in the description it gives you a run down of what the calls will be. Obviously a lot of times there is some curve balls in the show and can’t forget Delony’s hilarious commentary!

[@hoyeonim8708]

@@flashthecorgi2053 thanks😊

[@Sadielady21]

This is so familiar to me, my brother had schizophrenia, also was discharged from the military. He was on and off medication for years. Addidcted to drugs and alcohol. I couldn't "fix" him. And I have to be ok with that. He passed away in January 2021.

[@josephellis8722]

I bought the first edition to have better conversations with my wife when the room is quite and my wife wants me to talk to her! It’s been extremely helpful for me to get to know her and for me to not to just be brain dead around her after a long day at work. I bought it on y’all’s website not know that you wrote them 😂 Thank you so much for the content 😃

[@anthill1510]

"Your language is of somebody who is so gaslit you got 3rd degree burns". Have to remember that one.

[@sds6303]

Sadly part of Schizophrenia is the extreme paranoia. Even thinking that your medication & treatment team is out to get you or trying to kill you. Very sad situation. He’s either in complete denial that he’s sick & refuses to accept it, or he’s so paranoid, his hallucinations & delusions won’t allow him to get treated.

[@georgieeve2026]

Part of schizophrenia disorder is difficulty with medication compliance. This is due to the unwanted side effects of the medications themselves, and also because of the disorder itself. So it needs to be understood that going off the medication is rarely because of a lack of care and consideration to their loved ones. Consistent therapy and a solid support network (which would include people with lived experience of schizophrenia) can help to improve medication compliance and quality of life. Additionally, it would be worth considering getting long acting antipsychotic medication via injection. These injections can be administered once every 3 months. Some people get them monthly, fortnightly, every 6 weeks, 8 weeks etc. It will depend on the psychiatrist and the needs of the patient. Some people also take daily tablets, or PRN tablets in between/on top of the injections as well. But the injections will provide better coverage and are helpful in cases of medication resistance, non-compliance, and in cases of severe psychosis symptoms.

[@CC12398]

I have no experience with this, but I have heard you can get a court order for injections. Maybe that would help

[@sds6303]

It’s not called Schizophrenia “disorder”. Just Schizophrenia.

[@antonellaa347]

Second caller: why wasn’t guardianship discussed? Long acting medications? A case manager?

[@Haleh1]

My sister lies all the time. She cant handle confrontation. It insults my intelligence and makes me angry.

[@nathanhill4810]

John, much love and blessings old friend. Am having a text convo with Thomas Beard as I type and he was sharing about your time with Jordan Peterson. Big time blessings and I must say that is way cool.

[@madyem4672]

The first guy sounds just like my ex. 🙄

[@kingxerxi]

The 2nd called sounds like the channel: just a few acre farm. Would recommend.

[@brightpage1020]

My guess is - she shares her money. But that doesn’t likely go both ways. 3 years?!?! And the excuse is “medication”? Most men might want to change medication at that point, right? Isn’t sex like the glue that hold marriages together - for men? This guy is not the kind of guy you want to raise kids with. College tricks to save money by sneaking into sports games - might impress the other immature peers with fun and adventure… probably not meant with malice, but… You need a man of integrity. Somebody who values honesty and not just other people’s.

[@nizarknt1453]

Great and useful show. Thank You!

[@bethford6884]

Am I the only one that got a laugh out of listening to John say "Whoop" over and over?

[@arlenefisher1164]

Please do a set of cards for parents and adult children... please!

[@rayneeley8592]

I relate to girl cannot trust. I'm so sick of being gaslight. But what can u do when staying for kids is safer than leaving when husband and wife have zero family availabil. I think I'm Krazy sad he calls me physco as a name among others. Daily. Told the church we prayed. When God led me to bring another brother or two. They came we prayed. Do I stay?

[@CC12398]

Think about what this is doing to your children and what they think they should put up with as adults

[@belinda6533]

No ma'am or sir. Exposure to lies eats away at you. You will lose trust in yourself.

[@Bossn93]

Spanish version please !!! For questions for humans.

[@akosibangbang]

My mom had to take off her psych meds because her kidneys couldnt take it. Sad to say she died because of kidney failure. 😔

[@emmarose6590]

What meds and how long was she on them?

[@akosibangbang]

@@emmarose6590 She had Thorazine the longest time and Seroquel... she took them for about 6-7 years.

[@bonjoursophie]

I am so sorry for your loss. Sincerely. May I ask how you initially found out she was having kidney issues? My mom is on psych meds, and I'm often worried about how her organs are handling them (lithium, olanzapine, hydroxyzine)

[@akosibangbang]

Having regular check up with her doctors helped. They advised her when to cut down on taking meds or get off it.

[@CC12398]

@@bonjoursophie because of this problem.

[@cathyosullivan718]

Please don’t “get rid of a cat.” They are sensitive, living beings. I hope they found him a good home.

[@GardenerEarthGuy]

Exactly- you get rid of a wife or girlfriend, but if a cat has chosen you- it's for life.

[@reneesimmons1890]

It’s so devastating when people just get rid of pets! They have hearts, they know!

[@bestbudsourchannel4807]

@@GardenerEarthGuy & @ Renee Simmons TRUTH!!!

[@elizabetha8565]

What's the point of the comment when they already did.

[@jillt.3195]

@@elizabetha8565 Maybe they will read it and reflect on their actions. Or maybe it will give someone a new perspective on not treating pets as things but as important members of a family. At any rate, one can only hope. :)

[@happycamper3561]

So she married a compulsive liar who can’t manage the care of a single cat and is surprised that there are marital problems?

[@KayleeBee7]

Could you do a deep dive into the new Netlfix movie Luckiest Girl Alive?

[@maryanndelatorre5492]

get rid of a cat???? 🙄how nice

[@traceymap]

So basic

[@murderofcrows7738]

I’m surprised Dr John didn’t point out that the man may not want to have sex with her because she’s become his mom. If he isn’t getting more info from these callers behind the scenes beforehand, then he certainly seems to assume a lot. When a man calls he needs to love his wife more because she’s clearly hurting if she’s not her best. A woman calls and it’s immediately he’s a child, is he cheating and the woman needs to think about leaving.

[@bonjoursophie]

There's a time and place for playing devil's advocate. This case isn't one of them IMO. 3 years, NO SEX? Something is extremely wrong, esp given HIS history of being a pathological liar.

[@l-train7876]

Kelly gets their background info before they go on the air.

[@murderofcrows7738]

Dr D never plays devil’s advocate though unless it’s a male caller.