How to Stop a Pushy Person

Aired Nov 12, 2012 Studio 5

[@jaclynh9343]

I find people who are pushy do not really value feelings, they will still try to manipulate...

[@karakol86]

Jaclyn H they have poor boundaries and don’t respect other people.

[@saricomey889]

Exactly

[@goodgrief888]

SO TRUE! And I don’t get into those kind of personal conversations with people I don’t respect. I’ll flat out use an excuse, and don’t care how flimsy it is. And if they don’t accept it, we’ll they’re psycho, so who cares?

[@rik-keymusic160]

They often didn’t learn it properly because of bad rolmodels…. Who also didn’t learn it…

[@sueannnatter5295]

​@@rik-keymusic160very true

[@BratBustersParenting]

If someone tries to push me I say, "Boy, you don't take no for an answer do you? You'll have to work on that." Usually renders them speechless and they move on to someone else to try to push around.

[@karakol86]

Using this on Monday! I have a negative coworker who is always trying to have me to do his work so he can put his name on it.

[@jamesecutler5230]

Damn, I can’t wait to use that!

[@frankdrebin7949]

"No is just a soon to be yes, but if you want to teach me what no means, maybe we can have a private lesson?" Wouldn't work :/

[@jade-br1xx]

Yes! that's a really good response.

[@Notme811_you]

I told a person that and she said “you need it”

[@matthewmartin8386]

I'm not terribly concerned about not hurting the feelings of a pushy person for the simple reason they're not concerned about mine as demonstrated by their behavior.

[@emunahshalomselah5124]

Pushy people don't care about your feelings.

[@jacquelinemanzano9328]

Never make excuses to a pushy person, period! I just love those people who say; "I hope you don't mind my asking" OR "Do you mind if I ask you".... My response is; Of course not, as long as you don't mind if I don't answer. I take my right to privacy very seriously, and you should do the same. I'm glad I ran into you, have a great day!!!! .................Pushy people deserve nothing less. Simply put, you have to teach them how to respect your boundaries.

[@athleticamee6485]

Excellent! An acquaintance taught me to say(to rude or intrusive questions) “You’ll have to forgive me for not answering and I’ll forgive you for asking.”

[@jacquelinemanzano9328]

@@athleticamee6485 I .love that response, its polite and to the point.

[@werock9]

You guy think these people dont know what they're doing you're being too nice

[@SKOLAH]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@mandolaa4855]

Exactly!!

[@michaelking4578]

Pushy people are numb to the normal boundaries. I have a pushy person that I know and when they ask me if I will do this or that I just don't text them back or call them back until much later and when I do it is always very short and non apologetic. Pushiness stops working and the pushy folk will stop trying because they are Machiavellians and they stop doing things that don't accomplish their goal.

[@carolinekori1891]

Wao.....this is deep

[@wisepersonsay3142]

The best tactic is to avoid. If avoidance is not possible, speak directly and say no. It always works not only with pushy people, but also practically everyone.

[@sunnysun9982]

L. A. McDonough hhhhhhh.ironic. Pushy people don't have "Pushy " printed on their faces. That's why we are bothered by them later.

[@valeriew4833]

@L. A. McDonough so avoiding pushy people makes you a recluse 😂😌

[@raew5263]

Yes! Silence is a great weapon + defuses them pretty quickly. They only call when they need a favor + turn on the charm. 😜

[@hinachow1]

I tell them, " no is a complete answer".

[@LouisaWatt]

“Don’t let the most jacked-up person lead.” Ooooh! Words to live by.

[@jazminerenee4077]

Thank you! I’m 28 and I’m learning to set boundaries and not feel bad about it!

[@SKOLAH]

💖👏

[@brg2743]

Never feel guilty about setting boundaries. You have every right to do that. Keep telling them until they understand English. No means no. Little children understand that, and so should adults.

[@Natashahoneypot]

Get a friend to answer the phone, and get the friend can say, "they are busy." Treat this friend nice.

[@YAYGOME]

This is incredible helpful. I had someone being very rude and pushy to me. I applied these ideas and it instantly resolved the problem. Fantastic video! I even forwarded it on to a few friends who have issues with the same pushy person.

[@graleh]

I don't like talking about feelings with a pushy person. If I say "I dont feel like it" they usually question why and try to make me change feelings too. Say things like "why, you did XYZ last weekend, cant you do this now?" etc etc. Usually opens up hell.

[@evka24]

Just repeat short reply. No I am not interested. Etc.

[@emiliaescobar7652]

I agree!

[@eanymeanyminymo]

No means no

[@ashleykindheartministries]

This is so good!!! I live in a country where the majority of people are pushy people.🇮🇳❤️

[@shibaanimegameedits2961]

It’s true, logic doesn’t never work, use your feeling and keep it vague, never explain why you feel a certain way.

[@evka24]

True more u explain more it feels like open door invite to poke in it

[@brg2743]

Narcissists do not care about your boundaries and will challenge them constantly. Hold your ground. This guy is right. Push back with kindness. If it is received it is easier to keep working through situations. If you start getting screamed at, hold the boundary and grey rock them. They need to respect you PERIOD. If they don't, they won't change. Still stand firm. Court system can take care of serious issues.

[@msliberated3899]

@@evka24 for real! Just say no

[@msliberated3899]

@@evka24 and like the Bible says let your yes be yes or your no be no!

[@labradorableretriever4490]

Yes, and if you try to use feeling some of them are wolf under sheep‘s clothing, and will try and use your feelings against you and gaslight you so on and so forth

[@EllyKallan]

Push back until they cry because they are so angry because you don't give in😂😂😂

[@BridiesMammaG]

My default when pushed is always to say no!! I am in the process of stating this to my current bo!! I have had to repeat over and over that he is not welcome to hang around when I am working..I was met with pouting, passive aggression, attempted emotional blackmail. I literally just said.."No, we don't do that here! We don't use manipulation to get what we want"

[@SKOLAH]

People who bulldoze are not thinking of our feelings, are they? Why should their feelings come before ours if they are hurting us? Just saying.

[@brg2743]

This is an OUTSTANDING video! I just won't tolerate pushy people anymore. I am compassionate with them, but when my boundaries don't matter to you, you will be called out about it. Little children can understand that and so can adult bullies. Some of them understand lawyers better.

[@emiliaescobar7652]

So True

[@battlevain]

Pushy people never change. They have to be avoided.

[@marialinda2011]

He's describing "pushy" being the narcissist and "squishy" being the empath! ;-) I don't mind it, softer words to use instead of these or toxic. I'm a squishy who doesn't like pushy lol

[@mimishkaz]

Well, I think we have to be careful with this, because not everyone who is pushy is a narcissist, but every narcissist is pushy. Moreover, there are empaths who have mastered the balance between strong boundaries and being "squishy".

[@SKOLAH]

Not all pushy people are narcs.

[@goldensprite3373]

Pushy people like to control. The want to control comes out of fear. I think largely that you can't control another person and their reaction, only your own even if the other person is the pushy one.

[@raew5263]

So true. My pushy person is living large + must be fearful of losing it all. It’s hard to deal w/a pushy person. Bossy pants 😜

[@jammyjay917]

Yes so right, I have a pushy sister in law, hubby's sister, she thinks when she clicks her fingers, we should do what she says. Once or twice now, I have said to her not this weekend as we want to spend quiet time to ourselves as we have had a busy week with our work and our teenagers. Don't think she liked it, but too bad....she only has to think about herself.... She just doesn't get it! I like the fact that we can be strong and nice... Definitely. Best not to get too involved with a pushy person, as I know that when we do meet her for coffee, she talks non stop about herself, unbelievable....I absolutely can't tolerate these people. I'm learning to stand up for myself more now.

[@c.f.h.]

Im pretty good with handling pushy people, but it's the elderly I'm a bit softer with. 😅 I told an older lady that I'm an introvert and don't like to talk on the phone a lot. Yet, and STILL she calls and lets my phone ring over 6 times. I dont answer because I'm setting boundaries. My husband gave her my number by the way. It was no emergency when she called. She just wanted to talk. Some can be very manipulating, but I still stand my ground its just harder because I don't wanna come across harsh, but this is such good teaching. One thing I disagree with is not to ignore them. There are SOME people we do need to avoid. This is biblical. Thanks for sharing ❤

[@goodgrief888]

If you give an excuse that’s a lie they can catch you out on it. But on the flip side, who cares at a certain point? You don’t owe a pushy person a heart to heart talk. I save heart to heart talks for people I truly want to continue having in my life, or who I think are redeemable.

[@chineseslaves1971]

I don’t care for pushy, nervy people. They cross your boundaries, ungrateful for how they are already benefitting from you..,they want too much and only think about what they want for themselves. Some of them think just because they know you they are entitled to live with you! They want that because they spent all of their money on themselves only while I did without and did a ton more work to be well positioned. I feel I have to protect myself, so last time I willed everything to family to ensure someone grateful will enjoy and retain a beautiful area. Driving through Simi Valley, MoorPark, Camarillo, through hills and fields I made my decision. My sister loves socal, so she gets that but her son ultimately does. The nephew preferred the paid off house so he gets that.

[@benjamintafari7047]

When you stop smoking and drinking and someone keeps trying to get you to go back to that lifestyle, instead of respecting you decision for a healthier life.

[@angelacasein7059]

As a female I feel like a lot of men act pushy with random women they just meet. It can be a little too aggressive with some guys they should figure out how to read women Better

[@mandolaa4855]

I'm currently living in my grandmother's house and she and her daughter (my aunt) are so nosy that when i go out my grandmother goes out to the balcony to see where I'm going and my aunt when i take down the stairs she opens the door and she's asking me "are u going for a walk?" Literally, they don't have life. They are so nosy and clingy, needy people. I'm sick off them. I feel like the have antennas. I feel their eyes on me constantly!

[@curtistinemiller1560]

If they are so pushy why care about thier feelings.Just say No i dont want to.....

[@sunnysun9982]

Curtistine Miller well...pushy people can ignore me saying no to them...which is why I search pushy people on KZbin

[@curtistinemiller1560]

@@sunnysun9982 You research them?.LOL

[@karakol86]

That is what my strategy is right now because sharing feelings doesn’t work.

[@goddessvibes08]

@@karakol86 sharing feelings to such people makes them think you still care enough to explain and they are so desperate for attention, they will take rejection as attention too.

[@jamesecutler5230]

That’s the point I’m at too. I don’t even really care if it makes me look like a jerk. Playing nice and being subtle has not worked with my pushy person.

[@blkchicago]

Say NO , then hang up the phone THAT'S IT THAT'S ALL..... that's how I handle that

[@ericawitherspoon9161]

But my pushy person calls back!

[@steveguitarman1488]

Well, if you're pushy person keeps calling back. Try telling them to f*"k off loud and clear. Sounds harsh? Maybe they'll get the message. Sometimes you just have to shock them.

[@harleypage5789]

They don't take hints

[@florencia2771]

I think the pretend they didn’t understand, I just block them.

[@Butterflygirl327]

I think pushy people are either selfish or they are just looking for brownie points from their boss which is why they won’t take no for an answer.

[@justynak3867]

When I tried saying expressing how I feel about something they called me argumentative (it wasn't a heated argument at all and they shut me down by hanging up on me). Then I didn't want to talk with them much because of my own issues and because of their behaviors. I wouldn't answer their calls. As of now they called 35 times without me answering once. I am beginning to feel afraid. And angry. In the past when I said I don't like their behaviors they threatened to not be my friend, but then kept calling. I feel squishy. But what do I do? I don't even want to talk to them as they're so pushy I resent that. I feel cornered. I also expressed that I will call them back or I don't feel well (which was true) but they keep calling me. How do I say it in a more strong fashion? And they do have a tough shell. Its so tough I feel afraid of them.

[@ritushukla9284]

Thanks Alot. Love you guys.

[@heidiw3615]

Watching this because someone is pushing me to do something really hard right now

[@hannahwang1818]

I hope everything is alright! How did it go?

[@BridiesMammaG]

Hope you said No!!

[@mymoonams]

I’m a custodian abs the new custodian told me, do me a favor, before you leave tonight, wash the men and women bathrooms because you close, I’m opening. Hahahahaha. Of course I didn’t.

[@gayanngodfrey2824]

Tell them you think about it

[@carolbell8008]

That was great ! You can’t argue Feelings. A+

[@lrowerowe7207]

Some pushy people don't care about your feelings so why should you spare their ,I am dealing with a pushy Intrusive and overbearing family friend, I kindly told to back off but don't seem to understand, they don't value my personal space, they are very touchy feely I have told them on my occasions that them touching and feeling on makes me uncomfortable yet they keep touching and feeling on me.

[@jdaniels109]

Trouble is when you say I m not comfortable with that they then persist x

[@loissemanek1715]

I don't care if I hurt their feelings anymore

[@lynncraig6151]

But what if you're a single woman .You can easily say to be more aggressive to them or push back ....you are a big strong looking man. I'm not .How do you know how stable they are ? They can retaliate. A serial killer here only went off the deep end , when the women he approached stood their ground and responded in the same aggressive way he was acting. A 89 year old woman 100 lbs and 4'10" tall was followed home from her job and tortured and killed .He was found at a traffic stop with her decomposing body in the trunk of his car. She had about a week eariler earlier, at her store , confronted him looking up her dress while she was on a ladder. He was asked to leave the store. But he came back and killed her. How do you know if you have a nut job living a double life? Being a husky guy....I'm sure you can say "No" easily with a smile on your face without repercussions. If you are a passive Intervert by nature you just need to avoid these bullying ,crazy people.

[@valeriew4833]

I hear kav magra (spelling?) is an effective self defense fighting style for men AND women, would you ever be interested in taking a class? Also, depending on your state laws, it might be totally legal for you to carry knives, I carry a knife just in case a mf tries to victimize me I'll cut his fkn face off and ask questions later

[@valeriew4833]

There's a channel called active stupid protection it's a great channel where they analyze public attacks and how people handled it

[@e.theresebradley5966]

lynn craig This is true

[@tc3533]

❤👍

[@msiuhong]

Thank you for the great tips!

[@karensmith6709]

While I understand why he feels this is a good approach, I feel this is a oversimplification of the situation based on BLAMING another person for something YOU find uncomfortable. Just because you don’t want to do something that someone else recommends doesn’t mean they are trying to force you into it - it means they believe this is something that would be of benefit to you. To say that “pushy people don’t have feelings”. - really? This would mean that anyone who feels strongly about their point must be a psychopath! As an example: what if I was talking to a friend about how much I enjoyed an annual festival, and said I’d love to spend more time there next year, share a hotel with someone to keep costs down and make a nice weekend of it instead of just an afternoon. That friend says “that sounds terrific, I’d like to join you for the next one. What would it cost?” So we work out the details, and agree I will make all the arrangements and touch base with them closer to the event to decide who’s driving, when to leave, etc. I go ahead and book everything as agreed and send them an email confirming everything, call them to say I’ve sent the email, they say “yeah, I’ll look it over when I have time, I’m really busy right now.” When I call them to arrange to final details, they say - AS THIS FELLOW RECOMMENDS - “I just don’t feel like it. I feel like I should just stay home this weekend.” So I’m out all this time and money, there’s no way to cancel or recover my money at this point, and yet I did everything as agreed. When I express my astonishment and anger at them changing their mind like this, I’m told “I never said for sure I’d do it. I just don’t want to go with you. Stop being so pushy!” So apparently I’M the pushy person, and my feelings shouldn’t be hurt, even though now this so-called friend is telling everyone how pushy I am? Don’t get me wrong, I’m better off knowing what type of childish manipulator I’m dealing with, but now it’s cost me hundreds of dollars to learn this lesson, plus our mutual friends now view ME as the selfish person, as the version they get is “_____ tried to get me to pay for some trip I never agreed to go on.” But according to Matt Townsend, that person has NO requirement to be polite, considerate or even ACCURATE because I’ve been labeled as pushy, therefore I’m clearly an evil person undeserving of even good manners. And for the record, pushy people get things done. Do you think that without some ambitious person taking action, factories would be built, contracts signed, cars and houses and life insurance policies would be sold, people would go on first dates, your child would get his first job? And yet society would grind to a halt if theses things stopped happening. Stop blaming other people for forcing you to face things that make you uncomfortable - comfortable people expect their problems to effortlessly disappear. If you told someone you were interested in something and then act like you’d NEVER said that, what does that make you? Face up to it, take responsibility for your share of the conversation, and apologize for misleading the other person and wasting their time. And then you could ask “why do you think it’s so important that I do as you suggest?” You might be surprised to learn that they do indeed have your best interests at heart.

[@Sirchingsince]

I also disagree that pushy people don't have feelings. Many mean well. That being said, everyone has the right to decide what's best for them. Pushy people not only recommend, they badger. The most effective salespeople persuade the potential buyer on the value of the product or service; not strong arm them. Your friend was dishonest,flaky, and manipulative. The squishy person finds themselves in these uncomfortable situations because they've allowed themselves to be worn down in the past, and they don't like it.

[@Johnadams20760]

dam, this sounds sort of simllar to soemthing i just went through. although they didn't push me for the event. also, the issue i have is the pushy person lives right across the street and a couple houses down. i guess i had noticed them being slightly pushy, mainlyover texts. but i come to realize now even in other things , in a maniplitive way too. seems to be about control. it has to be. but i had an opporunity to get 110 dollar tickets. 2 of them to a football game. my family's cowoerker was a graduate of the univeristy here and they live far away. but i had to pay . and i had 7 weeks notice before this game. and i told my in law that i woul dlet him know once i have somoene that will go and will pay. and it took a few people. i realized this new so called charming friend loved the college. owns his own business, seemingly has money, seeminly honest. etc.. so i aske dhim , told him it is in 6 weeks and that i won't get these tickets unless i have confrumation somoene is going with me and they can afford it. he said to give him a day , he needed to talk about it persumably with his spouse an dmaybe check his schedule. he confiremd. i kept in tough with him and he kept sounding postiive and coulnd't wait to go for 6 weeks. than the week before once we find out it is a night game, and being november up north. he was hemming/hawing about how cold it was going to be. he has a side job he does once per week on a week day night but never mentiond saturdays. there is one honliday per year they make it mandaotry for the bype of business it is. which he just worked 6 days prior. . he then suddenly mentions how sometimes they work saturdays. almost never. the chances are slim to none, it has been a few years since he has. but he would have his scehdule tuesday. i see him wednesday night sand say 'i guess they ddni't scheudle you on saturday did they" he saidd. uh no. so this is 3 days before the game. thursday afternoon he texs me that he is being forced to work and said he starts at 11, i told him he needs to tell them he can't go and explained to him all the above as for why. he owns his own busienss and doens't even need this job. he said it was mandatory becasue the corporate peole were coming in, and everyone had to work. but he was wroking thurday and sad he would talk to his boss to see if he can do something , even jsut get out 2 hours early. so i see him that night for a few after. he says the boss couldn't tell him and would call coproate in the monrining an dthen he would know if he can get out of it. i asked when that is. he said 10 am. and he would know no later than 11 and let me nkow. i call him at 1120 asking. well? he siad, he cant' get out o fit. he claims it was quality control type things. i don't buy it for a second. . anyway, that is one major issue i had with him to realize what kind of person this is. put in the past few months bascially he mainly wants me over to wlak with him. i perfer running. but i usually get it in. howeve riwth shorter an doclder days it is harder to do. and he never knows when to quit. i will tell him i am out. or with a friend. i will say i don't know when i am coming home, and likely late. and he becomes very pushy about it. every time. and something I do during the summer. he knows i am out ALL DAY EVERY WEEKEND> yet he continuously asked every week 5 times when i am coming home. i said I am not. and ealrier this week i tried just avoiding him didn't even answer. the other day i didn't and he got even pushier to the point where even though i venver answerd all day just state d he will be at my house at a certain time he figurd i would be at home. i waitd an hour and said "i am not going to be home. i have things i have to get done. be in and out for a few hours. he than said he will watch for me to get home and be ready. my blood pressure probably went to 180 at this point, and i texted back something aobout i have to do this this and that and just won't have time plus it is goingto rain tonight" he asys well jsut let me know when you are home. i said finally "i am not walking tonight" he siad oh ok. also 2 times this week he literally texted me asking me if we were still on at xyz time tonight. in these 2 times we never previously discussed a time. and one time the otherweek he texted me "i see you running" and the time stamp was close to thetime i ran by the house. and i told him i would not be ready til 630, he assumed likely iwas not going to be home from work til than but i knew already i was going to to run. probalby jealous of my running . not sure. but this is getting f****G insane. i think he is a master maniplaotr and not sure if he is phyco or not. and he lives right there and is outside infront of his house often.

[@Jen-b-real]

You really are a pushy person. Your oblivious to hints😂

[@lillymedesto]

Such great tips! I can apply these concepts immediately!

[@CatHartland]

love this guy's charmisma

[@devinentity]

Oh my gosh I'm dealing with this in my life. My sister in law is pushy and I'm squishy. Lol. She is loud aggressive and tells everyone what to do. I think she intimidates me in a way. She came to my house and cooked Thanksgiving. That is how squishy I am. I told my husband I dont want to cook and she offered. I got upset and he allowed and so did I. I didnt help her 1 time and she had a attitude. This was helpful. I like this guy.

[@palomahealing5073]

I'm going to be rooming with a good friend soon and she tends to tell me what to do, or why I shouldn't be doing at every turn?

[@smokingcrab2290]

Now imagine that pushy person is your wife. And she won't stop.

[@VarunPrasadoneplusone]

Great video

[@brutefitness7828]

i have a friend who always push me to listen to those gospel messages that sometimes i felt being pressured.

[@brutefitness7828]

i have a pushy friend. its tiring to deal with them

[@florencia2771]

You don’t deal w them, you just leave them.

[@Jen-b-real]

These people refuse to take a hint. BEHAVIOR is a language, if I'am hemming and hawing the answer is no

[@hopeinparis]

If you don't want to do what the pushy person is trying to get you to do, saying "no" is the FIRST thing you should say. You don't owe them an explanation. "No" is a complete sentence. If you want to be "nice" you could say, "No, thank you." You can be honest and diplomatic by saying "I don't have time" rather than give an explanation, which is likely not to satisfy the pushy person, who is deluded that both you and s/he will be "happy" if you just "do" what they want. Not having enough time is always true if you don't want to do something. You don't have time to do someone else's bidding or jump through their hoops.

[@colleenthecatlady2344]

Honest & nice are noy always compatible!!!

[@valeriew4833]

Nice used to mean *stupid*

[@yourregularspontie8587]

because i think before i talk and i am a considerate person, ive had some annoying pushy people, i bored totally bored and im not talking to them, because if someone bores me i dont like talking to them

[@tigressitablanka]

This vidéo is amazing. Thank you!

[@fairwhether1]

But when I say I just don't feel like it, then the question is why. Then the badgering about why starts. It's maddening.

[@SKOLAH]

Say 'I don't have to explain my feelings to you. My answer is no. Respect me by accepting that'. If they keep at you, they're not respecting you.

[@evka24]

Just repeat. And repeat. I just don’t feel like it. Don’t open other reason.

[@manofsteelgoodmanll.2512]

I do with pushy people at times,most times I'd try to avoid arguments with others cause it'll solve nothing but only create more an more problems....if you are ignorant i'mma call you out on your bullshit although some aggressive and verbal debates can make a arguments stronger cause you'll start standing up for yourself...I would be careful to not hurt their feelings....that's also unacceptable to be perceived to be rude enough to think they're 10 times smarter then you or Greater you,but if you keep forcing it and forcing yourself to trigger me then I'll snap out I'll say things you ain't gonna like hearing.....if I'm being nice then you'd better respect me or we'll have problems. I'd say like I am not always out to start trouble like others accuse me of I'm not subjected to ignorance or drama that's not my intention on being a jackals just because. My thing is if your a rude person I'm walking away from you cause I won't let no body take me outta character and think I'm gonna put with that,and let that break my inner peace, I've been through way too much hell then to let some fools come in and raise more hell on me.

[@acy9089]

I feel like. ‘No’ is a complete sentence. 🎉

[@rbkrishnasarma]

Just distance yourself and avoid them. They are not worth it

[@artsylady1747]

This is awesome, this is what I needed. I have an annoying coworker lol

[@jenniferpoland8886]

My aunt is like this. I need to really tell her how I feel. I need her help and she knows this. So how do I tell her that I don't want to do things without not making her mad??

[@cdorothy444]

Read 48 laws of power. Don’t depend on others. It gives away your power

[@mariafergadi-giannakopoulo6260]

I need some advice. I can not avoid a pushy person in my church but I need to be in church desperataly. I don't want to loose this church.

[@jade-br1xx]

When they push you to do something you don't want to do or you are unsure about say "I'll have to pray about it. I like to include God in all my decisions" In fact, you could do this with all people, not just church people. Then pray, see what God wants. If you can't seem to get a direct answer... weigh it out logically yourself, and if it's not something you feel you need to do for your spiritual growth, that is probably your answer from God, even just a negative feeling about it would be enough of a sign for me. Then tell them you don't think that it's is in God's will for you to do it., or that this thing will not help you grow spiritually. You know, use your own words and stuff but be firm.

[@hanginlaundry360]

What about an evangelical who constantly bible bashes and rants at gatherings who is convinced and even declares she must speak "the truth." I have moved away from this thinking and find myself dreading gatherings because she starts proselytizing, which has the opposite effect on my siblings who find her crazy. She's a nice person otherwise, but makes these angry proclamations. Whatever happened to pleasant small talk and not bringing religion and politics to the table?

[@mariafergadi-giannakopoulo6260]

@@jade-br1xx Thanks a lot ,I ll' put that in practice.

[@jade-br1xx]

@@mariafergadi-giannakopoulo6260 You are very welcome Maria.

[@Dream_Dreamlit]

When someone is being pushy I tell them to fuck off. Always works and I get blessing of peace and my personal space is free again.

[@tjj5337]

How do you deal with a pushy dentist who upsells unnecessary dental work ?

[@Cutlerypotato]

Ask if you can sleep with their spouse

[@alphamail8974]

Ask if you can sleep with their spouse, AND look for another in-network dentist 😂

[@MasterBlek]

"Well I don't like your kids"... This is what the pushy person says right? Also saying that "pushy people don't have hearts" is very strange cause I wonder what the toxic people have in them? How about the toxic parents or the toxic friends who always judge and treat you like trash? Aren't they the heartless ones? Nowadays people like to call everybody "pushy" but being self-important and thinking how great you are doesn't make you a "good person" but a complete jackass. It is easy to be spoiled and to treat others in a bad way but getting in their shoes would be something impossible for those who prefer to have only butterflies around them. Sorry but I just don't believe that those people on the video are "friendly" since they talk about being "heartless". Imagine a group of bullies who treated someone in a very harsh way but he only wanted friends and nothing more... Was this person "pushy"? Was he the heartless monster who was making sure to make everybody uncomfortable or were the bullies who were making fun of him and trying to destroy him completely? Sure learn to say "no" but don't call people "heartless" or make them look like some "monsters" because you are being the predator in this toxic game of yours. Judging others like they are "criminals" is not a normal human behavior. You all know who Pogo The Clown was after all so you should be aware what "heartless" means. Too bad that nobody was judging Pogo and even made him "Man of The Year".

[@mattkugler8068]

Why is avoiding them dysfunctional?

[@ml8668]

Matt Kugler i think it’s because they are the annoying one so they should be going away from the relationship by nicely showing them you dislike them

[@ashleyrose5170]

The use of the word period tho!!

[@Kat-fw5jo]

What if a pushy person is your manager or someone above you? You still want to be nice...

[@thatomalebo5338]

I’ve seen it, strong and nice doesn’t work sometimes.

[@athenagilbert-mcdaniels3775]

I say my feelings “I feel like my families time is not being valued” my pushy in law reacts by I’m twisting their words 🤔😒

[@nicolelovesjesusgod7673]

Ugh! I don’t want to face pushy face to Face ! Anxiety city !

[@ashleychepkorir6781]

I didn't know l was pushy until today! When a friend said no and l kept on asking,why not...just tell me! Thinking it's okay if l continue asking he'd give in and answers,he literally asked me "Must you always have your way?

[@heyyyyy1111]

What the hell whyd he snap at her ar the beginning that was weird

[@lilabukvic4216]

My mother did that whole my life. Im completely exosted😢 There is no differnence today Im 55. She still do same. Problem is that I push back. So bad circle is there whole time.

[@codysray2616]

I call this stage of my life LEAVE ME THE _UCK ALONE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@onelife7247]

Many a true thing said in jest. A pushy woman or man / in legal terms; a controlling and coercive perpetrator has an ego where their heart should be and possibly a loaf of bread in place of their brain. They are not concerned with whether the recipient of their online harassment has suffered any psychological trauma as a result of the her/his course of conduct. Additionally, informed consent is probably not a part of their lexicon.

[@sergeantpug3383]

or you could just learn how to say no

[@mariarusso826]

What if they work for you.

[@jade-br1xx]

That's a hard one. Maybe just be honest and tell them they are crossing boundaries and need to stay in their lane?

[@Peausel]

This is somewhat helpful, but also not. My pushy person is my MIL. She's a bit of a dictator. It comes from a good place, but I'm an adult and she tells me what to wear and insists things are always done her way. It doesn't matter if you tell her how you feel. She'll cry and manipulate until you relent.

[@alphamail8974]

You have to let her cry, scream, throw a tantrum. Do NOT let up. Start with small things and set little boundaries. She has to learn that her tantrums don't work on you anymore. Hopefully your spouse will back you up instead of defending her poor behavior...

[@cdorothy444]

You envision a Mcgonagall Stare😂that’s how I do it

[@justynak3867]

One pushy person called me 35 times in a row when I didn't answer. I feel unsafe and angry and I rarely get angry. I tried telling them no or I will call you back. Nothing works.

[@onlyallegra]

That sounds like either they have a mental illness, some sort of neurological/learning disorder, or something they are hiding from others and maybe even themselves. Neither of the reason are things to take lightly. Whether this person is clueless or not, you shouldn't have to put up with it. I would personally ask them why they felt it was okay to do that, and depending on their answer I would get friends or someone else involved to help you find a safe way to handle it. I once dated a guy that asked me to be his Valentine in college. I was aqaintanes with him and naively thought I could develope feelings for him. He knew I had to go to a concert and how long I would be. I was a music major and attending a variety of concerts I was not personally in was a requirement to pass every semester before graduating. He called me seven times in an hour and left multiple voicemails. I spent time with him in a practice room earlier and when he tried to kiss me, he missed me mouth the first time. We were almost the exact same height. I talked about it with my friends, and they said he was probably just nervous and really excited to see me next. So, I let it slide a day. He was not the studious type. If I was not contagious and just threw up for some reason, I would brush my teeth and rush to class feeling like crap. I was not doing well in Music History. Even people with 4.0 GPA's couldn't get an a in this class. I had a test to study for and needed to study in the library alone for a few hours, they guy called me and we had a fight over him wanting to be with me. I needed to study alone and was already nervous that he told the entire golf team I was his girlfriend the morning we had lunch together. In hindsight, I think he never had a girlfriend before and I was his trophy girl. After spending the night talking with all the girls on my floor about him, I decided to dump him the day before Valentine's Day and tell him I wanted space permanently. Then, I blocked him on Facebook. He honestly would have turned into a stalker if I hadn't broke it off completely and made it clear I didn't want to talk anymore. If the person bugging you like that is of the opposite sex, I would start letting friends and family know about your situation in case it could become something that jeapordizes your safety.

[@brg2743]

Block them out. If is a landline just keep phome beside you, shut it off everytime the call comes in. Sooner or later they will move on.

[@sweettoothmarie7304]

Who says they have a heart? 😁😂 that part!

[@ozzyoz5210]

I just don't feel like it! That's what my abusive husband used to say to me and his mother after his mother demanded to know why he does the things he does to her! I guess he was married to her too

[@pilarq7886]

So when a new poor neighbor sees me carrying my shopping bags n says "you went shopping again? you must have a lot of stuff in your apt" should i say i feel like it doesnt matter . .i feel like its my hard earned money . .or i work hard for my stuff dont i ? . No wonder she offerred to help unload my car and asked THREE times to bring IT INSIDE my apt ! My bad for accepting her manipulative help. i dont want to piss her off bcuz this poor neighbor grew up with my immediate next door neighbor who i dont care for either. I just recently moved in. Dont want to make enemies. Recently i was going lunch she asked on sidewalk if i was going to work? I think i'll just laugh n say, im just going ! Any suggestions.

[@mrs8792]

Just say no!

[@paulcooper5748]

Brooke is beutiful.

[@heyyyyy1111]

And then he hates the act like a lady statement was right about the sexist dbag vibes

[@Roosiasnineninenine]

show them their family on livegore

[@dJ.kNiGhT23]

I detest pushy people I don't like when someone pushes me to do something I don't like let people be themselves and feel comfortable. My mom's friend she's so damn pushy stop being pushy people so annoying yesterday my mom's friend took me to get my driver's license but Jesus Christ she talked all the way to the driver's license facility all she do is talk about her family I mean I get it all you do is talk about them they don't even like her her own family don't like her because of the way she acts pushy and ignorant

[@heyyyyy1111]

The first few times he said squishy it was funny it became creepy. Why are they ganging up on her her.

[@Kat-yk8sf]

Pushy people didn’t learn communication skills. A coach who advises to be agressive didn’t learn them either! Then you end up with 2 obnoxious ppl! expert!!!! Yeah, joke

[@labradorableretriever4490]

Seniors children, empathetic people and people with disabilities are very easy targets for control freaks. I will say the one benefit from having a disability since birth was growing a backbone and having someone like my dad who gets to the point when somebody is trying to discriminate in regards of education and accommodations. Remember that when I was in high school and Sorry not sorry as far as rubbing pussy people the wrong way no means no and if you didn’t learned in kindergarten it’s your problem not mine. Don’t tell me you can do this, but under certain circumstances. I think my mother-in-law‘s fear is if she went blind tomorrow should be like a dog trying to chase and catch her own tail. Of course she can’t do it doesn’t mean I can’t do it. It’s simply because she has no reason for Mobility and orientation, but should something like an eye condition. Happen to her since she’s a senior, she can be trained and she can do it but I’m sure that’s going to be a hell of an obstacle because she’s a control freak and then oh no should be more out of control when it comes to her life. A friend mentioned you put your foot down more than your husband. I said well think about it this way because this is another friend of mine who is blind I said, how often do we need to advocate for ourselves because of discrimination? We are used to proving people wrong, and we have enough confidence in our skills and we know ourselves well enough as to what we can and cannot do. She’ll pull her you can’t, and when I ask her why or what Proof do you have? No answer. Probably feels embarrassed and upset. Or a little stupid argument and making a big scene in a parking lot near a pharmacy all because she had to walk in extra 200 m. First of all she did not have to she chose to, and I told her that. Mind you if somebody’s sick, she has it worse. My father-in-law and I were the only ones with legitimate sore throats where we could barely talk. Ever have those nightmares you’re yelling for help but you can’t Get it out because there’s no noise coming out of your mouth? Yeah, just like that. It was raining I didn’t have a guide dog at the time anymore so I need to focus on listening to traffic because it’s more difficult to do when it’s raining. I have some eyesight, but it’s not good enough to fake being somebody with complete eyesight. But when she’s yelling and screaming, and I’m trying to focus on vehicles coming in and out of the parking lot, the anxiety and the cortisol went up. She’s triggered enough of my seizures. She thinks she’s the only one who can do some thing. Father-in-law is the only one who can really keep her in line. No physical abuse know when he kind of abuse raises his voice and just tells her to cut it out and she shuts up. Poor guy is deteriorating though. I get the feeling unfortunately he’ll be the one to go first. Always happens to the good ones. Lol sorry for the dictation mistake Pushy

[@charleneterrell]

They all want a peice of my business. I will repon the offer the O again, but the answer is no to all others. O and Roseland will be presented with a offer.

[@quirogan]

Wtf?!

[@faithsham563]

What about if I share this video to a pushy person ? Will that be enough for her to get it.

[@danielhart7435]

How about the human race goes extinct

[@bertbrowm4488]

No a pushy ppl are selfish...I needed surgery and she tried to convince me not have surgery so she can go on holiday and I can go with her cheeky cow.

[@Roosiasnineninenine]

these cops spend so much effort, time and money to achieve so little. My dude is not taking off his music playlist. Its never going to happen. keep crying

[@monicasmadhouse9278]

pushy people move stagnant uninspired people pushy people are problem solvers, organizers, laundry lists of to do,, leaders

[@ughs761]

Pushy person spotted.

[@fredgullett6060]

I've had people not get mad, even after I tell them something awful.