How To Stop Being Angry With Your Partner? Letting Go Of Resentment, Anger & Emotional Reactivity

[@kelseycoca]

"is that something you really want to do?" this is a really good question when considering couple's therapy to address past issues. I dated my partner off and on for years, I hurt him a lot when I was younger, immature, and didn't have the tools I needed for a long lasting relationship. by the time we got to couple's therapy I had been making a lot of effort but things had turned sideways for him bc he held he'd put enough effort into the relationship up until that point. he said something like "no, I plan to hold a grudge against her until I die" when we were trying to work through resentments he had been holding onto, over things I barely remember. he hadn't really communicated these issues, he didn't want to work on them, he just wanted to be angry. so I let him be angry.... alone. he was treating me very poorly (he'd become abusive) by that point and didn't want to change. so yeah, holding onto resentments never leads anywhere positive but there are people who plan to do that

[@HealingWithJas]

Im so sorry to hear that!! I agree with that sentiment. Some partners want to “punish” while the other partner tolerated it bc sometimes they think it’s what they deserve. I’m happy you were able to escape that :) thanks for sharing 🙏😊

[@havilavi472]

Tru tho but im single asf so it doesn't matter 😂😢now ima go cry in the corner