HOW TO UNDERSTAND JEALOUS PARENTS | Could It Be True? | Psychotherapy Crash Course

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Jealous parents. How to recognize jealous family members can be difficult. But recognizing a parent can be worse.
Who wants to believe there is a such thing as jealous parents?
The topic of jealous parents came up between an intern and I last week. She identified pathological signs of parent-child rivalry that initially felt "unnatural" to think about.
As we discussed the behavior of this parent- a young mother with a trauma history, jealous tendencies, and a handsome fiancé - we began to question which clinical frame of reference made the most sense.
Sadly, the broken pieces of this mother were demonstrated in her jealous communication with her child - the fiancé's step-child. The dynamic was that her daughter was viewed by the fiancé as "needy," "delicate," and "in need" of a father figure. In the eyes of this mother, this "preoccupation" stole most of the attention of the fiancé and left her wondering if she was the one truly loved or her daughter.
After suggesting this intern transfer services for better parent-child interaction, it became clear that she was providing services to the wrong person. It wasn't the child who was broken but rather the mother.
In this video, I tackle the topic of unfathomable jealous parents.
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DISCUSSED IN THIS VIDEO:
intro 0:00
Jealous parents 3:00
Grandiosity
Narcissism 5:10
Fluctuating emotions 5:59
Inflexibility to maintain false self-image 7:22
Deflation 7:48
Parental alienation 8:25
Devaluation and Valuation 8:58
Vacillate between self images 9:41
Competition between parents or another important person 12:00
Blind disregard 12:44
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[@winning3329]

If you have a jealous parent then you were never loved. You can't love someone you envy. These jealous parents ruin their children.

[@simply.patsy.3946]

Both of my parents are extremely jealous of me. I don’t let them in my life.

[@marinaSassygUrl88]

She’s not just jealous- she’s extremely jealous that her envy moves through me. I hate her deeply. She was nicer to me when I was at my worst- and so fking cruel ( like she is) when I was improving. What a horrible mom.

[@jadak2313]

What did you do about it?

[@not-even-german4892]

@@jadak2313 nothing u can do.

[@stormie4074]

@@jadak2313 Escape plan. Go no contact. Only share struggles with them. Pretend to be doing horrible around them so they do not hurt you often.

[@4gma59]

Take my advice and CUT OFF ALL TIES. I had to do it and it was the healthiest decision I've ever made. They always try to draw you back in. Don't fall for it. Your mental health and that of your children is at stake -- protect it like it's priceless (because it is). I'm speaking from 60+ years of experience. Cut off ties, get the counseling you need, forgive, and move forward. And never look back. THEY DO NOT CHANGE.

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

Yes same. I just stay blah to her. I’m fine. Nothing to see here. (Grey rock). I stay away as much as I can and I keep my intel away from her and keep things shallow.

[@free2be748]

This scenario is even more confusing when the jealous parent is an accomplished, successful overachiever in their own right. This is so baffling to say the least 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes, very much agree. It is!

[@ladennayoung2939]

Learn to embrace a true, honest, pure, and loving relationship with Jesus Christ and self above all things. That is the only thing that matters.

[@CatEyedGoddess]

Most of the time this stems from the fact that in their head they are better then everyone. Their parents, siblings, uncles, aunts , neighbors the list goes on. Because you are their child, they naturally look down on you and feel you are inferior to them. You’re accomplishments trigger their insecurities, this is because they are not healed and therefore they chronically have internalized feelings of not being good enough. They need to heal from the inside out, but that requires work and self awareness. It won’t happen with Narcs.

[@simply.patsy.3946]

They are greedy and they want all the success and achievement for themself.

[@simply.patsy.3946]

Best thing you can do is be successful and show them you can too.

[@vikki8699]

I've come to realize that my mother is jealous of me. 😢 I tried on a new dress and show her, I turned around and saw in the mirror how she looked at me. It was like how a jealous teenage girl looked at another girl in school. She looked me up and down like I was dirt. I almost started crying. Since then, I've stopped going shopping with her. I've stopped doing a lot of things with her because I am recognizing the back handed comments she gives me. Its heart breaking! 😭

[@qweyjkdtjkoc743]

Same thing my mom done with me

[@AltraTara]

I’ve just unexpectedly spent a two weeks holiday with my mum and have experienced her jealousy and hate towards me. Constant back handed compliments, low key bashing me, mocking me when people would compliment, really acting like a fake friend…it really hurts coming from your own mother. I am broken.

[@Aplethoraofconvos]

I can relate. I know the feeling another thing you might want to do if you havent already is to move away from her. I recommend moving to another state. Thats what I had to do and im so grateful that I did

[@KAMILITA]

my mom is exactly like that. she is so pathetic

[@Aplethoraofconvos]

@@AltraTara I know when you first find out that your mother is a narcissist it’s kinda sad but I have come to a place of full acceptance and nothing she says no longer offends me. Now I still find her very annoying, but I have mourned the loss of the mother I wish I had versus the one that I got. I hope that makes sense and I pray that you come to a place of healing as well. Don’t allow her to break you.

[@KAMILITA]

my mother is the most insidious version of this. she is in competition with me in her head for the attention and accolades of everyone around her. but she is so covert about it that most people aren’t smart enough to detect it (she chooses people who can’t detect it and who she controls). now that i told her to leave me alone she is gossiping false nonsense to ruin my character. once i have money she will never see me again.

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

I can relate. Me also.

[@amybae4188]

Omg my mom. In high school she became 'jealous' of me losing some weight so she started working out insanely and started to buy so much junk food and encouraged me to binge eat. She would also tell other people whenever I put on weight. She was so sick. She was also jealous of my birthdays and whenever I went out so she just sabotaged that by criticizing me and putting me down, even just screaming at me telling me I am selfish for going out.... She was also jealous of all my accomplishments...and as a child I was incredibly confident and had a strong personality so she made it her life goal to abuse me to make me lose all of my self esteem and confidence, basically ruin my potential. She always did push me aside from small on

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Wow. This sounds like an evil roommate instead of a mother. In some cases the parent's intentions are misunderstood and in other cases, it is just what it is. The jealousy, as you suggest, pushes the parent to compete in ways you may not have ever thought of. I'm sorry you have had to experience this.

[@reginap942]

Wow...you just described my mother. In my case it didn't help that my father adored me.

[@shordyytee3659]

I can relate to this

[@daisypeony66]

My mom had a miserable marriage. She was stuck. She pushed me to get a college degree so I would never be in her position. She ended up being jealous of my life. My husband, my career, my life. All things she didn’t have. She is never truly happy for me, always comparing her life to mine or my decisions to hers. She was/is completely uninterested in my son who is now 21. My 2 brothers and my 3 nieces get all the attention. I have deep deep resentment.

[@nadia-bb5mn]

I am an insecure mom. When my daughter shines I feel happy for her on the one hand, but feel like I disappear on the other. I don't feel like I can be attractive when there is someone else younger and more attractive than me. When I have these feelings, feelings that make me want to either run (hide under weight or lots of ugly clothes) and disappear, or try to compete, I breath, I remind myself that I am a worthy person and that I am so happy to see my child shine, that she does not have to go through the insecurity I went through. It is so hard to make space for that, I don't know why it scares me, it is like I think I will disappear. But I let love through and I give my kid a compliment and I feel happy and scared at the same time. I will not push her down or make her smaller however threatened I feel. If I am feeling too insecure I do stuff to distract myself so I don't dwell on it. I think parents like myself have deep core wounds, but some don't seem to have any empathy. I don't want my daughter to feel the way I did. I have no clue how feeling confident feels. Sometimes I do for a minute, but it feels unreal to me. She seems happy about herself without being full of herself and thank goodness. So yeah, however bad you feel, love your kid through it, no sense having two people feeling bad. If you are tempted to do harm, do some core healing on yourself. I am, a little but at a time, feels like it will take forever, but there is no choice or I will spread the demon of insecurity to the next generation.

[@Prophezora]

You are a strong soul. ✨️

[@ennvee1989]

Please seek therapy❤

[@loveisthelaw23]

I would just like to remind you , you are the spirit looking out from your body. Not the body. You have so much value beyond the flesh. I can tell you from my own experience, when I started nurturing my spirit, the flesh became a much lesser issue. I think as women we are programmed to think our flesh equals our worth and it's so far from the truth. Once you can shed the flesh& live in spirit the world opens up to you in a new way& you will notice you don't look at the physical appearance of others that way& can just be grateful in their presence without feeling insecure about yourself. I started by doing something I didn't know I could...I stopped dying my hair & wearing makeup & flashy/ seductive clothes. I am so surprised by what that did for my mindset & how it actually has been helping women around me see we don't need to be the prettiest girl in the room or we are worthless to have great value. You sound like a loving mom who needs to love herself too. Being able to admit a problem is the first step to solving it.

[@Swankybroad]

Thank you for sharing this perspective!! I'm the daughter of a Mom who is not a narc, she is loving in so many ways but when I introduced my first long term boyfriend to her she started to act out with jealous behaviour, flirting with him, looking at my phone, telling me I was living her dream and subtly insulting me in front of him like we were in competition. This took years to properly sink in for me and it's now like a cancer I carry knowing she could betray me in that way. It's too heavy a subject to broach with her so I have to figure out how to live with it. I just want to know what it stems from so I can move on with my life, it tortures me.

[@ladennayoung2939]

It's more then a small group of parents. Unfortunately it is quite common for a parent or parents to be jealous of their child/children.

[@sukanya164b]

WOW you described my narcissistic mother so accurately! The jealousy has become unbearable and it'd beyond confusing. The way she has destroyed my realtionship with my father and the way he now views/talks to me (because of her brainwashing) is heartbreaking. I also have had smear campaigns for years and she just won't stop. Relentless in her mission to talk badly about me, spread lies, and have people dislike me. It's been traumatic. Thank you for this video.

[@mariamaria7013]

That is my life story. It’s very disturbing I just pray in judgement day both my parents and especially my mother pay for everything they did to me. 🥹🥹🙏🏽🙏🏽I tell myself this, as a self coping mechanism.

[@1980shameka]

My grandmother told me right before she died that my birth mother was jealous of me. I was 15 years old and was unable to understand the depths of what this meant. I think my grandmother knew I would always wonder WHY my birth mother was the way she was toward me so she told me before she died. Although my dad was not in my life much my mother managed to get word to him that I was “being bad.” One day, my dad showed up and I was tremendously happy to see him. He didn’t show up to spend time with me though. He showed up to whip me because my birth mother told him I was “being bad.” Boy did that hurt emotionally more than anything else. My birth mother could see the happiness on my face at seeing my dad and she knew I would be anything but happy later on. She also tried to do the same with my grandparents however, they didn’t believe her. Instead, I moved in with them and overheard my grandpa tell my grandma that I wasn’t the problem -my birth mother was.

[@Swankybroad]

That is so cruel, I'm so sorry that happened to you ❤

[@camcamlady8068]

Mine used to bother me about my weight when I was a teen. I lost weight in my 20s and she said I was too thin and was worried about me (I was a healthy weight). When ppl would compliment my body she’d say, “she had to work for it!” I was so naive I didn’t know what was happening. She’d tell me that I was bald and fat. When I grew my hair long and thick and would get complimented, she’d say, “I don’t know why ppl say your hair is thick - it’s not really that thick!” I’d get told I was cold hearted if I thought my brothers behavior was unacceptable but then called sweet and kind at other times. Always a push and pull! These of course are just a few examples and not the worse ones. My younger self tried to make myself fit into her “mold” and my mature self had to learn to take a stand and be ok with my own thoughts and beliefs. Struggled with self doubt and insecurity (still do at times) but I’m more aware now.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's a very typical tactic of the envious or jealous parent. They worry about or point out the things you may be uneasy about yourself -- your outfit, weight, look for the day, money you make, etc. That's almost like their way of "beating" you at the game of life or trying to "one-up" you. It's so difficult to tease apart a jealous parent from a very critical parent with low self-esteem themselves.

[@934brandi]

This was so spot on. I feel that my mom is really jealous of me, And my marriage. I decided to cut her off. She wasn’t always in my life, my grandmother raised me while she lived her life, Now that I am a grown woman. I feel like she Will do and say things to get underneath my skin for a reaction.. I feel that I have reached my breaking point, and I need to do what’s best for me and my family.. toxic on so many levels 😏

[@travelwithsouthernchick5112]

Wow so feel this!!! Dealing with the same thing. My mom has stress me so much cut her off just don’t know what else to do

[@WhitneyDahlin]

It's way more common than you think it would be for mother's to be jealous of their daughters. I was doing research on this topic and I wanted to get the perspective and find out what is going on in the mind of a mother who is envious and jealous of their own daughter. So I just typed into Google I hate my daughter or I'm jealous of my daughter and HUNDREDS OF THOUSANDS of results came up from around the web. Mothers were asking what to do in reddit, parenting forums, advice columns, it was horrifying. And it was incredibly sad and shocking. One mother said her daughter didn't deserve her rich husband, another said she didn't deserve the good career she had, one daughter was an artist and the mother said she wasn't even that good she shouldn't be successful. I think people don't realize just how common it is because those women never tell anyone in their real lives what they're thinking. They pretend to be a loving good perfect and wonderful person, while on the inside they're filled with hate and envy. I think this is a topic that isn't spoken about enough. And I've noticed people who had good mothers have a very hard time believing that a mother could hate their own child that much until they see it with their own eyes.

[@taraarrington2285]

Probably so. I think my mom was jealous of my boyfriend and my relationship too.

[@not-even-german4892]

She had a bad marriage

[@geneholmes4401]

This is so my mom!

[@mariamaria7013]

This is both of my parents to a T. I literally moved as far away from them as possible. As in different state, different time zone and it’s the only way , I was able to complete schooling and elevate in my career. It’s sad, but I did what I had to do to find joy. 🙏🏽

[@reginap942]

In the original sleeping beauty, It was the mother and not the step mother who wanted to get rid of the daughter.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Good point.

[@truthhurts3305]

This REALLY resonated with me and I need some advice: My parents have long hoped for me to get married to a great woman & have a great job when I was single, to the point where they used to complain about it. I’m now engaged and about to get married to an amazing woman and have an amazing job. Yet my father snapped at me recently saying “You don’t spend enough time with the family” outta nowhere and we got into a heated argument but I’ve made time for them despite working in the week & my fiancée and I doing stuff most weekends, I’ve come to visit when I can whereas my younger brother is hardly even at home on the weekends due to work and he is a grown man still living with them and the irony is, when I was single they used to complain about me visiting almost every weekend. So why are they attacking me despite the fact that I’m living the life that they wanted me to live anyways. Are they jealous that I spend more time with my fiancée whom I live with? Is it narcissism? What is they’re actual issue? I’m confused 😳

[@rainsara2795]

Thank you for this video. My stepmom once told me my mom was jealous of me, I didn't want to hear it and got angry. Now I see how it is. Everything you mentioned is the actions of my mom.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! And thanks for watching. Sometimes it is hard to accept this as coming from a parent. It's a tough situation for sure so I don't blame you for this initial reaction.

[@Cyber_Diva]

This is what my mother did to me ALL of my life -- unless I did something to directly benefit her! I am the first in my family to graduate high school. I have a college degree and two masters degrees. This bothered her deeply. I have a great career and travelled the world and she complained or ignored my accomplishments. These people are NOT connected to reality! The invest a lot of time in romance novels, television video games and their own fantasy lives. At 55 I'm just learning how to be proud of myself and have joy in life.

[@annetana3869]

My mother in law felt jealous whenever my husband do something for me. Damn she was such a cunning women and it took me 5 years to understand her game.

[@ladennayoung2939]

People we have to learn that if someone is jealous of you. It's not always based off of the material things that you have. But it's what you possess internally that they are jealous of. They get mad that they don't feel comfortable being their genuine and authentic selves. And that they feel they have to have all of these material things in order to feel like they have worth or value. You can't trip. Just keep being who God called and created you to be. That is their problem, that they can't handle it. You keep on shining. You are being a disservice to yourself and other people around you when you choose to dim your light as an attempt to make other people happy or what have you. If the Lord lead you to pull back from your parent/parents, or other toxic family members and so call friends. Then do just that. It is for your own benefit. Focus on developing a complete, whole, loving, nurturing, and caring relationship with Jesus Christ and self. Only He can show and teach you how to love self and others properly, and can help you heal from childhood trauma or trauma as a whole. You also get to discover who you were really called and created to be when you take that path. It's the best thing for you.

[@hertruecrimes]

Thank you I appreciate this so much. I want to honor my mother but she's so jealous she wishes death on MD. Staying away is best. ❤️

[@songswithnocopyright3330]

My Mother was the devil wearing my Mother's face.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Wow. That says quite a bit. I'm sorry.

[@xrc7445]

I knew my father was abusive, but if you stayed out of his business, he was ok to be around. So, I decided to stay home while studying at uni. However, when I entered uni, all hell broke loose. At the exact same time, he retired. I soon realized he was jealous I was young and I had all my life ahead of me whereas he was old, sick, and only waiting to die.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

This scenario often happens in families where the parents are enmeshed. There's no boundaries or appreciation of who you are as their child. If he just stops to think...he did bring you here and you are an element of him.

[@truth4utoda]

I really need this. 😩 My husband's father was exactly this way. He feared my husband would take their multi-million dollar business over and make it better. He eventually did but his father refuses to talk to him.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry to hear this. I've seen this a lot in higher socioeconomic families. There's a lot of narcissistic parents in this group who behave this way.

[@itsYourChance]

They teach u to deny your feelings, gut, heart.. its terrible. All i want for my kids is to make good choices and learn to listen to their heart. I am glad with them in good things. My mom is so sick. Shes a stalker as well. Bad. As my kids have grown,i realize all i didnt receive from this sick parent. God leads me far from her. Bad spirits. Life turns around as im away from her.

[@tiffanylamb2316]

Amen

[@MrJfortheElohim]

You hit the nail right on the head with this one. I know one personally that jealous of her sisters’ children, and my children, and enables her child to keep him highly dependent. Bitter than a bucket of lemons.

[@zzulm]

I was jealous of my daughter and I didn't know why, I was repeating the pattern in my family and I didn't know any better. I had other unhealthy patterns but this is the one that got my attention because I felt uncomfortable with her being happy and then I noticed that it was the same with other people. Mostly it was shame and me hating me when I felt like that. And in my case it helps me to see my shame with love and compassion. Like a little me that wants to be soothed, idk why this helps me. Well I'm creating better patterns.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you for sharing this honesty. I'm sorry this was the dymanic with your daughter. One thing you seem to be doing now is being open and honest, at least on here. That's often a good first step to chaning.

[@JNYC212]

It takes alot to be honest about that. I commend you!

[@aishawf]

Thanks for the honesty

[@carolyngibson5216]

Thank you for sharing.

[@TheScapegoat420]

The fact that you notice is huge. Thats the first and hardest step to improvining oneself.

[@Gesuselsaviour]

I wonder if tiger parenting is a form of parental jelousy, especially in situations where the parent forces the child to take part in activities that the parent is interested in i.e. piano, certain sport etc. Essentially living out their failed dreams vicariously through the child.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's interesting. I haven't given that much thought yet but it could be in some way. For tte most part, it seems these parents are meeting their own needs and sometimes cultural pressures. The child, as you know, is often ignored.

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

My step father is like this. My theory is that he likes father of the year credit. He also wants mini me types around and just selfishly assumes we want exactly what he wants. One other thing with them is how cruel they can be tho when you don’t hit your mark or if you quit their “pet” activities and go do your own thing etc. He was like that and my mother was the opposite with her frenemy, mean girl jealous sabotage.

[@LalaLarrieux]

It's always been hard for me to take positive compliments from people because all my life, my mom will follow with something negative after a positive compliment from someone else. She also never acknowledges any of the positive things about me, but she will overly speak highly of others. Which caused me to always feel I wasn't good enough and to work harder to please her or make her happy. When I became an adult, I brought these two things to her attention, and of course, she denied it. One day, I was sharing an amazing accomplishment I had achieved on my job, I was looking down while speaking, and when I looked up, I saw her rolling her eyes up to the ceiling. That was my confirmation that these things weren't all in my head. Anything good that happens to me, she just sits there with a stoic expression. It makes me angry towards her because I've always gone out of my way to please her, even to the point of sacrificing my own happiness.

[@onlymila1996]

My Mother has all these behaviors you named. I've reach a point that I'm tired of forgiving her to let my guard down for her to do it again and again. I'm and adult now and no one protects me regarding her. It's ignored because no one wants to face her. One because she doesn't care for it to absorb anyway. When will this end and how? I have distance myself just to be healthy.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry.😔 Never an easy pill to swallow. The sad reality is that it may never end -- until her end. Parental jealousy seems to be a generational challenge that may take years to fully resolve.

[@JORDAN23TV]

Thank you! Both used me as their emotional shield and target since childhood.

[@kristinalozano7891]

My mother has munchensen by proxy she did this to all her kids. But for the purpose of financial gains. Wouldnt that categorize her as a psychopath. Another thing is I get the jealousy she was a trauma bonder. A excellent connor. But leaned colder than anything else. My question is while there was alot of devaluing she often joined in with the praise of others. How well mannered I was, respectful well put together. I realize now I was obsessed with appearance and my personality because I was and continue to be a people pleaser. I wanted to be accepted by others because I felt the resentment at home. After watching so many of your videos I just want to thank you. You are a phenomenal educator. You led me to my greatest freedom from my abuser who unfortunately is my mother . I constantly returned to her after disrespect and abuse because she raved about me so much to or with others. I felt she was cold to me to make me stronger to have thick skin or something. Which just resulted in more abusive relationships because I was desperate to be accepted by anyone. I now realized thanks to you she was only joining in with others praising me or bringing my accomplishments or looks up to others to receive praise for herself anyway she could. To fuel her super self I believe is what you call it. Because as soon as the audience left it was right back to degrading and judging. It was exhausting Thank you for educating me Dr. Thank you for giving me the understanding I needed to break that ball and chain.❤️

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Kristina, I'm sorry I missed this comment. Thank you for sharing this. And thank you for your kind words.💖 Very glad this is helpful. And glad to hear you are healing and moving forward.

[@rosebud_blooming]

I have such a similar story. So so happy you're free now!!! Yayyyy. Take care hun💚

[@fifilafleur5555]

Oh yes!!! I have experienced this from my own bio parents and my dad’s second & third wives. They **both** hated me. My narcissistic parents didn’t like sacrificing their life for me. To the point they both abandoned me… quite literally… to live their own lives. My mother gave me up at 1 year old. My dad went on to have a second family… and then a third family with a stepson & 2 biological daughters after me. He always chose some woman over his kids… no matter how sorry she may have been/may be. As a result of their neglect, self centeredness & selfishness… along with a vicious narc stepmother or two… I have no family left. These women turned everyone against me due to their hate. Every bit of this resonates for me. There was a lot of jealousy I think.

[@user-jz6to8md3c]

Yes i have a father like this the outburstsof rage the put downs the lies and manipulation it can be exhausting.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes it can be. I'm sorry.😟

[@erysilva5808]

I felt there was always something behind my dad making fun of me all my life! Just for not being successful but even with two jobs he sees me like a nobody. I’m 40 and he looks at me like I’m stupid for not doing what he thinks qualifies as a man! Yet I seen real men do there thing and I never compared him! Your not alone! ❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm so sorry. This is an experience no child should have -- child and adult. It pays to ask yourself if what appears to be "denigrating" is truly jealousy being played out. The more you talk against someone the better you feel. The more you talk against someone the less jealous of them you have to feel. It's very sad.

[@dej4644]

crazy how you described my mom to a T. I hope she heals herself one day, I’ve had enough of her shit respectfully

[@Homoclite]

I've seen this. Thankfully, I never personally experienced this, but something that may be just as bad. A clue into what I'm talking about is that a person should NEVER continually have children with someone who has shown you that they have NO interest in being a parent.

[@tashawaters89]

Thank you. If I was working on a project, my Mom, Dad, or Grandmother would step in and start working on it like it was their own project. I told my dad I wasn't working now, and I have no real plans for moving forward in life- and he said that's fine!! It's scary. (I'm 35) 9:44 "You can never please them" that's the truth.

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

I have found that most times it never makes sense. She has kept me down and I really externally can’t figure out for the life of me why she’d be so jealous. She has more money. She is married and I never was. I struggled with my career. I struggled as an unwed mother. I struggled with money. Etc. She gets to travel and has so much and all the affection of all the step sibs and their kids. Has respect from church folks and the community etc. I don’t have a ton of friends. Etc. Plus she seems humble (covert) and her superiority comes out as moral superiority (but most folks just see her as “harmless and sweet” like a saint). She’s never openly inappropriate really. It just comes out to me when nobody sees it in a very sneaky, silent kind of way. Like a stealth snake in the grass. And she will do it to where it’s hard to detect any real “bad words” or anger or contempt. I sure do feel the bite and sting tho when it happens. So why? Bcuz I’m younger? Bcuz I have a better relationship /connection with my own son? I would say that for ages she kept me angry with the step father for decades. He was like her trained attack dog and forever and a day I thought it was all just him. Now he seems to be seeing things about me as if he is impressed. He’s toxic too so I can’t take that to heart either. I sit here and think why are you so jealous of his insincere compliments to me? Jealous of fake love. Ok. Whatever then. Keep on being stupid. 🙄But it doesn’t matter. It can be men I barely know also or men who are just platonic acquaintances. It can also just be the people in the hood who ooh and aah over something I did or have. She still competes and tries to one up and sabotage and secretly attack me. I don’t want to work it out with them tho. I consider myself an orphan.

[@user-dk1by4fz2h]

I never looked at my mom as a jealous person towards anyone, until recently. She was a teenage parent and she has always taken her anger out on me As I became a teenager, she would throw me out randomly and for unknown reasons. She never let me work. At one point she told me that I could only leave the house to sit in the backyard gazebo. She threw me out for the final time a month after I graduated high school. She has never been supportive of any of my endeavors. She has always had a problem with any guy I dated. I have two other sisters and she seems to have a liking towards guys they date. Over the years, my mother's personality seem to change into more like mine though. Everything she previously hated, she now loves. The odd part is that it's everything I have always been into. So I thought we could bond over that, but she was still so contemptuous. Arguing with me when I would share recipes with her. It was odd. Eventually she started calling me and saying that she was my zodiac sign and I was actually hers. Again ODD. I just came to the conclusion that she was jealous of me. Idk why because she effectively almost completely sabotaged my life. What is there for her to be jealous of? She hijacked my hobbies, personality, qualities... Now I feel like in the end, she was only pretending to tolerate me to steal my personality traits. This has been so much for me accept and heal from.

[@KAMILITA]

she ruined my relationship with my dad

[@muthaafrika6137]

I needed to grow up with people like you

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you! This is a tough topic indeed. And as you stated "i didn't know this when I was coming up." This isn't talked about enough!

[@soumyajoseph7429]

Thanks for letting me know that they don't care about familial relationships when they're jealous. That makes sense.

[@shahmajor]

Damn this on point in my life sadly. I said all these things in a different way of course but it Feels good knowing I was telling the truth

[@MissKim671]

It's interesting how you mentioned the movie Mommie Dearest because that's exactly how I describe my mother. In fact, I wasn't even able to watch that movie until I was well into my 30's (I'm now 55), because of the similarities of Joan Crawford's character. Watching the movie brought so much pain emotionally, and physically, because my mother literally would beat the heck out of me, then turn around and praise me. Anyway, I have no problem whatsoever watching the movie now. I actually find it amusing (if that makes any sense). However, she still continued the emotional and psychological abuse today in my 50's, but the difference is I'm healing, and I've gone NO CONTRACT with her. I've often told my sibling, and anyone who'd listen, that she's trying to destroy me and take me to Hell, but I wasn't believed or was dismissed. She enjoyed provoking me to anger. She enjoyed provoking rage in me. She enjoyed seeing me out of control, and that's why I went no-contact. I didn't want to end up in jail or dead because I couldn't control myself. It's really sad actually, to see someone in so much pain and spiritual torture. And, to think that I could help her overcome her pain, was very naive of me. After all, only God Almighty can do this and only if she wants it. 😢 I'm trying to heal now as I mentioned before. It's difficult, painful, overwhelming, angering, mind-blowing, lonely, and a guilt driven process I know I must endure. I pray for her. I've literally been praying for her since I was a little girl. But, this time I'm LEAVING IT in God's hands instead of me trying to "take it back" because I didn't see immediate results (and yes, I had to Repent and ask for forgiveness for trying to do His job). 🙏🏽. God bless all of us who are going through this insidiously evil ordeal. It may take some time to heal, but I'm sure we'll all come out victorious in the end (at least that's what I'm praying for). 🙏🏽 😊

[@munequa81]

My evil, jealous stepmother completely blew up my chance to have a decent childhood with my father. I wasn't his daughter, I was competition and she had to eliminate me. She was so jealous that she threatened to kill me.

[@Petra-ms3ku]

Finally realized my cluster b mom is my worst enemy.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm so sorry. That's never a easy realization.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

It's a sad reality but a small population of parents with personality disorders (and possibly trauma) develop insecurities that can destroy the parent-adult child relationship. Can you relate? Toxic jealousy kzbin.info/www/bejne/aJiwe2eNjLJom6M

[@rosebud_blooming]

This threw me back into perspective. I've been okay and getting my mind together and healing since ignoring my toxic family but reality is never far behind.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes, so true! "reality is never far behind." I told someone the other day, it's like we learn to live with it, but never get over it.

[@prernamohanty3790]

You just made a video about my mom and I know she'll never change.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry. This is something we, as adult children, never expect. It takes you off by guard I'm sure.

[@havefaithtarot]

Can definitely relate. Thank you. Quality content as always.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I appreciate that! And you're welcome!

[@petermonis4616]

another great one Dr. Támara, thank you, well said.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

My pleasure! And thank you 😊

[@jayj4439]

That copy cat and comparison trait is a red flag of jealousy to me.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

True. It is for me too.

[@munequa81]

Absolutely.

[@SiddityPrincess]

Yup this was my father who was obsessed with keeping up with the joneses and his image to the world..... Driving a nice car, him and my step mother but what people didnt know, was that it was just a facade. Here I am in college and only getting $75 every two weeks for school. But yet they're driving nice cars I swear I cant make this stuff up. I think too my father was jealous of my mother him and my stepmother who technically is more successful than the both of them. I went on and was the only one to obtain my Masters degree in that house hold and they barely gave me a "congrats". This dynamic is super confusing. This is why i am an advocate for women really thinking deeply about children its not a "just because I want them" because anyone can be subjected to these dynamics.

[@resdid805]

You are gifted. Thank you for making this content. You roll through this information like a normal conversation, but its gold.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I appreciate that! Thank you 🤗 Glad this was helpful to you too.

[@barbarathomas5647]

Thank you so much for posting this!!!!! I experienced all of this from my Mom.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome. This is a tough experience.

[@FeliciaBerryVlogs]

Wow!! I relate to this so much with my mother.

[@POV00005]

All of your videos are insightful. I hope to return to college in the near future. I love the learning environment presented. God Bless Tamara Hill.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you so much!! I'm really glad these videos are helpful. That's the goal every single upload or chat. And thank you for that blessing. God bless you!!

[@allysonjackson5610]

Catching the replay and saying hi Miss Hill. Another great topic. I am grateful this is not an issue with my parents however I do see this a lot. It's sad and sort of disturbing.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Hi Allyson, thanks for your continued viewership! 😊 It's not a problem for me either. We're blessed to say the least. But my heart feels for those who have this experience.

[@allysonjackson5610]

@@TherapistTamaraHill I concur. How's the book coming? 😊✌

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thanks for asking! Really well. Just turned in, Sept 1, the entire manuscript. Editing process now. I'll keep you all updated!

[@BeavisBomer-vo9yx]

If I got to curate the title for my own situation it would be “Lunatic Family Dynamics”.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🙈🙉🙊

[@rturney6376]

I desperately wanted my parents to be someone who Ho they were not.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry.😔 That's such a painful reality. I hope you are doing okay. That reality can be hard but not impossible to overcome.

[@Absolutely_Cece]

Nailed it!

[@justanothermaid]

Thank you for sharing your expertise once again. Would you consider expanding on related topics such as enmeshment from one parent being fuel for this behaviour in the other, especially in the teenage years. Perhaps how having one sibling as enmeshed, another a rival, what would we expect from that adult sibling relationship?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome Sarah and yes, absolutely. On my list of topics!

[@JRice-be1my]

Wow ! This is mother all day long!!! Thank you for this video . Very helpful 😊God bless you

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Glad it was helpful! And thank you. God bless you too!

[@alexandrialgardner]

So ,much great stuff--my family to a T--jealousy, sibling rivalry, grudge-holding, self-righteousness,etc.!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you! It's such a tough dynamic. I understand.

[@lulalane1345]

Never praise always criticized.

[@samiah9517]

Helpful

[@d.s.6106]

My family started actin funny when I started doin better for myslef...myself.... now people I never talk to feel the need to ask for gifts .. and always ask what I'm doin and where I'm goin... when I tell them then they start with the what are u saving... but get mad mad when I tell them to mind their business

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Sounds complicated indeed. Some families do behave this way. Healthy and firm boundaries are needed.

[@tiffanylamb2316]

This is one of the hardest things to get thru

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes it is. I agree. I have seen too many adult children who havae experienced this

[@sh6460]

I worked in the school cafeteria starting in middle school, babysat for $ for school clothes ( I didn't buy everything). I started an after school job my senior year, my mom said her father said no one would be worth that much per hour ( it was cost of living increases and stuff, nothing grand). I think it triggered my dad, too, who took my pay checks and gave me a gas allowance so I could help pay for a vacation I was forced to go on ( had to quit job). Money has always been such a big deal to my dad, many get rich schemes over the years and gambling. It almost kills him if I do well at something. He must feel very inadequate, always must be best, fastest, etc. Later, when I got a better job, she asked what I had made in the previous year. That set off a firestorm of regular phone calls about buying a house, she even took me out to one she thought my husband and I should buy. Years of it, I do think she was fired up by my dad. He sabotages anything he can, always trying to compare gumdrops, he must have the most. He also does a LOT of projecting.

[@swallenjafari5974]

I wish You weren't right about this fact that Narcissistic people have children But you're right and my own mother has all of these signs. I can't even get surprised anymore

[@jimfish5981]

If you can't trust your own parents then who else can you trust?

[@macfahad]

I don’t know if this relates but I feel my wife is jealous of my son. She’s always complaining when I give him attention (when I’m home he demands a lot of my attention), she tells the 3 year old to shut up or tells him to go away .. or tells me to tell him to go away…if she’s speaking to me and he’s also speaking with me. Even though I try to give them both attention the same time. Restaurants, I have to feed him I have to think of his food and she wants to just eat where she wants. We go somewhere for entertainment she wants me to be with her … for example a theme park, i always try to give him a good time, take him around and she wants me to be with her on rides instead. And I’m just like… and leave him here to wait for us? When we take him to parks usually she won’t be giving him much attention and just wants him to play and me to sit with her and talk. I try to give him attention there and she thinks I’m mothering him too much. If I complement him she says why are you complementing him, why don’t you complement me. And I’m like… because he’s a 3 year old and needs that approval. When he’s having a “fit” I try to get on my knees and ask him why are you feeling like that what’s wrong and she says I need to just leave him alone at this time. I want him to realize he can speak his feelings, she wants to just leave him. I have to put him to sleep or she will not put him to sleep, she’ll stay up all night and he’ll stay up with her. I don’t know at the moment if it’s me whose showing too much love (if there is something like that) or she’s got some jealousy issues with our (she’s the natural mother) son… One note, my son is my life. I live for him, so I might not be giving her the same attention as I was and I know I’m not giving her the same attention as I do my son but I feel when you have kids your relationship changes and it’s all about raising the child… I’m confused as where the mistakes lay. I know my son takes a lot of my attention but he demands it. When I come home from work, it’s almost as if to him she doesn’t exist anymore and it’s just me.

[@megamoneyk]

People told me my was envious of me. I could not understand it. I still don't.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Jealous family are really hard to wrap your mind around. Why? That's the question I used to have...why?

[@jadak2313]

@@TherapistTamaraHill right when we all could build something together

[@jcameron3649]

My mother is a full blown abusive narcissist. I'm 45 & shes been jealous of me since I was 11 & still to this day even though I'm disabled facing life threatening diagnosis & homeless going thru life struggles she still does very spiteful things to me. All I knw is my mother really needs to b medicated, & put in an institute for the mentally ill. My mom made me hate her to the point I dnt ever want to see her again. I refuse to be there for her anymore.

[@loveisthelaw23]

I believe I was 14 when I saw some part of me had grown up that in my mother never had. She used to tell me I was putting her on a pedastal& I certainly didn't think I was... but the truth is, we have been fed roles people are supposed to fill& some don't fit that build. I know she had severe trauma as well & I'm sure never had time to process it before having children. It doesn't justify her behavior , but it has helped me understand & not blame myself. Someone told me that I am not unlovable, she is just unable to love. I love and forgive my mom& always pray she can do the healing she needs. But, until then, I love her from a distance.

[@muthaafrika6137]

I didn't know this when i was coming up

[@littletimmy1999]

I told my mother i wanted to go to law school she looked at me as if she was outraged. She is already going back to school to major what im majoring. She is beyond sick

[@tiffanylamb2316]

My mother been giving me backhanded comments and calling me names for years 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@BBFCCO733]

My father is so demented that he has made it his life's mission to try to make me miserable for existing. He recently sent me photos of family. I have been no contact for 2 years. For me, it was to try and make me feel guilty because of missing out, and to show they are together, and I am apart. I don't know why he keeps doing this, it has been years he has made me feel like I don't belong...I got used to it. It's just pathetic he keeps trying to remind me. I can't change who I am, he is expecting something from me that is impossible. I guess it's time to just accept this will never end. I need to just not break down anymore.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry to hear this. You are certainly not alone which is the goal of me doing a video like this. I think you know what you need to do, so it sounds. It's just a matter of actually doing it.

[@cassanddrrrraaa]

is it possible to have a jealous parent that’s not a narcissist? my mom has BPD & ive noticed recently her jealous behavior recently. maybe BPD & narcissism has a lot more in common than i thought?

[@tiffanylamb2316]

Mommy mother doesn’t want me to experience anything she didn’t ! She hates that she stayed with a man that treated her terribly and I divorced . That’s her own choice ..

[@user-pt7iv6bx2z]

Facts

[@user-pt7iv6bx2z]

I have a Mom like this

[@user-pt7iv6bx2z]

Big time hater

[@CreampuffCrybaby]

I have a bipolar mom who is really insecure and gets extremely jealous of me when I ask her can I have my hair half an half she got so jealous that she said no to me only cuz I'm light skin and she is real envious when we be going places she be trying to tell me to fix my clothes stop touching my hair when she constantly doing it when we get out of the house. and she becomes jealous of me every day and another thing she's is jealous of is my privacy she keeps accusing me of talking to men or predators or perverts online she think she knows every thing I do or say or look at is inappropriate my mother is bipolar and she is extremely jealous of me I just noctied cuz she keeps being mean to me my dad want to say that my mom is jealous of me but he scared to say the truth cuz she likes to start stuff and argue and be rude and talk over you or she likes to make it worse. so now he ends up saying and trying to tell his wife that she's bipolar but she's also jealous of me but she don't want to admit that she's a jealous bipolar parent that my dad had married and had me with and I have a cousin in Florida she's darker than my mom she was rude to me as a kid and now cuz she's jealous of me for liking stuff like vampires and stuff she told me I have to be dark skin or brown to like stuff like that and I'm shocked what does my complexion have to do with me liking what I wanna like or how I want to dye my hair or how I want to wear it ? "you have to be dark skin to wear this hair or to like this vampire stuff" dark skins are always jealous of light skins (the ones who are jealous of light skins)

[@genevaelyse1918]

I remember the first time that I had lost some weight and my mother was going crazy. The funny thing is that she almost ruined my sister engagement ceremony cause she couldn't tolerate me being fit. She rant about me eating less deliberately (I don't have a eating disorder and talked to our famiky doctor befor starting the process) and she swore at me. I'm very tramatized by this experience. And guess what? My sister (the eldest child and the golden child in our narcissistic family) blamed me and accused me of ruining her engagement ceremony while it was my mom who threw a tantrum that night. Yes, I'm a scapegoat, they put all the blames on me, they make me responsible for their childish behavior 😂

[@WoWNightwhisper]

Not that my father is a walk in the park but I feel like I've completely lost any ability to connect with him after he married his current wife (I don't view her as such but I suppose she's my stepmom - and she's kind of the worst of all of these things). I'm so torn because I would love to have been able to forge a relationship with him at some point (which is likely a delusional thought even if she wasn't in the picture) but that's completely off the table for now. She very much wants to pretend she and I have a good relationship but trying to get to know the real her has burned me so many times in the past that I just keep things extremely shallow. It drives her nuts because she knows something is off but can't actually understand what; she desperately WANTS connection but doesn't understand why she is unable to maintain friendships/relationships outside of immediate family (and those are so co-dependent/toxic that I do my best to avoid the lot of them). She thinks she's the sweetest person in the world but I've never met anyone more eager to try and go for the kill if you say anything that goes even slightly against her world view of her being the ultimate martyr.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm so sorry. That is very tough to deal with. When parents marry other people sometimes they change completely and we lose them. That happened to happen to my mother. She never saw him again and most of his behavior was "shallow" and unauthentic because he had a wife to please. While this may not be your situation 100%, it sounds like you are ready to walk away because of her. That's terrible. Until your father sees the truth (or his new wife changes for the better), it sounds like things will remain quite distant. I'm sorry.

[@WoWNightwhisper]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Thanks for replying, I'm sorry you went through something similar. I've come to terms with that being the likely resolution of the situation. Your videos have played a part in that healing (and are just so interesting otherwise) so thank you so much for all you do. =)

[@Prophezora]

I had a teachervtell us in the 90s ( o was in highschool) that actually told us our parents are jealous of us...he probably knew stuff but probably inappropriate to randomly blanket statement that. Odd.

[@LittleYoki]

Yeah, I’m honestly not even sure if my mom likes me. I know she didn’t like me when I was a kid now I’m an adult and we had some family deaths and I ended up moving back in with her to help her because I have a handicap brother and yeah it’s pretty much the same I don’t think she’ll change and what’s really funny is she’s always telling me about how narcissistic her parents were and right now her father and my grandfather is 93 and needs a lot of help and she won’t do anything to help him ever.

[@muthaafrika6137]

My mom was DOWN for me no matter what

[@Chippy88]

I did not want to believe it when my psychiatrist me, my mom is jealous. I mean I knew she wasn’t treating me right but I thought to myself that’s impossible. How could a mother be jealous of her daughter. It wasn’t until years later two other people told me that. So I looked it up. I couldn’t believe it. It was exactly like I was reading about my mother and me. She would say such hurtful things to me because I was outgoing and I had it a lot of friends etc. etc. when I had kids I involved her in my life as much as I could it was a lot. Within one I want him to go out with new friends. I’ve met from my kids going to school. She would say horrible things like nobody likes you. They’re only calling you because you’re full of them. She would just say rotten stuff to me. and I know what I did no matter when I tried it wasn’t good enough. I had a sister 10 years younger who affected in a different psychological way. She tried actually living through her. Are used to feel so bad for my sister for the things she did. She would listen to everyone of her phone calls. I remember she would make her a bikini and at a campground where she has a camper she would like her out of the camper and tell her to go to the pool because there was boys there and she might meet. But she loved her. Grown-up it was different. I was her shadow had no we were very close. But in the end there is nothing I can do. She wanted to be me. I never knew you could be that way and then be jealous and try to hurt me. I would have her over and she was trying to become friends with some of my friends and then like if I would walk away she would talk about me. It definitely put some deep scars in me. It still bothers me and I don’t understand to a point. She died in July and I was there with my father and my sister. She was diagnosed with a terminal illness. My brother and my sister and my dad. I don’t know how she missed treated me. While she was sick and dying, I would sleep in the bed sometimes with her and the last two weeks I had some cherishable moments with her that I will embrace forever. The day before she died she touched my face and I told her I loved her and I was kissing her. At this point she couldn’t breathe too well, but I asked her if she she love me? Previously, if I would ask her if she loved me she said yes. I said, can you tell me and her labored breathing, she said “I love you.” I know it was a mental disease, narcissistic traits, etc. people don’t understand when I say I would do anything to be lame with her again and to see her again. But I think of the older mother before she be going to treat me that way. I am going through a phase now where I am he had as opposed to crying and missing her because I hate unbelief when I saw her go through and just to know that she knew she was dying and she was scared makes me sick. I guess I have all different days. But a lot of my insecurities and doubts shit in bedded in me. Anyway, if you don’t believe it which I didn’t. Yes, mother can be jealous of her child. I look back now and I don’t believe in this family members, etc. she did too many. Even her and my sister would not talk. But I should’ve realized how toxic it was cut ties because it was not healthy for me or my family. But I know she’s probably sorry. She acted that way if she even knew, and I will always love her.

[@aubreymontyf.l.3766]

Im 28. When she said im 30 and im (any degrading words) Her voice tone sounds satisfied that im stuck at this age, she won, Well for now😈 I now know what's up.. pleas talk about should i give her money when i get large amount of money. She demanded half of it once

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry. This sounds like a disregard of boundaries. I don't know your situation but based on what you explained here, I wouldn't give in and I would set new boundaries. I would also consider psychotherapy for longer term exploration of the dynamic.

[@kayb6803]

No. Don’t give her half your money. Give her only what feels right to you and then don’t talk about it with her. Let her whine like the internal 4 yr old that she is. Yes, seek therapy for your self. You deserve the internal balance and to hear the reality that you’ve been dealing with a toddler in an adult body masquerading as someone’s momma. Your mother needs help but probably won’t think to seek it or acknowledge that she needs it. Don’t let that be you. Let the family crazy stop with you.

[@Chippy88]

The most I can say, is, now that you were realty know it. Don’t like when she says get to you. It’s extremely toxic. Try to limit your time with her. And if it gets that bad like I did with me, fucked up my life completely out. It was way to talk in my situation.

[@tiffanylamb2316]

I lost weight and my mom got jealous but was the one saying I was out of shape ! Make it make sense ??

[@keebler32ify]

That's my Mom, im the baby boy

[@aljernardpacheco8840]

Hi

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

👋

[@user-nw7ej3br3l]

My mom sucks, jealousy of my looks and talent like my dad she left.

[@jadak2313]

My mom helped me get my own place etc. then when I was moved in she started acting funny she wouldn’t help me with anything and literally starting stuff with my dad who we don’t even talk to messed everything up ( well at least she thought she did) a relationship with my dad , aunt by telling them negative things about me THEN telling me really hurtful things when I felt depressed on purpose. Like wtf LMFAO she is not the women I thought she was then making it seem like it was on me she did this to my sister too like what 🤣🤣🤣

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Oh my God! That's horrible. I'm sorry!

[@muthaafrika6137]

Your own child? Jealous of your own child?

[@TCS86]

Will they make a child grow to be extremely selfish?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I would say that depends on the child, how they were raised, etc. So there is a possibility that the child can grow up with issues like selfishness, but there is also a chance they will not.

[@rturney6376]

Yes 🙌, girl, I can tell stories. My dad put holes in my brother’s condoms, because he was jealous. 🤯🤯🤯🤯