How to want to change your mind

[@benvanrensburg4261]

I always argue that Julia Galef has a brilliant YT channel. I never lose.

[@julie7238]

Can I just say, 9 years later, how thankful I am to have come across your content? I’ve carried these small, simple, impactful lessons with me into adulthood and they have served me well. Thank you, Julia!!

[@RichardBronosky]

4:27 This is an incredibly articulate way to communicate this point. I’ve always sought a way to express this. I can’t wait to share this with my 3 daughters. Thank you!

[@tissuepaper9962]

I was 9 years old when this video came out. It would have saved me a hell of a lot of trouble to have seen it then, lmao!

[@seanpaus]

Excellent! I too frequently hold on tightly to beliefs to which I have an emotional attachment, and feel that criticisms of them are instead directed at me personally. I've been wanting to not feel that way for a long time. Thanks for this video. It's going to help guide me down a better path. I do find it ironic that you argue against treating argument as a competition, yet almost immediately introduce the idea that you are in a duel, which is itself a competitive activity (and often violent). ;) It did give me the idea that opposing arguments could instead be viewed as tools, some being better than others. Then, "losing an argument" could just mean that you are shown that your tool is flawed in some way, but also that the other tool is of higher quality, allowing you to go build better things, and helps reinforce the idea of argument being a collaborative endeavor. Anyway, thanks again. This was immensely helpful for me. :)

[@erwinchew3725]

1. Divorce your belief from yourself - view belief as if it's existing a few feet away from you physically. - when your belief is being attacked, picture the attack being directed to the distanced belief, and not you. - this allows you to evaluate your beliefs objectively and fairly with no emotional attachment behind. 2. You are "collaborating" to figure out what's true. - a healthy argument is where both parties have no motive to win. 3. Visualize being wrong. - How would you cope? - How would this world look like if your belief was wrong? - Think about how you would react, get used to the idea of being wrong. - You'll be in a better frame of mind to more objectively consider the possibility that you're wrong. 4. Take the long view - When you concede to a point, you are putting credit in the bank in terms of your ability to convince others in the future. -Others will know that you aren't stubborn. 5. Congratulate yourself because you're objective, not because you're right - redirect the common impulse to validate your ego (When you win an argument you feel validated). - you could be right all along by arriving at the conclusion in a non-smart way. *If you tend to think of arguments as duels rather than "collaborations". - think of the duel as both you and your opponent have weapons, his/her weapons being stronger than yours, engage in an objective argument, and you'll be awarded your opponent's weapon (ideas successfully conveyed and received). *if you feel defensive over an argument, put the same words into a person you're comfortable with, you'll find that the argument sounds more fair now. Correct me if I've misunderstood, have a nice day !

[@hortlockthelivingdead4676]

thanks I love seeing in comments sort of a summary of the video.

[@anthonypc1]

This video should've been titled; The Most Important Advice That Almost NOBODY IS FOLLOWING. Really wish Julia's videos got millions of views.

[@Zomfoo]

Taught myself decades ago to be dispassionately skeptical even of my own positions. To the degree possible, I’ve examined and re-examined every conception in my head-revising, replacing, expunging as needed.

[@folumb]

Aw man. This whole time I think I've been trying to get better at recognizing fallacies just to confirm what I already want to believe. This was a helpful video

[@6li7ch]

I really love the litanies of Tarski and Gendlin. Their recitation is an almost ritualistic way to focus before approaching information, a comfortable alternative for those who miss the structure inherent in religion. What is true is already so. Owning up to it doesn't make it worse. Not being open about it doesn't make it go away. And because it's true, it is what is there to be interacted with. Anything untrue isn't there to be lived. People can stand what is true, for they are already enduring it. -Eugene Gendlin

[@cube2fox]

This great. Some people say "the truth hurts". But no, the truth is already there, just believing it won't to any additional damage. Except to your false beliefs, but you want to get rid of those anyways. Open your mind, it isn't so bad. You won't lose anything valuable, and afterwards you will be better of.

[@Li-rm2gj]

Why on earth is this not taught in elementary school? Is it more important to know the state flower?

[@huffpappy]

I've asked the same question myself. I think the country would be so much better off if we really taught our children how to think.

[@andrewwilliams1857]

Few would pay attention. Like more of an elementary school elective lol.

[@WooblyBoobly]

@@andrewwilliams1857 Make it part of the SATs or whatever national tests and suddenly everyone is interested.

[@tinkersdinkers]

@@WooblyBoobly but no one ever remembers it

[@00.388]

@Michael B Spot on.

[@arande3]

I'm glad these videos are still up because when they were first released, I was like oh that's cool, but it didn't really sink in or mean anything to me at the time. Now it makes perfect sense and is actually useful for real life application.

[@nimim.markomikkila1673]

This is all good! But somewhat challenging to remember in the heat of the moment of an argument; if the emotions have been aroused. But remembering even just one might save the situation.

[@spacedoutorca4550]

This is a really interesting way to think about rationality in arguments! If more people knew this and took it to heart the world would be a much better place.

[@jessstuart7495]

Some people call their opinions "values" because people's values can't be publicly criticized or called into question. If someone does "attack" another person's values, there are pretty severe social consequences that usually far outweigh the offense. It amazes me how in our modern society, many people feel and act as though they have a right not to be offended by anything they see or hear that challenges their "values"; Which is a real democracy killer.

[@cube2fox]

Thanks for saying something clearly which I had merely unclearly in the back of my mind. Another aspect of the topic: There are some philosophers who do not do moral philosophy but think that ethics presupposes the existence of mysterious platonic objects called "values". That's about as sensible as to assume that working mathematicians presuppose a platonic realm of numbers in their work.

[@bavakamma5745]

Julia, good techniques for emotional detachment to old held beliefs when ego is involved, and seeking truth vs winning a debate takes internal work and emotional maturity. Thank you for your channel.

[@chrisrus1965]

I've learned to stand in awe at the power of the Need to Believe. No evidence or reason can match it. Also, people's backs must be down. No one can listen to evidence or reason when their back is up.

[@gabriellengali1266]

passion for one's stance and argument is also important, because it makes one want to make the argument stronger more.

[@daiforme]

this is absolutely brilliant and has been my exact opinion for a long time but you worded it so well. and your device of separating yourself from your own opinion is exactly what i do! i create perspectives in my head i use to debate my own morals and motives and try to remain objective. I've never ever seen or met someone with such similar opinions to mine!!! i love you

[@kant12]

Good video. I mostly use the third option and think having a good imagination helps a lot. For some reason I just enjoy the process or argument and gaining a better understanding of things. Not sure how to explain why or how to make others feel the same way but that might just explain why it comes more naturally to some people.

[@gbekkema]

I revisit this video every few months, thank you!

[@huyked]

These are such great suggestions. It also reminds me of when you mentioned that you liked speaking with Richard Dawkins (before the Belgium discussion) because he wasn't just sharing his knowledge or experience. But the subject of conversation was that he genuinely wanted to figure an issue out together, sort of like a collaboration.

[@DivyanshuSrivastava27]

I come out as a stubborn kinda person in most debates! Thnx for sharing your useful insights Julia. They're pretty handy!

[@victor7530]

Thanks Julia. Great content, extremely useful.

[@Veohdeus]

I’m getting all these amazing videos recommended to me now as an adult I love your content

[@ryanbuckley3314]

Cool channel. I only just found it, but you've taught me a lot already. Thanks for all the videos!

[@parthoroy1864]

See reality for what it is and not what you want it to be.

[@arande3]

Online, I've noticed that if you disagree with someone, they tend to assume that you're just being stubborn so I've had great difficulty communicating with people rationally over the internet.

[@guidosalescalvano9862]

In my experience clear separation of objectives and methods is also always very helpful

[@bpelectric]

These are good strategies, thanks for sharing.

[@Floydandsome]

The world would be a much better place if people see this

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more to be fool not by those who tend to break us apart... Vs Think more but to remain calm even in times when situational facts teach us to fall apart

[@samuelgallegor411]

I haven’t t seen any comments pointing this out, but: wow, you are astonishing, you are gorgeous and quite (very) smart. Really love your videos!

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as a person who have nothing here... Vs Think as a person who know there's a room inside your heart.

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more just the two of us in the same room Vs Think more just as wise as how I always find peace in you

[@mikeyo1234]

Amazing insights. I am currently doing a counselling course and every tutor on my journey talks of being free from personal bias. However most of these tutors delude themselves and fall for cognitive bias and also they cling to their favourite therapy. However a counsellor should have no favourite therapy but rather a method that works best in the given situation.

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as wise as how I know you're still strong enough to hold me tight and not let me out of your hand even when I attempted to escape... Vs Think more as wise as how I know I shouldn't cry when being with you means being away from others

[@p.bamygdala2139]

Great insights! Thank you!

[@KimMoth]

Good tips. The first one about imagining a spatial remove is news to me; I'm sure it's more effective than many might imagine. Regarding 'winning' an argument: if the other party has something to offer (as they usually do), which you reject by pounding them into submission, then that's something you don't have that you otherwise might - looks like losing to me.

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as wise as possible since the first comment till this very particular comment... Vs Think more as wise as possible the hardest way of how I managed to bring out ideas even there's nothing left in mind, especially when I was repeatedly distracted by those who continuously kidding me

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as why we both should understand to each other if we wanted to grow together as much as we can... Vs Think more no matter how many times we may have hurt at each other, or make each other angry or even make ourselves a wrong decision...

[@Piggy_Piggerson]

Excellent advice!

[@JimnesstarLyngdohNonglait]

Think E is for *Evacuation* again Vs Think E is for *Elasticity* again

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more when I'm wise enough to ignore you, as accepting you is like accepting these people whom I'm not aware of... Vs Think more when your way of life teach me how to think this way

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Think more just as wise as how I managed to cover up the today's commenting portion Vs Think more yet the hardest way as wise as how I know, you remind me of that

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Think more as wise as possible the hardest way with how I tiredlessly never stopped expressing myself each moments, even if my mind blank... Vs Think more as wise as how I developed one of the greatest positive habit, that I never lie to self, with every detailed expressive comments...

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Think more the hardest way *when we say that stories are narration of incidents or events that take place at a particular place and time, it also indirectly suggests that person's are involved in these incidents* Vs Think more the hardest way the hardest way as how Edgar Allan Poe said that the aim of the short story is to produce a *single narrative effect*

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more with deep one to one trusting principles... Vs Think more with deep one to one honesty formulas

[@LoquaciousApe]

It's no wonder people naturally prefer arguing irrationally! Far less taxing.

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more when I'm wise enough to not be fool by those who tried to teach me the 1996-2022 lesson Vs Think more when I'm wise enough to highlight what back to basics actually meant

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more not to be fool like I have to shoulder to others beyond my limit Vs Think more but to speak up the positiveness of being open

[@GarveyToure]

great vid!

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as wise as possible like how you make me cry the moment I started to act as if I don't need you... Vs Think more as wise as how I know you don't let me to be free from you each moments even if I angry at you

[@JimnesstarLyngdohNonglait]

Think more the quickest intuitively way as wise as how it turned out to be, when I always sense your way of making an effort to remind me personally is based on how much you either love or hate me me the most.. Vs Think more the quickest intuitively way as wise as how I don't wanted to appear before you like a kid always, though I know I still need a lot of advices from you privately, secretly or personally just like how I understandably adjust myself morally and disciplinely

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way with why we should keep in mind that a sophisticated film, like literature, requires more than one viewing to begin to appreciate its purpose beyond merely the plot Vs Think more the hardest way as how we need a Structure or Form in a list for Academic review format

[@SecHummer]

Very good, keep up the good work!

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as wise as how I wisely managed to educate myself the hardest way, the more I faced the toughest lessons Vs Think more as wise as how I focussingly focussed on you, even when I'm busy in reality

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[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way as person who knows more about me more than everybody... Vs Think more yet you can't find someone will be open to you more than you open to yourself

[@lisasays6174]

consider that one can do everything perfectly but the fact is they are still in discussion with another human being who may or may not become defensive, appropriate or not, and then all bets are off.

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the Quickest Intuitively way as one thing that we both should understandably handled to each other infront of others... Vs Think more the quickest Intuitively way no matter what's the reason that makes us really hate between each other or really love between each other

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way as *Convergent Journalism is the name given to multitasking in Journalism where a journalist is expected to not only produce a report for the newspaper, he is also required to give it orally for radio and/or television and at the same times give a brief one for mobile news services as well* Vs Think more the hardest way as how the Convergent Journalism is the end result of the convergence of media and communication technology..

[@meatrobot7464]

I like being open to updates, but trying to win the argument regardless. Creative insults are a bonus

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as wise as possible like I know how you wanted to capture my way of thinking every moments... Vs Think more as wise as how I'm completely and committedly let you know every details of my mind

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more for self only Vs Think more especially when I noticed everybody are thinking for themselves

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way as wise as A is for Awaken Vs Think more the hardest way as B is for Beaten

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more not to be fool by sorrounding busy noises from all sides.... Vs Think more not to be fool by how panickingly they entertainingly highlight their ways of surviving too

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more just you I wanted to hug to... Vs Think more just you that I love the most

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way as *Introduction to C* where C is a general purpose, structured programming language. Vs Think more the hardest way as how *C is characterized by the ability to write very concise source programs, due in part to the large number of operators included within the language* .

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way until those who still managed to copiedly acting as if I know nothing and had no idea Vs Think more the hardest way of knowing the fact that each of my daily visible updated hand should always symbolise the symbol of patience within me each day

[@sidDkid87]

I wasn't going to watch this video ... then I changed my mind 🤔🧠🤣

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way as U is for Understandable Vs Think more the hardest way as V is for Vision

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way as how a single news story begins with an intro or lead and how the lead tells the listener the most important point about the story... Vs Think more the Hardest way as how the body of the story contains the main details of the story and how it is the heaviest part of the story

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the Hardest way as how For all formal presentations, a script is a must.. Vs Think more the Hardest way as how in Broadcasting, a listener has a choice of switching the radio off if he/she finds it boring

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way as how this Derived class is also known as a Child Class or Sub Class.. Vs Think more the hardest way with why on the other hand, Inheritance helps in reducing the overall code size of the program, which is an important concept in OOP's

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more just as wise as how I showed up my completed commit towards what you expected me to be... Vs Think more just as wise as how I managed to show my regular submission to you, the way you reminded me like you know what I can handle and what's I can't

[@JimnesstarLyngdohNonglait]

Think more the quickest intuitively way as F is for *Floating charge* again VS Think more the quickest intuitively way as F is for *Forbearance* again

[@JoshStreeter]

Many of the techniques you speak of would be something taught in NLP. Do you have any NLP training?

[@JimnesstarLyngdohNonglait]

Think N is for *Neuron* again Vs Think N is for *Nerve* again

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as a person who don't want others to bear for him... Vs Think more as a person who knows shouldering for others isn't alway a right job to live for

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more when I have nothing to deal with those who suspicious about me... Vs Think more when as wise the more every one negative of me, the more every one should look at themselves before pointing out to someone like me

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way as wise as how I shouldn't be fool always.. Vs Think more the hardest way no matter what like I trust myself more than why I shouldn't trust anyone

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as wise as satisfying ears, eyes, tongue, mind... Vs Think more as wise as with an intention not to hurt any one

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way as •Adjust the web browser's security settings Vs Think more the hardest way as •Download only from the trusted sources

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the hardest way as E is for Embroidery Vs Think more the hardest way as F is for Fabulous

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more although I may be tempted 90% by others or by self in a day . Vs Think more yet not to be fool by process of being ruined with what tempting me the most

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more the honesty way always... Vs Think more to fool not by what's makes me dishonest always

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as wise as how I know the opponents tactics Vs Think more as why would I screw up with them always

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as wise as how I repeatedly managed to bring up with new solutionative way to compromise with what I'm talking and thinking about... Vs Think more as wise as possible just like I never allowed my mind to rest while I'm working on what I'm specifically focus on

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

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[@hamfan1355]

Imaging using these to debate a Q-anon adherent.

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as QUICK REMINDER that I developed to remind myself in every moment that I wastedly think of something Vs Think more as RECOLLECTED precious memories that I shouldn't repeat the same unproductive habits that I need to Specify

[@jordmacaz6378]

I like this Very good advice👍

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Think more the hardest way as M is for Megapixels Vs Think more the hardest way as N is for Net-banking

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Think more the hardest way as wise as A is for Awhile Vs Think more the hardest way as B is for Behold

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more just as wise as how I stand with none... Vs Think more just as wise as how I trusted no one

[@wildnessinframe]

I was just searching for this song, Castlebeat - Change your Mind

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more until you was you way always... Vs Think more until originally me cannot be replace

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more still the sky hasn't faded to dark... Vs Think more there's more to be done

[@jimnesstarlyngdohnonglait3468]

Think more as wise as possible till 75.18% of a day... Vs Think more as wise as possible even if I hated or didn't like anyone in aday, it doesn't mean I pride-ly show-off but how my attitude reflects to virtuality as well as to reality