How to Wisely Choose a Partner Just Right FOR YOU

[@carlosmartinez9676]

Yes, waited 3yrs. for the Lord to send me the right godly woman He wanted me to be with. I had to be patient and it was hard but in the end it was worth it. 4 months we have been together and going well with the Lord at the center of our relationship!! I'm 64 and widowed. God is good all the time even through the wait.

[@Tony-DWK-56]

I applaud you Carlos. I am close in age as you. In my situation we've been friends for 2 years. I'm getting ready to ask her about moving forward. So I'm praying. hard. The very best to you.

[@KaylaSteele61]

1. Examine the reasons why you like the types of people you like. 2. Don’t give people time who don’t possess the minimum biblical requirements for dating and marriage 3. Value ongoing growth over current maturity. 4. Value conflict resolution skills over no conflict. 5. Start traveling in life the way you would want to travel when you have a partner.

[@roselyneakatukunda]

6. Choose someone who wants to choose you too. Do not chase any person for a relationship!

[@adiscourse9489]

I like the idea that we should, instead, focus ourselves on becoming the right kind of partner for someone else.

[@sirenamontreala.k.aelibatt4699]

This is what am doing now just focusing on bettering myself and love myself more

[@meekmeek8198]

Same, that's what I'm doing for myself as well. I refuse to settle. GOD'S GOT THE RIGHT MARRIAGE FOR ME, so I'm not obsessing or focused on it.

[@Strive1324L]

Too many people look for maximum requirements. They want the perfect person in attitude, looks, finances, everything. No wonder the number of singles gets bigger every year!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

true, big fan of the minimum requirements and then trying to enjoy people for who they are rather than who they are not. It's a relief when we are not so controlling and just more accepting. Of course we need some standards and preferences, but the less there are the easier it becomes to find someone

[@marilyncolon8696]

Thank you for this guidance!

[@teresathreatts4266]

I'm praying for a godly husband for 2023. I decided to write down everything that I am looking for. God wants us to be specific in what we're praying for. I also asked Him for patience as I wait on Him.

[@ashleighb997]

I am too and I did the same thing. A woman at my church was praying for me for this reason and she told me to write the qualities i desire in a husband ( like, do you want him to read the Bible with you, minister with you) and then to declare it in prayer.

[@alexkim7127]

"Start traveling in life the way you would want to travel when you have a partner." Very helpful.

[@karadaniel6334]

This is such a wonderful message! I’m ending a relationship with a non-believer, whom I love deeply, but our values don’t match and I can’t compromise. It’s been very painful, but this is confirmation that I’m doing the right thing. Keep up the great work!

[@RE-yj9ts]

I just did the same thing. I love him too and it is painful but it will be worth it to move forward in life in God’s will!

[@ISing4Jesus6353]

I am so thankful for you Mark! You are the only Godly relationship coach I have found online whose coaching is biblically based. Coming out of my widowhood and ready to receive whomever God has planned for me I want to make sure I'm doing things right, according to God's will. I haven't dated in so many years and your guidance has been so helpful. Wish I could find a Godly coach who has advice geared more toward widows and women my age (60) just because my situation is so different from the bulk of your audience.

[@ayomibh]

🥺♥️

[@annikaa1903]

I'm also widowed and really like the biblical relationship advice that Mark teaches. Yes, there are certain elements to being widowed, that are unique. I'm in widow groups on Facebook, but they are not all Christians. I don't mind because we are really supportive of one another. But I wouldn't go there for biblical advice. Many of them are Christians and wise. It's my support group. Haven't found a channel that has biblical teachings on how to date as a widow specifically, but I like you, find this channel very helpful. I'm 41. God bless you

[@adaugoanosike1276]

Oh yes … good to meet you all . I am 44 and widowed too. I know O’Neill find love again and want to please God in the process. May God help us and grant us our heart desires according to His perfect will

[@dirtcop11]

Relationships that don't get tested tend to be shallow. When you do get tested, you find out how strong your relationship is and how much each of you will resolve your differences. When you are willing to see the other side of an argument, that demonstrates actual love.

[@shellyspear]

Thank you for confirming my decision to end a 6 year relationship. #1-5 was 100 % him, #6 not so much. He wasn’t ready to choose me. So after lots of prayer I finally decided I could not wait any longer. It is so painful but it hurt more to stay holding on to a thread of hope that someday he would choose me.

[@noahbrewster8263]

Great video, my friend! Thank you I’m dating a Christian woman right now, and I am really praying for wisdom to discern and make sure we’ll be Biblically compatible and grow stronger in God with time. This helps a lot!

[@amiejackson4582]

God will protect me and I am truly grateful 0:23

[@fionam4934]

Wow, perfect timing! There were 2 guys - one very good looking but not in the will of God. The other a man of God but not necessarily my obvious choice. I was asking God for confirmation today and here it is.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

amen!

[@kevindavis4709]

I always say don’t go by good looks alone. One thing I learned is you gotta pay attention to are they on fire for God as much as you are? Will they pray with you? Will they take time too get too know your personality flaws, shortcomings? If you spend a good 3 months talking on the phone visiting each other trust me, you will learn a whole lot about that person because they bring honesty to the table. Another thing I learned are you ready for that person too say yes? There’s a whole lot that’s tied too a relationship than most people know about. God first than chemistry commitment, sharing things having the same similar hobbies. Is the key to a Godly marriage.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@kevindavis4709]

@UCIe4dJK8CHyhbyvCHJ03E0Q I tried in the past too find a wife at the time I was rejected more than excepted. I learned over the years of dos and don’t’s in marriage and things too look for from watching others bad choices and accomplishments

[@thelmasanders3269]

I agree with you Kevin Davis :-) Have a blessed and prosperous year :-)

[@kevindavis4709]

@@thelmasanders3269 thank you God bless you also have a blessed year also 🙂

[@anner6342]

As a senior (widow) beginning to date, I would appreciate content directed at how difficult this process is and ways no navigate relationships from a senior perspective.

[@karenhallen4445]

Have you found any resources for senior dating?? Please send me a message

[@theone7216]

This got to be for me I been haveing women coming after me .women I know not good for me .and I been turning them down. Lord keep giving me strength to so no intill the right one come one day.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@theone7216]

@@scottstinson1428 lol I'm alright sorry to here that hope you find one one day.

[@ninahotieno814]

Thank you so much for this massage,, recently i have decided to start dating since I have never been to any relationship, How I wish God to bless me with a a faithful husband who is born again christian,, Thank you so much God bless you

[@sirenamontreala.k.aelibatt4699]

After what happened last year of dating a christian narcissist I kinda lost hope but I know there's gana be one person real out there

[@thatoneguy3284]

These have literally been the steps our God has been putting me on. I didnt notice it until now. Thanks for following His spirit and making this video 🙏🏾

[@ivanav6697]

Woww! Your words are so powerful. They entered in my soul! I will need to listen to this video many times and apply what you said. I believe GOD has spoken to me through you. Thank you so much! 🙏

[@dianagentile7636]

Thank You 🙏🏽 Brother Mark ❤ Yes it’s ok 2 disagree 2 sides 2 a point…Smile 😁 Following GODS Commandments Stay Blessed Always & Peace 🙏🏽🙏🏼🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️‼️‼️‼️

[@dianaaavula4306]

Waiting for you master.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

He is worthy!

[@luk6316]

Really helpful video. Do you have any short videos that outline more clearly what it means to fulfil biblical roles of a man and women that address the diverse views on this. I very always felt its not always clear practly both in complementarian or egalitarian churches. Or maybe characteristic that a guy or girl should express if that is there view?

[@aliciaANDanthonySandoval]

Powerful message. God bless you all.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless you too!

[@SuperAnime4444]

Thank you. I am in the process of finding a potential wife (mostly due to my mother insisting I get married and give her grandchildren). So, this guideline will help.

[@richardsoderkvist6383]

Thank-you Pastor Mark for your video message talk.PraisecGos very good advice in the Lord .Amen.

[@ainiagav1141]

Blessed! ☺️ This is what I need at just the right time. God bless you Pastor Mark!

[@BLACKBALL777]

Points 1, 2, and 6 are what I can relate to as far as pursuing someone as I desire to date this friend of mine who I believe could potentially be the one although I'm not assuming she is the one. I'll explain as I go through each of the points that I relate to. For Point number one, I really like this person because one, she is a believer, two, she has the personality of an angel, 3, she accepts me for who I am, and for, we have similar goals and mutual interests. For your second point, I'm the exact opposite of the people you refer to as I feel as though the high amount of non-believers is a massive barrier in addition to my disability, my personal interests, and Trust Issues due to constant rejection. Even if I do meet someone who has a lot of mutual interests, I'm turned away if they are not a believer, though I would encourage them to come to Christ at the same time. As far as 6 goes, she admitted to liking me back, but she's discouraged given the fact that we live in different states although we've seen each other in person at least twice.

[@johngriffin2133]

"BE open minded to people who meet the minimum biblical requirements, but who you are not attracted to...." This does NOT work. This results in people getting hurt. Because you date people that you don't really like, hoping that your feelings change, but they never do, and the other person feels led on and hurt. I do not believe we should encourage men to date women that they are not interested in. It's unfortunate, but we have to prepare Christian men to stay single until God moves and brings them a woman they want.

[@landonpraught9170]

Wow was timely Mark thank you God bless you

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad this was timely Landon!

[@landonpraught9170]

Doing great thank you. Praise God to whom all blessing flow thank you. Thank you for your massage. GOD bless you.

[@landonpraught9170]

@@praisetashblessed7065 Thank you so much happy it was a blessing to you Keep close to Jesus. GOD BLESS YOU

[@praisetashblessed7065]

@@landonpraught9170 Amen n Amen it has blessed me too

[@vaneenusa1776]

This is SO good!! Thank you so much.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

You're so welcome! God is good!

[@richardsoderkvist6383]

Praise God

[@maricarbedonia]

Thank you God bless♥️💫

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God is good!

[@johnboyer9008]

Mark, my beautiful friend, Isn't it more important to be the right partner than to find the right partner? We can`t control other people. - john

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Yes, but it's not unimportant to know how to choose someone. It seems you are looking for this video topic: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bJLSooOZhryfpNE

[@celesteessel4500]

Thanks for the link!

[@louisasmiles]

I think i just want a kind man who reciprocates love and affection. Being a Christian is a bonus.

[@chavelapouchard]

Great practical wisdom , cause its from His Word...Thank you very much!

[@delna144]

Right! God bless you Mark!

[@christopherpayne8146]

Amazing thanks Mark.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@forerunness]

Wisdom❤🔥 thank you so much!

[@FatBellyChemist1234]

I have wasted time on the wrong person for 7 years this is gonna be humiliating but I have to go through this. Misheard from the Spirit.

[@krystalTiger]

So all good in theory… but in reality having lived these concepts have resulted in a life of forever still being single (now 45). I’ve proven I can do single, proven I can create a life walking before Him, proven I am willing to work on myself and walk the path…. but I am definitely not in any way naturally made / wanting to be single… doesn’t feel like choosing right has had its blessings. We also have the right to dream and want … it’s heartbreaking and confusing when this is a permanent status. I know so many guys simply not interested in marriage and/or made bad choices 10 years ago and can’t work out their own baggage to have a new opportunity. I’m very curious how old this speaker was when he got married.

[@yourstruleigh3323]

I can appreciate and I have felt the same in singleness. It's lonely and it's difficult for many reasons, but mainly because we question our value and Gods love because it feels like God hasn't answered prayer. However recently I have been learning from God that He values us more than anything, He supplies our needs and satisfies our desires, not necessarily by giving us our desires or even answering our prayers by giving what we want, but giving us a heart where we can say "..I shall not want". I think Gods love and value for us overwhelms any desire or any need. His grace is sufficient, His love is sufficient, His mercy sufficient. I bring nothing, nor am worthy of nothing, my hands are empty when I come to Him, I am bought with a price, and can only worship Him and try to be obedient to Him. We are not promised happiness or marriage. I bet your life is full of blessings God has given you, if you look, although it may not be the fulfillness of your desires. Be thankful for these blessings. Our God and Father let's us experience suffering or unanswered prayer, because It pleases Him that we trust Him and grow spiritually. It pleases Him and He is showing/teaching us to love Him above anything, to put Him first above our doubts, desires our depression, our sin and struggles. Dont doubt Gods goodness or resent Him for what we don't have, He alone will satisfy our soul and heart, if we but seek Him.

[@zacht.9585]

I just want to 2nd what the other person said. Being single isn't always easy. It can be a blessing, but it can also be a trial, and there's nothing wrong with that. A mentor once told me that I should be thankful for trials because of the character that God is developing in me. Think of how amazing your testimony will be when God finally brings someone into your life. Think of all the young women you can encourage as they are in their season of singleness longer than they wanted. God has a very specific plan for your life, and if you lean into it, you will find eternal pleasures at his right hand as it says in Psalm 16:11. And even in the meantime, you have the opportunity as a single person to SERVE in a capacity that you can't when you're married and have a family. When you have a family, your #2 and 3 priorities are your wife and kids, but as a single person, you can spend much more time serving the people around you. And TRUST me, the most attractive trait in a man or woman is one who serves wholeheartedly with joy :) May God bless you in your journey!

[@maggievada4797]

Wise words straight way.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

So glad it was helpful!

[@beverlycollins5715]

I been married before so I will wait until he passes all I want is a friend

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Most men are looking for more than a friend. God bless as you follow the Lord

[@lukyguy1240]

He stopped me. But I believe that the next woman will be my choice completely, so I must be wise. At the same time, he orders my steps, so I'm not worried about marrying the "wrong one."

[@thelmachiriga9371]

This is so helpful and I've met someone with atleast a few of those important things attributes needed in a Godly marriage. And he chooses me everyday such a sweet soul. I'm struggling with the physical attraction part ( he is not the kind of guy I'd be attracted to) and I'd really appreciate some advice on that. Thank you in advance:)

[@dirtcop11]

Remember this, looks don't last, but character often does.

[@thelmachiriga9371]

@@dirtcop11 thank you I'll always remember that...x

[@chillasfx3588]

@@dirtcop11 Great Advice

[@pattypatty1484]

Right!

[@zacht.9585]

I agree with the others that looks don't last. I'd also suggest to ensure he doesn't just affirm you, but is also able to challenge you (as Mark said in the video). I know I've made the mistake of falling for people that just make me feel good ("sweet souls"), but don't necessarily challenge me to become a more godly man. Just my 2 cents!

[@kellyredeemedbychrist4256]

Love it

[@marco13mag]

Mark. How can I figure out number 1 about examining the reasons I like the type of people. Can you explain that more?

[@rachelsharp7495]

Mark I know you gotta video for it lol. So what exactly are the biblical roles for marriage for a women and man?

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Believe it or not, I don't have that exact video yet, lol! But I do talk about the roles here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aqHKg6aYe5iajas

[@raeh8479]

Will God make a way for those who don’t have “millions of options” to choose from when it comes to finding a spouse? If single men/women have no one to even choose from, what do we do then?

[@graceelizabeth4070]

What are the Biblical requirements? Where are they mentioned in the Bible.

[@agnesr.4664]

Trying to not put someone in friend zone I like to get to know. The interest might be even mutual. Any tips on how to behave in a holy way to send the right signals?

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

group activities/gatherings help. One on one expresses interest

[@djmandyland]

What would you say about someone who is interested in Christianity but has never been led to it until they met you? Would you say walk away or just use discernment to help lead them into it?

[@indyd9322]

How do you even find a godly partner? The times I've gone to church, the people are either senior citizens (no offense to older folks) or already married.

[@qwickvids1140]

Number 4. We had many conflicts and alot of conflicts unresolved. But also being disrespected when trying to resolve conflicts had made me leave her. There was many unresolved conflicts that kept bubbling over time. So i had enough. So does number 4 really make sense in my situation?

[@kevinjohnson6259]

Mark, dawg I had the perfect Christian woman and I was too foolish and blew my opportunity at getting to know her because of my dumb, stupid, childish games. Now I don't know if I will ever get another chance at finding a genuine Christian woman because they are just so rare.

[@zacht.9585]

Hey man, I just want to encourage you because I've been in a similar situation. If you lean into God and pursue him, he will eventually reveal to you many godly women. May God bless you on your journey!

[@beverlinefrancis8294]

Many of us are going to stay single, or go outside of the church to find partners because genuine Christian men are very hard to find, I am tired of searching and they always say wait on God but is God going to drop him in our laps

[@kevindavis4709]

There’s Godly men out there but very far few in between just like Godly women are still out there but few in between. Depending on shallowness is what keeps most of us from w blessing God has in store for us

[@pattypatty1484]

I know where to find all the men and I ain't telling 😂

[@ElephantMousexyz]

My question is it a sin that to prefer certain facial looks or hair color? Some people are extremely limited and have high standards the way they are. Is that a sin?

[@GalaxyFrequencyRadio]

From my experience and from scripture; based on Isaac and Rebecca, Ask the Lord for YOUR MATE, if you're serious on finding your mate from the foundations of the earth, and I can assure you HE will send YOUR MATE to YOU. That is faith trusting when you pray they will come right away and everything will be confirm that they are from the Lord. There is no trial and error here. Also Jesus told us to guard our hearts from wickedness, not from loving. 💯🕊️🙌

[@fitandmoody1012]

I hear lots of videos about this subject which is great but where’s the video about what to do if you do marry the wrong person. If God told you not to marry this person and you did it anyway. Because of disobedience you lost Gods Peace while living with stress and anxiety everyday because you know deep down this person is not for you. I been praying, reading and crying out to God every single day about this. Begging for forgiveness for not listening to the Holy Spirit when he was trying warn me. Mark Please help me with this subject. God Bless 🙏

[@jamesdavidson676]

Too bad God didn't stop me the first time.

[@tylerhewlett4124]

Amen! ✝️❤️😇

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@tracyoguntokun4284]

Amen 🙏✝️🙏♥️

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless Tracy!

[@geffwy4293]

amen

[@ninocoley5721]

Can you get remarriage after divorce?

[@michaelvantuinen503]

mark when I watch these for knoleage of this topic however I'm filled with anxiety whats going on it happens more and more often I'm little confused.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Not sure. Your feelings are for you to manage. You could be anxious because you are not doing something, like when you procrastinate on a school project you feel anxious. Or perhaps you are putting too much pressure on yourself. If the videos are not helpful, I would not watch them :) 1 Peter 5:7 :)

[@zoloswaqqer]

❤❤❤❤😊

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God is good!

[@nathaliealcantarana]

The example he gave for wanting the person that ignores you is wrong. We are all susceptible to good marketing. That's why the commercial and advertising Industry does certain tactics to get you to buy their products. God was simply telling us not to fall for these advertising tactics because we will regret it once we buy into that person and realize that their advertising was false advertising and super enhanced compared to the quality that they honestly have. Like when you buy an Amazon product made in China and in the pictures it looks so good but then you get the product and you have to hassle with the poor quality and returning it and it becomes a nuisance. Then you realize you should've went with the more expensive well known brand that has been proven to be of good quality Or how you see all these KZbin advertisements saying to buy their program now because the deal offering is too good turn down and it won't be around for long. There are more men and women that invest their time and energy in being extremely good advertisers but have nothing to offer than there are men and women who actually have something to offer and invest their energy and time in having something good to offer instead of the advertisement part. God advises us to look past the advertisement or learn all these ways others get suckered into. Nothing to do with past wounds, more like human nature and patterns that are easy to exploit and manipulate

[@pattypatty1484]

@kevindavis Nobody asked y'all opinions 😜

[@LadyParisien]

This is so well said. Thank you! I wish I had this many years ago when I was looking for my husband. Grateful to be able to share this channel with others. Really appreciate the material God leads you to post. It's been such a blessing. 🙏🏻🙌🏻📖🤍

[@nnnnnnnnnataliem]

I'm always looking forward to listening to these videos, even though I've found who I think is a great person and the right person for me, I still like to check myself and these videos confirm a lot but help me challenge my choice ;) Peace 🕊️🤍