10 Ways to Deal with Embarrassment

[@changobeatz7648]

My entire life is a cringe compilation. I just CANT get these moments out of my head and is taking over my very being. This video helped a lot man. Thanks! 👍🏼

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

My pleasure. Glad it was helpful.

[@denisejko8791]

I swear exactly

[@m.muhtadi7769]

Same man🙁

[@desibritish955]

Same here chango beatz

[@insertname6528]

Same 😬

[@davidcrane4226]

What Im about to tell you is quite simple: LEARN TO LAUGH AT YOURSELF! The older you get, and the more you grow to love yourself, the easier it is to bounce back from embarrassing moments. We all have them! And no one is above anyone else. Life is gonna go on. And dont forget life is too short and fragile so enjoy every moment! Im your brother and I love you all!

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

It’s true.

[@Explanation_girl]

But in my class my stomach making noise it's so embarrassing what can I do. I don't know. I know i need help

[@nicolea1441]

i have a stutter and i stuttered so bad during the presentation

[@jabbersinc6218]

@@nicolea1441 man my last public speech was so cringe, know you're not alone. I hate how schools force everyone to take public speaking, treating it like it's a requirement to survive. No, some people are natural followers, some natural leaders, and that's ok. I'm now on a public committee and in the real world, you can be in a leadership position like this without being a great public speaker. Schools should teach that instead of stomping all over people who don't do well on a stage.

[@andreac980]

It does work!

[@ellen4331]

I SAID SOMETHING IN CLASS THAT I REGRET AND IM NOW EMBARRASED.. THANK YOU FOR THIS VIDEO!

[@your_cat_boi7055]

I was playing kick ball and all of the people were boys and I went to kick the ball and tripped 😭

[@shroomshrom]

I was singing and playing an instrument in a zoom assembly and I didn’t realise I wasn’t on mute 😭😭😭😭😭

[@nyshanamibiana3597]

I made a spam and sent it to the wrong person holy shit I feel embarrassed

[@t.scognamiglio858]

Same it was years ago and I still think about it 😂

[@uhh-kira0.02]

i had an anxiety attack while i was unmuted and it was about my teacher prying for info and i cussed and when she finally stopped it was because i had been saying "STOP" over and over omg i probably left a bad impression

[@Daisha92]

I feel like I've been embarrassed all my life

[@janetdexplorer88]

Same here...

[@Craftingbyshizanoor]

Me to this hurts alot

[@hamster.-.7942]

true

[@hamster.-.7942]

Embarrassment I am going through rn is ruining my day every time I remember

[@eventplanner461]

@@hamster.-.7942 Fr, I'll be having a good day and then I will randomly remember something embarrassing and get a strong pang of pain.

[@destinysmith2933]

Didn’t think I would have to search up “how to deal with embarrassment”… I’m human

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Embarrassment is universal.

[@jaylogchannel9067]

Badly need this right now. My situation getting worse everyday and it makes me scream everytime I remember my cringy moments.

[@sakshisharma9702]

Hey u feeling OK? I relate with what you're saying

[@wasabi_seaweed7317]

Same thoughhhh

[@gianna526]

Sameee. I hugged a friend and he felt uncomfortable. He said it was ok before I did it and I already apologized and he said it was ok, but I still feel so bad about it.

[@deekshaverma1591]

Embarrassment is the cause of action. Its only embarrasing when you think what others would think...

[@hamnashah6962]

I mistakenly show middle finger in family gathering 😭😭and now I am dying of embarrassment

[@deekshaverma1591]

@@hamnashah6962 I think you should take it as a lesson😅 and not do it in other much important places like your workplace, institutions etc...

[@manelzaoui7576]

At work I did something no one ever did before I managed to transfer to this department and everyone were like how did u do that for years we couldn’t and then a mistake happened during transfer and they said I must go back to previous department , it’s extremely embarrassing for me now to go back it’s like a rejection , they made out a fool of me I honestly don’t think I can do it and I think I should quit

[@Morale_Booster]

I just experienced an embarrassing moment at work today! I laughed it off but inside I was feeling so much shame. It helped me just now to ask myself: "did my (embarrassing) actions hurt anyone involved?" The answer was no, in fact I made everyone around me laugh. Probably out of discomfort, but still, I was the only one who felt hurt from it. And that helped a lot to realize nobody else was harmed! In my mind, I imagine everyone is so uncomfortable they feel hurt by MY embarrassing situation, but this is just not the case. If anything they felt better about themselves after seeing me do something embarrassing haha! And I'm okay with that :)

[@suawesome7852]

This was me at work today.

[@Maedley.Haphenheim]

Brilliant! 👍 Thanks for the comment 😊

[@singingfl876]

I literally say the most awkward things and it's soooo embarrassing to look back on 😩😩🤣

[@kaiipop4762]

Frrr same 😭😭🤧

[@dianabernier3543]

Dude 😫

[@holder2024]

The best thing about this video 5 years later is that everyone has embarrassing moments and when things happen to you, you realize your not alone and that in itself makes me feel a lot better. We're all human!

[@tamiz8895]

Honestly most people don’t care enough beyond the moment to recall anything about an embarrassing situation UNLESS it was really heated or caused something out of the ordinary to occur. It’s easy to get wrapped bc up in one’s own feelings and thoughts. Write down what is bothersome to you about your obsession with it, maybe your fears and anger about the moment and then tear it up, burn it, bury it or whatever it takes and let it go. You have much more important things to worry about in life than some random cringe ego-bruising moment that is over and done. And if people do bring it up later, just say something like “I don’t recall that, but yes it is kinda cringe, but we all have cringe moments and we all move forward anyway, right?” Then change the subject or remove yourself. If they continue to poke fun at you about it, I would ask them why they are so obsessed about that moment, why they can’t move on from it. It shifts the cringe moment to them, hopefully that’s enough to stop it.

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

I think you’re really right about this. Often we obsess about these momentary humiliation’s for a long time, but the people who witnessed the humiliation forget about it pretty quickly. We have to learn to forget about it just as quickly. But our ego is so injured that we hang onto it.

[@GameArchiver19]

Thank you man! I sent some pics to girl who I thought she loves me but she leaked it to my whole class😭this helps honestly

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

That’s awful. I’m sorry that happened to you.

[@dingus7081]

Its important to note that embarrassment is a completely normal human emotion, and it happens to everyone all the time. Even if it doesn't seem like it does. That's just how life is 😅

[@aname8864]

I wasn't the best guy in the past and looking back it's so embarrassing now. It's hard to deal with this...I keep remembering things that makes me cringe.

[@TheMarissaStevens]

Drunkenly texted somebody something way too romantic and they weren’t ready for it, scared them into retreat. (Sober me doesn’t even agree with what I’d said!) this vid gave me a lot of good tips to move on. Especially the presenting pearls to swine one! Ha!

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Happy to be of assistance!

[@aname8864]

I know that this comment is a year old..but im facing the same situation...it's so embarrassing

[@RR-fn6dm]

Oh gosh! I made a inappropriate comment to someone and drunk text weird stuff to someone else. Reading everything was cringy. I feel like such a creep. I’m just gonna give everyone space and hope for the best.

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

A simple apology can also work wonders. We’ve all been there.

[@equinox6944]

I did the same thing. I said some things that were not even true while I was tipsy/ drunk and the crazy thing is that the sober me doesn’t even agree with what I had said. Now I keep reliving the situation and I can’t stop being overwhelmed by absolute embarrassment. The worst thing is when you work with these people. I’m not sure how I can come back from this.

[@noonoonakapoo]

My most embarrassing moment is that I was VERY VERY wrong in a situation that I was ADAMANT I was correct in.

[@chloedavita]

my god same

[@krystalmcp3048]

Be a man and own up to it. That's the only way to get back real respect.

[@pranjaltupe6251]

I am that embarrassed I don't want to search 'How to overcome embarrassment'

[@lorenalorena7078]

What happened?

[@azzazz3096]

Everyone in class knew I'm a National student officer and an Honor Society Officer but I was not able to answer easy accounting questions consecutive times in an oral recitation and the memory keeps haunting me in my dreams because I behave inconsistently with the personality I've been trying to project aaaaaaa. that was very embarrassing but the situation humbled me. thanks for this video.

[@muhammadwijayanto17]

Dude samee i have a accountin class and even i cannot answer my professors question in front of my class mates😂

[@sle2979]

I wish I could say this helps but nothing ever does with me. Ever since I was a kid my face explodes and it's ruined my life

[@flourishorji6681]

Shared a testimony in church today of close to a thousand & I spent time talking irrelevances that the whole church was irritated...Learnt this from close family members after the service...Feel soo mortified...My sister even said I embarrassed her...Thanks for this vid

[@sarahsalama]

♥️

[@_mushuxbail3y_77]

How’d you bounce back

[@shellyeditsalot]

you know it's bad when your sister says you embarrassed her 😭. hope this is nothing but a distant memory now 💫

[@worldconstructionhistory7913]

Just from personal experience, I think owning up to your mistakes can help. If people can tell you're lying or trying to play something you did off, you'll lose some of their trust. If you just own up to it saying, "Yeah I shouldn't have done that", people might understand and maybe even be glad that you owned up to it.

[@gigigem5631]

Made me feel safe, thank you) I really take way too long to get over such moments

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

You're welcome 😊

[@fieryblaze1737]

OMG so do I. It’s a mind torture.

[@sleepycadaver9556]

okay this made me feel better about my embarrassing moment.

[@IbarraAlejandro]

Same but I get cringe attacks now l can't seem to escape from it my past is torturing me I was dancing in front of a lot or people and my family it went wrong my skirt fell off accidentally while dancing.. it was so embarrassing 😭😭😭😢😢😢😢 back on 2016

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

You have to realize that we’re all fools. It’s a miracle when we don’t make fools of ourselves. We shouldn’t think of embarrassment as the exception to the rule. Instead we should be surprised and thrilled by any interaction where we don’t make fools of ourselves. When we achieve the appearance of normalcy, that should be celebrated. But it is an achievement. It’s not the default state. The default state is to come across more or less like an idiot. The more we get this into her head, the less we’ll be troubled by embarrassment.

[@study4388]

I use to not care what others think bout me now depression anxiety hits me I start to feel that embarrassment of my life

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

What have you tried so far to overcome these feelings? What has been helpful?

[@study4388]

@@HowCommunicationWorks just think positive telling yourself its okay we all not perfect

[@nyshanamibiana3597]

I know what you’re talking about I just did something embarrassing and I’m going to blame my sister now

[@king-uf1wu]

@@nyshanamibiana3597 what did you do?

[@widehotep9257]

The embarrassments you mention are all minor. Where is a video for dealing with HUGE embarrassments? Like for adult film stars who regret their past? Or reformed criminals who are guilty of the worst crimes?

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

I haven’t made a video for those sorts of issues. And I wouldn’t call those embarrassments. More like scandals or shame or deep humiliation.

[@widehotep9257]

@@HowCommunicationWorks The personal reactions to shame and embarrassment are subjective. For example, many students have committed suicide over the shame of a bad grade, while most would never consider this. Therefore, what you dismiss as a minor "embarrassment" could feel like a major, life-ending scandal in the mind of a more sensitive person. I wish you would explore the larger issues of embarrassment and shame. I feel you only scratched the surface of a massive emotional iceberg. Ultimately, these emotions exist only in our minds. But they are so powerful that they can lead to depression and suicide. Many people suffer internally from these feelings, but pretend not to. The reactions and effects of shame and embarrassment are highly variable between individuals. For example, one person might feel great shame for being seen naked, while another person enjoys nude beaches and feels absolutely no shame for being without clothes. The only "solution" seems to be gaining the ability to control our thoughts and emotional reactions. However, this is much harder than it appears. Feelings of shame, embarrassment, and guilt are driving motivations of many drug addicts, who take heroin or drink excessive alcohol to numb their internal pain. And many "legalized" drug addicts take powerful prescription medicines to mask the pain of these exhausting internal demons. You make good videos. I hope you take on the challenge of exploring this issue in order to help people live better lives.

[@chesterlester5770]

Mate it’s not that deep, you don’t realise how anxious people can feel over small things because others can come across so judgmental

[@widehotep9257]

@@chesterlester5770 It is amazing how much we need human approval to feel accepted and good. Shame and embarrassment come from feeling bad about what other people think of us, or fearing the reactions of others.

[@buttercroissant1278]

@@chesterlester5770 forreal me with my anxiety would not stop thinking of a small mistake i did while my sister would laugh at me for overreacting

[@themanofthebook]

I don't know if this will help anybody but I'm going to go ahead & share my recent embarrassing moment: I was on a large grass turf that was situated in-between a walking path & a neighborhood. It was around 8:30pm & I was sitting with my gf on a picnic blanket & because I thought nobody was around or near us, I made the poor decision of wrapping my leg around her. A few minutes latter, a car drives slowly down the neighborhood street next to the field & it comes to a stop. The woman driving the car rolls down her window & begins to yell at us from across the field. Basically she was saying that what were doing is crazy & out of line because there are children & families in that neighborhood. We of course immediately respond by sitting upright & apart from one another cause we both feel bad & embarrassed about the situation. Instead of driving away though, she screams at us to get up, leave & 'finish our business elsewhere'. I Immediately apologized & got up with my gf & left asap. It was even more embarrassing considering the fact we are both Christians & we have never had yk for obvious reasons. We obviously weren't planning to afterwards either, so her assumption about that just really hurt & embarrassed me. I just feel awful though cause it felt like a personal attack on our faith in regards to us looking like an inappropriate couple. On top of that she was 100% right & I've committed to making a serious change to both our public & private boundaries, even if we are "alone". It's also just 100% my fault & its been really hard not to think about it. Did I mention that her son (that looked about my age) was in the car with her? Also there was a group of kids apparently present the entire time which adds on to the personally responsible hurt & embarrassment. In summary, I pray that nobody, not even my biggest enemies, have an embarrassing moment as bad as mine

[@user-dreamyjc..]

I just run from a situation, embarrassing myself some more. Was in attending online class and I took my cellphone to bathroom to not miss anything important and forgot to mute myself🤦 People heard me peeing.. lol i had to withdraw from that situation 😅

[@crystaldreams3978]

Oh damn.

[@nadyazify]

@@user-dreamyjc.. that’s funny but don’t be so hard on yourself. If I was there listening I’d do a little giggle and move on, never really thinking about you peeing again in my life lol.

[@donsenhove79]

Hahah 😂that was very fun

[@tdoublejr]

I had something shockingly embarrassing happen to me today at my boxing gym. Let’s just say I will never train in white shorts again LOL. My coach noticed, and brought it to my attention privately. I had pants to change into and I continued. The panic feeling was to leave immediately in shame. I thought about ending my membership and never returning. But hey, it’s over. It will never happen again and those feelings will pass.

[@Lucindva]

I can sleep at ease now haha. Thank you. I love watching your videos!

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Thank you, Lucinda.

[@jabbersinc6218]

Ironically I found overtime that humiliating situations helps with my severe social anxiety. It seems to teach my primitive ape mind that "the lion isn't going to eat you" after all.

[@PeaceBeStill-]

Good perspective! So true👍🏾

[@ruvindifernando3356]

I made a fool out of myself today when doing an impromptu debate and got stuck mid-argument for about 10-15 seconds…it was so embarrassing that my cheeks were super red….I just cannot stop thinking about it…so I’m searching for these kind of videos that’ll help me at least get over this. This advice is pretty good though.😣😖😫

[@unknown-qt5kl]

U know what when something embarrassing happened with us...it's only us who are thinking about it again and again..other people not even remember it at all...so it's okay and trust me it was not that embarrassing...

[@muhammadwijayanto17]

Same i look for this video, because my professor ask me a question and i can’t answer in front all of my class mates

[@grapeymelon8342]

The exact same thing happened to me today! Everyone at this event including people younger than me were so articulate whilst presenting their arguments and I couldn’t even formulate a single understandable statement. I’ve been crying about it all day.

[@nobiiikaa]

I opened my mic without realizing it and then I said something super embarassing so now I'm crying because of embarrassment😭

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Oh my. These are the hazards of zoom life.

[@nobiiikaa]

@@HowCommunicationWorks FR

[@aname8864]

@@nobiiikaa be glad you didn't farted 😂😁😁😂🤣

[@theresamccoy123]

Same 😭

[@cheriekat]

My classmate forgot he had his camera on while he was having sex with his girlfriend during online class 💀

[@kaylagrace1047]

I’m so embarrassed I don’t want to go to school tomorrow 😭 I’m so scared

[@Explanation_girl]

Why

[@AmarSingh-qq4xf]

No one even care who you are They are just busy in their business , i also sufferd from this situation today

[@Yunhwaluvr_c]

Praying to not get embarrassing moments anymore, this is my resolution as of the moment 😞

[@swiftie4ever318]

One day ago, I sang in a singing contest for the first time but i was so scared that i couldn't performe my best. I grew very embarrassed and that moment scarred me. Seeing such videos makes me feel secure actually and i get that embarrassing yourself is natural but it's definitely very saddening.

[@passangsherpa4242]

You and me have the same embarrassing moments ....I sang just now and I literally ruined the first partttttt...my mom made a video and that's even worsee... I watch that video over and over again to satisfy myself but that dosen't work out ........I am soooo embarassed like I want cry my heart outttt...

[@metanoian965]

When there is no social gain or no social position to maintain - there is no embarrassment. What is there to lose ? Whose Ego is it anyway ? Who are you, Crud ? Why are stranger's, [another's], thoughts more important ? They Think whatever pleases them.

[@diyaslice5835]

Thank you so much for uploading this :) I just made a fool of myself in my office meeting. My manager was welcoming a new employee and said "she is from the best college in the world", I laughed soon after this because the reason my manager said this was because she is from the same college that he was from, and he was her professor. I laughed thinking he is just boasting. Because this college is just an average one. But I just did not think of how this new employee must have felt when I laughed. I am feeling terrible. I think I ll go apologize to her tomorrow if I might have hurt her unknowingly.

[@franceslee8194]

Sounds like no big deal to me. What did you do? Did you apologize?

[@diyaslice5835]

@@franceslee8194 I did. I told her that i did not mean to hurt anyone.

[@6699s]

Deep insides she agrees with you lol and your boss either

[@kobbyfourthman161]

As the newest member of my church i offered to transport members to their homes with the church bus. Had a little difficulty driving cos it was my first time with the bus. Upon returning to the church premise i nearly broke the church gate when i was entering and the body scraped the gate pillar. Everyone rushed to the incident including the pastor and I felt so embarassed i wished the earth could swallow me up. Bee almost 2 days now and the incident keeps popping up in my head every now and then. I'm really not well

[@Niuniany]

Hope you feel better by now ❤️Embarrassing things happen to everyone🙂

[@homiekeen23]

Is just accepting it also a valid mechanism? Like just saying "oops", or simply apologising "oh sorry I didn't realise", or "yeah, that wasn't the best", etc.... These seem much better to me, it always looks weird when people keep trying to deflect or deny what happened etc... 🤔

[@xXxSkyViperxXx]

only if the other people are ok with that and this varies per individual, community, or even culture. there are people who implicitly demand perfection and run off or reject u for the slightest acceptance of mistake

[@silyaghanawi3459]

thankk youuu!! i was just dancing and practicing my lines for my school preformence and my mom walked in and just silently laughed at me i just wanted to dig a hole stright to France anyways this helped so much :)

[@yokogur]

Today my teacher told me to read a paragraph and when I was reading my voice decided to crack at every word and everyone was laughing lmao I was feeling so embarrassed 😭

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Oh no.

[@Yulia.chandrika]

Mine is worse. It has to do with period blood. Cant even tell the story. But ....🙈🙈🙈 cant even sleep. It happened today. I dont easily feel embarassed.but this time... I felt so so embarrassed. 😢😢😢 About your presentation... I want to say this is quite normal! I think it happens to everybody at least once in life.

[@sunnydproductions3850]

that’s nothing compared to what happened to me

[@singularitae8846]

Smth similar happened to me today The teacher asked me to read and I wasn't paying attention and read the wrong part :')

[@yasmineoullai6679]

I can't relate to anyone in the comment section cause my embarassing moment was almost traumatic and dramatic too , it's something that i think of absolutely everyday , it hurts , it costed me my reputation and some family members ,i regret that day so much , sometimes i wish i could disappear cause im so ashamed of myself

[@Brandon-tz5pn]

well now I wanna know what happened

[@luckyduckydaisyflower2344]

I too feel permanently humiliated

[@yasmineoullai6679]

@@Brandon-tz5pn hahahah okey, it was my uncle's wedding, I was very excited, cause I never have the opportunity to party and have fun and to dance.. Etc plenty of my friends used to take pills 💊 but I never tried them, and when the occasion presented (my uncles wedding) I decided to try them, at first i was really having fun but by the very end of the wedding I did some sort of an overdose... I did some other shit but that is the most embarrassing and shittiest thing I did, that's it

[@patrickdoherty4527]

I had a really embarrassing moment today (forced to do an impromptu dance... yep) and I needed to hear this. Many thanks!

[@HabitualLover]

This is an excellent video. I’m so thankful for the info.

[@guddddd4242]

Thanks man this made me heal a lot. This kinda made me happy at the end that i can avoid it instead of getting scared

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Glad I could help

[@ChinmoyDas174]

Today a new English teacher was assigned in our school...and she somehow found out I was the quietest kid in the whole class..now she aims to make me the most confident and talktive person.. although it may sound nice...This process includes infinite no. Of embarassment...and I had like a thousand..in the first day itself..🙂the problem is when I start overthinking about the embrassing situations...I hope I can survive the last 6 months of my school...

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

That sounds really rough. If it’s any consolation, when I’m afraid I’ve made a fool of myself or that I might make a fool of myself, I remind myself that I’m already a fool (we all are). When I humble myself in that way, I feel much less vulnerable to embarrassment. I think: so I made a fool of myself again. What’s new?

[@ChinmoyDas174]

@@HowCommunicationWorks thanks for the advice.. fighting ✊🏻

[@haistapaska20]

Let’s develop a culture where this video becomes obsolete

[@GroundWave]

Embarrassed about my single status in my mid 30s. Was out to breakfast with family and the waitress my family knew asked if I had a girlfriend yet.

[@Yulia.chandrika]

This is not something to be embarassed at all. I am 25 and I know people who is 23 and feel too old to be single, also people who is in their 40s and are happy to be single. You choose it! I also know a lot of people who got married in their late thirties and had kids in their early 40s like my own parents and who have been very happy. Its not the when its the how! I guess you are.from America bcs people there are very strict about the rules of what you should do at every age. I just wanna let you know its not like that everywhere in the world. The waitress asks bcs she is borred and needs to think about somebody elses life, or bcs she finds you atractive, or bcs she needs to fill up her mind with something else than her job. Thats it! I would say you can sometimes also politely not answer it! Believe me you will be happier if you break the rules and just focus on loving yourself and finding real love just bcs you feel like and not bcs "its time". My embarassament is the actual terrible thing 😂🙈 can't tell the story but it has to do with my period 😬 and it is so embarassing. Its quite absurd actually its a natural biological thing, but for some reason it ws a huge embarassament for me and now I cant sleep thinking about it. Anyway... I guess I will not be embarassed forever 😥

[@GroundWave]

@@Yulia.chandrika thank you for the kind words! I am definitely working on getting out of these mental grooves. It’s so true you build things up to a ridiculous level where are you shouldn’t worry. But the same thought patterns can be intrusive. You definitely have to actively work on it every single day!

[@Yulia.chandrika]

@@GroundWave I get it! I had to work on it in some other areas of my life. But believe after a long time working on it , it doesnt feel anymore like a daily effort. It comes naturally. Your paterns become already shaped diferently. Good luck in your path!

[@Morale_Booster]

I find this concept really interesting! I know people who grew up with that socialization, made to feel as though being single was shameful or there must be something wrong with you if that's the case. But I (and many others I know) grew up where this is simply not even thought about or discussed! Like it never crosses my mind the correlation between someone's relationship status and their worth/value. Funny cultural stuff :) anyway yeah of course there is absolutely nothing wrong about you if you're single! You are perfect just as yourself 💕

[@joeeolea2106]

This guy is a very humble guy he's a nice guy thank you for your help 🇩🇴🇺🇸

[@sagenosnibor9173]

Drawing from I absolutely love your take on this what a way to spend the perspective!

[@tiffany_jones_art]

This video has really helped me. Thank you so much!

[@usur0220]

Thank you Bruce L. Lambert!!!

[@jaquelinemontalvao9255]

Great video, in my case, I had a crush on a guy from the bus, I was too much nervous to talk to him so I decide to write a note with my number and give to him. So, I did write the note, gave to him withou saying a word (yeah, I know, it looks like a creep) then I got off the bus (I strategically choosed to give him when I was close to my stop to avoid his reaction). I spent the rest of the day anxious waiting for him to text me and he didn't sent, this happened about 6 days ago , we didn't meet again cause in the next day I didn't went to work, day after I left work late, no work at weekend and yesterday I lost one of the buses. Anyway, I'm so embarassed but I decided that, if I see him again I will pretend that nothing happened and If he comes asking for an explanation I will apologize to him.

[@ChristinaCircelli]

Thank you brother 🙏

[@loloke.7389]

im 13 and my little brothers friend (which I absoulutely hate) spent the night twice in a row. I was telling my older cousin about it and my grandfather was there as well, and sarcastically went "best 2 nights of my life". I immediately realized what I said sounded horribly wrong and both started laughing. I tried to laugh it off as well, but it just cringed me so hard bc im 13 and that girl is like 6. thanks for this! im feeling better just letting it out.

[@lorenalorena7078]

Im deeply humiliated when I think back 3 summers ago I was at a basketball game. It was a nice hot summer and it took place outside, so I sat on the bleachers (it was packed)...I felt extra beautiful that day because earlier I got hair done at the salon. As I sat there with my head held high, feeling on top of the world...I hear a deep voice screaming "YO WATCH OUT!!" and the basketball whipped me SQUARE in the face. I had to smile and say "oh thats alright" and I passed the players the ball like everything was okay. I tried to hold my tears back that wanted to fall from being hit with a dirty basketball in the nose....yes....people were still staring at me in shock. I sat there with my head still high. (I couldn't lose face). I felt my lip swelling..I know people saw it swelling. I sat there with my head held high until the game was over and everyone left the park. Then cried when I got home.

[@ennaira0.0]

An embarrassing memory just popped into my head so I searched for vids like this and I'm super greatful that i did❤❤ The comments also comforted me a lot and made me realize I'm not alone in experiencing this kind of things. Love you everyone💗🙃 and thank you Sir for the great vid!

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Glad I could help!

[@donsenhove79]

The more you get embarrassed the more you be real with yourself

[@Maverick19959]

Today my colleague asked me to go get some supplies from a cabinet which was in a different room than our section. Cabinet didn’t have any sticker that would suggest we can’t take supplies from there and while we were checking pens and notebooks a lady came and said: “excuse me! Can I help you!!!” In a tone that made us feel like we are thief! I felt badly embarrassed and I don’t think I’d ever can go to that section of office ever again!

[@activate__motivation]

man so great 2nd time watching it ,,,,multiple of them applied on me ......

[@inook3i]

my whole school year has been so embarrassing i try not to do things but they end up happening anyway and it makes me look so bad ☹️

[@igot7armytaekook308]

Me searching for hours on this subject after finding out my zoom camera was on during class and my face so close…..TOO close to the camera

[@missclaymsdavis8640]

This happened to me just yesterday! I was presenting a training module to a group of organizational leaders who are educated, articulate, and possess a broad vocabulary.. I was taliking about an exchange between two people where the conversation resulted in one person being offended. I couldn't think of the correct term so I kept.referring to them as "the offended" and "the one who offended" rather than the "offended" and the "offender". Plus the wrong slide was shown, I lost my train of thought and completely forgot what I was to do/say next. I felt embarrassed, unprepared, and uneducated in the moment My cedibilty certainly took a hit and I felt foolish! I didn't hear it mentioned in the video, but is asking the audience a strategy?. I guess I could've said that the term escaped me and asked for help. Do you think that's a good strategy?

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

I think that would have been fine under the circumstances.

[@Morale_Booster]

I think that's a great strategy! I always prefer people to just be honest about their mistakes/challenges than to play it off or gaslight everyone else. It's endearing to show your humanity and say "oops, that wasn't perfect!"

[@georgia4549]

Was drunk and told people at a party I was a diagnosed psychopath???!!! Someone pls help and explain why I did this and help me get over it!!

[@aryahikasbekar8105]

I experienced a embarrassing movement today this video helped a lot😊

[@MrTeff999]

Most of these strategies are so obviously disingenuous that one should be doubly embarrassed for using them. We all do embarrassing things from time to time. The best strategy is to not let your ego get the better of you, show some humility, apologize when appropriate, then move on.

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

And yet, disingenuous or not, this is what people do.

[@bonne_vie]

Agreed! This video is terrible advice. This video should be titled "how to spot when someone is embarrassed because they tell these lies."

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

@@bonne_vie Sometimes we don’t like it when the patterns in our own behavior are mirrored back to us. But it’s a perfectly natural impulse to try to minimize embarrassment or loss of face. We all do it. In fact, we help each other do it. This is called cooperation in face work.

[@nascarcricketer4702]

For me I have a high tolerance with embarrassment so I don’t find everything that embarrassing. A lot of the time, I think that i won’t see the people I embarrass myself in front of again. Some of my friends disagree, so what do you guys think is right?

[@aishwaryanair2460]

I overthink everything in a nanosecond that eventually leads me to many problems. Today, I faced such a situation while asking for a job vacancy in a company. He asked me a basic, simple question, but I ended up overthinking it and answered something hogwash. It made me feel so embarrassed that after talking to him I was lamenting the same thing while he was still on the call. Later did I realize, that he was still on the call. I forgot to cut the call out of anxiety.

[@PracticalInspiration]

Great video, this is brilliant and a slight change from communication skills (but also still very much related)

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Thank you. And thanks for always taking the time to leave a comment. I so appreciate it. I think this is still in the realm of communication skill, because I define communication skill very broadly as including all aspects of self-presentation and identity management. I guess I think I’m teaching intersectional skills as much as communication skills.

[@werewolfkid9211]

Easily the most embarrassing thing that you can't really run away from is talking crap about someone and then realizing there behind you

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

It’s then you apologize.

[@Eduardonico]

Thank you Bruce, your videos always give me something back.

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

You’re welcome, Edo. Thanks for your kindness.

[@victoriab.6601]

Thank you, this was very helpful!

[@DaughterOfNamjin]

I’m the embarrassment itself.

[@xXxSkyViperxXx]

when embarrassment is ridiculous when people put u up to it with harsh consequences, rather than going past it as honest mistakes

[@DemoAmmo-dk9fm]

Wow am a new fan of your channel…I really enjoy your consciousness is blessed and righteous my friend my brother I love men like you….in the name of Jesus Christ I pray everything goes your way!

[@zypeLLas]

I found this video very interesting. This will be put in my rewatch list 2/3 more times. Thank you so much, sir 🙏 Much appreciated.

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Glad it was helpful!

[@Butlinsgvn6]

fascinating video, thank you for sharing. I have a question about 'selective intepretation' - how do you avoid deluding yourself? It seems like this is a way of wilfully avoiding reality

[@Toxpunk13]

i add a new girl to instagram and I kept changing my profile pic to see which one looked better and she noticed and she was like “why are u changing ur profile so much”, embarrassing asf man lol

[@livelearn9235]

You are awesome. Thankyou.

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Thank you.

[@Laura-jj9lp]

This was really helpful, thank you!

[@yogeshpimpalnerkar4324]

Thank you very much ❤️🙏

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

You’re most welcome.

[@Iamdafish]

Today i cried in class. I was overwhelmed with my exam results and i have also been really stressed for the past few weeks. Im scared of what my classmates think of me. I cringe when i think of it and i dont want to because ik to some extent my emotions were valid but whatif i over reacted and made a bigger deal about it than it already is

[@futurestrader8798]

Sounds like justifying the embarrassment but how do you deal when it's the first time they hear you and you mumble or jump to a road where the words don't make any sense because the speech wasn't prepared in advance and the words are being made up as they come

[@Chloe-w7n]

😅 sorry.....maybe I'm laughing because that happened to me when nervous

[@sahark4353]

Is there something more deep-rooted with constantly feeling embarrassed? Is it related to your inner child?

[@Munachettri22]

I was so embarrassed today in front of groups I don't know what to do

[@israelonobun7937]

SCAPEGOATING: blaming others for your own behavior/performance is the one YOU MUST NOT USE.

[@dianajaninyan5453]

Maybe just making a point of the fact that embarrassment is not lethal as long as you learn that little things don't define you and there's always room to learn and improve is a better call in this case.

[@roy2689]

I'd heard of the phrase casting pearls before swine before, but thats in my repertoire now , that's a keeper..

[@christymyers1329]

How do we handle a man causes scene and screaming embarrassing things at you or about you. Now can’t hold head up because his actions and words on me which are total lies in his narcissistic fits. But in the end. I’m the one who is ashamed to even show face due to their gossip about me. Any ideas? On how to stop a fit?

[@LKM7.]

I had my 2nd event (horse back riding) today. And I had signed up for 2 turns in each event I was doing. But it turns out we were all only meant one turn. And by the time I finished, I was exhausted and ready to go home. But they called me to go again, forgetting they weren’t supposed to, and when I said I didn’t want to. My mother thought I was too scared and scolded me in front of my trainer and such. Was I wrong here? But, these tips helped a bit

[@LyvnLyvn]

I dont think that you were in the wrong here tho?

[@SETHMSW]

Great video. Thank You!

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

You’re welcome.

[@user-sc8ed1hi3y]

I just used "tbh" wrong in a thing that 153 ppl saw ;-; and rn I'm trying not to cry

[@strawberry280]

can’t be worse than over exaggerating a story about a cat dying when rlly that never happened and then sending a out of context screenshot w n the other person checked it and saw i liedd

[@gummybearr2612]

Today an uncle scolded me in bus because i was wearing earphones and was not able to hear him when he was asking me to move aside . He said whats the point of degrees you students are getting and all. I was so embarrassed.everyone was looking at me 😶

[@emilrasmussen8341]

so hypothetically, if you where to accidentally like an old post from a person that you know, on a social media, and don't want to be looked at like a "stalker" because you are pretty sure that they'll confront you next time they meet you. which one of these methods should you use? Or is there another way to deal with such stuff? Asking for a friend.

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

This is such a small thing. I’d probably just laugh and say, “yeah, I was stalking you a little.”

[@emilrasmussen8341]

@@HowCommunicationWorks thanks, i know my friend will be really happy to know! 😂

[@Banannanana1268]

I was working and dropped a jar for one guy i know and i just can’t stop think about it bye😭 i always have emberassing moments

[@Croix98101]

I searched for this video after experiencing embarrassment at a party last night. I miss pronounced a word I returned to my table only to have someone make fun of my unfortunate moment. After beating myself up I decided to give myself more grace I’m not perfect and I’m not the first person mispronounce a word in front of a large group

[@HowCommunicationWorks]

Yes. We are all fools. Myself included. So when we finally show other people are foolishness, we shouldn’t be surprised. We should just remind ourselves oh yeah, I’m a fool.

[@rihannagirl556]

Very balanced ideas. Some are adaptive and others-not so much.

[@Munneeza]

I did such an very embarrassing thing with my friends which my driver saw and even though he didn't say anything but I'm just dying with the thought, i wish i could escape this situation

[@theresaenders4527]

Seems like one that should be on the list is to just own your blunder ... express some embarrassment, maybe apologize, and then brush it off and move on

[@annabellehaines8081]

I just had cross country try outs. I got second to last then threw up. This was helpful

[@duckygoesquackquack848]

this is kinda similar to what happened to me. i was at my first ever flag football practice and we had to run and do drills and stuff and by the end i was feeling nauseous and i really thought i could keep it down at least till i got in my car. and literally like 5 minutes before we were released i threw up on the football field, lucky i wasn’t that close to other people but it was still really embarrassing, and i have to go back for another practice tomorrow so i’m not looking forward to that. i’m just worried people are gonna remember my throwing up…