Husband Said He Wanted A Divorce Then Changed His Mind Hours Later r/Relationships

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Mark Narrations

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@smarttechaddict
@smarttechaddict 7 ай бұрын
Man announces he's leaving, comes back and woman is so grateful she will do everything and anything to have him back. Walking on eggshells so he won't leave again. Broken and confidence gone. Repeat. It's coercive control.
@kali3731
@kali3731 7 ай бұрын
my grandpa was a cruel men he played that game with grandma all her life in every fight until she died 😔i was horrified and disgusted… such behavior is sadistic and controlling…
@PrincessQ-fj9ly
@PrincessQ-fj9ly 7 ай бұрын
​@@kali3731 I know right? Even if the abused spouse is being a doormat in some capacity, I'll always hate the abuser much more. For two reasons, one is because they are supposed to love their spouse unconditionally and they cannot and will not do that, and two is the fact that we at least have a chance to fix doormats, with the right amount of therapy and tough love, it's certainly possible. You can NEVER fix abuser or A-hole. They'll always be that way until the very end.
@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh
@JuanRodriguez-tf7fh 7 ай бұрын
I'll take something that never happened for 500 Alex
@KadeStringer2.0
@KadeStringer2.0 7 ай бұрын
@@kali3731it’s not really sadistic
@piiinkDeluxe
@piiinkDeluxe 7 ай бұрын
​@@PrincessQ-fj9lyabuser /ahole can change too, IF they want it and work on themselves in therapy
@katphish30
@katphish30 7 ай бұрын
PSA: Threatening to break up in order to control a partner is abuse.
@Biusmenoi
@Biusmenoi 7 ай бұрын
The redpill call it the dread game
@ginathecookie
@ginathecookie 7 ай бұрын
Wish teen me knew this back then. Would have saved me so much heartache and manipulation.
@sxatcychan1988
@sxatcychan1988 7 ай бұрын
"Good people make mistakes. Get over it!" Actions have consequences. Get over it!
@Erebus04
@Erebus04 7 ай бұрын
The saddest part of this story is the OP did in fact end up in an abusive relationship, she just could not see it
@25Erix
@25Erix 7 ай бұрын
Likely because the abuse she suffered in the past didn't look like the abuse she went through in her-then present with the ex-husband. Abuse takes so many forms and isn't uniformally the same across the board.
@MatildeVallespinCasas
@MatildeVallespinCasas 7 ай бұрын
​@@25Erixexactly. One of the biggest problems that people have is that, since the only exposition they have to a problem is media, they assume that if your abuse doesn't look like a movie or a high profile case, it can be hand waved and explained as something more benign. Actually, when I was sexually harassed, because my harasser didn't match with the stereotype of the middle aged boss that gropes his secretary and wasn't caricature persistent like in Lifetime movies, people assumed he was just being a little clumsy in my wooing. I have realised that his behaviour was not normal because after many bullying years I probably picked up the clues and the patterns, unlike my family, according to my former boss. And it's relevant because sexual harassment is a kind of bullying and because bullying can have many forms that are not recognised as such just because they don't look like in the movies or other bullying cases
@daisychain5087
@daisychain5087 7 ай бұрын
People are going to cry intolerance at me, but I'll endure it. Tragically now, she's throwing herself full tilt, from the frying pan on into the fire🔥!! A polyamorous lifestyle is not going to provide the kind of freedom from oppressive controls she imagines. It's a situation that leaves a person like her, who's been abused, and who, everywhere she goes, unwittingly advertises that fact in BOLD, GARGANTUAN TECHNICOLOR - which acts like catnip to all of the master, seasoned, and would-be predators. And the nature of polyamorous relationships means that she will be handing these vile, malevolent monsters the means of abusing, traumatizing, and tying poor OOP in so many knots, that they could enslave her body, mind and soul so completely and so viciously that she'd entirely unravel. She SHOULD be listening to the FULL advice given her, that it's VITAL she takes a good chunk of time to be both single, alone (and specifically WITH HERSELF, SO THAT SHE MUST FACE HERSELF, CONTEND WITH HERSELF, REALIZE HOW MUCH SHE DOESN'T LIKE AND CAN'T BARE HER CURRENT SELF, AND CONTINUE TO FACE HERSELF AND DO THE DIFFICULT WORK TO CHANGE, UNTIL SHE GENUINELY LIKES WHO SHE IS!), and celibate. She needs AT LEAST a period of 2.5 years of true internal solitude in order to do the heavy lifting of psychological, moral, and spiritual work necessary for her to overcome the issues that have caused her to seek out abusers, as well as engaging in a host of other toxic, dysfunctional and dangerous behaviors (both to herself and others). I dearly hope she realizes this before too much of her being has been damaged, and she can still recover fully, or as close to it as possible.😢❤
@25Erix
@25Erix 7 ай бұрын
@@MatildeVallespinCasas It doesn't even have to be media exposure. If you had a childhood with one type of abuse, you're not going to be aware of the entire spectrum. Purely because that one fact of the spectrum is all you know.
@MatildeVallespinCasas
@MatildeVallespinCasas 7 ай бұрын
@@daisychain5087 the question is that it's her life and her business. Unless she harms another person and if everyone involved agrees, I don't know what the problem is
@AndyyWithAY
@AndyyWithAY 7 ай бұрын
He's not sorry. He was never sorry. She should've accepted the divorce the first time. He told her that her feelings don't matter. Unforgiveable. Thank God and all the angels it's finally over. Never let a man tell you twice that he doesn't want you. OP needs years of therapy before she considers another relationship. She would've let this man do anything and said thank you for the abuse
@WyntheRogue
@WyntheRogue 7 ай бұрын
Second update sounds like a silver lining, she left the bozo, divorce proceedings are almost finished paperwise and OP has decided to not get married again after tasting freedom from what sounded like a manipulative, controlling narcissist. [short of allergies, who gets mad at someone for eating mint flavored sweets?!] And given she's leaving a town she loathed growing up in, is escaping a textbook WASP nest to boot.
@damien678
@damien678 7 ай бұрын
As a polyamorous person, I also think she should spend some time being single and getting therapy.
@IHaveAVeryCommonName
@IHaveAVeryCommonName 7 ай бұрын
@@WyntheRogue it's not mint, and I'm not a jackass about it, but I REALLY hate the taste of peas. I hate it so freaking much that if my girlfriend has been eating them, she has to rinse her mouth out before kissing me because otherwise I can still taste them and... yuck. Like I said, I'm not a jackass and I don't mind her eating them! But if the smell/taste lingered through a quick rinse-and-spit, I could see myself asking her to be more careful about cooking/storing/timings that it just wouldn't be worth it for her.
@RisetoStrength
@RisetoStrength 7 ай бұрын
@@damien678 Polyamory gets gruesome with age.
@damien678
@damien678 7 ай бұрын
@@RisetoStrength One could argue monogamy does, too. I think the problem is more how easily relationships can break down in time, and not relationship models themselves.
@sammyk.6457
@sammyk.6457 7 ай бұрын
Him grabbing her face is horrific, my dad would do that to me whenever I did something he didn’t like, it makes you feel so powerless. I’m so happy she got out of there
@valgardener7656
@valgardener7656 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: "before you start screaming abuse, I've been in abusive relationships before . . ." Never a good sign when an OP says something like this. Story 2: I don't think this is funny. He "just hates them so much" he's been carrying on this vendetta for 3 years??? The wife is not over-reacting. "They" don't need to get out of there. SHE does.
@aprilfox9205
@aprilfox9205 7 ай бұрын
Yeah, every time I see that crap on a video I think JFC, here we go again. A lot of people don't see the backhanded coercive abuse as abusive...😮
@RuthieAA
@RuthieAA 7 ай бұрын
Yeah, I would drag my spouse to counseling right away. I do not think she's wrong to be upset. Does he take revenge on anyone else?
@maurer3d
@maurer3d 7 ай бұрын
Story 2: Yeah they should sell the house and move somewhere were they don't have neighbors. All or his "gripes" with the HOA are just the normal day to day of HOA politics. The correct response to "i saw a board on your fence was damaged in the storm" is to say "yeah I saw I m going to the hardware store on Saturday to get the stuff for the repair", not to steal from or destroy someone else's garden.
@jasminerobertson4913
@jasminerobertson4913 7 ай бұрын
​​@@aprilfox9205Yah it's the same song and dance🤷
@ImaNerdANDaGeek
@ImaNerdANDaGeek 7 ай бұрын
Story 1 didn't want to admit she fell into a similar trap again
@Ashbrash1998
@Ashbrash1998 7 ай бұрын
As soon as OP mentioned he told her to "get over it", I knew he was the AH. Because that just proved he didn't care about what he did and how he hurt his partner. He just wanted her to forget about it. He honestly thought live bombing her was the magical wand to wipe all his mistakes away. And considering how he behaved later, its sadly not too shocking. Im glad OP got out of there.
@nondisclosure3920
@nondisclosure3920 7 ай бұрын
I don't think he wanted her to forget about it he wanted her to stop bothering him about it. If she forgot about it, she wouldn't be walking on egg shells and being a good obedient doormat for him
@c16621
@c16621 7 ай бұрын
he was a narcisstic toddler when he demanded a divorce over CHORES. OP has been brainwashed probably in some "church" to take that toddler back. I'd have thrown him out just over the chores. Ex just wanted a bangmaid and mommy . MOST modern men are like this now. Marriage is a scam played on women.
@VAMPYR_BLOOD17
@VAMPYR_BLOOD17 7 ай бұрын
The fact that OP in story 1 didn't even realize how toxic and almost abusive her relationship became for a while was terrible. Some people who think they know what abusive relationships are only ever really know what physical or emotional abuse, but psychology abuse is just as bad, and what he was doing was bordering on physical abuse. He grabbed her face and she got worried she would be hurt or killed? That was the moment she realized how abusive their relationship was. I'm so happy she not only left, but also learned more about herself on the way, I'm proud of her
@jeaniebee3657
@jeaniebee3657 7 ай бұрын
and she also said she had been in abusive relationships before at her age how many could she have had? what did she truly consider abuse? and she didn't listen to anyone which says alot i felt bad for her and still do because she was just so ignorant of the world. the tittle told me tear her down build her up to what he wants her to be for his liking. control over her and he escalated, he too was trying to learn how to properly abuse and manipulate in a relationship like how a serial killer practices his MO its a sad and scary story on the development of a serial abuser and his progression in his abuse skills. i hope that makes sense. she was like his Guinee pig to see what works and how well, like that story years ago about the guy who would jump out of his girlfriend or wifes closet for sex play but turned out it was practice on how he could do it to successfully over power a woman to SA her.
@ineedhoez
@ineedhoez 7 ай бұрын
She didn't learn a damn thing. She is still codependent af and will now use multiple partners to fill the void inside of her soul.
@MatildeVallespinCasas
@MatildeVallespinCasas 7 ай бұрын
​@@ineedhoezor not. You see, sometimes you have to learn from experience and it's something that may help her in the future, unlike people chronically online who are so sheltered
@jeaniebee3657
@jeaniebee3657 7 ай бұрын
@@MatildeVallespinCasas so you think she needs to be abused and rebound into a poly relationship to learn about life instead of get therapy to end the abuse cycle...hmm what kind of person are you?
@MatildeVallespinCasas
@MatildeVallespinCasas 7 ай бұрын
​@@jeaniebee3657she can do with her life whatever she pleases, as long as she doesn't hurt anybody. Does she want to try a poly relationship? As long as all parts agree, it's her perrogative
@browhattheactualfu-2659
@browhattheactualfu-2659 7 ай бұрын
Saying Get over it is crazy work. That's such a goddamn selfish thing to say after threatening divorce to silence a person. He did not improve shit.
@nothereyetlost
@nothereyetlost 7 ай бұрын
Yeah the clue was the one time couples therapy and no more. How much could you have improved if you went ONE time
@madambutterfly1997
@madambutterfly1997 7 ай бұрын
If you want a divorce you're getting a divorce you're not allowed to change your mind retroactively that same day
@debl3063
@debl3063 7 ай бұрын
Especially after saying you don't love your partner.
@DragonicGamer32
@DragonicGamer32 7 ай бұрын
Yeep. It was never about the divorce though. For him it was to see how much he could make her beg and then see if she'd take his shit and still take him back. Every time he came back he became progressively worse. Because he was testing the waters to see if he'd be able to get away with everything he might potentially do
@Burglar-King
@Burglar-King 7 ай бұрын
I dread to think how this would have escalated had OP stayed with her husband. Years of abuse as he chipped away at her self esteem til there was nothing left. What a strong woman to realise it’s not right and pack her bags. Not many are so lucky. Well done!
@Snowshowslow
@Snowshowslow 7 ай бұрын
Honestly, I dread to think what could still happen... It's good she's getting out of there but the moment you leave is THE most dangerous moment in an abusive relationship. Hopefully everything turns out alright for her...
@christinesinclair6938
@christinesinclair6938 7 ай бұрын
S1: I think he's cheating or thinking of cheating, but doesn't want to lose OP1 because she is his bang-maid. After update: So he's just garbage. Glad OP1 moved on. S2: The onion theft/smashing antics gives me all sorts of red flags.
@Rose-yt5hi
@Rose-yt5hi 7 ай бұрын
The men in both stories are unhinged for different but overlapping reasons. Like if this is how Story 2 Guy copes, I don’t want to see what it’s like when he can’t cope.
@dorianleakey
@dorianleakey 7 ай бұрын
Yeah, Mark is seeing this as just a reason to move, but it's not harmless at all, it's very spiteful and an attack on their hobbies. It's also proves it's a forward thinking HOA, they normally ban veg growing and just want lawns.
@Aluranae
@Aluranae 7 ай бұрын
Story 1+Updates: I'm going to be incredibly cruel here but like. Can we stop referring to people with colossal, canyon-sized jackass streaks that just happen to have bad pasts 'broken'? I'm starting to get the vibe that that's why so many people think they can get away with this. 'He's broken' or 'she's broken' 'so be gentle' or 'be understanding' and like. No! No! I will *not* be understanding that this dude played with her like a yo-yo after shattering her to pieces, just because he had a bad childhood! He is a douchebag that deserves to remain alone unless he demonstrably improves, which he demonstrably won't!
@cpaul9269
@cpaul9269 7 ай бұрын
Yes - being "broken" doesn't excuse shit behavior, or prevent the consequences.
@HaleyJo1992
@HaleyJo1992 7 ай бұрын
Agreed. I call it the age of accountability. At a certain point, your past is no longer an excuse for your behavior.
@jeaniebee3657
@jeaniebee3657 7 ай бұрын
its an excuse that people who are being abused use sometimes to justify why they are being abused and why in their mind they allow it. she is trying to justify to herself why he treats her this way without calling it abuse. it never gets better only worse. as this story has shown us. she is her own kind of messed up too. she needs therapy more than she needs to explore her poly side. she is way too young to have to go through all that and now she thinks this is gonna help na she is heading down a self-destructive road. she needs to grow up and be alone for a while. i think she maybe one of those people that defines themselves by having a partner. and if she doesn't have a partner or 2 she feels insecure in herself and what she looks like....kind of vain or something i never understood it when my sister and nieces did and still do this. well my nieces i get they have watched their mom do it lol and think you cant live without a partner its total bullshit but hey i have told them alot over the years and now i just dont even talk to them anymore.
@Aluranae
@Aluranae 7 ай бұрын
@last-chance_ I more said cruel because there are those who have sufficiently traumatic histories that you can excuse some of it. PTSD, that sort of thing, can create a nasty person on the surface. But it's just cases like the story's dickbag, where he has no mind to change and his friends seemingly encourage his BS, where I feel we need to pump the brakes.
@shylavender
@shylavender 7 ай бұрын
Agreed! I’ve been through multiple traumas that really did leave me so broken, with C-PTSD and I would never EVER EVER treat someone like this. I’ve BEEN treated like this! That, and the “hurt people hurt people” bullshit really piss me off, because no we do not. We really don’t hurt people because we know how it feels to BE hurt!
@MizTameRumors
@MizTameRumors 7 ай бұрын
I'm so glad the 2nd update she says he's an ex. He was destroying her.
@whitneybennett4857
@whitneybennett4857 7 ай бұрын
I get that mental gymnastics are a constant in abusive relationships, but really? She was WANTING to keep around someone who's "not sure" whether or not he loves her? Come on, if you ask them if they do and they respond with "I don't know," you still pretty much have your answer.
@fiyahquacker2835
@fiyahquacker2835 7 ай бұрын
​@@whitneybennett4857stockholme
@Songbirdstress
@Songbirdstress 7 ай бұрын
Narc. They're so predictable. If he loved you he would not allow you to give up your dream school for you.
@fantasticmrfox9291
@fantasticmrfox9291 7 ай бұрын
Last story: I've got a bad feeling that story will go viral, end up on tiktok, OP better hide all evidence and clamp down hubs or they will end up having to move.
@dorianleakey
@dorianleakey 7 ай бұрын
I wouldn't give a shit if he got caught, the guy is worse than his neighbours, any hobby he has, it's the same as that being smashed up. F that guy.
@LoveK1
@LoveK1 7 ай бұрын
Story 2: Why is he wasting all that food? And not only that, he clearly has anger issues if he did that for 3 YEARS and smashed them up! I’d back away after finding that out. That’s unhinged.
@Empress58
@Empress58 7 ай бұрын
Wasting food on purpose pisses me off so much.
@dorianleakey
@dorianleakey 7 ай бұрын
​@@Empress58it's also destroying people's hobbies and theft and trespass. When kids destroy someone hobby on here it's seen as evil, yet this is just silly behaviour and the guy should get new neighbours, he could get shot as a trespasser and he isn't even targeting people who behave badly, just the neighbours generally.
@Empress58
@Empress58 7 ай бұрын
@@dorianleakey right, he is so childish, sneaking out at night and taking ppl’s stuff to smash them in secret satisfaction.
@williamxavier300
@williamxavier300 7 ай бұрын
" I promised myself never try to make someone stay" well that was a lie
@nothereyetlost
@nothereyetlost 7 ай бұрын
You’re offended OP fought for her marriage? True demon. Demonizing the victim over the abuser.
@yhiontop
@yhiontop 7 ай бұрын
She didn't fight for her marriage, she prioritized her marriage over her own well being. That is her fault. She choose to become a victim of a situation she could have walked away from. Very common with women. @@nothereyetlost
@TopazFire15
@TopazFire15 7 ай бұрын
If I had a nickel for every time someone insisted they weren’t in an abusive relationship because “they know what abuse looks like”, but they really were… I hope people would remember that abuse doesn’t begin with physical violence, but starts small and ramps up as the abuser gains more control of you. Small means guilt tripping, manipulation, passive aggression, insisting it’s not their fault but yours, etc.
@ringluvr
@ringluvr 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: At first the Op was like "I know abuse. It's not abuse, so don't tell me that." Then later..."He was so abusive." I get it. You don't want to see it.
@MatildeVallespinCasas
@MatildeVallespinCasas 7 ай бұрын
Or she has realised that abuse comes in many forms
@dorianleakey
@dorianleakey 7 ай бұрын
Many of these stories happen to people redditors know then they steal them for Reddit, at least that is my theory and explains the disconnect between different parts of the stories.
@joeschmo622
@joeschmo622 7 ай бұрын
Smashing onions and shallots? Gimme them instead. Garlic, too. Regular and hot peppers, too. I cook some amazing things with them all.
@Mewse1203
@Mewse1203 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: thisnis called the "push pull" and is a very common abuse tactic. You punish them by pushing them away emotionally. Then you pull it on the hook. Going to counseling with an abuser is never good. They just learn ways to manipulate. That line about good people messing up and p it go was awful..
@jennifersilves4195
@jennifersilves4195 7 ай бұрын
First post- he was going to leave for his affair partner then his affair partner said nope to living with him.
@amandabrinkman2338
@amandabrinkman2338 7 ай бұрын
So sad that this abusive relationship has caused you to think many shallow connections will be a good replacement for a deep loving one!
@dingoatemychild1
@dingoatemychild1 7 ай бұрын
Fr I've never met a poly person who ends up actually happy
@OrlaQuirk
@OrlaQuirk 7 ай бұрын
She's young. She has plenty of time to find true love, if she can first find/fix herself. Right now she's literally safer having a bunch of boyfriends, that she can dump as needed, if any become abusive.
@LovesGaming37
@LovesGaming37 7 ай бұрын
If a man ever says he doesn't love you, just walk away. That's not a relationship save. And don't EVER GIVE UP YOUR DREAMS FOR A MAN. Invest in yourself and your kids if you have any. Don't invest in a man. Most don't invest in their women so don't invest in them
@thekameru6058
@thekameru6058 7 ай бұрын
Story 1 - Pro tip for women. Men don't suddenly become 'confused' OR 'stressed' when women simply points out unfair labour load domestically and asks for things to be fairer. Don't let em get away with pretending they are buffoons when it comes to chores OR being invalidating towards their partners. It suits them to have their partners just give up on asking for help and returning to doing the lions share. Men know exactly what the score is, and they know exactly what they are doing in these scenarios. They are NOT stupid.
@ineedhoez
@ineedhoez 7 ай бұрын
Behavior is a language.
@nothereyetlost
@nothereyetlost 7 ай бұрын
Ok what should a woman do?
@demonvictim
@demonvictim 7 ай бұрын
​@@nothereyetlostgtfo because having such wild changes in feelings over a day without any clear 3rd party revelation is a sign of a extremely emotional man not a rational one. You don't want to be near a emotional man since they are prone to violence
@nothereyetlost
@nothereyetlost 7 ай бұрын
@@demonvictim ok YOU need to gtfo bc you assumed I agreed. I was testing y’all and of course you FAILED the test. If the collective of men are doing a bunch of bs, what women should do isn’t to simply get out of there, but STOP being with them. If the collective of MEN are doing thjs, it is a GENDER problem. The difference between men and women is the one Y men possess. That men’s it’s likely in ALL men to different degrees. This is what I was testing y’all on. You still have NOT made ther connection. That means the collective of women WILL still be having to deal with men like this and therefor your conversations are practically POINTLESS if yiu won’t learn to avoid taking any poisons by avoiding all cups, you WILL very frequently be subjected to drinking poison.
@ginathecookie
@ginathecookie 7 ай бұрын
At most, some might be minorly surprised/startled for not realising (because some people regardless of gender are at least slightly oblivious). But Sudden change like the ex showed is *often* intended specifically for derailing the argument. To switch the victim. It's sly, not always on purpose but it can be often and that's how some of it works. Which really sucks for the healing process because then you doubt future encounters.
@AndyyWithAY
@AndyyWithAY 7 ай бұрын
HOA and neighbor drama. Mark voice: "you know what I'm like 😜" A grown man stealing alliums under the cover of darkness? 😮‍💨😒 Yes it's time to move. Diss too much
@dorianleakey
@dorianleakey 7 ай бұрын
It's screwing with peoples hobbies, it's actually very spiteful and cruel and not targeted at the trouble makers, the guy is a spiteful POS. I dunno why destruction of property and things people have hobbies is usually so triggering for Reddit yet this is just funny for some reason. Screw this guy.
@iwiwd624
@iwiwd624 7 ай бұрын
Why do young people get married after a year of dating what’s the rush?
@WyntheRogue
@WyntheRogue 7 ай бұрын
Societal pressure mostly [doesn't help when you have chuds on podcasts brainwashing young, gullible dudes into believing women after 25 are geriatric and have no value, *note: 25 is the age when the human brain finishes maturing.* ] Reality is, love has no expiration date if there is a healthy connection between two consenting adults, and if someone chooses to be a single pringle, that's perfectly okay too. [Never understood the snarky alone with cats insult people give, cats are awesome pets, keep their litter boxes clean properly and one won't have to worry about any smells :P]
@alainaashburn8430
@alainaashburn8430 7 ай бұрын
✨codependency✨
@whitneybennett4857
@whitneybennett4857 7 ай бұрын
Well, my husband and I got married exactly a year to the day we met (married at 21 and 20) and next month we'll be celebrating our 12th wedding anniversary, but for most people I definitely wouldn't recommend such a small window of time between dating and marrying.
@ndawn90
@ndawn90 7 ай бұрын
Religion is often a large factor. I was raised in a cult, and marriage between 18-22 is standard, because of the whole "premarital sex is a sin" thing. In fact, I remember more than once being taught in church that premarital sex was only slightly less bad sin-wise than cold blooded, first degree murder. Which is such a horrific, destructive thing to teach people, and encourages horny 19 year olds to barrel head-first into marrying each other instead of just boning. And of course, marriage=time to start a family, so by the time they get 2 years into their marriage and realize that they were just horny, they have a toddler and one on the way.
@EllenGiles-ri2ep
@EllenGiles-ri2ep 7 ай бұрын
Oh so that’s the ninja onions you’re always referring to? Lmao
@StephFish1004
@StephFish1004 7 ай бұрын
Story 2: The husband's response takes this from "funny prank on uptight people who take things too seriously" to "ticking time bomb waiting to explode." To me it's not funny it's...unsettling
@nightstarstar1
@nightstarstar1 7 ай бұрын
Yeah same, three years of destroying peoples plants is very creepy and I’d be freaked out to be with someone like that.
@Byt0101-gh5fm
@Byt0101-gh5fm 7 ай бұрын
An actual Onion Ninja 🧅🥷🏻...🤣🤣🤣
@SappyDuder
@SappyDuder 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: I'm so glad OP got out of that relationship, and I hope she finds her happiness out there Story 2: this is so weirdly petty, like, don't actually do this, but this is freaking funny to imagine.
@franciebelcher4594
@franciebelcher4594 7 ай бұрын
S2. 3 yrs? 3 yrs! This whole time I'm thinking it was a season or 2, but 3 yrs?! Never heard of any one going to therapy 4 anger management on vegetables, but there are worse things!
@mikaq19
@mikaq19 7 ай бұрын
When I heard the keywords “early 20s, been together 2 years, married for one”. It basically means the end. They got married after only a year at that young age. Think this is doomed. I
@Ospyro3em
@Ospyro3em 7 ай бұрын
Yep- I honestly think the reason divorce rates are so high is in part because people are marrying way too quickly without properly getting to know each other
@aidanlafferty3556
@aidanlafferty3556 7 ай бұрын
Bingo. People shouldn’t be getting married, or have children, until late 20’s AT LEAST
@Mewse1203
@Mewse1203 7 ай бұрын
Thank you! People always push back on me when I say stuff like this. "My grandparents got married at age eighteen and they ever together for sixty years" Yeah, because Your grandma didn't have a choice back then. Statistics don't lie. For those who marry between 18-25, the divorce rate is 60%. That number is run to 25% at age 26. That's because our brain hopefully developed until about that age. We don't make very good decisions until then. It's also Why we see a lot of the same stories of people in their late 20s? Who've been with their partners since they were eighteen or nineteen, and they cheat. Not saying it's right, But it's certainly is an explanation. They are too young and didn't know what they wanted. They get locked into the Sun cost fallacy and don't know how to end it.
@vegaskullkid4503
@vegaskullkid4503 7 ай бұрын
Yeah I agree. I mean it can work for some but usually, you’re too young to be making that big of a commitment to someone. I’m 23 and I’ve known for years I wouldn’t be getting married for a long time
@darkunykorn404
@darkunykorn404 7 ай бұрын
@@Mewse1203 this, so much. My aunt has been married to her husband, who was her first and only boyfriend, mind, for 60+ years. They hate each other with the fire of a thousand suns and f*cked up all three of their children (two of which died in part due to their negligence). They refuse to divorce due to money and catholicism. But someone looking from the outside would probably say "what a lovely older couple uwu".
@yoshidababies4222
@yoshidababies4222 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: I’m glad OP came to her senses, but a shame it took so long.
@TheMimiSard
@TheMimiSard 7 ай бұрын
The passing mention of a ninja suit about the onion thief reminds me of a little fact about that - the common image of ninja gear is actually classic stage play (I forget the style of play involved) stagehand uniform. Tradition was that the audience ignored stagehands as they came on stage and moved around props during the performance, but the mindset about ninjas is they can pop out of anywhere, can be anyone. Japanese culture was very structured and it was unconscionable for someone to dress as a significantly lower class, but a ninja? They have no problem dressing as a servant or a gardener to reach their goal. That in mind, when suddenly a stagehand turns around and murders a character in the play, it is a sign of the ninja popping out of _nowhere_ to commit the assassination. Thus stagehand clothes became shorthand for "ninja".
@francb1634
@francb1634 7 ай бұрын
If I'm OP2, my biggest concern is that husband was dumb enough to keep all the evidence on their property. Like, I'm not above supporting my spouse going on a minor crime spree but I can't forgive them being a complete idiot about it.
@helenafarkas4534
@helenafarkas4534 7 ай бұрын
ngl, the first few updates gave me a "... it's not like he's *hitting* me..." vibe. thank every god out there that 1) she was able to recognize when she needed to jet and 2) the mask finally slipped *JUST* enough that she could not longer rationalize what he was doing to her. most of all, I'm glad she's currently safe and I hope that she will remain so - AND that she doesn't get into any more serious relationships until she's had some serious healing, because from the sound of it, this is not her FIRST abusive relationship
@sitnspin1819
@sitnspin1819 7 ай бұрын
For the love of all things green and shiny... Stop leaving your dream schools and dream jobs for a partner.
@angierucinski5694
@angierucinski5694 7 ай бұрын
Why are kids getting married with all their future to achieve? Who gives a F*CK about The Best Friend? It's all so immature.
@nothereyetlost
@nothereyetlost 7 ай бұрын
Well the answer is right there in your face. I mean who benefits from the marriage? Who benefits from pursuing the career
@seshthecat
@seshthecat 7 ай бұрын
Abuse shows in many different ways. She's been abused the whole time but because it wasn't physical she saw it as fine.
@ayanaatthrivebewhole
@ayanaatthrivebewhole 7 ай бұрын
With story 2, I agree with the wife. It's crazy behavior and a major red flag. Multiple nights, he was lying to his wife for 3 years straight. Who's going on to people's property I'm sneaking around to get the onions. Not to sell them and make a profit, which would be morally wrong but at least make some sense. Doing it just have spite and anger. That's a serious red flag. That requires a lot of commitment, time, planning all devoted to a vendetta. Op should stay away. It's unhinged behavior
@user-blob
@user-blob 7 ай бұрын
First OP must of had really abusive relationships previous to her husband for her to think he was a good guy. Poor woman.
@dodgyyoutuber9560
@dodgyyoutuber9560 7 ай бұрын
I know someone who’s boyfriend sent her a text from the kitchen to break up because she didn’t put his take out on a plate when he came home. He then took it back. A few months later and they’re having a baby together. I had to hide my dismay. Can someone explain why some people do this?
@bonefetcherbrimley7740
@bonefetcherbrimley7740 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: What a piece of crap husband and friend. Hope he gets some karma.
@maryseflore7028
@maryseflore7028 7 ай бұрын
I would have given a scalding talk down to that friend of ex-husband, who tattled on her, probably knowing damn well his buddy is an abuser.
@paulastiles5507
@paulastiles5507 7 ай бұрын
I know, right? What a creep!
@cpaul9269
@cpaul9269 7 ай бұрын
S1 - So young, so quickly married. :(. I wish people would just slow down. This guy is and was bad news. Glad she got out of there.
@Letha-AnnCooper
@Letha-AnnCooper 7 ай бұрын
Man child wants divorce and then in hours changes his mind You really don’t have to take him back. He’ll do it again He is a total AH. You can’t trust him. Not abuse just plain stupid and an AH move. The second and third times were definitely abuse. What a POS
@aNoisyPlatypus
@aNoisyPlatypus 7 ай бұрын
🎉 Happiest of birthdays to you Mark! 🎉 Much love from Australia 🫶
@maurer3d
@maurer3d 7 ай бұрын
Story 2: So your husband is the Karen ruining your peaceful HOA. Tell him to stop, pay to replace all the stolen veggies, and publicly apologize to the entire HOA or you will divorce him. Or you could accept your husband is the AH who wants everyone to be miserable sell your house and move somewhere you don't have neighbors.
@HaleyJo1992
@HaleyJo1992 7 ай бұрын
Agreed. As funny as the mental image might be, I'd be mortified if I found out my partner was being this toxic.
@cheriremily9360
@cheriremily9360 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: You bet he knows her history of abuse. It's the reason he chose her. He knew he couldn't start with physical abuse off the bat, so it comes to psychological and mental abuse. Break her down until she doesn't know which way is up. That last part shows that he will eventually go from breaking her mental/emotional health to breaking bones. Young women have got to stop thinking that relationships are more important than they are. Their individual selves. Why is a wedding ring the brass ring..think about that BRASS! OP needs to not be in any relationships for a long while and work on herself and get therapy. Not jump into poly or anything. Try being an ACE for a while, it'll be healthier.
@jeaniebee3657
@jeaniebee3657 7 ай бұрын
op is trying so hard to say im not being abused in the first story lol she was totally abused
@maurer3d
@maurer3d 7 ай бұрын
Yeah, I was getting the 2 year abuser vibe the entire first part of the story. Sucks when that vibe is so right, sadly it took her almost a year and a half more to realize it, and even then only after he basically threatened her life.
@l.g.2888
@l.g.2888 7 ай бұрын
This story makes me so sad, in part because I've been there. When you become so attached to someone and so afraid to be alone that you destroy yourself to keep them, you really do start to hate yourself. And no one who really loves you wants that for you. Alone is always better than together and miserable.
@justinecorrington4106
@justinecorrington4106 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: he straight out said he didn’t love you anymore. Op is in denial that he basically pulled the trigger. Especially when this is generally the honeymoon part of the marriage. This was freaking over chores and he clearly knew the division was unfair and jumped too, i don’t love you and want a divorce
@hilaryc3203
@hilaryc3203 7 ай бұрын
The divorce isn't even final and she's suddenly found her polyamorous identity. I may be misinterpreting her comments, but it seems like she's traded one flawed life for another, that she's hurrying around experiencing everything she can in a hurry. She came from one bad relationship where he abused and manipulated her for years and she could not see it, and she's walking into a lifestyle where having multiple partners can create unique situations that abusive people may exploit. I' m not saying all polyamorous relationships are bad, but having multiple partners does increase the chances and I just don't think she's solid enough mentally to identify the clues. ah well.
@ghislainedefeligonde5166
@ghislainedefeligonde5166 7 ай бұрын
From the outside looking in, it is so frustrating to see how long it sometimes takes people to leave bad/manipulative relationships, but I am happy for everyone that manages it at all.
@angellee7143
@angellee7143 7 ай бұрын
If someone tells you that they don't love you anymore, then WALK AWAY! Feelings don't turn on and off like that.
@mattiekarwin3667
@mattiekarwin3667 7 ай бұрын
I understand manipulation and abuse but I can never wrap my mind around people being so desperate to stay with someone they know does not love or even like them. How the fuck lost in the sauce do you have to be to genuinely want them back after the divorce gambit 2 times in 1 year. What the actual fuck.
@wkkowrld
@wkkowrld 7 ай бұрын
...Manipulation?💀
@Ashbrash1998
@Ashbrash1998 7 ай бұрын
Because you are thinking logically and are more stable than she was. Depending on her background it sounds like her partner had almost put her in a brain fig and manipulated the heck outta her emotionally. Love can be great but it can really mess with tour brain sometimes. Make you think what hurts you isn't that bad.
@wildfyah
@wildfyah 7 ай бұрын
It was foolish pride for me. "We can fix this, I can do this, I can't keep running at the first sign of trouble."
@shylavender
@shylavender 7 ай бұрын
You clearly do not understand manipulation and abuse if you’re saying this. Because this is EXACTLY what constant and consistent manipulation and abuse does to someone’s brain. It quite literally causes mental damage.
@mattiekarwin3667
@mattiekarwin3667 7 ай бұрын
@@wkkowrld It just feels like when things get to a certain level of fucked up, a person should be able to tell its bad enough to leave. I know realistically that's not how the brain works but its like watching a slow motion car wreck.
@hiroshock
@hiroshock 7 ай бұрын
To me the first story isn't over just yet and I won't be surprise if she posted in a few months if not a year and half later about how he found her, attack her, and had to take him to court for it.
@caxtillo9876
@caxtillo9876 7 ай бұрын
Thank goodness Op left that scumbag. It was pretty scary toward the end but I'm glad she's out of there.
@EluneAnzu
@EluneAnzu 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: If he's "been feeling this way for awhile" and they're just a year into the marriage the future of the marriage isn't looking good, they're still in the honeymoon period of not just the marriage but the relationship in general given they've only been together for 2 years.
@jumpmain
@jumpmain 7 ай бұрын
1. I knew he was gaslighting her before he mentioned the divorce TBH. I glad she got out of there.
@MCBRUCE76
@MCBRUCE76 7 ай бұрын
S1: You or even God can't help people like OP. They wallow, self-pity, and don't listen to others. In spite of so many Redditors giving her so many suggestions and a piece of their own mind, she still opted to continue living with him.
@glendastaples8206
@glendastaples8206 7 ай бұрын
HOA story, I think his wife should encourage her husband to go all out with malicious compliance with the rules and leave the gardens alone. A different outlet for his frustration with no victims.
@cpaul9269
@cpaul9269 7 ай бұрын
S2 - time to move, and get hubby into therapy - that's just really disturbing behavior.......
@jackwatt8988
@jackwatt8988 7 ай бұрын
2: OP is not over reacting. This person is bordering on pathological. To hide this from his partner for three years is a huge red flag.
@EnDB
@EnDB 7 ай бұрын
The face grab alone would have earned him multiple knots. These guys know how to find the weak ones.
@kittikats
@kittikats 7 ай бұрын
Theres a difference between saying something stupid and hurtful in the heat of an argument (lets get divorced!) Cooling off, apologising and taking it back And what this guy did. He was calm when he told OP "I don’t love you" and that he wanted a divorce. That's his real thoughts and feelings or a terrible manipulation.
@heymikey4025
@heymikey4025 7 ай бұрын
Story02: so does OP’s husband hate the neighbors or hate the onions/shallots and want to irradicate those vegetables with a vengeance? She said that he hates “them” but doesn’t seem to actually specify who/what the “them” are…I’m assuming that he hates the neighbors but it’d be funnier if he hates those veggies…
@cassieosbourne7666
@cassieosbourne7666 7 ай бұрын
He ‘regrets it’s because OP called his bluff and didn’t beg for him to take her back
@msmaam2040
@msmaam2040 7 ай бұрын
"I've been in an abusive relationship, he's not like them" when I told you I don't how to react upon hearing that. I had to stop what I was doing. Just because you have been abused it doesn't you know how to see them or you can't unknowingly get into one. She needs therapy as she's very dependent on someone else.
@acatnamedtaz2167
@acatnamedtaz2167 7 ай бұрын
The last story, when the husband said "I hate them ) I didn't know if he was talking about the onions or the neighbors 😂
@Bri_g3
@Bri_g3 7 ай бұрын
I’m sorry but I am in tears laughing at the onion thief 😂
@angelaa7388
@angelaa7388 7 ай бұрын
Abusers come in different flavors.
@oliviaksiag6163
@oliviaksiag6163 7 ай бұрын
OP saying he "feels like he can't fix anything" was really that he didn't want to take accountability for his own actions, he could have fixed it if he cared to do something about it.
@sparklemotion8377
@sparklemotion8377 7 ай бұрын
OMG she went from a toxic relationship with one person to a toxic relationship with multiple people. She is doing everything to prevent being alone and having a relationship with herself. This is absolutely not a happy ending as she is desperately trying to portray. Dog in a burning house meme
@tdl487
@tdl487 7 ай бұрын
Right?!! The moment I read "poly" I was like WTAF. My jaw freakin dropped. Abusive relationship to poly sounds a bit unhinged. Praying for that poor girl to slow down before she really hurts herself to no return.
@sparklemotion8377
@sparklemotion8377 7 ай бұрын
@@tdl487Amen 🙏
@YuumiMa1n
@YuumiMa1n 7 ай бұрын
Hey mark! Love you again! Hope you had a mad fun birthday and that you can share your beautiful voice with all of us for many years to follow! ❤ 😊
@erickaennis2738
@erickaennis2738 7 ай бұрын
Good Lord Op in story 1 is exhausting. Just leave. I would not stay 8 more months. Then constantly want reassurances. Sheesh. 🙄🙄🙄
@lc5625
@lc5625 7 ай бұрын
What killed me is that after leaving an abusive relationship, first thought is "I'm poly" I yelled. Oh to be young again. Being single is much needed after that and therapy.
@greatjob_barbara
@greatjob_barbara 7 ай бұрын
I just got divorced after 12 years from someone who brought up divorce during every single argument in our first two years. Wish i had understood then. If they say divorce say yes and move forward with it
@Daug555
@Daug555 7 ай бұрын
S1: Nah, you don’t get to spin the block. Should’ve never gone back.
@ashl2115
@ashl2115 7 ай бұрын
Not finished the story yet, but I'm wondering if I've been listening to too many reddit stories, cause my first thought is: he's having an affair, he meant it about the divorce, but the affair partner either broke up with him or wont leave their partner, so he came crawling back for an ego boost. Edit - ok no cheating, but still a very sad story and a different type of horrible person.
@kateryan5045
@kateryan5045 6 ай бұрын
Story 1: There's actually a post from the husband's POV too. He downplays things and leaves things out. But the long and short is that it's better for both of them that they split.
@thetruthof8949
@thetruthof8949 7 ай бұрын
Why did the people in story two think it might be teenagers? If they were going to steal anything it would be (in order of priority): Sweet fruit (Strawberries etc) Sweet veg (snap peas) Veg you don't have to cook (carrots) Veg you have to cook (potatoes, onions) Like, onions would be the least likely thing they would take lol. And deer? There's no hoof prints, no bite marks and only onions missing. So the deer would have to float\fly over to the onions- ignoring all of the other food- pull them all up\clip them with prunes and then float off. Maybe this HOA does have a few screws loose lol- but the husband has just as many\more lol
@HeidiGraham1982
@HeidiGraham1982 7 ай бұрын
🤣🤣🤣 The mental picture of deer doing all that just made my day! Thank you! Now anytime I need a good laugh, I'll remember those levitating, onion-loving deer!😂
@OrlaQuirk
@OrlaQuirk 7 ай бұрын
The reason the neighbors thought about teenagers as perpetrators is that fewer adults are stupid/crazy enough to do this. Most people old enough to live by themselves have figured out some of these ideas: 1) Theft is wrong. It hurts people 2) Theft is stupid. You will be recognized and the police may be involved. 3) Your spouse may leave you for this behavior. Whether it's because of immorality, or because you're acting demented, (or both reasons!) your spouse may leave.
@SilveryBlue1010
@SilveryBlue1010 7 ай бұрын
Ma'am, he literally said he doesn't love you, *_sigh..._*
@Mandage90
@Mandage90 7 ай бұрын
Story two made me choke on my own spot with laughter. I’m literally crying with it 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂😂
@Mandage90
@Mandage90 7 ай бұрын
Edit spit not spot 😅
@Bila2718
@Bila2718 7 ай бұрын
14:55 this person wants to handle multiple partners in a polyamorous relationship when they cannot even choose one good partner for themselves. She needs therapy or anything that can help her build her self esteem up.
@Peeges_
@Peeges_ 7 ай бұрын
Thanks for hanging out with us ❤
@Trivial_Whim
@Trivial_Whim 7 ай бұрын
Oh OP. There's a third option. After all, there's another party in this who is also capable of dying first...
@searchfield
@searchfield 7 ай бұрын
20:12 BLOODY ONION NINJAS!!!!! 😅😂😭
@PlasticBluVentRabbit
@PlasticBluVentRabbit 7 ай бұрын
Sweethearts, use your 20’s to discover yourself, not getting into relationships that you think are gonna last the rest of your life. Know who you are, what you want, and what you’ll put up with BEFORE shacking up with somebody. You never know what’s underneath the mask until it’s off.
@buffysheffield1328
@buffysheffield1328 7 ай бұрын
Love HAO stories, this is a new favorite! Thanks for the mood boost! Much love! PS, hope Mr Shallot Smasher doesn’t get caught. I mean if there’s a tree law, kinda should stand reason there’s a garden law.. Not to mention malicious destruction of property. That’s a felony if it’s over $1000 where I live.
@ineedhoez
@ineedhoez 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: he gets off on her pain
@IronTok
@IronTok 5 ай бұрын
Omg. I almost peed myself laughing on the onion story. The visuals of that man sneaking around in the night kills me xD
@Floratic
@Floratic 7 ай бұрын
Sometimes people just go to Reddit to vent and aren't looking for advice like in story 1.
@annabethsmith-kingsley2079
@annabethsmith-kingsley2079 7 ай бұрын
saying he doesn't love you is pretty spicy... I dont think you can come back from that....
@John-wu4rc
@John-wu4rc 7 ай бұрын
I think this was actually more an issue than the divorce. I think i can take saying that as a mistake or something you said you didn’t mean more than saying “i never loved you” because if you didn’t mean it then you said it to purposely hurt me. If you did mean it then well we shouldn’t be together. With the divorce thing, it could be anger in the heat of the moment.
@andreavanhoof6047
@andreavanhoof6047 7 ай бұрын
Proceed with the divorce! He can not be trusted again! Make him regret it again!
@maddy8328
@maddy8328 7 ай бұрын
Story 1. Divorce him, find someone better. Your in your damn 20s.
@ellorasg4525
@ellorasg4525 7 ай бұрын
Story 1: The moment the D - word gets thrown around, I am out. Follow your principle OP, if someone does not want to stay, let them go.
@tmaxim2651
@tmaxim2651 7 ай бұрын
Oh yay! I don't think I've ever been this early :) just starting work. Have a good day Mark!
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