I am worried my partner will cause me to drink

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My husband drinks heavily on his days off from work. He has 3 days off of work while I have 2. He loves to bring me a pretty drink and refills while he enjoys his drinks. I know he is trying to be loving and it makes him feel like he is doing something nice for me. I originally thought that I would just drink on those nights when he does. But I drink every night because I it is in the house and I give into the temptation. He doesn’t know the extent I drink to and I don’t think he would care because he supports drinking as long as you are still doing your responsibilities and job the next day. This makes my alcohol problem harder, knowing he doesn’t see a problem with it and supports it. But you are right. I can detach myself from these opinions and thoughts and remind myself that I am in charge of my own choices. He can drink and do his thing on his nights off and I can choose to be more in control and mindful of my choices. If he brings me a drink, trying to be loving and not realizing the severity of MY problem with alcohol, then I can accept it and leave it sitting there. Or I can drink it and then not accept the refills. It isn’t my job to force him to be on board with my goals. It is my job to stick to my goals and make the choices that I want to make despite the choices he makes.