I applied to be a SURROGATE!

I recently applied to become a surrogate for other couples struggling with infertility & this is how it went.
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[@mamazori5557]

Such a great gift find at the store! I totally understand how you feel, you are a sweet soul, always thinking of others ❤

[@Kailaandshia]

Aww I'm so sorry ! Don't give up maybe u will find an agency /fertility clinic that will approve you. I'm becoming a 2x surrogate and it's def a rewarding experience. You got this

[@meggold3422]

There is so much to consider for surrogacy, not the least of which would be the fatigue on your own body with four kids, the emotional toll that would increase with hormones and cell transfer, as well as the potential to go against your convictions through contracting with particular couples, such as aborting if they decide they don't want a boy, and a number of other factors. I appreciate your heart about wanting to help other couples who have been dealing with infertility. That's very selfless of you.

[@alexisreyes4179]

I’m definitely gonna be here when you start getting ready the pre birthday festivities for your twin boys

[@joannadressel802]

Hemorrhaging even a little can definitely be a concern for your health alone mama.❤ I would love to be a surrogate and have always thought I’d love to be one day. My experience though with my 3rd pregnancy (currently 20 weeks) is making it seem like I either will get that chance ripped away regardless of what I want. Plus I wanna be here for my children I currently have and my husband. I’m pregnant with our 3rd baby a son! Ive had two healthy pregnancy prior in 2016 and 2018, no gestational diabetes, never hemorrhaged, not high risk once so ever no Pre-eclampsia and I’ve never had uterine surgery of any sort. Easy vaginal deliveries and no complications with my placenta! I’m 26 now so always recovered quickly as I had them young! I am suspected to have Placenta Accreta. No one I know or in my family has had any issues with their placenta during pregnancy. It’s rare and for my case no rhyme or reason it’s looking like. I’m getting a ultrasound done with MFM Wednesday because my doctor found no distinction between my uterus and placenta and also found a placental lake (usually mean nothing or could be in relation to Accreta for my situation) and probably need an MRI after to confirm if they agree with the findings. If I am diagnosed I will have a 1 in 14 chance of bleeding out and not making it. It’s been incredibly eye opening- I have two daughters I need and want to be here for plus my unborn son that I want to meet. The fact I possibly may not make it even being an option is terrifying. A hysterectomy is very probable and I would need to do alot of extra monitoring until my delivery. Baby is 100% fine it’s just me in danger. I’d need to do a c-section for sure between 34-36 weeks best case scenario and I’ll likely need multiple transfusions. It’s not always caught with ultrasounds as well which is scary! You are higher risk of accreta with IVF, c-section and if you required any medical intervention after your still birth such as a D&E. Definitely something to think about. Maybe there is some other way for you to reach out and help those who struggle to conceive that would be just as fullfiling! Maybe being a doula, a spokesperson/voice or some sort of counselor. I 100% support surrogacy. It’s definitely a wonderful thing to do! But remember to keep your health in mind❤ All I’ve been thinking lately is I’m glad I have life insurance on myself for my family in case things go south.

[@foofookachoo1136]

I hope and pray ALL goes well for u!! God’s speed.

[@amymelissayano5138]

Praying for you and your baby boy,Sincerely an American mommy living in Japan 🤗🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏👨‍👩‍👧‍👧👨‍👩‍👧👫🇺🇸🇯🇵🗾🗻🌏💖💖💖💖

[@laineynewlands70]

It really doesn’t surprise me that you wanted to be a Surrogate for a childless couple. You are such a beautiful soul & I’m so sorry you were turned down. Please don’t think there’s something “wrong with you”. Like you said it might just be to do with Brynn, your sweet angel 👼 You are still young & who knows what may happen in the future. Biggest hugs once again 🤗✨🙏🏼

[@leanmeanfrizzybean]

That fairy drawing would make the CUTEST tattoo 😭😭💖💖

[@55MissyLou]

What a beautiful thing you wanted to do. Who knows what the future holds. Please know just the thought of this is big. You have a big heart Rachelle. ❤😊

[@Suebearish]

No one's decision but yours but you become so bonded to unborn baby and they to you, think it would be hard for you

[@jadeangel1708]

I AGREE

[@bridgetteeilert1566]

And the baby for their entire life. It’s so odd to me that people think 9-10 months of bonding won’t affect that baby’s nervous system, attachment, etc.

[@veritorossi]

Exactly what I thought. Not the best idea.

[@PS-rd3tm]

What a beautiful thought that was, to be a surrogate. It is quite a thing with four kids running around. may be it is a good thing to put it off for a while.. much love for you from the Netherlands

[@michelleowens2282]

You are an Amazing Person. ❤ God Bless

[@BlueEyedAngel168]

You have such a beautiful soul that you even went through the process. ❤ much love to you and your family.

[@mynameispaige]

The fact you went through hell to have your own kids and now you want to make someone else’s dreams of becoming a parent come true is the most beautiful thing! You’re actually an angel 💗

[@jenalewis5392]

please look into the ethical concerns surrounding surrogacy! allie beth stuckey has great resources on this

[@brandidrew7728]

Hahaha I felt that "Let's save our paper". I have 6 kids and we go through so much drawing paper 😂

[@RachelleandJustin]

I swwwwwearrrr 😂

[@alexisreyes4179]

Wowwww you applying to be a surrogate is the biggest decision you would ever make. It’s the most beautiful thing you can do carrying a baby for a couple that has trouble conceiving

[@kellismetana3720]

Sending so much love your way!!!🌷🪻🌷 You are an amazing giving soul& you are loved!!!🌷🪻🌷🪻🌷🪻🌷🪻🌷🪻🌷🪻🌷

[@RachelleandJustin]

Thank you so much!

[@torireid6455]

Can't believe the boys birthday is coming up! I started watching when u were pregnant with them

[@RachelleandJustin]

They’re soooo big 😭

[@jmleeinla4025]

Oh Rachelle you would have made an incredible surrogate. I was one for my best fried and his husband. The eggs were from my friends sister and his husband was the other doner. I was just a 9 month apartment lease!! 😂😂. It was the most sacred thing I’ve done in my life. I tell people I was the bridge from heaven to earth for those girls to get here. They are now college graduates and making their way in the world. Keep trying to get approved because you have a blessed heart to go on that journey. ❤

[@sierrabussell8444]

You would have been such a great surrogate for someone and I’m so sorry that you couldn’t with that agency. You have the purest soul ever Rachelle. 🥺

[@verbrugghezelda3808]

Maybe in the future it will work out for her.

[@-VJB-]

As an adoptee, I recognise the gift of giving between adults who want to have an ‘experience’… a ‘parent experience’, or a ‘surrogate experience’… but there is a lifelong grief and trauma experienced inside the child, from separation that cannot be developmentally understood by any newborn. The celebration around the birth often overlooks the very real losses for the child, their disconnection from you creates a catastrophic life threatening loss for the newborn. Nobody can ever explain to a newborn why they are going through what they are, and our bodies are wired to adapt via naturally activating our survival mechanisms (fight/flight/freeze/fawn). We can remain in this state for decades, as it becomes wired into our brain and nervous system developing. Adoptee loss often gets cast aside with the expectation to be grateful…. for being a gift. I love your channel and enjoy watching. I hope I haven’t offended you in any way, but wanted to highlight something that often isn’t considered,, which is a minefield of emotional experiences of the developing child that impact over the span of a lifetime. The wounds of having to be ‘grateful’ carry a huge weight that can wipe out one’s natural identity to be who they authentically are.

[@laurenjohnson2325]

as someone who has actually studied psychology and science, you're incorrect and are making harmful generalisations.

[@kathleenclark815]

But we aren't talking about adoption here. Surrogacy is different

[@dw1920]

I’m sorry but I don’t think you know what you’re talking about I have 2 grown adopted kids and I read your post to them and I won’t even tell you what they said except you need counseling

[@mimicoolwhip5991]

Wow, I never knew any of this but wondered what the emotional/mental struggles tied to surrogacy & adoption were. The loss on the surrogates side is very easy to understand imo but the newborn aspect makes perfect sense. I didnt take it as offensive or rude, hopefully she wont either. I will say kinda makes me wonder if shes considered the timing or if its right for her family given she did a video like 9days ago saying shes in a tough place...maybe the video date timing are delayed but hopefully shes taken into acct if there are things shes struggling with which would be understandable as a young mom with real life issues as we all have. Thanks for sharing what you did, very interesting, informative & imo necessary! She may already know but who knows...someone else may be interested to know as well.

[@LoveeeeelyM]

Such a great point to share. Thank you for highlighting this 🙏🏻🌸

[@0BV1AOLIV1A]

Love you!! ❤❤

[@trinitylane2202]

You may have already discussed this but I'm wondering if you still have embryos left and if so what are you thinking of doing with them? I watched a documentary about a couple who had leftover embryos and they donated them to another infertile couple. The other couple did successfully have a baby and they all became friends so that child gets to grow up knowing his biological parents and siblings. Similar to an open adoption.

[@karensaurage1120]

That would be so awesome to become a surrogate. I watch a couple of couples on utube that can’t get pregnant and I feel so bad for them. I never had trouble getting pregnant and I feel for anyone that has a problem. One family adopted 2 had 1 but no son and she’s always sad looking. I wish I could give her a son. So sweet of you to want to do this.

[@jashlyn4094]

contour is meant to chisel out ur features and shape them. to warm up your complexion, you would probably want a bronzer and a big fluffy brush. i’ve heard the physicians formula butter bronzer is a great affordable option!

[@sierraryan4086]

I’m looking for a surrogate and I think that with your successful pregnancies I would still consider you!

[@michelleflores1769]

I understand their reasoning for not approving you to be a surrogate but I’m sad you can’t do it because I know you would be a great one. I’m so sorry Rachelle! ❤

[@user-zq7gl9tx3y]

I never experienced infertility but I also wanted to be a surrogate after 4 kids ! My husband had a peoblem.w it bc I had a hard time w 2 of them. But I wanted to give someone that gift ! I will always regret not doing it !

[@RF1972.]

Love Charlotte Tilbury products😊

[@Hanna-nw8mn]

You'd probably go through depression having to give your newborn away...despite the baby having someone else's genes you'd have a strong bond with him or her!

[@DB-sm8le]

Right i could never do that. And they can say whatever baby has someone else genes doesn’t matter it still grows in your belly for 9 months.

[@ShockResistor]

The baby knows the mothers scent and voice despite it not being biological. It causes developmental trauma to the baby that will impact the rest of its life.

[@myjourneyafterzainne1984]

Love this

[@Semapho0ore]

Would you have time to be a surrogate and look after your your own kids? Would it be ok with giving the baby away?

[@MayAllYourStarsAlign]

I just had my sweet baby boy on 4-2-24 and pregnancy as well as birth and recovery is so so hard. Surrogacy is such a selfless thing to do. I can’t even think of having another baby right now lol

[@FloridaGal66]

My son turned 28 on 4-2-24. Happy Birthday to your boy!!

[@gloriabrown2122]

I just had my baby boy on 4-2-24 as well!

[@alyssahcollins5087]

I’ve been thinking about being a surrogate! I just had my baby 10wks ago so it’ll be awhile and gotta get my bmi down

[@MarisaAndChew]

Rachelle I'm sure if you're meant to be a surrogate you will be! I've not been but i offered years ago to my friend who is gay. He wanted kids but with the economy how it is he never felt it was the rugby time and now it would be higher risk at I'm 39. If he wanted to i would still do it for him if approved though! There are plenty of ppl who are struggling as you know and if the right person comes into your life you'll know if it's something to offer! 💞

[@barbaradw9969]

They also may have not approved you, because of Mental Health. Once we are on Meds for Mental Health, Meds, we are viewed in a different way by Doctors.

[@mbradford87]

This is exactly the same scenario for me. I’d love to be a surrogate but I am also disqualified due to a prior stillbirth. My first pregnancy I lost my daughter at 36 week and then went on to have my son healthy but every agency I’ve looked at says I am disqualified.

[@Sunshine-kn6or]

I don’t think I could do that..

[@brendachaves6375]

Happy Saturday

[@calliehaynes8845]

I love this so much! You’d be an awesome surrogate!!🎉❤️

[@TheVegasChick81]

Awwww!! I’m sorry they didn’t approve you. Please talk to Extraordinary Conceptions. They’re located in Southern California and most likely work with clinics who will overlook your loss. This is the agency I’ve used. I was a surrogate 4 times, including 2 sets of twins & it was an amazing experience! I hope you’ll be able to do it! 💗💗💗

[@sishanavarro2813]

As a mama that has had both her baby boys via gestational carrier I can just say I think it’s wonderful that even willing to do this. God knows we need wonderful woman like yourself to help families. Is it possible you could go the private route? That’s what we did. We used the same incredible surrogate twice and we met her privately and did both our agreements that way. Obviously this requires more leg work on the part of the IP’s to get everything in order - lawyers etc but it was the route we chose after having a no so go experience with an agency and I’m soooo glad we did it this way. Our surrogate is now a true member of our family. She is like an auntie to our boys and her and our families will always be close. I don’t think that would have happened if we went thru an agency. Obviously it also based on the kind of experience you are looking to have but I would definitely look into it if your still feel that calling after awhile. ❤

[@sandyseibelhager7131]

I had really wanted to be a surrogate in the 90s (when I was young). I had such easy pregnancies and labors but was done having children of my own. I would have done it but my ex was against it. I regret not doing it.

[@1986kimberlyg]

So many great podcasts and articles recently shedding light on the surrogacy “industry”. Completely changed my mind. Definitely worth listening to before committing. Allie Beth Stucky has quite a few.

[@alexisreyes4179]

Awww I’m so bummed that you’re not medically approved to be a gestational carrier. But you tried the best you can . But I’m happy you have four successful pregnancies. That would of been a cool experience for you to go through

[@kathleenclark815]

My daughter is doing a surrogacy for someone. Just had the transfer last week

[@user-bh3sy9jp4r]

So sad to hear that you can't be a surrogate. Maybe considering fostering children? I know it's hard with your own children to combine, but giving children the ability of being surrounded by a family who loves them and takes care of them the way you care for your children is a blessing!❤

[@darlenelowe1730]

I have followed you since just after you lost Brynn and was so very happy when you were able to have a successful pregnancy. I have gotten away from youtube since last July because my daughter was killed in a car wreck leaving behind a 5 and 6 yr old daughters. Just wanted to say that while I think it is sort of odd that an agency would reject you because of 1 loss...I also think that there is a reason behind this rejection. Of course only GOD knows what that is...just like only He knows why my baby had to be called home. I am trying hard to have faith in this and hope you will be able to also. Take care.....will be watching for the boys bday party video

[@karmen_mejia7053]

Wouldn't it be a bit harder to give the baby even though you know that baby isn't your or give you baby fever???

[@kathleenclark815]

Lol no. You know it's not your child

[@stacysweetteagirl]

There’s a few comments and thoughts from some about it being too hard for her to give up the baby. My thoughts are that you will have some emotions. But, when you know this is someone else’s baby and you are giving them the gift of having their own child, it makes you able to hand that child over. Especially since Rachelle has struggled herself with infertility. She knows how it feels to desperately want a child. And willing to do whatever it takes. I think she’d be a fantastic surrogate.

[@kalindeye]

That's beautiful that you tried ❤️

[@nikkih6462]

♥️

[@amynash4672]

💖

[@MaKaylaJ26]

I wonder if you can look into another agency because I am actually matched with a family no didn’t have to do lot of the things you were talking about. I had to send in lol my records for my pregnancies I also have a single twins C-section single vbac all boys and that wasn’t an issue. If your still interested I would love to chat with you more because I think there are other options and your heart is in the right place. I never experienced loss or infertility but I had so many friends and family that did which is why I was so called to it.

[@SammiCruzVlogs]

I was a gestational surrogate last year and it was an amazing experience!! if you ever have any questions, i’d love to talk ✨💞

[@RachelleandJustin]

That’s amazing of you!

[@kendravoracek3636]

❤❤

[@katiejones8953]

I think you need to get your iron levels checked being a surrogate is an amazing thing to do. Maybe wait until the children are a bit older but it's an amazing and selfless idea.

[@kimlinstead40]

Cant watch vlog at present as at work 😂. The title alone got me excited. Anyone that can do that for another couple is truely a special person ❤️

[@SharpLife4]

You can prob be one privately. Lots of people want kids and can’t have them and can’t find someone. Like people like me. With medical problems we don’t even pass the agency screening even though spouse very healthy. But drs don’t want me to get pregnant cause a rare disorder. So it even makes adoption hard. You can prob find people just like that who live near you. It’s crazy the rules for good people who want to have kids. Yet many bad people have kids that get abused. Even if you want to adopt so many rules it sucks

[@lilovdmerwe]

Amazing! Im SOOOOOO proud of you!❤

[@LoveeeeelyM]

Nothing is wrong with you. Rejection is God’s protection. May our Lord lead you to helping others in a way that best suits your soul and His plan for your life ♥️🙏🏻

[@Jlynne3323]

From one twin boy mama to another, their next obsession with be everything NERF (and kinda army men) lol…that’s what came after Dinos for us at least.

[@barbarawelsch5850]

Wow! What a generous thing to do!

[@gretchengardner3538]

You would be an incredible gift to a family in need

[@kathyerb3134]

Im sorry as im sure u would have been a great surrogate person. I always wanted to do the same too, but i kept having ppreemie babies.

[@micheleengel3428]

So did I,many years ago. A couple picked me the first week&we met&they wanted me. I discussed this with my OB&he said,"Michele,unless you want to spend the rest of your life in court,dont do it!" I wanted to do IVF,but it was brand new then&they wanted me to be artificially inseminated. I couldn't go through with it,knowing it was my baby.

[@jayceekay4338]

Maybe you could donate eggs? That's pretty amazing too. ❤

[@ambercrispin1334]

You should 100% check into other surrogacy programs. I wish I could do that for somebody. As an infertility patient myself if I had to use a surrogate I would still very much consider you as my carrier. Brynn’s loss would make me more likely to choose you over others. Don’t let 1 no take you out.

[@katiejohnson2623]

My children were born by a gestational carrier

[@jannienegoodwill134]

You won't be able to give up the baby.

[@micheleparker8553]

You are so kind to want to be a surrogate. You would be wonderful, I’m sure. However, pregnancy for the sake of others may come with complications and challenges. It might be especially difficult when you have four little children at home. There are many other ways that you can help people. Maybe God has other plans for you. ❤

[@tanyagsw7920]

I would check other places

[@autumnalaniz4622]

I would think about it because it’d be hard if a family decides to abort the child if there was something that’s was “wrong” when there really isn’t or will heal after birth. If you say no the baby is healthy I’m not subjecting myself to that, then that’s valid as well and you shouldn’t have to, then what happens to the child if it’s born? Parents don’t want it then what? Idk there’s a lot to think about when being a surrogate. It can be a beautiful thing but small things as well..

[@kaytiemyers2698]

I couldn't be a surrogate due to my BMI. It was a huge bummer.

[@kaytiemyers2698]

I also can't donate my eggs. Which is a huge bummer because I have two ovaries full of uneeded eggs and a bank account that could use the funds from donating 😂

[@lindak3030]

Oh, It's so kind that you want to be a surrogate, but pregnancy takes such a toll on your body. You've had multiple pregnancies, and you need to be there for your kids. Pregnancy is not without risk. We forget how much risk it actually is because of the huge medical advances but it is.

[@perfectpikelet1444]

You could make a wonderful gift to an infertile couple by donating your left over embryos. The gift of a new life 🙏🙌🙏

[@tracybate5957]

I was a surrogate for a old school friend and his husband 5 years ago it was so rewarding and scary at the same time, I'm also a mom to 4 kids and I've had twins myself

[@Tiffani-t5q]

I want to be a mom but I can't get pregnant 😢 I cant find anyone who is willing to carry a baby for me and my boyfriend

[@alexisreyes4179]

How old is Asher and Reuben turning ?

[@marysayre7142]

4

[@ericarachel8964]

Have you considered snowflake adoption for your frozen embryos? ❤️

[@lauraodenwaldt8545]

I’m sorry you got turned down for the current agency, it sounds like a really great opportunity. Hope it works out in future❤

[@RachelleandJustin]

I hope so too!

[@kathleenclark815]

​@@RachelleandJustinMy daughter is currently doing this. Just had the transfer last week.

[@josjeschaars144]

So crazy to me to waist someone’s time and waist resources to check you out if you know ahead of time you will decline them because of 1 stillbirth. 😢

[@katherinerand1892]

Does anyone else think the boys sound a lot like Emma?

[@pennyalison5827]

😔 oh, not fair!

[@RuurdZwart]

what a beautiful pants you have

[@sandragay1324]

A coconut on a diet lol

[@taradelaney9657]

Your are such an amazing person for wanting to help out another couple.Don't give up trying to help another family.Maybe reach out to Bella and her husband they are waiting to have another baby and they both are amazing parents.There story of fertility has been heartbreaking to watch, even though they adopted a little girl it would so be nice to see them with one more child.

[@MyBeautifulChaos620]

If you do end up doing it, make sure the parents are GOOD people. My friend was a surrogate last year, she developed pre-eclampsia and almost died yet the intending parents called her names and yelled at her for delivering baby early 😔 like she lost her ability to have children and these men were so horrible to her

[@tamraleone-scott6038]

Dont toss it out the window yet. You can still be a surrogate with a private couple. I believe you still need to do all the preparation but you can still get to help a couple grow a family. Don’t give up. You WILL NEED your own attorney to protect you, Justin and your beautiful family in this process. Just don’t give up if you have your heart set on it. ♥️♥️♥️ Good luck in your pursuit

[@juliapowanda9587]

Them disqualifying you makes me so sad. You would be an amazing surrogate and you deserve the opportunity to bring joy to another couple if that's what you want to do

[@katherinekilgore4498]

I would look into another agency. Yeah, you’ve had successful pregnancies after Brynn. Wtf?

[@countrymom2023]

To be honest I can't see you carrying a baby for 9 months and giving birth to it and giving it up to someone else❤❤❤

[@a.life.reimagined]

You should look at another clinic. A still birth shouldn't matter. It's just so common.❤❤

[@lizregan1949]

I think it would be such a selfish act, I thought about it years ago, but I was too old. In my mid 30s.

[@dianepeck3508]

Hey Rachelle - want to help others have babies with no risk to your own health? You’ve got a slew of frozen embryos . . . just saying

[@primaveradel78]

I think surrogacy is super sad. The newborn is ripped from her mother and given to strangers so soon... they don't know about contracts, they are humans with humans rights

[@peachesandqueen]

Happy birthday Asher and Reuben !!!! 🏀🍕🩵. You are so amazing to apply to be a surrogate that is such a gift !! Also do you have one theme for both boys for birthdays or two different themes

[@RachelleandJustin]

We’re doing 2 themes. :)

[@CaliAnimalLover1961]

Remember, just because we’ve had a stillbirth, it doesn’t mean YOU did anything wrong, or your body did anything wrong, and there’s nothing wrong with you. I had an autopsy done when I lost my daughter. The whole report said “grossly unremarkable” so they couldn’t find anything wrong. It just happened. Just like SIDS, some of the babies that pass from SIDS have seen their pediatrician THAT DAY and been given a clean bill of health. Sometimes S*&T just happens. Look at those 4 little beauties you have running around eating you out of house and home. You make gorgeous, perfect little humans and any couple that would choose you as a surrogate would be blessed to have your body and heart help make their baby for them. 🩷🩷🩵🩵🩷

[@Mycatkilla]

❤❤