I Couldn’t Give Up

[@reginagibson1908]

Rebecca so sorry for your loss, and the family. May God wrap you all in his blanket of comfort and peace.

[@TS-wb4xc]

Lost my mom 10 yrs ago, I miss her everyday! 💔 His Grace is sufficient 🙏✝️

[@TheoriginalANGEK439]

Becc is devastated. Don’t push her, let her grieve properly. I know how she feels. 👍❤️👍

[@tiffanyrowandotcom]

When energy is already low from grieving, don't ask her questions that will make her cry and steal what precious energy she has left just to get through the day.

[@tiktok11150]

I went through the same thing. My Mom was always there to talk to about anything going on in my life and it took over 5 years to stop missing her and thinking about calling her and realize she was not here anymore. It still happens occasionally but not as often. Holiday's are never going to be the same again with her gone. I found that I don't really like my Brother and Sister as much as I thought I did after their individual shenanigans when my mother passed.

[@janiecehamblen933]

I agree with not pushing her. Took me 6 months to get truly functionally after my Mom died. It has been 20 years and I still missmher.

[@KristinJackson-e8g]

The voyeurism we experience watching her cry why you press her to express her grief is not very loving of you. Your role as a husband is to provide and PROTECT your wife. Your children deserve the same honor. We understand you are devastated, but you also deserve privacy.

[@sandracunningham2689]

I wish that Becca would be able to grieve in privacy. So much has been shared because of how well thought of Grandma was. Not everything needs to be on camera. Respect her privacy and allow time for the thing in life that has devastated her.

[@wendyr435]

Totally agree

[@carolrogers4652]

I agree as was her saying goodbye to kids at home. This should be private and not for the $$$

[@tentamalaska]

God bless and comfort Grandpa Big Daddy.🙏❤

[@CathyMiller0711]

A mother's death is a unique loss. For years after my mother died I'd occasionally think "Oh, I think I'll call Mom" and then be snapped back to realize she was long gone. All the love we know in life begins with Mother. Prayers for your family in these days as you remember her life.

[@karenchakey]

I remember doing the same thing, I miss my mom even more now. I lost her in 2015, we had to disconnect her from life support, I stayed with her to the end.

[@thedirtprincess3293]

It's a form of😂 PTSD--the thing that hapens, having everything come at you at once. It happened to me a few years back taking care of my mom in the hospital for a month as she died, plus another six months of dealing with estate cleanup and a job change, and I didnt have a hurricane devastate my home like y'all have. It took a couple of years for my brain to fully come back online. You have to function but give yourselves time to still feel "off" as long as it takes. The garden helped heal me. Praying for you all, and especially the kids grandfather. He needs a reason to be needed.

[@gowest5145]

My one uncle remained single and lived with my grandma. When she died he died 9 months later. He complained of stomaches and other things happening to him. When my dad died I got the same thing my uncle had the stomaches and stuff he complained about. It is bad stuff when you actually get sick after someone you know dies. A lot of people don't make it thru it. They say people can die of heartache but it is much more than that. You can actually die after someone you know dies. It doesn't happen very often but it can happen. It is a lot worse that PTSD I think. It has been 34 years since my dad passed and I still have insomnia that resulted from his death.

[@kayashmore4296]

Becca grieving is different for each person you lose - how you internalize it. Ages were so diff for each of my parents. Daddy was only 57 so I was almost 21 but the hole in my heart felt real. Mom was 95 & was my best friend & I cared for her in her home as she lay bed ridden her last 2.5 mo. I was Daddy's little girl & it seemed years before I could cope with it. Mom was so ready to go to heaven. I missed her but was at peace knowing how happy she was to be with her family up there. Take the time you need. It can't be rushed!

[@kfowler193]

OH my gosh! Lily is a GOD SEND!

[@frenchysandi]

I lost my mom many years ago and even now at times I miss her terribly. The pain gets less but the that hole you feel seems to show up at odd times. Gods peace to you and yours.

[@SonjaKogler-p2w]

You have great children helping you all over the farm,in the house,Lilly is cooking so well for you all.I adore them!!❤❤❤❤

[@Bossladyone2]

What a beautiful family you all are.

[@bebepoppy1604]

May God bless You! I know what it is like to lose your Mom. Mine was sick for awhile and ended up not dealing well with surgery. We were in the middle of buying our farm. I had 2 houses to pack up and get ready to sell. But I di d not go thru a Hurricane! Give yourself a lot of grace. Things will hit you all of a sudden and will make you cry. It was two years after my Mom had passed and getting out the ceramic turkey that she had beautifully painted for our cranberries it me so hard! I cried on my husbands shoulder so bad that he had to change his shirt before all the kids came. My point is when grief hits just go thru it. Recognize that you have the right to be sad maybe even break down a bit. That in itself is healing. I had a friend tell me at the time that it is hardest losing your Mother because no one else can ever love you as much as a Mother can. Bless you!

[@theonewhereshelivessimply]

Praying for y’all as you grieve but also keep plugging through the daily tasks…

[@TerryAGunn]

you are a rock star my friend. continue on head held high i have seen compost piles start smoking from inside. i will pray for very one

[@StoneKathryn]

I'm so glad the volunteers from CRR! Yay, got the compost pile built up again and more area for the poultry! Nice that the kids are helping get things cleaned up. Those machines are helping a lot. So sad that grandma isn't there! I'm glad you're making the funeral arrangements. Wow, Lily's buns and french fries! Great job cooking Lily and Jonah! Thanks for this video Rhodes family! Prayers for you all!

[@judyclennan1212]

May your hearts find peace as you process the pain of loss. May your mind find comfort in the knowledge "Mom" is past the earthly pain.

[@peppernc429]

How is Grandpa? My heart goes out to all of you. Becca, my husband of 31 years died going on 8 years ago. I know where he is and I know we will be together again one day. I liked what Justin s@id about never saying goodbye. I truly believe our loved ones are nears us after leaving this realm. Talk to your mom, you will be surprised at what happens. Hang in there, may peace be in your heart. God bless your precious mom. Love and prayers to all.

[@cornelia915]

Rebecca and Justin I stand in awe of your strong family. I was blown away by Lily just stepping up and getting dinner on the table and making homemade French fries to boot! And your sons ease around small "heavy equipment " and gettin stuff done with the machines is simply amazing. What wonderful confident young people you are raising. Sincere condolences Rebecca from a "sister" mourning the death of a Mother too. She went home on the 21st under circumstances very like your Mom's. I watched that video with deep compassion because some human diseases are so horribly debilitating, leaving a shell of the former vibrant person at the end. I saw some comments posted that were less than positive but I really appreciated and identified with your honest depiction of what the end looks like on this side. Wherever we picture our Mothers to be, we know they are safe, painfree and vibrant again. My Mom once told me after a very painful life event that we were survivors and we would get through it. So I offer the same wisdom and strength to you Rebecca: We are survivors and will weather this storm in life too. From my heart to yours.

[@LB-gr7gu]

People who loose loved ones from ALS know it's a blessing and a curse.. nobody wants to live in that state 😞 please know she is clear and with you all 🙏🙏❤️💖

[@19queenbee55]

That’s true. And you keep praying for some kind of cure….

[@sandraryan2256]

Please tell everyone to please send more help to the Hurricanes victims

[@pattigsbh4392]

Grief and loss comes in different waves. Love and prayers for y'all ❤🙏

[@stevehowe1792]

Your kids are so capable. That's your legacy right there.

[@tiffanyrowandotcom]

I can't get over God's goodness in the birth order He sends children to families. Look at Lily making from scratch entire meals. During a time when there is so much Helene cleanup to do before the rains, snow and cold come, Lily steps up doing all the menu planning, meal cooking, and kitchen cleaning. And now that her mom is grieving, Lily is even more a blessing. Thank you, God, for sending Lily to this family at this time. Bless her with joy and rest as these trials continue to drag on indefinitely. Bless her with a clear mind and stamina as she is grieving, too, her horse paddock and her grandmother. In the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

[@norcalgirl5836]

Sending your family all my love and prayers. There is so much kindness, resilience, strength and most importantly love in your beautiful family. You’ll get through this one moment, one day at a time. I am so sorry for your loss, the struggles and the heartbreak.

[@jaykay46]

So sorry for your loss!🙏💔🙏💔🙏💔

[@soledadcompian3886]

My deepest condolences to Rebecca and your family.

[@sharonhuelsman]

Rebecca! You are loved by so many of us! I just want you to know 😘

[@karennuckols3007]

Rebecca, I'm praying for you and your family. I know how painful this is for you. God bless.

[@Grandma_NC]

One of the hardest things to do when someone we love passes is to walk into their home. Their presence is everywhere. Becca, cry the tears when you need to, always remember the love she had for you and smile. Hope your dad is doing OK. Hugs to you both.

[@ericjohnson1008]

Share more love, comfort and understanding. Talk more y'all got this.

[@RSMunchel]

Soo sorry for your loss. The loss of parents is so hard.

[@crazyarab02]

found the channel after helene and have kept watching every video. i love your family. i have been getting my house more prepared after seeing the issues after helene

[@vickimontgomery5271]

That grief is so numbing. Hang in there Rebecca. Big hugs! You will give yourself permission to smile again when you are ready. ❤🙏💔

[@cherylharless281]

Rebecca, I just lost my mom too so I really understand the grief and the hole in your heart and in your life. You know intellectually that it will get better, but right now it just sucks. Let your family love on you. Spend extra time with Lily as she is feeling it to and masking it to be kind to you. Push yourself to do things outside the home to have moments away from your grief. It's okay to laugh and have fun. Your Mom wouldn't have wanted you to be sad all the time. She is up in heaven right now probably looking down and seeing you laugh and smile would make her happy too. Huge Hugz from me. Hang in there!

[@dgmills5351]

Bless all of you for enduring all that has happened Rebecka and Justin. Something I learned to embrace from my former pastor, Keep your Loved ones in your Heart and Know they are in Heaven, fully healed of their afflictions. Also they are with the Family members that were there waiting on their arrival into the Heavenly Fathers Home! ❣️🙏🏻😇🤗

[@KendallMiller-je7jk]

I like how you’re working with the new dimensions of that creek. Honestly that storm probably blew out hundreds of years of legacy sediments that filled in that creek valley from agriculture and historic mills etc and is now in a more “naturalistic” geometry. You can lay down some large woody debris in the creek to improve habitat and vegetate the banks with native plants to get a more beautiful and healthier ecosystem. Good luck with everything!

[@lynnfiegl4953]

I lost my Mom, sister and brother in our house fire when I was 8 1/2 years old. It doesn’t matter how you lose a loved one, it hurts. I work in a nursing home now, and deal with death all the time. It still hurts when I lose a resident. But the way I cope with it is I think about how I made their lives better by being there and loving them. I know that Rebecca is hurting, but look how long she got to love on her Mom. What a blessing that is!! And her Mom is no longer in pain, and is whole again. And watching over her! Praying for the family!! ❤️❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@muzacminister]

Good morning y’all! Doing great after all you’ve gone through lately. Jonah and Josiah are going to be fighting the ladies off if they’re not already! Proud of them and the rest of you! Praying for comfort for the loss of Grandma ❤

[@cindyfleer2248]

Having lost both my parents as a young mom. ( My father one week after my first was born and my mother a decade later) my best advice that helps me when missing them is just to talk to them as if they are still with you in the room. Sharing your thoughts and feelings of your daily life. I still do this from t8me to time. I feel closer to them for it.

[@marykappesser5145]

My heart aches for you all.

[@awyomingprairiewife.8385]

My sweet mama passed when I was eleven. Devastation… But, God!!! He’ll see you through the pain that lasts a lifetime. One day sweet, Rebecca, you’ll be together forever ever. Never to part again in perfect health. Thank you, Jesus. You’re all in my prayer. Blessings ❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻

[@nooralli5933]

My condolences I know what it is like my mother passed away three years now and I still can’t get over it I miss her so much

[@johnharshaw1682]

Dear Rebecca, so sorry for your loss, I pray God help your heart overcome pain of your loss. May God bless you. Your friend Ray Harshaw. 🙏🏼💞 sending prayer and love to you and your family.

[@rubylackey9814]

My condolences to the family. ❤️🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@laurelb1962]

I feel ya Rebekah 😢💔 I lost my mom (to covid) 3 years ago, she died 1 week after my dad passed from the same thing. 😭😭 I wasn't really that close to my father, but my mom, we were tight. I think about her every single day. I most especially miss talking to her on the phone AND, to this very day, I can't bring myself to take her phone number out of my phone. Maybe one day, but today, is not, that day. I've been praying 🙏 that the good Lord brings you some, comfort. People say, that in time, you'll finally be ok, better, not crying as easily anymore, but I still cry. 😭 My heart ❤️ and my prayers 🙏 are with you Rebekah and, your entire family. Laurel

[@tamiejones8368]

Hugs Rebekah! My mom passed in 2006 I think about her all the time, for the first few years I still tried to call her whenever the kids did something I wanted to share with her. We used to talk for hours everyday, I still don't know how we always had plenty to talk about. On my last birthday before her passing she welcomed Jesus into her heart. Knowing i will see her again really carries me. Grieving is different for everyone, and we grieve each person in our lives differently. My mom had started a tradition where we tell our favorite stories about the person who passed. It really helps the heart to share those treasured moments with others who are also hurting. The first couple weeks were the hardest before I could start to get my feet back under me. We're praying for yours and your family's comfort. Love you guys! ❤

[@Mollycat-mg6jq]

Rebecca you will do it i lost my mom not that long ago i understand the hole and feels crazy weird to have to call it dads house instead of mom and dads i cant imagine going tgrough a hurricane as well mu love and otayers are going to Rebecca ❤😢though children are awesome

[@marykappesser5145]

My mom passed 49 years ago today. Never gets easier

[@donnamays24]

I don’t know if you have a new camera or what but the clarity on today’s video was incredible!…you all are in my heart and my prayers…sending much love❤🙏🏻

[@janejdough2230]

For years from time to time I would go to the phone to ask about a recipe or somesuch, I would forget she wouldn't answer.

[@mmoudy5884]

My Mom died in September 2017. I still miss her. I still cry sometimes thinking about her. So a Mom dying is not something you ever get over. My Mom married my Dad at 40. It was the first marriage for both. I was my Daddy’s girl but when he died I missed him like crazy and still do but your Mom dying is different. I am thankful for my parents and that they loved their children so much.

[@vickiehamilton6596]

Its hard to say goodbye.prayers for all Keep the good memories alive

[@lorabrashear1771]

🛑 stop , you are doing strong. Closer will come. You’ll get through. ❤️🙏. My mom pass two years ago, I live in the house. My brothers can’t come. Start working on something your seedlings

[@patbwi5871]

Come on Justin, give your wife the space she has earned.

[@BreckCowperthwaite]

My heart goes out to you and your family. God has a plan for each of us. You can believe Grandma is looking down as if she has never left. Lilly, such an angel. Boys, amazing. Your family is definitely blessed.

[@kathleenjones1387]

❤

[@lizregan1949]

In most cases their is nothing like a mother's love. Rebecca bless you.

[@lisaautry4944]

Watching your channel blesses my soul in so many ways. Hugs to you all!

[@BrendaHewitt-y1w]

❤❤

[@kenbergers]

I'm very sorry for your loss Rebecca. Justin you could of kept all that stuff about Grandma's passing Private. I hate it when I see Rebecca crying, because she is a very strong woman. You shouldn't let your viewer's see her grieving. That is a very, VERY private time. Grieving is a very private time.

[@ciaobella8963]

Yes, only the person grieving knows its depth and pain, but not everyone grieves the same way. We can never know their path in this process by just watching snippets of this precious family on a screen.

[@leahharbison4932]

❤God Bless yall !

[@allisonhubble8118]

The worst part of losing my mom was the lost feeling of having nothing I was supposed to be doing. Because, like you, I had spent enormous amounts of time caring for her and being with her in hospice when she was gone, I was at a loss for what to do. Suddenly I wasn't rushing to get going to be with her and then taking care of home things and work things. I would find myself feeling anxious and unsettled even though everything was taken care of. It gradually gets better, but even after 35 years without her, I have moments where I acutely feel the pain of losing her all over again. Bless you on finding your new normal and helping your family find theirs. It's hard.

[@emilylindholm3780]

please make sure you take time to rest. I know it seems like there's so much to do and "no time", but make sure you rest and relax with the family. Prayers still headed your way.

[@wildedibles819]

Hugs and love ❤

[@CarolMatson-g3y]

Thes are just words now but it will get better Rebecca. I'm praying for you every day, God bless you.

[@antidotetochaoschats]

Thankyou for more relaxing music. Yesterdays gave me anxiety

[@Jahnkeprepper]

I look forward to your video everyday. They make my day. So thank you. Prayers for the family on your loss.

[@gilliandejong1459]

Becca my heart goes out to you and your family 😢. I with I could give you a huge hug.

[@golommatthew899]

Becky, I’m sorry about your loss. I understand that I lost my mom in 2016. I actually lost her in 2002 which she started developing Alzheimer’s it’s a mean disease and you went through a mean disease with your mother being sick but count your blessing. Your children got to know their grandparents the shame Henry didn’t get to know them when he was older, but with your help and his siblings help, they can look at photographs and tell Henry how much he was loved hopefully your grandfather your father stays healthy and watches him grow bless your family, and I’m sorry about the loss of the farm and loss of your mother

[@TalieValentine]

Prayers for you and your family with everything youre going through with the hurricanes aftermath and the death in the family. ❤

[@bettytimberman8210]

Rebecca sorry to hear about your mother. She will alway be with you and family.keep your heart open to her .Prayers for you all.

[@annaraab8853]

Justin give the woman a break! It all takes time.

[@anniejefferson7329]

It's okay to not be super hero everyday. ❤

[@livingamadatlife]

So very sorry for your loss, may God bless and comfort you all.

[@Miss.Denise94]

I am very sorry for your loss. I'm keeping you in my prayers

[@gloriaannereichling-madrid5569]

Lily is awesome ❤

[@cherylbertolini3140]

So sorry for your loss

[@MrA-A04]

Love from South Africa 🇿🇦 ❤been watching since the beginning ❤

[@MidwestDreamer]

my heart goes out to you all - especially Rebecca. I lost my mom 9 years ago in Nov and I still want to call her to talk about daily life. I have her number still listed in my phone so I can see her picture - it just creates a hole that I don't think will ever close. As each year goes by, it's bittersweet and hurts less. But watching the video of the blessings to grandma and saying goodbye, so many tears shed over here. Sending love, hugs and many prayers 🙏❤‍🩹

[@lindseyreyes983]

Becca: you are doing a much better job than you give yourself credit for. It's so hard. Just look at the fruits of your mothering labors. You have a beautiful, strong, and resilient family. You have a community that loves you more than you realize. You have all the support you need to take the time to slow down, hold your family a little closer, and move through this valley. You've invested so much in your family and your community that you can make some withdrawals right now. It's ok. Service and love go both directions ❤ It's okay to not feel okay. We're here for you.

[@robbiedejonge8613]

I'm thinking with all the downed trees from your past cuttings and the storm you probably have multiple large tree trunks that you could put underneath the pole barn. They could act like temporary caissons until you can do something more permanent. The hay idea is a good idea.

[@surferbob9419]

Things are coming along great. Glad you got some help. It is going to be hard for a while with the loss of grandma but it will get easier. Take comfort that she is no longer suffering from ALS. Continued prayers for your family. ❤️

[@donnaduhamel6004]

Yall are best in adversity?!! Love the coopera-tion❤❤😂😂 Mum or dad its an abandonment issue...Gods Love to you All❤ So much, patience and nuturing.....😮😢😂❤

[@pattyhemstrought7729]

💔 thoughts and prayers to you all.

[@aaronyodaddy7315]

I'm sorry for your loss! I would say that it gets easier but you get use to it. Eventually she becomes a memory in time. She's healed from all of her pain.

[@AlishaDianeJordanOlin]

Rebecca, you are doing so well. It is ok to give yourself grace and take some time to process everything. That weird feeling will slowly fade as you adjust. Your mom was a strong lady and I see her in you.

[@lieuwina]

Rebecca and Justin once again condolences to you all my prayers to you all and to Big Daddy how is he coping? your children are fantastic and Lilly stepping up with the cooking for mom. Have a lovely day.

[@CopperKettleFarms]

Rebecca, you have a world of us behind you, I hope you know. Dealing with everything at the same time like that just seems impossible. I'm glad you have such an amazing family to learn on for support

[@anastasia9797]

👍👍👍👍

[@karenbrown3713]

Rebecca I understand the whole in your heart and emptiness my mom passed almost 3 years ago big hugs to you and your family thankful you have your children and your husband after the hurricane sorry for the loss of your mom 😢

[@JimmyGerald]

Sorry for your Mother’s Loss, I loss my mother week of Christmas this will be My third Unpleasant Christmas You just Grieve your your own way everyone grieves their own way….They are no right or no wrong just do it own your own in your own special way….Your in my thoughts and prayers much love to you and your family 🙏🙏🩵💙🩵

[@19queenbee55]

I keep my moms laminated funeral card in my purse and on my breakfast table with one of her best pictures on it. It’s good to look at her smiling face when I need it. Praying for you all and here to serve you. Karin.

[@JesusSavedMe-Alizabeth4truth]

that sounds crazy but I saved a recording and my mom calling me. We knew she wasn’t doing very well so we had an agreement to call me after we get done talking to each other and just leave a message that you love me and I would call and leave a message that I love her. I saved her message…

[@AnnKesler]

I am so sorry for the loss of your Mom and for the storm damage to your beautiful farm. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Grief is different for us all but it will get easier as time passes. Hold tight to each other ,and know that your you tube family loves you all.

[@JJ.LovesAnimals]

The hardest part for me was selling my parents home (the home I grew up in) the last walk throught was a feeling I never experienced before. Its going to be hard Rebecca but you are always going to be filled with great memories.. I lost my nephew a few weeks ago (he was 34-35) I loved him like he was my son.. Its part of life. Very hard but it does get better. ❤🙏🏼🐱

[@buterfliesSusieLP]

SORRY FOR THE FAMILIES LOSS OF THEIR LOVED ONE. BE thankful that your house not damaged and no loss of property. Many people loss their homes and property that fell into river an have nothing leFT. They also loss famliy members also in the flood. Praise God that that you only have a mess to clean up as for as the homstead and in the woods. Be Thankful for the help you received cutting those trees, and thankful for the woodchipper you will be receiving. Blessed is this family for their losses and gains received. PRAYERS OF HEALING IN ALL CONCERNS 🙏🙏🙏✝✝✝💞💞💞 SLP

[@gerriebell2128]

They ARE thankful. It’s not a pissing contest of who has it “the worst”. SOME of why they had less damage is simply Justin and the kids all working to “control” where the water went. Go judge someone else…. Or actually nobody.

[@martineb8185]

Bonjour je suis française et je viens de voir votre vidéo ,je suis desolée pour votre MAMAN,je vous presente toutes mes condoléances ,et mes prières vous accompagnent .PAIX A SON AME 🙏🙏🙏

[@agent8082]

We are keeping yall in our prayers! Because they are saying these floods will get worse and worse. Move the whole thing to higher ground. Cut that one down to half. the size.

[@Missypop-sy8oc]

Sometimes you want to talk to your Mom, then you remember. Our 🙏 are with you Rebekah. It will take some time.

[@allandart20]

I never got to know my mother as an adult, she was 42 when she was taken from us, I was 15. I feel your pain and send love healing and sympathy to you all. ❤️☮️🙏🏻