I. Didn't. Get. Good. Hair. | Thin, Short 4C Natural Hair.

[@sheabutterbre]

“hair has never been just hair” A WORD.

[@sirenenoire4091]

auntie edna true. If it were then it wouldn’t be such a big and profitable industry.

[@AllysseMarie]

auntie edna a whole word and the closing prayer

[@casuallym3]

This was hands down the most hands down RAW TRUTHFUL TRUTH TRUEE 1000% rawest video On KZbin . Probably because I relate to it the most. These natural hair girls on KZbin are so full of shit tryna Act like natural hair journeys are not that deep. When she said , the she's had a more emotional fight than physical fight I felt that on deep level. I don't dwell on my hair as much no more but oh , I've been their I remember faking being sick to mom so that I wouldn't let me go 2 school with my natural hair. I remember Having to wear my natural hair at school I wore a hat and stayed in the consluors office so that no one saw me for the whole day. This video really spoke to me cause my hair looks exactly like hers too.

[@sparksfly6149]

I’ve seen so many guys, especially ones with straight hair, saying “it’s just hair”. Even “if you don’t like it, cut it off”. Like what?

[@nickimurderedcardinmegan8933]

Sparks Fly exactly and i always say if they cut it off and God doesn’t allow it to grow back then i guess it won’t be just hair then🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@far6311]

this one's for the girls who have spent ALL NIGHT on your twist out...only to put a wig on

[@TheStarPuppy]

Don’t read meeeeee 😂

[@1991-present]

Yesss I felt this

[@wahustarlet6798]

😭

[@camiltv1521]

Yuka omg that’s me!!!!

[@DeAndraB]

I have been there! 😫

[@kikibrown9548]

“Stop watching any tutorials of any other texture.” Nothing but facts!!!!! I used to torture myself like that and only end up frustrated, emotionally drained, etc.

[@NYCDoll217]

Check out NappyFu she has 4c hair and is doing it! I don't have 4c hair but I follow most naturalista with 4c hair. They have the better hair health advice!

[@thepookiestpookie9865]

Omg its so true. I’ll watch videos of girls with straight hair who do cute braids and styles that I can’t do. And I always feel upset about it afterwards because I feel so unfortunate.

[@heyyashleyyy2669]

NYCDoll217 I love NappyFu she’s a game changer for ppl with 4c hair

[@mynamehere492]

It's true but hard. I've been natural on and off for almost 10 years and I can say that thin AND fine kinky hair is rare on KZbin.

[@nellacurls1]

So trueee that just happened to me 🙄 I even cut my hair because I thought it was going to look just like hers 🤦🏻‍♀️😡

[@rebelnotestudios]

I'm a white male. All my life I've been told I have perfect, thick, beautiful hair, and now over half of it is gone and I have a shiny bald spot on my head. I know our hair journeys are completely different, but man, you made me feel a lot of feels just now. I think you and fluff nugget are perfectly beautiful as you are, and I hope our society changes to accept that too.

[@Susannah-Dean]

Monistat

[@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds]

@@Susannah-Dean NO!!!

[@Diamond-db3fx]

@@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorldswhy

[@notveryrea1]

​@@KiraBKADestroyerOfWorlds *walter white fall*

[@rebekahlikesmusic2723]

💚

[@AlexPayne1711]

She did an entire video for almost 30 mins and I still see comments saying "you should just embrace it" and "you're being negative" smh I swear you walk someone through a process, hold their hands and speak to them like a small child and they will STILL not get it.

[@YoshiSpeaksTruth]

👏👏👏 I wish I could thumbs up this 100 times!

[@meh9104]

The Foreign Experience Even small children understand better. Lol

[@ChichiMarie]

Girl Yessss but They aren’t watching it that’s why. Just commenting. They want to be heard, they don’t want to listen 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@LadyUnpredictable1]

!!!!!!!!!! I mean come ON! This video was everything I needed and made ME happy and feel seen.

[@trudy_triad]

@@meh9104 😂😂😂😂😂

[@brandondavis1155]

You should record audiobooks. Your voice is so inviting and soothing.

[@claireann2129]

500th like 😂

[@kristinamarie111]

Right, I’m sitting here working and just listening to her is making me so relaxed 😌

[@clairebearlife]

Your voice has such a narrator like quality to it

[@megabyt3s]

Claire Bear yes it really doesss

[@jessicabrown3186]

Lool so true, I can literally listen to it all day. It’s so soothing and relaxing.

[@Smoothjazz001]

Claire Bear she’s actually a voice actor

[@neosolrocstar]

She said she was a actor

[@i.cant.sleep.anymore]

She would be so perfect for audiobooks...she is so engaging!

[@MrsDazl]

4b here, I gotta say, the people who are the hardest on our hair is our own folk. I went fully natural 13 years ago at a white college and the ONLY people being nasty were black folk. My lessons are: 1. stop watching videos with women who don't have your texture. You'll just get frustrated. 2. Learn how to flat twist. 3. Protective styling is your friend. 4. Haters get this 🖕🏾

[@TK-ix4cl]

Randi C. Because black people look at it as embarrassing or unkept. White folks just glad it’s not a weave or wig.

[@itsnotmeitsyou717]

@@TK-ix4cl you need to think deeper abt why black ppl look at it that way when most bp have it. Where did that come from? And white ppl are glad its not a weave or wig but in the co orperate world dont they look at it the same way as the black ppl you mentioned? Only one state im aware banned natural hair discrimination and there are plenty of instances throughout the years of them finding even braids and 4c hair in a puff unacceptable in schools, same goes for dread locks. Yes there are some white ppl ok with our hair, most arent and thats a fact, i dont appreciate that ur comment implies bp are more against 4c hair than the ppl who made us be that way, same goes for the op.

[@itsnotmeitsyou717]

Well since most black are conditioned to see 4c hair as unpresentable, its only understandable some feel some type of way to see you embrace yours. That doesnt mean there werent white ppl at your college who didnt feel that way but some for the fear of being labelled racist would keep those opinions to themselves and their friends. Black ppl dont have to worry abt that so some will put their self loathing on full display. I dont think itll ever come to a point where most of us will become accepting of 4c hair just like so most of us still cant accept our features and darkskin. There is just too much conditioning and too many detached from our plight as a community.

[@MrsDazl]

@@itsnotmeitsyou717 been working in corporate for 8 years, I wear my hair natural in interviews and ive never had a complaint. Ever.

[@leilanidru7506]

@Randi C. I screen shotted this and wish I could like this a million times

[@jazlyncunningham7686]

To me “good hair” is healthy hair and that is all.

[@mina-du6fi]

unfortunately it’s not that easy for everyone there are societal beauty standards

[@LM-ix7pk]

milly agha then maybe it’s time to change beauty standards, don’t cha think? 😉 besides, black women are becoming the beauty standard. It’s the trend to darken your skin and have big lips.

[@waviimse4567]

Lmoa when you dont have that either T-T

[@bissofly]

@@LM-ix7pk black features are becoming more popular in the beauty world but not on black women

[@jazlyncunningham7686]

bisola alli-balogun I 100% agree, and it’s a shame

[@moonpiemoonpie]

My bf was watching this with me and goes "she's freaking beautiful tho" lmao he loves the undefined look. He says it reminds him of peridot, his favorite crystal gem.

[@XxAshaWxX]

That's actually really cute

[@neysaedwards-turnbull4494]

🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 peridot is life ....I'm a garnet girl myself

[@exox7534]

Where tf did you find a man like that?

[@raynebow5289]

Your bf called Star beautiful, and his favorite crystal gem is Peridot? When is the wedding?

[@NaquitaRandle]

Ain't she tho?!?!? ♥️

[@tonitoyobo3050]

Growing up in Africa where this type of hair is normal and then moving to another continent for whatever reason is such a different experience. Back home I'm very used to going out with my Afro and getting complimented on it so you can imagine my shock when I start getting weird looks because of something that used to be my pride. Granted, my hair is a lot like Danielle's; moisture just never seems to get into it, it's kinda short but not really but it's not long either, the only difference being that it's hella thick which is both an advantage and a disadvantage, my hair, for a long time, was just hair. I've always loved my hair because it was the standard and I have so much respect and admiration for African-American girls or black girls in general who have been taught either directly or indirectly through society that the hair they were born with and have no control over is some kind of an abomination. It's so awe-inspiring to see people ready to challenge the set standards and find their own place as who they are rather than who they should be. In other words, great video. This is amazing and I love it.

[@cielcanterville1834]

That's very interesting, I've learned that black folk can struggle a lot with self hate for their features in some African countries so it's nice to hear a different perspective for once - which one are you from? If you don't mind me asking

[@tonitoyobo3050]

@@cielcanterville1834 I'm Nigerian

[@catalayatern2251]

In Africa there was a girl that got suspended for having 4c... Maybe that was a rare occasion cause I was 😲 shocked

[@catalayatern2251]

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[@MsDiMera2]

@@catalayatern2251 You are talking about South Africa which still has a large white population , which means you will still have white people as teachers and headmasters/ mistresses . I grew up in Zimbabwe ( right next door to South Africa ) in the 90s and there was still a large white population which has now decreased. If you went to a formerly whites only schools you would get white people opinions on your hair ; both in Secondary school and primary school my headmistress was white. In primary school the white headmistress preferred black girls to straighten their hair and that was part of the uniform ( Zimbabwean schools wear uniform) . In Secondary School I went to a Catholic school for A levels and the headmistress was a German nun but she was really chill and there was a list of black hairstyles that were allowed. You could wear it short and natural or relax it or cornrow it or get dreadlocks from form 1 to 4 but for those levels you could not add any extensions whatsoever to it or she it.Once you got to A level one of the privileges was that you could also get a weave or braids . I 've noticed that people from West Africa which had a minimal white settler population e.g Ghana or Nigeria tend to be more comfortable with their hair than people in Southern and East African countries where the white settler population was / for some is still huge and reluctant to leave after independence e.g South Africa, Kenya , Zimbabwe etc

[@chizarammbah5886]

I am engaged to a man who loves silky straight long hair. I have short 4C sparse density hair just like you.We had a conversation about my hair and he told me he would prefer me wearing my hair in silky straight human hair extensions. I told him he had better got used to my 4C hair because I would NEVER wear ‘human hair’ and the closest I could get to that is to braid with extensions. I typically don’t care what people think about my hair, but I felt quite hurt that the one man I was supposed to spend the rest of my life with, the one whose opinions actually matter to me would think this way. I did my thing and wore my natural hair the way I wanted it. Some months ago, I was on a video call with him. I had just taken down a 1month old braid and had my natural hair in an Afro. And the first thing he said when he saw me was “Babe you look beautiful. Your hair suits you so well”. He’s said it a lot of times afterwards. What this taught me is that first, you have to accept yourself and your hair, and wear it confidently. Once you’ve done that, those that matter would fall in line, those that don’t will get the hell out. It can be challenging to accept hair that is constantly being projected as ‘inferior’ to others, but once you get to that point, no one will be able to steal your thunder.

[@Harry4Potterfan]

I love this comment!!!! I'm so glad things worked out and he grew to love your hair

[@Cookincrazy]

Yay! I’m glad he and you love your hair. And I agree 100% we have to be confident with it

[@JassyJass95]

This is beautiful! And I’m glad he learned to accept your hair, but moreover I am so glad that you decided to wear your hair as you please despite what he thought!

[@danietodoroki3420]

I’m so glad this had a happy ending. Rock that crown of curls sista 🙌🏾 🍯✨

[@ArianneMcD]

I needed to read this fr!!

[@SuchuhFrickinLady]

Can we also talk about the people who feel the need to talk about your 4C hair but have NEVER had the confidence to naturally wear their own! This is something I come across A LOT!

[@indeeditiscirro]

Sara Jones and the boys with 5A hair who only "prefer" girls with 3A hair Edit: oh gosh haha thank you for the likes! I haven't experienced the discrimination myself but I've seen it so much online

[@iloveloveloveableful]

@@indeeditiscirro Speak on it, sis!!!

[@mynamehere492]

@@indeeditiscirro 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 gurl! It's crazy. 🤯

[@choclate39]

And that’s a word !!!

[@milesgs]

Patchy Rye 5A I’m dead 😂😂😂😂😂😭

[@lilsmilez185]

“You need to embrace your natural hair” “It’s just hair” or “it’s just hair, it’ll grow back” Three of the most sentences I EVER HATED

[@kynnedijohnson8693]

Because it is people just show up how meaningless it is it’s not gonna be your whole life that u feel like this

[@whatthe640]

THANK YOU

[@NekeishaWise]

Me too 😫 can't stand when people say that mess

[@iiiacvsixteen7336]

Iol.. i too

[@isaa.5187]

I hate the "its just hair" thing. Hair is important and part of our identity.

[@awesomesmith4489]

im a 15 year old black girl with similar hair to yours and i needed to hear this so bad honestly i've always been natural but my hairs always been in braids so i never have to deal with it. It just always seemed so scary to show people my hair because everytime i saw someone with my hair they were always bald headed and had nappy hair which somehow made their hair ugly. So I hid it. This video inspired me to start becoming comfortable with my hair. So when I take out my braids instead of washing it and immediately putting it back into braids I will finally try that twist out, and if it doesn't go well I'll probably put it back in braids but that'll be a first step and that's ok. So thank you for this truly.

[@blancam.bautista3329]

@awesome smith how are you doing? I am proud of you for that brave decision ❤

[@rheyganmcqureerir3425]

“its just hair” says the people whose hair is accepted in any social setting. which is why i make an effort to wear my hair OUT AND NATURAL 99% of the time. i dont pin it up for school or ANY professional setting. i take professional pictures with it, i’ve done interviews with it you name it. during sports i do mini twists but NEVER sacrifice MY HAIR for someone else’s standards. the only exception is safety requirements and military uniform regulations and EVEN THEN its in a protective style not slick back not straightened!!!!

[@aniyahcampbell2890]

At first I thought my hair was not perfect my hair is neck length and because my hair is soft it’s thin when flat iron but my hair usually looks full when blow dry I remember back when I was younger when ever I had flat ironed hair everyone would say my hair is soft I’m starting to embrace it more

[@blkbarbie2671]

Preach!!

[@laetitiasales3527]

Only people with straight hair are accepted everywhere. I'm white like a ghost with very curly hair (3b/3c hair) and when I do job interviews they tell me I should straighten it to look more "elegant and professional". It's insane. No one should change their hair to work.

[@veghead05]

🙌🙌🙌

[@KJ-nv9uz]

@@laetitiasales3527 Im not one to ever pull the race card, but thst would be the day.

[@Anna-ij3je]

When she said "my hair is more a statement then a style" ..I felt that in my soul. At work a coworker (my own people) said oh you do that , I said do what?..she said do natural..I said "ma am I'm doing what God gave me". (end scene) ..I CANNOT

[@blackgold4668]

"I'm doing what God gave me." 👏👏👏

[@FateOfTheElephant]

I literally Lmboooo 😂😂😂😂 "MA'AM"

[@AleySoundz]

@JamericanDC1 They already are. Look up asians getting black hair texture.

[@DanishThe1]

Anna I had to go too your channel and see your profilepicture 😄 whatever you are doing, it works! I like your hair 😉

[@Anna-ij3je]

@@DanishThe1 heyyy thank youuuu LOVE❤️

[@carterbaby25]

If your hair is anything like mine, it grows best when it's braided moisturized and unbothered. I truly think constant manipulation with your hair hurts it's growth process. Get you some cool kinky texture wigs.

[@neysaedwards-turnbull4494]

Yes I was just about to say that .... I have three textures in the front and crown its 4a/b sides middle 4b back 4c .. When kept in and moisturized it just behaves so well Have you tried Chebe powder?

[@stefanyxavier2144]

Right? She's doing way tooo much

[@Bubby-r7p]

Is there any protective hairstyles just for natural hair without adding wigs, weave/braids? I want to protect it with just my natural hair cause it’s thick enough. Sorry if it doesn’t make sense

[@Artbycheria]

Michelle Aj twist your hair

[@Bubby-r7p]

Cher Giles thank you🙏 and if you don’t mind me asking, for how long should they stay on?

[@lillian5353]

There's a lot of toxic energy everywhere. In the relaxed community, "why is your hair relaxed? Go natural, embrace your true self." Excuse me, you can have relaxed, beautiful and HEALTHY hair. In the natural hair community, "your hair isn't natural enough...you should buy these products"... I'm so done with it. As a black woman, people judge me bc my hair doesn't look black enough. If my fro isn't super gorgeous and my edges aren't slayed and I don't have all th3 amazing hair products...then I'm not black enough. Hair isn't just hair. It's used as judgement.

[@qispies]

You can't have healthy relaxed hair since it's chemically fried. You can have LONG relaxed hair. Healthy? no. Which is why you have to cut it for it to be healthy. Also length doesn't = health.

[@3618499]

Lillian Supo Adekola " IGNORE IT!.... Others can't hurt Us if We don't let them. Every individual's own hair belongs to Them, God intended it to. So, why does it matter what others are saying or thinking about Us? Just because some critics are insecure doesn't mean that We have to be. Remember that most people have some hidden or revealed personal issues (ex: Personality, Relationships, Body & Self-Image, Etc.) They're unable or unwilling to acknowledge or confront. Instead, they will seek out so-called ' flaws ' in others. They can't tolerate others with any real or perceived advantages over them, whether superficial or intrinsic. Ever heard the ancient proverb ' Misery loves company. ' ? Unfortunately, ' We the People ' of all backgrounds and demographics too often get played by the seemingly well-meaning advice from others with ulterior motives without realizing it. Even greater global Mass Marketing firms spends trillions of dollars exploiting and researching Our insecurities to achieve massive financial gain. Notice all of the giant commercial industries (ex: Automobile, Cosmetic, Fashion, Real Estate, Travel, Etc.) who profit by stoking never-ending lusts and pursuits ' for what only They can provide ' ? Full joy and maturity is fully achieved once individuals and groups stop seeking external validation from Others for Their own personal self-worth and validation. "

[@chasejones7008]

@@qispies That's only half true, relaxed hair has not been fried on a frying pan the hydrogen bonds in the hair were broken, so ofc healthy natural hair will always be stronger and healthier than relaxed hair but if it were actually not healthy at all then every person with a perm would have raggedy ends which is not true, you don't have to cut your relaxed hair off just to be healthy, but to have strands where the hydrogen bond was never broken

[@afroclouds]

@@qispies Worddd

[@afroclouds]

You HAVE to love your natural self if you want self love, not your processed self!!!

[@Lovinglouu]

4c hair is no joke and I hate when people try to undermine the amount of work I have to put in to style my hair. I definitely understand where you’re coming from 😩

[@progress313]

Lovinglouu yes girl it is a whole job 😂😭 We need our appreciation!

[@nerdgurl402]

Or they like to say we’re just being lazy when we talk about the time and care it takes

[@Alex-hj1vk]

Say it again🗣It has NEVER been "just hair"! I hate that. I also hate "don't let it get to you" in reference to the hate.

[@Renee-bell212]

Yes, patiently waiting for the day when wearing natural hair isn’t a political statement... You’re one of the few creators I can watch for 20 min+. Thank you ☺️

[@iateyursandwiches]

Is it really 100% not a political statement though? Afterall, some of us did it to go against European beauty standards and encourage little black girls. Is that considered political? Just want to know people's thoughts. I did it cause I'm sick of relaxers and realized I had to do just as much work to have healthier relaxed hair as healthy natural hair. All with the benefits of no chemical burn risks, fewer protein treatments, and less $$$ provided I don't become a product junky like some people. Also, I wanted to start a general journey of self love and acceptance. That journey had to involved loving every part of me.

[@felicitygomez7852]

@@iateyursandwiches yes I transitioned for a similar reason. But I want my hair to stop being a reason for attention I just want it to be HAIR as that is what it is. I don't mean to compare myself but when a girl with a loose texture (straight) wears her hair in its natural state people think nothing about it. Why can't I do the same I don't want all this pressure for my hair to look perfect everyday.

[@indriadrayton1132]

@@felicitygomez7852 we feel the pressure because it is a cultural and political issue. 4c hair is especially condemned in the media. Remember Simone Biles? How she was made fun of for her hair rather than celebrated for her awesome gymnastic talents and fortitude? And by this was by her own people....us!!! Taking to social media to criticize her. I for one, am gonna give off my vibe, with Pam Grier attitude, in regards to my 4c lmnop hair. Check her out, right along with Amara LaNegra and walk with that. I had to break it down to a co-worker that this is BLACK hair, with that kind of emphasis. Hey people, ya'll deal with this. Not my problem. Try it out.

[@kapparhotau181]

Yea like we are not allowed to wear hair they way it grows out of our scalp like some other races can

[@epic7224]

It is if you don't live in America 😑

[@bewtyboo]

I've been natural for over 10 years. I'm at midback length with blow-drying but it shrinks to a twa at my ears. I've accepted my hair as a part of me but I don't think I've ever really liked it. It only looks good in a pineapple or heat trained. I love having long healthy hair but the hassle of doing it and styles coming out terrible is miserable. My mom and other natural friends have a different hair texture but just don't understand. I almost cut my hair off last year because I was over it. I've decided I'm going to texturize it to keep the volume but make my life easier. I'm tired of being a political statement just existing and I'm beyond done with fake smiling like this is ideal. The toxic positivity in the community makes you feel crazy for being frustrated. Thanks for being a real voice in this ♥️

[@Intellectualrigor]

I have 4c hair. I still relax after being natural for 2 years. I'm OVER people telling people how to feel on this subject.

[@leilanidru7506]

There’s toxic positivity and there’s also toxic negativity too... negativity on our kind of journey is normal. That’s where toxic possibilities goes wrong, treating every natural hair struggle, frustration, and breakdown as YoU ShOuLd JuSt EmBrAcE it, and that’s wrong. The other side of the coin is just as wrong tho when u say that the existence and experience of a hair texture is a fake ideal. Ijs🤷🏿‍♀️ there’s not easy answers, I certainly don’t have any, and I’m not here to shame anyone or tell anyone what to do with their hair. I have 4c hair as well and sometime it feels like your damned if u do, damned if u don’t.

[@ac12304]

This resonates with me. The toxic positivity is horrible. And you hit the nail on the head with the "being a political statement". UGH! I'm going to experiment with straightening my hair.

[@sirenenoire4091]

If it were just hair, then there wouldn’t have been are still are so many laws/rules for it.

[@betternow1906]

If it was "just hair" I wouldn't have to spend $60,000 on two diffrent schools and take the state boards twice ✌

[@memebryant1121]

Better Now I need you to talk about this cause huhhhh

[@betternow1906]

@@memebryant1121 ?

[@epic7224]

That's only in America though. Other countries aren't that shitty. Facts. So yes everywhere else it's only hair.

[@betternow1906]

@@epic7224 shhh if women realize its "just hair" start taking pride in themselves, and learn to do it at home many hairdressers that profit off of girls insecurities will go out of business!

[@blaqgurl]

My 5 year old daughter said as soon as you came on screen "She's so pretty!" I have the same hair texture. Dreads are the only style my hair likes.

[@bernishawilliams4014]

Ebony I loved this. I almost want to cry ❤️

[@ShaneCM]

I immediately thought the same thing...it’s probably the reason I clicked on the vid. And I too have the same hair.

[@anbillie]

Yeah im.looking into dreads

[@luvmeany]

I got locs too! Best decision I've ever made, and I try to sell other 4c girls on it whenever I can

[@luvyourlocks4485]

I have locs too, been over two years now. Best thing I ever did and so liberating, definitely a self love journey.

[@karlaalvarez9487]

I had a talk with one of my girls who struggles with her 4c hair. She got so frustrated she chopped it off three times. I figured I’d go buy her some products and send them to her to help ease the process of doing her hair. I want her and people like her and myself to look in the mirror and embrace how unique we are. It’s a struggle but I’m trying to see it more as self care than a chore. I know I wrote a whole paragraph but from one natural sister to another, you’re all so beautiful and I love you( didn’t hear it today you heard from me.) Stay safe ❤️

[@michellepreston9799]

Isn’t that part of the problem with 4c hair. Products don’t work on our hair the same way it does with other hair types. We aren’t patient enough to learn what works and what does not work for our hair. The frustration with trying to tame our hair is the biggest obstacle. We are very judgmental of what we perceive as hair that looks unkempt. I am guilty of that and I have 4c hair. It bothers me to no end to see matted clumped up lint filled hair on a woman especially 4c hair in that state of being.

[@ashleynicole5969]

This was so beautiful, thank you for writing this ! ❤️

[@sneekz07]

Ah this is like me! I grow out my hair until I can't be be bothered to deal with it anymore and then buzz it off. For me it's not about self hatred, I literally can not be bothered with the maintenance and tired arms! Good thing I have the bone structure to pull it off.

[@indriadrayton1132]

4c or in my case, 4lmnop hair, is sculptural. It can be put into so many cool designs and shapes. I love my hair, it's just A LOT 9F WORK!!!!

[@betternow1906]

To be honest my neice has 4c and got kinda like a buzz but faux hawk haircut and LOVES it! She's too young for braids and dose too many sports

[@FunSizedOreoGirl]

OMG yesss. I wore my afro to the store and this women was like "is she trying to be a black panther or something" ....no I just came to get wine and some oreos 😭

[@Amoore1991]

Wow, that’s messed up. People are unreal

[@unflippedfedora]

I wanted to teach my mom how to take care of her hair, so today I also finger-detangled her hair too, she’s just sat there cute and quiet.

[@jess9722]

Unflipped Fedora I find finger detangling is quicker than using a wide tooth comb. Crazy stuff man

[@TriniGirlNatural]

That's really cute! My mom asks for by help also

[@prinduplayzx]

Jess that’s crazy! I feel like I’m tearing out my hair with my fingers, everyone’s hair is different☺️

[@ellenkorang6670]

@@prinduplayzx me too, I feel like my hair gets more tangled when I use my fingers 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@indeeditiscirro]

When I finger detangle, the shed hairs don't come out! I don't mean breakage, I mean the ACTUAL shed hairs with the white bulbs. What am I doing wrong?

[@candiceallen4455]

I remember when I was combing out my 4c hair in front of my friend (a guy). Now don't get me wrong y'all, I'm trying my best to embrace its natural state, but I remember just casually saying, "My hair is crap" because sometimes natural hair can be frustrating. His response surprised me and I'm always going to remember it. He seemed genuinely confused and he proceeded to ask, "What do you mean? You have quality hair." 4c is hard to deal with, but never forget that this shit is QUALITY!

[@dee1946]

Candice Allen please tell me you stayed friends with him 😭🥺

[@Abbymiller91992]

My husband is the same lol every time I get frustrated with my hair and say I hate it, he’s always like “really? I love your hair” he’s such a sweetheart

[@natu_illustrates]

yall married yet- 🥺

[@leswestla6528]

She is speaking deep into my soul. No music in the background, no unnecessary fake enthusiasm. Just talking real facts. Sometimes Im like.. why did I have to he born with the hair thats literally on THE OPPOSITE SIDE OF THE SPECTRUM?? couldnt I get something in the middle? Or even second to last? Im tearing up writing this rn. Havent even finished watching the video Love the realness.

[@antfactory1]

It's not even about the hair itself. I love my 4c hair. I just wish it would fucking grow like the rest of the other hairstyles.

[@tianalewis9723]

I feel you girl

[@veghead05]

❤❤❤

[@rubyreduxx]

Its sad that we feel that way about the hair that grows put of our heads 😔 But starpuppy D is right... the journey will lead to knowing your self worth 100%

[@oluchiibe98]

"Why do you think self-love and self-acceptance is a sprint?" That.... that hit very deep...

[@kyori4ever]

Starpuppy: "It has never..." KZbin: *well timed commercial* Starpuppy: "...been just hair"

[@ThePhoenixx2012]

ArtyAsh facts lol

[@QueenOfTheCoast]

😆

[@ChrissyGotTheCoils]

Lol

[@Window4503]

Lol gotta let it sink in...

[@Minxs001]

LOL!!

[@hollaatthekid1796]

I felt triggered so I didn't comment until i watched the entire thing. We have been LIED to. We don't feel our hair is good because it is in our American culture that itn is not good hair. We don't know much about it because our previous people permed and altered our texture and didn't teach us HOW to care for our texture. Don't you think it would be NORMAL if we had proud ancestors to teach us how to care for it from a young age? You have PERFECT hair. It is beautiful and thick enough for your small head. I had 4c thick hair with thick stands thick hair for a big head, until an illness took it ALL away from me. Now I have a wig. Many wigs. CHERISH your hair.

[@felisha209]

Holla At The KI D yeah I did too. Title is a lot

[@casuallym3]

As much , as I loved this video , because a I saw a past version of myself Could relate to her mindset. I agree with everything ur saying as well. Danielle has seems to (from time to time ) to talk.think negatively about her hair on this channel. Even though she puts it in a '' joking tone '' I truly believe that why she has ill feelings about her hair. Your thoughts and feels towards something will always become ur reality towards it. I have the same , exact hair type , denisty and everything as her sp I comeplelety understand where's she's coming form but at the same time , You gotta give ur hair a positive space. Thats the only way to grow it . We hate to hear it cause it's sounds so cliche but there's no running away from it.

[@YunaTakoyaki]

Her hair isn’t thick that’s why she struggling

[@soraya.e5482]

HappieDae I think she should do styles to compliment her thin hair like mini twists, twist out, wash and go, or fluff to an Afro

[@MsDedemc]

Yeah, I agree that we were lied to about our hair. But I think still to this day, we have these "influencers" in our face with wigs, braids, and looser textures trying to tell us and show us what is "beautiful". That lie that the only beautiful healthy hair is long and thick has so many of us thinking, "Well, damn, I don't have that, so I ain't shit." So, we throw on wigs or braid up, all while neglecting our natural hair in the name of someone's else's beauty standards.

[@BriannaK_]

I hate the term "Good hair". Growing up a lot of the elder women in my family use this term when praising loosely textured hair (they still do it) and anything kinky or coily is usually put down. It conditioned my young mind that this is the case and it took me a long while to get out of that mindset. Good 👏🏽 hair👏🏽 is 👏🏽healthy 👏🏽hair👏🏽

[@anissa2361]

I hate that ish it literally pisses me off!

[@janice184]

amen!! some of my friends perpetuate texturism too (does that make sense?)

[@TheLesExit]

Ya this really needs to stop. I don't even think it is just elder women tho. Black women need to understand how much this hurts the self-esteem of young girls. I know it is all based on what they've been conditioned to see as good....but still...it has gotta stop.

[@ericabelcher8760]

Thank you!!!! Its ridiculous & its been extremely detrimental in every generation!! Smdh

[@LaToyaEbonyHair]

PREACH!! It gets on my nerves to hear the older women in my family speak that way about our hair. It took years for me to realize how ignorant it all sounded. I still have to check my mother to this day. Old habits die hard.

[@queenleila806]

came for the hair, stayed for the personality , you my friend are something else and I like it !

[@afroclouds]

😄❤️

[@timichelle]

Your personality is EVERYTHING

[@FoxyChariot]

Ti Michelle It really is. I’ve never heard anyone name their hair.

[@sweethartia]

Rey Parker I thought every natural girl named their hair

[@katara6671]

She is corny and cringy af

[@chriskratt7665]

^^ignore

[@jaelynbrown5564]

It kind of sounds like she’s reciting a poem.

[@evelyngray3943]

I was dead ass about to say that

[@Lisa-tj7to]

She is incredible!! Best video I have come across on the 'interweb' today. Also so relatable because I share the same 4C woes. Le sigh

[@nikkinyokabi6111]

True 😂😂😂

[@amrayabaptiste2933]

Yes. She's very poetic. Love it. I wonder if she writes.

[@cuttieboo2609]

Now I was born on a small island and around me , almost everyone had the same 4c texture and we considered it beautiful , only since being exposed to insta and other apps i've learned that other places , think it's ugly. I actually started to believe it ,but the opinion of other people i dunno about my hair is lame , and i'm sorry that u ever felt as though your hair was less than the rest.

[@siobhanclarke6263]

This is my point I made too, luckily in the Caribbean the hair thing is not that deep as in the USA, with the advent of social media its changing though.

[@yukisakamoto9818]

That s so cool!Where were you born?

[@Hopekayeny]

Which island is this? I was born in Africa (Uganda) where we mostly have 4c hair but it was still viewed as ugly

[@sandranannozi356]

@@Hopekayeny i'm from Uganda too and I was just about to say this! my life goal was to grow my hair so i could relax it smh. glad i never did

[@FineNaturalHairROCKS]

This is so eye-opening. I'm so sorry that some people feel like their hair isn't beautiful.

[@tiaparkerx]

This content and narration deserves an episode on Midnight Gospel

[@CARATMom]

It’s difficult to love your hair when you try to love it through other peoples eyes. I went natural in the 90s. 4c hair when folks weren’t using that term. No KZbin. No IG. Barely covered by Essence magazine. Before celebrities would openly admit that they were ALL wearing weaves. My hair fell out at 18 and I refused to put back the creamy crack. I grew out my afro. Wore it in a puff. Was called a pickaninny in church by my old aunt. Was asked by other (halfway bald relaxed hair) disgusted church member if I was planning to keep my (glorious) afro puff. I looked at her awful hair and walked away. And I learned how to love my hair. And it was a fight every step of the way. When it was first growing out it was difficult to manage. I figured I got relaxers since I was 8 and my hair no longer trusted me and was putting up a fight. When I was 18 one of the facts about 4c hair that I used with folks when asked why (repeatedly) I went natural. Because my hair is a natural cooling system. It was designed to hold water close to my scalp to cool me. My 4c hair is doing its job. 4c hair is beautiful because it comes out of my scalp. At 40ish I have shaved my head. LOVED IT. No more 6-8 hour wash days!! Now I am wearing locks. It’s just hair. But it is also my love journey.

[@Mitzi73]

Interesting post. I am not black but I have been watching a lot of 4c hair videos and I have concluded that 4c girls have to think outside the box and do what makes them comfortable. If doing a silk press will give your hair routine a break and let you move on with your life then so be it. If wearing your hair naturally or in braids will let you focus on more important things then so be that too. Spending 6 hours on wash day doing moisture and twisting gives you the privilege of saying I need to do what is best for me.

[@Lmcv82]

Love you

[@mayaluney4358]

Wow. I never thought a KZbin comment would make me cry...thank you for sharing your journey and words. 🤎

[@CosmicEremite]

I dont understand the all day wash days...why does it take so long?

[@rachelchanel7941]

@@mayaluney4358 I almost cried myself. This was beautiful, and I’m so sorry she went through this just because she wore her damn hair out. As soon as I saw “back in the 90s”, I was like “oh no…” I grew up in the 90s, and remember how black women were about hair then.

[@misha7ify]

Is everyone surviving the quarantine? Is everyone eating? Watching good anime? Sleeping more than you should?

[@thehamsterarmy2380]

I watched the Promised Neverland in one night

[@theblackconservativewoman9824]

I’m currently watching host club.

[@rhino8817]

it's been a month where i am... whew we tryin

[@krystolwatkins9384]

I was watching bang bang con till 3 and had to get up at 5. I am tired.

[@atypicallynormal4399]

@@krystolwatkins9384 giiiiiiiiirl. I fell asleep during Epilogue 😭😭😭

[@lolakleedorfer6502]

Most people would ask me why I watch natural hair channels. I have thick blonde wavy hair,,, so literally the opposite of black natural hair. But I adore your channel, because its teaching me things about peoples experiences that I wouldn't have known of. Also your personality is absolutely incredible, I love being on this channel. So I wish everyone the best of luck with their hair journey :)

[@iiiacvsixteen7336]

wow

[@TheStarPuppy]

I’m so for it!!🙌🏿 once I fully embraced my hair, I started to watch all types of hair content! Hair is just amazing in general 🥰

[@lolakleedorfer6502]

@@TheStarPuppy that's amazing! And true, I love hair too, but I respect people w kinky hair especially, you really have to have the patience of a god taking care of your hair. And even if my hair type isnt anywhere near kinky hair, watching natural hair channels showed me ways to take care of my hair in more ways:) so thank you!

[@lovelyblueyedliz]

Same☮️❤️

[@laurenlocd3180]

iiiacv sixteen wow what ?🙄

[@Kinglystateof]

I appreciate your honesty, and it speaks to the when the NATURAL HAIR MOVEMENT shifted to mixed and wavy textures

[@noirblanque5324]

You better not mean that “mixed” and wavy textures don’t/ shouldn’t have a place in the movement

[@Kinglystateof]

Nobody said they don’t have a place. What I’m saying is the intended purpose for the natural hair movement began with non ambiguous black women wanting to celebrate the hair texture they were told wasn’t pretty. Then as years went on it became harder and harder to find these youtubers because the algorithm only showed mixed people who’s hair texture and styles ARENT attainable for most non ambiguous black people strictly because of texture. It then moved to products catering to looser textures and many black people starting their own businesses because the movement didn’t serve them anymore . Erasure is a marketing ploy that’s been happening since madame CJ Walker

[@kaylajohnson4357]

"Even if it's long, it's gonna be short again in 20 minutes" - truer words have never been spoken

[@ebonygrayson5111]

“It has never been just hair” hit me hard

[@Fortheloveofshola]

Please read!!! 1. Never detangle outside of the shower. Only in the shower as you rinse out your conditioner no exceptions. This will cut your time down 85% 2. It you like sleeker styles, only style on STRETCHED hair. Otherwise our gorgeous 4c texture will over power it. That's why it doesn't look right. 3. Wash and cowash more often and get a water filter for your shower. Your moisture will get 70% better. 4. Over your texture? Blow dry it or put a protective style in. You just need a break. 5. Try a wash and go and fall in love with your texture. When done right it's much faster than all the 'outs' twist outs, braid outs, etc. Just like you may have to go through years of struggle to understand how to put on a wig and look good, you're hair is the same way. Hiding it constantly is just putting off the learning process. Once you got it you got it. Look up 22nd century woman, what lies beneath the weave, and caramel coils on KZbin for inspiration. 4c is GORGEOUS💕

[@kaydeep7880]

Anthony Dickey Hair Rules videos? ❤❤❤

[@ShamommyHempire]

Another tip washing weekly or every two weeks helps you learn your hair faster, and helps you to detangle your hair.... also cowashing in the middle of the week helps you detangle your hair easier also because there's less shed hairs

[@Fortheloveofshola]

@@kaydeep7880 yessss I love those too!

[@Emmss_]

Good tips! Thanks!

[@Ks9999-sa]

So helpful! Thank you :)

[@noellerjones07]

I am 45 years old and I just went natural this week. I’ve been in corporate leadership for over a decade and have never worn it natural. I’ve been a little nervous to do this in the corporate world. You said things that were in my head but haven’t been able to voice. Thank you Queen. I appreciate you. I’m excited for this journey.

[@ofentsefefe04]

"Hair is not just hair" absolutely facts. I don't like people saying that our hair is just hair and most of them are those who have hair that is socially acceptable. Hair tells a lot about us and our stories. Hair represents power in most African cultures (In my culture, when the parents die the children and very close family members must cut their hair and be bald. This represents that we are in distress and mourning. Even when a child reaches a year old they have to have their hair cut to let the 'real' hair grow out which shows growth in a child's life and success) , I am a tswana girl (a Bantu tribe) from South Africa and we have a saying that "A woman's hair is her crown that carries her beauty". It took a lot of strength and courage for us to finally appreciate our hair and nurture it because of how we have been brainwashed that our hair is ugly, unkept, dirty and embarassing. Hair carries our identity, history, culture and heritage. So if you're going to say my hair is just hair then you're striping off my identity. You're just taking away the meaning and value of my CROWN!!! Imagine going through so much because of your hair and then after finally fighting off that brainwashed mentality then someone out of nowhere tells you that your hair is just hair. Have they experienced the struggles of having to accept their hair? Have they ever felt embarassed of wearing their crown in public just because someone might come your way and call you in a racial slurs? No I don't think so that's why you think that my hair is just hair.

[@noirblanque5324]

Exactly. So let people, no matter their texture, wear different styles from any different culture.

[@LaToyaEbonyHair]

1. I think your hair is GORGEOUS. 😍 I think YOU are gorgeous. 2. I’ve been there. I went natural in 2010 (the first time) and the combination of trying to learn my hair while the people closest to me gave me the side eye, while trying to figure it all out can suck the fun out of it. It’s a journey. Once you find the products and techniques your hair likes, it gets better. 3. To see representation online I had to clear my history. Literally. All my browser history on social platforms and start over. Then I chose to consume images, videos, and publications that feed my spirit. I’ve realized that I needed to re-educate myself and seek out what I wanted to see...The algorithm is like a mirror into what you consume and put out....however, I do agree with you, 4c naturals aren’t as plentiful in tv or commercials (in their natural hair state anyway). I have a hair texture similar to yours, so I definitely seek to see women that hold similarities. 4. I’m happy that you keep trying even through your frustrations. *hugs*

[@debrak04]

Hey Toya! I'm a subscriber of you lol :)

[@LaToyaEbonyHair]

debrak04 Heeeeyy 👋🏾 ❤️❤️❤️

[@FTYC2022]

@@debrak04 me too ! Hi LaToya👋🏼

[@LaToyaEbonyHair]

SD Wind 👋🏾❤️

[@brokegirlmagic8744]

Subscribed today. Happy to see 4c content

[@Eksxx]

You have major actress vibes. Literal star quality. Like if I’d seen u for the first time I’d assume u were an actress.

[@user-fc2xk3uv8y]

She is an actress!!

[@aprylljay]

She's so beautiful... that bone structure

[@ainaolajumoke1599]

I actually thought she was an actress

[@strudelh]

@@user-fc2xk3uv8y in what show? Or movie, has she been in?

[@MidnightPopRocker]

This is literally what I thought the entire time. Like she looks like she can be one of those European models or even make a Disney princess out of her. This girl is definitely a character worth knowing

[@jh6035]

It must be difficult living in America and having 4C hair. I live in a small country in Africa and we all have that hair basically so when you were it out all you get are comments like “wow your hairs so long”. Ofcourse we did get colonized so the beauty standards are a bit altered but fortunately most of us still love our hair❤️

[@aurelea2153]

How great it is to learn that!!! 🤗

[@kimmiegcrystal]

This is refreshing to know! 🙂 thanks for sharing

[@ravenclaw045]

that’s beautiful! what country? might add to my travel list😍

[@anneidakwo4117]

I am from Nigeria. But I've always had hair that's made fun of. People said my hair never grew but it was just shrinkage.

[@AudreyOB]

Awesome!! I'm from Ghana, and I have 4c hair, and I love it! What country are you from?

[@vh8r]

I need to see you sis! Never stop making content for us sparse, low density, thin, dry, short-ish, 4c hair owners.

[@Sunflow730]

Yep, 4c HIGHLY DENSE hair it took 5 years and almost exclusively protective styles to get this bad boy past my sholuders... guuurrrl

[@daisyx1002]

Sunflow730 ... 🤣congrats. I can’t wait to get there too. Wish me luck 🙏🏾

[@Pyricangel]

Girl I SWEAR I’m trying so hard! And I love my hair but I have to do SO MUCH for it to grow.

[@Dwhifwhidwhiqdn12]

I don't have hair like that so is it actually harder to grow?

[@Dwhifwhidwhiqdn12]

@Arcane Raven Why?

[@Sunflow730]

@@Dwhifwhidwhiqdn12 4C hair is also very brittle... I have a ton of hair on my head but if I wear my afro everyday, it would break. Needs ton of moisture, and time to detangle, specific low porosity products and mostly an acceptance and love for your crazy wild hair.

[@ashleyevering]

“my hair is more of a statement than a style” say it again for the eurocentric beauty standards in back 🗣

[@kennedydumas6195]

Mind, Body & Saúl thank u 😊

[@cosmicstormz]

People who hate black people and natural hair are really not my vibe I do pray that in our lifetimes a lot of progress is done because there’s so much baggage that we need to fix layers a pound layers of unnecessary b.s. that messes with you and your mental health it’s not good for anyone I can literally go on and on

[@mareble412]

But those people try so much to mimic us though!

[@Chowanoc222]

We are not black we are American Indians who have been enslaved and reclassified as negro colored and black!!!! That’s why no one was ever called african because they were enslaving the Indians and the Carib indians the Mayan murals prove that blacks were in America before 1492

[@norap.4657]

@@Chowanoc222 what about African Americans whose parents were immigrants? Aren't they black?

[@nekiahflowers5862]

Davinci sullivan that's not everyone's cultural background

[@lalaland2751]

@@Chowanoc222 You mean Natives, not Indians.

[@era2157]

i have 4a/4b hair and i’m still trying to learn to love it, in my school when i wore it natural it was seen as “unkept” and “messy” and when i wore box braids it’s seen as “fake hair” or “extensions”, people’s words started to impact me and i started to dislike my hair so i started to blow dry it because it was so hard to handle and so annoying and wasn’t like those other pretty girls with straight hair or pretty curly hair. i used a whole bunch of products and without realizing it my hair was breaking off piece by piece then in the summer my hair looked as if i did a big chop, it was so damaged and short but i didn’t care because to me my hair was ugly so i got box braids and let it grow then as soon as i took the box braids out i would blow dry and style and that was the same process for 1-2 years until i finally found black youtube channels explaining my hair explaining why i should love it explaining why it’s beautiful and should be beautiful to me, i wanted to start my natural hair journey but then school started and i had to get box braids, one of the guys i liked asked what i was doing to my hair and i told him and he said “oh it’ll look prettier if you straighten it or silk press it” “maybe it’ll make me like you” that hurt me a lot and i started to dislike my hair again, so i started blow drying and styling my hair AGAIN for a year straight. then i found a youtube channel talking about hair and i was wondering why my hair didn’t look like hers when we had the same hair type but hers was healthy and mine was curly at the root but then went straight at the ends. i know something needed to change so i put away my blow dryer and started my natural hair journey, i figured out my everything about my hair, got the right products (current still doing that now) and my hair is currently coming to a curly state, ive cut my damaged ends and my split ends and got a bonnet and just left it alone, currently my hair is semi healthy and i’m trying everything to get it thick again because it’s extremely thin but it’s got its curls. i’m learning everyday to love and value my hair because it’s mine. hair is never just hair, we go through mental and physical pain when going through our own journeys and it’s extremely difficult but we all get through it. time to time i do cry about my hair for hours because i’m just tired of it being so difficult and just “ugly” in my mind. i’m trying everyday to love and value my hair even more so it’ll get to it’s healthiest, fullest, best state. thanks for reading my natural hair journey ❤️.

[@PhantomGirl888]

You’re hair is beautiful n so are u :)

[@deedydiy4041]

“Even if it’s long it’s still 4c so it’s going to be short in 20 minutes.” I felt that in my soul! Twist outs, Bantu knot outs, perm rod sets, they are all a NO if it’s not winter where I live. 🤨

[@charmaineespeut4627]

That's why you have to stretch it. Also shrinkage is pretty because it looks extra thick.

[@diva2459]

Especially in Texas

[@believensee8621]

"I'm not gonna rip & run through this hair. Cuz she will get mad and she will remember." Lol # facts

[@donnav7412]

I know this because my hair is PETTY

[@reginagordon4246]

She will lol my hair is the same 😂😂

[@fuyukazemi]

My hair side eyes me every time a finger even comes within a foot of her.

[@EsPGoPo]

@@fuyukazemi lol

[@BlackWomanThings]

I think the best advice you gave in this video is “normalize your texture” . I think making sure you follow and engage with people that look like you the more accepting of yourself you’ll become

[@kaniahankston4310]

That “you should love your hair” comment got me. If you’ve never combed your hair in the mirror crying because you don’t feel like you’re enough. Or your hair is “too nappy” or if you feel invisible with your real hair....stop. Even though I’ve embraced my natural hair, I still feel more comfortable in the world in a wig, weave, and braids.

[@alexismcafee8130]

When my hair was relaxed, it was bra strap length, I was always praised for "good hair" even by the stylists who put the chemicals on my head. The upkeep was stressful and damaging so I went natural. The "good hair" comments stopped. OTHER PEOPLE were more upset than I was that it was gone.

[@Rose-vp5gn]

I used to keep my hair in box-braids and I wouldn’t tell people it wasn’t my natural hair because I was embarrassed. Then one day I started wearing my natural hair and one of my friend’s parents was upset that I undid the braids and another person saw a picture of me with my braids and said “That doesn’t look like you. That looks like your hot sister.” and it upset me, but I decided I wasn’t going to tell me what did an didnt look good on me. When someone tells me I need to do my hair I get mad and I tell them so shut up.

[@alexismcafee8130]

@@Rose-vp5gn Wow! The nerve of some people. I'm sorry people were behaving so rudely, I truly don't understand why people take so much stock in other people's hair. People were ready to throw a funeral for my straightened strands and I'm just standing there like..."it'll grow back..." I'm glad you found the confidence to wear your hair! If there's anything I've learned it's that people are always gonna have something to say, so do what you wanna do! I bet your natural hair is beautiful.

[@Inspirayetion]

I feel this. After I big chopped, people were complaining about it as if I made a life changing mistake. I never even got compliments on my straightened hair, so their reaction was even more confusing for me. I'll never understand why people are so pressed over hair that's not theirs.

[@kinlabelle1]

When I went natural in college my so-called bestie said, "oh, now guys won't want to talk to you, you were 'all hair'!" We stopped being friends after that; she literally reduced me to my hair length and texture.

[@kiraalexandria1521]

I used to get a keratin treatment and my stylist who was Dominican would tell ooohhhh you have white people hair and when I was about 11 and I first met her she would tell me that didn’t have “negro hair” (I have soft 3c/3b hair and I’m brown skin) it made me super uncomfortable. Out of all the times she said it and it was many only once did another result step in and stop it 🥴😫😪

[@Zigandstuff]

“I thought I was done with this part... I have to embrace my body, again?!” Hahhaa ohhhh I FELT THAT! so refreshingly honest x

[@ocky88]

"I want to stand next to Issa and smile. So we can blind everybody in the world." Lmao. I screeched.

[@kennemedia01]

This line made me subscribe

[@DeeDee2005]

You are so right about not being able to find real 4c hair videos on KZbin. I have put in the search bar of KZbin real 4c hair, true 4c hair, 4c hair and everything but that will come up. Normally curly hair girls will come up. Try to watch videos with hair like yours IF you can find them. I have felt everything that you said in this video through these 10yrs of being natural. I have resulted to just wearing mini twists or my fro because my hair won't do a twist out, nor a braid out. It took a long time to start embracing what I have and the stares. Hang in there everyone!

[@nylala734]

First of all, thank you for being real and candid in a space that’s so filled with fake sunshine and lollipops. I was such a mix of things the first time I saw my natural hair, and one of them was disappointed. I’ve never admitted that before but thank you for giving me the courage and permission. Also. We have the same hair. Two things. I know you did not solicit advice but hear me out. Green Beauty’s channel has taught me more about what it means to have hair than my own mother. And two: I literally didn’t believe in holy grail products until Camille rose honey hydrate. I will cash app you the money for it, deadass, no cap. I am so serious.

[@politereminder6284]

Green beauty is the best!

[@politereminder6284]

Green beauty is the best! Very educational for all Afro hair types.

[@brokegirlmagic8744]

I hope she sees your comment, i have the same hair type, and it took me 10 years to learn how to properly moisturize, hopefully someone will help her

[@nylala734]

Yes! I will Stan honey hydrate until the day I die. Water based products for low porosity 4c are always always always a LOSING BATTLE

[@snflwrgld]

Also it's so interesting how differently our insecurities manifest even with the same hair. Being 4C I've looked at you and wished that my edges were like yours, I have a big forehead so my hair starts way back which is one of the reasons I feel insecure with short 4C hair, but you have a nice and full hairline!!

[@TheStarPuppy]

We all have our journeys to accept and love what we’ve got. I know you’ll get there🙌🏿🌸

[@Thobela-h3x]

Hey! I have the exact same problem. Big forehead, thin edges and no volume in my hair. Twist outs look weirdly empty and... vague lol. I always do curly crochet braids to add some volume. And l hate it when people suggest that l don't like my hair. It's just that l didn't exactly get a winning combination here.

[@moniqueloomis9772]

@@Thobela-h3x 🏆

[@nanan793]

One of the main reasons I went natural was becuase I was frustrated with how thin my relaxed hair looked. And then I went natural and found out my 4c hair was just as fine 😅 All this to say that finding your channel has been a blessing, and I'm finally learning to accept my fine 4c hair thanks to your videos ❤❤

[@marquitabrooks73]

nanan793 girl same lmao.

[@fuckthesystem8782]

Same here, but I'm going to try texlaxing and protien treatments. I've lost more hair natural than I did relaxed AND spent so much money. My hair just tangles and snaps off so easily. It feels so soft like cotton when wet too.

[@jtawsem]

Just want to say that within a few days of watching you for the first time, you have become my favorite KZbinr, thanks for being so transparent

[@noemee]

Sis you belong in a Marvel movie or something

[@theunknown760]

TRUE

[@toointoxicatedtobescared6853]

why..?

[@NatalieL523]

Omg yesss

[@chel6730]

marvel???? 😭...

[@propogandalf]

@@toointoxicatedtobescared6853 She is extremely animated and expressive

[@shushia1658]

Oh sweety your hair is awesome. Your art is awesome, your voice is awesome, you are beautiful.

[@ijeoma7963]

THIS VIDEO IS SO NECESSARY AND SO WELL DONE. SIS WAS NOT JUST SPEAKING FACTS, SHE WAS PREACHING.

[@timespaceperspective701]

she's not only intelligent but also spiritually/psychologically aware, i feel like she should be writing a novel or something, so expressive and interesting

[@basshead7171]

This is actually the first video I've seen from you and as a short as hell Asian woman with incredibly straight, fine, and low-density hair - I'm loving this content. Not exactly sure how I got here but I find it super interesting and insightful! Also, your voice is very calming :)

[@shanonevans2593]

Thank you for posting this bc I was forever embarrassed of my true hair texture... My daughter played a huge role in me accepting and finally loving my hair, my skin, and myself!!! She's only 4 guys! Lol I just didn't want her to be like I was for soooo long! Again thank you for posting this!

[@sonrisaverdean757]

"My hair journey has been more emotionally difficult than physically difficult." I FEEL.

[@theadrenalizedartist6843]

The one freedom I feel with the social distancing is my hair can just be whatever it is and I can style it however I feel works best that day. I don’t have to worry about the public opinion of others at all right now. I feel this, no two heads of hair are the exactly the same and hair constantly changes. My hair now is not exactly how it was in my 20s or 30s. I have more than one texture of hair. So the self acceptance is indeed a journey.

[@lizdiaz3951]

I’m lucky that I grew up Gen Z and as a young teen I had videos like this to see, I would get up 2 hours before school started to try and manage my hair just to end up crying and giving up and going to school in a horrible headband and the same ponytail every single day

[@curlycocoanut]

*i haven’t finished the video but just wanted to say that you’re absolutely gorgeous*

[@alishaaa6192]

I “accept” my natural hair but I don’t feel confident at all with my natural hair and hate wearing out and feel so much more comfortable with braids :/

[@Boo-bastic]

The only way to start feeling confident is just to wear it out everyday. Try different pin up and clipped up styles. And avoid covering your hair. You have to kind of reverse the mental conditioning we've been put through as black women by doing what makes us and others uncomfortable

[@alishaaa6192]

Majesty Hill yeh for suree

[@alishaaa6192]

Ebony Rayz Cooking that acc makes sense thanks!

[@cindysobtafo9291]

you should jUsT eMbrAcE iT

[@pattyp2093]

Same

[@allymc8884]

Alot of awkward black girls needed ISSA RAE... She's my age, and her representation is even more valuable..

[@noelle7032]

I’m 40+ and when I watch your videos, your struggles...nemesis’s match mine and I feel better knowing I’m not alone. So many thanks to you

[@ashleyk3745]

So many points were made!! I need to see this. I need to see more of this. I also need a Facebook group with thin 4c haired people in it. I’m not even on Facebook anymore but I’ll go on it for a community like that.

[@crystalrobinson7881]

They have a lot of natural 4c hair groups on FACEBOOK

[@mynamehere492]

@@crystalrobinson7881 There is 4c representation but a lot of natural hair groups, in general mainly focus on thick and coarse hair.

[@alisianaaxxx4443]

The 4c hair groups barely have 4c people in it. I dont recommend it

[@crystalrobinson7881]

@@mynamehere492 gotcha👌🏾

[@choclate39]

I have finally embraced mine . My mother played a huge role in that, thankfully. I finally found what works for me and that’s my little fro that will only grow to a certain point . I do hate the beauty standards and pressures more than actually being self conscious about my hair .

[@myb4649]

We have the EXACT SAME type of hair. 4c, low porosity, sparse density, short, ashy-dry and all the other descriptors you mention. I'm 42 and still don't like my hair. But on the days that I do, "you can't talk to me anyhow"(Chizi Duru).

[@stixx24forever]

MY Brown Your comment is ME in every way. Hello twin👋🏽. And if ur a Capricorn thn we MUST meet, lol.

[@Windgoddess78]

Me 3! Hey Sistas!

[@homebody61]

Me too!!!

[@sweetprincess213]

How do you moisturize what products

[@PeaceMaker-44]

ME 4!

[@TaylorAmelia]

"if you have hair anything like mine" my hair is a 1b at best 😂😂😂 just a white girl who likes watching your videos including all your 4c hair videos.

[@AKUBARIKI]

Her hair is 4b. Why is she saying it is very kinky

[@GeminiDayDreams]

​@@AKUBARIKI If what you're taking away from this video is that you think she has 4b hair, you've clearly missed the point. And as much as the hair typing system is used in the natural hair community it's also one the dumbest things to happen to it. It's just another way to nitpick and discriminate against people of the same cause. Gatekeeping "4c" hair is ridiculous.

[@AKUBARIKI]

@@GeminiDayDreams Ooooooo🤦🏽‍♀️ it matters to know your hair type You will then look after it better accordingly. I have just realized that I am 4b. All along I was mistakenly following 4c youtubers and inadvertently causing more havoc to my hair Oooh and I know. She is still in angst about caring for natural afro hair.

[@teekaybe4016]

I have 3B/C type hair and I love watching hair videos of all hair types especially type 4. It's amazing how different and beautiful we all are.

[@cielcanterville1834]

@@teekaybe4016 Same, I'm 3A/3B and heavily mixed, but I'm so glad 4C girls are finally standing up for themselves and their hair - they are just as beautiful and deserving of appreciation as any other texture

[@AmarisRenaeTV]

“Oh no, i got the hard one.” 😭😭😅 girl I said the same thing. I feel this 115%.

[@JadetheGoober]

Amaris Renae getting into natural hairTube in 2008 be like

[@chocolatebeauty1688]

I can relate

[@vanessab2677]

Honestly, This video made me cry. this is literally me in a video. Im the long heir 4c girl that everyone thinks is bald because im only comfy in wigs and work in a field where my hair defying gravity is a STATEMENT!

[@SamMKKK]

I felt this title in my spirit.

[@moonchild2140]

Sam M 🙌🏿🙌🏿🗣

[@gnomeprincess]

I needed this. I don't have your hair. I have balding and extremely low density, fine, snappable, 2b hair. So while this doesn't apply to my hair specifically, it fits so much into how I have been in life. I am opposite in so many ways from what is acceptable in a lot of areas and this spoke to me soooo much. Thank you. Also as people said you have amazing presence and a wonderful voice, and you have a beautiful way with words and express things in ways I never could. Thank you.

[@hierosgamosvibration2951]

I am literally finger detangling my hair before bed, and then poof! Starpuppy drops another gem of a video! The synxhronization! I 4c you, Starpuppy! And all of you! P.S. I finished the video, and I am halfway done with my hair.....and it's OK! The race is not given to the swift or to the strong....but to those who endure to the end. I love you all and be safe and keep smiling.😊❤❤❤❤

[@tspopstar512]

Hi question do 4c girls use a spray bottle when detangling

[@ladydx4164]

Tarot... I JUST finished listening to that song. 👍🏾

[@syd_coleman301]

You might want to try doing protective styles on your head during quarantine because low manipulation could help decrease breakage. Some moisturized simple cornrows, mini braids, mini twists, and other styles that you can learn to do yourself could support your hair growth and health while you’re quarantined. Good luck!

[@savannahf8721]

I’ve been an Issa Rae fan since 2010 when she had her web series. I love that her show features a new natural style in every. Single. Scene. I love it! I have 4C hair that I’m still attempting to fully accept.

[@mburst71]

I am 48 years old and this young lady really spoke the absolute truth about how I feel in regards to my 4c hair. It was such a relatable video and I am learning to accept my hair at this point because it is so strong like she said and will always return to its tight nappy coil. I am tired of fighting it.

[@rappersandicecream]

I wish I had seen this when I was younger when I first transitioned. The natural hair community was so toxic for 4c girls in past years

[@daisyx1002]

Jonay Bowers ... yes, very shameful. I’m happy things are now changing for the better.

[@goldycloud.mp4official376]

Jonay Bowers but ironically it was originally made for type 4 ppl to embrace their hair

[@mylesanderson2861]

@The Ballad Of The Queen Where are y'all at in the North? In the South natural hair movement was mostly 4a to 4c hair. So many light skinned people rocking 4c hair in my city lol. Most black people are 4b or 4c all day and all night. I am more 4b when I maintain it but it can go 5c I don't comb it 😂😭

[@msgonsalves3668]

Personally, black hair has ALWAYS ever been the most unique and versatile texture in life itself. I ADORED the kinky & coily hair especially when it's full and thick.

[@Nmohamed44]

@Karyll Said exactly

[@Hopekayeny]

That statement right there is the issue. Thick and full. Many of us also have thin 4c hair that barely grows and we want to feel that acceptance

[@5talentgirl]

You are amazing. I’m 55. I would often feel ashamed coming out of the hairdresser’s sure that my hair was a disappointment and inconvenience to the stylist. They would tell me as much, huffing and puffing at what my hair couldn’t do. I was embarrassed to present this ‘less than’ ideal and deign to have them style it like ‘good hair’. My hair got thinner and thinner after all those full relaxers that damaged my hair all those years. Been natural about 6 years. No length. Age thinning at crown. Starting a loc journey almost as a final try!! Love the look of locs, the freedom, the pride, but also I’m doing it praying for the length to develop as some kind of payback. A ‘so there! I did it!’ to all those stylists and long-haired friends that looked down on my hair or me and my hair orjust me because of my hair. Being confident with my hair out , has never been easy. Thank you so much for this video, I absolutely loved it!! And got it. And your hair looks LOVELY. I love your delivery. So well done. Thank you! 🤣💕😎👍🏽

[@drwpsych]

Janet Chandler I hope you grow long luscious locs. I am the same age as you are and my hair experiences with so called hair stylists and friends with a softer hair texture have been the same as yours. Now I have long locs. I feel like I won the hair battle and it feels so good.

[@morningdewscarlet]

Whew the embarrassment at the hair salon comment just gave me war flash backs. Little black girls are taught so much shame it’s disgraceful.

[@chaichai012]

Morning Scarlet I forgot about that too, it’s so sad

[@veghead05]

@@chaichai012 me too... i forgot why I was so defensive about going to salons. Lol.

[@beckass108]

Christ -the same hairdresser experiences to the point where I rarely went back to the same one twice! rarely relax it these days because it's so resistant and looks the same as it did after as little as 2 weeks. Stopped wasting money on this Kevlar bush.

[@justicejordan5538]

Her energy is so purely sweet and radiant, seriously. Refreshing to see people like this actually exist in the world.

[@Lisa_Flowers]

It's not just your country girl. My country (Kenya) has the same standard of beauty. The influence of white supremacy is FAR and WIDE. Also, we have pretty much the same hair, so I DEEPLY appreciate your channel. Ppl can do what they want with their hair, but honestly seeing so many women with 4C (thin) hair texturizing it, or relaxing it, or generally getting fed up with it is so discouraging. And for some people it really is a convenience thing, but it's just hard to feel like NO ONE wants the hair you have and people would run away from it if they had the chance. It's also hard to just consider that I have to spend so much emotional energy on not hating a part of myself when there is literally nothing wrong with it other than how other people see it. It makes sense in context but it also makes no fucking sense at all. Tiring.

[@SophiaKendi]

I thought I was the only one facing such stuff huku Kenya 😑😑

[@robinamethyst7594]

I wouldn't have thought that an african country have this much struggle in beauty for 4c hair

[@Fudgeey]

"Oh no, I got the hard one." That was my existence during the first 6-9 months of my natural hair journey. I have combination type 4 hair, 4a in the back, 4b on the sides, and 4c in the front and crown. In an effort to dodge the realization of "Oh no, I got the hard one", I cut the entire front of my hair off 6 months after the initial big chop, but left the rest in tact. My line of thought was 'clearly I must have done something wrong if most of my hair has defined curls and coils while the front is undefined tiny z-patterns'. But no, my 4c hair was perfectly ok and healthy, "I" just didn't want to accept 0 definition on top of my head. Luckily this hair journey has taken me to a much better, much more healthy place as I enter my 4th year of being natural. I love my coarse low definition 4c, and I love to **maintain** it. Not "manage" it, not "deal with it", MAINTAIN it. Keep it thriving, and healthy, and happy. And as I continue to learn how to style her, she continues to grow not only volume, but in length as well. Fluffnugget is going to do the same in time, remember you just had a major trim a few months ago. She's already thriving, just give her time to expand.

[@fah232]

Your hair sounds like mines.

[@ShamommyHempire]

My hair is like that except for my 4C is in the back and my 4A is in the front.... I actually like how my 4C curls look while wet but I didn't like how they dried and I hated how straight my 4A curls were.... if I had all 4B hair that would be love

[@shantellerogers4654]

I can totally relate to "Oh no. I got the hard one." I did my first big chop in 2008 before all the naturals popper up on KZbin and there were a ton of hair products aimed at 4c hair. I was shocked by how kinky my hair was. It was difficult to detangle. It was difficult to keep moisturized and my ends split, fairy knots and all. All the commercials featured what is now identified as 3B/3C hair on lighter-skinned women. I spent a lot of time trying to stretch my hair. I did a texturizer once out of frustration and cut it all off less than a week later. I had to embrace my texture as it was and not how I imagined it to be. I watched only 4C hair tutorials. I used products with the intention of maintaining my healthy hair without stretching or twisting all the time. I didn't lay my edges for a while. It was a journey for sure.