I DIDN'T KNOW I WAS "WHITE PASSING" | Brittney Gray

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[@cebie941]

As a woman of color, person of color I’m really just tired of the darkskin, lightskin, passing etc labels. Liking or disliking someone based off of color or complexion is just ignorant.

[@genepitts4665]

It happens no matter what. People are petty, both my parents are black. Both their grandparents are half white. So, nobody is white passing. Just very light skinned with some of us and you still get division. DONT SWEAT IT

[@BORN-to-Run]

IT'S been going on in America since slavery, MOSTLY BY THE WOMEN. (The Black men historically preferred the lighter women).

[@sheltonmackey6449]

Darkskin black people do not have the same privledge. Stop white supremacy culture

[@mackrobinson8853]

I actually had an awful experience sitting on the bus (I guess I’m white passing or light skin) but two young black men who felt the need to have a conversation about what degree of blackness I was and wether or not I had a Jamaican accent, and then started mocking one, therefore attempting to mock me. More and more these days I think it’s becoming acceptable to have unwarranted hateful conversations about race. There’s a time and a place and a way to bring up issues around race or the topic of race but that’s not how we’re having these conversations and more and more we’re segregating ourselves. My mom is mixed race, white, black and native Canadian. She was adopted by a bajan mother and a white Canadian man. The black side of her birth family has contact with us now and I have a bunch of wonderful uncles. I never ever thought about race as a child and it makes me sad to think about pre conceived notions about people and their families and their race. So so so painful to experience some of the hate these days.

[@tinageorge8058]

I have to deal with it all the time. It’s just sickening. I don’t get it.

[@marikiemarie7622]

I seen biracial right away. Stunning biracial woman. ☺️ I see a Vanessa Williams type thing.

[@DeLaTr0ll]

Yeah but Vanessa Williams is mixed, she has two black parents who probably carry a lot of European DNA.

[@mfenderson2714]

@@DeLaTr0ll But I doubt Vanessa is struggling to figure out what to put down as her race! Because from her generation she is black and others consider her a light skin black woman not a mixed woman. Look at Henry Louis Gates Jr. He has more white heritage than Barack Obama who was half white. But he is still black and none of us probably would argue to the contrary! So rhetorically, I ask what has changed and why are people so bent on dictating who can say what they are?

[@tinabenson1492]

Yeah, I think like w/Vanessa, some people call it mgm for multi-generational mixture.

[@Miss-zr1rv]

Vanessa Williams😂😂😂. I find her more white. And creepy.....

[@curtis1415]

@@tinabenson1492 Most Black Americans have multi generationally African and European admixture of varying degrees. VW is "fully" Black American in the sense that her recent ancestors were grouped into American Blackness post Civil War.

[@MsStarryNights]

It’s crazy because never once did I ever think you looked like a white woman. I knew you were either black or mixed with black. However, I’m glad you have came to this realization and was able to openly talk these real issues because it’s very much a thing. Btw, I love your hair! 🫶🏽

[@karencorte]

I thought she was white when I first found her Chanel.

[@antoniodozier5284]

She want to be a honky so bad she gets on KZbin talking about how white she thinks she looks u don't look white u look Mexican

[@karinazrzu]

@@karencorte She looks mixed , not Whyte. Most Whytes are extremely pale with bone straight hair. I can tell the difference. I can even tell the difference between a Latin person and Whyte.

[@Michelle-pn9xt]

@@karinazrzu White, not white. Anyone call tell the difference between a Latin and white person. All whites do not have bone straight hair.

[@lorettalynndavis9695]

@@karinazrzu All Black people can see ourselves in them. We just know.

[@MiaTHall229]

I think the sudden awareness may be because you’re a mom now. You’re hyper aware because you’re not just accounting for your experience, but your babies too. That’s awesome!

[@mackrobinson8853]

Also though as a mixed person I can definitely confirm the conversation around biracial people is getting a little bit hateful and weird.

[@NadiiDK]

i really like this new video style you seem so real and relatable compared to before. i watched you for the hair stuff but now im intrigued to watch you just for you. i'm also biracial and i'm in the same situation as you

[@JediBunny]

💯% yes!

[@williameddy9919]

I find mulatto women to be very attractive and very mysterious, which is sexy.

[@kira5612]

I feel like for me (I'm biracial black mom/white dad) I got a lot of people (adults in my life surprisingly) who would compare me to the other mixed girls in my class. They would talk about how beautiful such and such person was because of their hair or having lighter eyes (really whatever they chose to fixate on) and then say how I just had brown eyes or looked too "exotic" etc. So I had a lot of shame because adults would tell me how I didn't look mixed enough or I didn't come out "special" even had people say if my mom was white then etc etc. Of course now I understand how negative and out of line those adults were, but as a child it really messed up the way I saw myself, sorta like I felt like I did something wrong or was disappointing people. I feel like a large part of my focus for this year is working on healing a lot of the traumas from my childhood that are rooted in my identity especially with being biracial/ being a woc where I grew up. I really appreciate your video and your honesty as you had those realizations, and I think it's so nice how your family is so diverse and blended (and just sound like genuinely lovely and accepting people)

[@Fatelvis2]

I m sorry you went thru that why an adult would say something like that especially to a child is beyond me

[@SummerSun-sg3wf]

😥

[@JediBunny]

So glad you’re speaking on this. I appreciate hearing from mixed and multiracial people because I so often see them feel silenced from both “sides”. I.e. the narrative of “you can’t speak on this because you’re not 100% black, Latino, Arab, Asian, etc.” But you have a viewpoint into multiple perspectives which gives you a very unique input AND output. Yes, mixed individuals may not be able to relate to the precise experience of someone who’s 100% something, but they can see angles that other people can’t - they can peek around corners that other people can’t. Because of this you’ll experience benefits other people don’t, and you’ll experience unique hardships other people won’t understand. You explain that element really well and it’s really important to hear this perspective. It’s a healthy and important conversation, and you’re valid in all your feeling. I hope you don’t feel bad about what you didn’t see before; you clearly have a lot of self-awareness and growing understandings of reality which is more than a lot of people can say who stay in their bubbles and only surround themselves with others who confirm their biases. Good on you for speaking on this!

[@misstara322]

You're not white passing IMO. You just look like a beautiful mixed black girl.

[@Jashleya199]

She definitely is white passing lol

[@stephlyndsey3932]

As a mixed person this is the oldest debate. I don't think will ever end. Depending on what part of the country you live in. Some people see you as black, some people see you as white, some people see you as mixed. The debate never ends.

[@Bluelotusflower22]

Yeah I never thought she was white passing but I can see someone not noticing her features

[@indi1omccoln565]

From what I’ve got white passing means you don’t look black or black enough from the perspective of white people

[@johanna2690]

I remember watching her videos years ago. And I was suprised when I saw her natural hair. She also brought her father on the channel to show that she is biracial.

[@minhoney9859]

Girl I knew you was black when I first laid my eyes on you. But that’s just me 😭

[@enolamsamoht]

Same here. To me she looks like Vanessa Williams from her earlier day.

[@Nickie870]

It's very obvious

[@minhoney9859]

@@enolamsamoht exactly I thought so too

[@kdooley41]

She sure don't look blk to me.. but that's just me..

[@ZaniahSlayed]

Yeah, I always thought she look like Alicia Keys or Diana Ross definitely not white passing

[@buffytheinternetbullyslayer]

White presenting is looking white. “White passing” is an action. Like the movie imitation of life (great movie). Great video. These conversations need to be had. Thanks for sharing your experience and growth.

[@dangamaas]

Right!!! I don't know when "white passing" became used to describe people who just look white. Passing to me always seemed to have an element of deception.

[@KamaraSymone]

My favorite movie growing up as a little girl ❤

[@InvisibleRen]

Really? Growing up for me, that distinction didn’t exist and it was never taught to me either by my Gen X parents or aunties. “White passing” only described your appearance, didn’t matter whether you tried or not. I was born in 91 and raised in Dixie/former Confederate states.

[@najmaj]

@Chantelle Barnett yeah. Passing was only used to describe someone that was actively trying to present themselves solely as white. Just like in that movie Imitation of Life. The fact that someone's features look "white" doesn't mean they're passing. They can't help the way they look. Passing is a deliberate act. Generally people did it because they were ashamed to disclose they were black (or whatever) and also so that they could get better opportunities since everyone is so damn racist😑

[@buffytheinternetbullyslayer]

@@InvisibleRen there’s many books, documentaries and movies on “passing”. In Louisiana they call it pasè blanc. It is an action because you separate yourself from everyone “black” and live as white. My great grandmother had a brother who broke her heart because he decided to “pass” when he turned 18. She never saw him again. This was in the 1920s. My family is from Mississippi. The human stain is a good movie that goes into detail of the actions required to “pass”

[@tamiaedrington5762]

Maybe being Black I saw it, but I started following you when I was a teen (I’m now 26😮) and one of the first reasons was because I could tell you were black lol (felt somewhat more relatable than some of the white KZbinrs of the time). Fair skinned yes but still saw Black 😊 I hope some of these comments let you know that not everybody sees you like some foreign alien or “other” ❤❤❤

[@hollychaney5820]

This video about her being biracial so why be disrespectful to our existence. She biracial not just black, we do exist!!

[@tamiaedrington5762]

@@hollychaney5820 girl bye, please stop projecting onto my comment. What I said was in reference to her saying she didn’t know she was white passing and that sometimes monoracial Black people didn’t accept her fully. To me and many others, she is clearly a woman MIXED with Black. This was just to help affirm that not all Black people would see her and ostracize her or be unwelcoming. Das it.

[@Lucy-iy9ni]

@@hollychaney5820 it’s not disrespectful, she’s acknowledging the fact that she looks mixed with black and not white passing (fully white looking), you’re being defensive about a comment you did not understand.

[@R.S_Howell]

I read Mariah Carey's autobiography, and she talks about being treated differently as a child because she is mixed race. I never would have 'clocked' her in a million years of being anything other than white, not that it matters. I suppose weird people are hyper fixated on features and small nuances in skin tone though. I wish more people were like your family in the sense that differences in ethnicity are not even worth the energy of a conversation.

[@BrittneyGray]

Yeah I’m still trying to figure out if that was a good thing or a bad thing to not discuss such topics lol. Because it’s definitely a “thing”. Thank you for commenting.

[@damnmuggle]

She looks mixed lol

[@marikiemarie7622]

I've always thought Mariah was mixed. She had the complete look of being mixed. I guess some people aren't has exposed to mixed races. However, Kane Brown does not look mixed at at all.

[@R.S_Howell]

I will add though, that because of the world we live in, such conversation are unfortunately necessary within families because of prejudices that do exist. I wish we could all just make it a non-issue and celebrate our differences if anything.

[@Satamatos]

I thought it was very obvious she’s mixed

[@annie6891]

I remember back in the day when you said nobody will turn down an attractive person because they're dark skinned. Glad you see now what we were trying to say. Ppl are more vocal about their preferences now. I remember being on a dating site and the men I matched with will select every race option except black. They will date everybody but black women 🤣. These were men I matched in the high 90s with.

[@therealdonnawagner]

I think I get what you're saying. I see similar struggles with my sister in law, who married into our white family, and my nieces and nephews that are biracial. We all love them and welcome them with open hearts (including incorporating traditions she grew up with into our family at large), but my SIL has said she has a hard time speaking on certain subjects publicly (especially the last few years) because members of her family or people she grew up with, who are predominantly black, write her opinions off as being whitewashed or insensitive because she's married to a white guy and her kids are lighter. I know it's hard on her, but it's also difficult for us to know how to comfort and support her when she's feeling torn between two worlds and worrying about what to say to her kids when certain topics become front page news or common discourse in the culture. I won't pretend to know specifically what you or anyone else has gone through, but growing up an Air Force brat, I lived in cultural diversity almost all of my teenage years. The places where we all got along the best were where we all shared our individual cultures with each other and kind of melted into one close group that enjoyed lots of aspects as a unified whole. We try to actively teach that to our kids as well, but it seems like the world is getting more divided and quickly rejects anyone from any side trying find commonality between cultural groups. 😢

[@mangakaonline]

I think this is such a good video! I resonate a lot with the story; I'm biracial but I have been brought up very white, something I'm only just beginning to understand. My brother (also biracial) is stuck in the mentality he is only white. I've noticed some people go like "where are you from?" and others look at me sheepishly when I tell them my dad isn't white. "I'd never have thought that!" Thank you for the video, it's very interesting to hear other (biracial) people's perspective and experiences!

[@carolinep.7580]

I think it’s very interesting & important to hear experiences from people who have had one different from myself. Would love to hear more if you want to share! ♥️

[@lizasoliman723]

as a mixed person i too, have had a unique experience. & i feel you 100% i grew up in the 90s & early 2000s in the midwest, half Egyptian / half white. it's something i was always aware of because my father's family & church were much different from my mother's. inside our bubble it was never a problem, like your family, just an awareness. but especially when i was young, my mother was asked if i was adopted (she & my mother looked white while I looked like my father) or had a different father. even to this day, no one can see a resemblance between my mother & i. at the Egyptian church, i was "so beautiful" because of my fairer skin, smaller nose, less kinky & more curly hair. the Egyptians do have a "colorism", where the less Egyptian an Egyptian looks, the more beautiful they are considered to be. it didn't dawn on me until adulthood that i was "white-passing" when i moved out west & white people considered me to be white. they were surprised to find that i didn't consider myself to be white.. but why would i, when i'm not?

[@notwwwansik]

Yeah

[@kennethjoneification]

it was really refreshing to hear you reflect on your past attitudes. we need more of this from people in general!

[@jojobear9833]

Thank you for talking about mixed race people's challenges. And yess we deserve our own bubble🥰🙌. Your hair is gorgeous btw💜

[@BrittanyG1]

“There was no other” wow! I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. I hope this conversation can grow into something really positive. Note not mixed. Just a fellow Brittany on the internet. That’s how I found you and your hair content.😅

[@sademcfadden1374]

Ooo Brittney, thank you for this conversation. As someone who also grew up in a mixed race family, I’ve also grown up “white passing” in a sense, although I am darker skinned than you. A lot of people think I am Hispanic 😂 but we were always a blended family, so I think I had a similar mentality. I’ve not always seen the gravity of what some POC go through because of that experience. But I’ve also had the experience of seeing racism from ALL races. We had conversations growing up but generally I’ve always seen the world through my biracial lense. Although growing up, and idk if this was just being a kid and not seeing the world wholly, but I definitely feel like racial tensions are so much more prominent now. Navigating my racial identity was very difficult and to this day when people call me mulatto my eye twitches 😂 I agree with everything what you said here. I’ve also been bullied by black people. I was never white enough for the white kids, but never black enough for the black kids, so I just had to make my own lane 😊 we exist! Lol😂❤

[@Jaleno92]

Never be afraid speak your truth Britt; another great video! You have the right to discuss your experiences & we all love to see your journey. You know you have great foundation & that’s why we’re all still here. Your existence alone helps people ♥️.

[@Fortyrucker]

Loved this discussion! It’s always great to gain different perspectives🎉

[@SummerKellsey]

I feel like the blackfishing that’s happening now has made it more difficult for people to tell but I thought it was obvious you’re biracial. I am fair-skinned so I’ve always had people questioning what I am. I’m white presenting biracial and my mom discussed it all my life but I also have a blk mom so don’t know if that makes a difference. I agree we need our own category and thankfully I feel like we’re getting to that place somewhat because our identities are not just either or, it’s both. I grew up predominantly around blk ppl and it did used to bother me that I felt like I had to show ppl my mom for them to believe I was biracial (this was not super often, most blk ppl could tell anyway😂) but I had to let that go when I started accepting myself in my teens. Now idgaf what ppl assume me to be 🤷🏼‍♀️ much happier that way

[@tmc1373]

Having a Black mom makes a HUGE difference because children spend the most time with their mothers and mothers pass down the culture. The mother is among your first teachers so she's the one who teaches you the culture and how to navigate certain situations.

[@Galidorquest]

@@tmc1373 "mothers pass down the culture" No, not always. Not all black mothers or fathers or BP in general are culturally the same. It mainly depends on where the mixed person was *raised* that determines their racial identity. People pick up culture from their peers & their everyday environment, not so much their parents. If they look white and grow up around mostly whites, and dated only white people, then they usually identify as white. If they grew up in the hood or around mostly BP, and dated only BP, then they usually identify as black based on the 'one-drop-rule', regardless of their appearance. They might also identify as black in order to get involved with BP and help them advance. A mixed person's identity all depends on what race they feel the most culturally & emotionally connected with. Your peers & your environment are the biggest influence.

[@user-md2tc7dw2n]

I moved to Oregon back in 2016 from San Bernardino and the culture shock going to high school and having people you thought, were your friends let down their guard because they thought you were white to come to find out they’re extremely racist (specifically to Mexicans) was scary. Both of my parents are Mexican.I’m pretty sure I’m the fairest skin in my family cousin and all that’s when I learned I white pass also turns out I mix too took a DNA test last month. I am 50-50, Mexican and European

[@Amber-gc6sw]

I’m a white mother of a mixed child, I really appreciate the input you have in this video and would love to see more talks like this from you..also I’ve been watching your channel for like 7 years now

[@soniagainer492]

I was 6 when I left California and I moved to Florida and I totally understand what you're saying! Thank you for speaking abut this❤️❤️

[@YourBigSisBianca]

I’m pretty glad you have touched this topic- proud of you

[@amandastj7310]

Your experience and story is just as valid as anyone else’s!! Don’t be afraid to speak your own truth. Just because it’s not someone else’s story doesn’t make it wrong or offensive. Many true stories exist at once

[@ashleysalazar2012]

Unrelated but your hair looks so beautiful and healthy

[@bud.dabrown]

You are 100 % spot to when you said that people are judged on their appearance. I am a black woman in the south and have all shades of people in my family, as well as biracial people. My thoughts are to treat people like you want to be treated. Disrespect happens on a daily, by your own people and othhers. I think that its important though that we all speak out or up when disparaging words are being spoken because of race or social status.

[@sharisseg7214]

You have light colored eyes, but ethnic features, your nose, hair texture, light brown skin, etc. ❤

[@fairroe6975]

Someone else in your comments better defined your post as being white presenting as opposed to passing for white which an active choice and accompanied behaviors. That being said when you mentioned feeling ostracized by the black community I think that is/was more than likely due to fact that by your own admission, you didn’t identify as black or at least publicly acknowledge your blackness. Most black people immediately recognize your blackness and are taken an aback by your ignorance or ambivalence about the black experience. Colorism being a significant factor the acceptability and beauty standards of colonized spaces. I applaud you for being open about your experience and how it influences your perspective of the world and society. This is much needed conversation. I agree you deserve to be seen and heard as much any other individual or group.

[@madelinelewisx]

I never thought u were anything but half black half white. But I’m also mixed so maybe that’s why.

[@craylalove]

I appreciate U. Your vulnerability, candidness, and realism are to be admired and celebrated!

[@rosierb852]

This is my struggle, I’m mixed and extremely white passing, ambiguous, but white peoples still can tell I’m not white. My skin doesn’t tan at all, just sunburn and freckles. I’m whiter than most whites people and yet they have magnifying glasses than can detect the smallest hint of non-white. It’s also quite lonely because no one accepts you like you don’t truly belong nowhere yet fit in everywhere, meaning you can pass for so many but not a single. It’s weird, you’re treated like a mysterious creature not a human

[@MegaTinni]

You feel lonely. You aren't lonely. You feel like you don't belong. You belong. You are just unique. That's what people are looking at. You make it sound like you have a problem with not being white 100pct... why??

[@Man-ej6uv]

i feel you. too x for y, too y for x.

[@SummerSun-sg3wf]

I had black people think I was mixed because I have Italian hair

[@najmaj]

11:25 they call it "pretty privilege" and you're right. It's real.

[@blondies2755]

I don’t think you’re a bad person for saying how you feel; thank you for making me feel less alone. 🙏❤️🥰💐

[@mauricewright1250]

I get your message. It's hard & frustrating. You are beautiful and live your life. The masses will never understand, and it's not your jobs to make them understand. Stay positive and be strong for your kids.

[@guacgirl]

I've been subscribed to you a long time, I'm also a hairdresser. Imo you look biracial and its clear you aren't white. You look biracial to me, not white passing. I think it easier for me to see because I'm black, have a keen eye for features and detail, so I understand the nuance that come with poc. I knew Megan Markle for example wasn't white but most people thought she was white but I could tell by her hair (and nose) even tho it was straightened. I can understand why most people don't see it. You never offended me in your video because I knew you were coming from your own point of view as a mixed person.

[@kikikismart]

I’ve been watching you for so long so I always related to your black side due to ur old hair videos, but now that you wear your hair straight more the hair content isn’t as relatable as a black woman but none the less I still love ur content so I’ll watch !

[@ZEELION]

Woke up seconds ago and a notification pops up, hell yes for future me who’ll enjoy this tonight with a snack!

[@LynnDanielleTreasure]

A few years ago, my granddaughter and I went to the community pool and realized we had left the gate key at home. A patron at the pool refused to let us in. My granddaughter who was 4 years old at the time asked me why the lady wouldn't let us in. I told her it's because we're Black. She said, "I'm not black." I had to explain to a 4 year old that she is biracial and that some people do not listen to Black people. Then I had to tell my daughter and son-in-law that I had that conversation with my granddaughter. The outcome - my granddaughter and I walked home and got the gate key and entered the pool. The other outcome- my daughter and son-in-law started teaching my granddaughter about her heritage. I understand what you're saying about your experience as a biracial woman of color. It can be complicated to explain, but keep reading, learning, and discussing this topic.

[@mirandaholley9797]

It sad that this happens to black people at my community pool. The cops coming to make sure the black people are not trespassing even though a key was used.

[@BriteBlaze]

@@mirandaholley9797 you mean black people... dont say "blacks" its dehumnizing

[@mirandaholley9797]

@@BriteBlaze I am black. The dehumanizing part is not me saying blacks but the discrimination that blacks face. Your missing the point.

[@Daedalus215]

why would you want to inflict this on a 4-year-old? This vlog was a ramble which did not say anything. The amount of time she used the word "like" highlighted her limited vocabulary, and left you having to fill in the blanks of what she was saying. No examples of incidents to back up what she was saying and she could have gone on for another 10 hours and still said nothing of any consequence.

[@chrissya4135]

I totally get what you are saying. I'm not biracial, I'm adopted, I was born in India, my family is white, I have very dark skin for an Indian. My husband is white and my children white and Indian. I don't know much about my culture because I am adopted, but I tell my kids they are half Indian and half white and it's hard to explain to them what that means. They know they are darker and not white skinned, because they see it and other kids ask them about their background out of curiosity. That the innocence of kids, they may ask why someone looks different or has different color skin, but then they move on and want to be friends. Somehow adults have twisted curiosity and made it into a whole thing where it brings out hate. My kids are friends with everyone from all different backgrounds and we live in the suburbs of buffalo. I hope we as adults can create a more accepting and less hateful world for our kids, because this shit is hard, explaining things like this. I explained to my kids that when I was younger, I was bullied cuz of my skin color, they couldn't wrap their head around it or understand why that would even matter.

[@victoriaheppell2643]

Hello from Canada. I feel like I can relate to your feeling of being at a loss for words. To explain who you are and how you apply yourself to racial topics can be confusing. Being mixed leaves me feeling like I’m supposed to say I’m white because I look white, but I’m actually also Native. White passing isn’t a word I’ve used for myself but I feel like because I don’t have the same experiences as other natives I don’t get to claim that identity, but I still do. It’s so MESSY. I’ve decided now to believe most other natives would probably support my claiming of being Native because it’s native identity that was trying to be stolen in the first place- the whole BLOOD QUANTUM concept was to convince us we can be bred away. I’m a quarter Esquimalt First Nation and live in British Columbia. Love your video Brit thanks for always being so genuine ❤

[@EMPRESSMOMM]

I relate to this on all levels.

[@ChillingWithMel22]

I agree with you 100%. I am also mixed my mom is white my dad is black. Your situation is very similar to mine. My parents also divorced and my mom married a white man and my dad married a black woman so literally I had a all black family on one side and an all white family on the other.

[@karinazrzu]

Dang! I would say you are Whyte passing for sure.

[@tatsf]

Thank you for having this topic and speaking your truth. As a mixed (gay) man of an older generation who is "white appearing", I don't like the term "white passing" since I have chosen not to lead my life being purposefully silent about the mix, I appreciate all of the issues that you brought up. I am white appearing so have always been conscious of the privilege that comes with that. At the same time, I am a mixed race man. It comes with some challenging issues, and those issues are still being brought up by you here today. Thanks again for speaking rather than staying silent. Sometimes we need serious conversations too!

[@Bambibot]

Love your hair btw

[@AdriannesHaus]

Hey girl- your story resonates so much with me (I grew up in San Diego) and my own realizations of what being biracial means (Im B&W as well) in this f'ed up country. Now I know most mixd folk could probably write an entire 10 page term paper of this subject, but I think a lot of us are slowly realizing the favoritism that lighter skins folk were/are shown given our proximity to "whiteness" or even proximity to anything other than "black". It's disgusting, but it's the sad realization. Sprinkle in feature-ism and texture-ism and that's a hell of a convo. AND the bias received on BOTH sides (favoritism/ preference/ and discrimination).There are so many layers to dissect, so I empathize with your hesitation to even discuss . Even as I type this- it's difficult because I'm trying very hard to be politically correct, lol! Alright I wrote enough, but acknowledging your privilege is still a step in the right direction, but sometimes its "damned if we do, damned if we don't."

[@letmehavemypeace1469]

I am glad you touching on this. I thought you was white at first and looked at your vids. I noticed you are biracial. I am MGM-mixed but I didn't know I was biracial passing. I thought I look like ls blk wm

[@hannahjohnson7777]

Thank you for telling your story. I relate to a lot of what you said. 😭🙏🏽❤️

[@daniewithane1454]

You always reminded me of Vanessa Williams you are so pretty.

[@genny0328]

I knew you were mixed, but I’m also mixed. I can see a big diffrence in how diffrent people in my family are treated depending on their level of brownness. Ridiculous

[@kellylyons1038]

Hey, i think it's great of you to ruminate on who you are and what your life experience is and how you relate to the world. Everyone should do this! Hopefully no one is butthurt about it cuz you're just telling it like it is 😅 You have an interesting worldview, tfs.

[@amanimuhammad4320]

I do feel its a topic our parents should talk to us about. I am extremely white-passing, but grew up in Mexico and people really noticed my fro. So I received a lot of negative comments in Mexico. But when I was with black kids, I was discriminated. I never understood how to fit in or what to say or how to act or who to hang with lol And my father, whos black, never talked to me as if I was also black, like he excluded me from the group? It was weird...

[@langstonwilliams8979]

First of all, this is a great video!! It’s great from the standpoint that you have the courage to talk about your experiences you’ve had as a biracial person. I understand that your experience will be different from other people (I’m African-African/born in the 1970’s). This means your socialization will be in complete contrast from that of mine and people born in the 70’s, 80’s and earlier. Most kids from my era have 2 conversations during adolescence, 1) birds and the bees, 2) How to conduct yourself when being pulled over by law enforcement officers. My grandfather told me very early in life that America is different for us (black folks) meaning I don’t have the luxury of privilege white people have. Moving forward, I’ve noticed over the years I hear a lot of people from your generation expressing some of the same things you’re explaining that race is really that much of an issue with them regardless the shade of skin when amongst peers. I’m in education so when topics like redlining, Jim Crow, or simply being followed around by a retailer while teaching Black History Month or any other time, sometimes I notice lack of passion from parents and students when it comes to these issues. Not all the time, just more so than when I grew up. I share this to say, NEVER be ashamed of what your experiences are in life especially with the issue of race. I have a friend from Barbados 🇧🇧 who grow with a predominantly black population where class was the defining factor in her life. Whatever shade we are, our experiences will be different depending on geography and what we look like. Do not let this stop you from growing emotionally and educationally. I encourage you to keep conversations like this going because it’s really important to understand other points of view within the black perspective. Hopefully it’ll help others grow and understand more. Thanks for the video😊❤✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾

[@theotherkangaroo]

When I first saw you on YT several years ago, I guessed you were biracial but thought you had Asian ancestry. It wasn't until you described your hair history & why you needed to figure out your hair texture that I learned you had black ancestry. Always thought you were/are beautiful 😍

[@jasminemathe663]

Brittany, I understand you, and I appreciate you doing this video. 😊

[@angelpeace]

I can totally relate to everything you are saying because I am also biracial. Most of my family identified more on the black side, even the lighter folks seemed to be a little more ethnic. Just like you, I didn’t realize that my family was different until I invited friends to our gatherings and they pointed it out. I also never felt as though I fit in because I was never black enough or either too black. I have caramel brown skin, but my hair is almost like white folks. People were always confused by me.

[@angee1223]

Britt, bravo for speaking on YOUR TRUTH. Thank you for speaking out for people who may have experiences similar to yours about racial bubbles. Hopefully, others will have an open mind to your message. I think it's not that more celebrities or athletes are biracial... I think more are acknowledging its entirety. Some were forced to "pass" or "embrace" one race over another to further their careers.

[@erasedfromgenepool.4845]

I'm a white man with two biracial daughters one is darker than the other but neither one is white. You can 100% tell they're either lightskinned or mixed... All I know is there, my baby's, even though they are 17 and 15.. I know I love my two girls more than life itself and they feel the same way.... the love in our household is like no other... and yes I'm still with they're mother and I couldn't imagine my life without any of the three..... the world is too small and life is short too for any nonsense.... God bless and thanks for listening.....❤❤

[@junkmonkey54]

Even tho your skin isn’t black your facial features are completely African

[@GentlemanAmerican]

I see both African and European in her features, like Vanessa Williams.

[@toribertrand2839]

I love this video. Love you girl

[@becky8908]

You’re racially ambiguous, like me. I’m just black but I’m sometimes mistaken for many races depending on whether my hair is curly (4c) or straight.

[@samiam5434]

You look half white and half black maybe Brazilian but I would not ever take you for white and I don’t think anyone else would either. Your very beautiful!

[@jessicahunter8494]

I am a white ass woman from Eastern Europe, i did not grow up around black people, there was none in my country but when i came to US i had no idea what black people go through. Now many years later i am staring to understand and i have a lot of respect and i think that you are beautiful.

[@hotangelfire712]

It's okay to talk about it. You're giving us a good view of being both. Never knew biracial individuals were put in a position to choose but I can see it now. I think in the Drake example which is a really good one, he's embraced both sides to the point it naturally comes out for me that's easy to accept. For you it seems your exposure level is different that maybe not being in a state where the people if color are similar to Midwest vs Cali style. A big wow for me was when you said you know how to get what you want in a restaurant, yes that's deemed as passing. It's a good subject that is helping us all understand more. You expressed yourself well enough to not get backlash in my opinion. Keep going with this topic and all around it if you can, maybe we can help you learn a few things not in your awareness. As far a family not talking about race they did what they needed to. 🙂

[@honeybraswell625]

Piggy backing on the Drake thing. I think because he is a light skinned, Mixed Man that it is different for him. My son looks like Drake. One of my brothers looks similar to Obama and my other brother looks like Eminem lol😅. Boys/Men who are Mixed tend to be socialized moreso as Black only. The only way a Mixed guy is going to be more accepted by White culture is if he looks white presenting like the rapper Logic or something.

[@missy9897]

I think you’re speaking more about light skin privilege than being white passing. I never thought you looked white but I can definitely see how you could be racially ambiguous. I would be interested to knowing your experience/views on raising two unambiguous black children and how your experience being biracial has made you aware of differences between the two.

[@marieg3865]

I didn't think colorism bothered her she picked out a man that was a darker color, and therefore she knew her children would be. Their hair texture isn't a challenge for her earlier since she's a beautician. I'd watch a video like this, but again, I don't think it mattered to her, otherwise she would of picked a light skin or mixed race person

[@hopemcgettigan2948]

Great to see you again ❤❤❤❤.

[@StreetFaerie36]

I resonated with everything you said in this video! And I think we are close enough in age to clearly remember growing up in America when racial tensions were not as intense in the mainstream as they’ve been in the last few years. I do want to add, don’t underestimate the power of the MSM to turn up the heat on that intensity, but I’m grateful that it’s being discussed more broadly. no doubt racism has existed and will always, it’s a tragedy of life. I appreciate your video.

[@DeLaTr0ll]

In my option: Mixed/ bi-racial women have their own experiences. Mono-racial (black/white,etc)women have their experiences. We shouldn’t represent each other. We can be alleys because our experiences overlap but they are not the same. My daughters are mixed (Hispanic/black) and their experiences are totally different than mine. Also, heartbreaking because things I struggled with come easy for them. Like I’ll go in a place and I’ll get funny vibes but if they go in with their dad they have a positive experience. They aren’t genetically black women but it’s smart to raise them as such for their protection(we live in the Midwest). I always tell them you’re black first but also Hispanic.

[@JeanieBristerDesign]

Brittany, like my family, which was the opposite of yours, where my mom is Black and East Indian, and my father was German mixed. I was raised in a black family with my mom. I knew I was different due to how the darker skinned children would treat me. I was the want to be white girl in the neighborhood and was tormented by many of the girls due to my hair and light skin. I felt comfortable with my Asian, Hispanic and White friendships. It was hard for me to accept that I was black due to their treatment of me. But, my mom is my grounding, she helped me understand I am a beautiful woman of color. I have been watching your hair coloring videos for years and I kinda knew you were mixed but not fully. Lady all I can say is colorism is a harsh thing that from either cultural can damage a person’s sense of self and personal out look of their being, and in all reality, it’s hard to come back from. As a person who passed for many years, helping me get the jobs I have had and much more throughout my life. I completely understand your video and I know why as a mom you brought it as the topic. Girl you are good just love your kids as you were loved and teach them from your experience. Also talk with females in your father family about if they have experienced racism or colorism in their life to see how far they have come in loving themselves even with the impact it has had on them. That is a great way to learn the world outside of your bubble. Keep doing what you are doing you are great. Huggies from one mixed woman to another. I do feel you. Ms. Jeanie 🤗

[@cmdjk1]

Where in East India is your mums family from?

[@jokuz9133]

How ever you define yourself you are perfect

[@anthonyalvarez4788]

I am also mixed as a Hispanic man with blue eyes and I was never Hispanic enough nor dark skin as my family and my d mother who is black and my cousins who are Filipino and also the Japanese ones yes I am really mixed. I think you are so beautiful and you rock.... I have been discriminated against a lot even at NYU where I graduated from. anyway you are beautiful. The hell with what people think. sending you love.

[@shebaglover3986]

I love this honest Monologue… it is so real… you know exactly who you are.🎉

[@XiaVhani]

Hi Brittney, I'm caramel cinnamon brown, every point you made was spot on. Well Said Sister. My sons are mixed. Many races in my family. 🌷

[@jadesimone_]

i thought she was some type of latino before i knew she was biracial tbh. she’s doesn’t look black or white, she looks mixed lol.

[@reginehunter]

i didn’t know i was different until 6th grade when someone asked me if i was mixed. i have never heard that term before then so i said “i don’t know”. and it wasn’t until high school where i fully realized because of the comments people would make. it’s so weird when people ask about race in my family because it was never a discussion, we’re just a regular family. my parents are different races but from the same country and race there isn’t a huge topic like it is in America. aside from race there was also the thing of being an American but living in an immigrant household, this is where i connected with other first generation kids regardless of race. i grew up in the inner city surrounded by blacks, latinos and asians, the only white people in the community were the teachers. it wasn’t until i left my hometown and moved to the very white suburbs that i witnessed and experienced racism. it was definitely a culture shock. this is also where i found other people who were mixed like me, but again there was another disconnect from being first generation american.

[@eatsandtreatswitheugenia242]

I talk to my daughter about it. Because I didn’t know till my teen years about racism as a black women. And I have mix cousins. So I just wanted her to know about both size. But still want her to know she going to go though some racism sometimes.

[@TheAlexa6]

I never gave much thought to your race I just thought damn, she’s gorgeous and has an amazing, charismatic personality. The people pushing the topic of race (media, politicians, corporations) do so to create dissent and divide and conquer. Same as they do with religion. Meanwhile real wages have been declining for decades for everyone, our food supply, water supply and basic infrastructure is in shambles, our education system is failing and medical care is a sick joke. We should all focus on loving and accepting all people, coming together and focusing on our shared humanity. All the BS about our trivial external differences is EGO run amok. You were raised the right way, that it’s inconsequential and giving oxygen to the topic feeds the beast. My family is white, black, Jewish, Mexican and Arab. Some individuals are taller, smarter, richer, prettier, have more stable upbringings than others. That’s life, the deck is stacked the way it is and I’ve always chosen to focus on the positives not my victimhood.

[@coffeeluvsgardenia8418]

I have grays and recently highlighted my hair beige, but I still can see my grays. How can I make sure they get colored? I hate them, ugh!

[@LivingmyBestlife8]

It’s not about beauty but your confidence! If you present yourself assertive people will generally hear you out! I have been ask do I model, so many times! But when your respectfully, assertive and kind people are willing to help you! I seen beautiful people that get treated like trash because of a bad attitude!

[@Amelia-vn5yb]

Mixed girl here, and I can totally relate.

[@red385]

I totally understand everything you said. And let hear your truth have a good day

[@Jecole77]

My family is multi cultural but I did notice all the mothers who are black talk to their children but opposite for the other know I am worried because we live in a town where most children in our town are mixed and if they go anywhere else including internet it won’t be the same or so understanding.But are family is amazing having so much culture. I know what you’re saying not pissed but I see it all the time. It upsets me when people make mixed children choice . I tell you like I told my boys ask them which parent would you like to deny? Cause that’s what they asking him.

[@StreetFaerie36]

Side note: My mother told me very plainly when I was a young girl crying about something racially hurtful a peer said… my mom said “you will never be Black enough and you will never be Hispanic enough”. It sounds harsh but that was the best thing she could have told me. It freed me from trying. In that, I could celebrate and love both races that made me, but I wasn’t burdened with trying to prove anything.

[@lovelymix8056]

My mother was the same way!! I’m mixed with black and Arab 🤗

[@lovelymix8056]

You are a beautiful biracial woman and there nothing wrong with being white passing since you are half white. And I’m biracial too and love being mixed race.

[@goldeng6rl]

i love you girl! i obviously know and can tell you’re biracial but in my opinion i can see how ppl may classify you as white passing or racially ambiguous to say the least. like “white enough” to benefit from the privilege of being lighter skinned. and yes! colorism, racism, pretty privilege all exist and are still prevalent today. and lastly “you’re not everything is racist” comments were a bit disappointing and of poor taste but im glad you’ve grown to realize that! been subscribed to you for yearssss i love the growth 💕

[@KamraMahl]

Your hair looks so beautiful. This was a good video. Lots of self reflection. I definitely assumed you were white. 🥴

[@tracyc.1005]

First this was an interesting video and I'm glad that you made it! I always love your videos. Second, I'm not sure why people in the comments felt the need to comment about whether they thought you were "White Passing" or not. Nobody asked the question and it came off as if some people had a problem that you even said that you were White Passing.

[@IMDAKEYS]

Oh I think it's a sexism issue too because I believe mixed men are looked as black and mixed women are looked as white

[@revilsdr]

You actually look a lot like the gorgeous Vanessa Williams. Like a lot of people in United States you actually could "pass" for a lot of different ethnicities depending on your hair color, make up, etc. But you are 100% correct people will say/do things around you because of how they perceive your ethnicity/looks, without even knowing your background or beliefs. You shouldn't have to choose any side you are who you are.

[@Uhohlisa]

Love you girl

[@hopemcgettigan2948]

5:46 your gorgeous my oldest son is mixed and he knows it he’s proud plus mixed children are beautiful ❤❤❤❤❤.

[@capyomalley4609]

Biracial male here. In my experience people tend to think I am whatever they are.

[@lazarocedeno5270]

Dear young sister. White supremacy is evil. You are not evil. White supremacy makes us play the game of separation. You can not be blamed for how you look. Use your privilege to improve all of us. Congratulations. You are waking up. Welcome.

[@drmychelle]

I'm a psychologist. And Multiracial. My doctoral dissertation was on understanding multiracial identity development. Please read books by psychologist and author Maria P Root. You will feel so understood and understand biracial identity development.

[@silknsatin1325]

The very first video I saw of you, I did think you were white. As the video went on I started squint and notice that there was something “different” about your look lol. I think you look different depending on how you wear your hair, make up, etc and to me this makes sense that you look more white sometimes and more mixed or black other times because, you are both lol. I will say when you are bare-faced (no make up) it is a lot more obvious that you are biracial/black. I’m glad that other biracial girls have an influencer like you to relate to and personally as a woman (who happens to be black) I relate to you just on being a woman and having girl talk.

[@LynnBlag]

I like long videos, please ramble on as much as you need to ❤