"I Don't Look Like A Woman" Trans Guy Reacts To Weird Non Binary TikToks

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[@eg6308]

People don't read big signs that say PULL on a door. But you expect that they will notice your pronoun pin.

[@hnyflvr]

Facts!!! LMAO!🤣

[@My-Channel_forever]

Haha…somehow my brain misfires and if I see a PULL sign, I PUSH. Apparently, I subconsciously resist being told what to do. 😂

[@retrovinyl5392]

I’m dyslexic, I don’t read a lot of signs and name tags etc. I’m going to get in so much trouble

[@half-bakedpotato1078]

The number of times I’ve pushed on the pull is embarrassing 😂 I also get left and right mixed up. I’m not even dyslexic

[@fabs6925]

Lol I work in a hospital that has a HUGE sign right at the door that says “please wait here , we will come get you” and every 10 seconds someone comes in asking if they can come in 😂 and this one saying people don’t read her 5cm sign lol

[@barklols]

My non-binary phase was entirely because I was trying to run away from my female identity due to being a victim of SA. I seriously empathize with these people because I was in the same mindset, but holy shit they need to go to therapy instead.

[@child3248]

Yeah that would make sense

[@LotusesGalaxyOcean]

Have you considered getting self defense tools or a trained security dog? I think it needs to be far more normalized doing things like this…..

[@barklols]

@@LotusesGalaxyOcean my mom got me a self defense keychain for my birthday :))

[@3peppermints]

I did too for the same reasons in 2020. I realized it's all bs 😭

[@nozzamsp]

i was so ugly in my nb phase its insane. its a bit dif because im a biological man who thought i was non binary like in 2020 lol. its just about running away from my problems. i was already quite a feminine boy and i was bullied to feel bad about my femininity as a man so i went all out.

[@miroirs-jumeaux]

Feel free to misgender all of your customers, prepare for none of them to be offended, and for most of them to assume you’re “special”.

[@baconsarny-geddon8298]

One day Tiktok's going to figure out that "misgendering" doesn't work, against people who AREN'T denying their own sex...

[@zazzyz4558]

Besides, how do you know that person you’re “misgendering” is not actually that gender (in their own deluded mind)? I mean, how dare you assume what they’re pronouns are? Lol.

[@yourdarkestfears1134]

These ppl are special in their own mind But most people just don't care. They don't even read their pronoun pins. They're just trying to get their sh!t checked out and get home.

[@svicidellvma]

@@baconsarny-geddon8298 You're so incompetent that you couldn't comprehend what he was saying XD. He's basically saying that if you go around misgendering people, we're not gonna get offended(because we're not actually sensitive unlike stright people). You're just wasting your time and making yourself look special when you go around purposefully misgendering people.

[@melrobertson2743]

​@@zazzyz4558 in a video some idiot was complaining that a customer said hey you look like a they/them and they were pissed because the customer was right. Some are simply doing this so they can be offended

[@NeoDarkling]

I feel so bad for that person's mother saying "They! They! THEY!" in that panicked voice. Imagine the fits and tantrums she had to endure to be so completely conditioned like that.

[@ejrilling]

Also the mothers fault for giving into those fits & tantrums. Had she not done so earlier in her daughters life she may not have ended up w/ such an entitled narcissistic daughter.

[@kopykat6843]

I would spank her if she was my kid and I'm against spankings......

[@ginarivard7277]

I personally dealt with a mother and her trans adult child at my work. She was on the verge of a nervous breakdown every time her mother would open her mouth. You can tell the mom was walking on egg shells. Mental illness!!!

[@91splamy]

They are often pushed more into complying by doctors who tell them that their child will try to kill themselves if they aren’t given full support and not question anything.

[@Nitecat64]

This is one of the few situations where I would agree with the mother disowning their child. This is a form or abuse of a parent. They might not have physically abused the mom, but emotional abuse is far more damaging in the long run.

[@crystalclear7512]

"You just want an excuse to talk about yourself - all the time." EXACTLY!

[@talulashippe]

and a narcissistic hope that people will talk about you on their own: just correctly. after all, you don't use third party pronouns when speaking directly to the person in question. 🙄

[@spikemurphy5054]

@@talulashippe Yeah, I notice that people oftentimes have to make a conscious effort to refer to a singular person as ‘they’. It is very weird, and just represents that the person has little to no personality (talking about the non binary identifying person).

[@noinformationgiven5974]

I know tons of gay guys that get mis-gendered over the phone constantly, haven't seen their TikTok's crying about the fact though

[@myspleenisbursting4825]

>gay guys >misgendered what

[@KM-oy2dw]

@@myspleenisbursting4825 some gay guys act effeminate and sound like a woman as well. On the phone they can be confused for women speaking and called "ma'am".

[@myspleenisbursting4825]

@@KM-oy2dw OH he meant like that sorry, i was confused

[@KM-oy2dw]

@@myspleenisbursting4825 No problem

[@svicidellvma]

yeah. gay guys. Keyword.

[@hollyhayes9640]

Dude, getting upset that someone misgendered you by accident is one of the most "first-world problems" issues that I've ever heard.

[@KarateGirl999]

That's exactly what I've been saying for a while now. Like, word for word.

[@ijustdocomments6777]

It's the whole "words are violence" thing they be on about. We really screwed up as a society when we tried to stop bullying.

[@aya5468]

Fragile egos 😂

[@jenniej0an]

The physical embodiment of the guy that puts a stick in the wheel while riding his bike 😅

[@z.6480]

They're the type of people that have such a boring life they needed to come up with problems

[@emiwarble]

I'll never not see the rage towards "misgendering" as something stupid. My sister is a full grown woman, but she has heaps of masculine energy. The number of times she's been "misgendered" is crazy. She's been called "sir" by employees and has had children stare at her and come up to her asking if she was a boy or a girl. And when she talks about being "misgendered" she laughs. And our family laughs with her because we know she's a woman, SHE knows she's a woman, and it's not something people say to her with malice or to hurt her. So why can't nonbinary people see it the same? Why do they get so angry about it?? It's weird. The nonbinary crowd is full of weirdos. I'm convinced

[@aaxen7255]

Me three

[@SirKaeyaStoleThisAccount]

The era of simply correcting a person for calling “she” a “he” (and vice versa) or ignoring them is over. It’s now… wear badges that display your they/them/xe/xir/ze/zim pronouns and yelling at the person just because they misgendered you, and making a fuss out of it. As well as trying to get people fired because they didn’t use your correct pronouns.

[@baconsarny-geddon8298]

It's because the WHOLE POINT of identifying as "gender-neutral" (or whatever other "third gender" nonsense- "agender' or "gender-fluid", etc) is to give bland, self-obsessed middle-class teenage girls (or less often, gay men in their 20s) something to make them feel special and also "victimised" and "oppressed". Getting "misgendered" (ie getting CORRECTLY gendered) is what makes being "gender neutral" worth all the trouble, of getting an ugly haircut, and the least-flattering facial piercings you can find.

[@stellastarbrightk7563]

Yes as a young girl with short hair I was misgendered as a boy. Thought it was funny. Actually Colin I think can go either way. I don’t know how many people use ma’am Nose rings scary to me because that’s how we control cows. If someone has bad intent that nose ring is going to be bad

[@BriannadaSilva]

I'm a lesbian with an androgynous style and I've been called "sir" so many times that it's a joke in my family. My sister has me in her phone contacts as "sir." 😂 I've had the stares and questions from kids, too. I'll admit, it stung a little the first few times, but that was because I still had some internalized homophobia and wasn't comfortable with myself. But now I've grown past that and it's just funny. If someone feels upset that they've been "misgendered", that's on THEM - a sign they need to grow in their own confidence and self-esteem. It doesn't reflect on the person "misgendering." People who don't do that inner work and instead blame their feelings on other people, making their own reactions the fault/responsibility of others rather than themselves, strike me as pathetically juvenile.

[@cjcosplay7883]

Why do people try to shove their pronouns down different people's throat???

[@0000zz2]

Ikr like i wont even use them when youre there.

[@juliannaking4473]

now i say " Hey You "

[@trublgrl]

@@juliannaking4473 I had a boss that always said "Hey, you," when he saw us. We knew it was because he never bothered to learn anybody's name. There were like five people working at this company.

[@beachlife4346]

They need affirmation to confirm their illusion the same way an anorexic fishes for others to tell them they are fat when they are a skeleton.

[@sherryrussell6023]

Idk but I for one am sick of it it hasn’t hit my small town yet but if it does if they look like a female I will call them a female

[@PurpleHays713]

A lot of customers don't even look up at the cashier. They're reacting to the voice they hear.

[@huitrecouture]

And the gigantic thick long polished fake nails.

[@swish3432]

I personally would avoid looking at someone with that hair and nose ring

[@lorrainechamberlain7818]

And the same in reverse. I’ve been called SIR many times. I think I look like a Woman, cuz I AM one, but if somebody else doesn’t recognize that in a 3-second transaction I just chuckle & move on. I KNOW who & what I am. So who cares?

[@TheHPExperiment]

It's so hypocritical of her to say " 'You have a good day, ma'am' if they're a woman." So by her own logic, she is literally assuming their gender, and could potentially be misgendering them! If your gender isn't immediately apparent, like it seems this person believes, then she just contradicted herself.

[@fafnyrslair]

And yet this person doesn't care. It's literally only about themselves

[@Kiefsti]

She can't even pronounce Colleen (jk) properly, of course she genders everyone wrong 🤣

[@jscho8674]

"The need to control your mother's speech is disgusting to me." YES!!! That is exactly what they want. To control our speech and control how we see the world. No.

[@emmargaret]

And these are the same people accusing the entirety of the right, extreme or not, of trying to control everyone.

[@weswolever7477]

Just yell “HEY ASSHOLE” Everyone responds to that!

[@0000zz2]

Yup! If they get angry you just say “wasnt talking to you but if the shoe fits…”

[@derrickdaniels3955]

😂

[@GhostsQueen85]

🤣🤣🤣

[@brianas5624]

Motherf*cker is gender neutral. ❤

[@stepheatsmeat]

I'm from CA, I call everyone and everything a "dude." 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️😉😉

[@Justintime619]

Thank you for pointing out the number of people in the trans community who suffer from SA. This pronoun thing is just another way for people to try and claim power over other people. Idk anyone who would intentionally go out of their way to misgender someone on purpose.

[@half.breed83]

Exactly they don't have control in other aspects of there life so they try and control that its like someone with anorexia they can't control aspects in there life so they have control over there food intake I refuse to use pronouns

[@stargazerkawaii]

I know people who will purposefully misgender people, but in the you can't control my beliefs and speech protest.

[@VentrexTheXVth]

I was one of those people. If you were a friend and you asked me to do something I would respond with "Yes, Ma'am/Sir!" of the opposite gender. However I only did this to friends and any accidental slip up was immediately corrected. For example I had one year were I only had one male teacher. At least once a month I would slip up.

[@half.breed83]

@@VentrexTheXVth I would never miss gender someone but I'm not doing all these weird pronouns I just refuse to partake in the lunacy

[@sherryk5381]

​@@stargazerkawaii IT means that we don't want our speech controlled by people who want their ideology forced on everyone else. God gave us Free Will which means that we don't have to play your game that never ends.

[@admirallily]

“Do you love being misgendered?” Some seem to. A recent tiktok I’ve seen at least twice now is of a person telling how a customer came in and said “what are your pronouns, because you look like a they/them” and the tiktoker admitted to being annoyed that the person guessed right. So for some, yes, they are hoping for a fight.

[@NoOne-bp2jw]

I saw that too. Some people don't want to be pleased.

[@nerdyislander4641]

They think they're unique....they don't realise that their androgynous ratty hair cut look is now a stereotype

[@SirKaeyaStoleThisAccount]

That reminds me of the videos of black and Asian women refusing to move over when a white person approaches them. Selfish behavior, and they only want to start problems for attention.

[@niji.sateenkaari8835]

omg this is incredibly funny 😄 yes one can see that. Dude with make up but otherwise dude-looking or girl with short, often intentionally ugly, hair and septum piercing - NONBINARY. I am a female person who is also apparently unmistakenly feminine looking (like NO ONE has ever thought I was a man since I am an adult, though I personally do not care what people think of my assumed gender) and in rainbow spaces I go by bise*ual nonbinary when people start consciously 'reading' me as a hetero cis-woman. It is a joy everytime to see them embarrassed, confused and lowkey angry at the same time (it is not even a lie - I am bi, and I apparently am not cis, since that would mean 'identify myself wholly with the woman's gender role, which I do not, because I am a person and not a stereotype). I just LOVE the look-standard for all the people who want to be unique.

[@jale..]

I remember a time (not long ago im only 31) when I was a kid, calling or referring to someone as they/them was considered offensive because you couldn't tell their gender.

[@miroirs-jumeaux]

did anyone in your elementary school ever say something like “you’re not a he, or a she, you’re an ‘it’”? sounds like the same idea

[@dasharvey]

@@orangesnowflake3769 Yep, hippies, punk rockers, goths, grunge etc. The big difference is that apart from perhaps piercings, they weren't medicalising and mutilating themselves. It's just another fad, but one with life-long consequences.

[@SirKaeyaStoleThisAccount]

I remember a few years ago I didn’t know how to refer to someone that I don’t know their gender. At that time I wasn’t that good at English so I called the strangers “it”, only to get called out for sounding rude and I should say “them”. Which, back then, made no sense for me lmao because I thought “them” refers to more than one person. So I accepted that the word “they” can refer to someone ONLY if you don’t know the person’s gender. Once you do know, you call that person she or he. Unbelievable that you can actually be a “they” and identify as a “they”. Of all languages that I know, you’re either he or she; if your gender is unknown, you’re technically “he”, like I know that “they” singular would be “él” in Spanish and “他” in Chinese, both of them mean “he”; and it’s disgusting that these gender radical activists are trying to defy grammar and make up nonsense pronouns.

[@orangeninja8022]

Bruh same, and I'm only 26. I genuinely feel uncomfortable referring to people I know as 'them' cuz I grew up thinking it was rude

[@AsheDuran]

I am a 31 years old trans man and I started transitioning 1 year ago, I do NOT get upset if people misgender me, I understand I do not pass yet, I sound and still look as a biological woman I don't blame people and I won't be an ass to force them to see me in a different way this soon. My transition is personal is FOR ME to feel comfortable living in my own body not something I want to force others when Im aware I am still in process.

[@ridleyroid9060]

Honestly, cut your hair short, wear a sleeveless shirt (a wifebeater as it is often called, although I dont like that name), go crawl underneath a car to just bask in that gasoline smell and say bro as your every 2nd word and youre already there! I'm joking ofc. I do wish you luck in your transition.

[@ls-l1518]

Very, very few pass. So don't hope for that.

[@glykera]

​@@ls-l1518 Most transmen pass very well once testosterone has hit.

[@11nica5]

I wish you the best in your journey and hope you find the happiness you deserve. Thank u for being reasonable and level-headed ❤

[@SilviaVanThreepwood]

Maybe therapy would've been an option? Not trying to be mean.

[@Tibasu]

Matt Walsh asked people "What is a Woman?" but I think we need to also start asking "What is a Narcissist?"

[@marebear875]

THANK YOU FOR THIS. Absolutely agree!!

[@McNugge.]

A..... Narccarsist? 😂

[@Tibasu]

@@McNugge. Thanks

[@McNugge.]

@@Tibasu you're welcome haha😂

[@SirKaeyaStoleThisAccount]

Yes, ABSOLUTELY. I hope he finds the answer for that, instead of getting circular answers like “A narcissist is a person who identifies as a narcissist” LOL. Yes, I did watch What is A Woman. Really enjoyed it. A fresh breath of sanity from the insane Alphabet Mafia Month hell.

[@leftalone9881]

I detransitioned after 10 years. I was autistic and called “it” even before I thought I was a boy. All my bullies were boys. I was bullied very badly to the point of people making detailed s*xual comments about me because it’s funny. At home I was dealing with s*xual abuse. I hated myself so much I felt I wasn’t good enough to pass as a woman, and I was told that must be because I’m a man. I’ve dealt with my feelings and I love being a woman now. When I thought I was trans, I was obsessed with being spitefully ugly. Like, trying to “reclaim it”. I see that a lot in other girls dealing with CSA.

[@willowlav]

I am so sorry you've had to deal with all of that, I cannot imagine. I'm wishing all the healing and love your way.💜

[@minuishaq631]

Sorry you went through that. People suck.

[@tula1433]

Sorry you had to deal with that but the entire woke community speaks on autonomy of the body then detrans people blame everyone but themselves! If you tell your doctor “I am trans” and tell your doctor exactly what they want to hear (which tons of these girls do) then they are to blame. Ofc I’m talking about adults, but both adult and teen detrans rarely take accountability.

[@johnnygaster2224]

​@@tula1433If someone is psychotic and claims to be Napoleon, goes to the doctor to ask them to perform surgeries to make them look like Napoleon, the doctor complains and everyone else applauds this person, confirms their delusion and gives them praise and attention and even money for sharing their journey, and everyone who disagrees with this gets silences by a mob, who is to blame for the end result? Gender dysphoria in detransitioners is caused by mental illness and trauma, so, can someone like that truly consent to all of this? And trust me bro, detransitioners do take accountability and blame themselves, even if they dont do it in front of you.

[@annamossity8879]

I’m so sorry you had to deal with that, go through that! I hope you continue happily on your journey. And thank you for your comment, by it you may help someone going through similar. ❤

[@kellymallory9852]

I have a deep voice for a woman. I cannot count the times iv been mistaken for a male on the phone. It has never bothered me.

[@josephineosei1151]

Same thing happens to me so often lol

[@renaissancemom817]

You’re not offended because you’re realistic. We need more like you!

[@TheAngryYumm]

I had a horrible interaction recently with "midgendering". I felt horrible afterwards because the guys was super nice. My dad and I were picking up fertilizer and my hair has gotten pretty long so this gay comes up and says "excuse me miss, where did you find that fertilizer." And of course I turned around to tell him where it was and I saw the panic in his eyes. I am a very mood neutral when around the public space but I made sure to give him a smile and a "it's not a big deal, I need a haircut" and told him where to find the fertilizer. The guy looked really relieved after and it was just... I don't know it hurt my heart for him. Mistakes happen, we are all human, and it just kind of stuck with me. The goal was never what it has become. How has such a community become the very thing we fought against?

[@SomePersonalUploads]

If more people responded with as much kindness and respect as you did, the world could be a bit of a happier place.

[@cedpete7434]

You thought he "panicked" because You look like a girl? Um...no

[@cajunking5987]

0:18 does she not realize misgendering regular people doesn’t have the same effect it has on trans people ? Edit: this is to say, it’s not a threat to us. We don’t care. We’re comfortable with reality enough to not be affected.

[@thecamillarose9806]

Idk why 'they" didn't just turn around and say hey don't call me that? Or actually listen to what the customer was asking like bruh

[@cherie5133]

Fully confident woman here, no affirmation needed. Misgender away….lol. How do they not understand that their pronoun hysteria is a joke to us? If I call someone sir and they politely and discreetly correct me, I will do my best to respect that. If they come at me crazy or hit me with they/them or some other crazy shite, I am so gonna blow that scene up.

[@lagalletitaiberica]

​@@caseyrae0117 if someone called me man I'd only think that there's something wrong with THEM not with me 😂

[@shanr6109]

I'm a woman. Call me a man ALL day long if you want to🤷‍♀️ No skin off my back.

[@beachlife4346]

I thought the same thing, lol. Very telling. They aren't living anywhere near the same reality as the rest of us.

[@dude7816]

I’m a straight white biological male, and I agree with this whole bs about the so called ideological gendering. It’s sad that I have to clarify that I’m biologically male.

[@sethkeown5965]

Dont. Be obtuse and refuse to play that game. Pronouns in a name tag? Just put your name. Someone asks? Ignore the question. It's rediculous, treat it as such.

[@sbffsbrarbrr]

You really do not need to. I hate to say this, but I get annoyed when someone says biological male or biological female. That's all there really is, so for me it's not necessary to state the obvious in reference to myself.

[@citizensgain]

Yes my pronouns are GFY

[@kizzlekakes]

I claimed to be a biological woman and I still offended someone. Lol 😆 I was like um what happened to science?

[@ookipuki]

​@@kizzlekakes I got into trouble for telling a trans person that you can't IDENTIFY as female because you can't identify as a sex. You can identify as a gender.... which..... is..... what..... they taught.... me........ ... . . ????

[@sayjay26]

My Niece who is a lesbian who looks very masculine, I was told was S/A by her boyfriend corercing her to have sex with him and his friend. Ever since she then she has done all she could to not bring attention to herself. Now she doesn't even look recognizable as the person she was. Its very saddening and no, she hasn't found any type of happiness. I will always be an ear for her...

[@gretaeberhardt541]

That’s so sad. I’m glad you are there for her. I hope she is able to get some help and find some happiness in life. We only get one.

[@sayjay26]

@@gretaeberhardt541 Thank You, I call her my MiniMe, I named her after me. 💜💜💜💜💜

[@puppydogs68]

That poor excuse of a boyfriend should get a special spot in hell.

[@mooshway2000]

Yes, I have a friend who had a similar experience. She found being with men too difficult after childhood sexual assault so had relationships with women instead. She also stopped dressing in a way that drew any attention from men. I don't like what she went through at all but, she's in her 60s and actually an amazing, creative, popular person and a Mum to a happy son.

[@sayjay26]

@@mooshway2000 I'm glad to hear that she found her Peace for her Life and is Amazing now✌✌✌✌✌

[@Lexi_47]

I do miss the time when being offended wasn't considered the worst thing in the world that could happen to someone

[@nm5310]

Lol. Well, being offended is a western society 'issue' only. So, in the vast majority of the world, it isn't an issue as most of the world is not 'westernised'. Most people around the world actually have a life and live in reality. Life has adversities and there are real issues for people to deal with around the world rather than the made up issues in the US. They clearly have nothing better to do than make up 'problems'. You know your life must be good if you have to invent your own 'issues' like being offended. The US is a sad society.

[@Lexi_47]

@n m Im glad to hear its not like that in other places. Theres more things to worry about. Im in the UK & it is becoming like America here, but we are a Western country too & we seem to follow American trends sadly

[@nm5310]

@@Lexi_47 Yeah. I'm from the UK too but I travel a lot. It's a shame how clueless some people here are about the general world. It ends up leading to the 'offended at everything mindset' because they don't put anything into context. Knowing/learning about the size and scale of the world's population and the demographics of it puts things into perspective. You end up realising how small the 'western culture' is in the scheme of things. The 'west' is usually the USA, Canada, Aus/NZ and all the countries in Europe. These places combined are only 14% of the world population. But for some reason, some of those people (especially in the US) think they are somehow 'the world' or the centre of the universe, when actually they are a small fraction. It's very insular. 60% of the world's people are from Asian countries, 20% are from African countries. This is 80% of humanity. Virtually none of it is westernised. As a person from Europe or the USA, when you travel outside those western centric bubbles, you realise how different you are to everyone else around the world. Your lifestyle, your culture, your background, everything. It puts things into perspective and you look at the so called 'issues' that people make up in the west and they are literally 'first world problems' at their finest. Western societies are some of the fairest, most peaceful societies on earth. Yet you get those dumbasses who have to make up everything under the sun to moan about. If you are in a society where you have to create your own 'problems' then you don't have any problems. It's just ignorance and not addressing that the issue is your mental health and nothing more. It's sad really. Sorry that was an essay! 😂

[@NiaLaLa_V]

@@Lexi_47 yeah I just told the men I work with we should bring back sexist jokes just to help turn the tide back. They were shocked to hear a woman say that but I am so sick of seeing them cower in fear all day because they might offend someone and not be able to fix it. If words offend us, they should be able to diffuse us too but they don't anymore. We went too far.

[@pelicanofpunishment6]

I'm always reminded of Steve Hughes, an Aussie comic, when people talk about being offended. "Nothing happens, when you're offended. You're an adult. Grow up. Deal with it!"

[@mooney9046]

I wish everyone could be as kind and compassionate as you.

[@0000zz2]

He literally is the kindest person I’ve ever watched and he got BANNED

[@SirKaeyaStoleThisAccount]

Exactly! I appreciate that he’s not bashing these people like some alphabet soup critics do. He’s understanding of these people while criticizing their actions, not jumping to conclusions and saying “you’re a bad person” just because of the person’s identity. I am not trans myself (I refuse to use the word cisgender) and I respect Marcus. I hope more people can see his content and understand that not all trans and LGB people are crazy freaks like the ones on Tiktok. It’s unfortunate that his videos are not favored by the algorithm…

[@kiki29073]

​@@SirKaeyaStoleThisAccountHe was banned and is still shadow banned and has been for a while.

[@SirKaeyaStoleThisAccount]

@@kiki29073 I’m well aware of that; YT is one sided, and they’re not in favor of people like Marcus

[@azimuth5620]

Marcus must have really great parents - he's so kind and smart and level-headed

[@Draco19970125]

I agree, she can be right in certain things. But may I ask why do you call her as "he", when she is a female?

[@anna.luv3]

@@Draco19970125female but socially male get it through- you know what at this point i don’t need a pronoun to define, define us whatever ❤

[@darkriver4372]

​@@Draco19970125he is transgender, he changed his legal name and did everything to pass. and you absolutely can't claim that you automatically think 'she' when you look at Marcus because that would be a lie. please be respectful to a real transgender person with gender dysphoria. it's not the same as these non-binary so-called 'trans people'.

[@sbffsbrarbrr]

@@darkriver4372 He makes a really cute guy but I bet would have been a beautiful woman. Regardless, I like him because common sense is hard to come by these days.

[@GhostsQueen85]

​@@Draco19970125 because Marcus knows for a fact he was born a biological female diagnosed with gender dysphoria. He's stated that numerous times in other videos.

[@rachelthegreat2959]

Im an American. Saying ma'am and sir is a sign of respect, although some people say it makes them feel old so be careful who you say it to. 😂

[@dinosaurwoman]

I'm in my 40s and a kid probably in his late teens/early 20s called me "miss" the other day. It made me feel SOOOOOO good!! 😁😆

[@talulashippe]

I agree but I haven't gotten to an age where "ma'am" feels like a slight. Not sure it ever will. Even still I'm pretty cognizant of the impression ma'am can leave on other women. Even still, it's very tempting to just casually slip it in when talking to a younger woman, just because I can 🤣

[@lucystoner]

I always say ma'am/sir with the kindest intentions, but it do be hitting me different when ppl say it to me 😂

[@teresamckeown5594]

🙋🏼‍♀️I am in my 50s. I have never been a fan of ma’am - except among friends. LOL

[@OBrienDesigns]

Dude, that girls conversation with her mom was the most confusing thing I've ever heard. It literally made zero sense..

[@K-Lys..]

These people want us to accept them as they are, but they don't accept themselves as they are 🙃!

[@DarknessIsThePath]

*As they delude themselves in what they think they are.

[@lovelife2186]

😂

[@opinionatedaf1563]

I think she's trying to control others because she can't control her own life. It's easy to be angry when you don't get help.

[@wolfstabia5524]

u really have taught me to like myself for who i am even without hormones (im to young for that)

[@creatrixZBD]

You will always really Be who you are, i think. Because You are not your body (the ubiquitous “you,” not specifically your good self). Obviously that truth doesn’t take into account the social aspect of how you are perceived by others, but that’s an entire separate subject. I hope this finds you well 💜🌈

[@gln80sgirl30]

You are perfect the way you are. Please don't listen to anyone who tells you that you need to change who you are. Talk to the people who truly love you and be very careful who you talk to on the internet.

[@tarantulasareterfs]

I wish id feel the same, i watch detrans people and radfems and general gender criticals and it doesnt help, it easier to just take t and fit in. Only thing that is scaring me is looking confusing to people, not in an androgtnous way but in a "person with boobs and a beard" and how it might provoke violence towards me, but even this is still better than being seen as a woman in this society

[@bananaana1860]

@@tarantulasareterfsI really hope you don’t ever experience violence or harassment for your personal choices. I wish both sides of the extreme argument can tone tf down.

[@talulashippe]

@@tarantulasareterfs Never, ever, compromise your authentic self for how you think people will perceive you, or if life seems easier on a certain path. The essential state of being human is understanding the hardship that comes with it. Remember that the gay movement happened in spite of popular oppositions. Most human rights movements do. You should never take the easy route in life, because that's how regret is bred. When you get older, you start to see that the world is what you make of it and other opinions people have of you matter less and less. Have integrity and determination to be yourself with complete honesty. Anyone who claims they want to save you in the process of doing that, should be examined for their motivations. Much love ❤

[@KatieLHall-fy1hw]

All this shows me is how important it is to pass, if one is able. And how self identity doesn’t mean anything in random daily interactions. People mostly try to be polite and nice but asking for more than that for brief interactions is asking a lot and is ridiculous

[@arvuti36]

Like how on earth should someone know, over the phone, that the caller is "nonbinary".

[@QueSeraSeraaaa]

It's impossible for someone to be "nonbinary", it's either a dude or gal.

[@Feverm00n]

I’m glad you’re back, Marcus. Even tho I’m probably not your typical demographic (since I lean very very left), I find a lot of value and important nuance in your content, and I really think you’re bringing an important groundedness to these topics without being incendiary or just a blatant a-hole lol.

[@ayannahendricks6266]

I consider myself left and I like Marcus and 97% of his videos. I don’t need to support the far right agenda to know when something is nonsense!

[@mmmeow]

I truly think most on the left are not on board with radical gender ideology. Silent majority.

[@talulashippe]

There are so many of us who see our view through the Overton Window as shifted, because it is so far left that anything right of it, even classic liberalism and centrism, is grouped in with the right. I have been a left-leaning person my whole life. Now, I feel abandoned by the communities that gave me support. The politicians I voted into office, do nothing to support my way of life. At the end of the day, I don't know or care if I am left or right. My values haven't changed, but the world around me has. And I really don't think I'm alone in that observation.

[@gablinhuman]

@@talulashippe it's weird for me because in my country I'm center-left (social democrat) but in american politics, that'd be considered very centric or even center-right. in america the left is more related to socialism/communism or even anarchy, isn't it? in my country, that'd be far/extremist left.

[@fafnyrslair]

​@@gablinhuman you are right. the majority of American politics are actually fairly right-leaning, even the liberal and left. Only the most absolute extremist leftist are even really on the left, when compared to other countries

[@azimuth5620]

no way I would have guessed that girl was anything but a girl. Well, maybe the whole "woke" look might have made me pause but I'd probably be more focused on getting my receipt and getting on with my day

[@corinnae.7877]

Damn you Marcus, I just wanted to go to bed, and there you upload. Not cool, because I have to watch it ofc.

[@linusgustafsson2629]

So true.

[@Flora_Dawn]

sleep for the weak

[@corinnae.7877]

@@Flora_Dawn nah, it's almost 6am, I woke up and feel horrible, I'm so tired.

[@alanalovell1612]

My heart actually brakes for the one with thee septum piercing. She reminds me of a vulnerable little girl who needs to be protected.

[@newfoundland042961]

To be honest if I was a job interviewer and I had a candidate who insisted on using pronounes I would absolutely not hire them. I would find it a red flag that this person will cause trouble. Sorry that's just how it is.

[@natsuki..b0tanical.g4rden09]

im also a trans man , autistic and 15 . and honestly , i seriously relate to this channel . unlike many , i am actually very aware of what im doing , i dont like how people get hormones at legit 11 and id get attacked for it . one of my best friends who understand me actually called me "the offensive tr4nny" just because im brutally honest .

[@Draco19970125]

You are not any kind of man. Man means male person and I doubt that you managed to change your female sex chromosomesyorgans into male ones. Being a man is not a costume what yiu can pick and wear. I hope you can learn to accept your biological sex. Can we be brutally honest about biological facts?

[@ThisIsAnnie2002]

Sorry kid, but at 15/16 you are neither a man nor a woman, you're a boy or a girl 🤷

[@SummerYazz85]

I always get misgendered by my family BUT I’m not gonna force them to call me a her. It can be irritating but oh well. I just gotta deal with it. They already love me for who I am, and I’m content with that. My family’s love is all I need.

[@half.breed83]

Ur a gem 💎 and like I said to a commenter in ur section u and others are the reason why I still support the real trans community 💛 💜 that are logical and live in reality and not in delusional fantasy

[@ginarivard7277]

"You just want an excuse to talk about yourself!" 👏👏

[@MuricaTurkey]

This is long. I'm sorry 😂 tldr; Thank you for your kind thoughtful approach to this subject. I went through similar things as that girl. I'm so glad I got a great therapist who helped me accept that I'm a woman. --- Long version: I went through the exact same thing as that girl (SA as a child), and it definitely made me hate being a girl. My choices were different than her's, thankfully. But only because I managed to try to ignore my trauma until I couldn't anymore. I had children, because I knew I always wanted kids. Thank God I listened to my soul telling me that. Or I might have never had my wonderful children. Unfortunately, the body changes I experienced, along with having daughters, made me have a total breakdown. Let me be clear, the problem was me not dealing with my trauma. It was NOT my kids' fault whatsoever, ever. In fact, even at my most unwell, I knew it wasn't about them. I DID think maybe it was about my gender though. So I went to a therapist, because my husband very kindly and lovingly begged me to. Not because I was threatening to leave or anything. I'm bi. I'd love my husband no matter what. Though... he's straight. So, it was going to be a problem if I was suddenly going to be living as a dude, and have surgeries or something. That's just reality. Thankfully I had these other people in my life to think about, to care for. Some might think that's some kind of hindrance or "servitude" or something. But it's not. It's living. If you only live for yourself, what's the point? Idk. That's just how I feel. One shouldn't completely lose themselves for others, obviously, but there is so much meaning and love found in duty to family. Not abusive, hurtful, coercion masquerading as righteous duty. But in loving bonds and constance and support. Healthy duty. I don't have that kind of bond with my parents. But I have it with my children and husband. And if I wasn't a woman, none if it would be possible. Not in this exact way, with all of us as part of this family. For example, my children couldn't have been born. And if I had decided to "be trans" our narriage would have broken up. Which, even in the friendliest divorces, always hurts kids. I'm so glad I didn't lose my chance at happiness and family just to wallow in the trauma someone ELSE chose to cause me, so long ago. I hope this young woman gets help. I hope she makes some healthy connections to other people, that bring her out of herself (in the best way). Because this stuff ISN'T the answer to SA trauma. Being a woman doesn't mean we deserve abuse, or that it's the majority of our reality. Again, thank you for pointing this reality out, and with such care and compassion.

[@gingerris]

my little sister was SA as a child for about 3-4 years. She is now going through transition to be a boy. I practically raised my sister until age 8; there were no signs pointing to her being trans. I thought at most she was gay (for many reasons that i won't go into). Now she wants me to refer to her as male and use he/him pronouns. She is 15 btw. I try and be respectful as much as I can but still can't fully wrap my head around it. The whole thing sucks because my mother is her "yes man" and does whatever she wants. Ive tried explaining to her that this is a result of her trauma (in the most respectful way possible) but she doesn't get it because she's a child. I wish things weren't like this...

[@kimscott7269]

It’s so heartbreaking. So many people are running away from pain in their past. It makes me hurt for them.

[@Mimi-pt4fo]

I told my daughter I will respect people's pronouns, but do not want to be called CIS. She called me intolerant.

[@ThatSuperGayPodcast]

2:24 it is a way to show respect and manners.

[@WHU-lz7gq]

As a butch lesbian (a masculine cis woman) i get misgendered a lot. I dont blame it on the people because if i chose to look masculine then i shouldn't get angry if people sometimes get it wrong. I have been misgendered for years and i never have reacted with anger. Its actually not that hard to not get angry. These people just seem so angry all the time its dumb. It happens to me all the time and i dont complain im chill.

[@jacobishii6121]

This is absolute truth,im starting to feel like it's intentional.I feel like there's a bunch of people that are not trans,they are attention seekers.They are people that claim being trans and set up themselves up as a "victim" or the "oppressed" for what ever personal satisfaction they recieve.

[@saengding]

3:15 Many children that suffered through SA stopped washing themselves, stopped taking care of themselves and started dressing on very baggy clothes to be less desirable to the perpetrator.. It's a cry for help and neither their surroundings nor themselves even realize it

[@Trustworthyalma]

I’m a devout Roman Catholic and I am grateful for your content, along with Blaire’s and Buck’s. It is what has helped me to become more empathetic and remember we are all of the human race. I’m more hopeful that not only can we coexist, but that we can live together in peace. It has me remembering what a saint once said. It was along the lines of, “if we have no peace, it’s because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.”

[@MoonlitPetalsBlooming]

“As long as you look and sound like a woman, you’ll be called ma’am. You can’t control what other’s say and think about you, you can only control how you react” yep….that definitely is 100% correct and is spot on. Ik I’m gonna probably get bashed for saying this, but I do struggle with gender dysphoria (but it’s not enough for me to feel the need/want to transition to presenting as a male) but it is enough for me to feel dysphoric around being a woman. Idk what it is or why I have this dysphoria, but all ik that the dysphoria fluctuates, so that’s why I say I’m genderfluid. Being genderfluid isn’t what these “TikTok kids” are making it out to be, and I don’t shove it in people’s faces either. Ik I’ll always look like a woman, and I’ll always be referred to and portrayed as such, and yes cuz of dysphoria it kinda “bothers” me but I never say anything cuz I understand. What he said is 100% correct, we shouldn’t be “shoving out identities in people’s faces” and that shouldn’t even be said honestly. I use she/they pronouns cuz i literally only leave the “they/them” part for dysphoria reasons for myself, and I use “she/her” cuz I would NEVER expect strangers to use “they” for me and it doesn’t really matter anyways cuz ik who I am and what my struggles are and that’s all what matters. I define and validate myself, I don’t need others to do that for me, and that’s what’s wrong with this generation.

[@Thetimeisntcomingback]

If I'm ever unsure of someone's gender, I usually just say "hey" or "hey friend"

[@kentuckywildcatgobigblue7190]

why do they always have the giant bull ring through their noses? do they think they look cute? If that's the case, someone lied to them.

[@yingyang7448]

I'm serious, nose rings are a damn epidemic in this country. They look terrible and look uncomfortable af. Especially wtf that person was wearing. Every single time I see a nose ring, I legit think of those nose rings they put on pigs.

[@sarahstahowiak9321]

I feel so bad for that one girl who is trying so hard to convince herself that she doesn't look like a woman, because I've been through the same thing to a much lesser degree. I never thought I was a man or wanted to be one, but I went through a time after I got sexually harassed a lot and sexualized constantly that I cut all my hair off and was happy when I gained weight because I didn't want people to find me attractive, male or female since the harassment came from both sides. I didn't qant to make myself ugly per se, because I still like how I look with short hair and chubby, but the vast majority of people straight up told me how much better I looked before, so I wanted to be ugly in their eyes. I can't imagine how much that poor girl would have had to have gone through to want to make herself not even identifiable as a woman.

[@luluatodi2778]

heya, i also share the same trauma as the first person. i don't feel comfortable wearing feminine clothing because i don't feel safe exposing my figure because i am curvy and it reminds me of the abuse and i become paranoid. i do realise that it's not always the case and it's my issue to deal with. However, i happen to love being a woman, i love the possibility of getting pregnant one day, i love the traditional femele role of a home maker. i love cooking, cleaning, and taking care of people. it comes naturaly to me. i was a tomboy growing up cause i'm also autistic (aspie side of things) so i am naturally inclined to have more masculine interests. i love my life, i love my experience of reality and i find it extremely sad that these young women feel like they should dissasociate from their biology just because of trauma. love your videos, keep it up! very informative and it helps people understand what gender dysphoria actually means, if you ask me.

[@ayootaylo]

2:35 I know of a few Colins that are female. My name is Taylor, it’s unisex. Kelly, my uncle… literally anybody can have any name 😂 dakotas, tanner, Tyler,

[@saraalder1434]

Sir and ma’am are absolutely a sign of respect here in the United States. My name tag at work says I’m bilingual and not once has anyone ever noticed or commented on it. Why? Because nobody looks at name tags.

[@apherrmann]

when i was early in my transition i would get misgendered all the time. i would either just correct them if I knew i was gonna be spending some time helping them, or i would just shrug it off and continue on with my miserable retail life.

[@half.breed83]

Ur one of the reasons why I still support the actual real trans community

[@Draco19970125]

"Early in my transition" - you cannot change from one sex to the other, you at best wear a female/male costume. "Misgendered" - you mean correctly gendered because people could tell what you really are.

[@apherrmann]

@@Draco19970125 damn, i guess you're mad im not being misgendered anymore huh? rest easy, big man. you'll find something that's worth being mad about someday. don't give up, follow your dreams or whatever.

[@apherrmann]

@@kelleygreengrass :(( oh noooo not you too :((

[@talulashippe]

Just so you know, the essential act of correcting someone for misgendering seems to me a desire to make the "offender" as uncomfortable as yourself. And that's not appropriate. The world can't bend to you and will never learn on a case-by-case basis how to address you, when objective perception dictates why that happens in the first place. It does not matter if you spent some time helping them; the likelihood that you will cross paths again and they will remember the proper address as a result, is extremely miniscule. The best path as I see it, is twofold: the people in your life who WANT to support your transition will ask how you would like to be addressed, out of respect and politeness. The strangers can't be taught, and if politeness and respect is the goal, then taking pains not to exercise humiliating correction is what you can extend back.

[@creatrixZBD]

8:11 that narcissistic monster seems to be holding her whole family hostage, and loves it. It that the same person who posted themselves bullying their aged old grandy into learning pronouns? They are filming themselves showing evidence of their abusive behaviour.

[@TheMasochistKnight]

Omg mom sounds so sweet.. this gives me major narcissistic abuse vibes. Elderly abuse at thst

[@jamesworley9888]

Your eyes shine like Diamonds in this video, you actually look amazing "and that's not coming from a sexual point of view at all. I'm as straight as a man can get but I know a BRILLIANT look when I see one. I hope I shine like that one day.

[@gyrlgeorge]

Your voice is sorely needed during this difficult time of …….trying to figure what the hell is going on. 😂 You’re well spoken and logical.

[@yolk1753]

i want to say i dont understand these people but i do. it's unfortunate how much they care. it seems stressful. people thought i was a boy during my childhood and would call me such. they'd ask me what i was and it caused a lot of distress for me at first because i didn't realize that it wasn't obvious that i was female until people brought it up. idk i thought it meant i was ugly or something lOl. i later realized that what people called me did not change what i was and i was free. i'm a biological female and i identify as such. i dress how i want and behave as only myself. a lot of people think i'm a dude at first. some people refer to me as he, some say she, some say they. i do not give a fuck and it feels good. at the end of the day, i'm just me. i don't correct people because it simply does not matter. why hyperfixate on whatever someone's calling you instead of whatever else they're saying? i can't imagine pausing my day because someone happened to call me he or they. even when i was insecure as a kid i didn't bother saying anything to anyone unless they asked me a direct question with the intent of getting an answer. existing must be hell for these people, but it is a choice. choosing to not care is not a bad thing and i wish more people would do that.

[@yolk1753]

also loved the segment about the person with the nose ring. their entire look immediately struck me as someone trying their hardest to be as unattractive as possible. it's a very defensive appearance and it pains me to see people like that. it's always clear why they look the way they do. we need more support for people who have been harmed sexually so that they can feel comfortable in their own bodies again. many of my experiences have made me feel gross, but i know i can't run away from myself. it only makes it worse cause no matter what you're still you.

[@tarantulasareterfs]

These people are jusr miserable and this is the only aspect that theycan control, similar to ed

[@nickh.4917]

I am a gay guy and you are my new hero. Marcus right?

[@ferndoggiedogg181]

Keep up the amazing videos dude I feel these individuals are terminally online and have no real interactions with everyday people who are not on the Internet 24/7 then get shocked when those people do not address see them the way someone who's termanally online would it really breaks my heart

[@gaaraix7233]

Thank you . And I know you hear that all the time, but you're a wonderful human being . Thank you for your effort ❤

[@SomePersonalUploads]

7:35 is very uncomfortable, it feels like that woman is being held at gunpoint.

[@thedukeofswellington1827]

The least you could do is turn that TV down wtf 😂

[@imblake0346]

2:30 Yes sweetie, you do look like a woman. So do i as a trans man who's actually trying to pass (this gets worse when i wear my work clothes, i actually pass when i dress like a 15 year old boy) yes i am miserable but at least i'm not delusional thinking i look like a man with shaved eyebrows and whatever haircut this is, i've never seen any guy that looks like this EVER If you truly want to pass (which i doubt) i'd suggest you take off that nose piercing, get new glasses and grow out your eyebrows and hair slightly so maybe then you'll look like you're a feminine younger boy Just because you don't look feminine doesn't mean you don't look like a woman

[@yingyang7448]

I'm serious, nose rings are a damn epidemic in this country. They look terrible and look uncomfortable af. Especially wtf that person was wearing. Every single time I see a nose ring, I legit think of those nose rings they put on pigs.

[@justincree1978]

Hey there, I'm just here to show some more support, next month I'm gonna get a member ship

[@BlahBlahBlahBlah69]

Quite honestly I've been misgendered I'm a biological woman my husband has been misgendered in drive thrus, our kid has been because she had a pink floyd onsie but all this was like 4 years ago we laughed and joked but none of us are trans.

[@talulashippe]

It's worse when someone asks when your due date is, and you're not pregnant 😂😂😂 talk about a reality check

[@BlahBlahBlahBlah69]

@@talulashippe yeah love that one. My mom is the main one to say it to me.

[@abracadabra5624]

My heart goes out to victims of SA that feel the need to "hide" themselves as the opposite gender. This is not a solution. I remember when empowering victims with self defense classes, therapy and support groups was the message. Every other day Oprah, Rikki lake or whomever had a show about it when I was in HS. We need to go back to that message.

[@mirandapanda]

I am a new subscriber and have watched a few of your videos so far, and I must say that this hits a homerun on so many levels...I'm a 47yr old trans woman and have recently pulled myself away from the transgender label and for good reason, I came out in 2012 and since transitioning I have found a sense of self love and peace within but I never denied my biology! This new ideology is disturbing, and it's creating major damage to our youth! I commend you for being the reasonable common sensible voice that people desperately need to hear! Thank you so much, keep up the great work!

[@marcusdib]

That warms my heart, thank you!

[@cielizzy8860]

You speak so eloquently about a topic that usually results in screaming matches and childish namecalling, it's great. Love your content!

[@lils738]

The accuracy!! I always thought this way regarding trans-identifying females who don't bother to medically transition into being a a man. SA can mess up your relationship to your female-ness.

[@mistypuffs]

It must be extremely frustrating for the rest of the world not to see what you want them to see in you. Trust me, anyone who says “thank you Ma’am” to this person is just trying to be respectful. So glad I didn’t do store work in a country that requires a title

[@chairy_chair]

Hello :) I just wanted to say I really appreciate all your videos. They helped me get out of a rut of being in a toxic community of telling me that I'm nonbinary, a lesbian, gay, etc...(Not saying that there's anything against being those things) Your videos have helped me to understand different perspectives and that what was happening to me was not ok, but there was something else I needed to address. I really appreciate all your content and getting a new perspective on topics. Keep up the amazing work :)

[@DanielleStarry]

I really feel for people who require so much external validation from strangers. If someone called me the incorrect pronoun, I’d just think, “lol wrong” and not be bothered. I wish that same capability for everyone

[@tammylaronde8593]

They need to address the deep trauma that they have experienced before they can start feeling more whole inside. There’s healing that needs to be done and I hope that they get it. Having your consent violated leaves a deep scar. It can mean PTSD amongst other issues.

[@etheredmoon]

There absolutely is a correlation to biological women wanting to identify as men due to s*xual trauma & abuse. I am one of those women. I have had my body violated in that way more than once had men just objectify and use me for their own s*xual gratification & needs which lead to a few either attempting to or actually r*ping me to get what they wanted. I have even been pressured, guilted, manipulated, & gaslit into sending a few of those men n*des of myself. It wasn't long until I started to HATE being a woman started wanting to BE a man thought I was full on trans female to male with zero gender dysphoria but, I somehow convinced myself I had regardless. Thank GOD I realized I wasn't trans and never altered my body or went on hormones BUT, I still didn't want to BE a woman so, I identified as non-binary & used they/them pronouns for a good while. It only took me finally speaking to a therapist, family & friends about the trauma, abuse & mistreatment I endured for me to gradually start to appreciate being a biological woman again to start loving being one again. It isn't easy but, at least I am getting the help I do need. I pray all those poor girls do too before they make decisions they will no doubt regret for the rest of their lives....

[@cherryramensoup]

Hello Marcus!! I hope you can see this and I don’t know if you can, but I recently started watching your videos altogether and now I’m a subscriber. I’m a cis bisexual woman who was never actually concerned about LGBT+ topics at all, but I have a boyfriend called Callum who came out telling me he’s transgender a while back (FTM). At first it was shocking as I never knew what to do in the first few minutes and I had never really expected it because his looks didn’t really give it away, but I managed to comfort him and reassure him I would never leave him and that I still love him unconditionally no matter what, and that he was still and will always be the Callum I’ve always known. Ever since he told me, I’ve been trying to learn more about transgenders and your videos have helped an incredible lot, especially since I know you’re genuine when you speak of this topic and not just some tiktoker who makes it an aesthetic. I appreciate how you explain everything in deep detail, especially how dysphoria feels and what’s ACTUALLY offensive to trans people. Thanks to you, I know more about my boyfriend and all I can say is, him coming out as transgender to me only made me love him more, not less as he was worried. I want him to be himself and reassure him he doesn’t have to be afraid when he feels the need to speak about his experience as a transgender to me. I love him very much and I want to always be his safe place. Thank you so much for your videos, they helped me realise so many things that I never knew. ❤️ Callum if you’re seeing this somehow, I love you.

[@CheddarCheys]

I used to be a very masc-presenting female, and was called sir so many times, but like, I get it. My hair was really short, I didn't wear makeup, I was always dressed in a T-shirt and jeans. I didn't look feminine unless you were really close to me. I didn't mind it, and I always said as much when people would apologize, and I don't mind now. Any time I hear "what are your preferred pronouns," my response is the same. You may call me anything you want so long as you aren't being derogatory. Some of my real-life friends literally refer to me as cheddar or cheese as an inside joke, and I think it's awesome and hilarious 😂

[@freddie488]

My girlfriend is a biological woman. As a child she was pumped full of steroids pre and during puberty, because of this she has a deep voice and regularly gets misidentified as male on the phone. She usually just laughs and informs them that shes a woman. The only time she gets angry is when they continue to do it.

[@Breexbloodlust]

As a kid, I went thru a period of time where I didn't want to be seen as a girl due to sa. I did grow out of this tho.

[@alpakafantasy5134]

I actually hope that the person with the huge nose ring sees your response at some point in the near future. And I am really happy that you are doing what you do. These people need help - that's all can say when I see and hear them talking in front of their cameras and do not only harm to them selfes but to countless other young teens and adults who relate to them. It's just horrific what's going on.

[@yingyang7448]

I'm serious, nose rings are a damn epidemic in this country. They look terrible and look uncomfortable af. Especially wtf that person was wearing. Every single time I see a nose ring, I legit think of those nose rings they put on pigs.

[@yyclept]

Negative attention is better than no attention at all for them.

[@Stalemarshmallow]

I definitely use my friend’s preferred pronouns to make them happy. Because I want to make them happy because they are my friend. But I have slipped before. We all have. It’s tricky when you sense the gender is something else than what the person asks. It just is. It’s not hate.

[@greggallagher2854]

And I just became a member. I'm a linear thinker. Thank you for bringing logic to the conversation!!

[@half-bakedpotato1078]

I’m a woman who is almost 30 and got a “Thank you, young lady!” the other day. I just laughed, thinking about how triggered one of these TikTokers would have gotten from that. They are all just so insecure in themselves and it’s sad to see. I grew up being called the wrong name (accidentally) half the time and have been misgendered over the phone (my brother and I used to sound identical on the phone) and in person when I had short hair. It’s no big deal and does not affect me because I know who I am.

[@morrphina]

Literally, I call everyone sir or ma’am. I do it to kids, I do it to adults, I do it to essentially anyone I can tell is older than me or anyone that I don’t know well. I was just raised to believe that this is the most respectful way to address people. When my grandma calls me, I answer with, “Yes ma’am?” It’s something that just comes out of my mouth these days without even thinking- instinctively. And only in the past few years have I had the thought after I say it that, “oh shit maybe that was rude….” But I honestly can’t care about that because l’m just trying to be friendly and respectful and I’m not going to allow some miserable, bitter people to make me feel like being respectful is somehow wrong. TBH- I’d be embarrassed to have to correct someone on my preferred pronouns. But Marcus is right, the probably love it because it gives them a reason to complain. I’d also feel really bad if this person tried to misgender me as a clapback for accidentally misgendering them because like….. I don’t think about gender like they do, most people don’t. So I mean…. the biggest reaction they’d get is likely just confusion.

[@GuranPurin]

It's definitely a coping mechanism for some of these people. This woman has reduced womanhood to having nails and a higher pitched voice. Things she can physically alter. And that as long as she lacks enough "female attributes", she will no longer be a woman. And by not being a woman, she won't be at (as high of a) risk of another SA. I understand it, but that needs to be addressed in therapy. Literally wanting to separate from your gender as a coping mechanism is not healthy and should not be seen as normal. That last video trend really disgusted me though. These people probably have 50-60 year old parents and are basically trying to train them to speak in a way that isn't natural and broadcasting it to the world when they mess up. The level of narcissism that is CONSTANTLY shown in this community is deplorable.

[@V1LL1N]

MARCUS! Best intro ever, you just killed it right out the gate with some warm, hard truth. Much Love! Keeper' Up! (no pun intented, but it just slipped out).

[@jennyd9691]

I live in Northern England and the societal norms here is that women and men call women "love" "sweetheart" some such term of affection..men call other men "mate" sometimes "bro" (i think thats an American import). There have been afew times where a man calls me "mate" and i instantly think "he thinks im a bloke!?" In reality its probably just a slip, or men purposefully using a non gendered term . Im clearly a woman and i actually like being called "love" "petal" and all the rest .

[@miroirs-jumeaux]

7:54 this is elder abuse!

[@sayjay26]

Thanks!

[@curiouschronic582]

Youre such a kind hearted soul, I very much appreciate the care you take when speaking about these tiktokers you're absolutely right they need trauma counseling, not affirmation!

[@violetah.8675]

I'm so happy I found your channel I think I'm gonna happy cry. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and insights in such an eloquent manner.

[@geirpg]

If I were to meet you irl, Marcus, I would probably use the pronoun "you". Calling you he or she to your face would be weird. 😉 Good night.

[@yourneighborhoodxenos]

As a masculine, gay woman, I got it all the time both growing up and in adulthood when I had my hair short, since I only dress like men. On a call-in stream with a KZbinr I like, the chat all thought I was a 13yo boy lying about wanting to propose, because my voice is that sorta-deep, cracking, puberty boy voice, especially on the phone 💀 as a kid and teen girl, I also never got offended when little kids thought I was a boy. My own nephew didnt believe I was a girl until he was like 5 or 6. And never has it once offended me. I get it 😂 So go ahead and misgender cis people, a lot of us have dealt with it their whole life too, and even if they haven't, its only gonna offend a Karen and make other people think you mispoke or are special.