I have a crush on a colleague, is that bad? // Sweet Aunt, Spicy Aunt with @

[@raspberryitalia3464]

It's like a butterfly and moth hanging out together sapphically

[@stevie]

Did you just call me a moth 😡

[@raspberryitalia3464]

@@stevie forgot my tone indicator - moth (affectionate)

[@jennifers5560]

@@raspberryitalia3464 I don’t think being called a moth is a bad thing. Moths are great, they are mostly nocturnal, they are pollinators and they come in all sorts of colors and sizes. I mean have you ever seen a picture of a Madagascan Sunset Moth?

[@mkay4]

@@raspberryitalia3464 moths are cute 🥰

[@LeebMilder]

The Luna Moth is the national lesbian insect

[@jennifers5560]

The way Jessica looks at Stevie in disbelief and shock, when Stevie answers, is just hilarious. -Although Jessica’s reaction to Josie’s “Imagine the views though” was pretty epic too!

[@amarisb4686]

I'm so glad Jessica is out there giving a voice to all of us who DON'T want to be pushed into not exclusive dating culture, as if we somehow don't "know" ourselves when we know that we want monogamy. Young people watching/reading- do whats right for YOU regardless of what others think. You don't have to justify wanting exclusivity or explain yourself. If the person is pushing you and trying to change your mind about it, then just move on.

[@jocelynprier9115]

Yeah, as someone who literally doesn't really feel romantically/sexually attracted to more than one person at a time (it's happened maybe twice ever) I really appreciate positve, healthy monogamy narratives. Like I understand where a lot of people are coming from when they say that polyamory is better or healthier since there's a lot of toxic monogamy culture out there, but for some of us it really is just how we are. In my mind it's just like any other orientation and trying to change it one way or the other is just no good.

[@stephanieann622]

@@jocelynprier9115I can definitely relate to you. A great many people think I’m some weirdo because I have not ventured into a relationship in years. I don’t date, and have no desire to. If I’m asked I tell them the truth. No offense, I just don’t date! I’m perfectly happy and you sound that way too ❤❤

[@alenarenner310]

Jessica: "sweet aunt, spicy aunt" Stevie: "sweet 🐜, spicy 🐜"

[@mariebourgot4949]

Exactly what I thought. ^^

[@stevie]

HAHAHAHAHAGAGAG THIS MADE ME CACKLE SO LOUD AT 4am

[@LoveHannahsRizz]

I'm an American and to me it makes more sense to say aunt the way Jessica does so I differentiate it from the animal.

[@moonell]

I have noticed this "charming your way into getting people being open to different opinions" a while ago in Jessica and I have to say it made a huge impact on my ability to talk to others (I have ASD and find it difficult to understand social cues). Just ask questions and wait for the right time to swoop in with some facts, low-key educate people instead of arguing. "People aren't idiots, they just don't have enough information" mindset. Extremely helpful.

[@pold3967]

My spicy aunt was the one who introduced me to rock music and was the black sheep of the family before me; my sweet (great) aunt was the one who always had tea and cake ready for visits, and was very outwardly prim and proper, but tried hard not to be judgemental. So I like this dynamic, especially the looks of delighted shock on Jessica's face (and the glee at causing it exuding from Stevie).

[@tsukig.p.7848]

My spicy aunt saved my life, many times. She brought me to live with her for a few months to watch my cousins(and get away from my severely abusive brother, though she didn't know that at the time) She was the first person I came out to, the first person to know I was dating my AFAB spouse. And her kids/my cousins are more like siblings. I've accidentally called her mom more times than I can count.

[@aliceway7840]

As a fellow spicy lesbian American who lives in England married to a Brit this was highly relatable! British people assume I’m stupid and that I don’t understand elevated wit because of my accent so I usually act dumb then hit them with a highly sarcastic comeback that throws them off. By that point they usually take me seriously and we can have a proper conversation

[@drskelebone]

"I have Tory friends." I am so so sorry for you. I hope they recover from it.

[@apocalypse_frau]

How fabulous that I catch this video as it has just posted! Thank you, ladies! 🏳️‍🌈💕 Edit to add: I want merch that says, “I have a crush on the moon.” 🌙 Jessica, you never fail to touch my heart.

[@narnigrin]

I want merch that says "Sweet Aunt" and "Spicy Aunt"! Like, two different sets of shirts, the spicy ones being dark and moody and the sweet ones, pastel and cheerful. I'd get one for me and one for my sister (who's having a baby very soon). I ... don't know which of us should have which, though. Perhaps we'd both be spicy ...

[@strawberrymilk_nya]

I’d like “I have a crush on a flower” merch

[@gwynnmccallan8856]

Fun to watch you two together. Good energy. Hope you feel better soon Jessica. I've had a cold all week that's turned into a lung and sinus infection, so I totally commiserate. As if having chronic autoimmune illnesses isn't enough, right? And Stevie is the first person I've seen talk about DSPS. My adult son and I both have it. We were diagnosed through a sleep study about 10 years ago. Really makes life difficult when you don't align with "normal" work hours/society. Definitely a good reason to be self employed.

[@Yorea]

Did a sleep study help you in any way besides knowing that you have it? I'm sure I have DSPS and did consider a sleep study, but if I know 100% sure that I have it then what? It seemed a little pointless/waste of time to me so I haven't done it yet.

[@kathis.3973]

I relate SO much to 'I think we're having a fun discussion, and the other people in the conversation think we're fighting'! I just really love discussing things and I get excited! So far, the only solution that kind of works for me is to literally say 'I don't mean to sound aggressive, I just really like questioning and debating EVERYTHING, pllease tell me to stop if it becomes too much for you'.

[@Yorea]

Omg I'm so glad I hear you mention DSPS!! I have it too but so many people tell me to "just go to bed earlier you'll get used to it" 🙄 Yes tell that to past extremely sleep deprived me during uni where I had a very set schedule I followed for TWO YEARS and it never helped/changed, I was just tired ALL THE TIME and had to catch up on sleep on the weekend. I now go to sleep naturally and wake up naturally and it's just so much better! Though people still judge me for going to bed at like 2am and waking up at 10-11am... DSPS and its other types need to be talked about more often so we don't have to deal with people thinking they know things better!

[@ametsbb2814]

I would really like for people to stop judging how others sleep! (I need to be in bed a great part of the day, and people can be very harsh about it). Good for you for having found what best works for you 😊

[@stevie]

🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻 Yessss! Also, forcing sleep and waking up too early for your body increases your risk of certain preventable diseases. And not to mention what sleep deprivation does!!

[@bikergirl2000]

I wake up properly around 3pm, or after my 3rd coffee, whichever comes first. Fortunately my antidepressants knock me out for about 8hrs, so I can manage live in an early bird world!

[@astra1653]

Good luck on your x-ray, Jessica! Not that it's something you can, like, study up for, but hopefully it shows that you're on the road to recovery. I had to do the same a couple of times earlier this year when I had pneumonia. Fortunately it showed I was all clear two whole weeks before I had surgery for something unrelated, but if it hadn't, the surgery would have had to be rescheduled, and all of that panicking I'd already started doing would have been for nothing.

[@lordaxminister]

It’s OK to have a crush as long as you don’t fall in love and run off into the sunset together Xx

[@liasnclr]

What’s wrong with falling in love and running off into the sunset? 😂

[@erika2_2]

What 😂😂😂

[@rofinatheirin9929]

Oh god the moon, imagine the chaos…. 😂

[@mygirldarby]

@@liasnclr well she's married. That's a pretty good reason.

[@Ulthar_Cat]

In the topic of disagreements, human rights and social justice are FUNDAMENTAL, so I'm with Stevie. Block, delete, cancel. I'm ok with people liking food or clothes or music that I hate, but I do not tolerate people who tolerate intolerance or opression or injustice. 💜

[@firefly24601]

Clara must have had SO much fun editing these Stevie collabs! 💜 Stevie letting a little bayou out in this video, nice to hear! My Dad and Uncle grew up in Louisiana, and for a while in elementary school my uncle thought the Pledge of Allegiance contained the phrase "...and to the republic for which it STAINS" 😆

[@stevie]

Yes sometimes I need to be told that my bayou is showing 😇😇😇

[@AvaNightingale]

Coming Out Doula sounds like an amazing job xD I love that! I think it's fine to disagree on many things, but basic fundamental human rights and autonomy is a hard boundary for me, and while I have friends who are in disagreement about lots of things... My values and theirs have to match for us to be actual friends

[@stevie]

Coming out doula!!!! That is a wonderful term for it omg

[@AvaNightingale]

@@stevie right??? Like I figured if you can have a birth doula, a death doula, an ER doula... Why not a Coming Out Doula?

[@beatriceotter8718]

I think conversations on exclusivity or not should be a first date question. Because some people assume that exclusive monogamy is the default from the get-go, and some people think it's only something that comes when a relationship gets serious, and others think it's never on the table. And if your fundamental assumptions are different, or your fundamental needs are different, that can lead to a lot of pain down the road. Much better to get cards on the table from the beginning.

[@yanatarkhaeva]

Also, it's okay, I think, to just don't hang out that much with people who have opinions you don't share, if you're tired or distressed and don't have the capacity to have conversations about it. Like even if it's not such a major thing you have disagreements about. It's good and valuable to have a diverse friendship circle, to not live in an echo-chamber. But sometimes it's just too much.

[@PhoebeFayRuthLouise]

“Imagine the views, though!” That made me laugh! I also love the idea of pretending to be a queen when stuck in bed!

[@jennifers5560]

You can hear the shock in Jessica’s voice when she said Josie’s name in response. They are all so good together!

[@DisastersDynamicsDisability]

You two represent 2 aspects of my personality and I love it! I'm also so excited to see Stevie talking a bit about polyamory because I'm polyamorous and her talking about polyamory online is how I learned and realized I was polyam

[@crisnemitz1606]

I love Stevie's hair!! I would cut my hair like that immediately, but I can't figure out how you style it. I liked her long hair too, but this way you can really see her beautiful face! 👍❤

[@stevie]

Omg you’re too sweet! I haven’t actually tried styling it since I cut it yet. This is just what it looks like naturally. I put a bit of gel in it after shampoo/conditioner and let it air dry(I diffused it in this video so it dried faster tho)

[@crisnemitz1606]

@@stevie This is what it looks like naturally? Lucky girl!

[@Saforra99]

I love what Stevie said about examining *why* you desire exclusivity and asking for those things instead. I personally also value exclusivity, but I really appreciate looking at the why -- because getting exclusivity doesn't necessarily mean you'll be getting that other attention/care/affection that you want. I think it's just geneerally really important to talk about things + not just guess or make the other person guess or be mad because the other person *didn't* pick up on the hints you were giving :P :)... Cheers from Germany!

[@mygirldarby]

Most humans desire exclusivity because we are humans, lol. That's how we are made, or how we evolved if you prefer. Sharing sex partners isn't normal for most humans. Sexual jealousy about our partner is normal. It isn't something a person can overcome. It's part of pair bonding.

[@r-v4429]

@@mygirldarby There are some evidence alluding that most/some hunter-gatherers practiced ethical non-monogamy, so I wouldn't be so sure about us being wired for monogamy. Especially since most of humans closest relatives are non-monogamous. I think it has more to do with culture, monogamy is just more practical now then it was 10 000 years ago. I fully agree humans have evolved for pair-bonding, but pair-bonding doesn't only happen in monogamous settings. Some non-monogamous species practice pair-bonding (like some birds), the same way some humans have romantic relationships and are still non-monogamous. Sexual jealousy is also something that happens w/non-monogamous species but not every individual gets jealous like that or about the same things. Of course all of thats not to say monogamy isn't a good option for some or most individuals, but that doesn't mean they shouldn't ask themselves why, or that a part of it isn't cultural. Everyone should ask why is thing X something I want.

[@JustAshley9685]

My nibbling (formerly my niece) came out as non-binary and I'm the only one in the family to actually accept that and use proper pronouns for them. They're so hurt that my mother (their grandmother who is super "old school") said she would change that for my nibbling. I had to sit down with my mother and explain that we cannot ignore their feelings of who they feel they are and I *finally* got it through to my mother. It was a conversation that lasted for about 4 days to convince my mother to understand. I think it's super important to help those we love to be accepted as best as we can. I love my little nibbling. They're a beautiful and caring person and they're so talented. The fact that they're non-binary shouldn't affect how we feel about them. They're still a human being who needs the love of their family. I will go to bat for them as often as I have to in order to help them have a fulfilled life. Its been hard on my nibbling to have to explain how they feel. So having someone on their side is 100% important to their wellbeing as a human. I have introduced them to this channel. I am cis, but I also try to understand how things can be difficult for my nibbling. It hurts my heart that I'm the really the only one to understand who they are as a person and I've explained to everyone that it's something we cannot and should not try to change about them. I introduced them to this channel becuase it is truly the best channel to help them feel seen and understand they're not alone. Thank you for all you do. You truly have made a difference for myself and my nibbling. We appreciate you so much! ♥

[@jennifers5560]

Good for you standing up for your nibbling! Glad that you are in their life. ❤

[@JustAshley9685]

@@jennifers5560 I couldn't imagine ever not accepting them as they are. They're so freaking special to me. I love them sooooooo much. When I found out my sister was pregnant with them, it was the greatest day of my life. They were so special to me from day 1. I couldn't ever betray them and force them to be who they aren't. It's so important to accept them as they are so they can have a fulfilled life. We cannot force what others think onto them. It's their life and it's so imprntant to give them the best life possible... They want to come live with me becuase their mother hasn't been kind. My door is always open for them and I will love them for who they are as a person, not who they identify as. It's their life and we have to let them live the best life they can. I cannot look at them in a differebt light becuase they're only human. They need to know they're loved regardless of what any of the family thinks they should be and I will NEVER let anyone hurt them over this especially becuase it's a "southern family" and southern folks tend to be bigoted and such. So it's 100% important to give them the life they deserve and nothing less. Nothing has change in my eyes. They are who they are no matter what.

[@jennifers5560]

@@JustAshley9685 ❤️I love your passion!!

[@JustAshley9685]

@@jennifers5560 thank you. My little nibbling also thanks you. They're coming here for the weekend and we're going to talk to my mom face to face and I'm here as a buffer. I'm praying my mom will finally accept it and be able to respect my nibbling's feelings. It's been a point of contention for a year now. And being the only family member on their side is important. They need me and I will fight for them to the death if I have to. I don't have children myself yet and if this was ever a case for my own child, I would be 100% the same. I'd make them feel validated. I don't understand how anyone could look at them differently. They're still the same person, they just have a different pronoun. It's really not that hard to accept. It blows my mind honestly. So showing them this channel and that I support them has been my priority.

[@jennifers5560]

@@JustAshley9685 I am with you on what you are saying. Good Luck! I hope it goes well.

[@beatriceotter8718]

The Hidden Brain podcast just did a great episode called "Relationships 2.0: How To Keep Conflict From Spiraling" and it's all about how to handle disagreements--even fundamental disagreements--in a way that is productive and not destructive.

[@johannawurschlop4457]

I'm glad Jessica is aware of probably having an easier time disagreeing with conservative people than many others might have, and I also admire her for using that to educate people. I could never be friends with someone politically conservative.

[@coin5207]

That is about one of the dumbest reasons to not befriend someone

[@florrie.8311]

@@coin5207 Except that a lot of disagreements between conservatives and liberals is about how much value different people have and how much they should be treated with kindness and empathy. And whether someone is kind is a very important thing to consider when your making friends with them.

[@florrie.8311]

I have a similar situation (young, female, white) and I have similar discussions with conservative people, particularly older ones, and try to help educate them. I do the same wide-eyed "oh that's really interesting, but did you know..." thing. I know I'm very fortunate and if I can use that to make a few people engage with topics in a more compassionate and educated way then I've used my good luck well.

[@solsystem1342]

@@florrie.8311 sort of varies person to person. Ie: economic policy doesn't dictate your beliefs about law enforcement which doesn't determine your social beliefs, etc

[@florrie.8311]

@@solsystem1342 Oh, I agree. Like Jessica said, most people have conservative views on some things and liberal views on others. But if two people have consistently opposed views on a wide range of issues, that could indicate a fundamental difference in value systems that makes the friendship unviable.

[@scash1108]

Friends are gifts.

[@rileycollison2947]

Definitely having a supportive person with you when you come out is a good idea! I didn't do that and that was a mistake

[@anapalacinka]

What an iconic duo

[@werewolf1301]

I am _so_ cautious of "differing opinions" because so often, it can mean the other person wants me to tolerate bigotry. I could _talk_ with someone I fundamentally disagree with, but I could not be friends with them.

[@mygirldarby]

I was best friends with someone who was right politically and I am to the left. We could be bf because we both respected each other as people. She died and I still miss her. A friendship with someone who has a different ideology can be extremely enlightening because it takes you out of your echo chamber. You should be able to be friends with someone who has fundamentals that are different from yours. I'm not talking about someone who dehumanizes groups of people or anything like that. I just mean that you can have great friendships with people who don't think the same as you. Everyone should get that experience at least once. It's interesting and rewarding as long as you both always respect each other and never see each other as being defined by the differences.

[@quirkyblackenby]

@@mygirldarby I don’t think anyone has friends who think identically to them as friends. Similarly maybe.

[@floramew]

minor disagreements I just laugh off and whatever. fundamental disagreements, if it's an actual *friend* situation, it depends on how long I've known them-- if there's the inertia of having known them for years, I just... ignore it. if it's a new person that's becoming a maybe-friend, I nip that in the bud. I'm too old anymore to spend my energy on arguments-- esp bc "fundamental disagreements" tend to be things like "do trans people deserve to exist" etc. human rights things, many of which affect me, and most of the others affect my close friends. I don't have the energy to defend my existence all the time. also don't have the energy to find new friends, though. I'm enough of a shut in that, for the most part, friends are a non-renewable resource for me. so it's a lot less of shutting down conversations and a lot more carefully avoiding topics where I have to think about how these folks would rather I not... well... would rather I just not anything.

[@abilevitt3334]

It's really nice to see a colab where you're actually together in the same room! Has been a while with covid and everything.

[@kaitlinannwright24]

When Stevie said "In my accent it's actually "aint" but I say "ant" I felt that in my soul. I naturally say "aint" but I've had to learn not to because people don't understand

[@kslaney4161]

Debates where mutual respect is given is really helpful way to expand your perspective. HOWEVER, I will draw a line if someone is in support of something directly or indirectly that undervalues the rights of another human being. So sure, we might have different views on how to manage the economy, but if the party you vote for is anti-immigrant and is pushing for discriminatory policies against trans folks, that is no longer a convo I will be having.

[@dejWA]

Also really love how these videos bring out a more conversational side of you both. It reminds me so much of how open content creation has been, and can be. Hearing Jessica be so candid about how relationships with people we disagree with has meant so damn much

[@fishfish7985]

Power points or formal letters are how I have convinced my parents of stuff but then again we don't have the best realtionship

[@aliflanagan7669]

I definitely have friends I disagree with politically (past the bar of agreeing on human rights, etc.) but I don't think I could be friends with like, a Tory. The government has literally shredded this country for 12 years. Definitely haven't felt like that for long tho, when I was younger I was way more in my own bubble 😅

[@geraldiinapommedeterre629]

Love you both and your energy together is so amazing!

[@arvella]

“Oh! Look at this study.. it’s says “not what you’re saying!” Hahah I lost it

[@emmaeriksson7155]

You guys reminds me so much about me and my bestie in my teen years me being a cute Lolita kind of girl and her being very outspoken metalhead😭❤️

[@chicken23742]

My answer to how I keep my mood up is stop feeling guilty. The floors are dirty, the sink is full of dishes, the laundry isn't put away, the tub is turning brown, I smell like death, it's fine! I went to bed yesterday at 6pm, woke up at 9am, and I feel great! Felt good enough to DO some dishes!

[@ekaterina6758]

Gosh, I love Stevie🥰 She's still the only youtuber I could listen to infinitely... great collab, as usual 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@_andrewvia]

You have the most interesting, deeply real friends. They match your own genuine self.

[@emmynoether9540]

Awww, I absolutely love your energy together. The advice gets really good with your two perspectives! 🌈❤️

[@juliettedemaso7588]

Seelie and Unseelie Fae, Cidhe, Tuatha De.. all that gorgeous folklore stuff represented right here in this frame, in modern form. 🧚‍♀️❤

[@AvaNightingale]

Us neurodivergents are the magic AND the science in the world and thank goodness for us! If we actually could all feck off to a bubble dimension, imagine how awful and dull the world would be without us!

[@stevie]

Omg you just sent me into a googling hole and I love it! And I think this is a compliment so thank you? 😅

[@juliettedemaso7588]

@@stevie Ahh so awesome! absolutely yes it’s a compliment! 😊 ✨🫶

[@Paulfighteronline]

I really enjoyed this format, it's fun to hear your different perspectives! 😄

[@rachelpastors]

omg yes! someone with DSPS too! I've always been more of a night owl.

[@yvonnelovejoy8144]

Another thing you both have in common; you're both very very funny! :D

[@SunflowerHeather]

Loved this! Jive with Jessica on being a monogamous person in this dating culture.

[@DraemoraH]

I used to be very intolerant when it came to friends with different opinions, but I'm realizing that if I "block" people I don't 100% agree with, I'll be left with very little friends and also never expand my views. I love debating and understanding other's point of view as well, so I'm much happier now that my friend group is less homogeneous.

[@jennifers5560]

I feel the same, although there does have to be a level of respect between everyone.

[@DraemoraH]

@@jennifers5560 for sure! Respect it essential, as is common sense when it comes to human rights.

[@awesomesauce2000]

I've never watched a video of yours before. But I'm already falling in love with your channel. A youtuber with an actual shining personality and you actually made me smile. Consider me subscribed. And I'm gonna go watch all your videos now 😍😘💖💖

[@juliarose3826]

I love ur two's friendship, Glad to see more vids with you two together!

[@birthdaygirl1126]

I need a Stevie for family gatherings...

[@drskelebone]

Such wholesome content. I love both of you, and seeing you sharing wisdom is so great.

[@HOHNancy]

I enjoyed seeing your debates as friends. ☺ That was funny what Josie said to Jessica about the views and Jessica's reaction to it. 🤣

[@haniyyahnajeebuddin2493]

HEY, JESSICA! LOVE AND HUGS TO YOU AND CLAUD! KITHES TO ROO!!😘😘💜💜✨✨

[@dejWA]

I have watched you both for so long, and I love when you come together. This video is perfect. Your similarities and differences simultaneously are why I watch you each and together. 💜💜💜 Beautiful and well-rounded collab!(:

[@loup4119]

The last part of that video is a perfect example of how precious it can be to have both your points of view. One, the other, and a combination of the two that any mindset can get something out of. I think that might be a really good part of your friendship ^^ I love you both ! I'm so thrilled by the perspective of seeing more of you and your royal wives altogether ^^

[@amysmith6791]

My friend group and I all discuss just about everything. The big ones: homaphbic/racist etc are not welcome but healthy discussions about grown up topics is not a bad thing. It also leads to fun inside jokes when someone says something stupid or didn't know was incorrect

[@goob6764]

I love this series wow 😭❤️

[@SaszaDerRoyt]

I personally couldn't be friends with a conservative (especially a Tory) because the disagreement is far beyond opinion, to me it's a completely incompatible system of morality. To be a conservative they have to fundamentally disagree with me about human rights and they have to be okay with bigotry and classism that I simply would never be comfortable being friendly to them.

[@TransGuyShane]

I hope the chest xray went okay ♡ My sleep tends to be get in bed at 3am, fall asleep around 8am, wake up about 4pm -_- I'm agoraphobic and have been housebound for 10 years, I agree you gotta fill your home with things you love ♡ it'll keep you sane. To the person wanting to come out as nb , a PowerPoint is a great idea but maybe the drip feeding first could soften it. I came out as ftm years ago, like 2011(2012?) Anyways I wasn't sure how my mum would react to me coming out so I wrote a long ass letter , I put down exactly how I felt and I backed up my feelings with facts and stats, but before I gave it to her I spent a few months being like "oh hey this super interesting documentary is on TV let's watch it" at the time there was afew trans related shows on the telly and so that kind of helped ease questions into the conversation. Anyways just do what feels best and safest for you. And a power point is never a bad idea imo ♡

[@AnitaNitaNitus]

The thing about arguing with conservative people is that they don't actually listen or change their views. I'm saying this after countless times of 'debating' family members, friends of friends and acquaintances. They're just looking to affirm their beliefs and those beliefs are basically that groups of people don't deserve the same rights and dignity as the most privileged groups. So basically my point is, why would I waste my energy having friends like that? I can choose to befriend and spend time with people who push me to be better by perhaps being more into activism or have a deeper knowledge of certain topics that I can learn from. Instead of like arguing about whether "immigration should be controlled" or "benefit claimants are a strain on the system". It's also telling that Jessica's examples were basically excusing her friend's anti-immigration views but not homophobia, so just choosing whatever doesn't affect her or her community (I suppose). That's not what solidarity is about. It's obviously her life and she can choose her friends but I don't think this should be applauded as good advice, especially to younger people. You should 100% be able to choose your friends and if your values clash this way, don't be afraid to distance yourself from them!

[@elizathemermaid]

I love the whole video but especially the debate on how to say "aunt"!

[@grandslamgirl601]

Love when these two get together!! 😍

[@brianwilliams9605]

I am now a seriously disabled Boomer. Between 5 yrs old and 19 yrs old in the 60s and 70s I copped an huge amount of homophobic abuse because I was a boy dancer and must be gay. I am not but it wouldn't matter if I was. Gay, straight, who cares. Now without my 5 day a week care aides I get disability discrimination. I am described as having invisable disabilities. You can barely see any problem but a whole lot can't be seen. I deal with it by being really polite and friendly with a quick explanation. Like can please get that off the shelf for me because my arms don't work. Thank you. Have a wonderful day. That disarms them and costs me nothing. I also explain to children don't be scared about someone who is different. Just ask them what is wrong. My mate in a chair who has only half of each leg. If a kidlet asks what happened he says a shark or a croc bit them off.I don't let insults bother me. I just say to myself ignorant prawns deserve to be ignored.

[@conlon4332]

5:45 I can see in-laws being cute. Like, your brother's wife's sister is your wife for example, I feel like that could make for really cute double dates, or more importantly, a really close-knit family support circle. I bet your children would be super close, they'd be double-cousins, which would be cool, and you could take turns babysitting.

[@demilynn4179]

I am totally crushing on the moon🥰😂

[@claudiaclaudia662]

These collabs make me so happy. Can we get Claudia in a video with Stevie??

[@kaz555]

Loving this Collab 💜 x

[@ClaireCaoimheRaeMoonshadow]

After days in bed, watching KZbin videos keeps my mood up. Jessica included, but also news bloopers. Something about newscasters getting the giggles.

[@blendacamargo220]

OMG, Sweet Aunt Spicy Aunt is such a good name!

[@espurrlady3397]

Loved the video!!! It was so great to see Stevie again!!

[@silverlinedheart]

Thank you for using your charming powers for good, Jessica, to change people's minds one conversation at a time. I volunteer doing education outreach for a acampaign (about fairer democracy through electoral reform). I similarly try to harness my privilege as a young, small, "sweet" white woman for social good to get through to folks woth different opinions, like you describe. I wait until further into a conversation to causally drop the fact that I have a PhD in social statistics and actually know what I'm talking about. 😄

[@superfrenchthellama]

Can you make a video about being an extrovert with disabilities? It's hard not having the time or energy to get your needs met!

[@Rainbowtaintedglasses]

Omg another extrovert with disabilities/chronic illness, hi! It would be great if Jessica could make a video about this. Chronic illness is difficult for anyone to deal with but I feel there are specific struggles that come with being a extrovert with chronic illness.

[@triptripp1873]

"oh there's a study! I just stumbled upon it! Oh let's see, it says *not what you're saying* oh wow would you look at that!"

[@sebastianevangelista4921]

I've grown up and live in a predominately liberal area so I've never had any conservative friends and have wondered if I would be capable of that. I'm a highly opinionated individual who's also rather direct in nature so I've wondered how uncomfortable I would be in hypothetical social situations. The closest I've ever come to something like that are the few times a year wherein I'm in the presence of an extended relative who's conservative for only a few hours.

[@Teajay21]

I don't have my glasses on so I see mostly shapes & looking at the icon for a second I thought Claudia had gotten a new hairdo before I saw I saw it was Stevie 😅

[@americantoadsarecool]

I think it’s great to be friends with differing political opinions. My rule is we have to agree on “endpoints” but I love to discuss how our country could go about meeting those goals. For example, We both need to agree that people dying from poor healthcare is horrible, but I can accommodate different strategies for fixing that problem.

[@catmacmahon7470]

Jessica asking "Why do we have to argue?" I relate to this so much. I'm pretty conflict avoidant. But also am very much the person to most often be understanding and see how someone's upbringing and life experiences have brought them to that point. So this is a regular thing now right? Every so many weeks we get advice from out spicy and sweet aunt? Thanks for the fun watch! ❤️

[@quintecence]

Please, give me more of this... This is my type of chaos!

[@aprildawnsunshine4326]

Just a reminder, there's several of these from 2019 and y'all called it sweet and spicy aunt then too 😆🥰

[@ChelseaBrooke85]

I'm more of a Stevie when it comes to sleeping. 1am is generally when I like to go to sleep. NOT an early riser.

[@perplex777]

Two words: More Please!!!

[@rae17]

definitely want more of this series, love you two

[@sakesfairy]

I have a crush on Spice Aunt 😵‍💫 no really, what a winning combination for the season!

[@stevie]

😉😉😉

[@ayeshaa8575]

I agree with stevie 6:36

[@alisonbarker3862]

Excellent advice. Fun video.

[@asimplemoth5342]

I'm loving these collabs!!

[@sandichase7571]

Sorry you're still feeling poorly, Jess. If it makes you feel any better, a picture of Maureen O'Hara came up on my IG yesterday and at first glance I thought it was you

[@allisonroth]

I love this! Excited to see more

[@scooby4267]

Funny how I saw this video as I was thinking about my crush on a colleague

[@AvoryFaucette]

I love how Stevie's explaining DSPS and I'm like oh that's funny I mean I have AudDHD and I love getting up in the mornings! I'm naturally up by like, 9:30! *Stevie says times* Me: .... oh.

[@AvoryFaucette]

ps, I don't have a crush on the moon, we are in a COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP. - Cancer moon/rising queer

[@celestegross6622]

My sister worked for a company years ago whose employee handbook specifically stated "No fishing off of company piers."

[@mschrisfrank2420]

I have no problem disagreeing with friends about the best solution to the problems we face as a society. My issue is when people are intentionally perpetuating racism, sexism, transphobia, homophobia, etc.

[@sara_c907]

Imagine the views, though. I don't think it's Stevie you need to watch out for. 😂❤️👏

[@stevie]

Hhahahaha

[@claudiak22]

I met my partner at work (also yikes I was his supervisor for a bit) 13 years later still we’re still tg with one kiddo and another on the way

[@safiremorningstar]

I find that you remind me of sisters have siblings from different parents may be a recent part of something you guys come off feeling like sisters. Yes, that makes a good friendship.

[@saltydiamond8716]

How about Josie and Claudia content? I'm dying to see it.

[@TheUhaya]

Realized I've been smiling like a happy idiot the whole video. Really hoping there will be more videos like this since you live in the same city now