i lost friends because of my glow up (post-glow up reactions)

the difference in the way people treat you after a glow-up or weight loss is actually crazy because i swear most people don't know how to react to the new you.
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✧ chapter ✧
0:00 - the glow up
1:00 - disclaimer
2:45 - my “before” lore
8:43 - meeting new people
10:05 girlfriends (dang jessicuh)
13:55 - acquaintances
16:18 - another important perspective…
18:11 - using pretty privilege for good
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[@Chantelleeee]

I lost 90 pounds and my OWN MOTHER says weird backhanded comments

[@ethrealgirll]

GIRL ME TOO! it’s so weird the people who are closest to you are the most jealous and strangers are more supportive

[@jocelynortiz9186]

I’m sorry 😞

[@Baba-sq5mr]

I lost a bunch of weight and Now she feed us only fried and fast food now😭

[@Bubble23428]

@@Baba-sq5mr You have to make your own food because most fast foods aren’t healthy due to the seed oil usage and it’s heavily processed.

[@Bubble23428]

⁠​⁠@@Baba-sq5mr My cousin is like this actually she doesn’t want me to put off the fats when I’m still fat while she just loses it for herself which caused some conflicts between me and her since she doesn’t let me do whatever I want with my body unless if she approved it and she can do whatever she wants with her body but just reject any fast foods she offers unless if it’s cooked with good oils and no blends like olive oils, coconut oils, avocado oils and animal fats. Be a rebel!

[@midnightkitty7]

Yeah you’re 100% right. People who used to be deemed as ‘’more attractive than me” feel a certain type of way about me now that I’ve lost weight , double chin gone & cleared my acne. you could also still have the same great personality and now instead of annoying & shady I’m now seen as charismatic and funny. When I had l begun my glow up and saw results- a girl a new I knew literally said “ I never realized how funny you are until you lost weight it’s like you gained talent” I haven’t talked to her since.

[@OGseoulite]

Good on you, can’t believe they felt so comfortable to insult you like that

[@eyesofra1111]

wow they hand out backhanded compliments like candy ☠️☠️☠️ so glad you realized it & left her a**

[@AzizasPeaceGaming]

Ohh helll nooo that’s good you never talked to her again. The audacity for them to even say something like that

[@wormtea]

omfg why ppl are so toxic? why other person appearance mean so much to those ppl?

[@IIIISai]

Tf

[@Enriquez2222]

Lost 70lbs and I get treated so well now, it’s like I woke up on a different planet one day

[@suziesremenant]

I wanna manifest this 4 me too cause I'm tired

[@taco2k_2]

SAME HERE IM TRYING TO LOSE LIKE 78 POUNDS LOL

[@ynf11]

Me too

[@3amDayDreamer]

I lost 70lbs too. I have 25lbs more to go. People are nicer to me.

[@bannedmann4469]

People were lied to, looks matter.

[@newnewmee44]

I my opinion beauty just opens door, but it does not keep them open. Like for example, the first video of yours that i saw was because you are pretty and wanted to see your opinion. But the reason i continued watching is because i liked the way you articulate your opinions and present them. Intelligence and personality always wins in the long run. And if intelligence and personality is combined with good looks, then it almost becomes magical, those people are magnetic.

[@redherringoffshoot2341]

that's smth most people don't seem to be able to comprehend, so the few who do are the ones who're truly worth cherishing

[@Lina-cy2yc]

Absolutely agree! I would also add that beauty is actually a part of intelligence because it shows, that you as an observing and intelligent person, know how to take care of yourself (the right clothes, hair makeup, hygiene routine etc.)

[@maries7700]

Very well said🖤

[@AlexisTwoLastNames]

@@Lina-cy2yc”the ‘right’ clothing, etc” is a wild take. right for society is not necessarily “right” in general. i know what you meant but i like to challenge the words we choose without thinking. i do it to myself, too. not calling you out.

[@Lina-cy2yc]

@@AlexisTwoLastNames By "the right" I meant the clothes that make you look good, fabulous interesting and impossible to forget:) It has everything to dowith your brain though, rather than your body & so called natural beauty. It's a very wide and complicated journey (the whole color palette that belongs to a particular person has many books written about it. Not ot mention cut, fabrics etc. etc.) In old Hollywood this service (of personal style & clothing) was reserved for the movie stars and the richest. Anyways, in the end, it;s all about knowledge and brains and personality:)

[@Benni777]

I’m in that weird limbo phase, where I’m not as “ugly” as I used to be in HS, but I’m still no where NEAR how I want to look like or how I want to feel. But I know that this phase in important, bc without this limbo phase, then there would be no transition at all. And life is all about transitions!

[@uraniancoolery927]

Use subliminals

[@IIIISai]

Preach

[@shroomy024]

be a butterfly

[@cargonewjeanz]

@@uraniancoolery927pls gatekeeper subs we don’t want the wrong people coming into the community but what subs do u use?

[@kaesijoo444]

@@uraniancoolery927so trueee i make my own on here and they helped me

[@mothicbeauty]

I had a glow up before/during the pandemic & then started to glow down due to depression & isolation. When my glow down started happening, my friends at the time jumped at the chance to start calling me ugly & making jokes about my clothing choices, like they couldn't wait to see my confidence & social currency go down so that they could pile up on me. I'm now working on glowing up again, but it's so much harder than before. This video has given me the motivation I need.

[@gao3608]

Wtf those are not your friends

[@mothicbeauty]

@@gao3608 I know we’re not in touch anymore but they were like my sisters for over 8 years.

[@gao3608]

@@mothicbeauty Oh well, that's really heartbreaking, hoping you'll find people that truly care about you

[@theboringowl9473]

I believe in you.

[@lilbby1580]

​@@mothicbeautygive me tips on how I can glow up

[@miyuyamazato3929]

When I glowed up, I lost friends too and girls around me have become a lot shadier towards me as a result. Girls are always trying to find ways to break me down as well. It’s so disappointing to be honest. I feel you!

[@ChillingTales12]

Except lesbians.

[@usagihika]

@@ChillingTales12don’t underestimate an insecure lesbian 😭

[@lucasessman1910]

For real it’s always women uplift women until they’re prettier than them lmaooo

[@lamaridechambao2105]

Totally

[@asdhufgh4yu37sdhsdfhh6]

@@ChillingTales12 i am 17, i lost about 50 pounds over the past year and a half, most of my friends are lesbians, a couple who are lesbians slowly started acting worse and worse. sexuality doesnt change anything if someones just an asshole

[@redherringoffshoot2341]

if "friends" don't stick around just cause you glowed up or glowed down, then they were never your true friends to begin w/, those who want you for you are much harder to find for reasons that should be obvious, but are nevertheless worth keeping around, cause those are the people who're clearly willing to help you to be the best version of yourself instead of just turning the other cheek and running as soon as things get tough... w/ that said however, how the people you thought were your friends and acquaintances treated you before, is the sorta reason why I don't usually talk to a lot of people in general, rather I opt for keeping my distance altogether while confiding in a few close friends whom I already share similar (if not the same) hobbies and interests w/

[@deadpandabin88]

I resonated with your comment so much. Thank you for this.❤

[@elvir_aaaa]

This!❤

[@ThatsTooMuchJapann]

"I'm still the same person.. I just look better now!" That's exactly all it is, between family, friends, and work... it's very interesting seeing how people behave around you once you work on yourself more. Even if it comes with negatives, the absolute confidence I have now since becoming healthier, happier, more driven outweighs EVERYTHING.

[@zlrivo]

You start to see their true colors...

[@Yo_Cami]

You are not the same person, you may feel the same however to lose weight you change your lifestyle and habits, it is often a state of mind... The thing is people change with time and with time losing weight is just a quicker change and sometimes people don't like this evolution. I know people who lost friends because they didn't change mature since middle school 😅

[@Yo_Cami]

In another case, some people there are cases of people who can't deal with the realization that you are not the fat friend anymore. This is the kind of person who puts people with labels because they have a hard time with the unknown, the idea that they don't know you. You can know someone for years and still discover things about them 😅

[@qwby]

@@zlrivo It varies, some people forget where they come from and become condescending and/or arrogant, but others still possess the humility when interacting with friends and family

[@katdelish4907]

Girl! The "hot-person" struggle sounds stupid & dumb but it's very real. I used to work at an office in which a lot of guys would hit on me (even if I was awkward & already dating someone at the same office) and the girl hate was REAL! Those people just hated me for being kind & "pretty" and after a while men got mad at me for not reciprocating. I started to go more plain & to be more introverted, kept only to my closest friends to protect myself, and even though I did everything I could to 'dim' myself, they went as far as to ROOFIE me during my working hours. I had to ask my friends to watch over my water bottle, every time I stepped away from my desk. I started suffering extreme anxiety, insomnia & depression and I everytime I tried to defend myself or ask for help they'd gang up against me. Some nice people would warn me about upcoming stuff to try and help but they were too scared to even be seen doing that. No matter what I did, they just wanted to destroy me. Girls, look after each other. Be kind, don't let ANYTHING give you an UGLY heart, but also DON'T BE NICE TO EVERYONE! Don't lower your standars and DON'T INTERACT with people who don't respect your boundries & you know don't mean you well. Whether you are "pretty/ugly/fat/skinny/black/white/nerd/weird" WHATEVER you get tagged by others, the problem IS NOT YOU & they will bully regardless of who you are, how they perceive you & what you do, because the problem truly is that they are awful & we also have to accept that and watch our backs. You are unbreakable, NEVER think they will destroy you. Don't reduce yourself for them just because they're less and you make them uncomfortable. TRUST YOUR GUT

[@dancingmango143]

Girl, if this hasn't been my experience. I'm happy you're remaining strong and positive because people really want to see the downfall ❤🫶🏾

[@NEO_Trojanmuldrop4]

Be careful they might start casting dem beauty spells lol shit is real.

[@RadioPsychicAstrologyByPepper]

So badly needed to have a complete stranger remind me of this because I agree with everything you say here I just have a little trouble telling ME that for some reason.…..

[@theretrodragonyope]

Where were you working at that they tried roofie-ing you?????

[@Jomama-man]

@@theretrodragonyope bruised egos.

[@Trace7173]

My mother was 87 and had advance dementia when she died. I was her caregiver and when I would help her get ready in the morning she would be shocked at her appearance she saw in the mirror. Now that she's gone it breaks my heart on how she still had that desire to be attractive even though her dementia made her unrecognizable from her former self. There's nothing wrong with wanting to make the most of what you have or even improve on it

[@nandochavez4546]

Damn, sorry for your loss

[@CapriciousCaprine]

I see this internal battle in my mother now: she genuinely misses all the fun she had in her 20's and 30's when she and her friends would do their makeup and put on outrageous heels and outfits and go out and have fun together. She's still friends with all of them, to the point they're my aunts and uncles, but for years now she's seemed to think dressing up and having fun was only okay because she was young, and now that she's "old" it'd be shameful to do those same things. Even for something small like dying her hair back to how it was (a vibrant red with huge curls, no dye or curlers needed), she'll only go for "strawberry blonde" so the difference between her undyed hair and dyed hair isn't "noticeable", but then she'll be upset if people don't notice that her hair looks "better". I'm trying to gas her up and encourage her bit by bit, but it's so hard to chip away at her rigid worldview, which is highly informed by her religious upbringing that was obsessed with "sinful" behavior. Honestly, I'd settle for her just taking days off from work at her small business; she's financially secure, but she still works so hard it's physically hurting her and she's somehow confused about why her feet hurt constantly when she stands on concrete floors for a /minimum/ of eight hours a day.

[@Flow-Fi-]

@@CapriciousCaprine I can’t imagine how difficult that must be for her. I have somewhat similar issues with feeling like I can’t do a certain thing unless I appear a certain way, lest it be “shameful”. I’ve faced bs from my dad being a flamboyant guy that likes to dance, and I struggle with feelings of shame revolving around whether I look “good enough” to dance. All I know to say is that I hope your mom regains her confidence! No matter your age, you can always slay the day away!!

[@superspaceponywaters1815]

Honestly, growing up i started to care less and less about glow ups. You start to care less about what others think of you as you get older, because opinions are subjective. Don’t live for anyone’s pleasure, live for your own. And being respectful towards your true authentic self, makes you more open towards people and more confident. It may trigger some people, but that’s their issue. They need to work on themselves, not you, they are the problem.

[@superspaceponywaters1815]

Basically, live for yourself. And they are the problem, i know that sounds harsh. But it is true, their deciding to project their insecurities onto you.

[@Bubble23428]

⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠​⁠@@superspaceponywaters1815 Right! The only thing I care a lot about would be how I look and my health while other insignificant things don’t matter much for me. Even if others tell me their opinions matter I would tell them it truly doesn’t unless if I was a slave like them only if I wanted to respond to them really.

[@jasmine3847]

i love your way of thinking, it’s a mindset i’ve been trying to adopt for my own life! i tend to really dislike “glow-up culture” (is that a thing?) and the concept of a “glow-up” in general because it makes me feel pressured to focus on looks. I was raised to think appearance corresponds with my worth and value as a person, and it’s tiring. It’s been so heavily burned into my brain since i was in kindergarten that I’m hoping eventually, I’ll get so exhausted I’ll just stop caring about how others view me.

[@M_01K]

THIS

[@iamyou3080]

Same. 😊 I care about functionality, mobility and overall health. Naturally end up looking healthier because I am healthier. Not looks based, health based.

[@alexisd4241]

The service industry being pretty does help but, a server I worked with was overweight and average looking but she made good tips bc she made the people she served feel good and good at talking.

[@bumblebee_ms]

That's so wonderful! I'm tired of shallow people looking at looks only. Personality matters more.

[@sKITTLESADDICT11]

Thank you! I worked as a server for like 5 years! unless your working at like Hooters whos image is all about having conventionally attractive waitresses, regular patrons really just care that you talk to them nicely and get all their stuff they don't even really look at your face most of the time tbh

[@alexisd4241]

@@sKITTLESADDICT11 I’m so happy to hear, this pretty privilege bs is so toxic and getting draining not everyone is so shallow to tip you based on looks hahaha.

[@starcloud8411]

Yeah I don't really tip, but when I do it's not based on looks. The thing is... the glowing up ego boost only last so long like what a couple years. Ppl have to have more than just looks to bring to the table. Just relying on looks is exhausting and becomes another mental battle.

[@rasbyyy_ig]

​@@alexisd4241you cant deny that being pretty doesnt help

[@solarsouls601]

why is the problem always the victim? this kinda mindset is exactly why i support body-NEUTRALITY. you shouldnt be treating people differently based on appearance. its literally kindergarten behaviour and mindset that "ugly = bad".

[@Mybabyonthetrees]

It really depends. Sometimes you can just tell people don’t take care of themselves purposely, so yes you’ll be conflicted by their presence (obviously that doesn’t mean you should result to violence) but people will judge you

[@strawberriya_]

yeah but there’s still ppl out there with that mindset. ppl are still gonna judge you, so its best to just do what you can to better yourself and treat others (& yourself) with more kindness.

[@parkchimmin7913]

I do like the idea of body neutrality, although I’ve heard that it’s a bit iffy for some people (notably people with health complications/compromised immune systems). It’s hard to accept a body when it’s actively working against you.

[@hanslim4031]

@@Mybabyonthetrees I think everyone should be treated equally, even though the idea of someone being healthy means they don't treat themselves well.

[@Flow-Fi-]

@@Mybabyonthetrees May I just ask, what do you mean by “purposefully?” I’m genuinely curious here, as I find it hard to imagine someone that would intentionally neglect taking care of themselves. Maybe it’s because I make a distinction between doing someone with purposeful and willed intention vs being influenced by things like illness (mental or physical), peers, circumstances, etc

[@afoxcatartvideos4877]

I used to be invisible. It hurts to be treated as nothing. In friendships you are the person on button priority. No one cares. I started wearing makeup, losing weight, improving my body. I get people smiling at me, open the door for me, get curious about me, invite me to come over. It changes you and you will never go back. I am become depressed and I found comfort in being beautiful

[@crookedfingersgirl7356]

Groups of young girls who suddenly scapegoat one of their own for breaking from the mould inflict years or lifelong health issues... It STILL happens in old girls and even in girl grannies... Imagine going through an entire LIFE eyeing every other female as a threat?!?!? They lost out on some potentially great friends....

[@cymbamcreynolds8838]

Dealing with pick-me girls and guys with ulterior motives my whole life as minor made me self-isolate as much as possible. Being a pretty lil girl with a kind personality is like a lighthouse to monstrous ppl in dysfunctional environments. As an adult, I'm still processing and healing from the damage done. I want to slowly make friends again, but I'd rather stay in the house and focus on my hobbies.

[@I_Am_NiiTA]

my friends barely contact me anyway so I guess I can start my glowup now 🤣

[@chandratownsend3891]

Lmao, that's the spirit 😅

[@anishasharma2906]

Same dude

[@wanersakata]

Yeah, we're on the same boat haha, let's do it

[@user-xe7oz3yd6h]

girl same, she litr "forgot" to invite me for her birthday..like?-

[@suniannian1623]

​@@user-xe7oz3yd6h that person ain't your friend anymore 🥲👉👈

[@RomeoRush]

They way I lost ALL of my “friends” after my glow up. It’s so heartbreaking seeing people you loved and trusted and was always there to cheer up and support suddenly putting you down, isolating you, talking shit about you all while simultaneously copying you and getting possessive and emotionally abusive just because you dyed your hair, updated your style, went to the gym and got a journal and a therapist. Like wtf ppl. I’m so proud of myself for having the strength to stand up for myself instead of apologising for my existence and dimming myself for others… jfc

[@rcvkstar]

Just a friendly reminder that needs it, when we finally get to a point of ‘glowing up’ let’s remember to be kind to those that are working on themselves, and to not be hard on our previouselves to the point of shaming and hating our previous self. It was just a point in our lives that leads us to a better outcome.

[@Vin_Venture896]

Honestly losing weight straight up causes a horrible existential dread because once you’ve lost the weight, you always have to ask yourself ‘Do they like me because of me? Or do they like me because of my looks?”

[@user-ue1ji4du2q]

そうですよね。。。。

[@sgs2673x]

Hmm I just noticed I've never had to ask myself whether I worry if people are with me for my looks or not; for better or for worse as they say? But I've never fit the beauty standards in my opinion. My weight has always fluctuated and I'm probably at my heaviest I've been today. I did have a short phase of where I worked out and was feelin and looking good, even got compliments, etc. but I think all in all how I've been able to "avoid" that worry or "bad friends" in general, is that I'm very introspective and have worked on my inner character and values for a long time. I look for people who share those same values as me and I think that's where an aspect of "real recognize real" comes in. I can tell when people are being genuine with their intentions based on my own experience with my integrity. It doesn't matter if they're pretty or not. It's all in their actions and what they say- you have to listen. Are the actions consistent, etc. I'd say start exploring what it means to be your own friend

[@wildcat9244]

That’s a valid question, but then on the flipside you can ask why do they keep me as a friend when I’m not “pretty”. Is it because I make them look good?

[@mariatrinitymya8618]

I glow up and I also became a badass. I used to be your typical timid girl who always looks gloomy. But now I hit the gym and started to have confidence in myself. Now, I always talk and point things out if I someone hurt me or say bad things about me. I used to just bottle up my feelings and that made me feel really sad and made me choke with anger which has been building up inside me since I was young. My glow up and my angers burst out at the same time. I have been putting up with people and their behaviors for so long and now I am unable to put up with their bs. Now I got more enemies..... cus I point out the people who try to hurt me...

[@IIIISai]

Cold

[@amanekaze]

Better than nothing. That's why honesty hurts to most people, they don't like it when they got called out for their bs behavior. Anyhow, keep going girl! I'm also thinking about getting a glow-up but not yet because I want to focus on my mental health issues first. I already accepted that reality can be very harsh which is true with societal expectations. As for the people who thought her being cold, no it isn't. There's a reason why stoicism mindset existed, which brings people peace and love for themselves without forcing onto people. We are quiet, truthful to ourselves and we don't disrespect people's values, that's why having values and personality makes yourself more quality over quantity.

[@hanayuna4]

​@@amanekaze That's still a glow up 💯, I hope you're in a better mental state. Good luck with your journey

[@korndogs555]

The girls in the friend group of my husband’s friends (we’re all couples and have known each other since highschool) have started treating me crumby after my glow up. They honestly just stopped talking to me at all, and I do know for a fact they’ve talked shit about me bc I’ve been told so by someone not in the group anymore. So disappointing. Thank god for my bestie and other buddies bc they save me from spiraling into thinking I’m just unlikeable trash because of it.

[@PiethagorasTearem]

Beauty is one thing but ever since getting fit most of my enjoyment comes from feeling physically powerful. I cant really describe the high I get from running so fast the wind noise becomes so loud you can’t hear anything, or the loud bang I make when I kick the heavy bag hard. Your youth is precious boys and girls, don’t waste it, cause its not just attention and sex you’re missing out on.

[@Las645]

It’s not just about youth though. Some People in their 70 are still doing amazing things physically because they took care of themselves. I want longevity, I don’t want to be in a nursing home when I’m older.

[@denatyeatsnuggets7274]

"I never wanna go back to that point, I never wanna put anybody down." THIS!!! After I stopped treating myself like shit I realized I had so much love to give to other people, I just hadn't been giving it to myself.

[@LittleMissV]

Yep, I was an awkward tomboy growing up, then had my glow up in 7th grade. I remember how people would ignore me, some girls even switched seats away from me, and this was in a church youth group! It was so embarrassing. Then I had my glow up, and random girls would suddenly want to befriend me. People were all around nicer to me. Made me kinda jaded for a while.

[@vmp_online]

in reference to that tik tok in the end, i feel like how attractive someone looks determines how their personality will be perceived

[@internetboy.0511]

When you glow up mentally It's the same too.

[@perrydavidson902]

“Use your pretty privilege for good” YES that is a great message sending love and respect for that! My weight has fluctuated before. I think it’s made a difference. 15 or 20 pounds can really change a lot. Maybe a large part of the treatment is influenced by how you feel about yourself to, knowing that you’re desirable.

[@johnmorgado8676]

Likes to say “it doesn’t matter what people think about you”. But what people think about you determines how they treat you and everyone likes to be treated good

[@HoomieArtz]

Life just can’t be that easy, can it😞

[@aangel187]

That’s where using boundaries would come in to play. You decide how people treat you, or if you let them treat at all… when what other people think of you matters to someone it is because they have deeper insecurities, and trauma that hasn’t been resolved. Because when we know who we are, and are confident in that, it really doesn’t matter what people think about you. 💎

[@johnmorgado8676]

@@aangel187 it does when they have a position of authority over you. Someone you want a job from or someone you need to convince you’re not a bad person like a judge or cop writing you a ticket or the person behind the desk at a pharmacy judging if they should give you your Adderall prescription. Boundaries are about who you went into your inner circle/world but assimilating into society is about them letting you in

[@PuffTastic]

I got bullied a lot when I was younger, I was chubby, didn't style my hair very well, people spread rumours about me calling me a man and saying "wait until he hits puberty" (I'm a cis female) I've recently started growing my hair out, I've lost a lot of weight, I'm dressing more how I'd like to dress and feel confident with it and I've gone from "ugly" to "average" I've never ever been catcalled by a man but I get hit on by women often and I'm not the beauty standard, but people treat me like a normal human being and boys don't laugh at me anymore, I'm treated like I'm a girl and I have a boyfriend. Crazy how your hair length, weight and upkeep can go such a long way, I consider myself attractive but I seem to come off much more attractive to women than I do men still

[@gaybuffy2.0]

Overweight doesn't = ugly. I get pretty privilege and I'm overweight. Would I have more if I lost weight? Yes. However I get enough attention and don't want more. With being overweight it's about dressing for your body (not hiding it), taking care of your skin, hair, nails, etc. and not making yourself small around others to compensate for insecurity. Confidence DOES matter and I disagree that you can't be confident and overweight. I'm a hell of a lot more than my body. Pro tip: don't hide your body on dating apps! If you're insecure, show that shit so you know whoever swipes on you has seen it and likes it

[@Bunnidove]

100% same.

[@raven6371]

See I don't think of it as that. I feel if you're going to eat bad food or too much mentally there's a reason a person is doing that. Apart from medical reasons for weight gain. If a person is going to eat like shit they're going to feel like it. Also plus size people tend to get more attention based off of their body weight distribution and how it fits beauty standards. Some people look better over weight and some people just don't.

[@mmmky3204]

Oh yes because you fall into this categorize 'curvy beauty' and your confidence about yourself which is genuine and hard earned would be 'interesting', 'bold' to others. People literally label body types and confidence and it's INSANE

[@gaybuffy2.0]

@@raven6371 Idk how you would know who has medical, genetic, environmental reasons outside of their control and who doesn't. I think its best to come to those conclusions for yourself and not worry about others and why they’re a certain weight. Just bc its the creator’s experience that she wasn't confident doesn't mean that's the experience of all plus sized ppl and your comment seems just based off of your own speculation. There are many reasons a person can be overweight and not all of them are related to mental illness

[@princessaroyale]

Lets not promote obesity being overrate is unhealthy and only a small percentage of overweight people are actually like that because of healthy issues

[@brookeruiz2125]

i’ve had the same exact experience, and to add on i realized that once i started to talk more and not just let people talk about themselves they didn’t wanna be my friend anymore

[@chr85168]

This.

[@godzleastfavorite]

growing up I would get picked on by my mother and older sister on my skinny appearance, it was super awful and caused me to spiral into bad habits and depression it took me so f-ing long to feel comfortable, happy, and confident in my body. I wish the best for young girls out there who are struggling with a parental figure criticizing them, it breaks my heart, please know that you are growing into who you are and still have time to bloom, you will bloom on your own time not on anyone else's time, for anyone else.

[@heaven_11_forever]

it’s actually really nice finding a place where people recognise that being “pretty” comes with negative quirks too

[@prouddegenerates9056]

Most people understand this

[@SebastianKomor]

people who treat you differently based on how you look are not people you want to be around in the first place.

[@CareBlair222]

Exactly.

[@imcyborg4987]

Keep going girlie. You are right and never let anyone make you doubt yourself. I am going through the same situation right now. I was depressed, ugly, bullied. It all spiraled negatively. But you have to lift yourself up because nobody else will. And just like you said, once you get to a more positive state of mind, you can help others get there as well. We are healing in a world full of people who refuse to acknowledge they are hurt

[@EnnVee959]

There are other KZbinrs who have admitted to undergoing physical modification of various sorts, from weight loss to nose jobs to changing hair colour or style of dress. I think you are very down-to-Earth. It is true that people don't know how to identify jealousy in themselves and move beyond it productively. Ideally, we would not comment on another's glow up and if we notice it in someone else, we should start to research such changes in ourselves by checking price points and options.

[@bumblebee_ms]

I've gone thru many phases, just like you Mae, but I think personality is the most important thing.

[@Angell_Lee]

Yoo the synchronicity of me falling onto your channel. It's eerie how similar experience we had, I had the glow up, my OWN family treated me like night and day, before it was all contempt and then it was all praised. It almost made me want to puke, after the glow up, as you described people wanted to be my friends, smiling, dating all that stuff, before I wasn't even looked at. I then realize I don't want the fake acceptance of people who treat me based on my appearance only since for them their perception change on a dim, it shows me how superficial some people are and this is the people I don't want to be surrounded with, since they treat others based on the 3D and people who don't match what they find attractive, they treat them like sh*t.

[@Floof1122]

Girl, your pre glow up isn’t even bad? You look normal and are already pretty. Its definitely a mental glow up.

[@PurpleGold.]

If your friends are competing with you, they’re not your real friends.

[@nicolekirillova7698]

I was that one girl who was hated by all boys in class, i was the gross and ugly one. I really thought my life would be better if i look better. Spoiler: i barely did. I still have the same insecurities, glow up didn't cure my depression and anxiety, i never felt better about myself. I know that im prettier than before, but i don't feel like it. People started treating me better, but it only brought me anxiety that they only do because im pretty, not because of my personality. Glow up actually never makes your life better, it just makes you look good in other people's eyes

[@madxprofessor]

i searched this topic and this was the first video to pop up. i lost 120lbs and it scares me when I go outside and people hold doors open for me, ask for my number, find a reason to say hi, even follow me home. girls are mean to me in group settings, people trying to sabotage my wellness. i still don't know what to do , ps I'm still "fat" lol all that changed is the laughing and stares turned into jealous girls and creepy guys talking to me constantly in the grocery store

[@oop-3445]

i dont think body positivity is wrong actually. for me body positivity is recognizing the situation you're in and actively working to improve yourself for your own well being all while learning to accept yourself. i think you can be body positive while actively encouraging others and making the effort to have healthy routines. what would be wrong is leading people on to believe that its okay to stay in the current position they are in even if in the end it doesnt benefit them at all, especially in the aspect of health. because if we're being real, every weight isnt safe for your body

[@Spooky_Sister]

I think body image is genuinely a skill-sure some people are gifted (in the sense they don’t have to try that hard like others) but with time I think everyone has to work on it in some way because we all experience change. I really liked your perspective about looking at beauty as an improvement that opens opportunities-I’m very insecure about my nose, and only was ever made fun outwardly one time by 2 girls in my foreign exchange program who bonded over making fun of me. I reflect on it now, and understand that it was a stressful and lonely time for all of us. Sometimes I think others need the validation to be more beautiful than you. And now I’m at an age, that I don’t see beautiful women as a threat or “competition” but women that I can learn from.

[@eyelovetheskyandthesea]

This is why I stopped looking "pretty". I mean walking out with make up and glowed up. I hate when people are looking at me and observing me. Also women were mean to me. Men were nice but mostly hitting on me. The woman treated me like I was dumb. Now I walk in nature. No make up at all.

[@lauraelizabethbrown]

Do what makes you happy, not necessarily for or against the approval of others. I love doing a little glow up, but I also love being low maintenance at times.

[@rebekahsmith277]

This is exactly what I went through. Women mocked me and treated me like I was below them mentally. Men only treated me nicely, because they wanted something. Humans can be creepy.

[@UnsettledSoldier]

I never wear make-up and it’s just how I am. I never thought about wearing it except for important events.

[@NuriGonzalez-ev7pi]

same girl! I love hanging out with people whoa re constantly improving themselves not from "Im not enough therefore I have to be more"place, but more of like I can always build up from what I already created

[@SuperLemoncupcake]

It’s hard but important to remember that when we shine, we’re no longer in the box they put us in, we’re no longer serving the purpose to them that we once did. It’s them, not us. We have to find those who won’t dim our light

[@miisu4621]

The music in the background is so annoying I’m gonna explode😢

[@spacebunnie]

I didn't even notice until i saw ur comment, now i cant unhear

[@MyaGrundy]

​@@spacebunnie 😂😂😂😂

[@milkamoussse]

Is that backrooms music

[@totallyjess]

Oh my god I thought I was the only one. I was wondering why I started to feel overstimulated

[@ilovekittys]

in 2022 i was in a very deep depression and i looked really bad and ugly, i had this friend that used to be with me the time in school but last year i changed schools so we stopped talking even in chat, BUT i went back to that school this year lol and the first day of class i was really excited to see her and i was texting her "are u coming?", when i saw her i got really happy and and tried to give her a big hug but she was so uninterested (at that moment i kinda realized), and she just said "heyy" i told her that i missed her a lot and i almost started crying of happiness until she said "are u goingt to cry" and she laughed and hugged her other best friend, at that moment i felt really stupid (and i still do), at this time she hasn't talked to me not even "hi" or "move out of the way" lol, i started to take care of myself last year and i look better than 2022 so my mom says that she is just jealous but i never thought she was like that and it makes me feel sad. i dont think someone will read this but sorry, my english is kinda bad lol

[@andreyspirtovsky]

Damn this harsh.. I kinda agree with you mom I have a feeling that you are a cool person and she doesn't deserve you

[@busracnar3579]

aaahhhh youre so nice, the acting like princess idea is so good. i will definitelly try when i finish my ultimate glow up

[@angelface333]

13:58 100% relate to this 😭 they’ll just look at you but won’t acknowledge why 16:20 this is super relatable too, people just want you to sit there and look pretty 😭

[@Theyheart_.dezzyy]

Im ngl but these beauty standards are actually getting out of control 😭 especially the korea standards... Like wtf

[@shirinshirazi]

Most of them aren't your real friends

[@Sloth-tr7bd]

Being thin doesn't automatically mean you get pretty privilege. You also need to fit what's seen as pretty by the majority of society I am and was really skinny my whole life. It was because of my great metabolism, because the things I like to eat and the amount of food I consume could make most people fat. Especially since I don't have an active lifestyle. And I was never treated the way "pretty" people are. Though maybe I didn't got that privileged treatment as I never tried to look like an "ideal girl". Even when I reached high school which is where most girls go crazy about their looks, I just kept myself neat looking. As in made sure my clothes are clean, I don't smell bad(without the use of perfumes, just used deodorants) and that my hair is brushed. The clothes are wore on a daily basis were casual and during cold weather really baggy. Never got any attention, including from boys. I was never told I was ugly, which means that without trying super hard to make myself prettier I'm painfully average. I'm also not really feminine in looks which is certainly what my surroundings see as attractive in a woman. I do wonder if things will change if I would made any glow up attempts. Like the clothes I have are not exactly what I would like to wear or that make me feel pretty, at least most of it. But that would require money and atm I can't afford the clothes I would prefer. Well in any case, at least I don't have to worry about my safety that much. Since with my average looks I don't exist for like most if not all guys lol. I've yet to be bothered by anyone in public

[@Las645]

I’m ugly and still get harassed and assaulted by men. Don’t think looks matter much in regard to that. Some people just like to hurt people.

[@linaazmiin7479]

trift store are great to find good clothes without the need to spend too much you can found gems really , I actually like it and people when they see me they are you always wear beautiful clothes .

[@NightinGal89]

Well I've been obese most of my life and I just cannot seem to lose weight. After a lot of weight fluctuations and hunger pangs, I just stopped caring about the topic. I weigh 92kg at 1.58 meters and am 35. I still get told I'm pretty on a regular basis and that I look 10 years younger. I've had fit 21-24 year olds approach me and tell me I look amazing for my age. I've had doctors try to flirt with me during appointments. I've had men complimenting me randomly. I usually wear jeans and shirts and rarely wear make-up despite having less than perfect skin. By contrast, when I was 60kg in high school, nobody gave me the time of day. I only started to get pretty in my 20s. In my experience, beauty is about more than just weight. It's about confidence, symmetry, energy, charisma, style. I've seen overweight women dress and act like they feel invisible, so of course nobody notices them.

[@YumixxV]

I have acne and the one problem that I have with it, is that no matter what argument you are in, they will mention it just to make you feel bad. I literally can’t help it, like just because your have clear skin or you haven’t been attacked because of looks, doesn’t mean you can. I have been in a very bad part of my life before, because I thought too much amount my looks. I didn’t realize that people still saw me as a person, even if I didn’t look amazing. They liked me for my personality and it felt amazing. It is rare to find people like that.

[@plutogarry7]

🤷🏻‍♀️ the body that everyone thinks is a glow up now is the body that everyone ridiculed when I was in high school. Literally, I’m back down to my high school size, and the same people who used to mop at me are asking me how I did it, in my inbox talking about “damn I used to have a crush on you and still kinda do”, like absolutely not, all of you can stay the hell away from me.

[@plutogarry7]

It’s so infuriating, gives me emotional whiplash to think about sometimes

[@doveslizleskiss2956]

i don't know if i had that dramatic of a glow up but i def think i look better than before, yet i don't feel the pretty privilege thing... i plan to take better care of my skin and work out more so ig i still have more glow up to do, but honestly, from someone who never got compliments and still don't, i hope people start treating me better. i hate being treated as invisible.

[@radsofi]

tbh i went from someone who got no compliments to a lot and i can say it feels weird idk if it’s just me but i’m not use to people complimenting me but when they do i feel like they are being fake about it or something i could just be paranoid because i’m still not use to it. i use to workout but stopped because i started getting self conscious so i can say it’s not for everybody but you are beautiful keep going and you can do it!!

[@emmahope4895]

Thanks so much for everything you brought up in this video. I really appreciate your discussion on the negatives of glow ups because I can really relate. Hearing about your personal discomfort from lingering eyes of more men is a comforting feeling because that really bothered me when my looks shifted at the age of 18. Additionally I appreciate your perspective on friends turning on you when they now see you as competition since that really struck home with me. So happy to have found your channel!

[@user-nt4bh7sj2y]

Absolutely 100% right. I get treated like shit by other men. I also have a VERY deep voice. Men hate that. I lost my best friend because her husband doesn’t like me. Men pick fights with me sometimes at bars to “show dominance”. Sure pretty privilege is a thing and sometimes it’s pretty cool. But there is a trade-off. And sometimes that trade-off really sucks.

[@user-nt4bh7sj2y]

On top of that racially, I’m black and a quarter Filipino. I get treated better by Filipinos than I do black people and I’m treated WORSE by black dudes after my glow up. Shit sucks. There shouldn’t be any competition. I’m 9/10 not attracted to most people bc I live in LA and they’re not the nicest anyway but I’m always viewed as some kind of threat. I’m don’t even view myself as good looking like that at all. The ironic thing about that is, I feel like sometimes I can’t make that statement without another person thinking that I’m fishing for compliments. When I was ugly, I wanted to be excepted and post glow up. I just wanna be left alone.

[@Isthisjoebiden]

​@user-nt4bh7sj2y It's your area. The east coast doesn't work this way

[@stellaxingguang]

I gained a little weight and now that I’m plump, people are so much friendlier! I wasn’t even skinny enough to be a model before, but everyone acted like I was one of those stuck up mean girls if I just said hello. I’m the same person, but now people assume I’m nice and treat me nice. It’s so weird.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

I get treated much worse by friends and family after my glow up.

[@ruanne482]

after my glow up, guys started treating me better and more human, but my own friends would try to put me down by throwing insults at me??? random guys would also try to speak korean to me lol (im ethnically chinese)

[@person7896]

it's good to have friends who will do the glow up with you and you will kinda pull each other up

[@experiencelifelittleone]

You sharing this to help others is really good. You’re really brave. 🙂 I saw your other video and I feel like there is were finally people that understood me and my weighted feelings, yea that feeling when I’m carrying too much emotions and don’t know how or scared to let them go and the one that it actually kills is me. Yea I feel like might go psycho any day because of the stress. :)))

[@potatoegirl_uwu3208]

I work as someone who interacts with people everyday and I always treat each person fairly and kindly, I have also noticed the difference with the objectively larger or less attractive customers i work for is that they are usually more appreciative of my kind gestures and that I don't judge them. I think if people were less judgemental and more kind towards each other in general others wouldnt feel so down and it would be easier for them to take control and get themselves where they want to be because they are self motivated rather than being motivated by negative treatment because its better for everyone in the long run.

[@judyc6820]

This video resonates with me. I remember going through the lowest point of my life that impacted my diet and body. When I eventually went through the healing process and the "glow up" I also noticed the drastic changes in the reactions from my friends who showed subtle jabs against me and family members who negatively commented on myself whether it was going to the gym or vanity.

[@Xepher8]

Your videos are so compassionate and I respect that sooo much ❤ I know the struggle and I think it’s so important to be kind to those still in it. I still want to lose about 40 pounds and you’re helping motivate me 🫶 tysm

[@Pacolad]

Thanks for making this video. As a guy who recently lost some weight and bettered their appearance I've noticed sometimes I'll make myself smaller with self-depreciating comments to help the people around me feel comfortable. I've been unattractive most of my life and now some people will put me on a pedestal and it's uncomfortable to say the least.

[@CopperRiver]

“When you take care of yourself, and you glow up, you’re not in any way obligated to explain yourself to anybody or to make people feel better by putting yourself down.” To me, an east asian in a relatively collectivist country where people try not to draw attention to themselves, almost never flex (directly), and avoid direct competition (but work hard as ** when they’re alone), this hits so, so hard.

[@person7896]

also "any connection you make based off of those superficial factors is worth nothing" this is very very important

[@cara.leo_]

OMG thank you so so much for bringing this to light. So many of us are competitive as women to be prettier/the prettiest. And for what? Men to objectify you. So true that appearance is the least interesting thing about you.

[@Mienarrr]

Now that i’m 27 and have struggled with this topic a lot in my late teens/early twenties: One thing I really want to stress is that people who will be mad at you for „looking better than them now“, are NOT your friends. In the sense that if you are striving to keep healthy relationships with the people around you, you need to back off and let them grow on their own terms. Keeping them around while they still arent grown out of this behaviour will just hurt you in the long run. Also works the other way around as well, if you find yourself becoming bitter torwards someone for these reasons, take a step back and reevaluate how you see the world, yourself and others. Dont bring your friends down or anyone for something they are happy to have achieved. Thats not what friends do.

[@persephone.rincon]

ive learned extreme empathy and compassion for my fellow humans and forced myself to grow as a person to make up for my appearance. so when i glowed up, i was grateful because now i feel happy with who i am. i feel beautiful on the outside and the inside.

[@REDflower-pt3fr]

I love how open u are. this has helped me so much, and how ur not really being cushy about everything

[@AlluckyTV]

as a skinny guy I get comments from people saying "you're not eating enough" but the only ones who say that are overweight

[@TwistedLullabies]

Same here. I'm 5'10 and 130-134 pounds. I'm getting into modeling so I have to be skinny

[@svvwoo]

​@@TwistedLullabiesgoodluck!

[@linaazmiin7479]

same as girl that I lost weight bcz I was sick, it always come from chubby ppl saddly or rude people just keep it to yourrself some rude comment even after I told them I was sick some ppl just dont understand .... I rather be around people that dont judge me

[@BonnibelGrof]

I don’t understand why they would leave, you hardly changed at all. I’m sorry you had to go through that.

[@t55rer]

The realest KZbinr i've seen in a while.

[@Nickolas_Baranski]

I am in a situation where any glowup is basically impossible, so I guess Im just living vicariously through all y'all becoming your best selves😂 If people leave, they weren't your people queen, shake off their ashy remains off your crown and move forward with your newfound confidence!💚

[@mlnmdrnl24]

My new fave channel! Love youuuu🥰 Keep inspiring everyone. 💞

[@shroomy024]

i used to wear baggy clothes all the time and i used to be the girl who sat in the back in a corner then a guy asked me out started dating him for a bit and because i started dating someone i started to dress nice for him got my hair done and i wore something that hugged my figure for once and all his friends kinda stared at me and were surprised and thought i was a totally different girl 💀 and then people were wanting to be my friend and wanting to talk to me and when i did i realized most of the people i talked to were fake af and my bf at the time was toxic af so i just went back to my old "style" to what made me feel comfortable because ive had bad experiences when i didnt wear baggy clothes

[@SinginBird]

The worst part about gaining weight after being underweight all of my life, from unknown pcos, thyroid issues etc. It's the fact that I found comfort in finally being left alone by men for no longer "trying". It wasn't until I started yearning for my femininity in the last 6 months or so that I realized how disturbing it is that I didn't want to look approachable or pretty for my own safety??? It warped my brain all of my early 20s.

[@_bebeboudeur_]

i totally get that, being less feminine and older gets me less attention but i'm scared whenever i try and look nice to go out

[@SinginBird]

@_bebeboudeur_ exactly! I never let myself dress the way I wanted either for the same reason, even when I was a teenager. I was made to feel like a man as a little girl too. So I dressed more masculine out of safety for a long time as well.

[@erogubi]

I'm so glad I found this video, it filled me with determination to meet my goal weight! Also your other videos look so useful I will definitely binge these. I haven't reached where I wanna be but I have lost 40 in the past, and people treat you so much differently. Never enjoyed when people assume I do it to impress people (even my own sister), there's nothing wrong with wanting to do it for myself.

[@indieaj7]

I lost 165 lbs and I get back handed compliments from some "friends" I don't have to put effort into getting ready anymore, meetimg a friend for a lunch and throw on a sundress and hair in a bun no makeup just plain. Friend says "why do you always look pretty I hate you" I replied I just put on a dress, I can't help my weight loss enhanced my features, what am I i supposed to do about it? 😅 They cant handle that we now get noticed or ignite their preexisting insecurities. Im just living my life.

[@alexainy2880]

Im in the middle of my weight loss journey and this video just gave me the possitive motivation i needed. Thank you

[@digitalbouquet5231]

This was my daily dose of validation. I actually felt seen 💫

[@Kat.590]

It doesn't matter how "pretty" someone is on the outside, if that person is ugly inside they're ugly in general.

[@Amiraurgirl]

Omg I love your vibe and energy sm… instantly subscribed. I love people who have similar mindsets to me

[@slothy6096]

You're so down-to-earth. Ugh, it's refreshing. People suck

[@jelowo9877]

6:50 you say that accepting yourself is bandaid solution while changing the situation would be a permanent fix, but I don't think it's as simple as that. If you decide to not practice much self acceptance and let your feelings of inferiority fuel you to lose weight and glow up, that is also a bandaid solution. Because whenever your weight fluctuates or something about your appearance changes, you will feel like shit. Remember that life happens, people age. Most people gain weight over age, and physical traits associated with aging are generally not conventionally attractive. You could get ill, get into an accident, any number of things that could stop you from constantly keeping up your physical appearance. So yes, you can glow up and come into the not fat/attractive person that you are, but body positivity and body neutrality are always necessary. Having your self esteem hinge so much on attractiveness is a bandaid solution. Not to mention you can add to the toxicity, looking down on other fat/ugly people because that's how you would think of yourself if you looked like them. People don't give attention and validation to fat and ugly people? Why not become the change you want to see and work on undoing your biases so you see people equally? Why not focus on finding people who don't center physical appearance and also try to undo biases within themselves? Not just pity them because oh, it's so sad they don't have the willpower to make themselves pretty too. Like you realize attractiveness is relative right? No matter how pretty everyone gets there will always people considered less attractive, cause that's how a comparison works.

[@alexandria9447]

@jelowo9877 Well stated.

[@patrickrad1735]

Great job on the episode it’s really interesting for people to hear about it 😊

[@marina-hu5zu]

I think body positivity isn't inherently a bad thing, in my opinion it's about loving your body and treating it with respect so you can be healthy and happy. Also, with "beauty standards"..... a lot of that is fake. Magazines and ADs use heavy editing, filters, photoshop, makeup, etc. I think it's way better to embrace your natural beauty and features.

[@CutieRingoJoy]

I didn’t glow up ,but I’ve lost friends so I click this video. I’m introverted and no friends or anyone to support and help in my journey Currently at my lowest depression for months and lost friends in December 2023 because I quit my last job due to trauma and I just wanted to be alone from anyone for awhile to recover my mental state but ended up not having improvement as I got eczema and the itching irritates me I can’t focus on anything it’s stabbing burning when it flares up and I couldn’t cope with it , at the beginning I was cleaning dust to keep place clean but then it became so tiring and I gave up because I flare up from touch of dust it’s frustrating I feel such lost of hope , unless I have a maid or helper to made my life easier . I’ve been 80 plus kg before at my heaviest now my weight drop to 70 plus , no diet, no change in food I just eat slow due to too much on mine mind and sometimes o skip meals cause I just no appetite and sleep through the day. I cried almost every day this year out of other years , I didn’t cry this much in my teen years, I’m an adult and I feel miserable and lonely.

[@justanotherpotato5523]

Aww hope things get better for you ❤

[@Minty_Aqua]

😭🙏💖 Hang in there. I'm in a similar place right now

[@Tantalizer1000]

Good girl, brilliant video, i needed this ❤

[@mediocrebankai3114]

I definitely was an ugly duckling to swan situation, my friend confided in me years later that she was jealous all along of me even if the attention I got was not pleasant. I recently noticed how even after reconnecting with her heart to heart she still treats me pretty poorly whether she realizes it or not. Its sad, I barely have anyone to have as bridesmaids for my wedding. Making new friends is hard but with going to the gym more Im hoping to make more friends again. Its like you said, most people are fine but sometimes someone will just not like you because they put you on a pedestal and then are mad you’re up there.

[@lauraelizabethbrown]

I think one thing to remember is that every type of person has the potential to be toxic. When I was younger, I thought it was the high maintenance girls that were always toxic until I got to know a few that were genuine and kind. When I stopped being hyper low maintenance I would get embarrassed whenever other low maintenance friends would shame me for trying different styles, makeup, skincare, or healthy eating. The point is to treat one another with a sincere kindness no matter what they look like and no matter what their habits or lifestyle is.

[@i6lwr.x868]

its such a dilemma bc whats the point of all that attention if its not genuine? like i DONT want the favour of people that wouldnt accept me when im ugly but at the same time i cant escape the system

[@420Tigr]

The instrumental trap music in the background didn’t really go with the vibe of the video- but I do really enjoy your content! Really looking forward to where you will go with this channel :)

[@bexiexz]

I- i thought it was smooth jazz, or maybe a bit of classical music.. instrumental trap music has me chuckling

[@nightcall7398]

Its true. You know they say life in all its horrible terrors and suffering is a beautiful thing. Its the same when you improve yourself, the journey is beautiful if you find yourself in this low/dark place in your life because the only way is up. And the way up as long as you make the journey is the best thing in life you can do for yourself. I hate when people praise staying in stagnation or trying to make people love you when you do not even love yourself.