"I'm Not Ready for a Relationship" (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

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[@ousshamdouni3106]

To be honest, i don't think that anyone should wait around and put his Life on Pause for anyone else. I consider my self as a wonderful opportunity.. if the person is not in, it's her loss, I move on ..

[@Eevanova]

True

[@gaodacheese4691]

thanks for this comment

[@Thristed]

your right, i guess that solves my "problem" and reason why am here ...

[@RaviPatel-lk4ho]

Maybe some people can wait if they truly love them(and they sure about them)and second thing this conversation have nicely before this decision (not ignoring or not giving answer),one mostly important they still have connected not like too much all days but something hi hello so other person can belive they are still connected

[@pladimir_vutin]

bro, why?? just why the fukk do u want some girl to stick to your ass like a leech and go wherever u go and be in loeeeve with ya? love is a drug! you should never be dependent to ANY drug. especially the one that might u cost u your livelihood ( or divorce money and child support ) why don't you just sniff H? I've heard the new chinese variant is on the market be grateful she's distancing herself. play into it, push her away. then you'll find freedom

[@VenetiaKamara]

I love his hairstyle, so classy!

[@valeriegee2788]

Guess the "or anyone" guy came through 😂

[@vivihan5021]

Valerie Gee LMAO

[@dragorsi]

XD

[@expressiveangie9163]

Valerie Gee LOL! That's so true!

[@katiegracelundell9662]

❤️ Jameson. So funny.

[@heleenbeem3024]

If someone says: not at this time or i'm not ready... Move on Because if someone likes you enough they won't need time. And waiting for your crush to be ready will drive you crazy. So love yourself and forget him/her.

[@heleenbeem3024]

Been there. Told him i liked him but i choose me. You deserve someone who is crazy about you and wants to be with you. Now not maybe later.

[@Ross-ve9ww]

Sometimes it genuinely isn’t the right time for people. If I a person is in a very bad place mentally/emotionally for whatever reason, getting into a relationship is NOT going to help them even if the person is absolutely perfect for them.

[@visss2k]

@@Ross-ve9wwvery true, external love like a relationship won’t fix what’s going on inside

[@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

I used to believe "if it's the right person it's always the right time" but honestly that is something a person can believe in when everything's lined up for them... it isn't always reality. I ended a 10 year relationship last week, and there is a _lovely_ guy who I've had a crush on (yes, before the breakup, it's always complicated) and he wants more with me but after 10 years ending in emotional suffocation I can't think of anything worse than tethering my future to anyone else, even if this guy is literally perfect to me. It's not always that simple. I wish it was.

[@rafidtahsin8117]

Hello! I really needed some help from you. Your story is strangely similar, and I needed some advice/help. If youre still active on this account, i hope you reach me back! Thanks!

[@jacobr8063]

It’s been a year since you commented this. I hope you still check KZbin because I’d love to hear how things turned out with you and Mr. Lovely Man.

[@Ana-lk7gq]

if you are willing to post update, it will be gladly appreciated

[@ananyasood960]

yes, how have you been since then?

[@vladi3906]

I am the boy. I am at the same situation. I used to check on her from time to time but now i am off radar to give her space completely and so she can decide. Please update us about what happened

[@marcosirsav3860]

"If it's the right relationship, you probably won't care that it's a crazy time", is such a good quote.

[@visss2k]

Nah, because the relationship could be subconsciously used as a cover up or distraction from the crazy time. You wouldn’t have them fr a relationship would be better when it’s all over

[@adriennespringsteen7099]

I literally just had a guy treat me this way. Gave me the "relationships are too much responsibility" line.

[@loveforeignaccents]

don't take it personally :-) some people actually think/know they are, including me.... sorry!!

[@chandlerhart6012]

Adrienne Springsteen trust me that's some bullshit, I'm a guy and relationships with the right people are worth the responsibility. I think he doesn't like you and wants to say no nicely

[@yaninapaula3636]

"Thank you for being honest about that. Because I only want to date responsible guys."

[@alysiapartridge2991]

Adrienne Springsteen me too it's such a load of shit your either dating to be with someone or you screwing around with people be honest about your intentions I hate people who think they can have it both ways

[@Nada.AlShingiti]

Chandler G can we have a chat?

[@maclippy713]

The ending cracked me up so hard. Love when your humour shines through Matt! And yes, more puns from Jameson :P

[@CobraCai02]

To the writer of the letter: I was in a similar situation a couple years ago. I was interested in a guy who i became friends with and it was obvious that he wanted to make things more serious and romantic between us and I wasn't sure if I was "ready" to take that next step. I knew that if I didn't grow our relationship, I would lose what we had. I knew that if I started a relationship with him, there was no going back and we would either be together or break up after x number of months and we would no longer be in a position to stay close friends. I felt like I wasn't in a position at the time to be in a committed relationship. I knew it was a BIG risk, but I decided to take that risk because I never wanted to wonder what we could have been. Three years later I am still with him and we are soooo happy together. I'm so thankful that I took a leap of faith and I am in a strong, committed relationship. I felt like it wasn't the right time in my life, but the right guy will stick by you regardless. I still feel like my life is a crazy mess right now and I'm still figuring things out, but the time will pass anyways, and that was three years I could've wasted waiting for my life to be in order. Hope this helps :)

[@idontcare0953]

UGH so this guy that I met three months ago told me he wasn’t ready to date, but I think he’s genuinely such a good person and I want him in my life... I said goodbye because the situation was affecting me but I miss him and want to be friends with him. I really like him and want him in my life.

[@gaodacheese4691]

This brings me joy. Sadly, I'm meeting a girl right now who said she doesn't want a relationship. But she keeps messaging me about our conversations and things that remind her of me, with heart emojis and all. I just don't know what she wants it's so confusing and I wish she wouldn't be like this

[@putyourmamahandsintheair]

Cai thank you so much for sharing, this gave me a new perspective on my current situation. I wish the best for both of you

[@zuleighapatel2713]

@@idontcare0953 im in the same situation honestly and it’s killing me idk what to don im thinking of asking for us to just be friends and see where it goes

[@idontcare0953]

@@zuleighapatel2713 hang in there girl!!! Three years later, my guy wasn't that into me HAHAHA. you can't force anything, but it's also okay to state what you'd like! It will all work out the way that it's supposed to 💜

[@raymondbakken8577]

Opportunities must be taken when they come, not when you are ready for them

[@anastasiachaloulakou9630]

I was going out with a guy that did this "I'm not ready to be in a relationship" to me. We had started flirting and all ever since we met, all summer long, and went out had fun later, had serious conversations about his past (which was very troubling for him), we bonded, I was there for him, without ever talking about where we were or what we were. And in October he suddenly says "I need to be on my own, because I don't know how not to be in a relationship with someone, and sooner or later I'm gonna hurt you because of this, because I'm not good when I'm alone and I need to learn to be". And we were still friends a month later, I respected his choice. But when he texted me that he wanted me back and all that shit I believed him because I believed in him, and he just slept with me and then he was like "no, I meant I wanted to have sex with you this one time". Needless to say there was a huge load of swearing afterwards and fighting for a few days. And of course we haven't talked since. IF YOU ARE NOT READY TO BE WITH SOMEONE DON'T GIVE THEM HOPES FOR SOMETHING, JUST COPE WITH YOURSELF FIRST. DON'T START DATING THEM IF YOU'RE JUST GONNA BREAK THEM AFTER A WHILE. PS: sorry Matthew, I love your channel, it gives me hope in relationships

[@littlefoot-od9xj]

Thats so fucked up. Sorry for that

[@erikasoberon21]

That same thing happened to me. What the heck is the matter with guys. He is still around telling me he needs me even though I told him I need to stay away. He wants me but he does nothing to stay around. Ughhhh

[@marinaabellanasszabo2113]

Same here girl, the only difference is I knew he just wanted to fuck so I hangout with him, followed his game for a bit and when he was at boiling point I told him I had to go and I left him with the biggest blue balls ever. Fuck them!! They can be su cruel and digusting...

[@cookie-sn5ex]

Oh hell no.

[@anarey4088]

it just has happened the same to me

[@pinkunicornglitter]

I have had this situation recently. It's not that I don't want a relationship exactly, it's more that my life at the moment doesn't give me enough time to have a mutually fulfilling relationship. Saying no out of respect for the other person is really hard to do. But it's selfless. I do believe that you make time for the things you prioritise. Right now , in all honesty, I prioritise work over a relationship so it would not be fair for me to seriously date

[@MariahMinny]

pinkunicornglitter the guy I’m getting to know right now told me this exact thing but he’s still willing to get to know me ... I’m so confused but I’m going along with it... 🧐

[@juliallorente2719]

Thank you, I am in that situation now, I have to work and study to achieve my passion. I was wondering what to do when the occasion happens, but I think this is the right thing to do. You can be friends, but not get emotional attachments. It would hurt both

[@BGKO1992]

i dont thinka relationship is an obstacle. Have we forgot the famous saying “behind every great man a woman”

[@lloydadeocampo]

@@MariahMinny any update? Because it's happening to me. He say he's not ready to be in a relationship because he likes his freedom and romantic relationship need a lot of time to invest he said. But he still want to talk with me and ask things about me. We're far from eachother too

[@MariahMinny]

@@lloydadeocampo I went to visit him a few times within two months. Everything was going great until it wasn’t and I found out about another girl he was more exclusive with after all of this time. I didn’t bother him again or say another word to him but he knew I found out. Lol I think they recently just broke up though. Still got love for him. Pay attention to the signs girly to their behavior, that says it all but if a man says he’s not ready. BELIEVE him. He either has another girl or generally doesn’t want to hurt you. Love yourself and know your worth.

[@1forthepeople969]

I believe that I have sabotaged would/could be relationships because of personal issues that I felt I needed to resolve on my own and not share. Kudos for a graceful way of saying it.

[@noraO2833]

Honesty is the best policy... honesty to yourself and the other person... can't make false promises if you can't fully commit to a relationship

[@helloharvardyo7492]

I like how he's insulting this girl the whole time till he gives her advice at the end lol.

[@GypsyRock]

HelloHarvardYo? He wasn't insulting her lol. He was telling her the truth in a nice way.

[@helloharvardyo7492]

Thank you for proving my point ;)

[@cookiescobh]

HelloHarvardYo? yea, although I like listening to Matthew, I didn't like that part either..

[@helloharvardyo7492]

Wafa Jawaheri Huh I thought it was funny.

[@annaa5420]

Yea he was a bit douchy in this vid, but funny :p

[@user-si8hd6ix6g]

I CRIIIEEEEDDDD You're "I'm really a fun person" had me in tears!

[@heykyu5892]

Maybe it’s the way I was taught and raised but I always felt like I had to already be the “best version” of myself before starting or pursuing a relationship. Like I had to be “mature enough”, have perfect relationships with my family, be the best Daughter, Friend, student, and granddaughter before I’m defined “ready” for a relationship. Yes it’s good to be all that but as I grow older, I realised that there is never a time when one is “mature enough” for a relationship. People go through hardships only to grow stronger and better. Sometimes people find themselves becoming a better person being in the relationship and to the people around them. If everyone had to be perfect before being ready for a relationship, then no one will ever be ready. But of course there are relationships whereby one become a worse person but I believe that even through that experience, and after that relationship eventually fails and ends, and you start to see the consequences. That’s the start of growth too. There’s never a defined time when you are ready for a relationship. If it comes it comes. If it ends it ends. What matters is how you grow with it and how you work with it. Relationship is not heaven it’s not a reward, it’s hard work it’s a journey.

[@mb.khatibi6444]

You can grow in your relationship with your partner. Relationship is never an excuse for our laziness. Also this guy can help this girl through her problems emotionally. Why people think they should be their best before finding the one? perhaps they think they will have better options than now.

[@krissyk354]

@@mb.khatibi6444 true but for some people they rather do the work themselves than leading the other person on. I had the same thing happened to me in my last relationship. I was a mess (low self esteem, depression, anxiety, etc) and as much as he was willingly to be there for me, I wasn't ready to let anyone in. I kept pushing him away. I feel most people want to be their best for whoever accepts them as they are rather than putting them through all that pressure.

[@taherhussain8113]

Can't have agreed more

[@heatherchilds3086]

My brother uses puns constantly too!! He even refers to himself as 'the Punisher'!!!! 😂😃

[@ariadnebene8413]

That is SOOOOO terrible! May the odds be ever in your favor when you have family holidays together!

[@gritsonamission]

I LOVE it!

[@mealama]

i love the way you know exactly what to say....you are so open and honest. If only everyone communicated transparently like that it would be so refreshing.

[@nichole8609]

Yes, you should do more of these because these will relate to someone that may be going through something similar. So your advice can not only help those specific people but, also can help with past or future situations as well.

[@Flutterby1388]

For me, when I say I'm not ready or the time isn't right for a relationship, it turns out that I'm just not that into him. He isn't quite right for me and I sense that and don't "feel" ready or I'm hesitant. But really, that guy that is wanting more just doesn't do it for me.

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Vanessa Barton what you just said is brilliant. as a guy, I want to thank you for being honest about what that phrase really means. so many guys (and girls) don't really get it. (although I think it's better if you just tell the guy, "I'm sorry, but I'm just not interested". that way he wont be thinking that you will change your mind)

[@Flutterby1388]

raleighman3000 While most of the time being upfront and honest, straight to the point etc....can be helpful, still, not all guys will get even that. Lol. I have told guys that I'm not into them in that way, that I only see them as a friend and nothing more and never will and they still have seemed to "hang on" to hope. That may seem sweet if you secretly do like the guy. However, if you really meant what you said to him the fact that he keeps holding on is just annoying. So then I have to pull away and distance myself because they aren't respecting the boundary I tried to set. Sometimes when people can't see or realize their value it can blind them to reality I guess and causes them to settle for something that isn't what they truly want or deserve. If that makes sense. 😜 Sad really. But I've been there. And you can't make someone "get it".

[@harryrawlings3164]

"I'm not ready for a relationship" = "I'm not ready for a relationship with *you* "

[@4yajustblazin]

And I'll never want one WITH YOU. People do what they want, not what they're ready to do

[@cookie-sn5ex]

Sometimes tho we really not ready 🥲

[@JustTuningIn]

Move on and delete her number. "I'm not ready for a relationship = with you!"

[@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

I disagree and I feel kind of sorry for anyone who truly believes that. People can have their own struggles, traumas and journeys they need to go on and it's brave to commit to that over anything else, not everything is about our ability to attach ourselves to others.

[@krissyk354]

"i'm not ready for a relationship" = I just got out of a bad relationship and i'm working on myself to heal, grow and be a better person for the next human being. It's not you, it's truly ME. Sometimes we're not ready and need time for ourselves to regroup or other times just like being alone and like where our lives are headed. It doesn't mean we don't value and respect and or like the person, we just need time to get ourselves figured out first. The way I see it is, i rather be ready to trust that part of myself again to give myself to someone else.

[@lisawalter624]

I like this style of video. I do want to add to the comments you made; I think the question writer is assuming the guy wants a relationship. Some people don't move that quickly and just want one date to see if they would like a second or third date or eventually a relationship. I've made this mistake myself many times on the past; assuming too much, looking too far ahead. The best thing in any case is to slow it down, be buddies, have a good time and see if something develops. Allow things to happen naturally. Matt, you are right..if its right...then it won't matter if there is a lot going on in one's life. Matthew, that shirt is gorgeous.

[@GypsyRock]

Lisa Walter only Matt could make that shirt look sexy. I wanna touch it

[@breakingthemasks]

This... Casual dating is a thing. And a good thing. It allows both parties to figure it what they want and need from others and what they can give. It's wise to live in that area and not just jump into a "relationship"... Where you can waste years (literally) with the wrong person. Defend your time... It is precious.

[@cindirelli24]

Love this new style of video! I especially love how spontaneous it seemed to be and also love the interaction between you and Jameson! Keep up the great work!

[@ejo4squared01]

When they give you the in 2-3 months speech, and get your hopes up, then they choose someone else. -.- ... and give no explanation

[@poonpam]

Erin Johnson ughhhhkkkk im sorry you had to go through that :(

[@NAConen]

YUP

[@FiberFairy22]

And thank you for everything - the laughs, the advice, the clarity 🤗

[@tiffanyalvarez2365]

What I love about you, Matthew, is that you're concise and direct. Keep up the great work!

[@lovemecom3832]

It feels like she wants a "no label relationship" which is totally unfair to the guy.

[@ashlynmiciano467]

In that case, if the girl wants that kind of set up. she's not serous in their relationship.

[@lovemecom3832]

Indeed. She doesn't want commitments or maybe she's afraid of it.

[@eemilrouhiainen2165]

Why is it unfair to the guy?

[@prettypetite]

@@eemilrouhiainen2165 it’s only unfair to the guy if she strings him along and gives him hope of reaching a serious relationship. If she is upfront then he can make an informed decision

[@natalinip9084]

Oh and yes Matt, this style of video was great. Raw and organic on your part.

[@Nataliepfund]

I love the humor. I love the style. I love the message. ♡ Thank you for sharing!

[@julie-annhenry5898]

I love all your versions but this one is particularly real and 'interactive' in that it made me feel like i was there and involved. Awesome thanks, keep up the great work!

[@Tebbles07]

I like you switching things up. I'm looking forward to more of this on the fly questions.

[@doemadd6325]

I've been going through a breakup that is very loving and kind. I would say the best breakup ever, strangely. Your videos have helped me maintain grace and approach with love and keep my heart open. Thank you for the genuine advice you give. Thank you so much!!

[@CC-bp1di]

i loved it! Also Matthew seems so happy lately, which is amazing :)

[@clrought]

I personally had been hurt really bad & I wanted time to heal. So I could be stronger & become myself. I'm loving, kind, giving, & don't expect others to be like me. Maybe she was really hurt in a relationship, It's possible.

[@mpavan1818]

I love this kind of forum. Love listening to your thoughts and your advice is refreshing and thought provoking

[@meme7878xo]

Liking the new style. Keeping us informed with great advice, as usual, and presenting it in a way that feels you took the time to interact with a person instead of a topic. Thanks!

[@EvilHippy38]

This is awesome. Please continue this format!

[@claudiarai8413]

Loooove this video!! Going thru the SAME situation. Completely answered my questions! Thank you Matthew!!🙌🏼👏🏼

[@ALOVEJMUCHY]

I would LOVE more sessions like this Matt

[@JessieLewis]

That question is totally valid, how to set up a parameter without scaring him

[@oganotluibov]

I want more of your brother's input. I liked that your brother helped you to interpret the question in a different way and that you answered both scenarios

[@stephaniep.621]

I like this kind of videos, when people send you letters and you give them your best advice

[@DianaDang3]

Love this video format! Please do more, I might send in my own question in the future!

[@sonya6343]

LOVE LOVE LOVE that question..and both your answers!

[@cwerle1997]

haha I love Jameson! he makes these videos even more entertaining 😂

[@michelleziskind5107]

I'm always impressed with you, but to be able to shift gears so seamlessly and still be so genuine and on point - very impressive! (And I think your camera guy's pun was funny!)

[@hollyfromnz]

yes please more "case studies" and more puns!! hearing you talk with jameson and the banter you have makes it even more personal when youre chatting to us :)

[@DearSybersue]

The first thing she said in her email is; "she is not ready for a relationship" so that is the answer she should give to the guy if/when he asks her out. First rule of dating; listen to what people say and don't spend time trying to read between the lines that aren't there. If someone says they are not ready...walk in the opposite direction. Great video Matthew and you look amazing in that shirt! The color is GREAT!

[@lorainechuckry1975]

Love the new format!! Awesome job Matt!!!

[@Zoelis17]

This is great! The two questions were super helpful. Thanks!

[@amyzanlungo556]

Love these candid vids! Matthew, you always make me laugh!

[@sparkleevenmore9638]

Matthew - I like the format. Two very enthusiastic thumbs up.

[@lauralemuszapata818]

I like this kind of videos :) that way we all can expect one day you'll pick up our questions

[@neillroberts4019]

I like it! it's not as personal as having to hear the questions verbally being asked by one of your listeners, but I feel as though this New Case Study Q&A is really helpful. Thanks Mat

[@svoboda826]

what a elegant answer....just as a remark....briliant Matthew!

[@AnnaCecilia95]

What I understand from this girl's issue is, maybe she's just been through a hurtful breakup or has been heartbroken in some way and needs time to get over this other person before starting a new relationship. She probably thinks this new person is nice and likes him too, but still needs time. If this is the case, it sure is a tricky situation, and I don't think it's as black and white as Matthew makes it out to be...

[@ariadnebene8413]

I got the vibe too that this wasn't as black and white as Matthew was making it out to be. The first bit of advice I wanted to tell him, "Pause a moment!" Then Jameson spoke up and was like, "Yes!"

[@AnnaCecilia95]

Ariadne Bene What did Jameson say?:)

[@legslipsandlashes9831]

Anna Cowan No, it really is. In the movie, Why Did I Get Married" do you think Jill . Scott's character wanted to start over after being dumped by her husband and betrayed by her best friend? Finding and experiencing true love is not for the weak. It's simple but it's not easy. If you over-think it, your blessing could walk right out of your life.

[@thrilla72]

Just sounds like she doesn't like much or he doesn't compare to her ex favourably.

[@pvaz]

Anna Cowan from the guys’ perspective it is. Unless she explains all that the only thing he’ll hear is a no. Even after the explanation, it’s still a no, though he might decide to wait for her, it’s not his responsibility to do so.

[@victoriacunningham881]

You should definitely do more of the Q&A type! ...and the puns. The puns are pretty amazing as well lol!!

[@zachvicente1428]

ur just amazingly hilarious Matt and so is Jameson...ur words are very inspiring but somehow u deliver it in a lighthearted way....

[@LLClighting]

I throughly enjoy listening to you talk...

[@vickilynn5233]

I loved this question and answer bit. Especially since I'm going through the same thing. Only, I did tell him 6 months ago that I needed some time. Now, we have had a few dates and we are getting to know each other now. Being open and honest works. Hope you have more of these. Thanks bunches!

[@Ana-lk7gq]

If you want to share, I am in a similar situation, how have things evolved since you posted your comment? Are you still together and were you okay with if he is with other people during those 6 months?

[@EstefaniaLezametaMino]

yeeees! i love this new style, keep doing it!

[@calireddglam]

Awesome video Matthew! I like the Q an A and really think it's a great addition. Also love the color of your T shirt

[@amandalalena4821]

Loved the format of this video

[@ooi0Katzy0ioo]

I love these scenario type videos.

[@skylight_gameuse]

I think you can tell someone you're not ready for a relationship yet, you can hang out together, if the other person is okay and as well not in a rush to be in a relationship, nothing's wrong. But if the guy wants one, so she has to let him go and try to focus on her until she's ready. Lying or playing won't help, it'll only make things worse.

[@kaylaempson5788]

I am going to have to disagree with you about some of this ( the needing time before being able to do a relationship). Life happens when it happens, and is it not an adult responsibility to prioritize their life for someone they want a serious relationship with? Crappy periods of time come and go throughout the rest of anyone's life. Being able to cope with the crappy times and a relationship is necessary, but if they are incapable, no one should wait around. If they find each other down the road later, that is great. But it is unfair for someone to wait around for something they can't be sure will end soon. My thought at least. I'd be happy to hear other viewpoints :) Edit: I want to be clear that I do not disagree with everything in this video. I think Matt makes valid points throughout. I just see one part of the video from a different perspective. I appreciate the conversations taking place :)

[@sparklybright1015]

Kayla Empson if you listen correctly, he said exactly that!

[@SP2CA]

if 2 people are interested in each other, they should get to know each other; if you don't feel like it, then it means you're not that interested. (my opinion)

[@donnarynn]

I actually had a similar experience a few years ago and handled it almost exactly how Matt suggested in this video. I'm generally a very open person and I don't like to bs people (especially if one considers how much I hate that done to me). In my situation I had quite a lot of heavy things I was dealing with. At the same time I was figuring out that I just didn't have romantic feelings for him. I knew that, even if I did have those feelings for him, with the level of trauma and baggage I was going through at the time it just wasn't fair to drag him into it no matter how supportive and wonderful he was. Furthermore, having enough developing respect for and knowledge of myself, it wouldn't have been fair to me to keep the relationship going. Life carries on no matter what. Time carries on for us all. But that makes it all the more essential to let yourself have those healing periods of solitude to really get to know who you are and what you want. During periods of great stress and trauma people tend to make impulsive decisions and cling to things that aren't likely in their best interest rather than face and overcome whatever issues might be going on. No healthy relationship can come out of that. Neither with the Self or another person.

[@kaylaempson5788]

Donnarynn Oakenshield I really appreciate your comment and how it shows another perspective. However, I believe what I have said is meant more in relation to a different situation. I can understand that certain traumas can rip apart relationships regardless of how hard each partner may try. I can understand that it can take time figuring out how you feel to make the decision to leave a partner. What I am arguing is how tricky and blanketing a statement it can be to not engage fully in the relationship and leave another hanging, waiting around because that person is going through some "craziness" in their life. I think there is a great deal of validity to that idea because somethings are too much for any relationship to start off on (in which you need to let the person go); however, I worry about others who are quickly non-committal using this as an excuse to not commit or invest in their relationships, then leaving said partner waiting around for a few months investing their patience to ultimately be rejected. I know I have my own biases towards this issue just as anyone has a bias toward any of their own opinions, and again, I appreciate your perspective to help me look at things differently.

[@donnarynn]

+Kayla Empson Oh I completely agree. It's never right to leave a person hanging or waiting. It's not fair to them and it's selfish to ask. If you're not ready for a serious or "official" relationship or if you don't know how much you like the person then you should be open about that and your intentions. As in most cases and walks of life, communication is key.

[@breannabishop244]

I liked it!! Was laughing at you and Jameson's relationship the whole time!!! 😃

[@casey3269]

Could listen to you talk all night. I enjoyed this

[@jessicasentman2127]

Yes, this was great and more is always best. Carry on!

[@krowl13]

I'm putting in a request for more Jameson puns! That was excellent!

[@0speckles0]

want to see more of Jameson! you guys are hilarious working together 😂 love this xx awesome going guys

[@johannas6629]

I liked this format, more please!

[@aliciav4352]

Matthew you be nice to Jameson, we can imagine what HE goes through😂😂 Great job guys, keep it up👍

[@Amalthea11]

One of the most fun and helpful videos you've ever done! :P Loved the unscripted humour, plus the fact you had the question printed...good old days :P

[@LG987]

yeah, i really liked this case study q&a !!

[@saudade315]

Liked this style of video! Keep doing them!

[@Elisalopez28]

Loved it Matt!! Keep the great work going on

[@vonvandenbergh9944]

Yes, I like this answering straight out of life question! But I am a fan anyway! :)

[@reneetong6944]

case study is pretty cool, I like that, in fact I like both case study and those you have done before!

[@Renee27j]

He's amazing and I really like listening to him!

[@amyhoover9]

I have no shame in admitting this, but puns and dad jokes really are my favorite kind of humor! 😄

[@AlanWake1994]

Moving in together will show the truth if it will work or not . Time shows everything .

[@pikapants2894]

"Not ready for a relationship" in the context of dating someone means one or more of three things: 1) not with you, 2) I want to see you but I also want to sleep with other people without you getting mad, 3) I'm immature and never really going to be ready for a relationship. Basically, for whatever reason they want the benefits you offer without having to really give anything back because it's...not a "relationship." Except it is actually a type of relationship (remember, you have a relationship with everyone in your life including friends, family, and coworkers), just not one that's satisfying for both people. I'm saying this as someone who's been on both the giving and receiving end of this behavior. Bottom line: Don't wait around for someone who "isn't ready for a relationship" if you are ready.

[@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

4) I have just come out of something really long term and serious, but I really like you, so I am torn between becoming myself first but missing out on you, or becoming yours and missing out on getting to know myself

[@gaodacheese4691]

@@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend rare

[@chizzel88]

Your the best because you give great advice and you make me laugh while giving it, thanx Matt

[@happirissa]

Hey Matthew, thanks for the video, really helpful! Btw that colour looks Great on you!, a good change from your favourites blue and white

[@sunshinedayz7032]

Funniest guy on you tube-in such a real casual way. Such great humor! 🤩

[@user-xt5nn2fo3l]

I loved this type of video!!! But please, I want the radio ones to come back!!

[@patrickpadddy5598]

Really love your work mr ya fit too ☝🏻🙂✨✨✨ great words and it flows and it’s nice

[@rineesinharay6009]

Good format! Love the humour!

[@captainnatalie6937]

I LOVE this style of video

[@GinjaAttack]

Matt if Jameson makes too many puns then send him my way!! Lol 😂 They are also my favorite form of humor!

[@musiclovenerasers]

LMAO the last part cracked me up and made my day, thanks you guys. 😄

[@sandrakj6343]

I am so glad i wrote down my first impression. Was worthwhile watching the full thing and see you recalibrate yourself. So, I guess, there a a few lessons still to be unpacked from this video. That´s great, Matthew and Team. Thank you for going through it with andfor us ;)

[@michikomanalang6733]

JAMESON PUNS!

[@kellykellywwe3913]

The question is when they say I'm not ready for a relationship does it mean they don't want one with YOU?

[@florancemapenzi2825]

They want sex and later commit to someone they really like

[@MeLlamoJane]

I like this style video! Great advice

[@melindabaker970]

Yes Matt, I totally dig this! Keep up the case study Q&As! Also, have you been working out a lot lately? You look fantastic!!!

[@mpenny226]

I like this style. more of this please.

[@rosemaryn.145]

Yes! Case studies are great