I’m the Mistress of a Widower. Will This Relationship Work Long Term?

A viewer asks: Do you know of any cases where there is a healthy, happy widower-mistress long term solution? Meaning he keeps his home and family life separate while supplying the woman with various kinds of help. What type of financial planning and agreement would make this compartmentalized love into something emotionally stable and provide security for her?
This video has the answer.
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[@pamhidenrite9119]

I really appreciate the way you tell it bluntly and without sugarcoating.

[@Tbn48ibp]

Never be someone’s mistress. That’s crazy

[@johnkeith2450]

Any woman who settles for poor behavior from a man just because he is widowed is a mistress.

[@bonniecensullo2887]

This is where I am now after two years. We had history in our mid twenties and thought we’d marry then but the military sent us in dif directions. Fast forward 30 years and he’s a widower. We spent two years, me giving him space to only have him ghost me recently. A lesson learned.

[@jackiescully6655]

A lyric that came shortly before I ended the relationship I had been settling for for 18 months...thank you Abel, for your coaching! You're A Married Man I should have figured it out I should have known it all along her ashes close by her pictures on the wall I'm not your forever That box is checked I wish I'd known before I gave you my heart and offered you my hand I'm the mistress and you're a married man A guaranteed hookup Every few weeks Easy on the eyes Deal's pretty sweet (A booty call’s what they call it I think) I'm not your forever That box is checked I wish I'd known before I gave you my heart and offered you my hand I'm the mistress and you're a married man The jokes on me and I'm the last to know Another life lesson to go... I'm not your forever That box is checked I wish I'd known before I gave you my heart and offered you my hand I'm the mistress and you're a married man

[@DatingaWidower]

This is amazing! Where did you find this?

[@jackiescully6655]

@@DatingaWidower I’m a songwriter. I wrote it.

[@jackiescully6655]

@@DatingaWidower I haven’t put music to it yet and I’m certainly open to collaboration if you know a composer. I’m better at lyrics.

[@jackiescully6655]

@@DatingaWidower it was inspired by your videos and our coaching session.

[@DatingaWidower]

@@jackiescully6655 That's really good!

[@dianecole1982]

You are dead on 💯 percent right on this! Bad situation you are just going to be used and thrown out like yesterday's garbage 🗑

[@miztwic]

I fortunately ended it first

[@johnkeith2450]

Don't date married people, and many widowed are still married.

[@miztwic]

And they deny it and claim they've moved on

[@SheenaRea]

@@miztwic You're 100% right.

[@desertrose111]

I don’t quite get the question, is she asking if she can accept the transaction of being a mistress and stay hidden in exchange for being taken care of financially? Well, if she is going to treat herself as a commodity, OnlyFan even sounds better than this bs arrangement. Don’t expect a guy who doesn’t even respect you upfront to take care of you financially for life.

[@DatingaWidower]

Yes, that's more or less what she's asking.

[@dkarukas]

That's a weird question. I have a large Greek family and they want to meet anyone I'm involved with. They can be overwhelming though.

[@janac2881]

Thank you so much. How true

[@melodylom]

Abel, I hope you see this and comment as to whether you’ve heard of “an affair” while dying spouse is still alive. He said his late wife knew he was looking and that he’d met me and fell in love. She was happy for him. In my situation, I was the one deceived, not his wife.

[@franjipan23]

He said his wife knew about you? Did his wife actually tell you personally she knew about you? Are you relying only on what he said? You do know people lie to get what they want?

[@brendabright49]

It is a very strange situation to be the mistress when the lw is in reality only alive in his mind. Im very fortunate my wbf is very complete in his grief work. But little things still arise. Its a different kind of romance for sure! Grateful for your page and fb group to help navigate it all!