I Never Felt Pain Like This Before!

[@JefesAdventures]

I wish I would have thought to myself. My dad was gone. How would I feel not being able to talk to him anymore ? I wish I would have talked to him sooner. Life is too short to hold grudges. Thank you for all the love and support.

[@JeffOdom-o1v]

I lost both parents and both best friends in the last few years. I feel your pain. I don't know if the pain becomes easier to deal with or if it simply becomes a normal part of your life. Either way you keep moving forward. Good luck with this chapter. I'll be here with you.

[@eloc801c2]

What is the name of those ruins im trying to take my parents

[@suzannebert3652]

Jeffe, it take two . You'll be fine 🙏. It could have been the dads of our time. I didn't have a good relationship with mine. After he died, I found out my brother didn't either.

[@perky5874]

Great video and ❤warming great way to show respect and rebuilding you relationships with family.

[@steve32221]

Similar situation for me. Never real close to mine but you feel it. Thanks for sharing your story.

[@eldorado767]

Honor him (and yourself) by living the best life you possibly can.

[@KBNoyes]

I resigned my corporate job when I was 45 to go back and make peace with my mom and dad while there were in their 70’s and had 3 great years with them before my Mom died. My dad now lives with me and my wife and it was the best decision in my life.

[@xiaoabrose]

I never imagined how much it would hurt as an adult to lose our parents. It hurts to see then grow old, weaken and frail, but the pain of losing them and month after month, year after year never seeing them, hearing their voices again still hurts so much. What ever your parents did, they made a good man.

[@wojohowitz5432]

Jefe, im sitting here an the fence whether or not I should drive 4 hours to meet up with my Dad and brother and cousins and uncles to spread my recently deceased Uncles ashes at our family homestead. I've got a few justifiable reasons to not go. Watching your video (it popped up on my feed for important reasons) put the reasons why i SHOULD go in the forefront of my heart and mind. My Dad is 80 this year. I won't get many more of these opportunities to be with him on the homestead. Thank-you for your honesty and heartfelt video. It was all the encouragement I needed.

[@millerlisa1]

Go

[@MartijnMcFly]

Go. Don't hesitate. Go. Time is fleeting and you may not get another chance ever again. Whether your relation is strained or not, you won't regret it! GO!

[@JefesAdventures]

I hope I was able to positively help you decide what to do. I hope you have many more years with your dad.

[@michaelmclear2889]

Go. You may not get a chance later

[@spiderwebb4983]

If you haven't made that journey yet, get in the car and go, I'm sure you won't be disappointed and if you are at least you tried and did all you can.

[@bootstoo]

Obviously I don't know you Jefe or your dad but I could not help tearing up a bit watching and listening to your video story. I am 75 years old and I lost my dad when I was 32 years old. I still miss him everyday.

[@abdulrahmanal-khaldi5035]

Sorry for the loss of your father. You did the right thing by getting back together with your brothers.

[@LavaKimo]

I bet your father would have loved that you guys got together and did things he loved and shared with you.

[@IsaiahMT2]

Goodness gracious, man. That hit like a ton of bricks. I send my condolences. I pray you reach the healing level you wish to achieve.

[@ronmarden6339]

My mother and father died 10 years ago, but I still talk to them in my mind everyday. Helps me from missing them.

[@anthonypushruk2586]

Jefe, you're not the only one who feels like this. I too am if guilty is the right word, just to let you know you're not the only one feeling like this. Cherish life and the one's around your immediate circle.

[@azmax623]

Sorry to hear about your dad. I lost mine 8 years ago.

[@Mike89138]

Welcome to the club. Many men feel the same way about their father. Just know that your father loves you very much hurt for you too.

[@davidsandberg7631]

When my Dad died I also felt great sorrow and was depressed for over a year. during visitation a man told me that at some point when I thought of Dad my thoughts would be happy memories and not always feeling sad. He was right one day I thought about Dad and a smile came across my face and a good memory of fun time we shared came into my head. It will take some time but it will happen for you also... Sorry for your loss...

[@perrysaperstein3773]

Hi Jefe…I just subscribed to your channel and watched this as my first video. I’m a 64 yr old retired airline pilot and I’m amazed at how close to home this video was and how hard it hit me. I just moved to Hurricane (I promise not to tell anyone how amazing it is) from Sarasota,FL right before the last hurricane made a direct impact. Most of my life was spent in Boulder, CO and I did my best to raise a family there while flying mostly internationally. After the inevitable divorce my son was 12 and my daughter 15 and my former wife decided not to relocate to any of the places the airline decided to base me during my career. Like you I lost touch little by little with my parents and kids under the pressure of constant travel. My parents passed away and I was fortunate enough to be there for the funerals like you were for your dad. I couldn’t afford to move back to CO after retirement but watching you and Matt on KZbin helped me choose Hurricane. It’s only a 10 hour drive to see my “kids” in CO and I’m trying to slowly get back into their lives. Like you said, we’re only here for a short while and I don’t want to waste another second away from the only family I have left. Thanks for sharing your story, it couldn’t have been easy. Us men are supposed to “grow a pair” and get over it, but I think we deserve more.

[@mrmchaney]

I forgave my dad 20 years ago for his sins that destroyed our family and made me a very angry person. It was the best thing I could have ever done as it set me free from the hate that had consumed me. And the key to forgiving him came after I received the forgiveness for my own sins from my faith in Christ. He saved me, and in turn I could reach back and love my dad again. Great video. Beautiful country. Glad you reconnected with your family and started on your own journey to heal.

[@bobcriss600]

I love this reply! It is very similar to my story! I was a bit fortunate that my dad’s sins (although extremely gross) never destroyed our family…I really hated him before when I was a lost teenager, left home at 18, joined the Air Force. Served for 8 yrs. In my ignorance at the time, at my high school grad/ going away party I told my brother that I was going to tell the old man to go to hell that I never wanted to see him again, just before I’d leave to BMTS. Am so very grateful my brother talked me out of that! My 1st permanent duty station in the Air Force was in San Antonio Tx. was there for 2 yrs… I got way lost in those two years! Wicked crazy life! Be Praise The Dear Lamb of God! that he reached way down in the garbage and pulled me out! From Tx I was reassigned to Guam. Just about 6weeks after landing on that little island, I received The Lord Jesus Christ as my Saviour! About 30mins later was the next time I saw my folks. At that time my dad and I spent a lot of time together and I was able to tell him about how I felt when I left home and that I am super grateful (now that I clearly understood what it was the Scriptures say about hell) that I never told him to go there. From 1996-1999 was my Bible school. From 99-2001 deputation, have been doing mission work here in the Philippines since 2001.

[@bobcriss600]

Jefe, I really appreciate your video. I’ve been away from home since 1987 and can really relate to what you are saying and experiencing in this situation…I’ve been on the mission field since 2001… saw May dad only 2 times from then until he died… during the time we’d visit back home for a month or so… my dad died on 1 Apr 2006. I miss him a lot! Am very grateful for the things he taught me. Sure wish he were still around am certain I could learn more from him! God bless you Jefe. And thank you for posting this video! Thanks for showing folks such a private thing…

[@JY-vr8ok]

Our fathers are proud of us!! Your father will always be with you!!

[@canadarocks8b]

I am sorry for your loss. I learned from a coworker that had a similar situation losing their father they haven’t spoken to in years, I have a new relationship with my dad that I have never had before. He has said many times how amazing are relationships has become. I hope other learn to move past the issues from the past and get their relationship back from your video. Thank you for sharing, you’re a strong person sharing this experience.

[@stephenmorgan8510]

Aw man, sorry for your losses. I know your pain.

[@brettnipps7205]

Thanks for sharing with us Jefe. No one tells us how tough it is to lose our parents, we simply get to find out.

[@SNELLERIZED]

I'm so very sorry for the loss of your Dad!

[@jonandhannahmoses3830]

Sometimes honoring those who have died through adventures are the best ways to work through grief.

[@jmjm6607]

Sorry for your loss brother. Always stay you.

[@grantcarroll5696]

Sorry about your father's passing. Thank you for sharing about your family. Allows us to know you a little better.

[@jeffwright584]

My dad left for California when I was 5. Next time I saw him I was 18. We never connected but wish we did. My first time going to California was pretty much to say goodbye. He died 3 hrs after I got there. I tried as a kid to go visit. But he wouldn’t pay for me to come. All and all I loved him because he was my dad.

[@ms-jl6dl]

He didn't want you to see him suffering. We men are like that.

[@mikehillis1126]

Sorry for your loss, Jefe. Thank you taking us along with you on your trip home. Nothing like home. Nothing like family. Good to hear your making amens where you need, life's too short. Be blessed

[@JD-bv2ht]

Sorry for your loss 🙏.

[@nathanwillis8823]

Man I'm so sorry to hear about your father. I lost me Dad about four months ago. He was my hero and best friend. It definitely changes your perspective on life. I hope your healing is swift. Dont beat yourself up my man. Use the opportunity to grow closer to our maker and keep trucking. Many blessings

[@MrJdubes]

I lost my dad a little over a year ago. Fortunately despite some ups and downs we had a good relationship. It’s weird now just over a year out, I still have “I can’t wait to tell dad this, he’ll love it” thoughts before I remember I can’t tell him. I wish you strength on your journey of mourning and healing sir. Thank you for taking us along.

[@linnjensen7469]

I really appreciate these trips with memories I am 74 now and memories are my most precious assets

[@southrock-eo1gr]

Amen !! 73 here..

[@knowledgeispowermediaprodu7094]

My heart goes out to you brother, We love ya.

[@JoanOfArgghh]

Family, even when it's hard and imperfect, is worth working our way back to. . . it's a journey you've started late, but far ahead of most people. I am so very sorry for your loss. May the God of all comfort sustain you and your family in this storm of grief.

[@traviscoombes3578]

My father was far from what you would call a good father. However, I still loved him. He ended up with cancer, and I was fortunate to have been able to spend a little time with him. He told me that he was proud of the man I had become because the deck was stacked against me most of my life. All we can do is learn from their mistakes and be better men than they were.

[@dalegereaux1863]

Sorry you lost your Dad but glad you got to spend time with your family. 👍

[@dchamp1337]

Sorry about your father. Glad you got to reconnect with family, looks like you had a great time hanging out with them.

[@joiegates3623]

So sorry for your loss...

[@scottkaiser8589]

Always remember those good memories of your dad and he will always be in your heart.

[@papayork1907]

Having lost my oldest son before my parents passed, I was able to see more clearly what really matters in my relationships with those I love. It was an expensive lesson... my heart goes out to you, my friend. The best you can do is live your best life.

[@DuaneCaldwell]

You aren't alone in dealing with past family communication issues, Jefe. Many of us suffer through it. I truly respect you being open and honest about it, and making an effort to reconnect and to remember the positives along the way. Don't beat yourself up over things you cannot change. Learn from them, and change how you relate with those still here. Hugs to you.

[@andrewciofani6887]

A father knows his children and I’m sure he knew how you felt and he was proud of the man you became. You will see him again and spend an eternity with him. God bless you brother.

[@rodhands9418]

So sorry to hear of the loss of your father jefe and family

[@scavl14]

Sorry to hear of his passing. Never gets easy.

[@michaelespinoza8504]

Our hearts go out to you my brother, Enjoy the time and precious moments. God bless you we're always here for you Jefe. 🤜🤛

[@johnnykirkland611]

Sorry for your loss . ❤

[@JjJj-bq7le]

I feel this in very soul You made a tough old retired firefighter cry again for his father that he never reached out to

[@timreeves6296]

Life is too short so don’t worry about it you’re still here enjoy it you never know when it’s going too be your time

[@Markomyt1]

Sorry for your loss. I had the same deal with my Dad. I moved out at 17, put myself through vocational school and never looked back. Slowly, we were getting closer, but he died suddenly at 63 and I wish we had made more progress. God Bless!

[@tlover94]

Sorry to hear about your dad, thoughts and prayers out to you and your family!

[@JamesGreen-tt4ij]

I lost my father in 2002. It’s still hard to believe it’s been 22 years but I was lucky enough that I moved home six years before he passed away and got to go hunting with him every year and even got to go hunting with him with his oldest grandson and his first hunting trip something we will never forget! It always helps to go back when you’re an adult and talk to your parents when you understand what they went through that’s a conversation that should never be missed and I am glad I got to have it

[@limoselect]

Don’t regret! You learn something that you have to. This will follow you for the rest of your life and you will share it.

[@moosibou]

If only I could see my dad one more time! It's been 35 years. We were just starting to patch up our relationship. I was 26 and my first child was not quite 2 weeks old. We were 1200 miles apart. He had received the photos of my son that morning and showed them off to his friends and customers. My oldest brother called me at 1:30 the following morning. The most difficult journey of my life began at that moment. Your video brought back a ton of memories and emotions.

[@Studzilla-is-here]

I miss my dad. I just want to call him. Hear his voice. Tell him I love him.

[@Crewsy]

Some of my best memories are from spending time with my Dad. I used to get my firewood off of land he owned and likely spent more getting “free” wood compared to just buying split and seasoned wood delivered right to my driveway but for me it was a few weekends a year that I spent with him. Both my parents are gone now but it’s the memories that carried me through the times after each one passed. If anyone is debating about getting back together with family don’t wait too long because the regret will last longer than the sorrow.

[@bentipton1826]

You were blessed to have a dad.

[@k9bob]

I am sorry for your loss. Life is a short. Hang in there…you’ve got this.

[@markreynolds2351]

You’re not alone. One of the hardest things when my father died was knowing our relationship was fixed in time. It was 10 years this spring, it’s easier but it’s always a part of your life.

[@Josh-GT]

Sometimes being alone on the road is just the thing you need to gather your thoughts and clear your mind. You learn to appreciate the beauty of the journey itself, and worry less about getting to your destination. Sorry for your loss Jefe.✌

[@calebgroghan]

Sorry for you lose may he rest in peace

[@MeThePeoples]

Sorry for your loss Jefe. But the regret will pass, trust me. You don't deserve that feeling, and it will pass. Time heals all

[@TRAVEDGE]

parents are never truly gone they live within, sorry for you loss

[@phale925]

Sorry for your loss. My dad passed away in 2018; I miss him every day.

[@christopheranderson8619]

My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

[@tanthalismoomaw2303]

Jefe just wanted to stop in and say good luck and looking forward to seeing what you share with us. Good luck.

[@crazyrnu4046]

The most difficult relationships in life are those with loved. I worked many years as a medic and many times I spent the last moments of person's life with them. What I heard from these people is that at the end of life they wished they had spent more time with family. Although these are difficult relationships they re the most precious. As long as there is breath in you it isn't too late mend what is broken. Don't spend your last moments looking back on what may have been had the relationship with loved ones been better. Thanks Jefe for the reminder.

[@barrygunning4424]

You truly can go home again. Thank you for sharing this.

[@jdbrown3695]

Sorry to hear about your Dad, Jefe. You did a really good thing reliving good memories.

[@bulletproof1421]

Thank you so much for sharing your stories, my dad passed away from cancer when I was in high school. Time really does go by faster than you expect, live every moment to the fullest. Don't forget to smile!

[@mtbpirates]

So sorry for your loss. You can't fix the past, but what you can do is remember the good times and honor his life. Prayers for you and your family.

[@dannyalley3753]

What an Awesome Video. My dad died Dec 7th of 2023 we hadn't talked to each other in 10 years. I moved my mom and dad down to FL with me in 2021, because like you I was missing them. The end of August I lost my mom. They had been married 61 years. I am an only child. So I have no siblings to get together with. It's a hard thing losing both parents so close together. I love watching you. You're a wholesome change to most of the You tubers Hopefully someday I get to shake your hand.

[@rhondasweeney7271]

Memories are important with family ❤

[@carolschmidt2481]

My deepest sympathy for your loss....🙏

[@91362moose]

Bless you Jefe. My dad died suddenly when I was 15. SAME!! Workin on mom..........

[@jefft2553]

Sorry for your loss. It sounds like your on the right path

[@phillipmoody1209]

Condolences, Jefe. I know what you're dealing with, been there myself. Good people and positivity will carry you through.

[@YV5AUEO]

Prayers for your family

[@garypratt8722]

It’s good to see you honoring your dad and spending time with your siblings Jefe. My parents have been gone for a long time. Then I lost my big brother, my only sibling in 2016 to a work related accident. Cherish every moment you get to spend with them. Time goes by way to fast.

[@TrzCharlie]

Jeffe, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Know this, you will always have his memory and with time you will heal. I am not a religious person but I do believe that his energy will manifest in you in subtle ways and you will be reminded of him periodically. Take care of yourself and give yourself time to grieve.

[@YusssoM]

Hey man, I'm sorry for your loss. Don't beat on yourself too hard Jefe, you have a great heart. You're a very kind person, everything you did feels true from your heart. My mom often tell me that sometimes it's the intention that matters. The unexpected things always happened in life, but you really intended to rebuild the relationship with your dad, this time I think that's really what matters. Please seek professional help if you need it Jefe, grief is a btch to deal with. I'm happy that you got to hang out with your brothers and sister out there. I agree with your point in the end about contacting your love ones. The passed will always be missed, but it's time to worry with those that's still alive, go get in contact with them!

[@williamdavis8161]

Sorry for your loss. Heavy stuff. My Dad passed a few years back. He left my Mother & I when i was 4. He was a hard man to know well. He was sucessful & well respected in the community. I think of him often. I wish I had understood him better.

[@randyweishaar3316]

I'm truly sorry for your loss.

[@DrMuFFinMan]

Glad you realized it before it was ultimately to late. I've wrote my own dad off ever sense my first child was born 18 years ago. He told me it was up to me to maintain our relationship and make the effort to come see him and for some reason it rubbed me the wrong way. Sorry for you're loss and hope that you can remember the good times.

[@corwinchristensen260]

There's nothing sadder than waiting too long to make a call -- and it happens way to often to too many people. Sorry for your loss, glad to see you moving forward, and hopefully this will inspire someone, somewhere to make contact. God Bless

[@eric8851]

Sorry for loss SFC, that said as a parent all I want is my boys to be close forever. If this brings you back into the fold with yours I am sure your dad is smiling down. Stay close with family. Godspeed.

[@ManLikeGamer]

I hope you're able to grow and heal the best way for you, love and prayers Jefe.

[@smky143]

That's tough man, I know people always say things like don't beat yourself up about it.... so... don't beat yourself up about it.

[@AbouzarKaboudian]

My heartfelt condolences to you Jefe! Thank you for sharing all of that with us. Great video, too! Good luck with your new adventures!

[@bubbax1115]

May your heart heal from this loss. A child is that part of ourselves we cast into a future we will not see. He will always be a part of you.

[@donking8718]

Jefe , you honour your father and show your love for him when you venture into this journey of self discovery. You are a good man, trying best you can to be a better man. ❤

[@mitchjaurena4709]

Good for you, Jefe. Keep doing it.

[@jeffreysokal7264]

Sorry for the loss of your father, but don't regret any of the choices you made along the way; they are what made you who you are today. Wishing you many happy adventures.

[@geostarbrand]

I am so very sorry for your loss. Prayers....

[@ralphfritzsche2000]

Sorry for your loss... Great video showing your family! A blessed life!

[@joeydube2195]

Love the content. I had a very similar relationship with my dad. I lost him 3 years ago, he was 80. We hadn't talked in 13 years. But thankfully we hung out and made amends before he passed...I was there.

[@dc9808]

So Prayers and condolences about your Dad, I had my Dad until he was 92, however the demensia started in his 60's. I will always miss the man he was. And you will too. However you will need to lighten up on yourself a little. Spend time with your Mom and siblings. And as always thank you for your service!

[@capt.stubing5604]

No matter how close you are to your dad, it’s tough to loose him. I know this from personal experience. Your advise is very valuable to others who still have time to take mend their relationships while they can. Was in Clark’s a few weeks ago. Great store for such a small town.

[@jamiejenkins5643]

My heart goes out to you. Not bad for your second video 11,000 in a couple hours and 40,000 subscribers.. good job

[@JamesGreen-tt4ij]

I lost my father in 2002. It’s still hard to believe it’s been 22 years but I was lucky enough that I moved home six years before he passed away and got to go hunting with him every year and even got to go hunting with him with his oldest grandson and his first hunting trip something we will never forget! It always helps to go back when you’re an adult and talk to your parents when you understand what they went through that’s a conversation that should never be missed and I am glad I got to have it! My brother and father had a falling out and did not talk to much and he missed that , then he was gone in 2016 , at 48 , and I can tell you even years later I miss being able to talk problems out with both of them !!!!!! ❤

[@goldviper5280]

Great video. Sorry your dad pass away. Happy for you bonding with your family again. Do loose touch with them.

[@granduniversal]

This episode rings true for me because recently I felt the same sort of pain that I felt when I lost my dad. I lost a good dog. Being on the road is a good way to look at your life when you lose someone close to you. You can experience that pain in your heart, and let nature ease it a bit. When I lost my dad, I had this job that required me to drive. I found myself out on the highway with my pain. I thought I could see my dad's face in the clouds. I found I could get that done while feeling the pain, though. That was important. It gave me just enough of an element of normalcy, so that pain didn't take me completely away. Wow, Jefe, you are such a good man. I hurt for how you weren't singled out by your father for more of his attention. You are one of many, but one who is as important as any of the others. I don't think you ought to blame yourself for him not managing to spread himself your way. Yes, you could have made up the difference yourself. But our parents set these things before us and just expect us to keep up. You have a right to be a kid, so don't blame yourself.Your not thinking of it quickly enough, or when he was still alive, is just him passing down the teaching of how to approach these situations. You learned it from him, most likely. If he is watching from heaven, he knows that. Now, you can forgive each other. Do that while staring directly at his faults and you will have achieved something!

[@wilk913]

Nice video Jefe and thanks for sharing that with us. I'm sorry for your loss as I've been there and that can hit a man hard. I can appreciate how you expound your feelings whether up or down and I like how you remain upbeat through it all. I also wanna thank you again for when you and Rudy came out to rescue me in the Morrvair and my stuck truck a few years back way out off Skutumpah Rd. somewhere out of Kanab I believe. That trip created lifelong memories for me that I'll always remember. Anyhow, hope all is well with you and yours, stay up.

[@JefesAdventures]

I hope you're doing well

[@kennethpaladino4948]

Used 2 have a ranch just 5 miles east of Monticello, Ut.! Was back in the 70’s! Luv the Abajo’s! Blue Mountans!