I Ruined My Best Friends Proposal Which Then BROKE THEM UP r/Relationships

[@hanzolos1852]

Story 2: She brags about being a thief and is shocked that no one wants to be in a 10 foot radius of her and she thinks it's about gender. You're a thief!

[@iasomnium919]

Also, if she wanted a girl so bad, there are literally hundreds of shelters with good animals that needed a home!

[@hanzolos1852]

@@iasomnium919 That too. She said the person who's cat she stole could wait but not herself. Truly a selfish person

[@lykiaookami6070]

@@hanzolos1852 she also mentioned getting a cat from the shelter isn't an option because its so difficult these days. Load of bull. I work at an animal shelter, there are ALWAYS cats looking for homes. Just most of the time older ones. 100% she wanted a kitten and not an adult cat + the road isn't a problem at all if she decides to adopt an indoor cat and just leave it inside. So many excuses to steal a kitten that has a high risk of dying if they do let it outside near a main road.

[@1tiptip187]

Someone from my work bragged about tampering with food on at least three occasions and wondered why I wouldn't except food for them at lunch. When I flat told them they called me out as their were witnesses and other people looked at her weird. The food tampering involved bran powder for someone she claimed were upsetting her and then trying to has tofu to a cake to prove someone didn't have a soy allergy.

[@TheLodjur]

@@1tiptip187 Wow, that is wild! For sure. do *not* accept food from that whacko, she may actually kill someone. Bran powder is for skin and hair, from what I can see, not that it tops trying to give someone an allergic reaction, geeez...

[@nightcorelucario2218]

I don't believe for a second OP in story 2 is doing anything they say in their update. they're only trying to save face because everyone's calling them out for committing a literal crime

[@margaritap.9459]

And even then she's not ready to publicly admit guilt: "tell her that turns out we have a girl".

[@jaymel4691]

Yeah, she only said that because she's getting so much backlash. I doubt she will do anything. I hope the cat is ok.

[@fytrndm]

I wonder if the story about no kittens in shelters where she live was true as well...I mean, maybe because I live in a city and kittens appear to come out every single week on the adoption list...yeah...just... I'm side eyeing that person.

[@sierralovat5498]

they're a theif

[@deinellpugs]

@@fytrndm it's not. Now that people have gone back to work that were at home during covid and adopted an animal, all those animals and now being returned to the shelter.

[@dannietea]

Story 2: Not only is OP a thief, but they fully gaslit the hell out of the seller.

[@thedestroyasystem]

I feel so bad for the seller! Making her believe it was all her fault was cruel.

[@dannietea]

@@thedestroyasystem I wouldn’t be surprised if OP did it again giving the kitten back. I can just imagine them saying “YOU gave us the wrong one”.

[@photofreak56]

OP wants a kitten. Not a cat. trust me I've met so many people like this.

[@j_hi]

​@@photofreak56omg you're so right it is 1000 percent going to the shelter as soon as the cute wears off 😥

[@CouncilEstateRach]

​@@photofreak56yes, just like people who want a baby.... not a 30 year old... or even a 3 year old...... if that's the case become a nanny so you can always look after babies. Get a job in a animal shelter if you want kittens and puppies.

[@RandomWatcherofVideos]

“Gender doesnt matter for a cat” Proceeds to argue how genders for a cat matters minutes earlier

[@champslim]

That was sooo stupid

[@Iflie]

So many people get one gender of kitten and it turns out to be something else and they never actually care. But she obviously did, she didn't even give a reason. Probably because there isn't one. Unless you have another cat that has a preferred gender to socialize with.

[@sgmii3060]

Precedes

[@johnowen9349]

Story 2, Summerized. "I did something shady, bragged about it, defended it with some narcissistic BS I cobbled together on the spot, and now nobody wants to hang out with me. Please, Internet Strangers, tell me I did nothing wrong!"

[@cryofist]

No one else noticing op slipped on on the cat story and said "now the male cat can go to a loving home" as in her house wouldn't be a loving home?

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: instant YTA. They were all claimed even if they haven’t been physically taken yet. You don’t mess with someone else’s business just to get what you want. She should have waited and actually adopt or find another breeder. You don’t take someone else’s claimed animal and you ruined the sale for this woman you took what should have been pure happiness of getting a pet from someone else. Then she claimed it as no big deal because she lacks any form of empathy or sympathy The audacity, the deception, the lies and the Karen entitlement vibes. Shame on this absolute POS garbage

[@lilli77]

I've have a kitten reserved right now, where I'm waiting for her to turn old enough to bring home. I would be SO angry if someone did this!

[@Conimon]

Imagine being that little kitten waiting to go to a new home and waiting in your new owner’s arms and then just being put down and switched with your sister. Poor little kitty

[@heathermiller5765]

@@Conimon Awww now I’m more sad for the kitty 🥺

[@kateemma22]

@@Conimon STOP MAKING ME CRY!

[@Conimon]

@@kateemma22 I’m sorry it was just all I could think about when I heard the story

[@eliability]

Story 2: "A cat's gender doesn't matter" Then what was the point in switching them? YTA Hypocritical 😐 Update: IF YOU DIDN'T CARE ABOUT THE GENDER WHY DID YOU SWITCH THE CATS

[@Ospyro3em]

Because she's an immature woman-child who wants a cat, but has none of the maturity to look after one.

[@samalvarez8776]

Also, she wanted an OUTSIDE cat. Which means the cat is going to be outside, next to a major road. She shouldn't get a cat

[@Ospyro3em]

@@samalvarez8776 Yep. There was a good reason the adoption places wouldn't let let her adopt one.

[@photofreak56]

@@Ospyro3em As a former shelter worker I get the feeling she also isn't going to get this cat spayed meaning come kitten season that poor cat is going to end up having a few litters. That OP isn't going to care for meaning that there is going to be a mess that she isn't going to clean up.

[@lazarushernandez5827]

Maybe the seller should just refund OPs money and not sell her a kitten.

[@shirokusanagi3901]

Cat story: she still won't take responsibility. Notice what she said: "I'll call the seller and tell them IT TURNS OUT we do have a girl." OP of that story still kinda sucks. Just no integrity.

[@photofreak56]

Just the fact that she went to a breeder pisses me off. I know their are ethical breaders but I've worked in a few shelters and more often then not people like OP are the reason we have huge stray cat populations. She most likely isn't going to get the cat fixed. She is letting the cat be outside (always a bad idea) and is coming off like a I love kittens but I got board of the cat.

[@mrs.h2725]

The fact she stated they have a large yard when talking about getting a cat definitely seems like they plan on letting it roam freely outside. So… Dear Cat Owners: STOP BEING LAZY INCONSIDERATE ARSEHOLES! Letting your cat roam freely causes over 4 Billion needless bird deaths every year in the U. S. Alone. It also causes overpopulation of strays who spread disease and die young in horrible ways. It also puts your cat at risk for being run over, eaten by something, or at the very least pissing and shitting all over your neighbors’ properties. So if you actually care about your pet just put a fracking leash on it, take it for GD walk, and pick up their 💩.

[@bunnyslippers191]

@@photofreak56 Yep to all that. There's an easy fix if the shelters won't adopt cats out to anyone who lives next to a main road. Keep the danged cat inside! Outside only cats usually live only about 3 years because of cars, dogs that run free, wildlife like raccoons, coyotes, bobcats, and, believe it or not, owls. A great horned owl can kill a cat with its talons, especially a smaller cat such as a female or just a cat who's small because its parents were small. Then there are the nasty humans who like to hurt cats-*especially black cats* and this gal got a black cat. For inside/outside cats it's 7 because they are also exposed to the same dangers as the completely outside cats, just for fewer hours a day. The average lifespan of a cat who's kept inside all the time is at least 14 and that number is getting higher all the time.

[@sierralovat5498]

Here's the thing, she stole the cat for her husband.

[@animatorstanley]

The only reason she said she'd "make it right" is bc she exposed herself as total garbage person. She didn't feel any remorse for her actions, just sad nobody wanted to play with her anymore.

[@kolonarulez5222]

The idea of buying a cat is so funny to me. Go get your cats the organic way: they follow you home one day and you're stuck with them forever

[@thedestroyasystem]

exactly. It’s the only way

[@geekbabe100]

My 18 pounder followed me home several years ago, he’s a total love ❤️

[@kitsunekyubi9358]

Yup!!!

[@tamsel814]

Only if you live in an area with stray cats. I have only ever seen stray cats while traveling myself. Never in my own country. So we akways got our cats from shelters or more commenly people with oopsie litters.

[@geekbabe100]

@@moon-moth1 this guy was for sure a stray, living in the local park, drinking water from the gutter. He had been out there for weeks

[@Russman67]

Story 3: OP "I can't go on the trip in order to take care of My stepchildren. Their bio-mom just died" College friends "Who's going to get us our food discounts? Stop trying to take over the mom role!" Guess we know where OP stands.

[@robertx8020]

Calling them 'friends' is an insult to every real friend on thsi planet

[@DemonicGoddess]

@@robertx8020 Agreed,

[@philwill0123]

Yep, she never knew she wasnt a "friend", she was used through college.

[@recycledapathy7411]

"Stop trying to take over the mom role!" My first thought was "Because you're OUR mommy!" since the others can't seem to organize, pay, or do stuff without OP there to hold their hands for them.

[@immortalsofar5314]

They're just really, really shallow and, probably, on the high end of the selfishness bell curve. Also, some people just have a blind spot for non-bio kids. Probably because my childhood was so cr*ppy, most of my parental figures were random friends but, although I've never had bio-kids, I've treated every kid that I've been involved with their Mom as if they were - even those who were over 18. I can't understand the bias myself but I can see it in other people.

[@TsukiKageTora]

The story 1: is it me or does the girlfriend of OP’s best friend sounds like that guy who wanted to propose to his girlfriend at his brother’s wedding because he feared her leaving him? Like it sounds like she knew her girlfriend was not liking the relationship so she thought she’s trap her into saying yes in a crowded venue

[@fordstang92]

Sounds like it

[@nathanhinman9069]

there sure are similarities

[@maggpiprime954]

Definitely.

[@HealthyObbsession]

Even if that wasn't the case Sophie showed she doesn't care about Cassie enough to bring up her idea with OP and being ok with OP saying no would be one thing but to show they don't care about Cassie's best friend their other half and their boundaries about proposing at the wedding after being told no I'm glad Cassie got out of that situation If Sophie was that ok walking over her best friend’s boundaries I wonder if Sophie had been doing the same to Cassie and Sophie doing the same to her best friend was the wake-up call she needed to end it

[@alicewilloughby4318]

TsukiKageTora, I thought that too. It felt like a re-hash of that story.

[@CristinaFrank]

Where TF is Kitten Thief OP living that there is a cat shortage?! That's just insane to me...

[@icecreamnoodles3742]

Honestly same. Where I'm from you won't really see many strays. I for example haven't seen one ever. But you can always find cats in shelters that need a home. Plus, just wait until right after kitten season. There are always some people who want a kitten but not a cat and it shows in shelters. I get if someone really wants a specific bread or smth (like hypoallergenic etc) but a cat shortage? That's a new one.

[@maggpiprime954]

"Shittitude" and "bid you a terrible day" are the best pronouncements on that post. Love it!

[@BoxOKittens]

Story 1: a good friend who has the right to not want a proposal at her own wedding Story 2: a disgusting thief Story 3: a good stepmom with terrible friends

[@Ospyro3em]

Story 1- Sophie was likely going to propose at the wedding so that Cassie would be pressured to say yes, thereby trapping her. Story 2- I agree with all the commenters- way too immature to have a pet and a hypocrite to boot. "Gender shouldn't matter" yet steals a cat to ensure she gets a girl. Story 3- Get yourself some new friends and dump the shallow gang

[@immapotato1]

I love the attempted sympathy on the main road. why do I feel like that's a whole bunch of bull

[@jusminejustice2794]

@@immapotato1 there’s a possibility that they have been black listed from the shelters.

[@immapotato1]

@@jusminejustice2794 exactly. I seriously doubt simply being near a main street is enough for that

[@marilynbartlett1850]

Story 1 - exactly, proposing in any kind of public forum puts pressure on the other party to say yes even if they don't want to or don't feel ready - it's a form of emotional manipulation

[@SidereusOfTheFallen]

@@immapotato1 In my city it's actually not. People in charge of adoptions in a few places around me are crazy shitty and won't give you pups or kittens for the stupidest reasons. Like asking for villa and land for (hybrid) breeds of dogs that don't really need land. ETA: in a group I was formerly part of somebody said that they were happy that shelters in their area didn't give kittens out to people who couldn't adopt at least 2 kittens at the same time because "it's cruel and it only makes the animal suffer" if you adopt a kitten alone.

[@DudeEM]

Last story: - they certainly aren’t your friends - they’re in their 40’s or at least late 30’s right? Had their emotional maturity gotten stuck in college? - so OP’s the AH for going nuclear after those people refused to accommodate her? Wait, who was accommodating who in here again? It seems to be OP - These are the people OP haven’t seen for a long time. It should stay that way.

[@alexklein5640]

Story 2 once again affirms me in the belief anyone wanting to own pets needs to go through psychological evaluations to establish to be fit to do so.

[@kitsunekyubi9358]

EXACTLY!!!!!!!

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Story 2: When I adopted my first cat, I was told it was a boy by the shelter. They took the cat to get its first vaccine before bringing it to me and turned out it was a girl. They asked me if I was still okay to adopt her. I said yes. If "gender doesn't matter" then that's your reaction to being offered a kitten of the opposite sex. You don't fucking steal one of the preferred sex. Also, sex may not have mattered to OP, but it mattered to the intended owner. There are plenty of reasons to prefer one sex over another - you can literally research behavioural differences based on sex. There are physiological reasons, behaviours of other animals in the house that can also influence it.

[@tamsel814]

We had a similar incident. We wanted a female kitten as a companion for our other cat who preferred females. Turns out the new kitten was misgendered and was a male. We still kept him as we had already fallen in love with the kitten and couldn't bear to part from him. Our other cat, however, did not like the kitten much.

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

@@tamsel814 We got a boy as our second because we wanted a cuddler. Our girl still isn't fond of him a month later 😅

[@tamsel814]

@@SLTheOneAndAwesome19 haha, yeah. Ours sadly never became close. But they did learn to life in the same space pretty well and worked very well together if any threat (any dog, any other cat, crows) was visible. Hope your cat will turn out to be a cuddler.

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

@@tamsel814 Oh, he's an absolute cuddler. Toothy too, though lol

[@photofreak56]

When I found my cat Qbert I didn't know if he was a boy or a girl because he's a very fluffy baby. I literally didn't matter to me because he was just such a sweet cat. When the vet said he was a boy I was a little surprised but more surprised that he was full grown given the fact that he's a very small cat. If you love an animal it doesn't mater the gender. Also shame on OP for not going to a shelter if you want a black cat then go to a shelter and don't get a kitten.

[@MrsWheezer]

Last story kicked me in the gut. My bff is in the middle of a nearly identical mess. No way would ANYONE in our friend group give her a hard time for prioritizing her step-kids (who have already had multiple adults fail them). Ugh!!!!!

[@owl7072]

Story 3: Oh no, Op wants to be a good parental figure and role model and be there for two grieving kids who _just lost their mother_ rather than go on a fun vacation. Clearly that makes Op selfish because how _dare_ she prioritize the children that she made a promise to when marrying their father over people she hasn't seen in ages. /heavy sarcasm

[@robertx8020]

Yeah ..who wants a loving stepmother anyway /s

[@DemonicGoddess]

You forgot to mention all the freebies you get that your using from her cause she only is a free 3.00 beer.

[@robertx8020]

@@DemonicGoddess But but but ..that is what 'friends' do ...they take advantage of eachother /s

[@NCAnon]

I'm reaching way out there with this statement, but I'll say it anyway: Story 2: OP's attitude and reaction makes me think they would treat their hypothetical son (if they ever have children) differently than their hypothetical daughter just because of their gender.

[@jessicamorgan3568]

Last story: thanks guys, you've all helped me realize that I've made a terrible mistake. I assumed you were my friends, but apparently I'm just a wallet/connection for you. Now I don't have to feel guilty admit cancelling the trip. So... Thanks!

[@ashh4929]

Right? And screwing over the whole group? Please, sounds like it's the other way around. OP is covering all costs and inconveniences and the only thing theses bitches REALLY give a crap about is her connections and discounts. Shame on every single one of them.

[@robertx8020]

Yep

[@nixxyhasthoughts]

Exactly. I hope those “friends” see the Reddit post or any other KZbin story about it and realise everyone else sees them for the selfish, entitled unempathetic users they are.

[@coreymartin6486]

To add: "I want people in my life who has empathy, a warm heart, and a sense of being selfless. I don't see any such individuals here. If there is such an individual who has thought they fit this description, they have chosen self-preservation rather than speaking up. Wbtw, suggests they may need to rethink themselves. I hope one day you each have a change of heart to know the suffering of children regarding their mother's death is more important than discounts. However, untill such a time occurs....I'm removing myself from your company completely. Goodbye."

[@clairebear-96]

The last one - NTA, she sounds like a great step mum for taking care of those poor kids and looking out for them

[@carolroberts4614]

Yes, and those so-called friends are disgusting.Birthdays are so hard in that situation. We lost my younger sister 6 weeks before a big birthday, and it was a very difficult day.

[@dakotagarcia7781]

story 2: my jaw DROPPED when she said she switched the cats. Thats so underhanded and dirty and still lied to the seller. I wouldn't want to be friends with a dishonest person like that. I wanted a boy dog, and drove 4 extra hours and paid 40$ more to get it. if I waited 2 months for my boy dog and the seller suddenly asked if i would take the girl after all that, I wouldve been so very upset. It may not matter to some people, but when you have your heart and mind set of a future, you want it to happen.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA and Sophie sounds manipulative and toxic as FUCK. That whole "it will help you bond" argument is pure emotiinal manipulation. Additionally, with that "she's an introvert and that can come off as disrespect", I wonder how often Cassie has to make excuses for Sophie's bad behavior. I also wonder if she's abusive to Cassie and her attempt to make OP bow down the same is where Cassie finally drew the line. Edit after update: fucking KNEW IT. I'm so glad Cassie got out.

[@DrawciaGleam02]

I'm glad things turned out well in story 1. I was worried OP would be seen as the bad guy for telling Cassie about the proposal.

[@brigidtheirish]

Given that what Cassie said about "huge fights" being common in their relationship, I wouldn't be surprised. Granted, my dad tends to get rather loud, but, well, before he was diagnosed with CPTSD, he was basically in an abusive relationship with *himself.* It was hard to watch, but he tried his hardest to be a good husband and dad. Mostly succeeded, too.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - Good on OP for first saying no to Sophie. Then for staying true to her friendship with Cassie. It sounds as if she was in possibly some type of abusive relationship and OP helping her move forward to a better, more deserved life with happiness, is a great friend thing to do.

[@helenconnor3714]

Story 3, With friends like this, you don't need enemies. True friends would be disappointed, understanding and see if there is anything that they could help you cope with this major life change. Life isn't predictable and follows your set schedule, things happen and everyone has to adjust. Get new friends, as based on your last comments, these were just using you and your connections.

[@TiffWaffles]

Second OP made me see red. Somebody pulled this stunt with my friend who was selling purebred huskies. The people who paid for one of the puppies that had been stolen took things to court, including my friend and the thief in question. OP still doesn't get that what she did was wrong. You can tell by the way she worded her post. The kitten should be taken right away back to the seller. Then OP can take a nice long walk off a very short pier and never look at cats again.

[@trainerlesseevee478]

I truly do not understand anyone that WANTS to purpose at SOME ELSE'S wedding. It's super tacky, even with permission. Come up with your own idea to purpose and let the people getting married have their day. 🙄

[@helenlewis2510]

Last story the steps are lucky to have someone like op. She should use the money she would’ve spent on the trip for a nice day out with the kids whenever they feel ready.

[@paden1865able]

Good on them for putting those kids first, decent humans should be applauded instead of roasted.

[@1tiptip187]

Story 2: It was nice of the thief to let people know they need to stay away from her. Also as a plus, good chance two dishonest people will cause their own karma in their marriage. And each will be so shocked that the other is disloyal.

[@LoveableNiki]

Story 2: YTA. Just because OP was the first to collect didn't give OP the right to switch the cats. OP is thee biggest AH. I love that OP's coworkers have shunned OP. OP is a sh*t person. OP, please keep telling people this story, so you and your husband can lose all respect from upstanding people.

[@angierucinski5694]

Final story: The Mean Girl college "friends" are utterly appalling. I bet they all tell their children that disappointment and let-downs are a part of life, character building, blahblah. Yet when faced with genuine tragedy in two other childrens' lives, all they care about is losing their discounts and start screeching like a bunch of adolescents. Thank goodness those children have a fantastic bonus mum looking out for them. ♥️♥️👍👍

[@diarradunlap9337]

They were probably planning on running around with strange men to get their furrows plowed behind their SOs backs, to boot.

[@blandoatmeal1273]

Last story It seems like there's a reason OP hasn't seen those friends in a while...

[@FoxgloveWanderer]

Cat story: I'm actually surprised that that last commenter who was roasting her skipped the part where she bragged about the theft.

[@cypressk3838]

Story 3: hun it kinda sounds from the info provided like they were using you for the discounts so nta

[@jamie7398]

Story 2: YTA. If gender didn't matter for a cat then why switch the boy cat for the girl? And if the people who wanted a girl cat can look elsewhere then so could OP.

[@cats1900]

Op 2 is a complete AH. Shady person who is proving to be untrustworthy. Edit: After update, OP is even more an AH. I think they are lying and misrepresenting facts. Would bet they are not allowed to get a cat from the agency because they either want an outside cat or some other reason. Op makes my blood boil.

[@TsukiKageTora]

9:02 Now I picture OP and her friend singling “you got a friend in me”

[@laurelrhodes744]

Stroy 2: I can’t help but think about my own situation with getting a puppy. I had my heart set on one boy in a litter of five. I got lucky because one was reserved but not a specific one. I happened to come before them and I got the pup I wanted! I just think back and know if the other person got there first and happened to pick my pup, I would have been CRUSHED. I don’t know if I would have been able to pick another from that litter! OP was obviously in a very different situation, but either way I can’t imagine being that other buyer and having to face the heartbreak and disappointment of losing what they had known as THEIR CAT!

[@emm_uhh]

I adopted a 5 year old kitty recently. I had 3 references, a housing check, pay stubs, plus an application. Imagine going through all the work meeting the cat and when I went to pick him up he got switch with another cat. I'd be heart broken

[@colleencook382]

Story 1: op really didn't have another good option other than telling Casdie. If OP had said she didn't want Sophie at the wedding (for fear if her going through with the proposal) she still would have had to come up with a reason why or risk hurting her friendship with Cassie.

[@DrawciaGleam02]

Either that or take the risk of Sophie proposing at the wedding anyway. In that scenario, OP would receive near unanimous support because Sophie stole the spotlight.

[@maddy8328]

"gender doesn't matter" but you made sure you got a girl cat. What the hell. Adopt don't shop, "it's so hard!!" No it's not.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 YTA! You agreed to buy the boy cat then you pull this bs. YOU should've looked elsewhere. Why do you get to this and it's kosher, but it's no big deal that the other person got cheated and now has to "look elsewhere.

[@JSainte17]

I was literally saying to myself, "If these are your friends, what the hell are you enemies like?" when Mark said, "With friends like that, who needs enemies?" lol Seriously.

[@jennstewart3003]

Last Story: sounds like you have a reason to find a new group of friends....

[@Davtwan]

This isn’t a Lifetime Movie. Discussing your partner’s preferences about proposals is just as important as the proposal itself.

[@cjb2749]

Story 2 is unbelievable. The entitlement is almost as bad as the hypocrisy

[@BersealiaDreamheart]

Story #1 - NTA, and this story reminds me of that one AITA where OP had to threaten to cut off his parents’ financial aid to stop his entitled brother from proposing at OP’s wedding in an attempt to stop his girlfriend from breaking up with him. I wonder if Sophie was trying same thing here, because that’s what came into mind for me.

[@heathermiller5765]

Came to my mind as well

[@akl2k7]

Their relationship was already on the rocks, in both stories, so it's very possible. "You can't break up! We just got engaged in front of everybody!"

[@atinyevil1383]

Story 3: Woooooooow. OP’s stepkids’ mom died suddenly and instead of saying “I’m so sorry” or “that’s awful” or being any level of understanding, the friends complain about not getting discounts on food. And then, even worse, when OP decides she doesn’t want to deal with them and leaves the chat, they act like she’s the selfish one for them acting like complete asses. Awful. Disgusting. I hope they look back when they have their own kids and feel ashamed of themselves for what they said.

[@crissantos44]

Story 2. Omg I just want to slap that OP. She is vile!!! No conscience and no morals

[@katsmenagerie106]

Possible insight into story 2: males usually cost less than females (theoretically you could breed the female, hence the price hike). OP wanted a female but they didn't want to pay more

[@chaos4654]

Story 1: it is extraordinarily lucky that ex-friend screwed up in OP's face. Story 3: OP is just a wallet and ventor for free stuff to those fake friends.

[@jusminejustice2794]

Story 1: The ex girlfriend is obviously abusive and using Op’s wedding to force Cassie to say yes. I’m so glad she’s out of that relationship. Story 2: “Gender doesn’t matter” then WHY the HECK you switch them? Shame shame SHAME on Op for stealing someone else’s cat that they purchase rightfully and I hope actually do what she says in the update. Also I noticed that they couldn’t adopt, because they live by a main road. Which lead me to believe that they want a outdoor cat. So they decided to get a kitten to have live outside ( I hope they didn’t ) that will be very irresponsible. If Op cares about gender of a cat that much, then I hate to imagine how she treats a child if it come out the gender she didn’t wanted. Story 3: Wow Op those aren’t friends. What a heartless thing to say to Op, family isn’t dictated by blood. Op wouldn’t replace their mother, but at least she’s there for them as a mother figure. Shame on those friends who cared way more about trip, instead of understanding that Op wanted to be there for the kids she sees as her own.

[@nikkilengyel]

She doesn't need her permission? Yes, she absolutely DOES need her permission! She's coming as a guest to someone's event that THEY paid for. So, she needs to abide by their rules, and absolutely needs to ask for permission to do anything that takes away attention from the bride and groom.

[@babygirl_lunaa9096]

Story 2: When I adopted my cat from my older brother, I had wanted a girl. They didn't have any left, so I brought home one of the boys. Since I got him I have absolutely fallen in love with him. He wouldn't have gotten great care with my brother since he had a few pets already. I don't regret it for one second and he is just the sweetest little fella. I can't imagine having any other cat now

[@AngelaMastrodonato]

As a cat lover I really hope the kitten switcher follows through with her plans to come clean and offer the cat to the original buyers. When I heard this story, I thought these people seemed like the kind of pet owners who would send the cat to the shelter if the cat got too old, cat got sick, cat ruined furniture, etc. I felt afraid for this poor innocent kitten.

[@Bleg94]

2. Story: YTA "gender shouldn't matter for a cat" but insists on getting the female cat instead of the male cat Update: wtf OP still insists on "I didn't care that much about the gender" WHY STEAL THE FEMALE CAT THEN!?

[@LetholdusKaspyr]

Story 2: "I decided to switch them when the opportunity arose." See, I don't see a turned back as an "opportunity," because I'm not a scumbag.

[@AndyyWithAY]

So glad to finally get a bonafide through and though YTA story! OP is delusional and I love to see it.

[@tayloredwards4968]

Story 2 I honestly don't know why she even went on the internet. We all know what she did was wrong. 😾 They really should be ashamed of themselves. And give that cat back to the rightful owner

[@impishrebel5969]

"This way the boy cat can go to a loving home." Too bad that poor little girl cat didn't.

[@howdelydoo]

Omg that comment from Deathmetal was just glorious...."The words kitten thief make me die a little inside, so thanks for that." dead

[@elizahamilton5599]

And the fact that they bragged about to their coworker like it was something to be proud of

[@maurer3d]

Story 3: NTA, in fact if anything you are a super step-mom.... You had a family emergency and did the right thing.

[@jessilyngray1223]

Story 1...my ex proposed to me on a family vacation. I was thrilled...at first but as time passes I realized that "no just no" he was a high school drop out and was trying to talk me into quitting college and demanding I move cross country with him.

[@brecht-W]

Hope everyone is well! hydrate and keep taking care of yourselves y'all!

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey hey Brecht hope all is good mate!

[@brecht-W]

@@MarkNarrations absolutely! Enjoying my first break since Christmas so can’t complain :)

[@mysterylovescompany2657]

Story 2: The law has a concept of Theft By Fraud/Deception, & this right here is exactly what it refers to. You're a thief, OP - from the other buyer, if not from the seller. I don't even know you, & I'm ashamed of you.

[@carlrood4457]

This should be read by every bridezilla. I could see a lot getting pissed about all this drama so close to the wedding, but this is focusing on the friendship. Weddings, and parties in general, are supposed to be about friends/family coming to celebrate something. If there's too much stress, drama, and arguing then you've missed the point. OP knows Cassie is mourning the relationship and put that first because a wedding is a day, but her marriage and her friendship are hopefully for a lifetime. Good to see her soon to be husband and other friends are in on helping cheer Cassie up.

[@doggolovescheese1310]

Lol no you don't owe anyone a proposal during your reception, that's not on you

[@starlingswallow]

Story one: you didn't ruin anything, Sophie ruined everything by wanting to propose at your wedding! End of story...

[@SkyeLimelight]

11:18 “Sometimes you have to look out for yourself” as justification for intentionally doing something wrong and criminal is the reddest flag imaginable

[@cyberspinosaur1145]

Sick of the 'adopt don't shop' thrown around. I'm all for adopting, and I've looked at adopting several cats, but the moment I mention I have snakes they think I'm going to use the cat as a meal for them. I get their concern but non of the noodles are big enough to even scare a cat

[@justine8387]

I would be more afraid of the cats hunting the snakes to be honest. I am sure you are a responsible owner and would keep all your pets safe. But seriously snakes are chill and won't hunt unless hungry, cats will hunt just for a laugh.

[@carlrood4457]

Story #3: I had to rewind the story to check out OP's age. These women are IN THEIR FORTIES!!!??? More than old enough to understand the concept of extended and blended families. Have none of them had a death in the family? OP tried to accommodate them going on the trip without her. Must have been the discounts.

[@WolfyFancyLads]

The reason the second story got the cold shoulder from her workplace is because she not only stole a cat she wasn't being sold (implying she can't be trusted) but also made the seller not only look a fool to the other buyer but made them think they're somehow wrong, which would make them doubt themselves and their memory. Not to mention, "Oh, it'll just be sold!", what if it wasn't? Plenty of animals are put down or abandoned, what if this wasn't different? No wonder everyone is pissed off.

[@Brizlebird]

Who the hell steals a cat???!!!!! Of course YTA!

[@jaymel4691]

I don't trust big public proposals, especially at someone else's wedding! It sounds like they've been having problems for a long time, OP did nothing wrong and her actions won't be what breaks them up. And for an "introvert", Sophie has some nerve, very demanding and entitled to ask such a thing of someone she barely knows (and doesn't seem to like much).

[@mikaq19]

When you want to propose at someone else’s wedding it not only shows how disrespectful and classless you are, but also that you don’t even care enough about your SO to give them their own special moment. It’s like they are an after-thought on someone else’s big event. Anyone with any dignity or self respect would give a hard NO in a situation like that and turn down a proposal made in such a thoughtless manner.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 3: Death in the family > Paying for friends trip

[@debbymccormack6525]

On story #2, she isn't really sorry. If she was, she would tell the seller the truth, not that she actually got a girl instead.

[@joeschmo622]

There are probably so many cats outside *right now* that can be given shelter, food, water, etc., even just having a safe haven in your backyard. A styrene-foam cooler can be made into an "igloo" shelter (lid as base, U-shaped cut for an opening on top) so they have somewhere to chillax when raining, snowing, etc. I got 2 (now indoor-only) that I took in off the streets, and am working on a 3rd who's already getting acclimated to me. They got hard lives, *try* to make it a bit easier for them.

[@CarbuncleYT]

How did the OP in story 2 write that and not think they were an AH? Like come on, even reading half way through that you could tell they stole that kitten. Some people are so fucking delusional they can’t even see when they clearly do wrong.

[@nikkid7838]

Story 2: most shelters will NOT allow you to let the cat outside near a road or not. It's on the paperwork you sign and agree to.

[@Allenluvable]

Story 2 pisses me off so much. So glad the comments tore OP a new one. Story 3- NTA. After my parents' divorce, the people they brought into our lives always made life harder than it already was. Just the thought stepparent that actually cared that much makes me tear up. Those kids aren't lucky their mom died, but lucky they have OP.

[@frith.calluna]

Story 2: OP, I think you typed your age the wrong way around.... 13 sounds much more believable than 31... Anyway this is gonna be a loooong comment... Here are some of my favorite (read: most infuriating) quotes from this post: - "I told her it was no big deal because the person who wanted a girl cat could look somewhere else." So you stole a cat meant for someone else because you suddenly decided you didn't want a boy anymore? For no reason at all? And now you expect the other person to just shrug and look for a cat somewhere else? Why didn't you do that yourself if it's so easy and clearly not a big deal? - "Gender doesn't matter for a cat." Okay so why are you going through all this trouble then? Clearly it matters to you. Enough that you would literally steal from someone. - "Sometimes you have to look out for yourself in life." You're choosing the gender of a kitten, not donating a kidney. Just be honest and admit that you're a selfish, lying thief. Honestly I think this is the worst quote of them all, because it really shows just how selfish and disconnected from reality OP is. It's all me me me me me! - "I don't understand how doing something so insignificant has made everyone so angry." Because guess what OP: just because you find it insignificant, doesn't mean everyone else does. But judging from how you seem to view being a selfish thief as some sort of victory in 'looking out for yourself in life', I'm not surprised by this attitude at all. Things only matter if they affect you personally, right? - "I asked my husband if he felt guilty for doing it and he reassured me that I shouldn't feel guilty about it." Surprise surprise, the husband is a selfish jerk as well! You two deserve each other

[@TheLilyMustang]

Story 1: OP telling about the proposal plan didn’t ruin anything. Telling Cassis about the plan gave Cassis the boost to finally open up.So I guess OP telling did ruin something, the gf’s abuse towards Cassie

[@rasheedabasheer4046]

“They are only your friends to take advantage of the benefits your presence provided” - my college social life in a nutshell.

[@theofficerfactory2625]

Story 1: You rock OP. Story 3: 1 million percent NTA. "Oh, those kids will never you yours." WTF!

[@LadyTarasque]

"I don't need your permission anyways." For proposal? Sure. But still needs OP's permission to attend in first place so...

[@madisonl3401]

Happy Friday Mark and Poppy! Give our Floof Nugget a big hug from us!

[@MarkNarrations]

Happy Friday Madison! And I will do

[@jovonpierce7610]

Story 3: Drop those so called "friends". You love your step kids and want to be there for them, nothing wrong with that and very loving and caring.

[@kakauling]

You stole someone else's cat! What if the real ow er had already bonded with that kitten. If I was one of your co-workers, I would go to HR and tell them what you had done, and let them know I could no longer trust you!

[@jennbrewster3912]

You NEVER propose at someone's engagement party, rehearsal dinner, wedding ceremony, or reception! By doing this you are taking the focus off the bride & groom this is their day! The day everything is about them! It is not only tacky but extremely disrespectful to propose in ANY of these situations get your day stop trying to highjack someone else's party for your proposal!!

[@animatorstanley]

Last story. If i were OPs friend, I'd tell her to go be with her family and tell the fake friends where they can shove it.

[@wraith176]

Geez that second story is ridiculous! That couple is so immature. But also it’s hard to find to cats these days? The numbers of strays and abandoned kitties around my town is ridiculous.

[@jackspring7709]

The Cat Story: OP - the seller knows you stole that cat - she didn't outright accuse you but she knows you stole that cat.

[@BraveryWing26]

Much like in Encanto, OP HAD to ruin Cassie's proposal. Cassie was never going to be happy in that marriage.

[@TheArnaa]

Yikes! OP needs to ditch those so called friends. All they care about is using OP for her connections.

[@jerriewyatt905]

Story 2… OP’s definitely an AH.. if the gender was insignificant, why did you switch OP? I hate, that someone that would do what you did , even has a pet.. Last Story… Good gravy, what a bunch of heartless witches! OP’s “ friends “, showed their true selves didn’t they!? As long as she was useful to what they wanted and they could take advantage of it , they were friends..