I Showed My Husband A Text His Mom Sent Me Causing Her To Be DISOWNED r/AITA Reddit Stories

[@pansprayers]

The husband is embarrassed, that's why he's avoiding OP. Also, her diabetes didn't make her pass out - the shock of being held accountable for the first time in her life did that.

[@Cel3ere5]

Excitement spikes glucose. She could have already had high sugar. The excitement just set it over. If she's in hospital, yes, her sugar is high.

[@princesssunshine874]

her blood sugar was probably all ready out of wack considering the crazy, angry, text.

[@LordDiscord]

That's not really a good enough excuse in my opinion. If, my partner did something while defending me, that caused a family member to be hospitalized and then turned around and blames me out of guilt, embarrassment whatever, they would be gone, period.

[@mage6475]

​@@LordDiscord Her husband never blamed her. He probably just needs time to himself to process everything

[@shells500tutubo]

@@Cel3ere5 High blood sugar does NOT cause anyone to faint. Only low blood sugar does, and rarely is someone hospitalized for high blood sugar unless they are a type 1 diabetic with ketoacidosis.

[@ohno8398]

'It's because of girl's like me, who ruin men's potential careers' well that professor had DEFINITELY done something fucked up at some point

[@pikachuneoncat6480]

Yeah, makes you wonder what kinda skeletons he's got in _his_ closet.

[@LupusArgentum]

And it's guys like that who think it's ok to force yourself on a woman who says no. "I gave you time to think it over, you should be grateful." Disgusting.

[@IvanScriptsEverything]

Yeah, as a guy myself, that statement boils my blood. People who make such statements don't deserve to be in the education field.

[@tabithavanderpool418]

And it's men like him that ruin potential careers for women

[@mariegarside8830]

Men harassing women, men sexually assaulting women need to be held accountable "I gave you time to think it over. You should be grateful. " That statement is a significant case of "magical penis" thinking.

[@Roedygr]

NASTY TEXT : Mother self incriminated in so many ways. She slung every insult she could think of regardless of the truth. She faked the swoon, echoing her own accusing you of faking illness. What a horrible woman.

[@susankaempfer8427]

What a horrible family. Her husband is now avoiding her?

[@tabithavanderpool418]

​@@susankaempfer8427 since we don't actually have an update my guess is he just felt super embarrassed and ashamed his mom would act like that and doesn't know how to go forward... Or he really was texting his ex and this is him blowing up to cover that up

[@SorenPenrose]

Give OP's husband a medal. That's the shiniest spine we've ever seen. "Don't wanna answer your phone?! No way, we're settling this right the fuck now." Good move, didn't give them time to build a defense. Def a keeper.

[@NCAnon]

Spine made of titanium. It might have been a bigger reaction than expected, but given how MIL started it, I'm okay with how husband took care of this before she could attempt to rug sweep [edit: typo]

[@naominagler7290]

I agree. Although I'm with Mark on being confused why he is now ignoring OP.

[@kellyalves756]

@@naominagler7290 “Avoiding.” He’s probably exhausted and mortified by the whole thing and is isolating himself to get his shit together. Back to that horrible, horrible family- Mom leaves a vitriolic hate text for OP which includes a gleeful admission that she’s neglecting their dog when they think she’s taking care of it, OP turns to her life partner for support, HE chooses to take the issue to Mom’s front door in the middle of the night and blows off Mom’s fainting trick ( I have a Mom like that- can’t express my support loudly enough) and somehow OP is the one who caused the rift? OP, YTA if you buy that bullshit. I’m tempted to call you TA for even questioning yourself. Enough with that nonsense.

[@Cookie25559]

@@kellyalves756 honestly I’m only sus of him because of what MIL said, it’s all very clear that what she said about the dog is true, so what about her knowing her son is chatting it up with her ex? It could just be a lie but the whole blurting all that out makes it seem more like she’s dumping all the dirt she knows on her to make her feel bad. And with the way he reacted doesn’t relieve any suspicions. I’ve seen how cheaters operate (few family members are 🤦🏾‍♀️) and I’m sure if he was the second he saw her busting him out he got mad and confronted her then started ignoring OP Out of guilt

[@Cookie25559]

@@kellyalves756 I hope my suspicions aren’t correct and MIL is just lying but honestly that’s just the way it looks to me. I hope all the intentions behind confronting MIL were pure and not because he felt like she snitched him out. Not trying to say he 100% did anything but yea lmao if it’s not how it seems in the story he deserves a cookie and a gold medal

[@AndyyWithAY]

The lack of empathy in Story 2 is astounding. He steals his wife's deceased son's money to go on a golfing trip.Clearly he is not grieving. They never even bonded

[@IsMgb45]

story 3

[@jamestown8398]

In all likelihood he was probably celebrating.

[@greendaywonka4872]

Yup Op shoupd get a second divorce and dumb "the golfer". They're typically bad news.

[@brokenrabbitsfoot]

That story honestly made me yell and cry. That is disgusting behavior and OP deserves better

[@iwantsifegold]

That professor is as much of a predator as the student. Op did the right thing on so many levels. Why would she place a misogynist guy like that in a position of power, so his predatory behavior escalated tours, someone even more vulnerable? Silence like what that professor is requesting from OP is the reason Me too grew to where it did.

[@Jesusblowsme666]

THANK! YOU! It really infuriated me hearing a professor say such a statement to a student. How dare he act like he has the moral high ground over a victim who stood up for themselves! He should be the one to feel really disappointed in himself for thinking that the suffering of others is less important than the career of predators. I would not be surprised if he has some skeletons in his closet. And the students nearby are just as disgusting as the professor himself, they are shaming someone who has been harassed. How does that even make sense? This victim blaming b.s. needs to stay in the past and people need to have a reality check because this topic should never be the subject of controversy.

[@yourmom69179]

This is how assholes like that have gotten away with this shit for millennia!!

[@feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644]

Me too was evil and vile. Fuck anyone who supports that

[@phyllisflitney133]

P

[@scrotuspotus6632]

sounds like woman splaining to me.

[@eliability]

Story 2: They seriously victim blamed OP when she was being harassed? That’s disgusting and unfair to OP at all. For the guy’s parents to not care about the harassment really shows who they are. NTA

[@DePhoegonIsle]

Yes, because the answer to ass hats is to take their job away... and not .. consoling or ya know an attempt to not inflict more damage than recieved.. but it's all good right? Imagine a female having her entire career destroyed because she insulted some guy? Lordie lue, I can see the headlines now and the sheer amount of 'you just hate women claims' that would flow from it.

[@kitkakitteh]

You’re a pig. He practically threatened her, verbally assaulted her, the sent all his ‘friends’ after her in person and online. He deserves every negative consequence of his actions. If he doesn’t see how that may affect his employment why should she?

[@LordDiscord]

​@@DePhoegonIsle Maybe I don't know, don't be an asshat, then you have nothing to worry about

[@barbaral743]

​@DePhoegonIsle

[@sarahmaxima]

​@@DePhoegonIslesexual harrasment is not the same as being insulted once you fucking incel. A single insult is not the same as a multi person campaign of harrasment.

[@exposedshadowstruth5926]

*For Story 2* NEVER APOLOGIZE FOR BEING HARASSED BY A MAN WHO CAN'T TAKE "NO" AS THE FIRST, LAST AND ONLY ANSWER! PERIOD!

[@AndyyWithAY]

Nothing about this is a misunderstanding and none of this is OP's fault. Going right to the SO is the right thing to do. That took MIL's power away. All of this is MIL's fault. OP is NTA

[@SorenPenrose]

Can we give OP's husband a prize? They didn't answer so he drove over there. Didn't give them a chance to build a bs defense for bullying his wife.

[@pippo17173]

@@SorenPenrose I hope him avoiding op is just trying to process what the family did and is ashame he didnt catch on sooner.

[@SorenPenrose]

@@pippo17173 I missed that sentence the first time. Husband is in a vulnerable position right now, and you know damn well that the whole family is calling/texting him nonstop to demonize his wife and shame him for siding with her. They will likely throw an ultimatum at him. Family is toxic af.

[@greendaywonka4872]

@@SorenPenrose um sorry but I strongly believe the dude was mad only because his mom said he has been cheating with his ex. Otherwise he would've put an end to his mom's nastiness along time ago. He's just mad she exposed him and is now avoiding op. Makes perfect sense.

[@SorenPenrose]

@@greendaywonka4872 While it is a viable theory, there isn't any evidence to support that apart from the claims of an unstable woman.

[@CensorshipVictim]

Story 3: My god, this is so disgusting on so many levels that I don't think OP's current husband is human. I could never forgive this ever! OP needs to DTMFA ASAP.

[@marshawargo7238]

His overwhelming grief and sorrow my hiney! I'll bet that he was laughing with his golfing buddies at OP & her ex's stupidity about his extortion of "the little bastard's" emergency money😢!!! I do hope that OP gets the money and more also Everyone finds out (news outlets) just what kind of guy he is😮!!! Wish there was an update!!!

[@ssm090]

Story 1: I NEED an update on this one lol. Why is the husband avoiding her now?? It feels like he wasn’t standing up for his wife, more like maybe he was pissed off his mom outed him for speaking to his ex…I could be wrong of course but that’s my guess.

[@catandrobbyflores]

I'm betting she just mentioned the ex to get op to think she was being cheated on so she'd leave.

[@jmjedi923]

I think he just feels a little embarrassed by it all, for all we know OP wrote this 5 minutes after he got back so he could just want some alone time to think sbout things since he just basically cut himself off from the rest of the family

[@marshawargo7238]

This was my first thought too! He cut off Mummy Dearest because she told on him. I Really Hope I'm wrong & he is madly in love with OP, their child & their life enough to tell mom to GTFO & anyone who sides with her❤!!!

[@rylashadow18]

That second one was in their right and also needs to follow up with a complaint about that professor. Anyone whose saying you had no right to do this needs to remember he not only harassed you but didn't take kindly to being told no. As far as anyone with rights that goes to both sides of the sex and in between you don't get to invalidate someone's abuse just because the abuser didn't think ahead about the consequences. Go straight to the dean, document anything that shows this professor's unprofessional behavoir and make sure that your harasser and this poor excuse of a professor are tossed to the streets.

[@pippo17173]

Isnt it mega disturbing when he is going for a government job and he is showing massive preditor behavior that is being expose now of days. He deserve it.

[@Resilient_Sage88]

1000% agree!

[@Madmark50484]

I disagree. She wasn’t the butthole but I think the punishment was too severe. He needed his wings clipped not killed. We have a culture where we would rather punish someone rather than help them. I would definitely want something just not that.

[@skyetan86]

@@Madmark50484 His actions reap consequences. I don't know what to tell you, that's just how it works and should work. It's the real world, not their mother's house where they get out of everything. Don't want to be blacklisted? Don't harass people. It's simple. It would've cost him nothing if he just accepted the rejection.

[@Madmark50484]

@@skyetan86 At no point did I say he shouldn't receive consequences in fact I said he needed his Wings clipped. I just think the punishment is too severe for the crime. The trouble is very hard as a young man to know how to "go about it the right way" and mistakes get made. I guess you would rather gloat in joy of the single man on the streets drinking and being ostracised from society.

[@SLTheOneAndAwesome19]

Story 1: Holy shit, what a toxic family. How did MIL not think OP would share the message she sent with her husband?? MIL needs to learn that her words have consequences and she just reaped what she sowed.

[@jenicdarling9425]

Seriously like did she except op to keep that text a secret from op’s husband even when they claimed their son was having a affair with his ex?! Like seriously?! I thought it was common sense by now that with couples are responsible for handling any issues between their family & partner. The issues concerning MIL is BECAUSE of MIL! I wonder if op’s SIL knows the full story like knows MIL’s whole text because no doubt she wouldn’t act & do what she claims op should’ve if the same thing happened to her by the MIL! And yeah from MIL’s text I wouldn’t put it past her to fake fainting because she knew she was in the wrong so faked poor health by “fainting” to manipulate everyone to treat her better & be easy on her after it got out of what she did

[@carmenbarrera80]

#2 OP needs to report the professor. I saw on the news about this collage that hid a lot of r@p¢s and shame the victim. I think this guy can escalate to this to be honest I am sick and tired of teacher and collage protecting man who do this 💩 to a woman.

[@marshawargo7238]

If OP had backed off, it would have looked like it Was a vendetta against him just to put herself in a better position for the internship😮!!! Because nobody remembers the retraction, just the accusation😢!!!

[@alyzu4755]

Funny how the victims are always blamed. First OP is blamed for her MIL's crappy behavior. Second OP is harassed for "ruining" her classmates future. Newsflash: They both ruined their own relationships/futures. And that professor needs to be reported. Maybe go to the media if the university won't do anything. Story 3: I hope ex wins everything back. And I hope OP kicks her current husband to the curb. No, he pulled a stunt that is utterly unforgivable and is trying to play the victim and guilt trip her.

[@FlamesofJagger]

Last story- ESH. Husband really did find a woman exactly like his mother. Both are stubborn and can't stand each other and he and the kids are stuck in the middle.

[@18Hongo]

I was thinking as the story progressed, "Boy, we say Freud was wrong about everything, but..."

[@ScarabD]

"It's because of girls like op] that potential careers are ruined" is not the flex against Op that the professor thinks it is. It literally proves why OP did the right thing. Anybody who is willing to treat people like that when they're rejected should NOT be in any position of authority. Mam is just upset that her perfect spoiled little baby is being called out for his bull.

[@songohan3321]

Story 4 just oozes high levels of extreme assholian behavior. I could feel it in every word, phrase, and sentence.

[@Deergon]

Hell I could feel it in every letter

[@scheneli000]

Hey I see you over on Rslash! Haha. Always appreciate the comments 👍🏻

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

You did not ruin his so called "bright future", HE DID THAT. Harassment, is a major problem in our society. Don't think for a moment this was his first occurrence, he's done this before and don't think by you reporting him he'll stop, these kind of people feel Entitled" to treat others however they want and expects them to lay down and take it. Bravo, you did the right thing.

[@techterror1282]

Harassment required repeated unwanted communication not a single unsavory conversation.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 1: *NTA* i’m really tired of hearing how the MIL automatically hates their DIL and always tries to start fight/dominate the DIL to be the dominant woman in sons life. It’s always narrowed down to emotional inc3$t where MIL needs to be the *only* important woman in her son’s life. Hearing all the shit MIL said to OP, all the insults and trying to start arguments, falls in that category. *I’m not sure Mark read the story or not* but 0P‘s started dating someone in college then his mother *enrolled in the same college* and *got a dorm close by* so she can always keep an eye on her son…. Can you imagine that type of craziness? You go to college, meet a guy you like, start dating, then all of a sudden his mom enrolls at your school so she can size you up. I’m pretty sure MIL fainting on the spot was her razee nominated acting. (correct me if I’m wrong but the only information about MIL being in the hospital was from the family so they’re probably pretending she’s in the hospital to make OP feel like shit) The rest of the family is just pure gaslighting. OP had to show that message to her husband. OP did not cause the damage, it was her psycho MIL not minding her own business. But the fact she abused/torture/neglected their pet out of spite because she doesn’t like her DIL is extremely disturbing and I can’t imagine how she’ll treat their children if they’re left alone with her.

[@joreyn7656]

For story 4, it honestly just sounds like OP hates her mother in law. That was really my only takeaway from that one.

[@dolleyes9232]

she "allows" him to have two days a year that they spend with his mom.... like....the fuck??? i feel so bad for her husband and her kids.

[@Chaoticbunnii]

@@dolleyes9232 I’m sure she is not stopping him from spending time with her on his own or even with the kids and without her. She just doesn’t want to spend time with her personally, and wants to limit the time they spend together. That’s better than most bad MIL relationships we have seen on the subreddit. Also, is no one going to comment about the fact that she wanted to spend their first Christmas as a married couple alone? THAT’S NORMAL! Newlyweds always want to spend as much time alone as they want.

[@bautistalover]

@@Chaoticbunnii yeah and the consequences of that his mother who has NO FAMILY outside of her son had to spend it alone. It was total ah behavior and she knew it. OP should’ve asked her husband how he felt instead of dictating everything. Not one of her decision reflected that her husband actually agreed it was more so that poor man just went along with whatever OP said. Honestly it sounds like MIL has reasons to not like OP.

[@veezopolis]

That's the only thing that OP has to say

[@thrillereighties8241]

@@bautistalover I think the MIL has herself to blame for not being welcome. Who wants to spend Christmas with a toxic and moody MIL spoiling the day? Not me.

[@wildfyah]

A whole 25min drive is a problem? Jeez. That poor husband

[@AllistorMichelle]

story 1: nta your husband had EVERY right to know how his mom was treating you. plus, i don't think the diabetes caused the faint. heart attack maybe cause fainting but no doctor i went to for my diabetes warned me about not getting into yelling fights or i could faint. story 2: nta that guy and his friends deserved to be punished. in high school i was threaten and the school took the guys side as hes a jock. this professor p needs to get fired as he's just as bad as the kid that got in trouble story 3: nta why did this 'current husband' have accest to the funds in the first place? not saying he was right to spend because no he didn't have that right. i just want to know. i do believe this is grounds for divorce. he took that money to go overseas for a damn golfing trip?! and blamed it on your grieving?! wtf is this man smoking

[@Katsufon]

People who can't handle rejection absolutely should not be in any position of power. Ever.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 4: ESH except the husband. Man, I wouldn't want to come to Op either. OP has absolutely no empathy and to tell him his mom doesn't love him because she is doing THE EXACT SAME THING AS OP was way too far. I'm not saying MIL acted well in this story either, because they both sound insufferable. Sounds like dude married his mom, they are butting heads.

[@kennethsjvold9212]

After the last comment from OP how the hell is OP the AH. ?

[@stacyragland3123]

I thought the very same thing

[@TsukiKageTora]

You’re forgetting that MIL so infatuated with her new boytoy that she gave a dangerous toy to her grandchild. I’d hate to be at MIL’s too

[@zerobolt9506]

@@TsukiKageTora agreed

[@toothless3835]

It's easier for a 50+ year old to go to the house of the couple with kids. Than it is for people to pack kids up and go to someone else's house. Especially toddlers. And she was leaving the country having the argument. She had the argument while knowing she wasn't going to be around, and didn't open up with "Don't worry about it, Son, I'm not going to be here. We'll do a different day." Not wanting to be around people you don't like isn't childish. WHen you're around them, you behave, but there is absolutely no reason, family or not, to be around people you don't feel comfortable being around. That goes for both the mother and OP.

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#1 NTA She fired the first shot and he needed to see how she is mean and sneaky. her fainting was the realization son backed you and not her. Tell all the others to kick rocks and shove it and share the text with them all.

[@MsUnamusedNerd]

STORY 3: *NTA* how dare her current husband feel entitled to take money from his stepson‘s emergency fund so he can go on a golfing trip. OP should definitely reconsider whether or not she wants to stay married to this man. if he “needed support and to get stuff off his chest“ he could’ve done something that didn’t involve stealing money that did not belong to him. And didn’t current husband made it clear that he had no connection towards his stepson so what is he grieving over? He is gaslighting & play the victim. Also a golfing trip in a different country?… What was he really doing?

[@standinthegsp6858]

“I gave you time to think it over...” “I thought it over. It’s a DEFINITE no!”

[@AndyyWithAY]

I'm going with ESH in the last story. OP and MIL both sound completely deranged and insufferable

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA OP didn't "ruin his career", HE did by violating the rules. OP didn't report his behavior, she just called it out. A higher student reported him and OP didn't lie when asked by the administration. She also didn't have to forgive it. Professor Pwas absolutely disgusting and needs to be reported. All OP did was say no to his advances and HE HARASSED HER. If he career is ruined that's because HE acted like a giant asshole and HE violated the behavior rules HE was bound by. The professor should be reported. And if men's careers are ruined by this behavior, maybe other men will not take part in it, neh Also, if he's done this to OP, who else had he done it to? You KNOW she isn't the only one. This behavior doesn't just pop up. It starts slowly until they know they can get away with it.

[@juliemcgugan1244]

Absolutely! Glad she held him to account and hope she reports prof as well!

[@louellacharlton4425]

This is so true. However someone said he was a male chauvinist and got it all wrong. That is not chauvinistic behavior! That is narrisistic/sociopath behavior.

[@feministpicnicfallsapartaf3644]

This is why more and more men hate women

[@XionSteel]

Surprised that none of the comments addressed the husband ignoring op now in story 1. I wonder why, is he also feeling responsible and is kinda blaming op for that happing too? That line confuses me otherwise.

[@mommac8215]

Story 2 professor needs to be taken to the dean and you need to file harassment and sexist charges against him. Don’t let his power and influence make you cower, OP! Story 3- stepdad says he never felt anything towards the child and then excuses his behavior saying he’s grieving?!?! Abusive opportunist and I’m so so sorry for your loss

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 4: no one is going to say the MIL not caring that she gave her grandson a choking hazard of a toy for Christmas and not really get her son or OP anything (by the sounds of it) and chose to ignore them to sleep or spend time with her boyfriend? Why invite them over if you’re not going to spend time with them? That makes her an asshole and I get why OP doesn’t want to go over there again because of that experience. But she and MIL need to compromise. Day at MIL’s and day at OP’s or a nice dinner out or something that isn’t them at each other’s houses which they don’t like

[@redacted8005]

I feel like it's the husband's responsibility to foster a relationship between his kids & his mother. If MIL really lives 25 min away, why can't her son just pack up the kids & go without his wife? Why does OP need to be there? Husband is also a parent. He can take the kids by himself if it's so important. Also: MIL wasn't going to be around during the holidays so I don't get why the conversation was even being dragged out.

[@TheNormExperience]

“Apparently at my college this behavior is labeled as harassment.” Noooo, that behavior is labeled as harassment because that’s what it IS. It would be called such anywhere. NOW you need to also report your professor for trying to force you into dropping your completely valid complaint. That’s despicable! If you don’t report them the probably WILL take it out on you, so it’s self-preservation.

[@queencars802]

Ohhh this makes me remember I have an AITA story 🙄😂 My brother and I used to be super close, we were almost inseparable! He always needed my help and stupid me always did even if it put me in a bad spot. Well he ended up moving 2 hours away and before he even did I told him I wouldn't be going up that far, I dont like driving and anxiety isnt my friend. Well I figured it would be okay because our family lives all around me as well as his wife's family, literally 5 min drive for most. Long story short he moved there and kept asking me to go visit and I said no explained why but said since hes nearby all the time I'd love to meet him. Well they got pregnant about a year ago, my mom called and said my brother had something to tell me. I called him and he acted confused. Said nope theres nothing to tell so I shrugged it off. 2 weeks later my mom got annoyed and just said they're pregnant, apparently he didnt want to tell me because I hadn't gone up to see his new home. It's a 2 way street, it shouldn't always be me trying to go see him, only time he makes the effort is when he wants something. AITA for not going to visit my brother 2 hours away when I get anxiety driving long distances? I also have a dog that is very needy and I could only stay for maybe an hour then drive another 2 hours home. I dont think I'm the AH because hes literally nearby every other day! But I'm curious

[@stephaniewilson3955]

Your brother is a tool. Go no contact.

[@lewid019]

Nope

[@Wh00000]

Story 2: First off, the guy's future is NOT ruined. He's young, he's got time to correct his behavior and do whatever he needs to do to have another chance at his career. A setback caused by his OWN behavior is not going to ruin his future if he actually learns from this and seeks out other opportunities in his field. Everyone guilt tripping her is taking it out of proportion.

[@TrippySensei25]

She said he can't get a government job because of the suspension thats why the professors wanted her to downplay it a bit. They should of had him apologize to her face he was an ass for calling her names because she didn't want to date him, I think it would of been a teachable moment for him. Now he can't get an internship which will effect his chances of getting a good job

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - OP is NTA. Whether she showed hubby the text, or he could have seen it on her phone. Let's be real; MIL created this entire problem, got caught doing it, and decided to do something and go to hospital. Thereby playing on the sympathies of the rest of the family and making OP look bad. MIL did this all on her own. No one did it to her.

[@itsneverduck.8691]

First story: NOPE! NTA!! Not at all!! My mother in law is a jerk too. She pulls this same crap by sending me texts, thinking I won’t show my husband. Sike! Every nasty thing she sends me gets copied, pasted and sent to him. THEN she has the nerve to get pissed that I tell him! I’m a pretty chill person and I’ve let that woman and family be disrespectful to me to a point I had enough. The funny thing is, the only reason they see their son is because I would bring him when I went to see them. He has given me explicit “permission” that I can stop trying with his family. Done! They’re going to realize soon enough the only reason they saw him was because of me. So, no, NTA at all. People who condone terrible behavior from people who’re old enough to know better can go get bent too. I applaud the communication she and her husband have, as well as his shiny spine! He’s probably avoiding because he’s so frustrated about it all. But never deal with it yourself because that’s when things get twisted and warped into something that is no where near the truth of what happened.

[@cheskydivision]

I’d also report the professor. Sick of victims always being blamed. What par5 of no do men not understand?

[@fcold9402]

2. NTA. You did not get him in trouble, his own actions got him in trouble. You tried to let him down kindly but he is such a "nice guy" he started bullying you, not the other way around.

[@Kzinix]

NTA for story 1 and 2. This is just common sense 101: if the truth about your toxicity (OP showing husband MIL's nasty text in story 1, OP standing up for herself after harassment in story 2) turns people against you, then the problem really is you and not the person who decided to speak out. I hate it when people try to blame others for their own nasty behaviour.

[@Guitarbarella]

Why do i feel the first MIL set that whole thing up. She knew her son would have a go at her so she faked a fainting spell knowing family would turn on OP.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

1) Ignoring everything else and all the other problems, what about the dog? I would be pissed over that, she didn't even say she gave the dog food or water, are they blaming the dog as well for causing issues between the husband and mother-in-law?? Please cut them all out, block them all, move away and make sure they lose all ways to contact you and make sure that they NEVER see any of your children ever again.

[@cynicalminion]

2: report that professor to the people that you reported him to. you may not LEGALLY be protected from retaliation, but it sounds like they would definitely be on your side if the guy DOES make trouble... and you KNOW that if you had agreed to forgive/date the guy (who got himself suspended, btw), he'd be holding his "teacher's pet" status with the guy who teaches your required class over you any time you tried to disagree with him... any professor that shows that kind of favoritism has no business being in charge of a required class. by all means, teach something that fulfills the requirement, but if everyone has to take your class, you don't get to play favorites...

[@miaposamarie226]

Story 2 makes me angry. This is the effect of patriarchy, making the man more important than any woman's safety and needs. Men like that should be punished and she should report that professor. Its men like him ruin their own lives. Theyre better off in hell.

[@missmax2492]

Story 4 YTA. A 25 minute drive???? My maternal grandma lived almost 2 hours away and my paternal one lives like 6 hours away on the other side of the country. What kind of foolishness and entitlement.

[@Mscrimsondragon]

You didnt cause anything, she brought everything on herself. She "fainted" to get her baby boy back on her side and committed to the manipulation by going to the hospital. NTA.

[@ThePinkBinks]

Wow these stories make me appreciate my MIL more and more each time. So grateful she’s awesome.

[@catandrobbyflores]

I agree. My mother in law is awesome too.

[@honeyblood39]

Story 3: I find it horrible how her husband used the “you are my wife, you need to support me” argument, when he was on vacation instead of being there for her when her son just died. Although she said she needed space, he should be near her if she needed anything.

[@selbarton]

1. He's out of line in his response, but so is the stupidity of blaming diabetes for her fainting over being verbally attacked. She might pay attention to hubby's response to not liking what people do. The kid is going to have dad find something he hates and show up wherever the kid is to rage, scream, and yell verbal abuse at it. None of them are good people. If OP finds his lack of anger management okay for adults, that's stupid enough, but that same behavior is also going to hit kids, and staying means she finds that valid treatment of children too. 2. Time to turn in the professor for abusive, sexist behavior. The boys club is unleashed and running rampant. Keep going back because he is already doing damage. 3. Why does the new husband have any access to son's college fund? 4. Really can't be bothered to go 25 minutes with a kid for time with family... Why does she think the woman should want to go to her house when it is completely clear she does not want her mil in her home? She and mil are using hubby as a tug toy where both are trying to get rid of the other so he is only focused on her. She ever feels superior about telling her hubby he is permitted an hour to go see his mother.

[@AJ-qe5xj]

Good for the girl for reporting the guy harassing her. Might save another girl in the future, hopefully he learns a lesson.

[@kellyalves756]

Story 4: TTA Poor guy is like a battleground these two broads are fighting on top of.

[@DameNickum]

It is okay to TELL on BOYS. It’s okay to report a boy for doing wrong. Continue turning a blind eye to sexual harassment, and it continues. Thank you for not standing for it. He messed himself up and should get the consequences. NTA

[@AndyyWithAY]

Story 2 absolutely NTA. You had no interest in him and you told him no politely. Report the teacher for sure. You did everything correctly. It's so frustrating that women are blamed just for existing. R ruined his own future. Calling people names because they refuse a date is harassment and unacceptable

[@Passions5555]

How about that Professor P taking her aside to berate her though? And her friends saying she took it too far? Jeez, what country is she from?

[@enkiimuto1041]

Story 2: Asking a colleague in college out is not something bad. Harassing a colleague for it and spreading rumors should be punished.

[@fcold9402]

1. Oh mom, don't you know the dog also belongs to the husband? I mean that alone should get you banned. The rest is pretty horrible too. Sounds like mom created irreparable damage with her son AND then went with fake sickness for sympathy. NTA.

[@pbiffy1535]

His mother lives 25 minutes away ? Why can’t she come over in the morning, open presents, have an early dinner, & then leave. What does it being the first Christmas have to do with it ? Christmas is for family, the whole family. Wife sounds super controlling.

[@juanhaines7295]

Story 1 I hope we get an update eventually.

[@MarkNarrations]

Yeah I hope so too Juan!

[@lynsthoughts3576]

Fake FAINTING because she was BUSTED

[@Standinthegap4ever]

He stole from a dead child…. He not only deserves a lawsuit, he deserves to be a divorced stepdad.

[@raayvenwolfgirl5539]

Story 1) No. Nta. That MiL is a monster, and deserves what she got. The rest of the family showed their true colors with their reactions. Block them, after sending them a screenshot of what that lady sent.

[@ewanmcgregorofficial3641]

S2 NTA and what about that professor and the friends he had Harass you? They should get fired and suspended respectively. What an ass.

[@TheRealVenna]

Why is it men think them asking out a woman who has clearly no romantic interest, says no twice, then feel it's appropriate to call the woman horrible, demeaning names, accuse them of being a 'slut' (if they were a 'slut' they probably would have already done the deed with the guy and moved on to someone else) and tell them they should feel grateful for the guy creeping on them? There is no way to make logical sense out of that mind set and behavior. People are allowed to tell you no, for whatever reason they have for doing so, and degrading someone for saying no is just so much small d energy!

[@crowdemon_archives]

Some humans are clearly reincarnated roosters lol

[@standinthegsp6858]

Ask them if they realize these type of people escalate their behavior & if they are willing to take responsibility when he actually physically attacks (molests) someone

[@SaphireSalvatore940]

Story 2: NTA and jesus christ report that Professor! Absolutely garunteed he WILL sabotage your education!!!

[@pippo17173]

The first story should be posted in r/justnoMIL. The mother in law is showing so much emotional incest that it's not even funny.

[@Gloria-ro4vn]

You didn't create the problem, you MIL did that all by herself.

[@melodykubiak5850]

In the closed captioning for a comment on the first story there was a funny mistake. For the phrase "...framing her own son as a cheater" the closed captioning reads "...framing her own son as a cheetah."

[@crowdemon_archives]

He's a speedy boi

[@browniewin4121]

1) If your MIL was nasty to you and insulting you, abuses your dog, it is only reasonable you let your husband know. NTA. She got what she deserved, she is the one who caused irreparable harm to her relationship with her son, not you. She is vile ... going NC with them all is the thing to do. You owe no one an apology. I hope your husband will not hold this against you; I think he just needs time to decompress after this. Your husband should share that nastiness from his mother with all the other family members saying this is why he want's nothing more to do with her, and the same for them if they support her. If they do, block them all and go on with your life. 2) Too bad OP that somebody does not know how to take no for an answer and is nasty and abusive. It is good his harassment came to light and that he will have consequences for his behaviour. DO NOT allow yourself now to be harassed by the person who considered him their pet student. You are not a bully, you are being bullied. Go up the chain of command and do not let that instructor harass and abuse you. Document, document, document and make them also have consequences. Good luck OP, I'm proud of you for doing the right thing to not just accept this. 3) So sorry OP for the loss of your child, and OMG, what sort of husband would 'steal' this money and abandon you so he could go play, when you are grieving and needed him. He is awful and I hope you leave him and do sue to get the money back. He is despicable, get away from him, he can add nothing positive to your life. 4) It is unfortunate MIL can't manage to come visit at your home rather than expect you to pack up a small children and go to her so she can then pretty much ignore her family, but you have made it clear you dislike her and made her unwelcome so I'm not sure you are the most accurate reporter. MIL sounds awful, but so were you for saying what you did, especially when you saw your husband wanting you to stop, for that YTA. You hurt your husband and made the situation worse.

[@deettekearns9092]

Story 2 - The guy threatened OP when she turned him down the second time. Why oh why do people bully the people that the victims? I will never understand. In addition, even if OP got out of the situation with guy unscathed, he would have most likely done this to other woman, thinking it was okay/he could get away with it.

[@barbaral743]

My maternal grandparents didn't drive. My dad would drive to their house to pick them up and bring them to our house. Return journey: rinse, repeat. Never a complaint

[@YoYo-gt5iq]

This is helping me see that even if I have valid complaints about a child's SO, nothing good can come of it unless there is real danger to someone - like intervention type of stuff

[@kathleenmcfarlane2555]

Story 2: Report the professor and the students who are harassing you.

[@musicallydisneyamvs6731]

Story 2.) NTA. However, OP needs to get NEW friends.

[@jacegallagher8589]

Story 3: NTA. The money raised for your son was between you and ex, not your husband, to use. Your husband saying he is grieving is just a manipulation tactic. He used you for a free golf trip. He did not even attempt to ask you. Also, a parent losing their child is THE WORST experience possible for a human to experience. It is not part of the natural order for a child to pass before the parents. This is a pain you will NEVER get over. Your husband shows he does not truly love you. DO NOT HAVE KIDS WITH HIM. Get a divorce, like NOW!

[@TruthSayer2007]

The amount of gaslighting from everyone, including the husband is out of this world. Leave OP!!!! Just run away and don’t look back.

[@justkali97]

Story 1: I'd have sent the screen shot of the text to everybody in the family, to everyone in MiL's congregation, I'd be posting it on every social media and mailing it to congress, just to make sure everybody saw what kind of slimy, sleezy, psychotic person MiL is

[@maddy8328]

Story 2, OP never flirted back and turned him down. She is the victim, not him. "Girls like me are why potential careers of men are ruined" so harassed women ruin men's career's? GOOD. They're careers SHOULD be ruined.

[@annanas9122]

Story 4: unless OP is lying about everything, both she and MIL suck.

[@virtualatheist]

MiL would be alone for Christmas... Then spent the day cuddling her boyfriend? Am I the *only person* who picked up on that? NTA!

[@nilianstroy]

Story 1... mother is so deluded that she never imagined that op would confront her husband about the ex, and mention where she got info about it...

[@egalitarian2207]

Mark, you’re a joy as always - just letting you know that you forgot to add a trigger warning for the loss of a child for the 3rd story. Don’t blame yourself for this, I know your heart is always in the right place - but I wanted to be a friend and let you know to keep in mind for the next videos :) much love. Keep yourself safe.

[@try1447]

That profesor should be sued by the victims, i bet that she is not singular.

[@jesterbrown90]

Story 2: NTA. You had the receipts to prove his bad behavior. You didn't ruin his careen out of spite. You defended yourself when he tried to slander you.

[@paigeknight5844]

I am always surprised that people claim that by calling someone out on their behaviour causes damage like no.... the text the mother in law sent caused the damage, not OP and her husband calling her out on it. If you don't want what you say to come back and bite you in the ass, don't say it then.

[@ShatoraDragondore]

Story 1: A cookie says OP is not the same race as Hubs and MIL. That level of hate and Dirty comments seam to have a lot of racist undertones.

[@videofan1010]

I hate to admit this but I thought this as well.

[@jacegallagher8589]

Story 3 Addon: To those telling OP to join ex in lawsuit against husband, if OP is in the U.S. she cannot do that. Spouses have laws preventing them from testifying against each other. Her soon to be 2nd ex husband could claim spousal protection. This applies in both criminal and civil law. Unfortunately this means she cannot help her ex either because ANY help she gives him will be fruit of the poisonous tree and he will lose the law suit. The ONLY exception to spousal privilege is in the case of financial, physical or mental abuse TOWARDS OTHER SPOUSE OR CHILD. OP does not legally meet this criteria. Even giving ex anymore info can cause the lawsuit to be lost. She would have to be divorced first. By divorced, I mean the official divorce, not a simple separation.

[@oakenshadow6763]

There is a movie called Promising Young Weman. It is about how wemans' futures are thrown aside in favor of the future of men. That is what this is. He harrassed you. He got what he earned.

[@Standinthegap4ever]

Imagine how many women & men-- because he would have harassed anyone, regardless of gender, who got in his way-- have potentially been saved by letting this behavior continue

[@NightcoreNewbie]

Story 2. I would recommend reporting all those people shitting on OP as well. No professor is allowed shame people for reporting incidents like this and if OP doesn't report it, the professor will probably do something to OP anyway.

[@cpaul9269]

Story 2 - I'm ALL fired up on this one. Not only is OP NOT NOT NOT the AH, but professor Dickenshitz should be reported for what he said to you in the hall. Any chance you recorded it? Awe man - it's like it's 1950 again....argh!

[@Phantombucketmouse]

story 4: Disagree with the YTA . I have a MIL like this where she refuses to visit us on our terms. First it was bc we didn't have our own dedicated place, then it was bc it was too far and she "wasn't comfortable" in our home. We literally scoured the house top to bottom, purchased new everything and prioritised our guest room refurb over fixing my office and the only bathroom in the house with a tub bc we needed to make her comfortable. They have visited 4 times in 13 years and we have visited more than quadruple that amount in the same time, even when we were on a single minimum wage income and had to make the 12 hour drive all in one go.

[@fcold9402]

3. NTA. He stole money that was not his to have some "fun". He should be ashamed of himself and should be sued for the return of that money. Overwhelming grief and sorrow, gosh i guess golf solves that? Good lord.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 3: NTA this dude...what an absolute asshole. He STOLE a fund that belonged to her dead son. He is a liar, a thief, and a horrible partner. He left on a trip with money he stole while SHE WAS GRIEVING HER SON. Then he said "bUt i'M gRiEvInG tOo" after making it clear he didn't actually care about the kid. OP needs to divorce this dude, yesterday. Also in addition to being sued he should be reported to the police

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#3 - OP is NTA. Fry current husband's ass in court; what he did is just so callused and narcissistic - it was all about him and his overwhelming grief. Bullshit!

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Hey you yes you remember to take care of yourself gosh darn it, you are always valid, and I love you and care about you so please take care of yourself 💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗

[@z0mb1egutzz]

Story 1: NTA. What the fuck is her issue? She also admitted to abusing your guys’s dog. Your husband also made his own choice to go over there but why the hell is he avoiding you??? Story 2: NTA. That’s harassment and you probably saved a woman he could have harassed at his internship. Story 3: NTA. That is also a total fucking deal breaker. Story 4: ESH. God i cant even begin to explain this bullshit.

[@paulclay4229]

Story 4: she lets her husband pick when he can see his mother? Yikes

[@dinowolf359]

I think in story 1 hubby is just processing everything, that's probably why he's distant from op right now

[@deadhead8323]

Story 4: " He can go visit her for an hour" wow thanks warden. She even tries to dictate how long he can go visit his mother. His mom does sound like a pain but it looks like his wife is worse. And after all the comments she was getting that were pointing out how much of an AH she is. She only gets defensive on an irrelevant question. I think she was just expecting overwhelming vindication but got massive scrutiny instead. She will not take any of these comments under consideration. She's an AH all around.