I Singled Out One Friend Out Of Our Group To NOT Invite To My Wedding - AITA Reddit Stories

[@DivaViews]

If Mark announced his pregnancy, I would have questions.

[@SilverMKI]

Like "what type of waffle is it?" :D

[@insideAdirtyMind]

Congratulations Mark!

[@condorboss3339]

I'd demand a live podcast from the hospital room.

[@nikkiwhray1598]

If Mark ever gets pregnant, he can feel free to announce wherever and whenever he wants!

[@carolroberts4614]

If my other half and I ever get married(not likely, I'm 68 and he's older) Mark can sing his pregnancy announcement at my wedding!

[@whatsanenigma]

Mark, if YOU ever find yourself pregnant, you have permission to announce that any time - even mid vows if you're so inclined.

[@aelminiatures]

Vicar: "if anyone knows a reason why these two should not be married" Mark: "Yes my miss's is preggers"

[@stephaniewilson3955]

Third story: the last comment made me furious. To suggest that a 6 year old would not remember the first man to be a father to him is ignorant and belittling of the child. That commentor should crawl back under the stone they sneaked out of.

[@lsmmoore1]

And maybe they should read one story, any story, that features an orphan as the protagonist. Literally every protagonist in those stories (of which there are many) treasures some kind of memory or gift from the parent they lost. Like, seriously, the whole parent present thing even shows up in Land Before Time, and that's dinosaurs - they wouldn't be able to give that many presents.

[@gypsygem9395]

So agree with you

[@izzisart]

Ikr? There seems to be a trend in some Reddit stories where people seem to believe anyone under 8 won't remember anything happening ever, and that's seriously not the case. Pretty much once they're out of the toddler stage, assume there's a high chance something like this will be remembered and held onto.

[@BritInvLvr]

Shoot. I’m old and I remember when I was six. That commentor might not due to drugs. I dunno.

[@itsjustme7487]

OP is a nasty woman and a total AH. Her son loved that boy and Is the only child Adam will ever have.

[@ceeshnia]

Okay, but I am mad about people being like "get over it/you overreacted" about this person yelling and berating someone who is visibly upset, crying even. "Grow up".... what? This person verbally assaulted her in front of an audience, AND teachers and NOBODY defended her. Making her rethink her emotions to that happenstance could be detrimental. Best of luck to her.

[@lordgooonar2199]

Yeah I saw that yta comment and was kinda fine with it till the end which made it all make sense why that girl was singled out she probably always says stuff in angry even in passing cuz that grow up comment was so her taking out her anger on op.I hate the grow up comments so much peoples always try to use that to invalidate some ones emotions.

[@runawayfromtoads674]

I know right? Doesn't matter if OP even overreacted. They never got an apology or a decent discussion even when they got berated to tears. Big talk from people who weren't in her shoes and invalidating their feelings.

[@StaniaMarsh]

And all because they're still salty for being left out on someone's wedding so they sided with the classmate. Sounds like someone either didn't grew up and got over it.

[@simonO712]

I know right?

[@zerobolt9506]

YES THANK U, THAT LAST COMMENTER JUST BEFORE THE UPDATE MADE ME 😠 , she was projecting so hard there (I think that's the right statement)

[@marshmello3455]

Story 3: That ESH comment is ridiculous. The girlfriend is an AH for refusing to give OP something that doesn't belong to her? wut. Adam gave that necklace to the kid. It belongs to the kid. Not OP. Not even the girlfriend. That little kid who is grieving and probably missing Adam in a way that he doesn't even have to tools to mitigate. Two years is not a long time to OP, but it is a third of that kid's life. It's functionally forever. And now Adam is gone and kid has to deal with death way sooner than I'd wish on anyone. And OP is just there talking about how she's the only one with the right to grieve Adam or to remember him with a necklace and harassing a single mother who just lost her boyfriend. An AH is the nicest thing I could think to call OP.

[@insideAdirtyMind]

Amen.

[@atinyevil1383]

I was thinking that, too! Their whole thing about “a six year old won’t remember him in 5+ years” like wtf? Six year olds aren’t goldfish, they do have a memory longer than 3 minutes.

[@jaymel4691]

Yeah that ESH comment made no sense. It seemed like their only reason for the ESH verdict was because "the kid won't remember it anyway". Well, obviously OP's son did, since he was originally given the necklace when he was 7. And the boy's mom flat out told her that he is very attached to the necklace and it brings him comfort. Obviously he hasn't forgotten. No, OP is the only AH here and I have to wonder how much worse she has been that her son didn't want to introduce his serious girlfriend of 2 years to her. I suspect OP is leaving a lot out here to make herself seem less awful. Although she still seems pretty horrible even with what she does say. OP, leave that poor kid alone and stop playing this ridiculous "I knew him longer so I deserve more than you" game with her. I'm sure they would be better off without you harassing them.

[@sheenawarecki92]

Yea I I hated the whole this kid probably won't remember? Most people have memories going back to at least age 5. I myself have memories going back to age 2 for fucks sake

[@marshmello3455]

@@sheenawarecki92 Exactly! I remember the first funeral I ever went to. I was probably 4 or 5 and it was for a nice old man from my church. He wasn't super important to my life, but I remember his face clear as day. If I can remember a nice old man I barely knew, this little kid will remember a father figure of two years.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 1: OP obviously doesn't have a big problem here. HOWEVER, I think OP's opinion of "that one girl" was pretty spot on since she DID announce a pregnancy at the very end of OP's wedding. Good on OP for being able to have a thick skin and not be pulled into the drama. I think too many brides and grooms have their day ruined over the smallest of slights. OP sounds like a cool level headed person who indeed dealt with bullying in the past but has decided to just bury the hatchet and move on.

[@mephistp5543]

But There is a difference. In other stories when people does this kind of things, they do it in the middle of the reception to be the center of atention, but in this case I don't think that happen. Like OP said, it was late on the reception many people left, so at that point everyone is relaxed, and the important parts of the day took place.

[@prcervi]

because of what op said of the timing and op's general indifference to the announcement, it's still a bit tacky but not egregious behavior like the lady did in the past

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

@@mephistp5543 It still doesn't matter. These are classmates and are in contact with each other on the regular. That one girl could have easily set up a baby shower and invite announcement some other time, but she HAD to do it THEN. Glad that OP didn't take it as an offense, but the intention was to upstage OP in such a way as to make it seem that IF OP got offended, it would be because they were a bridezilla. I've seen this kind of manipulative narcissist before. Always has some way to make it look like what they are doing is innocent enough so no one really criticizes their actions. Such a person can stay within a friend group and be toxic here and there because everyone just forgives the BS because it didn't happen to them. OP is good for noting her actions but not taking them to heart. You can't be offended if you don't acknowledge the offense.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

@@prcervi Sneaky narcs do shitty things in an "innocent" way so that if anybody points it out, the narc can play the victim of an unreasonable person.

[@prcervi]

@@cjandauntieyaya1446 didn't say she wasn't being a shitty person, but fwiw she is being a better behaved shitty person for that day had she been a good person she would've saved it for another day but she'll never be that good a person without massive amounts of therapy

[@dracawyn]

Story 3: what kind of socially blind, entitled person does this? I get that stress grieving but, damn, so is the girlfriend and her son. She lost the man she loved and he lost his father-figure. Being the mother does not make your pain more valid than theirs.

[@44LillPuffin]

She's taking her grief out on the last people she should be doing that too. Disgusting behaviour. Her son wanted the boy to have it and she dosnt even want to respect her son

[@PrimateProductions]

She never even stopped to consider her son's wants only her own selfish wants

[@TheHellsHobbit]

#3 OP is YTA sorry for her loss but I see why her son hid part of his relationship he had with the gf from mom. It was her sons necklace to give,he gave it to the boy, he appeared to think of him as his son and started a sweet tradition of passing it on when a child turns 7.

[@benry007]

Yes the fact that he hid a 2 year relationship makes me think OP is all kinds of toxic. She is only proving that with her behaviour.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

OP is a narcissist there is NO doubt. She cares about herself only

[@ronaldbowers2240]

She adopted Her son and if the relationship had continued he would have adopted gf son making him her grandson. If she would pull her head out, even with the disagreements with the gf she could treat the boy as her grandson.

[@BruinPhD2009]

My somewhat cynical opinion: First story sounds like a bunch of high school frenemies who are still afraid not to be around each other, lest they be culled from the herd.

[@44LillPuffin]

Exactly. Its really childish. By the time she's 30 she will probably only talk to one of them 😂if your too young to know that your too young to get married

[@zebnemma]

Pretty much. It's for this exact reason why I don't want to have a big friend group or many friends, because always in the past friend groups bring drama and it's worse the more people are involved. If you are a free-thinker not falling for peer pressure you will be treated like crap by the other girls. I have seen it happen to others and I have experienced it first hand. If you have a friend group that large you are gonna have to be part of the hive-mind or else you will bring their wrath upon you. Better to just not participate in the first place, even if it makes you a sad loner. Better to be lonely then to be brainwashed and abused. There's no way you are deeply attached to all 32 of those girls. Get rid of 30 of them and keep the 2 that you actually care about. It's just for appearances anyway and to look good on social media. Having 32 girls smiling in a wedding picture, it's fake as fuck. Behind the scenes they probably all secretly hate eachother but is too afraid to say it out loud because that would "ruin" the hivemind. Yeh as you can see I'm pretty cynical myself because I know from experience.

[@itsjustme7487]

They must have had a very small graduating class to be able to invite every one plus relatives.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

#1 - let's be realistic; not everyone in class just adored each other and at some point, an event is going to happen where the person inviting cannot afford all these extra people along with family and friends who are closer. might as well only invite those who you are really close to and expect to continue a relation with in the future. that is a hell of a lot of extra people - what if your intended has as many? and that doesn't even include extended family, long-time neighbors, etc. do all of you have that kind of money to just invite people 'because it's tradition'?

[@condorboss3339]

That was my thought. Eventually the tradition is going to break, especially if there were 32 people involved. Also 30 people and their plus ones is going to add a huge amount to the wedding cost.

[@marahbaker8615]

OP is a better person than I am bc I would've asked her infront of everyone why she thought it was appropriate to announce her pregnancy at an event that was in no way meant for her. How she feel if someone announced their engagement at her baby shower?

[@ravanpee1325]

If they went all to boarding school, they might be "well established" anyway. That's the reason in many cultures you organize a less expensive party before the wedding for people who are aquaintances but not close family.

[@joimumu]

@@marahbaker8615 agree Op is a lot nicer than I am but this might have been of those cases where it’s better to take the high road

[@nessa4042]

Story 3 I can't be the only one wondering why Adam didn't introduce his girlfriend of 2 years until 6 months ago right? Especially since op said they didn't get along with the girlfriend, says a lot about what type of person op might have been that Adam didn't want to introduce a longtime girlfriend for so long, which makes sense with how little empathy op has for the girlfriend and her son trying to take back a necklace her son gifted, doesn't matter if she gifted it to him first, you gift or give something away, you have no more rights to it, to demand it back(except I think unless there has been some kind of betrayal, example engagement rings and cheating)

[@shizanketsuga8696]

Nope, you are certainly not the only one who stumbled over that little detail. It fits like a puzzle piece into my impression that OP might be one of those people who cling to their arbitrary version of "Christian morality" and don't spend a second's thought on considering their impact on other people's lives, i.e. what morality should actually be about.

[@Fireprincess161]

Yup. When my mother was dating someone who was tragically lost when I was young, he avoided introducing us to his parents for the longest time. And I wish he never had tbh. The shit they put my mother through before and after his death. And the shit they put myself and my sister through. They wonder why we don't talk to them.

[@roseytwinksmnk2932]

I was looking for a comment like yours! Totally agree with all you said. While I feel sorry for any parent that has lost a child, this Op is absolutely TA in this scenario. She should feel thoroughly ashamed of herself.

[@roseytwinksmnk2932]

@@Fireprincess161 I’m so sorry for the shite those people put you and your family through. I’ll never understand how people can be so cruel to others. I hope your Mama was able to find some peace away from her in laws.

[@alexandermccalla5098]

From the OP’s post, it sounded like all they cared about was force molding their kid. They state that the necklace had become part of the son’s identity after it was gifted to them following their first mass. The OP probably isn’t healthy.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA He was warned multiple times to get his own equipment. OP owes him NOTHING and dude us a homeowner who needs to take care of his own house.

[@itsjustme7487]

What the hay? Why should they expect the OP to do their mowing and snow removal?

[@autodogdact3313]

I have an insanely long driveway and have always taken care of it myself. I'm a dog groomer and one of my customers has a business up the street. He has a bobcat and just started clearing my driveway one year. He won't even accept free grooming for his dog. I have thanked him over and over. I still can't believe he comes out in terrible weather and does this for me. If a day came where he didn't do it I would just suck it up and get out there. I would then go check on him just to make sure he is okay. He is the nicest guy and since my own father died I have been able to go to him for answers and advice. It has helped with my grief as well to have someone like my father to talk to.

[@stirrednotshaken4823]

@@itsjustme7487 that was my thought too! Did Mr. AB’s kids tell the new owners that OP would do that service for them?

[@itsjustme7487]

@@stirrednotshaken4823 I think they were told that the neighbors took care of all that for their father who passed away. The new owners just felt entitled to be treated the same.

[@nataschavanzanen]

A 6 year old won’t remember what was likely his only father figure for literally 1/3 of his life a few years from now? Yikes! He’s 6 YEARS, not 6 months. Of course he’ll remember! Having a physical reminder that his stepdad loved him very much, is going to be very helpful later on, to help ease (or even prevent) abandonment issues. What a shame that there needs to be fighting over a memory, instead of a chance to share the grief, by each discovering a side of the son they didn’t get to see for themselves. 💔

[@neonlights3739]

Horrible Neighbors: *exist* Mark: *excited Mark noises*

[@heathermiller5765]

“I love me some nightmare neighbours!” lol 😄

[@PrimateProductions]

@@heathermiller5765 he wouldn't uf he was the one having to live with the horrible neighbors

[@ettinakitten5047]

@@PrimateProductions He's had bad neighbors himself, though. He's had some nightmare neighbor waffles in some of the videos.

[@JennyT101]

In the last one OP is disgusting. The mother knew Adam longer? The little boy is 6. He knew Adam for 2 years, that is literally 1/3 of the child's life! That's forever for a child.

[@WobblesandBean]

7:00 Lol I love how the one YTA vote is from a petty girl who flat out confesses she's biased af. Edit: And oh look, OP invited her, and the wretched thing used the wedding to announce her pregnancy (and it IS a big deal, OP). All I can say is, RIP to the father.

[@jessbeingme8155]

Unless she's not pregnant lol

[@hildajensen6263]

I come from a culture where pregnant announcements or gender revels are not a big thing. But of course people are told about a child on the way. So I can imagine a lot of conversations among friends that would lead to her telling about it. But the main thing is that OP is much happier just letting it be a small thing that happened, instead of a terrible attempt to ruin her wedding.

[@anonymouse9833]

Imagine telling someone that their culture is wrong and yours is right

[@Ma5jay5dontxdoxthat]

That YTA seemed pretty petty. Like maybe she just wasn't close to that one girl? She didn't say what their relationship was, for all we know they could have only considered each hs classmates. If this was an ongoing thing in their group the others might have invited YTA votes or others to not stir the pot. Like yeah you might not have offended her, but were you even friends?

[@AWildJirachi]

I wouldn’t exactly call that “using the wedding to announce her pregnancy” when OP herself stated that it happened well into the evening and most of everyone had left. It sounds like the reception was probably already over or was about to be and she just wanted to tell people since all of their friends were gathered. If she really wanted to take advantage of the day then she probably would’ve done it earlier in the evening

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

the ESH comment on the last story... children grieve too. My close friends lost their dad when they were 6 and 8 years old respectively, and I know that grief stayed with them and still does to this day. When my niece was 4 she lost a grandparent and again, she grieved. The grief looked different because she was so young, but it was still grief, and she still remembered. Underestimating children's ability to understand and grieve, and ability to create and keep memories is so frustrating. It creates huge barriers for children to be able to process grief and get help for it. I was 9 when my twin got very sick, and almost died, and people dismissed my grief and trauma because "I was so young and didn't understand." That meant no one really explained to me what was going on, and made it even more traumatic. Children understand more than people think, and their grief and trauma is just as valid and just as complex as adults'

[@insideAdirtyMind]

That comment of this person who does not believe that the kid will remember the man in any way makes me furious. I lost my very best friend when I was 2 Years old....2 f* years old!!! I remember and miss him till this day. I am 34 now and still remember how we screamed and laughed under the shower together just to annoy my mom and how we pushed the toy car and it made a huge noise when we crashed against the door, just to turn around and crash against the other door. I loved him very much and I love him till this day! Never assume, just because people don´t have memories that other people can not remember early childhood. @SlowlyBex I hope you were able to process the pain and I wish you all good in life!

[@streamerssaymyname]

I agree assuming a 6 year old isn't going to remember OPs son is condescending, they are not a toddler, they're already a year into memorizing school work they will have to remember for the next 12 years - they are definitely going to remember a person that was very involved in their lives and had a connection. Adults often have a bad habit of not empathizing with kids until they are in their late teens. That said OP seems to have a hard time empathizing with anyone, assuming that their grief is the only grief that matters because they "knew him longer."

[@gypsygem9395]

I totally agree. When I was 6 and my sister was 4, I had a life changing illness in which I almost died (I became deaf instead). My sister still remembers to this day sitting in the waiting area whilst my parents sat by her big sister's bedside, and no one explainng to her what was happening. She's 60 now and it still hurts her that her confusion and fear weren't addressed. In an earlier comment I mentioned how my daughters (41 and 39) still remember my brother who passed away when they were 7 and 6. People need to give children way more credit

[@ettinakitten5047]

Holy shit, you were NINE and people thought you were too young to understand? WTF? That's like almost a teenager!

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

@@ettinakitten5047 it was during a time where a shift was happening and I was included in some studies about children needing more information and being included. I wish I could’ve sat in on more of the doctor’s appointments and been more in the loop. It was nearly 15 years later that I found out that even the doctors believed she wouldn’t make it because she was so sick. Like I could *see* how bad she was but never allowed myself to process it bc I felt like I overreacted… I know they do some things better now 20 years later

[@Nellipusen]

The six-year-old will definitely remember him. When I was little we had this family friend. I guess he ended up being sort of like an uncle/grandpa of sorts for me, and we would see him maybe every few months or so, and I have many good memories of him. He died of cancer when I was four. That's twenty years ago now, and I still remember him. I still have the jewelry box he gave me for my birthday once, and if someone would have tried to take it away from me, I would have been devastated.

[@parkerabbott2189]

Totally agree! Personally, I still think of my grandfather. He passed when I was 6 and there's so much I miss about him

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

Story #2: my guess would be that the children of OP's neighbor used how helpful OP was to their father as a way of proving what a good place that home was to live in cause, "You'll have amazing neighbors.", Unfortunately new neighbor wanted to use OP as free yard labor indefinitely and that isn't what being a good neighbor is about. OP is not the butt. The new neighbor however is a butt. In my opinion at least.

[@pansprayers]

If you're worried about breaking a tradition you didn't get a say in, and are paying for, remember that 35 people and a plus one is SEVENTY people. More if anyone brings kids. Plus both families? Naw. That's an expensive nightmare.

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

Yep. But, it seems like it's important to her to be invited in the future, so if she breaks that tradition that means the tradition is broken and there's no reason to invite her. If she wants to keep being invited... there's some sacrifices to do. If she wasn't bothered she could do whatever, but you can't have your cake and eat it too

[@KyrieChii]

@@BexsBoxofConfusion Yeah, as much as it annoyed me seeing how OP was being pressured (when a wedding is supposed to be about the bride & groom), I think she looked at the pros/cons, & made the right choice for herself overall. (The classmate announcing her pregnancy was ridiculous & so rude but sometimes you _do_ need to let it roll of your back.

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

@@KyrieChii ​ @Hakura Chii Idk about the pregnancy announcement. That's very cultural. In my country neither weddings nor pregnancy announcements are a big deal. It's updates on what is happening in your life. Sure, it depends on how you say it, but it was late and they were hanging out at a table. I get that in some cultures a pregnancy announcement is a very big thing, but in mine it's just a life update. So, depends on culture whether it's a rude thing or not.

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

@@melodyharpole8272 Agreed, I might be way too autistic to get it but the whole thing about there being a list of topics that are forbidden at weddings is really weird to me 😂

[@dulcilass]

@@BexsBoxofConfusion Except that merely inviting someone to your wedding based on a somewhat stupid idea of a total class wedding invite scheme is idiotic. It wouldn't strike me as strange if this "tradition" was broken or given up on as the classmates grow older, grow away emotionally from school chums, move away from the area, aren't in an economic position to pay to have that many extra people invited to their wedding. And then there will be those classmates who can't attend because of their economic situation, or simply because they don't want to spend a wad of money to go to a destination wedding. The whole plan is going to fall to pieces at some point. Covid for another example.

[@Ospyro3em]

I love how excited Mark gets when a potential Nightmare Neighbour story comes along! 😂

[@rahulmodi8706]

I read your comment and waited for the story. Lol, worth the wait

[@Rando1624]

ripe has many of neighborsfromhell stories from Reddit.

[@J05c]

Lol yeah it’s pretty funny

[@badkitty4922]

I'm with you on this! Lol! I've said it before but, I also LOVE it when he starts swearing. I'm in the U.S., and YT here doesn't allow swearing so, I get super tickled when Mark or even Mike from That Chapter starts swearing. Lmao!

[@AllistorMichelle]

story 3: yta it hasn't been your necklace for a while. you have NO right to ask for it back. once a gift was given it was adams to do with it as he pleased. he GAVE it to another child. you don't have any rights to that gift once it left your hands. this is something parents don't understand. yes it was your money, but it stopped being yours when you gave it away.

[@ladyv5655]

Holy crap! That last OP is a huge, gaping AH! This story demonstrates a probable reason for why the son never told OP about his relationship.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

Story #1: OP should ask herself if she would be upset if that 1 ex-classmate she doesn't didn't invite OP to her wedding. If not then OP doesn't need to invite her. However if OP would be upset by not being invited by being excluded from that ex-classmate's wedding then OP needs to extend an invite. No butts either way. ETA: saw update. Good for OP on deciding what was right for her. I do think the ex-classmate was a douche-canoe for the pregnancy announcement at someone else's wedding without getting prior consent from the bride and groom but it's OP's choice on how to handle that just as it was her choice of how to handle the wedding invitations.

[@ravanpee1325]

If everyone can exclud people from the group, this will happen on a regular basis at every wedding until there's not tradition anymore. Either go with it or shut it down completly

[@atinyevil1383]

Story 3: YTA it’s not like the gf or her son just took it from Adam after he died. Adam GAVE the necklace to the son prior to his death. Adam wanted this boy to have it because it helped Adam when he was a boy and wants to pass it along. Taking a necklace from a 6 year old is bad enough, but it was a gift from someone who seemed to be a father figure to him. Yes, OP gave it to Adam, but it’s not her necklace. It’s not hers to take back.

[@mimiNana-yi4cy]

the lawn mowing, snow removal post. We did that for an elderly neighbor. My husband, and son, would clear her driveway and walks before doing ours. We knew she appreciated it and had no family around to help out. When another neighbor found out we were doing this she got all butt hurt and asked why we did not do hers. We, very simply, explained that she had four sons to help her and that she needed to depend on them, not us.

[@sagesaria]

my issue with story one is, these people have known each other for five years or more, and none of them have enough awareness of how the one girl mistreats OP to think that maybe they should be considerate of OP's feelings? Like, if I saw one person constantly abusing my friend, I wouldn't want to hang out much with them either.

[@elaexplorer]

Sure, but it does sound like there was one incident and then ever after OP just disliked everything the one girl did and avoided her. The rest of the class shouldn't have to read OP's mind and OP never told anyone she's still feeling poorly about it and needing an apology.

[@ravanpee1325]

Why do you assume the first four people like everyone in the group? It's natural that some people are closer than others etc. in such a big group

[@anndownsouth5070]

If you count the school years and the time since, that will make it 10 years. I can't understand why these people still "cling" to each other after all this time. Okay my final year of high school we were a total of about 120 students (boys & girls). But group dynamics change. People that I hardly spoke in school I have become friends with and people that I hung out with back then I haven't spoken to in years. It is not logical that this group of 32 women will always be at each other's events. What happens if one of them decides to have a child free destination wedding after have of the group has already gotten married and started families? But at least OP didn't break the tradition, hey! (/s).

[@bloblovlalalulu3422]

U would be surprised at how much people will turn a blind eye to keep the peace

[@Ivy94F]

@@anndownsouth5070 Yeah, but this was like a boarding school, so they lived together more than they lived at home. Their relationships would be closer than our public HS, more like it was for me in college. Those relationships were different than HS because of the amount of time spent together, away from home, living together. Very different. Those can last a lifetime.

[@Krislib]

That last story hit me hard. As someone who lost their partner right in front me, it made all the more devastating when his family came in while I was in the hospital and took all his stuff from our place we were living Together at. The reasoning they were his parents and they deserved all of it. It made my grief so much more worst not to have the sentimental things that reminded me of him. Not only is it for the child I’m sure the necklace meant a lot to her as well, that this man gave her son it, I’m sure it would hurt them both not to have it.

[@scheneli000]

I’m so sorry for what you’ve been through. Sending you love and well wishes 💖

[@Krislib]

@@scheneli000 thank you I appreciate it! I’m doing a lot better but it was a journey❤️

[@gypsygem9395]

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Those parents sound mean, you had a life with their son, they had no right to do what they did. Letting themselved into your home whilst you're at the hospital?! That's basically burglary!

[@TheArnaa]

Story 3: YTA. OP says she’ll never know why Adam hid his girlfriend from her for so long. Adam kept her away from his mother because he knew OP would show her the disdain that is clear right from the start of this post. It’s also very clear that if Adam had survived to marry his girlfriend, OP would never have accepted the child as her grandson.

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

Story 2: OP is NTA and I think what happened is that the offspring of the widower told the buyers that the next door neighbor was a sweet couple that took care of their elderly father and did his mowing and snow clearing. The new buyers should have taken it as evidence that OP was a nice person, but instead they took it as if they were entitled to OP's generosity. Entitled people's logic never makes sense.

[@dagnytheartist]

Your comment makes a lot of sense! I guess the entitled people assumed that the neighbor was "used to" shoveling snow for the old man, so OP wouldn't mind shoveling for them as well. Still really dumb of them to count on that instead of just shoveling themselves, especially when OP told them to get snow gear.

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

Yep, that's what I thought, too.

[@sarahpeart6500]

I had the same thought. The more I read on these posts the more I wonder if people have gone quite mad these days. Can't they tell the difference between helping an established neighbour who needs help because of mobility issues/age and someone of a similar age who just happens to buy the house? I wonder how they even knew about the arrangement, did the family selling tell the new owners the neighbour would be happy to do it . . .

[@cjandauntieyaya1446]

@@sarahpeart6500 Nah, I think the sellers were just trying to show an example of how OP is such a kind neighbor. I'm pretty sure they didn't mean to say that OP would be happy to keep the "tradition" going.

[@Russman67]

You got to love how the wife volunteered his services to go snow blow the neighbors driveway. That needs a reverse Uno card. "No my love. I volunteer you as Tribute".

[@jmjedi923]

Ikr? That story and the last story remind me of my mother

[@fcold9402]

3. YTA. You GAVE the necklace to your son. It ceased being yours when you gave it as a gift. It was your sons to do with as he wished and he wished to give it to the kid. Perhaps had it been a family heirloom i would think differently but it was simply a present you gave to your son who re-gifted it. You should honor your son and be a good person and stop harassing this lady.

[@csillaagoston8353]

The person who said the child doesnt gonna remember the necklance cant be more wrong. Just for the example, me myself remember about a gift that my mum gave to me. A stag brooch, and i was around 6. Unfortunatelly lost it, yet i was looking for it in the house for days. Never turned up. I still remember the butterfly hairclip she gave to me when i was 9... I loved it to pieces. I remember them because i felt very loved and cared for. That kiddo will remember, and will miss that necklance. Children arent dumb.

[@lsmmoore1]

And either that person thinks the whole thing of the orphan protagonist treasuring a gift from parents as their most precious valuable is a fantasy (it isn't), or they've never read a story in their life. So many stories have orphan protagonists it's not even funny. Including Star Wars (at least the protagonist of that one believes himself to be an orphan, at any rate). And as a rule, they treasure something their parents gave them, whether they always had it or someone else gives them it later.

[@Avrysatos]

My grandfather's funeral had mint green walls and they smoothed out so many of the wrinkles on his face I remember being horrified asking what they did to him. You see, my grandfather was a farmer all his life, his skin was always tanned and he had so very many wrinkles on his face from the constant sun exposure. Before he died he forgot who I was, but was still kind to me. Alzheimer's is brutal. I remember him walking us around his garden, much diminished from the farm he had when he wasn't sick and talking to us like we were just neighbors kids. They had to fill in and remove the old outhouse because he kept trying to use it and that's just not safe. I was just barely 7 when he died. The person that thinks kids don't remember is full of crap. I could write you paragraphs about him and how much it hurt to lose him. My sister was 4. She doesn't remember him. But 6 years old is in school already. I suspect he never told her about this woman because she was so religious and judges this woman and her child based on the fact that no one mentioned an ex-husband for her, so she probably thinks they're lesser people and her son knew she'd think that way. I get grief but my goodness the self-righteousness of some people is just unbelievable.

[@dessnatazha]

Story 1 kinda made me mad, especially when the classmate announced her pregnancy, but if OP is cool I guess that's that. I seriously would not care about anyone taking sides of i didn't invite the classmate to my wedding though so we differ there too

[@ravanpee1325]

That's the reason there are parties before the wedding in many cultures to invite people who are close but not that close

[@KyrieChii]

Snow blower story (2): Oh no, Abso-freaking-lutely _NOT._ Neighbor can go (snow)blow _himself_ & that entitled attitude. I understand that OP's wife is trying to avoid confrontation, but this is unacceptable behavior. If there's 1 thing that pisses me off it's the idea of 'keeping the peace' by apologizing to the person in the wrong. All they learn from that is that you're a doormat to be manipulated. 😒😤

[@Ambidexter143]

OP was neighborly enough to offer to lend a snow shovel. That's all that politeness required him to do. NTA.

[@deborahyoung1873]

Agreed. I can't stand people who apologize and gi along with any behavior to "keep the peace". To me they are just cowards. I would tell her to get off her ass and go do it for him if she's that concerned.

[@beege4491]

OMG, the final comment really struck a nerve! Saying a six year old won't remember a man who was obviously a father to him? Really?? Are you that insensitive? I have very strong memories from that age. This necklace is something to remember a significant person in his life. Shame on you for trivializing that.

[@deeplyblue7299]

1st story : glad the OP did not get offended by the actions of the very same person she was suspecting was going to try to hijack her wedding she’s a much bigger person than I would ever be the OP was not wrong for feeling the way she was feeling about that lady. In my book that kind of disregard is an open invitation for me giving her a few slaps across the face.

[@hekatsees9449]

Death of “Adam” Story: A child’s grief due to the death of one whom he truly loved is beyond comprehension. The child at 6 years of age will remember “Adam” + most likely treasure his keepsake, the necklace… The fact that Adam’s bereaved ex was discussing reasonably with OP why her 6 year old son cherishes the necklace, his gift from “Adam”, says a lot about the woman OP’s son chose. It shows her to be a woman of compassion, with love for “Adam”. From the little bit I’ve heard, it sounds like this woman and her son would’ve been fine and loving additions to their family. Many women would ignore OP’s pleas and dismiss OP’s rather unreasonable request for the return of the necklace with no discussion. Maybe OP should open her eyes and see the actual gift her son left her… OP grieves the loss of someone she loves, so do this mother and her 6 year old son…. Maybe the gift OP is missing are the memories and love these two separate families can share about “Adam”. “Adam” tethers them together in love… As humans, we miss that which is obvious because we are so busy being ‘right’…

[@o0BlackSand0o]

Story 1: the pregnancy announcement thing all depends on how the person running the event feels. With my first pregnancy we announced it to my husband's family on one of my BILs' bdays. It wasn't a party and we knew he was looking forwardto the day we had a baby, he had told us so many times. We were just over to give him his gift and the younger sibling (my husband is from a large family) all still live with their parents. These events are one of the few occasions everyone is home so we told my SIL's gf and she shouted it in surprise which made all the siblings come running. The bday boy didn't mind, and instead was crying when he hugged me and then treated me like I was delicate. We announced our second by showing the ultrasound pic to the gf at Xmas. An announcement at an event isn't always the worst thing but if you don't know how the person will take it, don't do it.

[@brandygiovinazzi3460]

Story #3: OP is grief stricken but she's still the butt. Her son accepted his girlfriend's child as his own, legality and blood not withstanding, child and passed his necklace to his child. The boy was preschool aged when OP's son entered his life and 2 years is plenty of time to form a bond for many people. OP needs to go to a therapist and find a better way to mourn rather than her current method of stockpiling everything that she can that once belonged to her son. She's not letting go in her grieving and is actually harming others in the process of holding on even tighter to everything her son left behind. She needs to leave the woman her son loved alone and let her son's claimed child keep the necklace that his, for all intents and purposes, step-father gave him.

[@twentyfiveyears5010]

Story 2: "My wife thinks I should have just...went over" She spelled "bent over" wrong. I would feel guilty just asking to borrow a shovel, let along expecting free mowing and snow blowing. Geez. Story 3: OP says "I didn't know about Adam's [over 2-year long] relationship with his girlfriend until months ago. I'll never know why he hid this from me." I guess we know why after reading the story.

[@truemannottingham8458]

I love when mark says fair play to you it always reminds me of Captain Hook saying “good form petah” great story today!!

[@Marco_Onyxheart]

Mom adopts son: that's my boy! Son adopts another boy: that's not my grandson! I do get why Adam kept the relationship secret.

[@Swnsasy]

Omgosh the last story, just WOW! That mother is insane to be the way that she is.. That child should keep the necklace, he had a life with him too and it's precious to that little boy.. Wow how nasty she is being..

[@penniegwin1320]

The last story reminded me of my mom and her mother in law. They'd lost my step father almost two years ago. My mom is still grieving his loss. When he'd first passed away, my mom told me that her mother in law said she had no right to grieve him because, "I knew him longer than you and loved him more. Because he's my son. He's just your husband." Mom is still taking care of her mother in law for reasons I don't understand.

[@dessnatazha]

Story 3 OP is the AH. I just want to say to the last comment I remember a lot of my life at 6 and even way before. There's no way for you to know what the kid will remember, he probably will remember how deep a connection he had to OP's son at the very least, and that he gave him the necklace will mean a lot to him.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Death is very traumatic. It would be very unlikely the son would not remember OP's son

[@sherryflanigan7680]

I would like to know who the moron is that said the six-year-old will not remember that man in 5 years! Of course he will! A six-year-old is not a baby. My granddaughter is only 6 and was absolutely devastated by my twin sister's death. I know she will never forget that and she will never forget my sister! Especially if it's the first death that they have had to deal with. That has a huge impact!

[@carac8577]

I grew up with a street with old neighbors & we were the family that helped with mowing, snow plowing, & garage takeout. It’s a beautiful thing to be able to help out an elderly neighbor like that, good on OP & definitely NTA for refusing to help the new able-bodied neighbors.

[@Merryfrances]

I love when you’re reading and after the pregnancy announcement you let out a little “oh dear!”.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 3: YTA - A gift is just that, a gift. Not only do you not have the right to request it back several years later, the rightful owner chose to pass it on out of love, so sucks to be you. I'm sure, as his mother, you have other mementos of your son, so you're just going to have to let this one go. You're not the only one missing him, and the current owner is a CHILD. No, you may not 'take candy from a baby.'

[@GabrielBadwolf]

I could just imagine Mark going up to the microphone at a wedding reception and announcing that he’s pregnant to the whole room. That would be awkward….

[@luckydragon5157]

"Hey guys! I'm pregnant!" -Mark, 2022

[@AFAskygoddess]

Two of my neighbors were kind enough to shovel snow for me when they did theirs. Every Valentines Day I gave each neighbor a card expressing my gratitude a $75 gift card to their favorite restaurants. Appreciation goes a long way in life. Entitlement, not so much.

[@Mewse1203]

Story 1: NTA the tradition is not more important than what and who you want at your wedding. Yes it will break the tradition and tell her she wasnt invited thereby singling her out, but OP NEVER AGREED TO UPHOLD THE TRADITION. Just because others did so doesn't mean OP has to and maybe others don't want to do it but feel pressured the same as OP and this will help them not feel that way. But if she isn't invited, others may not come in solidarity. However, this situation is weird anyway. Most ENTIRE classes don't stay this close for so long and expecting you to be with someone you don't like is just rude. Edit: "all clear" isn't an apology. It isn't an acknowledgement of wrong doing. I don't even know what that means in this context unless it was an accident text to the wrong person which makes more sense. OP isn't overreacting. This girl has ruined things for Op and she has every right to not want her at her wedding, period. Edit after update : OP didn't over react to ANYTHING and her announcing her pregnancy at the wedding is evidence of that. YOU DONT ANNOUNCE THINGS AT ANOTHER PEOPLE'S EVENTS.

[@cloverite]

She didn’t ‘announce the pregnancy’, she told her friends at the end of the night, quietly. She was respectful. Also, singling someone out is bullying, and it would make her the AH. It would also mean at future events the rest of the group would have to decide who to invite, if it was me I would exclude OP. Obviously she doesn’t want to be at events the second girl is invited to and excluding one person is okay.

[@loris1620]

This tradition will eventually be broken when someone has a courthouse wedding or to my destination wedding. Though I get the feeling that everyone is pretty wealthy, and could have the big party, so whatever (shrug).

[@loris1620]

TINY destination wedding. Auto correct.. sigh

[@ravanpee1325]

@@loris1620 Yes, you don't invite all of your classmembers if you don't have huge money...70 people without the actual family..

[@alicewilloughby4318]

Story 2 - 13:56 - So OP is now these people's slave? Story 3 - 18:10 - It sounds like Adam gave the cross necklace to his GF's son to indicate that he considered the boy to be his son now. Since Adam's death, it's become something precious for the boy to remember Adam by. Since It's seems harsh of OP to want it back. Still Story 3 - 19:11 - Okay, NOW OP is absolutely TA! That "He's not my grandchild" crack as an excuse to stomp all over a little boy's feelings is bullshit!

[@susankaempfer8427]

Seriously. She starts the entire post by saying Adam was her ADOPTED son. So, Adam clearly felt the same way about the boy, and this means nothing? I’m going with op is a hypocritical pseudo-christian lacking in compassion.

[@rachel4249]

The snowblower story; something tells me the previous owners kids told them the nice neighbors used to help their dad. So they just assumed and expected the OP would do it for them too since he did it for the last owner.

[@callumn2111]

Story 1: "It'll she her and everyone you don't want her there!" That's the point.

[@kbf9644]

Last story: The Redditor who claims the necklace means nothing to the kid and then rails on TA mom for assuming it means nothing to them. Dafuq?

[@Ambidexter143]

Last story: If you give someone a present then it's not yours any more and the recipient can do whatever they want with it. OP gave the necklace away years ago and has no claim to it. YTA.

[@alg94]

i think its absolutely bizarre that at 23 they're still playing by the 'you must invite the whole class at your party' rule that you get in kindergarten

[@gypsygem9395]

It's slightly different when you've been to boarding school, as you become like family.

[@phtevlin]

#1 Be prepared for some of your "friends" to NOT attend your wedding if you exclude "that girl".

[@ravanpee1325]

Also the first four couples also invited people who are not close to them but just members of the big group..

[@kittychaotic9450]

I love the stories with updates! It feels more rounded

[@krazycats564]

Congrats on the pregnancy Mark. Hope it goes well!

[@cookingkurry4384]

For story 3, its a good thing Adam gave the necklace to the 6 year old. Cause unless there is a will stating otherwise, all his stuff and assets go to next of kin....which is his parents.

[@JayeEllis]

Story 2: NTA - Their lack of planning is not your emergency. Also, do you know how much snow actually has to fall that you literally can't get out? A fair bit. Walk a path behind the car, kick away enough for the tires, and go!

[@Lisapizzza]

I'm not partial to neighbour stories, but the joy you get out of reading them infects me as well

[@Darth_Nycta_13]

Story 2 NTA OP did it for the old gentleman because he was kind and was unable to do it as well himself. The new neighbors are capable but unwilling so no. OP also told them to get the tools themselves.

[@christophergibbs2616]

Man, story number 1 had so many "missing missing reasons" that I initially called OP the AH. Like, this friend yelled at her in front of students and teachers. Why? OP doesn't give the reason, but let's look at it from the position of OP not doing her part of the assignment: she would deserved to be scorned. But since we don't know, OP can paint herself as the victim when we don't have enough info in any situation.

[@monarchminnie5827]

I agree. I thought the point where op said she ignored her mostly was sus

[@BexsBoxofConfusion]

I agree, we don't know enough to say whether the friend was right or wrong. However, it is her wedding and she can invite who she wants, but if she excludes someone everyone might go ahead and exclude her. If you exclude someone you're banking on that you're the "favorite" of the two and people will take your side, but it's a gamble you could lose and end up losing 30+ friends

[@ginathecookie]

So basically your judgement would be: Info; need more information.o (that's a judgement on there)

[@ceeshnia]

Someone not doing something does not give someone the right to verbally assault them to the point of tears, compounded by the fact that nobody stepped in... that's not okay.

[@daveo1808]

Story#1 Sounds like OP was just jealous, realized it, and got over it, good on her.

[@cloverite]

Story 1. To be fair the friend didn’t announce the pregnancy at the wedding in front of guests, she mentioned it at the end of the night to her friends as she probably would have had the baby by the next time they all got together.

[@Ashakat42]

That kid doesn't want the necklace the mom does. She needs to give it back to the mom and stop using her kid as an excuse to keep something that no longer belongs to her.

[@groofromtheup5719]

s3; people really need to not use grief as an excuse for such poor behavior.

[@fcold9402]

2. If they want to treat you like a landscaping service they should pay you like one (if you want to do it). You are not their employees and your wife is wrong. You have to set the boundries clearly.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Not the question, but this whole tradition is stupid. There should not be a rule that everyone is invited to everyone's wedding. Dumb AF

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

Yep. The whole thing is this weird peer pressure effect where everyone has to invite their boarding schoolmates or they face backlash.

[@Agonysis]

The Story 1 YTA comment was a trip, start to finish. I'll paraphrase it : "YTA because something similar happened to me, even though our stories are totally different and the people in my story apparently actually WANTED me to come (but I didn't) and I'm still salty for >reasons< so you're YTA just like them!" That poster couldn't have made a dumber take if they tried. I'd write it off as projecting hard but the comparison makes less and less sense the more it goes on. NTA. Why in the hell would OP be obligated to invite someone who mistreated her and never apologized to her wedding? And she announced her pregnancy too. OP was proved right as far as I'm concerned.

[@LilChuunosuke]

*Story 2:* NTA. And if you have a potentionally good neighbor who you can rely on in times of need, the most important thing to do is *cater and cherish it.* My grandparents had this hilarious friend in northern Maine. He told me how his neighbor was an extremely generous and caring old man, lending his neighbors whenever he needed, driving miles out of his way to help people who got stranded, etc. One winter, he decided to pay it forward to the nice neighbor and plow his driveway while the man was sleeping (he was a deep sleeper and had bad hearing, so he couldn't hear the plow). The neighbor was *pissed!* He was like "who out here thinks they can just get away with clearing my driveway for free?!" He went on a rampage, knocking on doors, trying to find the neighbor who did this so he could either pay back the favor or give them money for what they did. The friend, naturally, kept his trap shut. It turned into a little game where the old man would wake up early hoping to catch the person helping him out and this guy literally tip-toeing and sneaking around his house at 4am, making sure he could clear the snow without being caught. Even without the old man knowing it was him, they still had a healthy and positive relationship. This was his way of making sure he could pay back the man for all the generous favors he had done for him and everyone else in their community.

[@philwill0123]

I'm guessing the pregnancy announcement at the wedding was based on people noticing a woman who usually drinks not drinking. Rather than an attention seeking thing. Story 2 Bet wife offered out OP'S services

[@catf8781]

I know it's been a year since this came out but there's something about the lawn mowing that people don't know. In the US there are municipalities that have codes about snow removal and lawn care for others for free. In those areas if you voluntarily provide a free service like that once you are required to continue it. Our neighborhood figured it out when a code officer was driving by a vacant house with overgrown turf and weeds. She stopped and warned them that if they continued she would have to require them to continue to maintain the property to code. The neighbor packed up their mower and went home, never to touch it again.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

Did the neighbour hear of what OP had done for the old fellow and were thinking... hey... he can continue doing that? NTA! Neighbour can get his own snow blower!

[@tamsel814]

Story 1: nta I guess, but be aware that this disission can break up the friend group or they may even kick you out.

[@randombuildsman9742]

@@melodyharpole8272 bruh did you just say OP is a bully for not talking to someone who basically humiliated her in high school? Eh whatever ig 🤷‍♂️

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

@@randombuildsman9742 especially someone who ended up announcing her pregnancy at OP's wedding. OP only heard her say it once, doesn't mean it wasn't mentioned more.

[@randombuildsman9742]

@@GabrielleHayes1921 yeah that sucks. Tbh I just hear these stories because I wonder what other people are going through since my life is well I have things going on

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

@@randombuildsman9742 I'm trying to be careful about what I listen to because I found some of these are very depressing, but I also like knowing I'm not the only one dealing with dramatic family or cutting off abusive "friends".

[@randombuildsman9742]

@@GabrielleHayes1921 I 100% agree with the being careful of depressing ones as sometimes they fuck up my day. Damn sorry your going through tough times as well… you should reach out to a therapist/counselor or I’m always here to listen . GL

[@meezerluvr]

Story 2 - I seriously wonder where the neighbors got the impression OP would snowblow their driveway. You don't come to believe this by accident. Someone must have told them that OP would do it.

[@madisonl3401]

Love these relationship stories! Hope you have a wonderful Friday and weekend Mark and Poppy! Give her lots of hugs for us! 🥰

[@MarkNarrations]

No worries Maddison, thanks for always being here 😊

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

Whoever is reading this i send hugs and great vibes. Drink water, eat food, nap, take a break, take care of yourself gosh darn it. And if you don't I swear I will find you and keep you in a cottage and take care of you. 🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜🤗🤗💜💜

[@MarkNarrations]

Hey Broken hope you're good mate 😁❤

[@katiesmith2031]

Hugs and great vibes back 🤗🤗💙💙🤗🤗💙💙

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@katiesmith2031 💜💜🤗🤗

[@broken_queer_but_fighting8589]

@@MarkNarrations hope you are well too m8💜💜🤗🤗

[@SJM3187]

I don’t get why do OPs that are meant to exercise “my wedding my guest list” rights especially having legit reasons don’t tend to but always in doubt and the AH always enjoy the power given that day… Congratulations OP you actually predicted that she was an AH, I hate the way it was sugar coated or watered down. People who have opinions on “bleh bleh AH, “ well they ain’t paying for the wedding just coming for the food and wine…of cos it won’t impact them if anything untoward happens.

[@sagesaria]

wow, fuck that last comment in the last story. children don't have amnesia about their childhoods; if they had enough of a relationship that Adam wanted to give the necklace to the kid, the kid is probably going to remember this person.

[@MyInnerWeirdo]

Been listening to Mark at work. I spend a lot of time by myself and this helps to keep my mind off of negative thoughts as I would otherwise spend a lot of that time in silence. Now I can listen the contrarian comments on AITA posts and be like "Your reasoning sucks and I think you just want to be the contrarian for no reason"

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

23:06 I mean I still remember a lot of people from when I was 6 years old who were in my life for a shorter amount of time, so yeah there's a decent chance the kid is going to remember this guy.

[@cynicalminion]

i could see exactly ONE circumstance where it might be okay, and it SPECIFICALLY came to mind because of this post... end of the reception, most people have gone home, and the group of friends are the ones left, finishing off the booze, and somebody finally notices and asks why they're not drinking with everybody else. and even at THAT point, it's not "announcing" the pregnancy, it's answering a member of a limited friend group who asked about a change in behavior... usually though, regardless of how the couple getting married feels, sharing that kind of info is gonna get the side-eye from other people...

[@callumn2111]

Story 2 reminds me of the fable of the Ant and the Grasshopper. OP told them repeatedly to repair and when they dont, they blame him. If they had asked politely if OP could help him, then he might be an AH. But instead they expected and demanded it like they were entitled. OP is not the asshole.

[@standinthegsp6858]

I bet the realtor agency said, “Oh, don’t worry about the lawn or keeping the snow cleared off! The neighbors take care of it.”

[@jacegallagher8589]

Story 1: NTA. Your wedding your guest list. The ONLY other person who should have any input on the guest list is the groom. If you are not the bride or groom then your opinions on who should or should not be invited does not really matter.

[@renatatarnawski5974]

LAST STORY Nobody seems 2 have picked up THAT THE son Went NC with the mother. And EVERY1 IS surprised that SHE wants the necklace BACK FROM THE CHILD

[@heathermiller5765]

Mark, loving the energy as always! Thanks for being a bright spot in a lot of people’s day 🥰

[@Its_like_the_T-Rex]

Wow. Neighbours be crazy. I had a verbal agreement with my side neighbours to take turns shoveling snow off our sidewalks when it snowed. It was so nice not having to do it every time and everyone kept up the agreement. My other neighbours across the street owned their house for years and never purchased a lawn mower. Their side neighbours complained about about them because they borrowed their mower and broke it. They one borrowed mine and returned it filthy. I never let them borrow anything after that. BTW, I was renting my house and I owned a mower... meanwhile these homeowners didn't think to purchase standard upkeep equipment for their own property? SMH.

[@danisonice.]

Not Op 3 stealing candy from a baby and asking if she's the AH 👀👀👀👀

[@vaughanellis7866]

If OP invited the ‘narcissist’ to the wedding, put her on a table as far away from OP as possible if only to preserve the 'tradition'.

[@44LillPuffin]

Imagine thinking your neighbour has a duty to do you garden and shovle the snow 😂 I'm disabled and I don't even ask my neighbours to sweep the stairs we both use.

[@semideadnat]

As a victim of bullying OP isn’t the asshole. I feel so bad for her and honestly it’s a really sad situation to be in. If OP doesn’t invite the girl she doesn’t like, I would explain to her the reason why. “I wanted this day to be a day about me with those who care about me. Your actions in the past and lack of actions now really does hurt me and it’s for that I can’t invite you. You’ve done a lot of bad things to me in the past I can’t dissociate you from those actions.” If anyone asks why you didn’t invite them I’d say “There are a lot of things I’m not comfortable to talk about in regards to said classmate that I didn’t feel comfortable inviting her.” If people get upset over that, they aren’t friends to stick around with. Because why would you be in a friend group with a bunch of people who don’t support you when this classmate yelled at you the point of you crying, and you don’t want to invite her for those past experience?

[@tamarak.8800]

Unless the one person has shown to misbehaving at weddings, sadly I think not inviting her will place way more attention on her as if op just invites her along with everyone else.