I think im autistic…now what?!

[@devorahallen4657]

Some of the best advice I've heard on this is, if you think you're autistic but don't know if you're "really" autistic, just start treating yourself as if you are. Give yourself accommodations. Wear the headphones. Buy the fidget toys and carry them with you. Schedule breaks and down times for yourself. Just start living like an autistic person, and see what kind of a difference it makes in your life.

[@MomontheSpectrum]

This is excellent!! Pinning this comment

[@sherreecurnow124]

Hi, I'm not diagnosed but my kids are. I know I should get tested. Probably more so now because when I was watching the video then read your comment my head went "So I put my hands up! They're playing my song! (Miley Cyrus Party in the USA) 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I'm hitting subscribe. Also I've been making the accommodations for our whole house for some time and it really helps! ❤️❤️❤️

[@iced-coffee-]

I feel your videos are opening my eyes . I think I’ve found my people !!! I’m 38 !

[@aellalee4767]

This makes 100% sense. Community is something humans need. Often that's what we're missing, especially being autistic. So, the bad symptoms we experience due to loneliness cannot be fixed through therapy, or not therapy alone as we have to find a place. It's perfectly reasonable to say this is a great resource that helps some people more than going to therapy. It's fixing a different issue than what therapy is meant for. For frame of reference, people suffering with addiction do better staying sober when they go to AA despite it not having any formal psychological help there. It's just about having people there.

[@DrinkYourNailPolish]

When I was studying psychology back in the early 00s they still believed that autism was prevalent only in boys, possibly somehting genetic along the Y chromosome. Now we have so much more information abt autism but this is primarily among those who do research into the disorder. And researchers are making new discoveries every day. I say all of that to get to my point: Your loved ones are not professionals. So please do not be sad when they don't "get it". It may not be that they are rejecting you it may be something as simple as they just don't have the capacity to understand. Heck if scientists and professionals who study autism for a living don't have all the answers then we can't reasonably expect others to as well. So when you feel invalidated, please remember, you're not crazy. You're doing the best you can with the information you have access to. ❤ And personally even with my own degree in psychology I didn't realize I was on the spectrum UNTIL JUST THIS YEAR. I am 42 yo! Me- a person who actively has a special interest in neuropsychology. A person who thought I knew myself pretty damn well. If I can be caught by surprise by my diagnosis ANYONE CAN. So don't get too down. Nobody's perfect, and that's OK❤

[@misspat7555]

My intellect can understand that other people are also imperfect, my brain is very unusual (AuDHD-PI twice-exceptional female southpaw; unusual even amongst autistics) and this makes me difficult for other to relate to, and who has time and energy to do difficult things in this oligarchy? Except very rich people, and I don’t know any of those. My emotions still feel sad, though. It is okay to have feelings, and it is okay to acknowledge them! Mr. Rogers said, “If it can be mentioned, it can be managed!”. ❤

[@Type_null14]

I needed this comment. Thank you ❤ 28 and struggling to get through each day Edit: I’m also a southpaw with ADHD-c, cptsd, and undiagnosed autism ❤

[@SunnySunshineField]

Lovely comment ❤❤❤

[@toriahennesey]

I 100% believe and understand what you're saying about peer-space being more healing than therapy - It's my experience too. And you're right, it's not that it's "better" than therapy - it's that peer-space feels like walking into a room of mirrors; being reflected and recognised everywhere is so relieving and validating.

[@recollectionsofinvisiblechild]

Worst thing I did was tell my birth family and best friend of 34 years. That was in 2018. None of them are in my life anymore. Thankfully, my wife and kids had no trouble believing me.

[@Type_null14]

I’m dealing with something similar. My family doesn’t believe that it’s a “real” thing. They think it’s an excuse to be lazy and incompetent. They say, “ I know you’re a smart girl. Quit trying to make excuses and just get thru it like the rest of us.” 😢

[@MomontheSpectrum]

so sorry to hear this :(

[@recollectionsofinvisiblechild]

@@MomontheSpectrum thanks

[@corvanphoenix]

​@@Type_null14I never got why people said "Ignorance is bliss."

[@RLWarrior]

Instructions unclear. Attempting to take of mask I may have peeled my face off 😂 Thank you for all of your content. I appreciate you

[@MomontheSpectrum]

i hope your face is ok! :)

[@RLWarrior]

@@MomontheSpectrum my wife thinks so but when I’m out in public I sometimes get treated like Rocky Dennis so I’m not sure 🤔

[@UltraIsa297]

Agreed when I came out as trans 🏳️‍⚧️ to my autistic support group they all were very supportive and accepting I love them all

[@loniwilliams82]

I feel so good hearing your testimony. We love you, Taylor. 0:54 Terrifying and exciting at the same time. ❤

[@MomontheSpectrum]

💓

[@AudioFiendNZ]

Can't wait to give the group a go. Free zoom groups here in NZ are so full that they are booked out for the foreseeable future. I think it is well priced considering you would pay more for a therapist and can probably take away a lot more from talking to others with similar experiences

[@MomontheSpectrum]

thanks for your comment! would love to have you in a group anytime

[@AudioFiendNZ]

@@MomontheSpectrum I'll definitely give it a go. Just been off of work a couple of months since I realised I was.....ya know. I'll be there soon when I am back on my feet financially and mentally

[@BuckeBoo]

Yep. All that an a box of fidgets! I'm more comfortable in my skin more now than ever! Therapy can only do so much and that is IF you find a therapist that isn't invalidating. Connecting with other ASD people is the best!

[@MomontheSpectrum]

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[@MomontheSpectrum]

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[@Perseverant-Soul]

Someday I'd love to be a part of those groups as well. Wishing you all well, thank you for everything you share. 💞

[@MomontheSpectrum]

you're very welcome. would love to have you in a group whenever it lines up!

[@Perseverant-Soul]

@@MomontheSpectrum Aw. I do look forward to it .. Thank you so much, Taylor. I truly apreciate that warm welcome 💞

[@kirstinrangel4755]

I’m so glad to have found your channel 💜

[@iced-coffee-]

I’m 38 and I started seeing neurodivergent reels and I was relating to every single one of them . I feel like the odd ball with my family and I have weird issues that no one else has and I guess as I’m getting older I’m just getting so tired of hiding it and forcing myself to do things I can’t ( like touch things that feel like sand or oil … weird I know but this includes foods and I just CANT) I just started saying .. I can’t touch that .. then I started saying that look I’m not hearing you the first time ( auditory processing is getting bad for me) trex sleeping hands… not being able to go without a shower each day because I feel my skin is just crawling … people pleasing … I lost all my friends because I would spoil them so much and do everything for them to the point when something came up and I couldn’t they couldn’t accept no .. and just moved on. I can’t make eye contact when I speak to people but if they speak I will like stare down their teeth or other body part and have to literally keep telling myself I have to look at them or they think I’m not interested. I have to tell myself ok see you are having fun so next time you won’t be so against getting together . Introverted and just go into major panic mode if someone comes over . I’ve had a panic attack when seeing people I’m not expecting to see because I feel I’m going to be judged . So many many things . I never went to a doctor for anything other than child birth . I just think I’ve finally found my tribe . After 38 years Like the list goes on and on and on. I never thought I woul

[@robbiegibson4112]

I had to listen again. Thank you.

[@MomontheSpectrum]

you're welcome!

[@Stacy-s1s]

So true about the importance of getting plugged into the autistic community. Validation is a basic human need & sadly we may not get it from therapists, friends or family. But once we connect with others on the spectrum society's acknowledgement matters so much less

[@WoohooliganComedy]

Thanks, Taylor 💖

[@MomontheSpectrum]

you're very welcome!

[@vitordelima]

Everywhere I go (online or offline) I "attract" a certain kind of people and they begin to act annoying (because they tend to be everywhere).

[@saffsholistichealth]

I'm in Ireland and id love to find people like you online or in person that are in this country too I'm finding I feel strange since my diagnosis not very sad or nagery😢just weird I know I prob just need to meet people locally or in the samw country might helo i duno

[@MomontheSpectrum]

would love to have you in one of my groups anytime!

[@fairygodmotherflowerEternal221]

Your the best❤❤❤❤,Noelle

[@MomontheSpectrum]

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[@inspectre27]

51, undiagnosed, truly unpleasant person. I made some attempts at meeting the autistic community, but I discovered that I dislike the neurodivergent every bit as much as I dislike neurotypicals (see "truly unpleasant person" earlier). Despite a desire for connection, I am unable to step outside my contempt to connect with anyone. I have worked with a therapist for 11 years, and we've made a lot of progress in a lot of areas, but we've barely made a dent in this. Being a part of something like the autistic community - which is something i have never done - might be good. Belonging, you know. Never done it. Too much of a jerk.

[@TheCloverAffiliate12]

Genuine questions: What don't you like about the neurodivergent people you've met? In what ways are you seeing yourself as unpleasant and a jerk? Is that assessment of yourself actually yours, or is it what others have said about you, or both?

[@misspat7555]

@@TheCloverAffiliate12Does it matter if I don’t see myself as a jerk but most other people end up coming to that assessment, because I don’t think or feel the way they do about things, and they assume I’m being difficult and different on purpose? My interests aren’t those of others. I can’t even relate well to other autistics. Too different. I’ve come to accept reality. No sense in pretending my path is anything like that of the median person. At least I can do some things to assist and support my community; I don’t feel like a total drain and burden on humanity. I do feel painfully alone, though. Because I am. It can’t be fixed. Pretending it can is simply self-delusion. I’d rather not delude myself in that particular way. Leads to too much additional pain in the long run. ❤️‍🩹

[@moonbeam1967]

🙏🏻❤

[@ParticleLarry]

It's hard to tell anybody , I finally got the guys to tell my doctor that I'm pretty sure I'm autistic and she shot me down right away.She told me I'm nothing like her autistic nephew and I can't be autistic because I make to my appointments

[@amandamandamands]

Say what did they get autism and ADHD mixed up (even that is a stereotype), or does she think that everyone with time blindness is late all the time.

[@misspat7555]

Can’t like that. FFS. The only unifying factor in autistic people is differences in both verbal and non-verbal communication leading to difficulties with socializing. We also have to have at least a couple other potentially disabling conditions, and often have multiple of those, but those vary drastically person to person. Can’t be too harsh on clueless professionals, though; I had a SPIN in psychology for almost 30 years, including getting a master’s degree in school counseling, and thought I was “maybe a little Aspie, or autistic, or something, whatever”, as recently as a couple years ago! 😳 It’s hard to find solid information about what autism really is, even for highly educated people who really ought to know! 😬

[@thepurplemaskknows9383]

I was 70 years old and told my physician my thoughts that I was on the spectrum. He threw his head back and laughed hard out loud. I walked out without a hi, bye, or go to heck. Nothing was ever said about it. They did send me a bill, though.

[@unnaturaldisaster1728]

i think i am on the spectrum because i relate to a lot of traits. My mum says i have autistic traits and may be on the spectrum, my best friend thinks i’m most likely autistic, a couple of teachers from when i was in school thought i had autistic traits and I recently said to a colleague at work “i have autistic traits but i’m not sure i’m autistic” and they said “you definitely are”. LOL

[@Lilibet0]

Yes you used it correctly. “Whom” is applied to the object of the sentence.

[@PhilosophyFunTime]

I just got in a massive fight with my mom because I didn't spend a lot of time there socializing at her birthday party last week and left after only a couple hours. She said I should have just gotten over it and dealt with it for her because it was her birthday. I have my first evaluation in October, and she says none of it matters and I can't say anything until I have an actual evaluation and diagnosis because self-diagnosis doesn't count. Ugh

[@whenimmanicimgodly4228]

I really want an assessment to KNOW for sure or not, but rhe problem is i have no hwalth insurance and pay for my own stuff out of pocket, extra stuff (like tjis) my parents pay for out of pocket (im 26) and up until like 2018 they didnt even believe adhd was real... let alone me saying "i potentially have a disorder thats genetic" when their idea of autism is..just gross.... But when im medicated for my adhd, i feel normal and great and function fine at home but then i try ti gi and socialize and...yeesh

[@kf4083]

💖

[@stephenpiccolo]

Do you have to identify as female (and be a mom) to participate?

[@MomontheSpectrum]

nope!! everyone is welcome (18+). Typically 60% women, 30-70 years old, married, divorced, single... people from all walks of life!

[@Infinitesimal-ho7it]

I sent an email about scholarship.