I Told My Cousin His Fiancee Who I Previously Dated, Cheated On Me r/Relationships

[@rachaelmiller2289]

Who wants to bet that Tony is the one who she cheated on op with and he figured it out in that moment

[@eldeano9964]

It does seems suspicious, but I think she would have thrown him under the bus to take the heat off of her. Also the cousin was more mad than guilty at the meeting.

[@pippo17173]

@@eldeano9964 Honestly him blocking op legit just tell me he is hiding something here. Also couple therapy being done after just makes me really really suspicious.

[@nataliereeves3594]

I was thinking along the same lines when she told Tony she cheated on the ex.

[@heatherdickau5335]

Story 2 This woman is the type of person who would take someone else child to the mall and get her ears pierced without parental permission or the child's desire . OP is smart to keep her distance.

[@Nikcel72]

Story 1: Tony was the guy Kate cheated with. He seems like a chump. Kate is going to take him through the wringer.

[@PinkMarshmallows]

You and I are on the same wave length. I thought the exact same thing.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

My thoughts exactly, or she's using Tony to stay close to OP.

[@MsLilith3]

I thought the same thing.

[@dianasmith8248]

Yep. if I found out that my fiancé ended up cheating on my cousin. Even if we were not close, I would be done. Then you add in the fact that he possibly blocked OP. That makes him look like a massive chump with zero self-esteem because OP did nothing wrong in this situation. The only one who did anything wrong was Kate and the family members who are mad at him for no reason .

[@JoltaeAndwae]

Yeah~ she totally reached out to Tony through OP and they cheated together. I don't think he knew he was cheating on OP but I reckon Tony did know they were in a cheating situation and isn't as nice as OP thinks.

[@poetryqn]

Story 2: Sasha IS a creep. Just ask OP's little daughter. She lied to and traumatized a four year old...deliberately. Yeah, that's a creep. Sorry if OP's father is offended, but his wife is so far our of line as to be in the next solar system.

[@lauragarza7585]

Yup that’s what I said.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

“Revealing the truth would ruin his life” what she really means is that revealing the truth will ruin *her* life.

[@MarionHogan-m5i]

OP was damned if he did and damned if he didn’t.

[@troubleinthevalley5884]

Exactly

[@dream6562]

I'd rather be damned where I have more family

[@ladyv5655]

​@@dream6562, I 'd rather be damned where I can weed the toxic people out of my life.

[@maggpiprime954]

Somebody suggested that it was with the cousin she cheated with, so... It actually _could_ ruin his life. I wonder if that's what really happened, it's an interesting take, which explains a lot of weird little details very easily.

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 1: *"my mom and aunt are furious with me for bringing up the past"* You can bet that if Kate had cheated on Tony down the road, and the old witches had found out that OP knew beforehand, he would have been blamed for NOT bringing it up. *Damned if you do, damned if you don't.* OP did the absolute right thing - he gave his cousin all the information he needed to make an informed decision about his future. What that decision will be is up to the cousin. By the way, the fact that the cousin kept apologizing to OP would confirm people's suspicion that he actually was the guy Kate cheated on OP with - he probably still feels guilty, and that may be part of the reason why he blocked OP.

[@nekorei2023]

Why do u always speak facts everytime i see u

[@MatildeVallespinCasas]

Concerning infidelity you always lose. Either they don't believe you or you are the bearer of bad news.

[@kitkakitteh]

Yeah, there’s no winning with some people.

[@jusminejustice2794]

Kate saying "It will ruined his life!" made me went "are you cheating on him?" I'm glad Op told him.

[@kp2223]

Gotta love when a family will sacrifice anything for a wedding

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2: this lady legit took a kid on a ride she knew would terrify her and then told the mother of the kid “sorry I made _you_ uncomfortable” Don’t let the kids be around her. She isn’t regretting stepping over boundaries and upsetting a little child she “supposedly” loves. Couldn’t even apologize to her but the passive aggressive apology to the kid’s parent. “Sorry you got uncomfortable” is NOT an apology! She will continue to stomp on boundaries over and over and over. Don’t give her an inch, she’d take a mile

[@jaydee_0079]

Unfortunately, OP is showing signs of Wishy-Washy because Daddy is upset. OP needs to garner a spine and pitch daddy to the wind until he figures it out.

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

Sasha doesn’t actually want to play mom, she just wants a little doll she can dress up and play with.

[@fiyahquacker2835]

Yeah she just wants the fun parts of having a daughter.

[@thehawkseye3412]

Or she needs to reconsider her marriage and find a partner who is willing to have children and raise with her. Clearly she wants a child even if has been convinced otherwise somehow. She is nearer to OP's age than her father. Those who think age doesn't matter lie to themselves. His father is done with raising children and wants OP to let Sasha play with hers to keep Sasha. Ten year down the line Sasha might end up bitter.

[@oliviaksiag6163]

@@thehawkseye3412 Honestly it's better if she stays with OP's father, she sounds like she would be the most overbearing and annoying mother if given the chance, especially with her obvious favoritism towards girls. She would be a horrific mother.

[@thehawkseye3412]

@@oliviaksiag6163 That's half the world. Too many people have preferences for a center gender for their child. They still get to have children and most of them turn out right.

[@oliviaksiag6163]

@@thehawkseye3412 Having a preference is completely fine, but this woman is treating the children extremely differently based on gender. There's a large difference between a preference and blatant favoritism.

[@kaykay8855]

Story 1 update: Mom and Aunt are upset that there isn’t a wedding to plan.

[@susankaempfer8427]

No wedding, no cake 😱🤷🏻‍♀️😖

[@Frostfern94]

@@susankaempfer8427Damn, I want cake now

[@jaymevosburgh3660]

What a stupid & silly reason to be upset that you don't get to plan a wedding! Good lords 😂

[@aparnarai3708]

@@susankaempfer8427 you triggered my sugar addiction Now I want to eat a cake

[@fiyahquacker2835]

​@@aparnarai3708both kinds?

[@hi_stranger9156]

Story 2: Father is a massive AH, and Sasha is a regreting her child free that is using OPs children to fulfill her own selfish wishes, that trip was all about her and wanting OP's daughter to be like her, as a mother and daughter experience, using matching tiaras, the dress of her favourite princess and going to the attraction of her favourite princess, who cares if OP's daughter is afraid of Ursula? This ain't about her!

[@LunaMane]

That's exactly what Sasha is doing. The father is an arse big enough for three people. And I really hope she doesn't get the idea to adopt because Sasha sounds a might unstable to have her own kids.

[@MarionHogan-m5i]

Sasha needs to stay in her lane.

[@AniaSchutzengel]

Literally even if Sasha was the child's mother, Sasha would be an AH for how she behaved. She was willing to traumatize a little girl just to live out her fantasy. She needs therapy to find a way to heal her inner child that doesn't mean scarring someone else's childhood. The father is full of it because Sasha was NOT thinking about what the kids wanted at every turn, she was thinking about what she wanted the kids to want.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

Yeah exactly. I don't think Sasha is literally a creep, but she's incredibly selfish and just wants OP's daughter as an accessory.

[@fiyahquacker2835]

​@@errantwinds-up8uu Sasha is definitely being a creep with how much she overstepped.

[@artemishallihan8973]

Story 2 - Sasha puts off the vibe of a parent who sees daughters like a dress up doll. Super creepy

[@jackwatt8988]

"she sent me a text, pleading with me to let go of the past and not tell tony about our history" - I would just screenshot the message and send it to Tony, then block her.

[@kelsieswain7187]

(Story 2) “We don’t watch the movie at home because daughter is afraid of Ursula” Me, knowing that there’s a ginormous Ursula animatronic on the ride: Oh no. 😬

[@NotAFanOfHandles]

Story 2: "I apologized for calling Sasha a creep." Why? She IS a creep. That poor lil' four-year-old.

[@liabowden8526]

Sasha sees OP's daughter as a blank canvas for her to project her perfect mini-me, not an actual little person with her own personality. Eff Sasha.

[@jessieBird96]

A person who pushes boundaries with children IS a creep, regardless of gender.

[@wickedamoeba8719]

Story 2: NTA. Sasha didn’t care that the kid is scared of Ursula. She put her comforts and delights over the kid’s well being.

[@xArtBx]

Who wants to bet that Tony was the other man?

[@joltman81]

Given that it seems like she is marrying him 2 years after the break up, odds are high.

[@nataliereeves3594]

How did she explain the different name part though? Did she say it was a nick name or something?

[@packergeek10]

Usually the person the cheater is cheating with gets bored or isn't interested in a long term relationship with a cheater.

[@darcos7535]

Only makes sense if he didn't know she was cheating.

[@savannahmae3679]

This world is so sad that people are blaming him because he did the right thing and informed his cousin that his fiance was a cheater. Do you want your son to marry a cheater, what the hell is wrong with people nowadays.

[@bhutehole]

No good deed goes unpunished

[@Digitalfairy]

They were just hoping Tony married to give them grandkids faster or to see him move out.

[@savannahmae3679]

@@lilunette9319@lilunette9319 See, using religion is just an excuse, I'm very religious, and I would have told. If anything my religion would look down on me for not saying anything.

[@savannahmae3679]

@@lilunette9319 So you didn't comprehend the Bible, which is fine, so many people failed to comprehend the Bible. Telling the truth and being honest is huge, a lot of people fail at it, but it is a thing.

[@paulclay4229]

Story 2, OP needs to speak to her son. Theres a reason he dislikes Sasha and the sister was clinging to him. There is more going on.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I agree. I'd be asking both of my children separately their opinions and about anything that's happened.

[@MorganVsTheInternet]

2- NTA, Sasha doesn't see OP’s daughter as a person but a doll! She was told that the little girl was scared of Ursula, and she still took her to the Little Mermaid ride because SHE likes the Little Mermaid!

[@Cosmiccrying]

S2: I had someone like Sasha in my life when I was younger. He was dating one of my guardians, he was always touching, picking me up, buying me things, trying to keep me focused on him while he was over, and much more. He was told it made me uncomfortable (especially because I was uncomfortable around men anyways) and he got bad about it, that mixed with other things got him kicked out of our lives. Sasha IS a creep, just like Daryl was (name drop because he’s a freak) and needs to be removed from your children’s life because it’s obvious they’re uncomfortable and don’t like her. Your children are more important than your father. Don’t forget that Holy moly- I just remembered the time he came into the house when my brother was visiting and when I asked my grandparents after he left they didn’t even know he was there- wow

[@monicacurtis3986]

Story 2: I was also terrified of Ursula as a child. If someone tricked me into going on that ride, I'd never want to be near them again.

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 2 update: it’s so pathetic how redditors called OP controlling, for what? Setting boundaries of not scarring her 4 year old child by taking her on a ride that has a character she is scared of on? Setting boundaries on budget? Setting boundaries on how much they should get because they don’t want another expense by shipping all of it home because it wouldn’t all fit on their luggage? People read a mother setting boundaries and thought “she’s controlling”. Wtf. The only incident that ruined the trip was the step grandmother taking a child on a ride that she knew would terrify her!

[@janedoe885]

Story 2, Sasha doesn't see those children as people but extensions of herself. They're not even her kids. She is unable to respect them as their own people or treat them appropriately because of that. As long as she views them as accessories, she's not going to be able to build a good relationship there.

[@DerekScottBland]

Story 1 - NTA. Kate begging OP not to say something shows that she hasn't changed her ways. Story 2 - NTA. Sasha is creepy AF, trying to force all of her likes on a child.

[@KadeStringer2.0]

Kate could have changed her ways but doesn’t want it to be brought up

[@Dustin81]

@@KadeStringer2.0 She is still a person who keeps important info from her boyfriends. That hasn't changed. She is still depriving people of informed consent. Stop siding with cheaters.

[@fiyahquacker2835]

​​@@KadeStringer2.0yeah that's total bs. Kate would've been upfront and honest the moment she connected the dots of the relations between Tony and the op but instead she tried to keep it all a secret. Kate did not change a single bit better.

[@TopazFire15]

Story 2: I’m actually pissed at OP. She keeps letting Sasha near her daughter, a trusted adult who keeps putting this girl into more and more uncomfortable situations. If Sasha were a man, I think OP would’ve seen way sooner that this is still a form of grooming, except instead of trying to abuse the daughter, Sasha is trying to replace her mother as the main authority figure. Jesus, this poor kid is going to grow up thinking it’s normal to have relationships with adults that make her feel uncomfortable!

[@Someone-or8tp]

Is it a form of grooming? I don't know about that, but I agree that it's weird and wrong. My mom was pretty much the exact same way with me. She would make me wear whatever she wanted to dress me up as, since I was her only daughter, even when I didn't like it. She would spend more time with me than my brothers- even when I was a baby, my dad noticed right away that she would be playing with me while my younger brother would be locked in his room. Even the Ursula thing was kind of a one to one. When I was still below the age of 8, she would force me to watch gorey horror movies and, when I would freak out, put me on the naughty step still in clear view of the TV. I don't think grooming is the right term, but I do agree that Sasha is crazy. Especially since she's NOT the mother.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

​@@Someone-or8tpgrooming sexually no, but attempting to groom her into a mom/daughter life, I can see it heavily. It's very unsettling and OP is an ass for not putting a COMPLETE stop to it.

[@Someone-or8tp]

@@GabrielleHayes1921 ahhh okay, I understand now what was meant. And yeah, it's a given that you should protect your child from an adult who's breaking boundaries regardless of their role in the child's life and regardless of the boundaries being broken. Small, like forcing them to eat a food they don't like, or big like what OP's MIL was doing.

[@stephjovi]

What kind of troll said her controlling behaviour ruined the trip? What controlling behavior? Letting her kid wear the costume she wants? Not forcing her to sit on her step grandma's lap?

[@Lestaticate]

Story 2: Heard this one, and it reminded me of the bestie of OP’s girlfriend allowing her photographer friend to take candid “mother child” photos with OP’s kid, and posted photos without consent … l while OP left her child in their care to sort out an emergency that took maybe a half hour. The amount of redditors white knighting for the girlfriend was crazy. Sasha’s unhinged in comparison and I would not hold it past her to kidnap OP’s daughter. Her children clearly feel uncomfortable around Sasha and their safety must come first.

[@hiro4344]

"Let's go on the ride you're terrified of, it's totally fine and not scary at all." is the kind of crap my older siblings would pull when I was little. A full grown adult doing that to a kid and traumatizing them. For what exactly? Who does that and thinks it's fine?

[@ToxicSunrise132]

Story 1: This reminds me a lot of a reddit story from a year or two back. The OP had a cousin who wanted to name her daughter Karen. OP knew the cousin wasn't internet savvy, and tried to explain to her what a 'karen' was and why you wouldn't want to name your daughter that in the current cultural climate. OP's cousin, aunt, AND MOTHER all berated her for it! And then, when the kid was born and the cousin finally figured out what a Karen is, OP got yelled at AGAIN for 'not trying hard enough to talk Cousin out of this'. Point being, I don't think OP was winning in this situation. If he's kept his mouth shut and the Ex had cheated, his family would have jumped down his throat. Sometimes, all you can do is take your lumps, note who's screaming about boat-rocking, and move on

[@AndyyWithAY]

Tony deserves to know. People can say once a cheater always a cheater isn't true, but I sure as hell am not gonna put it to the test. I feel like Tony favors OP, if not in the face at least a similar body, hair etc. And she wanted someone like OP again. Her saying it would destroy Tony to know is also telling Sometimes they shoot the messenger. Telling the truth was the right thing to do.

[@PrincessQ-fj9ly]

I agree with you. If I was in Tony's shoes, I'd want to know the truth.

[@dream6562]

If I was in op's shoes is, rather be blamed for something that is my fault instead of something that isn't

[@melosidhe779]

You should never protect a cheaters peace. Good on OP and his sister for telling Tony. He deserves to know who he's marrying

[@MisterNightfish]

Story 1: If OP kept this secret and later on when Kate inevitably cheats again they would all blame him. 100% Kate would throw this in Tony's face on the way out. I really like the saying "If it can be destroyed by the truth, it deserves to be destroyed by the truth" in cases like this.

[@Ll_ring00]

Story 2: Sounds like there's a weird obsession with her grand daughter, almost like she projects herself onto her grand daughter. Clearly favors her more than her own grand son, Op's father siding with his unhinged wife for the sake of not being alone is trashy alone.

[@alexanderhenby1362]

It sounds like someone WANTS to be "Grandma" but will only ever be "Sasha" and that is getting to her. Op and Sasha need to have a grown up conversation, cause "buying 5 bags of clothes" and doing a tea party AT DISNEY are pretty basic grand parent wants to spoil a grand child.

[@Ll_ring00]

@@alexanderhenby1362 True, but clearly she favors one of her kids than BOTH of her kids. Op's son probably feels really neglected and left out when he's with her.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 2: I just looked up the animatronic Ursula and it scared me. I'm sure that's something that could haunt a young child's nightmares especially if said child is already averse to the character. There is a video of the animatronic Ursula's head falling off. Maybe OP could wind a yarn about her daughter's favorite hero going to slay Ursula and then OP could show her the video of the "aftermath"! That may just serve to scare her more depending on the child's nature but it could help her feel less frightened of the character.

[@beingalittleextra]

For story 2 if there is a section of the ride where a kid is afraid of a specific character, you can have the child cover their eyes so they wont see the character. Or just close eyes and put hands over ears if even the voice is scary to them. It helped me when I was a kid so just wanted to share. But overall Sasha's behavior was so unnerving and bad. She clearly wants to insert herself as the child's mother its just awful. She basically spent that entire trip playing tug of war with OPs daughter as the rope.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I usually disagree with the sentiment that Reddit doesn't hold women accountable, but very true in story 2. I missed the ages, but even if Sasha is OOP's age she's well past old enough to not boundary stump like this. I don't like this woman and she's a b. If she wanted kids, have them or get with a man who has young ones. Don't marry a man 20yrs older and hijack his granddaughter

[@nationalsocialism3504]

Reddit NEVER holds women accountable... if a woman is actually held "accountable" it's only cause she is the absolute worst human being possible (and a solid minority are still advocating for her.)

[@bautistalover]

But Reddit typically doesn’t hold women accountable when the one asking is a man. They always find a way to make it ESH or flat out twist facts to blame the dude.

[@nationalsocialism3504]

@@bautistalover yep

[@lewisqb12]

lol I hope you don’t go out into public often…. This is such an ignorant and idiotic take😂😂😂

[@TheMimiSard]

Story 2 - Sasha kept trying to push her own intersts on OP's daughter, ignoring what _she_ prefers. That and her constant trying to baby the girl does feel creepy.

[@taetannim3581]

First story: The text Kate sent says it all, she hasn't owned up to her past mistakes, which she should since she's marrying into the family.

[@mcme1537]

Story 2: Always listen to your kids if someone makes them uncomfortable protect them. Kids feel peoples energy if they don't like someone's don't force them. I never liked being picked up as a kid, I was like: leave me alone I can walk. 🙄

[@CreepyBlueAnimals84]

I had to look up the Ursula part of the ride. SHE'S HUGE!! The poor kid must have been terrified!!

[@dragonrider1549]

Story 2 - “apologized to Sasha for calling her a creep.” Yet if Sasha was a man, the entire internet would be calling them so much worse.

[@kikirara9053]

Maybe YOU would have that reaction if the story was reversed. If I saw the same but reversed, I would assume the same for Sasha. He is inconsiderate to the children’s/parents feelings and a selfish boundary stomper. The way you HAVE to bring up “gender politics” says more about you and your issues that you are projecting.

[@dragonrider1549]

@@kikirara9053 first, I can’t even understand what your point is. Are you trying to say that Sasha was a creep, or that you don’t think the internet would call a man a creep or worse in the same situation? And of course I’m bringing up gender politics. Things don’t change by staying silent. Do you think women fought for equal rights by staying silent? Or do you think they brought it up constantly, trying to keep it in everyone’s minds and not letting them forget and sweep it under the rug? If you think the first one, brush up on your history.

[@trashotaku]

Fr, the double standards around male and female creepy behavior is such BS

[@dawnmidnightsun2521]

​@trashotaku it really isn't. Stats show cismen are much more likely to SA kids. In the US white cismen are ≈36% of the population yet are convicted of 55% of child SA cases.

[@kikirara9053]

@@fiyahquacker2835 nah, I’ve been on for a while. I do see these comments from time to time, but most people are intelligent enough to not fall into this trap. I just think this kind of behaviour is really pathetic and reeks of victim complex.

[@cookingkurry4384]

for story 2 the old saying "the road to hell is paved with good intentions" really comes to mind.

[@CroobieLetter]

Story 1: It's not just the cheating that bothers me, it's the "Well now you know so bye" that really gets me. Zero empathy, what a witch

[@samoanjoseph1457]

Story 2: The Little Mermaid fiasco by itself would have been enough for me to put this woman in time out. The fact that it's not an isolated incident, however... that would have me saying, "Dad, you do you, and we'll do us, and IF we decide enough time has passed, we'll call you." Also I Googled "Ursula animatronic" and I have to say, I see how a little kid that was already afraid of her wouldn't be cool with that thing.

[@holdfast1979]

Story 2. My family is a Disney family so I kept adding my comments out loud “bibbidi bobbidi boutique on the day the day they’re there??? Good effing luck!” “Ursula has her own damn section of that ride!!!!”

[@rowdysgirlalways]

Story 2: overbearing stepmother needs therapy, cuz she has some screws loose. My niece was levying some discipline one day, discipline that I didn't necessarily agree with and that showed on my face. She looked at me, waiting for me to critique and I told her that before I could honestly criticize her parenting I would need a PhD in psychology, as well as masters in child psychology, and at least 10 years of experience. I think this mother handled the Sasha situation in an exemplary manner. She is NOT controlling, but she is protective! Good job, OP!

[@mandyj2809]

Story 2: I’m almost certain the OP’s father sees what Sasha is doing, but lets it happen because if she realises that she wants her own kids (because she loses access to OP’s), he may have to capitulate or they’re done.

[@aduckofsomesort]

Sasha knowingly terrified of a toddler. How on earth would it be OP who ruined the trip? If anyone would have it would be Sasha.

[@reptiqueen7275]

I get so excited when Mark uploads, but this is the first time I'm this early. I'm a mail carrier, and I love to listen while I drive around. Thanks so much Mark!

[@MarkNarrations]

Aww thank you so much! Hope the weather is nice for you :)

[@Listrynne]

If you're in the US you're probably early because of daylight savings. I'm so tired and it was extremely difficult getting my daughter to school today. Stupid time change BS!

[@reptiqueen7275]

The weather is lovely today! And yes I'm early because of the time change. It messes me up every year

[@Listrynne]

@@reptiqueen7275 it's the only time I'm remotely jealous of my family in Arizona. I like my Idaho weather. Even if it's raining today. If I'm lucky we'll get lightning.

[@BraveryWing26]

I am so sad Mark didnt read that italized THEY in the second story. I love this OP for standing up to dad. Also I didnt see the update before.

[@morpho_peleides]

"Sorry I made you uncomfortable" she says that after lying to and scaring the hell out of a little kid and constantly trying to force the kid to spend time with her like when she kept trying to sit next to the daughter on the rollercoaster despite it being clear the kid didn't want that

[@PinkMarshmallows]

Story 1: NTA. He deserves to know, because what if she was cheating on OP with the cousin.

[@dream6562]

Imagine being part of that family, and that revelation caused a disagreement between your parents that ended in divorce

[@Beach12323]

Story 2. NTA my mother in law respects not only my boundaries as a parent but also my daughters. She always asks before she does something with her. We’ve also never had to have the boundary talk because I trust her not to over step.

[@michaelag6829]

Sasha doesn’t care about the children and she does give me the creeps She is pushing her ideas not only in the parents but on the daughter too

[@helenlewis2510]

Story 2 can’t wait for the next update after that birthday party

[@trilbynhiss]

Man, you weren't kidding about the Ursula animatronic, that thing is terrifying. I just watched a video about the figure's assembly, and I had to turn it off because she's hideous. That poor little girl.

[@BulletTooth504]

Story 1: Even if OP and everybody else that knew kept quiet and Kate kept her pants, there would still be drama from the strain it would've put on OP and cousin's relationship; especially if cousin actually was knowingly the AP. Also, both guys and their dads should be very concerned about their moms' reaction.

[@colleens1107]

Story two: forget the boundary stomping, the much bigger problem is Sash’s blatant favoritism towards OPs daughter…and yet doesn’t seem to care over much about what the girl likes and dislikes. I saw someone in the comment below saying she just wants a doll to dress up and use as a prop. This is very accurate. Good on OP for laying down the law

[@brookew2403]

That poor baby in story 2! The Ursula animatronic is huge! . We got stuck on that ride because Ursula’s head popped off. The creepy part was the animatronic kept SINGING!

[@impagain]

Just looked up the Ursula animatronic, and I suddenly remeber why I was terrified of her when i was little 😭😭😭

[@albertgongora6944]

Mark made me laugh at the end with the whole entire Ursula animatronic thing that was hilarious his reaction

[@maurer3d]

Story 2: NTA, Sasha overstepped in huge ways and needed to be called out on her favoritism, and taking the kids on a ride she knew would scare them. Heck I am in my 40's and Ursula still creeps me out to this day, and I saw that movie in theaters.

[@RaptureInRed]

Many times I have had to tell family my daughter is a person, not a doll.

[@cheskydivision]

A grown woman lied to a child and made her face a character she is afraid up. Make clear she not post pics and report them when ever she does. Don’t tolerate ppl that break boundaries with your kids

[@PredictedCyborg]

As a TPMVids viewer as soon as they mentioned the Little Mermaid ride I was like "Holy crap, you go RIGHT PAST a very big Ursula animatronic, is she insane?!" not to mention that ride stops and starts often as guests who need more help to board are helped into ride vehicles... there's a decent chance they could have gotten 'stuck' in front of the damn thing!

[@deettekearns9092]

Story 2 - If you all noticed, the StepMom wanted to do things with OP's daughter that SHE wanted to do. Not what the child wanted. In addition, you take your cues from the parents. You ask them first if you can do something for their child. And if you don't listen, it is blatant disrespect to the parents. It was all about her, which was in fact creepy. She's a grown woman who is acting out her mother/daughter fantasies in front of her husband and his family and sees nothing wrong with it (and neither does her husband). How bizarre.

[@pennybast3953]

Story 1: My thought was to tell Tony that OP and Tony's girl were involved, but only divulge more if he asks questions. Story2: Sasha's behavior is inexcusable. Boundaries have to be maintained and enforced with people like this.

[@holdfast1979]

Story 1: family unity. Wow. “Just force him to discover all this years down the road so HE can have a mental breakdown. Cuz fammmmmillllllllyyyyy”

[@sammidoneff]

Story 2: Assuming they physically reached the the Peter Pan ride to check the time, in order to get to the Little Mermaid ride, you would need to pass Its a Small World, Prince Charming’s Carousel, Mickey’s Phillharmagic, 7 Dwarves Mine Train, and Enchanted Tales with Belle. Assuming they were in a random location in the park and were just checking wait times, there would be at least 14 rides with similar or shorter wait times. Additionally, Ariel’s ride is at the very back of the park, in an area that takes a lot of walking to reach. There is no reason to go back there except to ride that ride, as it the only one on that street. Basically, this woman went so far out of her way to ride this ride that it’s not even funny. It was not the next and most logical option no matter where they were when the ride was proposed. There were SO many other options. Sincerely, A former tour guide

[@kimmatura3564]

Every time (3) I have told someone their partner was cheating on them, I lost them as a friend.

[@carolroberts4614]

You'd still be my friend! Lots of people knew my ex was cheating long before I did!

[@kimmatura3564]

@@carolroberts4614 I wish someone had told me my husband was cheating.

[@Dustin81]

Those friends are idiots and ungrateful. Not worth being a friend after their immature blame shifting. Good riddance. Guess they like getting cheated on.

[@1kokokala10]

Story 2: Absolutely NTA. I hate how lenient people are being with Sasha. Like the woman is extremely touchy feeling with someone else's kids and constantly disregards the parent of said child. Like the woman took the poor baby on a ride with something she KNEW would scare her, then lied about Ursula not being on the ride. Like, if this was a man, Sasha would be on a list. I'm with OP if Dad and Sasha can't respect both the kids and parents boundaries they don't need to be around the kids.

[@nekorei2023]

Imo, if i was tony, i would want to know too. If someone cheated on their partner before me, i wouldn't trust them. So nta

[@nekorei2023]

But after seeing that one comment, its f-cked up if that's true

[@NoOne-fo1di]

When my cousin got pregnant my uncles new wife said she was too young to be a grandma and my cousin said "oh don't worry, you won't be" and then all of a sudden she was butthurt she couldn't be a grandma to her "baby's baby" lol she knew my cousin for 2 years and they met when my cousin was 24

[@toxicginger9936]

Story 2: Here's hoping the daughter wasn't on the ride when Ursula's head fell off.

[@kerribottriell-baxter7345]

2nd story: HELL NO! NTA! This Sasha was FORCING OP's daughter to like what "She" liked, not listening to what the daughter wanted/liked. She is CREEP! Favouring only the girl over the boy. I've seen this when it came to my own kids and their paternal grandparents where favourtism is a HUGE thing! (More reasons why we cut them off). Heck, I LOVE the Little Mermaid, including Ursula! Even I KNOW not to force a kid to face something they're not going to enjoy! Yeesh!

[@taylorslade961]

Story 2: Sounds like OPs stepmother wants her own kids and her much older husband is unwilling to have more children so she's latching onto his grandchildren.

[@aileencastaneda3724]

Story 1: OP’s aunt and mother don’t care about their children’s well being and happiness. They just cared about a wedding/party. They’re snakes too what if they knew about the cheating and didn’t say anything. OP I wouldn’t trust them AT ALL and it’s best if you go LC/NC especially towards your mom. She is supposed to have your back. Instead she showed her true colors, your sister is the real MVP. Story 2: I would go NC because if the father doesn’t see it wrong then he is clearly enabling his wife’s behavior. Which is what he already does, he doesn’t seem to “understand” boundaries. You’re not AH but you will be if you continue to have them like this in your life. Your children need to be protected even from family.

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

2) Everyone who thinks the dad and Sasha are okay, shouldn't be trusted with the kids either. Passwords with babysitter's, daycares, school, any activities, etc.... Sasha isn't done and OP is a fool for not putting a COMPLETE stop to everything.

[@CraigD.Macias-yg7qh]

Fascinating video, Let's stop taking relationship and family for granted. I have battled depression since my wife left me. I have tried all I can to make her see that I love her with everything I am made of but she has insisted on leaving. This has made me so empty, and I do not know what to do. I can barely function properly at work. I am frustrated and miserable. I really miss her.

[@MalcolmM.Stanton-hy4jb]

Your pain resonates with me. Letting go of someone dear to your heart is an immense challenge. I found myself in a comparable situation when my 12-year-long relationship ended, and I struggled to accept it. Despite my efforts to reconcile, I eventually turned to a spiritual counsellor for guidance, which eventually led to a reunion. I'm now filled with joy

[@CraigD.Macias-yg7qh]

I'm keen on meeting the counsellor you're talking about. What steps should I take?

[@MalcolmM.Stanton-hy4jb]

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[@CraigD.Macias-yg7qh]

Thank you for this information. I have just looked her up on Google. impressive.

[@Twilightmia]

For Story 2, the lil girl being scared of Ursula is validating cuz I used to be scared of her too, I refused to watch the ending fight scene cuz it scared me XD

[@paulastiles5507]

Story #2: It's amazing how Disneyworld brings out the worst in some people. Sasha sounds bonkers and more than a little sadistic with her creepy Little Mermaid obsession. If OP wants to apologize, okay, but it's time to put some distance between Sasha and the kids, for both their sakes. As far as Sasha wanting kids (she sounds way too immature to be a parent) that's on her for choosing a guy twenty years her senior with no interest in having more children. It's also on OP's dad for enabling Sasha in spreading her whackadoo all over his daughter and grandkids.

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

Sasha doesn't want children: she wants dolls.

[@dianasmith8248]

Story 2: I am thinking that her stepmother has always wanted to have a daughter. But tried to convince herself that she was child free because she was with a man who didn’t want any more children. she was probably too afraid or selfish to try to go find a man who is OK with having a child or another child. So to make up for her not having what she probably always wanted. She is overstepping and trying to be a mom instead of being a step Grandma.

[@11Superkevin]

Story 2: Sasha is a definite creep & massively overstepping. But what OP is failing to realize, from a child’s perspective that Sasha is being overbearing and their parents are not doing enough to distance themselves from the adult that is showing their daughter, her boundaries do not matter if the person pushes hard enough. OP’s boundaries are already being disrespected but want to maintain a relationship… why?

[@TsukiKageTora]

Story 1 update. Wtf are we seven reading!? I would, as a family member of OP’s, be glad he told family that they are together with a cheater She doesn’t even regret the past, otherwise she would have apologized to OP. If you don’t regret past actions, they will repeat again later in life. OP is saving his cousin from a massive world of hurt when his cheating fiancé is going to cheat on him cause a cheater never changes, especially one who doesn’t regret or feel ashamed about cheating by not apologizing whatsoever

[@annabethsmith-kingsley2079]

story 2 woman needs to go nuclear on the dad, "you didn't give Sasha children and now she's a psycho! you fix it!"

[@ttjc3696]

Story 1: I love how the family is pissed with him for telling the truth and not her for lying.

[@AngelaVEdwards]

I looked up the Ursula thing too and Mark is right: that is TERRIFYING. I don’t know why they’d put such a thing on something children go on and I can understand why the daughter is afraid of Ursula.

[@kieramaccourt8717]

Hi Waffle Gang! Thanks Mark (and Poppy) for spending time with us! Thanks to the community for being so supportive to each other

[@nekorei2023]

All my homies love poppy

[@tinywaterdrinker5136]

Story 2. Its POSSIBLE Sasha just wishes she was a mom and just is naturally a very bad mom lol, but idk. I have horrific experiences and itd be hard for me not to think Sasha is... Well, a creep.

[@loralunafantasy]

The Little Mermaid thing in story 2 was a dick move. That Ursula animatronic is friggin huge and has a whole room to itself. At best, Sasha is an idiot who didn't think one of Disney's most iconic villains would appear on it's own ride. At worst, (and most likely) she intentionally scared the poor kid when she had her alone so she'd be forced to cling to her.

[@somnus1057]

Story 1: Tony couldn't handle the truth. What a baby. Story 2: The dad is a creep for dating someone close to his daughters age.

[@Tammohawk1]

Gee, how did I know that Sasha doesn't have kids of her own? She's trying to use OP's daughter as her own. I'm a very protective person and that would have caused me to withdraw from Sasha and Dad.

[@VFKAdventureRabbit]

Story 2 as a lifelong Disney parks fan, I wouldn't be able to stand someone like Sasha. Also sounds like it's been about her all the way and not the kids, from forcing Little Mermaid stuff on them and tiaras and everything. And the littlest bit of research into the Little Mermaid ride would've shown the gigantic Ursula animatronic it's known for, it probably would have popped up in a Google image search, goodness. I feel bad for the little kids I see who are clearly in places they don't wanna be because the adults say so.(There are exceptions of course, my parents took care to introduce me to "scarier" attractions in assuring ways so that I'd like them rather than fear them)

[@LadyDiva2545]

Kate is a 304 so I think you should tell him. She's a dirty cheater and what's stopping her from repeating the same behavior? Especially her response of indifference. Plus the whole family knows anyway so WTH?

[@Zantetsu13]

Story 2: Sasha is a lolicon.

[@tiawheeler1153]

Yikes!

[@meezerluvr]

Story 2 - Creep is the wrong word to use. "Boundary Stomper" and liar are more precise.

[@terryjackson-chubick2506]

Family and I have gone to Disney a few times so it's funny to hear it all in a reddit story.