Ideal Weight and Anxiety Eating | Healthy Living LIVE! Interview with Dr. Doug Lisle

[@christelleh3892]

My mum and sister confronted me about my weight gain after I had my daughter. I ended up gaining even more weight after they did that because I felt like such a failure and I shut myself out from the world because I saw the look in their eyes when they told me how noticeable my weight gain was. I promise you, fat people know they are gaining weight, we don’t need to be told, even by well meaning friends and family.

[@TheMissCrocodile]

I totally agree

[@oilselevated3794]

Here’s a great reply “I got tired of being so thin, I decided to shake things up a bit, and thanks for noticing!” Forget other people’s opinions, it’s none of your business

[@nikkigray8919]

So true! I need to hear this over and over.

[@pawlet]

Every time you have Dr Lisle on, it's epic. You ask really thoughtful questions and Doug's responses are equally thoughtful and truthful. Thanks for making a difference.🤗 Hi Bailey.

[@kristamcnamee1456]

Wow! Dr. Doug Lisle tackled several issues I've struggled with. This will be an interview that I will be watching again and again! Thank you Chef AJ for providing this service. ❤️👍🌱

[@NancyCronk]

Who cares "how someone else perceives you"? You are on this planet to be proud of yourself, not to please someone else. As an overweight person, I really appreciate what Dr. Lyle said about how to act around friends who are gaining a lot of weight (or who should lose weight to be healthy). When friends or family members impose their opinions, it does not help. It only alienates them more. As he said, "Mind your own business. They KNOW." Why anyone feels they have a right to but into someone else's private affairs, is beyond me. It doesn't help, and it only causes guilt, shame, hostility and distance. Just as he said -- the best way to respond is to continue to love that person unconditionally and show them why and how you value them for who they are. That goes a long way toward healthy boundaries and healing both of you. (This actually begs the question: for SOME people, is gaining weight a subconcious way to put more distance in relationships with unhealthy boundaries? In other words, is taking up more physical space in the world a way of saying to someone, "Back off. I am my own person. I need my "space"?)

[@wellnessgirl2806]

I have a lowish bmi - 18. At this weight I feel the most energised, the most like the real me.It intuitively feels to be my optimum weight. My appetite is strong at this weight and I enjoy my large volume meals of low calorically dense food. ITs a subtle equilibrium.

[@Harber67]

One of King Henry VIII´s wives thought he was too fat when she married him. This was 16th century England. She cleverly cleared out all of the large palace dinner plates and invested in smaller ones in the hope that Henry would slim down without feeling deprived. Eventually he beheaded her. He was probably just "hangry" and wanted his big plate back!!!! :)

[@potterylady44]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂right

[@WholeBibleBelieverWoman]

It's interesting, the discussion about whether getting bored with the food can be helpful. For me, I'm the more adventurous type that craves variety. Yet there was a time over 10 years ago that I had just moved from one state to another and my income was lagging so badly that I literally could not afford much food. I lived near a health food store with a generous variety of beans in their bulk section, and for about 4-6 weeks 90% of my diet was beans: navy beans, then aduki beans, then red beans, then pinto beans and so on. I made them every day, also using onions a a bit of spices. I remember well how BORING it felt to eat beans AGAIN. And again. And again. After that happened -- maybe it was more than six weeks, I really cannot remember now -- it was like I had lost 30 lbs.! I never weighed myself, but suddenly I could fit into most of my "skinnier" clothes. But I lived through all of that and the boredom was only while I was eating. It helps me to know that should things get really bad in my future where I cannot afford much food again, at least it will be slimming and I'll be okay. It was at that point in my life that I grew a major respect for beans!

[@WOK-YT-handle]

These Dr Lisle interviews are mind blowing. I came to your channel because Dillon at Well Your World suggested watching Dr Lisle interviews with you and what a fantastic recommendation that was! Thank you for these Chef AJ!

[@avleck]

Wow - yep - golden dialogue. Get healthy, get fit, and let the chips fall where they may! THANKS!!

[@tracy8062]

I’m rewatching all my fave videos! I’m very sad, mad, and depressed at myself! I was a sad eater I went wfpb 2 years ago lost lots of weight! Now I’ve put back on 23lbs vegan junk!!! (No meat atleast) I hate myself so bad right now😞 trying to break this addiction again!!! This is day 1 so far so good I’ve made it through the day but it’s like I turn into a gremlin at night!!! 😩 I love u both I’m just gonna start bingeing on all these great video’s! Knowledge is power💕

[@CHEFAJ]

Tracy I have a 21 day challenge starting tomorrow loseweightwithafullplate.com

[@rebeccak4523]

This explanation from Dr Lisle was the absolute best!

[@CathrinCatherine]

This, AJ, is such pure GOLD! Dr. Lisle is spreading knowledge and so much peace, it’s just miraculous! Such a helpful interview, so many great advices. Thank you, both! 🙌

[@CHEFAJ]

You're so welcome!

[@karenzielke9387]

Love it when you have Dr. Lisle & Dr. Goldhamer on! Thank you AJ!

[@cometsmom8943]

Chef AJ, you are a wonderful human being. Thank you for sharing your passion and knowledge with us, and for bringing these other experts to us.

[@sugarbabylove1000]

Good to hear this discussion. I just saw one of your discussions with Dr McDougall who said to look at the pritikin chart. There's no way at 5 foot 6 that I can get down to that weight. I didn't weigh that at school! (And I wasn't chubby at 15) ....

[@puppycat9412]

I know this is an old Video, but it’s so Good. I’m going to save it so I can listen to it again periodically. So many good things. Thanks chef aj and dr lisle!

[@WholeBibleBelieverWoman]

Love Dr. Lisle's explanation about the "internal audience" -- and the story of Dr. Alan Goldhamer's dad...!

[@christelleh3892]

I’m a BIG sleeper I LOVE sleeping 😂 That was actually the most difficult thing about being a new mum, I became so depressed and anxious.

[@ELLIESHAY]

Im glad he said leave them alone, dont say anything about them gaining weight. I struggled with my weight since childhood losing 130 lbs and gaining 100 back to have to lose it again. If i just gain 1lb im stressed out of my mind and i lived with disordered eating too long. If someone said something about me gaining weight (which they do) it sends me deeper into a frantic anxity state when i try to eat because i think everyones watching the fat girl stuff her face. Im 118 now but this thought never left.

[@mittakali153]

Yet another awesome interview. In gratitude: I love you both. You are treasures. Thank you for your support and inspiration.

[@tracy8062]

Brilliant Dr.!!! Thank you AJ you and these great doctors are helping me change my life! I've introduced my mom to you amazing uplifting people, she's so excited! I'm so excited for her she's very overweight with many health issues. She now has hope💝

[@tracycurrent6078]

Dr Lisle is wonderful. Thank you for this talk.

[@WholeBibleBelieverWoman]

Chef AF, your dog is SO ADORABLE...! I think you should get him a chef's coat and hat and have him make cameo appearances on your show. He is SOOOOOOO CUTE...!!!

[@CHEFAJ]

Awww thank you--and Bailey thanks you :)

[@lauralu4175]

I love this talk especially when Dr. Lisle explained about the “internal audience.” That part really spoke to me. My internal audience applauds him and you AJ for the question. Great show! Thank you 🌸💐💖🌺🙏🏽

[@calengr1]

sleep 30:30; 36:05 wt maintenance versus weight loss "when losing weight then one feels excitement as the process is processing well and great feedback...vs the lower excitement for just defending the wt loss achievement.....team cannot remotivate itself after winning everything ...

[@CHEFAJ]

Did you know that Dr. Lisle is teaching a 6 week course on The Pleasure Trap? He will be doing LIVE video lectures and Q & A every week starting on Monday, April 22. You can find out more here: click.thrivecart.com/escape-the-pleasure-trap/?fbclid=IwAR3UcPUgPg0tW69yMnXduN4QpqI-EUcJx9kbSYcgeNHJz9n6b5RaY1Wew9o

[@beverlyholiday1589]

Weight wise, the ideal seems to always be the opposite of where most the population is at any given time.

[@VeganSwimmer]

This is one of the best Dr. Lisle interviews ever. I loved it! So much about it was great, the ideal weight thing, the anxiety eating, but especially about not talking to someone when they are gaining weight (that only makes things worse, IMHO). Also I LOVED the comment about fit the food to your environment and your personality. I can't stand to eat the same thing EVERY day. I have always done better when I follow someone's 21-day plan, for example. It's a lot more work but I focus better than way. Lately I have felt bad about that because I hear, "Variety is the death of being able to stay on UWL plan or the death of discipline," or something like that. That just makes us "open to new experiences" or adventurous people feel doomed. Thank you for acknowledging that it's harder that way but "don't try to change your personality." I have felt like I need to change something that I have found SUPER hard to change so far in my life.

[@lynoredesimone5806]

Love this video. Thank you chef AJ and Dr Lisle for this wonderful talk. ❤️❤️

[@RaiPsych]

The hyper contentiousness is spot on for me, as a child I feel like I have always been hyper aware which I feel like is what led me to a whole foods vegan diet, and even pursuing my academic career. Dr lisle is so cool dude

[@realworldmom]

Mind blown right here... I”ve used the BMI as a guide to “be healthy” because I always see myself fatter than I am. I”m down 40+ pounds and finally in a healthy weight range but my body is still finding its spot and although I am a size 8 I see a size 12 at least and some days back to a 16/18... so its hard but this is great advice. BTW cilantro is horrid ;)

[@calengr1]

52:00 "match your environment to your personality.." see also around min 15:40 kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWaom2Wpfrd2kJo see also 58:34 kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWaom2Wpfrd2kJo

[@CHEFAJ]

The most brilliant thing anyone has ever said and so true!

[@josephinearborn8556]

Brilliant lecture again from one of the Best psychologists around....thankyou Aj and Dr Lisle....🥰🥰🥰

[@GeirMeyer]

J just love listen to Chef Aj and Dr.Lisle..You people help me anderstand my self and the feelings j have..love you guys..

[@bonsquared1]

One of the best Dr. Lisle videos yet! Thanks Chef AJ and Dr. Lisle!!

[@WholeBibleBelieverWoman]

Dr. Lisle is so right. At one time I lost 120 lbs. and it took a few years, but I gained is ALL back. It was possibly THE most humiliating experience of my life. I then -- about 6 years later, did it again, with 90 lbs. the second time. Humiliation AGAIN. The good news for me: I do not need to go back to the diet where I lost that weight (which was a raw diet). I find that for me in where I live and with what resources I have as well as socially doing the McDougall diet is amazingly easier (and cheaper) than the raw food diet. It has been many years now since my second "BIG humiliation" -- about 20 years in fact -- and it is nice for me now because some of the little tricks I learned and creative combinations I did back then help me now. For instance, I almost NEVER drink commercially produced nut milks; I make them myself. And it's not too hard nor is it too time-consuming (though planning ahead by some hours helps keep it simple). Back then I also became very comfortable with dates as almost my only sweetener (which was usually used for the almond milk). I'm still working now on converting entrees that have become common for raw foods into slightly cooked -- like sauteed zoodles. I had to get over the humiliation because for me it is now the choice between eating right and long and painful death, to put it in a nutshell. I'm in my late sixties and only grateful that even this late in life I can turn things around, although I understand it will take years.

[@bitfinesse]

Great point being made at the 37min mark: “Once you’ve won a bunch, you won’t be as motivated as the next team who hasn’t.” It’s a striking reality that applies all over. Consider the world of finance - mostly riddled with scams, rug-pulls and market misdirection ploys carried out with cheap tricks of capital misallocation and institutional orderflow dynamics. The scammer knows and YOU should know as well: other people will ALWAYS work harder to take your money from you than you’ll work to keep it. Just another example of the world being built to use your natural human tendencies against you while you think your best decision-making practices are getting you somewhere beneficial. Beneficial for WHO? #ManageRisk

[@bonniepickhardt5088]

Dr. Lisle’s exposure of the fallacy of the “smaller plate” theory of weight control cracked me up. A.J. loves to laugh, as well.

[@marlenejohnston4854]

"DEFENDING ACHIEVEMENT".....brilliant!

[@bitfinesse]

I dig your Route 66 hat, Chef AJ. I live in Tulsa, although I’m almost never here since I choose to live abroad due to my work. But Tulsa rests on Route 66, signs and restaurants represent with UMPH. Happy signs 🤗

[@vc6601]

Doesn’t Cyrus (chef AJ’s recent Mastering Diabetes week) and a few others say that there is good science to support intermittent fasting? And don’t animals in the wild undergo periodic fasts when food is not so readily available? Great discussion - loved it. Many thanks.

[@suzyn9119]

Dr. Lisle... that was so funny when you said... put bailey's food on a smaller plate and see if she notices. That's what weight watchers used to tell us to make it look like we were eating more food. How do you like this one dr. Lisle.... ww told us put the banana in the bottom of your bowl. Then cover it up with cereal so you will feel like you are eating more cereal.....

[@fluffysuds]

Gosh I loved this interview so much. Thank you Chef AJ!

[@meganparker7456]

That was so uplifting for me :) thank you ☺️ my husband always finds me attractive but its my own head telling me im not thin or fit enough 😍

[@FirebreathingVegan1]

Rewatching this a year later and it's good to hear again. Love the whole insight.

[@DARYLGRANTLINDSAY]

Dear, darling, wonderful, amazing & gorgeous Chef AJ . . . IT HAPPENED AGAIN!!!!!.....Every time you post a video of our dear, darling, wonderful, amazing & gorgeous Dr. Doug Lyle, I see it and say to myself, "OK, I don't have time right this minute to view the entire video, so I'll just listen to 5 minutes, then finish up later!" But then what happens??? I end up IMMEDIATELY being CAPTURED & MESMERIZED by the discussion, so, as happened today, I COULDN'T STOP and was glued to my computer for the entire thing, all 1:07:23!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU BOTH SOOOOO MUCH!!!!.....PS: I'd planned on only watching 5 minutes because I'd run out of pre-cooked potatoes, didn't wanna be caught too hungry with no starch on hand (I wasn't hungry yet, but knew I WOULD be STARVING after watching entire vid, so I had INTENDED to cook up an entire pot of potatoes FIRST......Yeah, I know, less-than-stellar planning!!) So, as I'd projected, after watching the video I WAS, INDEED, starved and wanted to EAT RIGHT NOW!!!!....(What to do, what to do???!!!)....In order to save time, I just popped 2 big pre-washed red potatoes in the microwave for 8 mins. (perfect!), mashed them on a nice big 11" plate (NOT a little one..hahaha!), then ladled some leftover cooked peas over that and then a bunch of leftover cooked spinach-kale combo (both cold, straight out of the fridge but the piping hot potatoes warmed the veggies up PERFECTLY!), sprinkled a little Benson's Table Tasty (love it, THANKS for recommending!)....So PROBLEM SOLVED!.....My lunch was FAST, and UTTERLY DELICIOUS, and I am now COMPLETELY & HAPPILY SATIATED, both physically AND emotionally/psychologically! So thanks again and give yourself AND Dr. Dougie a BIG OL' WET KISS FOR ME....(Oh, and Bailey too...I LOVE HIM TOO!!!!....SOOOOOO ADORABLE....ALL THREE OF YOU!!!!.....gratitude, love and hugs FOREVER....Daryl Grant Lindsay (Yeah, I know, I ALWAYS write tooooo much!!...Whatevah!!....SORRY, but I jes cain't hep maseff!!!!!!)

[@bbjudyfit]

I love lucy is my faaaaaaave!!!😍😍 i can watch it everyday and laugh like ive never seen it before. Which episode do u watch?

[@atomic_poppy]

This guy … he’s amazing. ❤

[@mariasophia8707]

Another great video .... learn something every time!! Thanks Chef AJ...Btw love your shirt !!! Want one..where did you get it!!😀🍅🍌🍎🥕🥑🍞🥔🌽🍄

[@joanowens7941]

Keep it coming!! and thank you both!

[@kalimat4018]

Dr listless is a great dr …his new plan in applying the plant based Diet lead us in the world of fast ,,,fast industrial foods 😩😩

[@kencarey3477]

As a personal trainer, I was taught over 30 years ago to tell people to weigh and measure their food

[@CHEFAJ]

Ken Carey Did that work? Was it sustainable? It sounds like prison to me

[@kencarey3477]

@@CHEFAJ no not for long anyway. Thats why I looked for other ways and found McDougal

[@FirebreathingVegan1]

Oh wow, I've lost my period for over 2 years being 133 at 5'6.5. So that was too lean for me..

[@FirebreathingVegan1]

This is a really interesting talk.

[@FirebreathingVegan1]

Thank you for addressing this very important topic. It's something I feel needs to be talked about in groups where weight is a constant focus. I don't know what I weigh today. Seeking healthy and eating to satisfaction daily.

[@FirebreathingVegan1]

Yes, heard about Brian wansink in the news. Crazy but then there's now less conflicting info out there esp when TN is encouraging large plates and wansink and many who follow him talk about how you eat til what's in front of you is gone vs satiety.

[@stacieparham2116]

It is interesting you brought this up...I am 5’7” and i got down to 129...i lost my period when i first got to 135. I am back there now but my period hasn’t returned in 2 years.

[@lindajohnson7047]

That Girl in Pink n

[@flmusicvegan1768]

Really great episode Chef AJ!

[@calengr1]

42:00 G story re NJ factory unionised ...44:20 PT sucks one into mediocrity, stokes the PT, lowers self esteem ....become more aware of the value of self esteem....SLOW FAST way Jan 2016 Chicago; sleep @; @ wt maintenance versus weight loss "when losing weight then one feels excitement as the process is processing well and great feedback...vs the lower excitement for just defending the wt loss achievement.....team cannot remotivate itself after winning everything ...; 58:08 more anxious persons are not more over weight than anxiety-free persons

[@gosiakonstanty3456]

What a brilliant interview!

[@shereemoon]

Thanks!!! Needed this!

[@ellen3093]

Liked before watching👍

[@wendapyaneeandee2875]

🤗🤗 I do this to all Doug Lisle's videos :)

[@ruthruthless]

Lisle talked about ideal weight for mate finding. What about ideal weight for health? A doctor told me I am at risk for cardiac arrest (as opposed to heart attack) when I eat sos free and end up at around 17.5 bmi but from my experience I have to go sos free to not be bloated.

[@ruthruthless]

@plutcpuppy I already know that healthy bmi range is considered above 18.5, but that's the weight I land when I eat whole plant foods sos free until satiation. If I incorporate some processed food I get to 20 BMI but I experience a lot of bloating. I also don't feel I am doing my body any favours by eating processed food, only indulging taste pleasure... health wise it doesn't feel better for me to be at 20 BMI. My digestion seems to work better when I am completely sos free and eating more calorie dense whole plant foods doesn't make much of a difference for the better, not for my bloating nor my digestion and often I lose the weight despite eating more calorie rich foods as long as they are whole plant foods. It could have been though a one time thing, having had a surgery that kept me in bed for several months perhaps I lost muscle mass. Still, even before the surgery I would routinely hit 18.1 BMI when staying consistently sos free. I guess I'll see what happens the next time I manage to stay 100% compliant for long enough. It's also possible I have some GI issues causing the bloating, I'm checking that possability out as well... but most people I hear talking about GI issues complain about a lot more serious problems than just a pregnant looking tummy. Most of the time I'm at 20 BMI, but I personally don't feel that is optimal due to my bloating. If I can find a way to not be bloated at 20 BMI, I sure as hell don't mind being at 20 BMI and being able to eat a vegan burger once or twice a month without it having a huge affect on me that takes months of 100% whole plant foods to dial back.

[@dennismitchell5276]

Salt, oil and sugar are not the only way to gain. Grains, nuts, root vegetables, blended salads, even smoothies can increase BMI.

[@ruthruthless]

​@@dennismitchell5276 I know that's true in general but I have my own personal experience with my body. My sos free nutrition includes grains every day, legumes every day, root vegetables daily, some nuts every now and then in limited quantities since eating a lot of those feels bad on my digestion. I chop my salads and don't do smoothies. I also have some medjool dates once every week or two but I try not to have a lot since they don't do favours to my teeth. I never felt that anything that isn't processed including medjool dates had any sustainable effects on my BMI, it would balance out in a manner of days. Whereas anything with salt, oil or sugar would leave a lasting change that would take weeks of SOS free eating to shave off. Anyway, it's been over half a year since my BMI was that low, it's now in the 20s despite over 90% of what I eat is unprocessed, but again... I have very little margin for deviation to get my inflated stomach down and that "less than 10%" makes a big difference on my body shape. I haven't persisted on SOS free long enough and consistently enough to get back down there so maybe I won't get back down there again. As I said, I have to be 100% unprocessed to get down there, and I have to persist with that for several months. I really have no attachment to getting to that BMI, I just don't want to have a pregnant looking belly... which so far only happened when I got rid of processed food, and even then was only relevant until my first meal of the day... but at least I had it in the morning. As I said, trying probiotics this time, along with the usual SOS free protocol and running. Maybe I will land on a higher BMI this time while getting rid of my pregnant looking belly, maybe not. I can just share that whenever I avoided processed food completely for several months straight, I did not restrict quantities and that was the only time I managed to get a belly that didn't look pregnant, at least in the morning.

[@rocknrobin62]

I'm from Peoria Illinois!!

[@LauraCastillejos]

Thank you for another wonderful interview!

[@christelleh3892]

Wonderful interview xx

[@ELLIESHAY]

Question for next Q&A Please: I have been suffering from a sleep eating disorder since age 13 and im 41 now. I wake EVERY 20-45 mins till i get up for the day. I wake hungry and cant lay back down till i eat so i spend about ten mins of every nights hour eating. This has been a stressful journey and sleep study only shows plm and rls. I been high carb low fat vegan over one year now and sleep isnt improving. Is this something i make happen from anxity or food obsession or will a plant based diet eventually help me?

[@sbessmaster]

Shelly Horton Palmer are you asleep when you wake up to eat?

[@ellen3093]

Eat more during the day so you're not hungry at night?

[@ELLIESHAY]

@@sbessmaster I used to be. This started when i was 13 and i wouldnt even know it till i saw wrappers and sometimes woke up with food in my mouth. sadly im fully conscious when i do it now but the urge to eat is insane.

[@sbessmaster]

Shelly Horton Palmer do you restrict calories during the day? Definitely follow this program if you aren’t already and eat plenty of whole plant foods (mostly starch) to help decrease the urges. The other part is breaking the association you developed between eating and sleep/nighttime. You’ll have to practice not eating when you wake up at those times. The first night will be the hardest and every night after will get easier. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this

[@ELLIESHAY]

@@sbessmaster oh..🙈 Yes, my mother started dieting me very young and by age 20 i think i went on a strict diet and when i saw the weight comming off i ate less and less going from 230 to 95. I was anorexic till age 27 when i got pregnant then had to lose 100 lbs again which kicked me back into eating disorders, i became plant based around 13 months ago and now i eat normal or well no that would be a strech, i am trying to force myself to eat atleast lunch and then on to try and normalise my eating habbits. once i start eating i stay hungry. I was wondering if water fasting would reset my sleep. Im so tired all the time. I know i need to resist the urge to eat every time i wake up but i feel like im gonna cry if i dont eat. I know it sounds crazy.

[@RO-jc6tb]

Amazing 🙌🏻

[@potterylady44]

Ugh...this was so good! 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

[@forisma]

Thanks again!

[@heathercollins8917]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@juliejoseph2201]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@revnv590]

Telling the air traffic controller to find another job is rediculous. She probably went to school for this for a long time. She might have to support a child or pay bills. People who are not in her situation make it sound so easy just to find another job that pays the same money. Well - it's not!!! How can she afford to buy the food suggested (preperably organic) without a job or working for minimum wage??? My husband was told many times to just get another job. Guess what - it's not that easy. Besides this, do Dr Lisle and Chef AJ not fly on airplanes? Maybe they should take the Greyhound next time, so they don't make Air Traffic Controllers work varied shifts.

[@norak5767]

I worked swing shift fora few years. I never felt it was a good way to live. That's how some Industries work though. I believe that this should be changed and they should just have straight shifts for everyone. It's much easier to adapt to a routine of sleep then the swing shift sleep.