If He's Not Serious, STOP CHASING & Do This Instead... | RC Blakes

[@angelinapeterson9106]

As I was packing up my entire home to flee from the narcissist while he was away on vacation Pastor Blake’s was on full blast speaking the word to me. All I kept hearing was your time is NOW. MOVE! Thank you pastor for encouraging me to do what’s best for my son and I. You are such a blessing

[@Braveh3artGirl]

If you don’t want to hear from him make sure you change your ph numbers etc he will try to find you xx ask people around you to keep where you have gone secret ❤

[@caseyj5597]

🤗🤗🤗

[@MultiMichaelcarter]

Omg, same here. My other was in Chicago on quote “business “ and I watched the message RC say…go now. I packed my car and left the narcissist. Wow

[@itsmarlenesworld]

That’s good for your sanity and wellbeing ❤

[@itsmarlenesworld]

Totally agree. That’s you protecting your health and wellbeing

[@embel20]

To all ladies: please love yourselves and forgive yourselves. Be kind and merciful to yourselves and respect the boundaries you have/will establish for yourselves. Get to know yourselves really well and don't depend on a man's love and attention to feel validated and good about yourself. You are worth it and you are already loved. You are lovable. No matter what he's said to you in the past or no matter what you may believe about yourself. Don't underestimate nor look down on yourself, forget what others might say or think about you. Love God first then love you next. He created you to be happy and loved.

[@briew6116]

Amen sister!!!! Thank You for these words!

[@minniel2489]

Thank you for your encouraging words! God Bless you abundantly 🙏🏾

[@janellamurphy5665]

QUEENS PLEASE PAY ATTENTION👂🏾!!

[@ilissawalker7051]

💕💝❤️💕💝❤️thank you @embel20💯

[@lovablemya]

BEAUTIFULLY SAID ❤

[@marymagdalene1212]

"You know it's time to walk away when you have to constantly convince a person of your value." This hit me hard and is 100% true...thank you Pastor for your words and thank you Doug for asking!

[@deborahgloria3867]

RUN RUN RUN FIRST 🚩🚩🚩

[@ajag57]

@@deborahgloria3867😮😢😮😢😮😢🎉😅😮😢❤🎉😮😢😮❤😢😂😊❤ 7:😮😢😮❤😢😮❤😢😮❤😢😮❤😢😊🎉😢😮❤😢🎉❤😮❤😢😮❤😢😢😮😢😮😢🎉😢😮😢😮😅😂😢😅😂😢😅😂❤😅😂😅😊😮😢😮❤😢❤😢😅😂❤😂😅😮😅😢😮❤😢

[@milapatterson1025]

Yessss, that was a WHOLE word!

[@kTorres007]

My prayers for us women who wear our hearts on our sleeve who get emotionally invested way too soon, is that we can know our worth especially when a man shows that they want us then they pull away, that we are wise enough not to chase him. This happened to me and I'm having the most difficult time, he ignored me right in front of my face. I have to believe God showed me exactly what I needed to see. I'm too mature to play these childish games. 💔 I've already suffered the heartache of a divorce from a narcissistic man. Everyone keeps telling me I'm strong but I feel like I'm dying inside. Heaven Father help me heal from all this trauma I carry in my heart 🙏

[@raeanneegan6191]

My dear sister I’m just reaching out to tell you that you are not alone. I know how you feel without you saying a whole lot of words; because I am in that place too. Where it feels there is nothing left inside but pain, shame, regret, anger and bitterness. And like there are absolutely no way you you can convey this to anyone not even your family just how broken and tired you are…I know! I’m in this place too and most of my family have turned against me due to not understanding me and judging my behaviour not understanding the trauma and pain behind the behaviour. I am tired! I feel like I’m dying inside, like I just wake up but have almost but given up on myself and life. Just like the living dead. I think for anyone who feels this way - there is only one hope- GOD! To embrace the isolation and develop a relationship with our Creator and ourselves. It is only God who can fill our voids, heal our pain and recreate us again. This is how I feel and the place I’m in that it feels only a miracle from God can bring me to a place of healing where I can truly begin again, laugh again and ever be happy again. But it starts inside… Sending you love, please hold on and cry out to God as you are ❤🙏🏾🌹

[@kTorres007]

​@@raeanneegan6191sometimes we overshare because of our overthinking, that our dear friends and family stop listening. I mentioned it to my mom because I didn't want to be the girl who cried wolf, I had to pull back off sharing my feelings and thoughts. I know those around me got tired of hearing the same story. I had to look at myself and within to correct my behavior. Some people feel too uncomfortable with our discomfort and seeing know how to comfort is so they turn their backs to us. It's like I told me Aunt once about her daughter my cousin, I can always here for my cousin through the good and bad, but it became a habit that we were only sharing the hard times and was few and in-between when she called me when she was having good times. I also had to look within if I was doing the same to my circle of people. And I was! I'm turning to God and turning within I'm finding my peace again. 🙏💕

[@ronni6346]

i know exactly how you feel that happen to me last night I'm talking and totally ignored! He does this often and is angry all the time!!! I'm nervous when he comes home. He gives me that negative angry vibe. I don't engage with his anger I walk away. And, I agree with you it is childish games it really is. I'm like bloody grow up! One thing I find really hard is there is NO apology!! For the way he speaks to me and treats me. I can't believe I'm in this situation...it hurts...I have gone over what have I done wrong...

[@THEFIRE_REAL-YT]

You need to walk away girl. He is mentally demoralizing your character, victimising and bullying you. He is a narcissist you need to get away from him please. This is not love but demons that living inside of your man. He requires deliverance

[@tunisia1168]

You are speaking MY MIND

[@maxinec1616]

"A real marriage is not the divorcing of me for the creation of we. A real marriage is the merging of you and me into we." R.C. Blakes. Well said sir, well said!

[@dougbopst1]

Such a great quote! What was your biggest takeaway from our episode?

[@anaisd3735]

So beautiful

[@NostalgiaVibes420]

Spot on ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@lala5061]

Yeeeesss I love when he quotes that...one of my favorites it's so true...although people will manipulate u using the Word and the whole "become one" part they totally misuse that I believe because they are toxic or abusive..they use it for compliance and wrong intentions totally out of context smh 😕

[@kmydesire12]

@@dougbopst1my biggest take away is choose a man that accommodate all of me. I used to have a “type” I look for Christ in a person. And I just working on healing from my past

[@donnajeffreys8252]

Someone emotionally immature will definitely age you much faster!!! If he's NOT the RIGHT one staying single is so peaceful 💙✌🏽

[@bonniedavis2407]

EXACTLY ‼️🙌🏾🙌🏾‼️😊

[@chefrio2642]

❤❤❤❤ so true

[@donnajeffreys8252]

I've heard that married men live longer and married women don't live as long as single women ✌🏾 💙

[@africaribbean6351]

Feminine: attracts Masculine: pursues

[@marisolrivera5255]

When picking a partner that fits into your future you must know yourself and have a relationship with your Creator.

[@bonniedavis2407]

Yes..That’s Paramount‼️‼️‼️😊🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@abigail1783]

Woman submitting to a man is the fruit of him honoring her. In order to honour her, he will have to kinda submit to her first, then she will return this to him by honoring him. So true

[@lala5061]

It's not kinda he does have to..."submit thee one unto the other" they both do...but people don't keep reading past "the woman submitting herself to her husband" especially men that's all they need to see 😂

[@girlbrittneygirl]

Honor is not synonymous with submit! Submit means to yield or accept the authority or will of another person . Before you say submit also means agree, it still means to agree to someone else’s authority or will. That’s not good at all!

[@girlbrittneygirl]

@@lala5061But submit means to accept or yield into another person’s will or authority. Why is submission even a topic anyway! It’s not natural for women to submit to men! Males aren’t natural leaders. Males are not the head of no one but themselves. Really if you think about it women are the leaders, heads, and foundations! Men come them! Not the other way around.

[@Portia620]

@@girlbrittneygirlso we should not submit to a man? What?

[@gaylenemitchell5448]

​@girlbrittneygirl it doesn't so good to us but the word Of God ordained it

[@sonyagutierrez1557]

My dad gave my mom money to buy him his birthday gifts. My dad took care of my mom with money for the rest of her life. Even when my dad passed away he left my mom and kids who know are adults financially secure.

[@belindaandersonjohnson2585]

Yes .. mines too

[@shalondaglover5262]

Mine dad didn't. Papa was a rolling stone

[@sonyagutierrez1557]

I am sorry your dad wasnt around. 😢 This guy told me his dad left him when he was a baby. His dad didnt care. This guy has his own family kids a wife. And even though his dad didnt care. His a good Father who is there for his kids. Rc got me to realize that I may be single for the rest of my life. Cause of Rc great advice. I will never settle for less or treat myself wrong or allow anyone to treat me wrong by choice ever again. ❤ ​@@shalondaglover5262

[@sonyagutierrez1557]

​@@belindaandersonjohnson2585❤😊👍🩷

[@suzyerichsen6184]

A good man. You were blessed to have him.

[@anabautista8071]

WALK AWAY if you constantly have to convince a person of your value. *If you do more parenting than partnering. *If the glue of the relationship is apologies. *

[@elizabethredmond-f1k]

It's common for relationships to encounter obstacles, but there is always a solution. My own marriage faced considerable issues, but with appropriate guidance, my husband and I worked through them and deepened our connection. Solutions are achievable if you're ready to work together. Stay hopeful-there's always a way forward.

[@user-yn9wk5cx3w]

I'm facing significant relationship problems and can't stand the idea of losing him. My love and longing for my partner are profound, and I'm ready to do anything to restore our connection. I would greatly appreciate any advice or help you could give.

[@elizabethredmond-f1k]

Parting with someone you love is always a challenging process, but in my experience, I had the guidance of a spiritual guide who prevented my marriage from collapsing. His name is Father Akunna.

[@user-yn9wk5cx3w]

I'II quickly search for him online. Thank you. I'm optimistic that taking this approach will yield results for me as well; his absence is keenly felt.

[@user-yn9wk5cx3w]

I just searched for Father Akunna online. impressive thank you so much one again ❤

[@Maria-0017]

It’s spot on, women who pursue men, will always be pursuing them, it makes men lazy, and then if they end up with that man , they then wonder , why doesn’t he buy me gifts, why doesn’t he surprise me etc etc, well why would he? You’ve made it all about him!

[@janellamurphy5665]

I am old school anyway, I think a woman should stay in her feminity and not chase a man..

[@christianhenry4173]

Another red flag is giving gifts Before the establishment of marriage. If a woman or man looks for money or anything etc Before the establishment of marriage it can destroy the interest in dating.

[@Allaboutthe80s]

Great point and well said! This is exactly why I stopped using dating sites. Men have been spoiled and ruined by women who chased them. They made it too easy for them. I'll never be that female.

[@lala5061]

​@@Allaboutthe80sthey really have they will be interested in u but then feel like I don't want to be a simp...let me tell u I hate hate that stupid term "simp" 🙄

[@Portia620]

Those men abandoned babies too! Run away not towards!!!! Any sign of ignoring you run! No thanks!

[@seetaapplewhaite8298]

Two months ago my husband walked out said he wants some space and our financial stress is suffocating him....he came back on August 14 our wedding anniversary and first thing he mentioned that he has a friend he speaks to visits take out etc ... I said ok so its over with us ....he said no i want to reconcile and make it work......i took a deep breath and said NO i don't think so.....even if shes your friend you saw it firto bring up her name and other things on our first meeting after two months apart..... Sorry.... I got up and walked out.... funny thing is I don't know what i didn't cry feel hurt or anything i just sighed and said God will put me where I belong and like pastor said i will get the person best suited to me and my future......

[@teresatatum2287]

Pray everything is working out for you ❤

[@misstangie84]

I applaud you Sis.. that took discernment and courage.. may God bless you

[@SheenaBerry-g5c]

What a fumble. I think he tried to clear his conscious by telling you not realizing you'd be done.

[@rasharae3496]

Life is a journey sis with all kind of ups and downs .just live and let live and you be just fine

[@fifiluxesparkles5093]

❤❤❤

[@JustBE_U]

Babyyyyyy if you have to pursue a man... "HE DOESN'T WANT YOU!"

[@tammyevans5799]

Amen. I view it like this.... the woman is behind the man whistling at him or cat calling him. She is coming after him. He is not facing you..his back is!!

[@beccamelton3529]

True.

[@womenspowerhour]

You are very right

[@vetmarie6215]

Word💯✌🏿😭😞

[@barbarajennings4321]

Okay. I needed to hear this.

[@JessSoReal]

The woman attracts, the man hunts and pursues properly.

[@anabautista8071]

Choose a man capacitated to accommodate all of you. Don't diminish yourself to fit into his life.

[@cyyrious]

YES !!

[@Daisy-w4e]

Period ❤

[@babydii3487]

💯

[@allthings73hs1yf]

Parents must have talks like these with their children. Molested by my father, and my mother never educated me about anything. Takes a toll on your life. I am so grateful to this pastor for what he does.

[@ellaesparza3151]

Can you provide suggestions? I have a 7 year old and I talk to her all the time. I don’t want to scare her but I let her know her body is not to be touched. She is not to be approached inappropriately by anyone. I don’t know if she understands fully.

[@cosmic_curves3339]

Blake has become a type of spiritual father to many people. As a woman I had my father present in my life & I love him very much. However, we never had talks like this- teaching me what to look for in a man, red flags when dating, or the good traits. I made a lot of mistakes before I found Blake’s teachings. In my 40’s I am finding myself again because of this man. You don’t have to be Cristian for his messages to resonate, because his thought process is universal- there’s something in it that can reach to the heart of everyone. In a toxic dating society that we are currently enduring in 2023, Blake is an advocate that truly wants to save healthy love.

[@tenellej1092]

Very well stated! I appreciate you sharing your experience! ❤

[@beatricelunkuse383]

Toxic dating society ❤

[@antoinettecoletv]

Yes 🙌🏽 RC Blakes daily messages will help everyone Vet any an every potential suitor that tries to introduce his representative or come with a mask on!! Clowns 🤡 wolves 🐺 in sheep’s clothing an counterfeits will be a thing of the past if we gain this wonderful knowledge, revelation an illumination on our life path!! All these toxic people trying to put us in toxic connections an situations must stop!! 🛑 ✋🏽 🚩🎯⚔️🛡️🙏🏽👑😫

[@JbArker22]

😅NA CH😊

[@myso-calledfastinglife9561]

I LOVE how you communicated this. My sentiments exactly! I think people who don't have a father or father figure in their lives forget that having such a person does not always mean that they performed the role of emotional protector in the most ideal manner.

[@anabautista8071]

When relationships have been your poison, you don't need another relationship. You need isolation. You need to fast. Think through your past relationships. Do the work and come to a place of self-awareness. Establish the parameters.

[@avrilstewart7621]

I agree, however I have to say not everyone needs to be in a relationship. Some of us live quite happily without a significant other. We live contented and at peace without the need for these outside things. Some of us can live without sex also. If that's the life you choose then that's fine. Why is it expected for everyone to have a partner.?? Some alone time does you good.

[@cpatch-nh5cs]

I agree with your post.

[@Portia620]

Agreed and did that for years! 5 years after my marriage and now dating a mm that wants me. Now I’m happy but still waiting for the shoe to drop. Guess I am still traumtized and you can’t get rid of all that trauma! You can work thru it with an understanding partner that sees your worth!

[@sharoneh8929]

What I treasure about RC Blakes 1. He keeps it real with real talk in real time. 2. He gives clear distinctions about looking for your type instead of your kind. 3. He breaks down many assumptions about relationships. 4. He speaks on the psychological perspectives and definitions in common language. 5. He gives bibical foundations and scriptures to ground truths. 6.He speak from experiences and with authority. 7. He is anointed and appointed to minister; such a blessing ✅ May God contine to bless your ministry.

[@crystalgrose]

Yes! Absolutely. I agree with you Sister!

[@girlbrittneygirl]

The Bible was written for males, not women.

[@Portia620]

Have no idea who he is but great points! I did give a guy my number and worked so disagree with that part. Now he pursued me and had his number for other reason and he was HOt and no wedding ring! 😂😂. He also had his kids with him and my ex abandoned my kids! Hot hot hot!

[@heatherlynn3438]

Narcissists come mirroring you. So BEWARE!

[@babydii3487]

💯

[@christchild1711]

I’ve heard someone else say all you haft to do is smile and look away, a couple of years ago. So one evening at the train station I decided to try it, on a White Man, I’m Black, the reason, because they aren’t that aggressive as the brothers, so I figured if it worked with him, it’s true. Well it worked lol 😂, he chased me, asked for my number, I was looking cute that day too, I was freeked out, I honestly wasn’t expecting that. All that to say, if he’s interested he will respond to a flirty smile, then look away. Don’t pursue Men.

[@cpatch-nh5cs]

You're thin.

[@DivestedConfessions]

✅✅✅✅

[@taghazoutmoon5031]

The problem with pursuing is later, not in the beginning. Men pursue in the beginning, sleep with you, then become distant. That's heartbreaking.

[@Franziska1008]

@@taghazoutmoon5031That’s the reason you must activate his heart and not his ego! Most women give it up to early and wonder why the man „only want sex.“

[@taghazoutmoon5031]

@Franziska1008 at this point, I think only way to know is wait until married. But marriage and divorce comes with legal and financial consequences. Damned if you do or don't.

[@letsbefruitful5457]

Pastor Blake’s has helped me change my like I started listening to him 4 years ago while I was damaged at the time 😢 I started to shift my perspective on life slowly 3 years free from sex , and constantly working on myself with patients❤ becoming a better version each day ! And I also started my own channel pursuing my goals is helping women care for their hair and also self love🎉!

[@greaterishe7197]

💐

[@pholoso8884]

Girl everytime I am tempted to be a "silly woman🤣🤣", I listen to his teachings. Well done on the work you have done. ❤️

[@letsbefruitful5457]

@@pholoso8884 lol 😂 I totally agree! Great ( silly woman) comment! That verse really woke me up due to my age (35) at the time because I seen women a lot older still being silly!

[@trina-zb5wr]

Its been since Feb and i havent missed a messages yet i love you Bishop .They say Bishops are a man made postion but i truely believe God sent you just for a time such as this ..Im forever Grateful for your wisdom❤

[@BreannaPhillips-kh3yz]

I am learning how to be a queen. I grew up in a very emotionally unstable household.

[@twix8930]

I'm learning it's okay to be alone. Heal yourself, meditate, and raise your vibration. So many of us go out into the world seeking instead of trusting the most high to guide us through our intuition. When you're afraid to be alone or live strictly in fear of not having a man/woman, so on, we make poor decisions that could cause more harm than good. There is power in being alone. Develop a self-care routine for yourself mentally and physically and trust the most high for guidance ❤

[@debradorsey153]

Actions speak louder than words , so it's a good idea to keep your distance if you have the feelings that someone doesn't have you in their best interests , right if they don't honor you that speaks volumes . Anyways enjoy the life you loved before all the confusion, with genuine people

[@faithing88]

I left a five year relationship 3 weeks ago, i listened Pastors video on Queens dont pursue. It hit me so hard because i always chased him, begged him, and i realised i was the neglecting myself and didnt know my value, I was no longer the secure woman he met. I had been single for 6 years when i met him. I told him I DESERVE to be with somone who will BE CERTAIN they want to be with me im worthy of that, i told him when I agreed to date you I did so because you wanted to be with me and now that you not sure, Its time to end this because I cant be caught in confusion. He responded I hear you,

[@taiwoosanyin5751]

Great message. The part that caught my attention the most was submission. Women are wired to submit naturally in a space where their voice is heard, where they are valued, honored, and feel safe. Respect is first of all earned, and then reciprocal. Toxic is what you bring out of a woman you don't honor. For a woman to respect and support your vision, you need to create a safe place for her to live. As a leader, your responsibility is to bring out the best in her. So, what you get from a woman comes from what you give her. Whatever you give a woman, she takes it, multiplies it, and returns it back to you. A woman can't be masculine and feminine at the same time, one must donate the other. Help her feel relaxed in her feminity by creating a safe place for her.

[@jenniferdeleon819]

Whether you are religious or not, this is solid advice for a healthy relationship.

[@dougbopst1]

Thanks for the kind words! What was your favorite part?

[@jenniferdeleon819]

@@dougbopst1 it was all great, however my favorite part was about submission.

[@Portia620]

He is super smart and I so agree! I was in a very abusvie realionshop and spent years with God only!!!! Tons of KZbin videos and lots of analyzing and healing! O

[@anabautista8071]

Pay attention to his energy in the long run. If it is for the long run, it does not dissipate. There is still attraction that continues to magnetise one to the other.

[@ophelia2669]

Watch his energy and match it. If hes putting No effort in the relationship, walk away . Don't put effort into someone who's careless.

[@Katrina-z1c]

RC has a gentleman kinda way of talking, you explain things in way that’s is gentle. That if you are deciding on if you want this type of relationship or if you want to just walk away, even though you love them. Thankyou for the kindness Mr RC Blake.

[@aliciaheard2192]

Recently divorced after 17yrs of marriage, RC Blakes has helped me tremendously throughout this ordeal. My biggest takeaway from this is when he stated stores don't open without putting the price on the merchandise! Don't let ppl in & write their own price on you. Spend time re-evaluating yourself, form a relationship with whatever Higher Power you believe in before jumping into anything else. I'm grateful for these 2yrs I've spent rebuilding myself. Listening to this helped me not to identify with the labels society places on divorced moms. Thank you guys, this is fulfilling content.

[@jonitrue295]

Tell George Sylvester I said hello

[@KM-oy5yh]

AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN,,Sister 🎉

[@Portia620]

This man is so smart!! Yes we must not date in order to heal!!!!

[@TheAsylumchild]

This joke sums it all up: A store has just opened that offered free husbands. When women go to choose a husband, they have to follow the instructions at the entrance: “You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are 6 floors to choose from. You may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you CANNOT go back down except to exit the building! So, a woman goes to the store to find a husband. On the 1st floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These men Have Jobs The 2nd floor sign reads: Floor 2 - These men Have Jobs and Love Kids. The 3rd floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids and are extremely Good Looking. “Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the 4th floor and sign reads: Floor 4 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework. “Oh, mercy me!” she exclaims. “I can hardly stand it!” Still, she goes to the 5th floor and sign reads: Floor 5 - These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, help with Housework and Have a Strong Romantic Streak. She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the 6th floor and the Sign reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 71,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that you are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

[@anitragilmore3239]

Oh my goodness

[@kimberly0717]

Funny, I heard this joke before and honestly I think this would go the same for men.

[@TheAsylumchild]

@@kimberly0717 No, it doesn't. I have seen TONS of little, short, fat, and ugly women with three or four kids. Men may desire supermodels and all that, but they will settle for what they can get. Women don't.

[@kimberly0717]

@@TheAsylumchild I respectfully disagree and still stand by MY observation and opinion.

[@kaleema1987]

😂😂 awesome love the way you put this.

[@holinessIzRyt]

Amen! If I can honor him and agree with his ‘clearly defined’ mission, I can submit to him. Excellent revelation. Thank you Bishop Blakes🙏🏾✝️😇🕊️

[@crystalgrose]

Very good interviewer as well. I love the way he allows Bishop RC to speak until he is finished without interrupting him.

[@dougbopst1]

Glad you loved the episode and thanks so much for your kind words! Pastor Blakes is incredible! What was your favorite part?

[@anabautista8071]

*Respect yourself. *Where are we? Where are we going? *Teamwork. *Making one another a priority. *Being conscious of your spouse's needs without him necessarily having to say it. *Learn the man. If you love him, learn him. Provide for his needs. Create a supportive environment that is happy and healthy. *Have a relationship with God.

[@ajm3821]

I love this man. His demeanor and calm voice. His information is excellent. Come on now!

[@LianeSpicer]

I've been watching RC Blakes on YT for a couple years now. Such healing wisdom. I wish I had found his good counsel when I was young instead of having no clue about the real world and relationships. Young ladies, all ladies, listen and learn. It will save you grief (not to mention time, money, peace, even your life in some instances) that you cannot even imagine.

[@immahana6854]

When I was healing from A broken relationship that lead me to be a single mother & poverty stricken.I tuned in to Rc Blake's podcast about "qualities that makes a man a king"......I realised all along I have been in the Dark n Here there was Light illuminating Every step on my way back to freedom😊😊...Loved his podcasts since 2022.

[@arnelabih1845]

I just blocked deleted I don't chase when a man ignores me neglects me I don't waste time I just replace

[@shirleywalthour9571]

I am a widow after 38 years of marriage and I believe and sign on to the wisdom I have heard from Pastor Blake on relationships.

[@Samara077]

Self worth; ultimately when you find Christ and he becomes the centre of your life over everything. This changes to game ; you then know what to look for

[@flaxtip1]

Divorced and a single mother . I am proud of myself because I have archived so much .I am in property business. Now my husband can see that his not on my level and he respects me. The kind of men that I now attract are decent men

[@debbycostanich1696]

As a paralegal in family law for 48 years, most couples divorce because of infidelity and money is the second reason.

[@juanderuano8969]

Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her

[@juanderuano8969]

wow, how did you get a spiritual adviser, and how do i reach her?

[@juanderuano8969]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

[@nikakuda]

What 3 things did you learn from the challenges you faced? What 3 things did she complain about most? What 3 things would you have changed, looking back?

[@KennyBeeez]

Prayers for your healing. Please remember not to start something with someone new until you’ve healed.

[@ninashirley432]

Yep woman doesn’t chase !!!! People are trauma, bonding or staying in relationships due to status of financial gain. You have to fill your own cup before you can feel someone else’s. You are the only one that can heal your self for a healthy, happy relationship.

[@carolhood3529]

If I had only heard this message before I wasted years of my life in a very toxic marriage.

[@audrey.m.w.v]

I loved this conversation! What hit home the most was when RC Blakes talked about respect, and the fact that respect within a relationship actually starts by respecting yourself. Having self-respect is SO important. Also, you have a gift for asking such great and insightful questions!

[@kaleema1987]

Absolutely

[@tiffanynolinspires]

I understand what you're saying about a woman not pursuing a man. If she speaks about what she want upfront their wouldn't be a chase. I flirt not chase & during our first few conversations I let the man know what I'm looking for if not mutual cool, I'll know even if he lie about it. Communication is very important out the gate. ❤

[@tanyamerry2736]

Girl I’m the same, flirt not chase x and letting them know ❤

[@priscillacobb6702]

This was so good! Every person on earth that's wanting to get married one day needs to know! Thank you Pastor R.C. Blakes!❤🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@KM-oy5yh]

✅️✅️✅️✅️✅️✅️

[@JacDawg]

Wow EVERY single woman should see this

[@Rose-TheCoach]

Stop looking and let it happen naturally ‼️

[@danilaroche1156]

Trust the Lord to arrange your Godly union & it ain't easy. Put Christ first.

[@katherinerichardson9705]

I'm in my late 70's yet have learned so much about relationships from RC Blake's. Thank you Sir👏👍🙏

[@jeanhawkins8642]

It's never too late

[@tammyjuice]

Currently I pursued a man. 1st and last time. Big mistake. I wouldn’t do it again. Loneliness cause me to. But I really did care.

[@danachristinebagares8322]

Me too I made a mistake. Just to get rejected. I will never do it again

[@michellemorrow7]

This was the BEST explanation of relationships and marriage, self-esteem, and self-respect I’ve ever heard. It all makes sense to me now. Sorry it took me to 54 years old to absorb the message. Thank you.

[@starbright2683]

I love how clear, slow, and methodical Bishop R.C. Blake's responses are. Wisdom. 🌟🌟🌟

[@MabakoenaSekano]

Wholeheartedly appreciated, Pastor Blakes. I am so in agreement with your standards! Thank you so much!

[@annabanzon313]

Boy did I learn this lesson the hard way in my past. The book He's just NOT that into you, saved my life. After that book I met my now husband of 7 yrs. 13 yrs total dating and married. TYJC

[@tanyamerry2736]

Who wrote that book pls

[@annabanzon313]

@@tanyamerry2736 Greg behrendt

[@KM-oy5yh]

My youngest daughter had that book 🎉

[@liabw05]

@@KM-oy5yhit’s a movie right?!

[@annabanzon313]

​@@liabw05yes but based on a book that was a podcast I think.

[@crystalgrose]

I feel so blessed to be in an era where we are getting such valuable relationship information. God bless Bishop RC Blakes!

[@dougbopst1]

Pastor Blakes is amazing!! What was your biggest takeaway from our episode?

[@donnafred1602]

Heal your self,isolation until you are whole, communicate during the relationship often to keep up if moving in sync. Wish I had this 28 years ago.

[@michecostafaith]

I love this man. I was broken hearted and very lost girl 2 years ago when I came across RC post about queen consciousness. He changed my entire life and I have him to thank. Thank you for bringing him on ❤ appreciate you two Kings

[@sheneerussell2418]

Minds too girl!.. I didn't even know that I was already moving in my feminine energy..I was doing queen things 😳...I will never let a man make me feel lest than again..

[@VeroVermillion8700]

I’m Not by Myself. ❤ I am to Myself! ❤

[@RebelFebAqua]

Once you become conscious of your self worth, my word that's a beautiful beginning to life long journey ❤❤❤

[@MyTi824]

I would hit the like button 1000 times if I could. What I learned from this interview was more than I’ve learned in the last 50 years. I finally understand the reason I’ve had problems in past relationships, and what I need to . Looks like I’ll be in isolation for a long time. Thank you so much.

[@jarkachalmovianska7812]

Dont isolate. You cant find peace avoiding life and love and relationships. People and relationships are the mirror. Only from their feedback you can learn and grow❤

[@TheLittlePrayerCafe]

Bring this pastor back to the show because he is speaking gems. In these groups, you got the men leaving households and these females are stay at home moms. Please have your wife preach to these women to STOP being stay at home women and then having nowhere to go. They are being up and left with nowhere to go after being abandoned by their husbands. This was a good conversation!!

[@carmenkamberos1156]

Great episode! Rev. Blake is just such a great human being !!! We need more men like him.

[@mariDas6852]

Wow! I have listened to the all thing. I didn’t know there are black men who are so wise and have so much wisdom. Kudos to his father.

[@queenconscious2989]

When I saw Bishop Blakes, I already knew this was going to be sooo good! The questions, and the discussion...top knotch!

[@sevilla7ful]

RC Blakes and Lisa are amazing. Their advice is brilliant and they are very straight talking but also so kind and compassionate.

[@patriciajohn3937]

A woman can be very protective of her children and should be.. if the husband dies the woman has to become sole breadwinner and head of house especially if she has children and no family help even with relatives, helping out she has to use masculine energy to survive

[@kimberleycoffey5796]

We work together as providers and children raising and cooking/cleaning. Support givers and responsible for keeping yourself healthy, spiritually aware, goal oriented. Etc.

[@profmj7630]

Such a great interview! Your interview style allows the person to dig deep to answer questions and at the same time make that person comfortable to share his story. Love RC Blakes and his fatherly wisdom

[@Breakthrough9]

Right, letting Pastor Blakes speak a long time I thought it was his channel.

[@xonocx]

So many jewels were dropped by RC Blakes during this conversation. It was a great convo.

[@wendybrewster3935]

Yesterday I was sitting at a beautiful landscape park. I was so happy then I thought to myself it would be so nice to have someone enjoy the outdoors with me. But I quickly diverted to my happy place.

[@sasanewnew557]

I have adopted @R.C Blakes as my spiritual father. I truly have learned so much from this man. May God forever bless him 🙏🏽❤️

[@DixieDaye]

Every time I listen to Pastor Blake it’s always divine timing- and seriously the videos find me mostly- such a wise man, I love his love for his wife and his teachings 🙏🏽💛

[@alexe4318]

Thankful this video came across my feed. Never heard of these men and only intended to listen for a few minutes but listened all the way through.

[@missxan6320]

I don’t know if I’m too sensitive at the moment or this interview was so deep and showed me so many things I haven’t been able to see in my whole life before that I couldn’t stop crying most of if. Thank you very much. ❤

[@kissesdelight27]

😢me too

[@caroldaugherty9474]

Yes I've been on isolation God has showen me so much. My self care I love me more each day.

[@shanellgriffin4262]

Everything HIT home the most.. thank you both .. shalom!

[@DEEWhite-x5u]

RC Blake's is such a BLESSING and has helped me so much. He is just so genuine. May God continue to keep him healthy, wealthy and wise!

[@kristinacesnokova1376]

listening while fasting ❤🔥🔥 a sign of God to me. screen recorded some of the words of wisdom. For me it is - don’t chase constantly and try to prove your love and your worth ❤

[@desireelawson8112]

Pastor Blakes, that message was packed with wisdom. Thank you.

[@RebelFebAqua]

I love the metaphor of lids and pots. If that doesn't demonstrate compatibility, growth and acceptance in the most practical way, I don't know what does. 🎤💪🏻💃🏼

[@terrijinspires3420]

I don’t know why I am just seeing this, but absolutely outstanding conversation! Kudos to you both for this broadcast.

[@CAMILLEWHO]

Doug, you ask the best questions!! Thank you!!🎉

[@Konkretelotus]

This episode within itself is truly a MASTERCLASS. The message was so rich that I woke up out of my half slumber and grabbed a pen and paper to take notes. While doing this I instantly reflected on so many things. I wished i had a RC Blakes like being inside my home, in relationships and friendships, in my family even and just period. I hope he sees this. I hope I can partake in his missions and conference one day soon. I’m praying for the financial recovery so I can attend. I’m so glad god brought me here it makes me emotional. Thank you for this episode and guest. Shoutout to you and your team. 👏🏾

[@viewfromheavenn]

TRUTH!!! God keep me in your hands!! I will NOT stop my beliefs for a man anymore!!!

[@carolannburke5450]

Just saw this podcast, (1 year), it was awesome.....Thank you

[@emjayramosaea5150]

What a great conversation. Absolutely encouraged by it and just beautiful to behold the truth that came out from these dialogue.

[@darlenebattle2713]

I don't chase them... I just ignore them.

[@Portia620]

😂.yes! I chase no one!

[@TheErinnAffect]

This is amazing. He’s so wise and affirming .

[@gretchenellison3521]

Anybody that You Love you learn!!!! YES AND AMEN 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

[@Letitallhangout]

Loved this episode. I always resonate with almost everything RC Blake speaks of. My biggest takeaway from this was the constant reminder to have self-esteem, always staying true to your personal goals in life no matter who you're involved with. Last but not least, always try to get better at picking individuals who are better suited for you, in order to build a relationship that will go the distance.

[@paulineearle526]

You will heal and you will be stronger. Dont let it harden you but take your time' however long that is. Know your worth.

[@anabautista8071]

Tap into your individuality. When you are fulfilled by yourself; when you are happy by yourself; when you don't need a relationship. :-) Then, you're really ready for a relationship. Don't diminish yourself!

[@cindyvazquez4333]

I like this how he explain the biblical way of 2 people coming together in a relationship. Congratulations on 28 years! God bless you!🙏🏿🙏🏿💖💖

[@Happey67]

In other words, know your purpose. What is your purpose then you know what you need and what you want your life to look like, spiritually and physically.

[@anabautista8071]

A relationship that is designed to go the distance is synchronised.