If You're Worried You'll Regret Not Having Kids, Watch This | Relationship Theory

[@ashley_brown6106]

Having kids out of FEAR is the worst reason to have them. If you have fear of being alone in your older years, just know that having kids doesn't guarrantee you won't be alone and even dying alone. Have kids out of an abundance of love, not fear.

[@8270361507]

Also having babies because they are "cute" without awareness of what they are signing up for.

[@Lyuba999]

@@bartoszferens5676Spend the time and money that it takes to raise children into making a lot of money and when you're old you can stay in super nice nursing homes with lots of friends, activities, people taking care of you etc. You don't have to be alone.

[@wanelly]

If you gonna have kids, you better have them sooner. There's no joy in having sleepless nights in your 40s chasing neonates. Remember, in your 40s, you will ba at the climax of your career and won't be able to afford time to juggling a kid and a job.

[@justinhart2831]

I don't want to have kids out of fear of being alone; I want to have kids out of fear that the world (or maybe just the West) is reaching an underpopulation crisis that may or may not lead to the downfall of civilization.

[@eddenoy321]

@@Lyuba999 LOL, kids or no kids, money or no money , growing old sucks . You have to cope with your deteriorating body and mind. Having money does help though. Having really good kids would help but that is rare these days. Being wealthy and having great kids to manage your wealth would be best of all , but few of us can attain that.

[@Blackdiamond929_]

People who can fathom not having kids are probably some of the most self aware . They are not caving into societal pressures . You cannot undo parenthood once you’ve started .

[@XFS540]

Well, you probably could if you’re someone like Chris Benoit.

[@mariarossi6719]

Fascinating discussion. I love kids but have never felt a strong pull to have my own. To my mind, it's not something to go into half-heartedly as it's too important a decision. Having now seen how much turmoil the world is currently in, I'm feeling quite grateful that I never went down the path of parenthood as I tend to be an obsessive worrier even at the best of times. Thank you for shining a light on an important topic such as this.

[@ladykay917]

Same...39 and no kids...too much turmoil in the world.

[@salut510]

@Adil Achahbar wow

[@bbtank3000]

@Adil Achahbar WOW......... some people do define themselves by their personal careers, and that's completely ok. Not everyone is meant to be a parent or feels the calling to parenthood. Forcing people to become parents will only lead to unstable, mentally and emotionally-damaged children.

[@jessa9877]

I hate kids

[@bling0rb007]

That's sad. Hope you find a better world. Our world has been chaotic since the beginning of time. In my early twenties, I was worried about having children for the same reasons. Once I hurt Heaven and Hell exists when you're old. Then I asked myself,,,,, in my last 10 or 20 years of my life when I'm old. When every friends and family members around me are dead, I'm the only one left on a bed. Will I be in hell? Or seeing a part of my little life in a young body, smiling, crying and laughing,,,,, is heaven? After having two kids. I live a better, more chaotic, colorful and happier world now. Yes, it's sad because your comment reminds me of my cold and dark days. So I understand.

[@sarahg9632]

I'm really grateful to see good online content about questioning whether or not to have children (and when). It's a monumental decision that people routinely admit they put zero thought into

[@sofiaroiz1152]

Great to see such an important topic being discussed. I know of some people who weren't particularly interested in having kids but panic breed as they approach the end of their thirties and as they reach their forties. Citing reasons of FOMO or having someone to look after them in their old age. These have never struck me as the right reasons for having children.

[@maryamdiao1509]

Exactly it’s really just fear

[@daveanderson4013]

Then to have kids and find out they were missing out on stress and sleep deprivation, just as they are reaching middle age when the body is telling you to slow down and get proper rest. It's too late at that point, and they realize this is their new lot in life until they are nearly 60 years old.

[@caterinadelgalles8783]

I am never in a relationship, let alone in a marriage. I would have had kids, but I never met a man who wanted me. I'd prefer to have no kids that a kid with a man who half wanted me, because my future would have been: divorce/separation, custody stress, single motherhood, poverty and a child without a mum and dad working together as a team. So, what I see is:- people having kids for themselves and others without thinking about the child itself.

[@TL-ch1xd]

Yes, and looking at the divorce statistics and the reality of parenthood (which is much like managing logistics and a corporation - and for most a constant time and money struggle) is that it’s more common than uncommon for children to grow up without parents who display healthy and mature love between themselves. Many grow up with single parents, in stepfamilies or with parents in a loveless/unhappy marriage. How are the young ones going to grow up and build themselves something more healthy and happy if that is the way shown to them as how to live? We have so many children on this planet already, that I believe it is quite selfish to reproduce, to be honest. If one wants a family with children to raise so badly, society and those people should focus more on the children who already are here and in need of care.

[@jovankrstic250]

Your last statement 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 ppl are so miserable not having purpose so they bring a child to make their purpose and than making child miserable for not doing so, cuz thats not what child should do anyway. They bringing kids with to do list for themselves

[@lucasdarianschwendlervieir3714]

Hmm what I would add is that thinking about the child is loving the child, in practice, not in hypotheticals. Because love is good. So what I will say for myself is that I don't know if I will have children, but, if I do, I will do my best to love them with all my heart. Not because I want them to take care of me when I'm old, no nothing like that. It's because I want to be the best I can be, and to do good to teach the kids how to do good, so that at least they have the seeds to do good and be good and to love when I'm gone. That's sufficient. That's my take anyway.

[@thomasshort1784]

@Caterina Del Galles In MANY cases, that's exactly what it is!

[@magical_universe793]

If u never found a man that wants u then u are the problem 😂

[@sergi3629]

You will regret having kids and you will regret not having kids, that's impossible to avoid.

[@snoozyq9576]

That's not true plenty of people don't actually regret the decision

[@neginasghari]

I agree with Sergi, you can't avoid times come that you regret, and those time might pass in a second, minute, hour, month, years or never.

[@estabblushed07]

Good point.. I hate to say I have no regrets not having them....idk if that makes me bad saying that..I just feel same it's a big decision and I don't feel like it's something you do without really thinking it through ....first hand working in system with kids with problems...it became quite apparent to me that too many people had kids without thinking it through...I'm sorry when I say this ...don't take wrong way...I feel like it becomes an ego thing .... and that isn't the best way to approach it at all

[@lucasdarianschwendlervieir3714]

Yes but people who regret having kids typically don't tell that to their kids, because that's like saying - I regret the fact that you exist.

[@thomasshort1784]

@@estabblushed07 Not only am I, personally, NOT offended but, I wholeheartedly agree with your comment. Very insightful, to say the least!

[@makemedizzee]

It’s cool to hear how you guys continuously readdress your situation and still find something new to discover about each other

[@TrangPhamNguyen]

Love seeing a power couple who chooses a different lifestyle; its nice seeing this as a vision that I see my future

[@ladykay917]

Yes its refreshing!!!...

[@renarich4942]

Meh

[@andrewbirkett698]

What’s a power couple?

[@evilds3261]

It's better to be safe than sorry. Safe = Not having kids. Sorry = having kids. Better to regret not having them than to regret having them.

[@gatanegra8815]

Definitely. In the first case there is only 1 victim, in the second there are 2 (3,4, ...)

[@neoguri22]

damn for someone who feels about 50/50 this really struck me with clarity. thank you so much

[@kenny995]

If you want kids have them amd if you don't want kids then don't have them. What ever makes happy 😊

[@indyd9322]

It's a gamble either way. You don't know truly how you're going to feel about being a parent until you are one. If you choose not to have kids, once you hit a certain age (at least for women), biology takes the choice off the table to have bio kids and that can feel a little odd and doubt inducing. Even if you otherwise really appreciate your life, there will be moments when you wonder what life on the path not taken would have been like and that's okay. All we can do is try to make the wisest choices for ourselves, and accept that choosing one path sometimes closes off others.

[@GhostRangerr]

There's one thing that's certain and it's having kids puts you in emotional/mental & financial trouble. The thing that you'll only find out much later in your life is....was the emotional/mental & financial trouble even worth it in the first place?

[@netterz3411]

My mom had me at 43 she said it was a easier pregnancy then when she was 21 lol

[@blackwater7183]

Are you looking for a partner to try with?

[@thomaslemon3971]

@@blackwater7183 What a weird fucking thing to ask.

[@Mrhdigital3791]

You can’t miss what you never had.

[@ladev91]

You can regret what you could have had though

[@Mrhdigital3791]

@@ladev91 not my mentality.

[@Ella-te7fe]

​@@ladev91 not when it comes to kids.

[@Maybe-cg2tn]

Ppl are always going to want what they don't have. Things aren't always greener on the other side.

[@КатяПоздеева-х3ъ]

Sorry, this is just not true.

[@hakami6299]

It goes quite dark and yet it's so heart-warming... I completely understand Lisa's reasoning :) ❤️

[@silver2zilver]

Its Dark hearing a woman confess her want for a child and then hearing her man tell her no.

[@WouldntULikeToKnow.]

My entire life I said I didn't want kids. My husband knew, my family and friends knew. Now that I'm in my early 30s my hormones are in overdrive. Why did no one warn me about this? My husband laughs and says "welcome to the teenage guy's world". I'm now VERY conflicted about the situation. I understand where she is coming from. If I ever lost my husband (god forbid) I would want a piece of him to go on in the world.

[@BeaIEngio]

Really? I don't understand that. It's such an awful place and it will get worse from here. I would never place anyone else in it.

[@Hannah-us8ru]

@@BeaIEngiothat is why I struggle with the choosing to want kids

[@maribelg648]

@@BeaIEngio same this world is so sad and dangerous. If I could’ve had the choice I would’ve never chosen to be placed here.

[@ronakbansal6157]

Really? I have heard that women have no biological drive for having kids. Is it true that they do want kids. Please tell me the truth

[@abcdabcdoops]

@@maribelg648 even if it is not dangerous and you are not in a country in the midst of an active war, it still is no bed of roses. You got to keep a job to survive or risk homelessness. The daily grind till you become so old and frail to then just have to give up everything you worked so hard for and die one day. For what?

[@JBeeship]

At first I never wanted a family because my parents were truly awful, than in my teens never wanted to even be a wife because I never wanted to be like either my real mom or step mom. After I got married and got pregnant all I ever wanted was to be a better mother than mine were.

[@ViagensGringa]

Lisa's arms look ripped!! THANK U SO MUCH FOR COVERING HTIS TOPIC!

[@potofgreeed]

its really nice to see multiple perspectives be acknowledged and see them work through the issues in real time, as opposed to come barreling in with a pre-existing opinion and point to prove right. i also love the psychology talk. so hard to find these nice podcasts nowadays

[@theone-nm2xu]

Have kids if u want,but dont moan about it later and expect the gov to pay for it. Also who the hell wants to bring a kid up in this bull world anyway,if you aint rich Forget it

[@zullyamaya1]

I agree - you will have regrets …. At varying degrees…

[@lucydavis265]

There is so many what could have been in life. I trust things happen for a reason ✨. I feel safe in my own personal judgement that you have to act or not act on how you feel at the time. As for getting older, children do fly the nest and theres no gaureentee they will comfort you in old age.

[@eddenoy321]

Even in the off chance that your children have good intentions, there is not a lot they can do for you.

[@MrsJC808]

My biggest fear about not having kids is exactly what you said. If my husband died in ten years, I would regret not having that connection. At the same time we all die someday, maybe in ten years or sixty. Some parents outlive their children, even.

[@blaska7131]

I would ask is it worst to regretting not having kids, or regretting having them.

[@Imokay1695]

Asking for a friend

[@guessundheit6494]

Asking people "when are you going to breed?" is sexual harassment. It is invading someone's sexual life with inappropriate questions.

[@badbgp]

Dramatic

[@BitterPeachh]

If you can afford kids, yes have them. If you can't, don't.

[@eddenoy321]

Not fair, is it ? Kids are becoming a status symbol ?🤣

[@athena3865]

It's no one else's business for you to have kids. If I had it to do again, I would stay child-free. Not only did I almost die from pre-eclampsia (women still die from childbirth), there is no way I would bring an innocent life in this world to suffer and die; it's immoral. Of course I was taught the opposite via religion back in the 70's, though there is no way I would do it, today. I had one son and no other children, and it ruined my life. It was no fault of his own of course, though it was horrific for him also; his dad whom I had to leave twice and finally divorce, tried to destroy us both. This world is too cruel. I am 64.

[@eddenoy321]

Sorry ....same happened to me

[@mot.inf.9560]

awesome content as usual! ..no joke. though it sorta reminds me of the intro to that legendary film "idiocracy" where the smart couples talk about having kids.. come on, maaaan! 😁

[@westcoastsands]

This is a fascinating topic. Thank you for covering it.

[@samuelaubrey2612]

I don't want children, I've watched them destroy so many relationships

[@caterinadelgalles8783]

They really do, especially if the parents are not married and the child is out of wedlock. Stats show a grim reality with the separation percentage and unmarried (and progressive) couples compared to married couples.

[@camilaferreira.s]

The blame is not on the kids but on immature parents. Children cannot destroy relationships, adults can.

[@JudeKnowsWhatYouDoNot]

This is an ignorant statement, it’s the immature parents who act like the kids destroyed the relationship

[@TheGoldenPlatoon757]

That's the truth. 💯

[@TheGoldenPlatoon757]

@@camilaferreira.s Facts!

[@chaulashah9673]

We can only make decision for right now. Listen to your instinct ..you will know .First listen to your own instinct & then listen to your partner's expression. It is all unconscious ..

[@devon1994barnes]

I think this idea of having children being only about fulfillment in a general sense is wrong. Many different things fulfill me in different ways. So while I love my job and I love ministry and I love the children I do have I also want to be married. These things are mutually exclusive and while the rest of those things may be going great, i would still desire that. All of those are interchangeable and there is also more that i find fulfilling. Also, I feel as though while it was not the end all be all, that Lisa wants at least one kid for that experience and also as another page of her relationship with Tom that she wants to venture into, amongst potential other things. If you want kids and you plan to be and stay healthy, I would still say do it sooner if your life permits. People think being young and living free of children is going to let them have more fun. I'm 27 and I have heard that a ton(more or less) but unless your are very financially successful now, all you are setting yourself up for is having children in school/college while you are in the sweet spot of having the most money(given that your career has over time brought you more money) and still being very able bodied. have kids at 20 and they graduate high school when you are 38(this is just an example) you have plenty of money and now you can take real vacations. You aren't saving for a college fund or a home and your career has reached it's peak(or close to it unless you run your own business and aren't capped somewhere) and if you are healthy(which they said they feel better and stronger than ever or something like that) then you are gonna ball out. Or travel and stuff until you are 35. Then have a kid and they graduate high school when you are 53 and while you are making plenty of money you are almost a senior citizen at the point that the kids aren't necessarily the primary concern. Now assuming both people live to be 100 and that you will still be able to vacation and do fun things while you have children while you are young, starting earlier makes more sense to me, once again assuming that life permits( financially, biologically, and relationally) This is just my perspective

[@scrubadubduck]

Btw orphanage in the US and alot of other countries heavily restrict older parents over 40 to adopt even though their orphans needed it. I don't like children so this doesn't apply to me but just fyi ...

[@tiffanykershpalmer2143]

I cannot think of a single reason for want having kids thats not vein, selfish, or even slightly narrsacistic.

[@sunvavachi]

I'm dating a guy so similar to Tom. Tom appears to have many insecurities and not a strong foundation wise. Stems from upbringing. I feel like Lisa here. Open minded. They definitely work but she seems to want kids but things could change if he feels stronger on himself.

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[@Jay-vr9ir]

CHILDFREE YES !!!

[@bevanbuckwheatshea5520]

YES YES YES

[@parentingbeyondbehaviours6382]

I think it’s ok if people choose not to have kids

[@sadhbhjohannesiesuldtfjort3917]

How do your fans provide you their questions?

[@MissK_Tjimune]

I think it’s through their facebook page and youtube comments.

[@MissK_Tjimune]

I’ve heard them say the question is from Facebook more than KZbin though so I suggest checking out their fb page & video description box for more info.

[@vague_1255]

Wow that’s exactly my thoughts that if smth happens I would not want kids instead of my husband because this is never a replacement but no one understands me and accepts my decision. I am 33 and happily married. But my husband sometimes speaks about kids and I can’t figure out if it is his natural desire or desire of his mother translated to him in that way, or a social contract. As for me, I am so scared to loose myself in this battle and to not be able to recognise one day my own thoughts about this topic and the thoughts of relatives and society. It is such a pressure to live like that. Moreover i don’t even have a good explanation and reason that my relatives could accept as an argument for not having that desire to have kids as I don’t have a successful job or career. But I am very much introverted person, I would say a bit egoistical, and I love self development through my hobbies, travel reading, and I want to explore all these exceptionally with myself or my husband. I don’t want other people in the house even if they are nice kids growing into adults one day which scares me to death. Maybe I have a kind of childhood trauma, I don’t know why I am like that. Any advice or help is much appreciated

[@Hopehope179]

I enjoy your other channels and just stumbled upon this one! I had no idea you guys don’t want kids although I think baby Bilyeus would be so lucky to have you both as parents. However this discussion has definitely made me dig deep into why I want to have kids one day. There’s only so many things we get to do on earth that are unique to this human experience and having children is one of them. I would die much happier in old age knowing that I got to experience everything this world has to offer. Maybe that’s selfish but oh well!

[@LovelyDay11]

Unique to human experience? Procreation?

[@D0MiN0ChAn]

so you also do drugs regularly? migth wanna try herione next, i heard it's a helluva ride... sorry. no single human will ever get to experience "everything this world has to offer", that's just bs. also, if you choose one path, you will literally never experience the other.

[@GhostRangerr]

Procreating isn't unique to humans. Animals do the same thing Lol.

[@sanaghafoor84]

You guys are adorable together. 😍

[@eddenoy321]

You are blind🤣

[@RA-yh6cb]

You guys are so cute and authentic

[@sheilasimbine4991]

She wants a kid. She choose him and since he doesn’t want kids, she won’t have them. Hopefully we won’t regret it and will live a happy live 😊

[@lordbalance6291]

My wife wanted to have kids but I don't. So, I just gave it to her. I made her two kids. She is the happiest mother and wife. So, if you don't want now, it doesn't mean that it won't be changed. Now you don't want, but tomorrow you want. Nothing lasts forever

[@silver2zilver]

8:00 lisa confesses to wanting children with JUST tom and tom once again LIKE A SALESMAN has to sell her off of it. Her love for him is her pain

[@KTR__]

I don't like how he's always trying to tell jer how she feels. He's kinda rude. Lisa is a sweetheart and it's obvious she is very into Tom.

[@atruenut]

It would be more wrong for him to have kids just because she does

[@shawnmugee]

It is the mystery of love. Basic human conundrum. We can't know until we do it. You will always regret what you didn't do...not what you did.....proportionally....We create meaning.....I was a hard core male individualist climb the mountain alone Leninist get real kind of guy. More or less accidentally had a kid and it made my life. I am now 65 and I can not imagine what I would have cared about for the last 20 years if it wasn't for my son. Do the death bed exercise. Are you going to be on your death bed wishing you spent more time on a plane flying to eco-resorts ? More phone time ? More stuff ? Talk to old people.....get the scoop and turn the computer off.....My bit....

[@edgarross10]

How can I send you my relationship questions?

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[@silver2zilver]

I think they are just handling their own questions i dont see anyones questions getting answered especially mine

[@theone-nm2xu]

Mummy daddy can i have that,sorry darling we cant afford it,they why was i born then lol.

[@DawnClark-wj9ix]

What if your parents did not want kids. Don't you wish they had waited so they could have had their "life" ????

[@tracymay6702]

All great, but his ears sticking out is so distracting.

[@smeemira8225]

I love you guys both, I've seen all impact theory episodes and I've seen all you relationship theories. As somebody from the outside watching, it looks like Lisa wants kids and Tom is using an arsenal of speaking techniques to talk her out of it. Now, like I said, I'm an outsider looking in and my impression might be all BS. But after watching this couple for such a long time and seeing their interactions on camera, it somewhat feels like she still hasn't given up on that dream to become a mother. However, he seems adamant and remains unimpressed. And, on top, I get the feeling that he's deep down very upset about this topic as he appears to be working extra hard to push all kinds of opinions on Lisa. Like a salesman or maybe more like a robot, repeating the same phrases over and over again.... Anyway, might all be BS as we are the audience and don't know what is really happening behind closed doors. I wish them well and hope they have it all figured out!

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[@nellie...]

Interesting....

[@silver2zilver]

8:10 LISA LISA LISA LETS GOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!

[@ladythetruck733]

Wanting children to have a Peace of someone is Hella selfish 🙄still. That's not a good reason 😕 that's selfish. Is that what the baby wants. Kids grow up

[@dionneo6305]

Baby Bilyeu’s on the wayyyyyhh .. I felt that one .. the desire is still awake

[@NaturesCalendarClock]

It is so unfair that women only can freeze their eggs for the possibility to change their mind later..... men can always change their mind easily and find a younger wife.

[@emilj.d.4417]

Ignorant comment

[@noyjspoopy1564]

@@emilj.d.4417 no

[@thoughtfulpro371]

?? What did I just listen to 😂 this is not really about choosing to adopt or birth children & raise them.

[@victoriamontemayor]

"It's not the choice between husband and kids. It's about fulfillment."

[@ashleylascu]

True. Unless your husband doesn’t want them.

[@west72]

When you’re 60 or over and your career got rid of you, what is left?

[@Ella-te7fe]

60 is not the end of life. I know women in their seventies single and childfree who are still kicking ass and doing so many things with their lives. I also know people who had kids who don't care about their parents at all.

[@deludedxo]

don't you have hobbies?

[@HannahV554]

‘Gleeful acceptance’ 😂

[@KGifted]

I would love to know why I'm seeing men committing to masculine women.

[@noyjspoopy1564]

What

[@reginafisher9919]

Don't have kids!!!

[@HitmanKingJay]

That's why I stay away from the kids talking because I might be a gentleman but having kids only makes me talking to you and yes 8t is out of fear I don't know

[@claudiagonzalez8686]

So millionaires with no kids and no adoptions. OK let everyone and everyones kids buy their products🤦‍♀️

[@bigthangz5489]

make embryo & keep it on those labs where they keepit

[@lordbalance6291]

My wife wanted to have kids but I don't. So, I just gave it to her. I made her two kids. She is the happiest mother and wife. So, if you don't want now, it doesn't mean that it won't be changed. Now you don't want, but tomorrow you want. Nothing lasts forever Having kids is better in any logical sense, I want to smoke a cigar with my son and drink wine with my daughter. And it's a blessing not a curse.

[@katarzynad9180]

Having children for smoking cigars and drinking wine with them 🤭🥹

[@Bravegirl2024]

​@@katarzynad9180 he is crazy he surely did not want children I pity his wife😂

[@justinhart2831]

The reason to fear not having kids is because not enough people are having kids today and our civilization is heading for a disastrous population crash.

[@silver2zilver]

Did tom have a father? How come u guys never talk about your parents? And your relationships with them? I only ever heard tom mention his mom a couple times and its the same story

[@bevanbuckwheatshea5520]

Get a rescue dog.

[@jonathananderson5313]

Have the kids

[@azlondon]

I think Lisa deep down wants kids. But he doesn’t. Poor woman.

[@azlondon]

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[@eddenoy321]

I think you are correct about Lisa, but I don't pity her in the least.

[@azlondon]

@@eddenoy321 Why?

[@eddenoy321]

@@azlondon She has a common disease of women her age . It's called ...'baby rabies'. One of them will have to cave in or they will split up. Which one do you think will cave ?

[@ligiasommers]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻🙏🏻💖🌷

[@con2mms2000]

People had called me misogynists, etc... And that's ok 😂 the thing is that a CEO woman with kids it's happier than a CEO without them. I'm saying HAPPIER. Is not that those that don't are unhappy. But for me, nothing fullfil more a woman than having kids. Just ask your mom, your grandma, etc. I repeat. Clone 2 women and the happier is the one with kids.

[@bling0rb007]

Difference between 25 years old parents and 35 years old parents. At 25, you can sacrifice sleep, still work hard and still be active with family. Well in 35, everything else is maybe harder but I have seen people in their late 30s Being Fit and raising family while running their business. But it's rare. Come to think of it, most of the Rich and successful people I know has children. What is life without giving a life?

[@LordNinja109]

Life. The answer is still life. You can be kid free and still have "life".

[@bling0rb007]

@@LordNinja109 And "your life" has an end ⏳️. We all do. What would be the difference between you and me when we both are gone? What is "left" of us? Heaven and Hell exist while we are alive in our last 10 or 20 years of life. Reply and share your opinion but this deep questions can take years to understand.

[@LordNinja109]

@@bling0rb007 No difference. We'll both be dead. I won't care about the fifth generation after me one bit. And I doubt that generation will care much about me past possibly knowing my name. Genetically they will only have about 6.25% of my genes and I'll be one of thirty ancestors that they'll have at that point. It's my opinion and it could be crap, but having kids just so in a hundred or so years there's a smidgen of your genetics and someone might know your name is a pretty bad reason for having kids.

[@bling0rb007]

@@LordNinja109 and that's how you will die with these words. It is your choice. Do as you please. I will admit. Half of the reasons to have children is selfish. But there's the other half. And don't think about five generations ahead. Think about your last breath. Is that hell? Or is that heaven? ⏳️

[@LordNinja109]

@@bling0rb007 I've seen plenty of last breaths. Having children change nothing about how we die

[@shaylagoogle3097]

If you want kids, don't wait too old to have them because you get tired when you hit 40. Why not have them when you have energy for them? It's really a choice if you want a beautiful child to pass your legacy. Yes or no. it's up to you.

[@zulfiqarahmad3147]

Childless couples may get help, contact if you are looking for a solution

[@nom33345]

Cringe

[@dreamphoenix8380]

Holy crap Lisa obviously wants kids! Tom you better dig in those guts and create a baby!

[@Clleonie]

Eh, no ! He doesn't want one so why should he ?!

[@CallHerDayli]

Majority of Woman naturally want to be mothers, even if it’s for fulfillment or just plain ol’ biology, woman were created to procreate, and it’s obvious that Lisa would love to have her husbands children but what puzzles me is him trying to talk her out of something that she would possibly want one day. Sucks. But Maybe he’ll come around and think about his wife & how leaving a piece of himself to still be here on this earth with his wife & family would look, If he was to actually pass away first.

[@salut510]

Its better they go they separate ways and be happy their own ways. If she wants children and he doesnt, its better to move along

[@darrenwareing5715]

blah blah blah

[@Nicool333]

I have a daughter and wish I had had children sooner in life so I could have more than 1. Being a dad is the greatest privilege one can have in life. Women who choose not to (or say they choose not to) are making a mistake.

[@chantalreneehayles7976]

for you, as a man, that is easy to say. women more often than not have to go through very extreme and uncomfortable emotional, mental, and physical changes that can sometimes be permanent or even fatal.

[@Nicool333]

@@chantalreneehayles7976 outside of fatality (which is extremely uncommon today), I have yet to meet a mother who regrets the decision to give birth. Few things in life (maybe nothing) will give you the joy and fulfillment that a son or daughter can provide. Watching them grow and flourish gives life purpose and meaning. Plus it’s so much fun! The only true downside to kids is that they are incredibly expensive. Like way expensive. I could have bought a Ferrari by now. Lol.

[@chantalreneehayles7976]

Nicool333 it’s not just the giving birth or raising the kids after. It’s the being pregnant/post parfum part as well, which lasts for way longer than nine months total. Not everyone wants to go through with that process. As you quite literally don’t know how your body is going to handle it. Even from pregnancy to pregnancy for a single individual can vary. Some women have conditions during pregnancy that makes them feel itchy literally everyday for month, which can be very painful and lead to infection. Or find it impossible to keep food down and throw up everyday multiple times a day, leading to hospitalization. Not everyone wants to take those risks of that happening to them.

[@Nicool333]

@@chantalreneehayles7976 great. Don’t have kids. You would be a mother who would teach children negativity and self victimization. Better not to have more people like this in the world.

[@LordNinja109]

@@Nicool333 Oh look, another man's opinion on women.... Must be an expert...

[@spaceparrot8702]

If you have any doubts at all, don't have children then. They aren't what you really want. Even if you have no doubts, you should still do some gathering of information, personal opinions etc. We're already over 8 BILLION people on this Earth, think about how many more we will be by the time your kids grow up and the kind of world they'll have to suffer through.