If You Take A Break From Watching Porn, This Happens - Andrew Huberman

[@ChrisWillx]

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[@arttuy437]

Link is to this video

[@Vladimyrful]

Wrong link Chris.

[@LavishPatchKid]

I don't know what the point in all of this is. Is it to warn guys - or to bring in prohibition? I'll never believe in banning something just because some people can't control themselves. But if it's just to make dudes aware of how dangerous it can be, than right on.

[@paulwally9007]

@@LavishPatchKid Stupid video makes stupid claims.

[@fatsacktony1]

"Only watch POV porn" -Andrew Huberman

[@polishpimp4233]

It's time for this society to accept that porn is destroying the minds of young men and social media is warping women's minds. Both are a serious problem.

[@ALTheFreeMan]

Agreed! I’m not an advocate for porn by any means, however, we always hear about the “porn epidemic”, but social media and it’s damaging effects on women is hardly ever mentioned. If every single man were to stop watching porn today and get back to “real life”, they would still have to navigate a world full of women who are plugged into the “social media matrix”. And because of the unrealistic expectations created by social media and dating apps, porn is the only outlet many men have these days! There are two sides to this coin!

[@FISHinho8]

@@ALTheFreeMan Good insight.

[@s0nnyburnett]

@@ALTheFreeMan bingo. If men could have actual sex and meaningful relationships with feminine women we wouldn't be here.

[@MrBoomie00]

I agree whole heartedly. But more importantly, your handle is baller af.

[@polishpimp4233]

@@MrBoomie00 Ill be honest the name is a total joke. I am polish but am not by any reasonable metric a pimp.

[@prettyboyjeremy]

Nothing will destroy your life faster than having everything you ever could have wanted all on demand whenever you want

[@seansmith1725]

Whats worse about porn is that it isn't even what you want, but an illusion of it. That's what makes porn addiction so depressing to me.

[@mikeym8335]

@@seansmith1725 very good point.

[@Ja50nkAt]

True, leads to sloth and pleasure for pleasures sake.

[@fellipedasilva99]

The only exception to that is good, healthy delicious food lol.

[@psychedelicdivinity2872]

Amen

[@omarsindbad]

I'm 42 yrs old now. I've Been a heavy addict since I was 16, 3 years ago, I Lost my wife and daughter because of heavy porn use . the guilt almost killed me, so I said enough and decided to escape from this shithole. I read a ton of books (the only one that changed me was "Befapless" because it had the most realistic steps for quitting), joined communities(like "r/nofap"), and gave it all to quit. . I'm clean for 3 years now. I feel regret every day about the time that passed. I wasted my life. I wish I hadn't. God, I wish I hadn't. If you're young reading this, please do anything at all necessary to overcome this ASAP!

[@Kevin-hw1fi]

Do you think it is impossible to get back with your wife and why so?

[@zenseekerEric]

Thank you for sharing, Omar. I'm glad to hear that you were finally able to quit. I quit a year ago and I don't plan on going back to using it again.

[@davedave7904]

@@Kevin-hw1fi he said he lost his family, condolences

[@senpaiamv9389]

Thank you man

[@senpaiamv9389]

Thank you man

[@SmashEditorSuman]

When something is free "YOU ARE THE PRODUCT"

[@NotebookMapofLemon]

Woah BARRRSSS

[@ACEnBEAKY]

So how does the establishment benefit from you getting free porn? Is it a bandaid on loneliness and rage against the system, a pacifier to stop the baby from crying? I guess if we all quit porn, the government will fear the "blue balls rebellion" or the "incel insurgency." Ok ok, I kid, but I also am respectfully interested, and I meant the question in all seriousness. Maybe it's that obsession with sex and women makes us vulnerable to them, and then the government can control us through them. If the government has the women brainwashed and in their back pocket, then chances are they have the kids.

[@ethanmusick5019]

trump 2024

[@brewerfireguy]

Dude. That’s a good one. Thank you.

[@kimjongillest5995]

I had a similar one which goes something like "Porn is free because you pay with your soul".

[@zacvanopdorp9218]

My father caught me watching porn when I was 12 or 13. Not red handed, but caught me. He waited til we were alone to talk about it and the main the he said was “that’s not real love.” It took me about 9 years to sit back and think about the position he was in and for that to be the thing he told me. I broke down crying because he didn’t scold me and tell me that I did a bad thing, he wanted me to know the 2 people in the video don’t love each other. That statement took root deep inside me and has taught me so much.

[@rachitshukla7111]

he's the goat

[@cesarmendoza6057]

Thats Real shit, ive never thought about that not even for a second and ive been hooked on porn since a kid, goes to show how consuming it is to the point where you dont even look into it, you just there for a quick “nut “ 😕

[@Le-Monade]

Now that sounds like an amazing dad. He didn’t have to give you a huge lecture, he just summed up the evil of pornography with one phrase.

[@dankmemer2774]

Just 2 people in the video? Rookie. Jokes aside, that’s a great father right there.

[@grawakendream8980]

how have things panned out

[@manuelese8760]

One of the worst things about porn addiction is how easy it is to hide it. Other addictions will be really noticeable for your surrounding people to tell you have a problem. But with porn no one could tell you can't stop consuming but still it will damage you

[@Witticism_TV]

Almost like it's not really an addiction or actually harmful...

[@WushuFreak96]

@@Witticism_TV You clearly don't know what you're talking about.

[@georgebran7911]

@Witticism_TV yeah bruh, you need to read up. Open your mind, porn addiction and the havoc it wreaks on your brain is equal to some hard drugs. Study, educate yourself. Bc this shit is a real epidemic happening

[@siggeek503]

I agree to some extent but i do believe you can see it in someones eyes and How they behave, they display shame. I know i did.

[@kevinwilson7318]

@@siggeek503 I also think that women who porn-addicted men become intimate with will be able to tell for the following reasons: 1.) Porn-induced ED 2.) Expecting porn sex acts in the bedroom and expecting her to do as you please no matter how uncomfortable for her. Heterosexual Porn writes this narrative that nothing is too much for the female recipient and that she must do whatever it takes to please the man, which is very toxic.

[@JosephusAurelius]

It has had very negative impacts on my life and got exposed to it when I was young. It is quite painful to think how better life could have been without it…

[@shinkurt]

Same. It got better since last year but I still watch atleast once a month

[@JosephusAurelius]

@@monke8478 Thank you for your words of comfort, I agree that it can be overcome as Stoicism has helped immensely.

[@forgottenvirtues5480]

I feel you...

[@meditation4632]

I think about what my life could have been every day

[@philscandle6751]

Respect bro I only quit this year, I'm 32 I was first exposed to it when I was like 12.

[@Sumtik_77]

2 things that helped me and literally changed my life 1. I stopped watching porn 2. I read the book called 'Become Super Human' on lexnory 3. Stop drinking

[@Sherlock245]

Your not an addict become one and your advice will fall apart as I seen with other major addict.

[@juanjuan22]

i HATE to be a nitpick... but is that not 3 things? 🥺👉👈

[@Mysterr77]

Seeing how much people have praised this book recently, I'm hopeful it will help me with my intentions

[@friendly_lp]

finnaly i listened myself about this and bought something online and I am satisfied

[@ghostxjj_2662]

lol become a muslim then. cuz its prohibited to watch corn and drink or smoke. if u seek knowledge u get good deeds and rewards. love u bro

[@Slayer-Josh]

I was addicted to porn from the ages of 13-21. Now I’m nearly 30 and I can probably count on one hand the amount of times I’ve watched porn in the last several years. One negative that gets overlooked is how much time you waste watching porn when you could be doing something else. And I’ll be honest, for me the cure to stop watching porn was literally to just have sex with women.

[@tomik6537]

thank god youre only counting with that hand now

[@danielpetka446]

@@tomik6537 the left

[@neoreign]

If it was that easy every guy would be doing it.

[@tobir693]

@@neoreign Stop watching porn, and you're instincts will guide you. Every single one of your ancestors reproduced. You'll figure it out.

[@Slayer-Josh]

@@danielpetka446 yeah about that…

[@theanxietyproject]

Was addicted to porn for 12 years. Now, I am 4 years completely porn free. My life has changed for the better EVERY which way. I think porn is unbelievably toxic and unhealthy.

[@kuunami]

Would You mind sharing some specifics of how your life has improved that's improved?

[@aidananderson6203]

congrats on 4 years, happy to hear that.

[@littlebilly8747]

Similar experience. I’m feel so much better now (it’s still a struggle but way less so than it used to be when I was trying to quit)

[@saveyoutub]

And KZbin isn't destroying your brain... You're all being destroyed right now by the thumbnails that keep you surfing these bullshi (t) apps. Porn addiction for the day, over in prob 15 min, surfing these apps throughout the day, prob missing an hour or more of things you could actually be doing. Be real with yourself, these people with their opinions aren't bettering your life, that's just an excuse to be on KZbin etc.

[@bradyblankenship9182]

Absolutely agreed I use to think porn was no big deal and only weak minded people get addicted. That was before I realized I had a porn addiction and just how easy it is to get addicted and consumed by porn. It was very recent that I stopped watching porn but I’m so exited for my future being porn free after see stories like yours!

[@Drakesy]

Stopped watching porn after breaking 2 relationships and putting a third on the rocks. Read into porn addiction and it literally turned my life around. Found my drive and motivation back, cured my anxiety, sleep quality vastly improved, found emotions again, found out what true love was and actually opened up to my current girlfriend i've never had a stronger bond.

[@galaxygamer247]

Wonderful news. I hope you are doing well

[@nKarje]

Great benefits for you then. Well done.

[@T00NZ1]

Bro your gf is cheating on you lol We all die alone we take nothing with us dont rely on 1 girl have fun with more

[@JenkemWatchman]

​@@T00NZ1okay lil tate. Glad that's what you took out of it, but some of us are actual humans who want companionship 🤡

[@tf259]

@@T00NZ1who hurt you 😂😂🤡

[@nysom3356]

Im 17. I started when i was around 10 or 11 and have done it almost everyday since. To all the adult men in these comments dropping their experiences an advice to young men like me, i just want to say thank you. You guys have personally made me feel like i can get out of this. It has barely affected my love life, but the way you guys talk about it i dont want it to get worse. Best of luck to everyone whose struggling with this.

[@yahya_176]

Your case is same like mine, started at the age of 12/13 and left this shit just few month ago, and the reality is that, it was only the pr'n and jerkin that making me to stop talking to people, literally still having social anxiety, but it's just been 1 month, and i feel so relaxed. Thanks to God, at last I'm free from it. I do fasting every week(Monday and Thursday), 1 spoon of sugar on daily basis(if I want to drink milk then only). I literally feeling so Good, that I'm not like 98% people around the world. I can say I'm 1 in 1000.

[@Coach-rq6jx]

I started out at a similar age. I'm 21 now. In 10 years, I will be a dad. How can I be a good dad if I'm still jerking off to porn at 21? This is what should drive us further, because you can dream all you want, but when you become a dad, your family's safety and dreams become your dream. And you should be well equipped for that.

[@knowwhatimsaying]

Same man, im 17, i'm clean for 3 days now. I'm grinding, and i can say something too, my mental health has been so much better already and it's only been 3 days. We know we can do it, let's do it

[@SARTHAKAHAVA-dg2sv]

People please help me deal with it everytime I try to get over it two three days after I can't control please help me I am 17 currently please guys

[@knowwhatimsaying]

@SARTHAKAHAVA-dg2sv yo bro, i'm currently in a streak of 16 days clean. What you gotta do is just distract yourself with something else, do things that you like instead of go to watch that ill stuff. My strength comes from the fact that, if i do it once again i will regret that i've done it after. Man is really easy actually, you have to stop touching yourself too. Don't listen to your thing between your legs, listen to yourself, love yourself cuz you have to do things that are better for yourself, so stop watching those things. I've been in that phase too, you ain't alone and you ain't the only one that has been through that. One last thing, try to get off the phone often. Try to take a break from it and focus on things that are in real life (i'm not saying you are a person that lives on the phone, i'm just talking about this cuz of experience), i've done it and to do so i got off all the socials, i use youtube sometimes, but other socials are non existent for me right now. Hope i helped you man, you'll do it i'm sure about it

[@syedfaheem1635]

"Porn is free because you pay with your soul" -unknown

[@emilyknowlton8602]

Facts

[@Lucciii32]

@@JuiceBox22 your just dropping your T levels making you more like a woman

[@Shvabicu]

@@Lucciii32 he can just blast gear and become a walking pharmacy

[@specialknees6798]

So are the ducks at the local pond

[@desmondalohan]

Yep. No fornicator will see the Kingdom of Heaven. Someone who knows Christ said your quote.

[@MrFredstt]

As someone that got hooked as a kid (as many people of my generation did) it's incredibly true that after a while you need more extreme or weird/kinky to get the same dopamine hit

[@pistachioicecream1484]

hell yea, glad i’m out of that rabbit hole now. no pun intended

[@phamtiendung2969]

And what did you do to deal with this problem and comeback with your previous life? ;-;

[@ferg8748]

Facts bro I won’t lie I was once at a point where I would watch illegal shit and didn’t even want to something just takes over , made me feel sick

[@imjudeau2156]

@@ferg8748 weird

[@pistachioicecream1484]

@@phamtiendung2969 pick up a hobby.. i picked up skateboarding and havent looked back my g

[@alexxx5749]

Seeing other people’s comments on this subject means so much. Porn is an activity that really makes you feel alone in your guilt and shame afterwards; to be able to see how common this is it feels like I can get better and be okay.

[@averyintelligence]

Lol bro porn has been like the most popular thing on the internet since the internet existed. You alone with like 1/5 of the worlds population

[@AustriackiMalarz39]

Shame? xD I don t have any shame about it

[@Underdogsontop]

😢ikr

[@jasonejones77]

​@@AustriackiMalarz39consider yourself very lucky!!

[@turbojakob3000]

Day one. The likes I get will be the number of days I'll be clean

[@menachemrosengarten5858]

You got this bro❤

[@SoroushGhashghaee-xu5yp]

Lad Lets go to gym And make it more than 70 years 🔥🔥🔥

[@jkk1799]

Did you make it?

[@JorgeLima-qi2lh]

Welcome tô the better and worst momento in your live

[@SoroushGhashghaee-xu5yp]

@@jkk1799 im younger than 70 😂

[@rollin2stoned77]

This is healthy guys... we need more of this to support, and build each other up as men, as fathers, as humans!

[@sparrow3491]

nah, LGBGTQ is busy telling people you can be anything just to destroy what men and woman stand for. lust

[@peace7482]

BS...

[@BarberJ95]

😂 This crazy reactionary stuff is hilarious.

[@mekhilefanis1442]

@@peace7482 how old are you ? 5 months ?

[@katrinaisalwayscorrect]

As a woman who left my first marriage because of his porn use, now I'm in a relationship with someone who wants me and not porn. I can tell you being with someone who is not addicted to porn is the best sex ever.

[@breadjustbread2723]

I never realized how much porn has a negative impact on so many men until I started reading these comments. Just reading how many people are actively going through the same experience is actually wild. Most of you guys started when you were teenagers, sometimes even younger, and dealing with an addiction that young? It’s very heartbreaking. I genuinely wish all of you luck on your journeys of quitting porn, stay strong my guys. I lowkey want to check up on my guy friends and warn them of the major consequences porn may have on their mental well being. But idk if it would be awkward or weird if I brought it up randomly.

[@sheldona.montgomery905]

It probably would be 😂

[@tonig2757]

It's a major overstep if you tell someone what they should or shouldn't do in private. Not just awkward or weird, some might consider it downright insulting. (If someone sent me this video as a warning I'd certainly tell them to "go f*ck themselves").

[@talion7268]

​@@tonig2757you need help ma guy

[@tonig2757]

​@almarcel7764 Defending your privacy doesn't mean you're insecure.

[@tonig2757]

@@talion7268 Help for what?

[@shad0wCh8ser]

Fantasy = Nothing is awkward. Reality = Everything is awkward. How to succeed in life? Get use to being in awkward situations. 😅 In other words, get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

[@drunksquirrel2051]

Nah

[@samfrito]

I can relate, and believe it or not after stumbling in front of someone, whether verbally or physically I can see them usually give me a slight sign they want me to regain my composure before they move on. Awkward behavior brings out the best in some people.

[@chachenaki_kichenancha]

That's also what Tony Robbins says

[@shad0wCh8ser]

@@samfrito One thing is for sure, awkward behavior will show whose rooting for you to succeed or fail. It's a good indicator.

[@Sean-mi1kf]

@S Niter Thank you for taking the time to write this comment

[@JeeranRathia-zh1uy]

The fact that nobody talks about subliminal affirmations for overcoming addiction on Borlest speaks volumes about how people are stuck in a trance

[@Mpower31]

Where does one find this?

[@Johnismaga]

"I believe that along with the little faith and belief in yourself and possibly some help from a higher power but it starts with the choice you make in the courage to surrender" Sometimes you got to talk yourself into who you were born to be when we forget due to worldly influences mostly negative unfortunately.

[@slipy955]

​@@Mpower31 it's a bot, dude. Wakey wakey

[@johnnyvo9313]

I've been porn free for nine months now and it is an absolute blessing not to be consumed by porn. The thing that helped me quit the most was thinking about the moral imperative. What the women are going through making these movies and then what it does to the brains of men. This was really the turning point for me, also asking myself " is this what sex is? is this what I want it to be?" the answer was no.

[@CryptoLightskin]

@@forspartaaa2348 get a job

[@inconnu4961]

@@CryptoLightskin LMAO! The best life advice ever! Get a job!

[@CryptoLightskin]

@@inconnu4961 literally though, one of the best things to keep you busy, improve social skills, and just get out there in life for a young guy.

[@georgiarose2594]

@@forspartaaa2348 Start watching Jordan Peterson's life advice for men on KZbin. Hundreds of thousands of men have had their lives drastically improved by his advice, hopefully, you will too :)

[@heidi22209]

@@forspartaaa2348 move out. Get a job. Learn rejection. Do something.

[@roiberduran3799]

Never realized that I was addicted, I always felt like I could stop whenever and then I wouldn't. Since 12-13 I've been watching it and pleasuring myself and I had been thinking that pleasuring myself was the addiction when all along it was porn. I'm 20 trying to take control and become the best version of myself and I've gone almost 3 weeks without it. I feel slightly better and I'll continue to stay away from it! Wishing you guys and girls the best in your journey we got this

[@brandonpinto5290]

I'm 28 now . Age 11 when I started watching. I'm 9 days clean . Made poor decisions and worsened grades every year after I discovered it. I'm unemployed as a cumulative consequence of my last decisions , experiences n choices. Don't be like me. Stay strong with your Nofap. The earlier in life you get rid of it the better for you and those around you.

[@doorlopen]

I have the same problem. I thought i was strong and could stop anytime i wanted but i was so wrong. It is a addiction and i want to get rid of it. I prayed so many times and said to God i will never do it again but then i did and i feel ashamed. I am still fighting i am 37 years old and i know i can beat this some day.

[@ANJIN-p4q]

@@doorlopen You're not the only one. I've been addicted to porn and it has completely ruined me. Fucked up my relationship with my partner, isolated me from friends and family, etc. It's a very difficult thing to recover from and it doesn't get easier.

[@DanielMartinez-nv5gb]

“we got this” Are you being serious? How bout getting off your phone for hours at a time every day and actually doing something. At least you got the porn thing down tho.

[@athmaid]

@@DanielMartinez-nv5gb are you keeping tabs on his activity or how do you know those four minutes wasn't all he watched that day

[@princeekeson12]

The funny thing is, it's not just specifically porn sites. Social media and the internet in general has become more sexualized. Images on INSTAGRAM are (damn near) pornographic themselves. You know it's bad when guys start complaining about it.

[@monocyte2210]

Agree

[@langdontroy]

Agreed

[@amor797]

There are p*rn content uncensored on IG. Ive seen plenty, even reported it but wasnt deleted and they responded that it doesnt break their rules 🤦🏻‍♀️ BUT i had a video i shared about child exploitation deleted coz they had an issue with the music copyrighted. Complete bs!!

[@Conker117]

Agreed. I stopped looking at snap and deleted my insta. It's pretty much porn

[@zb2747]

Definitely - I consider Instagram to be ‘soft’ porn.

[@nickbillings8668]

First year off it now. It’s been a ride. Everything you guys have said is right on. We are the blessed. We are the fortunate. We are the strong. I thank god everyday he helped pull me out. Much love everyone.

[@Itsyaboycereal]

praise God!

[@bigcloutfrom63rd80]

How did you make a year? I’ve been slowing down a lot lately but I still do it once or twice a day. I got injured at work and more time to myself and I realized how bad it got within the last few months. It’s such a hard thing for me to quit, it makes me wanna pull my hair out and I’m too embarrassed to bring up to my therapist or anyone. My dad works in IT I just asked him to help me block all accounts and saying he’ll look into it. But I’m very nervous about quitting. I moved to a new state and city and I’ve went on dates with girls and they went well. Until I kept asking about sex and it would turn them off. I feel ashamed. I feel disgusted and that I shouldn’t be alive. I’ve been watching porn for 14 years, I’m 25 I started at 11. This really I’m really trying to stay focused on being sober along with porn and it’s very difficult. God please help me!!!

[@earrape]

@@bigcloutfrom63rd80 here for the same thing, but I'm slowly getting through it, a couple things that have been helping me was to keep busy. In your case you have been having more time to yourself and you've become bored sitting around doing nothing. Once you feel that way the only thing that tends to come into mind is to watch porn, but always think to yourself whenever you have these temptations "I'm not that person anymore" or "I'm changed now" keep that mindset and I promise you it will go a long way. For me, for instance, when I lay in my bed for a long period of time I tend to get bored and then watch porn to get that dopamine hit. Now I only lay in my bed if I need to fall asleep, I never watch tv or scroll through my phone to resist those cravings or temptation. I promise you will get through this bro, keep praying and keep yourself busy and you will overcome it!

[@challica]

Andrew is that good guy who keeps trying to make us better. Thanks, Andrew.

[@captain6876]

Thanx Andrew Tate

[@vickjr98]

One of the most difficult battles any young man can face in his life is trying to stop watching pornography. Once you start watching, it becomes a slippery slope and it takes a serious amount of effort to quit because even when you don't watch it, the images will hardly be erased from your mind

[@smokingcrab2290]

I was exposes to it when I was 5 years old. It definitely made a negative impact on me.

[@Emmanuel-j2o]

Yo that’s SO TRUE! I can relate… I’m overcoming tho but those images will hardly be erased your right! and the thing is that i don’t know how long my brain will be back to normal like rewired?

[@Emmanuel-j2o]

@@smokingcrab2290 Damn… i was exposed to it at 11 or 12

[@King-kw1mo]

Depends on your level of will power, If your in tune with your will power you can simply tell yourself I won’t type porn into my browser and just don’t do it anymore… When you realize your in control of your every action it’s easy to stop doing anything you want to stop

[@jubileej1629]

And women...

[@cubapete7954]

I quit watching porn when i was in my mid-20s. I thank the Lord every day for steering me away from this filth.

[@firegamer8099]

I know that you have to replace porn with something else? What did you replaced it with?

[@sutra6971]

@@firegamer8099real people lmao

[@firegamer8099]

@@sutra6971 😂😂

[@alexvojdani4728]

@@firegamer8099relationship with god

[@owbeontaylor953]

I’m a firm believer in Christ but I keep failing everyday….everytime I get overwhelmed I watch porn or when I’m stressed out….i was introduced at around 11 and I’m almost in my mid 20’s…I pray and read but then I get back into this habit and then I distance myself from Jesus because of my filth and disobedience…I truly want to change but I’m so weak minded

[@amaas211]

Looked up the topic while craving, listened in, settled down.

[@Adeus555]

This needs to be talked about more, the Porn culture and its accessibility is a serious problem in society. The world has never seen this kind of problem before and its rarely talked about because of its taboo nature. So many of these addicts (who don't even know it because they make up justifications) are destroying their ability to feel/love have a meaningful relationship. You'd be AMAZED how successful at dating you become when you take away that outlet. All the things that hold you back like fear of rejection, insecurity, nuance turn off's... they all take a back seat. Your need and want for companionship will push you past those speed bumps quickly.

[@MukeshKumar-jo3jl]

Women are not interested in men that are average looking anymore. They watch this stuff just as much as men do. I still can't get in to a relationship.

[@Joel-pg4yi]

What if I have in general fear and shame sexual activity not just from porn? Like then someone making a joke about it I'm embarrassed to the point I find it abnormal I'd compare to things like what criminals do. Or as it is immoral.

[@Adeus555]

@@MukeshKumar-jo3jl Looks are only a foot in the door... Unless you are significantly below average that is... Either way, charm will get you much further in the long run. The only things that a lot of girls put a standard on is having good teeth, being taller, having hair, not being over the top fat. Thats it, and its not set in stone. After that its just about making them feel comfortable with you and themselves... That being said, most if not all girls think they know what they want... but the reality is they have no idea what they need until its given to them. Some food for thought. Also, don't waste your time with girls that are not interested, be be genuine with yourself and move on to the next prospect. There's too much trash out there to invest too much of your time on it.

[@Adeus555]

@@Joel-pg4yi What your describing is a deep rooted psychological condition. It goes against the grain of what would be considered a normal healthy human anatomy response. Its one thing to find the act of sex gross, but to compare it to criminality is another all together. I would get professional help to at the very least tame the disgust if not make you comfortable with sex in general.

[@Joel-pg4yi]

@@Adeus555 or maybe all of you need help to the point you got no morals or heart that you normalize it.

[@ShawnRyanShow]

Incredible interview.

[@pedrosaucedo333]

I feel like you and your team will see this. I'm a huge, huge fan of you and your team, all you guys. And lately, you and your guest have been talking about these "Coincidences "........... I'm randomly here, cause I know this is a real struggle that is happening worldwide, something I am proudly currently winning on! But I find you here!!!! 🤯

[@Majestic351]

Peace ShawnRyan, you are the real hero of our times

[@day2daylogic802]

Big fan man. Random to see this but fantastic. Cheers

[@petebob1657]

Keep it up shawn

[@Fitmonu8085]

Keep going people, it'll take months to reset your brain, You've given years to build this bad habit, now it won't be that easy to forget everything.. Keep going you can do it.. Once you defeat it you feel proud, you feel energetic, you start respecting yourself your body..!! Best of luck champions 🖤

[@joelvilla4500]

Thank you 🙏🏾 I’ll try

[@Poetthegoat]

Do you recommend not masturbating while your healing from porn too?

[@ramazan74895]

Thanks, Allah bless you

[@istvanschmiedt]

So u say, i didnt lost a single piece of my brain forever? Everything can regenerate and reset?

[@noahlove07]

@@istvanschmiedtyes a full reset

[@Rinnegan-mu6ys]

Been addicted to pornography for 7-8 years now. I got exposed to it at such a young age like 12-13 years old and i can 1000% say it destroyed my life completely to the point It feels like I’m not in control of my life anymore. I feel like those people who say it didn’t affect them are just in denial of its effects and are probably addicted to it.

[@AlphaSigmaRichMan]

Same

[@andreiboroianu946]

@@AlphaSigmaRichMan 🧢

[@thebuilder3594]

Was a heavy addict and maybe got of 2-3 a day, every day, for the past 4 years. It was bad, and every new year I said I’d stop, but I’d always continue. This year, I stopped on the 15th of this month and been clean 4 days, going on 5 as of writing. It’s extremely difficult to just use willpower alone, and many will fail IF you just rely on that. I’ve tried other methods, but it still comes back. I just hope God, if you do exist, to give me the strength and willpower to overcome this.

[@musabkhan7436]

May GOD the almighty guide you and support you through this …

[@thebuilder3594]

@@musabkhan7436 thank you 🙏

[@ivlothanna937]

Brother think and write what are way you are consuming porn then write yourself you are promising to stop only one week then treat yourself for the victory.Whenever you feel to quit read the written promise yourself.then take the next two days rest and start again with 10days plan.Definitely you will suffer but your first victory gives you confidence that you can do it. Improve the days gradually so your victory will help you to come out of this.

[@gloriadusi2023]

Yes God Almighty can cure any addiction if you put your trust in Him. Don't give up.

[@Lamzissung]

meditation please

[@Yoshiling]

Thirty years ago, porn was treated the same way as cigarettes and alcohol. People had to leave their houses and interact with another human being to get it, and it could not be sold to children. These days, a child can stream high quality video directly to their phone, for free, any time of day or night, and practically anywhere. We cannot pretend like this is harmless.

[@larrycarter3765]

But it is.

[@xx-----------xx873]

@@larrycarter3765 Try quitting for a month see how that goes for you

[@montoya-400]

Yeah of course we shouldn't get our sexual life from videos but what if the way our life is made doesn't get us to meet people to have sex with, and we get no desirable chance on dating apps?

[@DanielBice]

Kids are curious. They’re gonna find out one way or another. Also, sex itself isn’t even harmful to know about or learn about. The harm comes from watching the idealized and heavily scripted/edited version of sex and love that probably took multiple takes and/or days to create but looks like it was filmed all in one go. This is one of many reasons people who are into porn begin to develop unrealistic expectations of sex and partners in general.

[@bedabratdutta7367]

That time this business was not that huge. Even they cannot stop now.

[@Tanoaproductionsfiji]

They way he avoids judgment is encouraging.

[@GenericFanboy]

Yeah, right up until he refers to people who dislike children as "mutants".

[@Tanoaproductionsfiji]

@@GenericFanboy true...

[@averyintelligence]

​@@Tanoaproductionsfijihe is rather judgemental on many podcasts. He usually follows it up with something along the lines of "of course I'm not telling people what to do just relaying info". He tries to hide it. It would be better if he just said what's on his mind instead of trying to be professional educator on an entertainment platforms. It's podcasts not uni lecture andrew pal

[@solarpits]

3 years clean. Absolutely NEVER going back.

[@ell2441]

How ?

[@bigcloutfrom63rd80]

Good. I hope you stay that way, I’m still trying to work on 1 day clean😔

[@thechaffins5267]

I'm 32. I first found a porn mag in the woods behind the cul-de-sac when I was probably 10. 20 years later my brother told me about him finding dad's playboy. I asked where it was. He said it was in the woods...we both stumbled upon the exact same magazine that my dad tried to hide. And we've both been struggling ever since then. I've had great times of freedom. Even about 2.5 years once. Another time for 10 months. But it always somehow comes back. I hate it so much. I know my adhd has something to do with it too. Bc of having a low baseline of dopamine leading to impulsiveness and a desire for quick dopamine hits. But it affects my marriage. Breaks her heart bc she has no ability to understand what I'm going through, which breaks my heart. I've got two sons and I would rather die right now then have them struggle with this too. I'm tearing up even as I write this. I hate it so much. I dont even know why I'm writing this. I guess because there are other guys out there who feel my pain. Please pray for me. I'm sad, but not hopeless. I know with Jesus I will see victory one day. I'll never give up. We have to keep fighting.

[@9395gb]

It may help to know that most workers in the porn industry are illegally trafficking (forced into it) and engage in shady and dangerous prostitution outside of adult films as that is how the primarily make their money. Most porn stars have severe drug and alcohol addictions, mental health problems and stds. Also most of them were sexually and physically abused as children an they are reliving this out on film and in prostitution. I don't know how people can watch abused and mentally unhealthy people get further abused in a sex film. Knowing the truth of that industry may turn you off to it.

[@alexvojdani4728]

keep fighting brother you did 2.5 years now do 25 years 💪

[@notleeland]

So just stop

[@danielwilliams4607]

You got this king. Do it for your loved ones if you can’t do it for yourself. You are stronger than this

[@griffinconant9213]

This was beautifully written. Much respect for sharing your story. It’s a daily battle but in the end the battle has been won by Jesus. The greatest victory of all!

[@Understandme44]

Porn damages in all areas of life. Even when not watching porn the vision of what you saw on screen stays in ur head. It’s takes months or even years to move forward from the trauma of porn

[@scaryperi3051]

There is zero empirical evidence to support this or any of the claims made in this video. You know, there are actual studies with real data on this topic, maybe check them out?

[@Understandme44]

@@scaryperi3051 109 ppl liked this comment and ur a woman so please stop with ur chime in. Ur comment isn’t valid. This is coming from a personal experience and over 100 ppl feel the same. Go 👉way and have several seats

[@Cluxiu]

​@@scaryperi3051what he said is true

[@elifalkson1610]

@@scaryperi3051 after analyzing your comment throughly, I have detected an enormous amount of copium.

[@scaryperi3051]

@@elifalkson1610 Failed clairvoyance and possible projection for want of a rational retort. Do you normally hide from evidence that contradicts your preconceived notions?

[@servantbenjamin919]

8 months sober, after 40 yrs of addiction

[@thilinar7280]

lets gooo

[@ethanbuxton1801]

Keep going strong brother

[@servantbenjamin919]

@@ethanbuxton1801 thank you bro, I never want to look back!

[@QuietStorrm860]

You notice a difference in anything?

[@servantbenjamin919]

@@QuietStorrm860 yes i’m still sober, and it’s like my life is beginning to open up. i’m 46 so not a young guy, but even at my age i am realizing my potential and what I can achieve in the next 20-30 years Lord willing. I have been finally able to deal with shame that I incurred as a child and understand why it led me into addiction. Once you see yourself for who you really are and understand why you have made bad choices, the present time opens up and you feel unstoppable

[@melmel6867]

That's why I always watch POV 0:46

[@user-jy8fk5cg8f]

Tf

[@melmel6867]

@user-jy8fk5cg8f ain't it

[@ChaseGouldMMA]

Lmao!

[@liljohndotcom]

lmao

[@Vez3D]

Hahaha

[@kieg4984]

I’ve been struggling with this for a while it takes u down and makes you feel worthless the more you watch the worse it gets categories you wouldn’t even normally watch I have hated my self for it and I’m striving to move forward and turn it around this video really helped me thank you we can do this 💪🏼

[@JakeHollis-r5l]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@AbRosenbaum]

Some tips for those who are trying: - never feel ashamed about your addiction. So many people struggle with this. - every day of nofap is a small victory and will gain you something, even if you relapse after. - go live together with roommates (girls preferably): when you have company you cannot relapse. - avoid loneliness. If you are alone, go outside as much as possible - Dont go on social media. Nowadays its basically the same as pornography. Its useless anyway. - If you feel the urge, work out. Work out untill you are so tired you dont have any urges. its absolutely worth it.

[@jac1161]

AND..a 12 step program.

[@re9638]

People like you keep saying "it's worth it" but after reading a ton of comments no one explain what is better without porn

[@smokingcrab2290]

@re, everything is better without porn. No shame. No guilt. No intrusive sexual thoughts. No uncontrollable desire. No addiction. No isolation. No depression. No anxiety. You truly feel at peace with yourself and you can actually relax. On porn, I was always so tense. Off porn, I even get better sleep. It improves your life in every way

[@HarmzConscious]

NoFap is literally a *productivity hack* . The energy, discipline, focus and drive you get while on Nofap is a straight up hack. It feels like it should be illegal with the advantages that it brings. I be sleeping 5 hours a night then awake for 18 hours grinding the whole day, STOP SLEEPING ON IT!!! I just made a video on all this and went in deep, check it out and stay blessed 🙏💯

[@paulholland5270]

​@@dialogos585💯👹no one believes there's a link but the evidence is there to find out on how porn came about and it's history goes back thousands of years .and it's affect is there to bring misery and destruction to the addicts life .this is one fight against flesh and spirit and nothing more .

[@myword787]

I have quit porn for 7 months and 5 months in I completely lost any suicidal thoughts. I advise any guy to try and quit porn, it’ll help alot

[@demonicaxeman7264]

I have proudly been using porn for over 15 years and it never caused me to have suicidal thoughts.

[@paradiseisland786]

Suicidal emotional content is simply unmitigated, unprocessed guilt, where we are receiving messaging we don't fully understand as we know we could be doing better and we aren't listing. One voice overrides the other, habit over natural capacity. This requires a deeper understanding of our actual self-worth, which we don't understand, and needs processing through our erroneous emotional content.

[@myword787]

@@demonicaxeman7264 no everyones the same I guess hahahaha

[@executivelifehacks6747]

A lot of these addictions make the rest of life seem worse by comparison. Makes sense.

[@Jcrof]

@@demonicaxeman7264 Yet you couldn’t satisfy your wife and your marriage ended in divorce.

[@oscarjackson5284]

1. Pray 2. Get a Life (be busy) 3. Never stay alone indoors 4. Go to the Gym

[@filtheboss6003]

easy to say. I am busy but all I need is a 10 minutes break/window to relapse.

[@davidcolon13]

@@filtheboss6003 Then the problem is you don’t have purpose. You need a strong enough purpose to override the impulse

[@twistysnacks]

Nearly all addiction stems from the same thing - lack of fulfillment in life. If you're depressed, suffering from abuse, lonely, and/or chronically stressed, you're more likely to turn to the quickest, easiest methods of relief possible. Most Americans turn to shit like scrolling on social media indefinitely because far too many of us are suffering from most of that list. But quitting the addiction isn't gonna solve shit. You're still going to be depressed, chronically stressed, suffering from abuse and/or lonely. You need to fix *those* things first, and then you'll find the addiction isn't important anymore.

[@TheMisterGuy]

One and three are bad ideas, especially one. Never ever pray. Meditate, sure. Don't pray. Prayer is just substituting one crutch/weakness for another, except prayer leads you to religions that will exploit your weakness. And three, never be alone indoors? What if you live alone? What if you have roommates but they don't want to watch you in the bathroom or your bedroom? That's impractical. If you're overusing adult content, cut back on it, like anything else, but don't forbid yourself from doing self-release of tension, especially if you don't have a partner.

[@alexrogers777]

Prayer doesn't do anything

[@theshambler6814]

Started watching porn when I was 12 and it has eaten up my life since. I am never more depressed than an hour after I do it, and it has reached a point where I have little to no sexual interest in real women when I do come across them. Can’t stress it enough that I wouldn’t wish this on anybody.

[@TankTheSpank]

It has saved your life. A divorce and child support would have caused depression beyond your comprehension. Not only will the next one not want you, but you wouldn’t be able to afford a place of your own.

[@noahg-123]

@@TankTheSpank who says that would have been his outcome? If he is feeling the downside to P now then itr is a worthy battle to try and quit. The shambler if you are not feeling great with this addiction please don't lean into thought processes like the one I am replying to as it definitely will not help.

[@kamrudkd]

Of course u will have ur views and they are welcome. xx Here's an Islamic perspective: In islam this dark force and "whispers" is the voice of satans/demons. There are many satans/demons amongst man and jinn, varying in power. But there is only one "iblis" (he is the original Satan that approached Adam and eve, (may peace be upon them). He has sworn revenge and eniminity towards humanity until the final day. This life is a test to see who repels evil with love/good/patience having believed in God. And follow God's guidance and avoid sin and whispers of iblis/satans. In addition to this our souls (rhuu) have the ability to do both good and bad without the whispers. God tells us to take the path of goodness. The part of our soul that lends ear to desire and weakness and excess love for this worldly things, is called the "nhaffs". When one battles with his nhaffs to do good while a believer they are fulfilling the purpose of their creation. The jinn reside in the filthiest of places. In the home those places are usually the bin or toilet. Guess where the tissue goes after PMO? This way they gain access to ur seed. The life forming best part of u. And u give it away cheaply for a fleeting pleasure. When this happens a type of magic takes effect and this can amplify their whispers to u. Possibly causing low self-esteem, anxiety, paranoia, self doubt, fear. Notice that distinction sense of guilt, shame, embarrassment straight after PMO. If u were interested this is just a perspective. You are feel to believe and explore as u will. Providing its legal. Peace x

[@philscandle6751]

Shambler listen to some podcasts it will help you transcend yourself, you don't have to be like David goggins but you can get inspiration from him, Alan Watts is great, study psychology and neuroscience a little bit and go for it, early morning excersice really helps, quit something else first that will give you solid motivation and belief, be modest and fail forward even if you start by reducing your use of porn by like 5% it will gain exponential pace x

[@philscandle6751]

@@TankTheSpank try copious amounts of drugs and go down that slippery slope mate, perhaps divorce saved your life you couldn't handle what I did, how do you like them apples eh.

[@chikewaa]

I have touched the very bottom of the pit when it comes to fapentropy. It shaped me in awful ways. Trying to undo a decade and a half of biologically carved responses is.. the greatest struggle I have found. I have been in the process of trying to reprogram my mind for some time now. And I win 1% at a time each day. There are moments where I have lost. But it's not going to stop me from getting back on the saddle and keep climbing. Hell is a real place, and you find it in your mind.

[@philscandle6751]

Peace bro keep going for growth x

[@fellipedasilva99]

Best of wishes to you.

[@sergeantkozi]

Due to a whirlwind of addictions, a messed up mindset with an inability to face my shit properly, and tons of external forces in the world, I crashed HARD. Became a hardcore alcoholic for a couple years and just wasted away. Lost so much health and felt so trapped in my own skin. I know what hell is too. And I’ve also scraped pretty low from that barrel. Haven’t managed to fully quit yet so still scrape sometimes.

[@chikewaa]

@@sergeantkozi you're going to make it bud. Just keep getting back on the saddle

[@i_GARTYx]

Honestly dude I’m going through the same thing. I’ve been tryna quit for years to no avail. Lost my job cos of the depression/withdrawal it brought on, but I swear the further I’ve got into nofap the more improvements I see. Keep going brother we have to fight it 💪🏼

[@nicolasbaker9601]

I've realized I have a porn addiction. As things have progressed, I've found the videos I'm watching to be more and more questionable. It definitely progresses into things you wouldn't normally prefer. I was about 2 weeks without porn until last night when I relapsed. I am back on the wagon today, we can do this fellas!

[@monkeyappmenace]

porn was designed to cause individuals to seek more extreme videos as their consummation progressed. you develop "immunity" to the original content you started out watching, meaning you no longer get as aroused by it. Which means you have to watch more extreme things to achieve the same arousal

[@saurikish]

I'm with you brother

[@drakeshort3116]

Hey Nicolas, unsure if you are religious, but I am. I just prayed for you, and that you would find freedom from your addiction. I can relate, and I know victory can be achieved.

[@tinoo93]

It gets easier and easier along the way. The intervals of going without will increase. Keep at it

[@hoii962]

Stay strong 💪, stay formidable ✊️ we got this 🤜🤛

[@mrshortcut6265]

Thank you guys. This has also been an issue for me. I know my two young sons are involved and just by reading your comments I now know how to handle it with them. Number one is that I need to stop myself. God bless you all.

[@jeronymkristof12345]

I was addicted from 14 to 20. Young people and especially boys and young men must speak about it. Not only it makes men feel awful, confused and disoriented in life.. it destroys us all together as a society. Porn and social media and it's impacts are still too overlooked. Speak up

[@lw7238]

Wrong, it has not destroyed society. Stop blaming others for your inability to get it together. Life is difficult get use to it.

[@jeronymkristof12345]

@@lw7238 well i have decided to study the negative effects of porn on both individuals and society because of my addiction (as my school graduation thesis).. I am convinced that it has in many way destroyed us

[@lw7238]

@@jeronymkristof12345 Made me feel good all the time. Never bad. I never saw or heard anyone becoming destroyed. There has been a porno going on in my head since I was 12 years old all day, every day, year till now and I am 70 years old. It's been great!!!

[@jeronymkristof12345]

@@lw7238 then i am honestly happy for you sir

[@lw7238]

@@jeronymkristof12345 I heard from a therapist that man has a sexual thought every 4 seconds of the day and night. Conscience or unconscious. That's pecker power.

[@mattj500]

I’m still technically addicted. I used to watch multiple times a day and it was awful. Killed my motivation and I was depressed. Over the last year I’ve progressively started watching less and less because I can’t afford the side effects of stopping cold turkey. I’m down to every 2-3 weeks, with the longest going was a about a month. I’m closing in on never watching it again.

[@warrioroffpeace3673]

That sucks brother, you can make it! Remember you’re doing great, admitting and wanting to change is the biggest step.

[@Sane8388]

Read the easypeasy method if you're desperate, it requires no will power to recover. You go through a psychic change. It saved my life

[@dkingbest67]

Keep your head up

[@joncarbone]

I’ve stopped for months at a time but then slip up here and there. Took me years to realize what was killing my motivation.

[@scitris6474]

Keep going my man

[@SIEGFRIED349]

This stuff needs to be taught to kids in primary school. I can attribute my addiction to ignorance in high school. I thought I could quit whenever I wanted. Boy was I wrong.

[@jac1161]

problem goes deeper though...look at the family/childhood. Something was lacking.

[@boabmarlee]

The plan is to warp children's minds, hence the reason for sending drag queens into schools for 'story time'

[@IsraelCountryCube]

@@jac1161 yes and also the parents watching pornography affects the children believe it or not. and if the parents love the child. And if the parent wanted to abort and kill the child or hate it then the child will become a homosexual of some sort weirdo perversion and be confused its sexuality which is heterosexuality but the parent is too stupid to not know what it needs and the problems usually occur at age 12.

[@larrycarter3765]

Leave school kids alone.

[@wallstdemon]

Any man that has retained his seed for a prolonged time knows the type of power it gives you. You have a drive like no other & you become obsessed with achieving your goals. One of the biggest contributors to my success!

[@yannickherremans7904]

Most underrated comment of this comments section

[@wallstdemon]

@@yannickherremans7904 it’s because most men have never retained and can relate to my comment. Thanks for being the only one 💪🏽

[@imfrom2002]

​@@wallstdemon How long it takes to give you that type of drive for success mate

[@DibbzTV]

I’ve been addicted since I was in middle school (over 10 years). It’s taken me 1-2 yrs to go from 2-3x/day to 2-5x/week. It’s embarrassing looking back on how it affected me and relationships. It took me down some dark roads and really made me question myself. God bless ❤️

[@jahjahmartin2700]

Thanks bro, I needed that❤. Amen

[@amerbanafa4717]

@claybomb8 how's the going

[@DibbzTV]

@@amerbanafa4717 pretty good. I havent done it in weeks and just finally reached a stage where I was bored with it all and wanted the real thing and becoming a better person to settle down ! Highly recommend taking that mindet

[@HarmzConscious]

NoFap is literally a *productivity hack* . The energy, discipline, focus and drive you get while on Nofap is a straight up hack. It feels like it should be illegal with the advantages that it brings. I be sleeping 5 hours a night then awake for 18 hours grinding the whole day, STOP SLEEPING ON IT!!! I just made a video on all this and went in deep, check it out and stay blessed 🙏💯

[@RealSweetTom]

I can't believe this topic is still in the outskirts of discussion. I first read up on it 10 years ago, and it's not gone any further. There should be more studies on this.

[@certainarchangel8315]

​@dreambig9444 From what I have found, the guilt & shame are connected to how religious a person is or was raised. The main correlation found in studies is that higher libido equals higher consumption. The brain chemistry/changes are also spurious.

[@Jimmy911ism]

@@dreambig9444He doesn’t answer the bloody question in the title of this video though!

[@mikeym8335]

I've been sober for about 5 weeks, and I feel very different; I don't think I'm ever going back. In addition, there is no reason for me to want to go back. But I have an intuition to keep looking forward in life.

[@koopon3900]

You got it man - keep looking forward. Put that shit behind you for good now and continue to build yourself to where you want to go ✌

[@Max4Z]

Same dude, I’m on day 34. Its def become more controllable now, but just scared what will come in the future/coming days

[@mikeym8335]

@@Max4Z you have to believe in yourself, and that there's more for you in life.

[@darkmustard_pm]

haven't watched a single porn video/image since may 2023. after that my confidence skyrocketed and I started lifting weights.

[@antoniomontana2034]

Just like male loneliness, in today’s society absolutely nobody cares. If they did they wouldn’t market such sexualized music and lonelyfans towards kids but everything has gone apeshit, money is apparently the most important commodity and morals are being put on the backburner

[@Dancestar1981]

And that’s all horrifying too

[@Abhorrentchild]

I dont know how much more i can take of this fam

[@elguapo3811]

This 100%. Everything is monetized.

[@Arcaryon]

You are mistaken. Let me explain: there is a pretty damn obvious connection between loneliness and prn. Ever noticed how studies talking about negative aspects of prn mainly name correlations? Case in point: many people who get divorced tend to watch a lot of prn. You can read this as either: more prn = divorce OR people who are sexually frustrated in their marriage will search an outlet. What I found over the years is that in most cases, there are three issues with prn. In no particular order: psychosocial issues, mainly insecurity about one’s physicality & unrealistic expectations. Both are pretty common with a lot of social media but can usually be fixed with a good education on the subject because a lot of the unrealistic expectations and fears are unfounded. Can be pretty bad for a minority that is in a relationship or who are super insecure, they should then consider to stay away from prn, possibly permanently. Next up; we have a bigger issue: candy. Prn is entertainment and some people can not handle that amount of power. They are like children who never got told that sugar is bad for them, undisciplined and weak minded. Should either stay away from prn completely or actively limit themselves. Also an issue that can usually prevented via sexual education, the issue is that most societies don’t touch the subject so kids/teens are left to their own devices and as we all know, many kids and teens are notoriously unreliable and lack self discipline. The 18+ sign exists for a reason. Finally there is sadly the most serious group: copers. And they are why I mentioned the marriage example: the youth is lonelier than ever. And while the reasons are plentiful, a clear symptom is that more people think they are addicted to prn. The sad reality is that many people can not fulfil their base sexual urges and even less their urges for companionship. This is also evident when we look at content here on KZbin or Twitch. Check the google trends for how to get a girlfriend. Sounds innocent enough, when you mix it with the headlines of the loneliness epidemic, it becomes clear that for many people, often without realising it, prn has become their preferred coping mechanism to keep going. Hard to fix because this is a pretty big issue None of these three conditions are tied to addiction however. The reason? Kids will talk about needing more extreme stuff to get off; turns out, that’s why most healthy adults take breaks between the entertainment sessions. This is because the dopamine gets broken down pretty quickly and constantly in all healthy adults. It’s why, no matter how much sex young adults have, they don’t become addicted. It’s also why mastrubating without external help doesn’t lead to any problems, despite doing the exact same thing physically. Prn addiction is, frankly, not a thing in any serious academic sense.

[@alecas89]

@@Arcaryon Amen, what a reply.

[@vincer7824]

The thing isn't usually discussed is what drives people to it and the toll it takes on them. Destroys most directly involved.

[@Peanuts76]

Dr Hubermann such a blessing for us, there's alot of insight and honest open talk about some issues are really help, especially for us live where sexual and some taboo issues where not discussed and often repressed....

[@Jimmy911ism]

Does he actually answer the question in the title?

[@bonnydrops4340]

The worst thing about porn addiction and masturbation is it keeps away from social interaction,eat up all the confidence,having a mood swing, no feelings of having girlfriend,ruining our relationship with god and church i wish i can overcome this addiction its so hard to overcome temptation 😢

[@jameswashington1887]

Yes brother I went you, it’s very difficult and all the symptoms you name I’m dealing with them my self. I wish I can overcome this addiction, I been suffering with porn addiction 15 plus years

[@dannyboyr10]

It’s also very important to note how porn exacerbates lust and diminishes true love. The role lust plays in relationships and how porn is steroids for that lust isn’t talked about enough. People think lust is passionate love and often confuse the two. So much so that they carry out who relationships for years without really loving that person and jump ship when they start to become physically unattracted to that person. Those relationships also happen to be really problematic. Porn and society’s views of sex is so damaging to true love and healthy relationships.

[@dnix5283]

Our dopamine in our brains is both, a blessing and a curse. I agree with what you said.

[@snoozyq9576]

And then the way they portray love in TV / movies is so lustful too. No wonder everyone's always cheating

[@mugojr4766]

I think the true love you are talking about is a fantasy that exists in your mind.

[@marykatherinemorris5048]

@@mugojr4766 no, man.. love is real. God is faithful to reveal this to you. 🙏♥️

[@entropiated9020]

I find that porn has affected my ability to focus on just one partner over a long period of time... When watching porn, if it's not really doing it for you, you pick another video. You can't do that with a person, so it's difficult to maintain that level of excitement due to variety.

[@likemysnopp]

go and see if you have adhd dude. Cuz porn is not the reason for your boredom and need for variety

[@paulwally9007]

You think that everyone who doesn't watch porn never thinks about anyone else but their partner?

[@demonicaxeman7264]

Monogamy has to be the most boring lifelong arrangement. I was married for about 10 years and she was not very sexually appealing in the marriage. I avoid marriage and commitments as a lesson going forward.

[@n2bfw884]

What do you think your gal is thinking about...

[@shaunsteele8244]

yeah porn is like having a digital harem. Literally thousands of women at your disposal, any variety you like. When you have a woman in your bed IRL you can't be like "you know what this isn't doing it for me, do you have a friend you can call over?"

[@beneficentnature9356]

My first search was "boobs" on the family computer. My mom asked who searched for "boobs" on the internet. I blamed my dad, and avoided getting in trouble... Until dad got home lol

[@Zhello79]

Dad: *Samuel L Jackson voice* mother---ker. All jokes asides yeah it all starts with a curious search and it'll cause you to get tangled in a web that us hard to get out of.

[@brandonpinto5290]

😂

[@brandonpinto5290]

My first official search term was "hot and sexy babes" at age 11. After that I went down a deeep rabbit hole for many years until i was yanked out by the no fap community. Now 28 and 10 days clean. Oh how different life would have been if i could Slap sense into a 11 year old me.

[@loverofhumanity]

your dad should have taken one for the team.

[@elguapo3811]

I told my mom i was searching books, that was a typo

[@bungflop6433]

The worst part about a porn addiction is you almost never see it as an addiction until it is too late. I watched nearly everyday and thought nothing of it, thinking i could quit anytime. But after a while it started consuming my entire day and effecting my relationships, I was constantly dissociated with those around me, as i was always thinking about porn and when i could watch it again. It ruined my mental health and drained me of energy. Im trying to quit now and its been an up hill battle, but videos like these help me remind myself why i need to quit

[@innotafanofanyofjlbjlbissd6777]

You’ll get there .

[@Emergentgamestudio]

Once I started telling myself it was a dangerous addictive drug like cigarettes and alcohol, I immediately stopped consuming it. 2 days ago I watched it and today I’m really depressed. Once you abstain for a month or so and then watch it again you’ll really notice how it effects your drive and motivation. I’ve been an addict since the age of 10. I’m 23. 13 years wasted. Don’t make the same mistake

[@govmaheshwari6201]

Bro same here , do ypu feel that you till now don't what ypu have to do asa. Profession in your life or not having any zeal to pursue or do something...

[@serdavosseaworth6115]

It’s ok to relapse dude, get back on that horse.

[@J_059]

Bro I've been watching for about 5 years, ~12/13-18, I've went a month without watching and now I feel like I'm going back to that version of myself and even more Video game addiction was just as bad too.

[@LowKeyDee1620]

Good think u are still young. Keep going you are headed in the right direction. Don’t be like me who is on the verge of losing a family in my 40s still fighting this thing.

[@bobmathews9072]

Jeez man , since the age of 10 !??? Have you got parents , how on earth did you access it !?!

[@literallyshaking8019]

I need to finally cut porn out of my life. It 100% desensitizes you to real life sexual relationships.

[@soulfuzz368]

Not just relationships but eventually it desensitizes you to everything you used to love.

[@paradiseisland786]

If you want [ literally shaking ] 🤣😂interesting handle. Connect on my U'tube channel, and we'll work together. I'm offering this to all comments that are struggling with this. That is we'll start a group of men, and rock and roll, change some lives, only if you're willing?

[@koopon3900]

Do it man.

[@MrCleates]

100%, without a shadow of a doubt. You don’t need p*rn in your life.

[@StefanReich]

That's complete nonsense. It makes me just appreciate real life sexual encounters more (of which there are too few for sure)

[@vincentven1262]

I discovered porn at the age of 6. I’m slowly trying to dismantle it. When ever I get post nut clarity. I get super depressed I feel like I’m doing nothing with my life. When I’m depressed I don’t eat. When I don’t eat I don’t make any gains. The number one thing that makes me happy is the gym. So the solution for me to progress in the gym and be comfortable around women and not see them as only sex objects is to quit pornography and go on semen retention for a while. I’m embarking on this journey to have a more fulfilling life. I hope everyone can tap into the higher selfs and progress in life.

[@mohammedjelidi05]

You got this bro, we're all in this together.

[@differentvoices6241]

Same brother

[@IsraelCountryCube]

when I hear men say I try not to see women as sex objects I always assume youre a feminist because usually thats what you say sounds like what the man is. But yeah I dont see any female as sex objects. I definitely lust after any female thats wearing provocative clothing because big breasts no matter how big in natural can actually be hidden females are given no reasons to hide because society promotes shitty behavior being a slut is promoted by other females not by men. What really made me fucking angry is this one stupid teenage female said shes disturbed by the amount of encouragement directed towards men- and women also suffer like? How fucking trivializing that must be to be vilified. Yes this hurts my feelings because ive been addicted to pornography since age 11. and then i go on here and see some bitch make it all about females as if they dont already enjoy being raped lmao. it makes it hard for my pshycopathy not to kick in and do exactly what she wants me to become the sexual crazed maniac thats what Those Billionaire Pornograph INdustry men want me to become a monster and then feminists beat me down to thats nice if i seperated murderous sexual acts from malevolene in killing would that be better?

[@Fightanddie]

Are you doing good?

[@HarmzConscious]

NoFap is literally a *productivity hack* . The energy, discipline, focus and drive you get while on Nofap is a straight up hack. It feels like it should be illegal with the advantages that it brings. I be sleeping 5 hours a night then awake for 18 hours grinding the whole day, STOP SLEEPING ON IT!!! I just made a video on all this and went in deep, check it out and stay blessed 🙏

[@mrduck4623]

it's easy to forget that this kind of an addiction is as damaging as any other addiction such as smoking

[@BalrogUdun]

I’d say worse because it destroys social interactions.

[@ionutmartin5565]

Ive been adicted for 10 years....cut it out for good and I have 2 months and 14 days clean...im fibaly free

[@clouds5]

Hi I'm a porn addict too. For me the real issue is that our society is completely filled with pornographic material. The whole internet, adverts, movies/series, video games etc etc. Even the way young women dress and behave is already totally influenced by porn. I never masturbate or have sex to porn and try to not actively seek it out. But it's almost impossible to never look at pornographic material because it's everywhere and it triggers you. You have to learn to live with it.

[@EPCauto2]

Very well said

[@ALTheFreeMan]

I agree. The triggers are everywhere. For me, it’s going to the gym. I try to just stay focused on my workout, but, there are so many beautiful women there who are dressed provocatively, and it’s damn near impossible to not take a few snapshots for the “spank bank”, lol. It seems like there are more beautiful women than ever before, and they’re dressing sexier than ever before, and they’re also harder to date than ever before! What’s an average single guy supposed to do when he has little to no chance of dating a decently attractive woman??? And I think that’s the reason why porn use is skyrocketing these days.

[@EPCauto2]

@@ALTheFreeMan the fuck is wrong with you big fella?

[@ozek4396]

@@ALTheFreeMan the fuck

[@dipthongthathongthongthong9691]

"way young women dress and behave is already totally influenced by porn" yeah that's a reach. And a baseless one at that. I think you meant to say, they way I AND OTHER MEN interpret the way women dress is totally influenced by the subjective fantasies we have about them, viewed through the prism of our high pornographic intake.

[@prayingslater777]

As someone who struggles with this, im 2 weeks free one day at a time ❤ you got this one day at a time

[@morgankuphal3417]

I first got exposed to it when I was 8. I shudder to think of the long term damage I have caused… The only thing that saves me was getting married young and stopping early.

[@kuunami]

Did you have an arranged marriage?

[@sigmundsigma6888]

@@kuunami probably

[@berkozkan3922]

Any noticeable long term damage? (Besides the extreme kinks obviously)

[@lw7238]

" the long term damage I have caused…" HA HA HA HA To what? Did you break it?

[@egr3071]

I’ve been free of pornography a little over a month. I’m a woman. I became addicted to it when I was 18 and I’m 32 now. I asked the Holy Spirit to help me and this is the longest I’ve gone without it.

[@carljohnson4691]

Hang in there, Sister. Trust in the Lord and remember that Jesus faced temptation too. When I am tempted to return to porn I pray or (if I can) read scripture. He will not let us be tempted beyond what we can bear, although it may seem so at times, but there is always an escape available to us. God bless you in your recovery.

[@egr3071]

@@carljohnson4691 thank you for your words of encouragement. God bless!

[@calleocho2107]

What was it like as a woman to have a porn addiction? Did it lead to sex addiction or did you watch so much pornography that you lost the drive to have sex with someone too?

[@egr3071]

@@calleocho2107 did lead me into more risky sexual behaviors but I already grew up with sexual trauma so it was another layer added to that. In my marriage though it caused a lot of issues with our intimacy and the give and take between us as partners. Our sex life is so much better these last 6 weeks alone and I have more patience and desire to please my husband more than ever before.

[@sydneywest7082]

@@calleocho2107 bruh its fake, they trolling you for fun.

[@MrSalamouras]

the statement that you program yourself to be a voyer is just so fucking true ..

[@darksider9534]

Watched it since I was a teen and the internet was readily available and started to become a thing. I'm 35 now and it has damaged my self-esteem, sexual expectations, warped my view of relationships and stunted my emotional development. Its clouded what's really important in life; which is building meaningful long lasting connections rather than vapid ones and finding your true long term desires in life rather than fulfilling your short term pleasures...

[@Uber---Octopus_100X]

This guy knows how to break complex stuff into simpler, humane versions. He is an academic with a contemporary pop culture vibe.

[@NETHA.]

The ending of the video is awesome .He directly given the full video link so, i can easily access and watch it. Thanks man....

[@ErichHiller44]

I've found ways to combat the addiction but every once and a while usually if im really bored or very lonely I relapse.This shit makes my life hell. 27 and I'm still struggling.

[@BluegrassBriar]

You can do it brother. You must cleanse your mind.

[@johnnyvo9313]

I've been porn free for about 9 months now and what really helped me was thinking about the morality of porn, what it does to the female performers, just read articles from ex porn stars and the horror stories they tell about the industry. Then what it is doing to the brains and lives of men who consume it, which is destroying your brain and totally warping your idea of sex. I really had to ask myself " is this what I want sex to be? Is this what sex really even is?" the answer was no.

[@ErichHiller44]

@@BluegrassBriar I appreciate it man.

[@ErichHiller44]

@@johnnyvo9313 Yea it really does give you unrealistic expectations.

[@TankTheSpank]

Start listening to Christian music and give all of your worries to him. Anyways don’t feel bad. You did good since you could have had it worst with divorce and child support. Imagine your wife screwing another guy and you have to pay for it. The option you have chose is a lot better than the latter.

[@hintoflimetostitochip7978]

Huberman is absolutely brilliant.

[@olebuick7683]

I'm approaching 30 and married with a kid on the way. I've recently relapsed after 5 months clean. Despair sets in, especially when I remember the times I've fucked up an otherwise successful life because of my porn addiction. Enlist somebody to hold you accountable. Personally, I've turned to my wife. Try a parent, a priest, a mentor, a friend. We can't let our sons go the way we did. Head 'em off at the pass, boys. You and I may never fully shake it, but we gotta do our best to break the cycle.

[@CapeBuffalo]

👀👀👀 That's what marriage will do to you, enjoy your porn life is short

[@jackb3758]

Hey if your pregnant wife isn't in the mood for sex I'd say its acceptable to have a tug lol

[@sigmundsigma6888]

DEFINITELY NOT A PRIEST 😳😳😳

[@andres.e.]

@@sigmundsigma6888 Don't be ridiculous. There are sexual predators in all walks of life. Rate among priests is not higher than the rest of society.

[@KhabibsJacuzzi]

@@andres.e. true. And it's much higher in teachers, rabbis and educators

[@ksmasry]

Thank you for this, I was addicted to porn about 8 years, and now I've overcome it and have been on semen retention for 2 years. Escaping porn addiction makes me feel as if my life has found its meaning and value back.

[@GreaterAfghanistanMovement]

Do you have occasional wet dreams?

[@homosexualpanic]

Semen retention...?!

[@joebloggs6131]

I'm now 43, and have been struggling for... well... since my teenage years. It has cost me a lot - perception, relationships, police action, alongside others; My family know and I think realise a struggle, but still it's something that isn't talked about (not with me present) and I wish I could quell these demons.

[@marykatherinemorris5048]

Praying for God to give you strength and hope and to set you free. 🙏♥️ He is faithful to help if you lean into Him. I sympathize with how long and serious your struggle with this has been..

[@snoobie324]

Read bhagwat gita given by God 5000 yrs ago. Other wise porn (lust) ,greed and anger are road to hell.

[@materink2700]

It wasnt quite easy to stop watching. However, I wane myself off of it. I didn’t want to depend on it anymore. My mind was set on stopping. What helped me was writing down the date I caved and go longer without it. 3 months without it now. Remind myself to get a real woman. Hopefully others will try too.

[@ftroop2000]

Everything said here, is 100% bang on. Not just porn, it can go for a lot of things, especially drugs, sex and thrill seeking threw dangerous sport

[@user-oi6ec8ge4c]

You raise good points but on the other hand f*ck Millwall 🤣

[@andrewevans6826]

My ex gf is now getting married.. when we were dating i had a terrible porn addiction:( guys please stop watching that shit:( it made me so mentally weak

[@UghIHateTheseThings]

Happened to me too bro. She checked all the boxes. Insanely gorgeous, smart, hardworking, and was obsessed with me. I threw it all away by giving into my addiction. I truly cannot stress enough how much of a negative impact this can have on you if you’re addicted and don’t realize it. (Saying you can quit whenever you want, without ever actually trying to do so)

[@likemysnopp]

No it didnt. You clearly never got help for what is the actual problem which is in your brain. The guy she gets married to also watches porn, but he didnt have a problem with it now did he? No he simply did the deed and moved on and did the rest of what ever is needed to do that day. Its that simple. Do it and then move on and do other things. Just like working out. And yes, some people do get addicted to working out and develop eating problems and this and that... does that mean working out is bad? Fuck no.

[@MrVJTI]

When you guys say addicted, what does that mean? Jacking off 2 times a day? Watching 30 mins of porn everyday? What did you do to wean off the addiction?

[@UghIHateTheseThings]

Lisa Fenwick I hope leaving that comment on two people that have learned from their mistakes gave you the dopamine hit you were looking for. I really hope that little mental boost you were so desperately looking for helped you continue to ignore the fact that you are still alone, continuing to age, and the longer that you go without finding someone who will love you, the harder they will become to find. I suggest fixing your need to attack people for your own ego, the path you are on leads to nothing but a life full of pharmaceuticals, and an empty cold room filled with nothing but a dying corpse and the smell of regret.

[@bryanm502]

I have definitely felt that way in the past....but there's always another girl mate. Woman come and they go. Make something of your self and they're never in short supply.

[@LoneWalkingLearner]

The Concept of Instant Gratification is so deadly it’s scary. Porn kills, it kills your mind, your spirit, your POTENTIAL.

[@Anonymous-bz7cc]

Day 1 of no porn , the likes i get will be the number of days i will not watch , not even in KZbin or any web series

[@anilchaudhary529]

Update?😂

[@HugoStiglitz88]

Good luck but I think there are many men that would never be able to stick to a comment like this. There are a lot of dudes who don't get laid and for them, if they got hundreds of likes it would be almost impossible to live up to Blue balls is real. I didn't start til I was 14 but I did start because of blue balls and because of wet dreams so it's just not likely anyone can go hundreds of days without release

[@mxs4193]

@@HugoStiglitz88not watching doesn’t mean not wanking. You can still get your release without watching anything. The reason most people fail is because they try to quit both at the same time.

[@BilalMalik-j5v]

222 days buddy !! Make yourself proud 💪🏾

[@jasonsapp792]

And the extremism of porn is two fold... Personal and spiritual... Porn tends to lead to more extreme porn many discount the religious aspects that go against what GOD wants from US man or woman

[@zeldaguy32]

Man has figured out how to hack his own nervous system to provide desirable and pleasurable experiences for himself. We forget that these systems developed to help us fend off the existential threats and dangers of living in nature. Only for a short time have we had the capacity to over-stimulate ourselves.

[@vklkg5486]

I need a community to help me stay consistent within my journey man. It’s so hard to stay consistent. I do good for a month or couple weeks then fall right back in. I’m tired of this shit I just wanna walk away from all of this degeneracy. It ruined my confidence and social skills. It ruined me. I’m still young man I don’t want this to take a chunk of my life away focusing on. I’m 21 I can’t keep this stuff going I have to grow up and mature into a real MAN.

[@mmmcounts]

I can't remember exactly where I saw this, but there was a porn director- maybe in some type of group discussion thing?- that said one of the biggest challenges with getting young performers right now is in getting young men that can do the job. That got some puzzled reactions- aren't there a lot of guys that want to do this? And the answer is yes, there is, but now more than ever guys aren't able to get it up and keep it up to performance standards. One of the most common things that a director will see from a male performer (that probably won't make it) is that he's spent far too much time watching porn himself, so he doesn't stay aroused when he's with the female performer. They have to yell cut, then he grabs a mobile device and watches a bit of porn in order to get himself back there and then they can get a few more minutes of usable footage. Think about that next time you're wasting time on this. You're becoming that guy. That's exactly how that guy became that guy, and it happens So Much. It's very common. It happens all the time.

[@dillpixel8357]

Wow! I never considered that would even be a problem. How crazy is it that a young and virile man who should be in his prime, with a hot, naked woman/women in front of him and he needs to take his eyes off of her and grabs a mobile device to pron in order to get him "going" again...... I'm speechless.

[@paradiseisland786]

Also the use of opiates, or needles in the penis. Viagra and such, not healthy sex for money, is also a habit.

[@shrunkensimon]

Filimg porn, to their industry standard, is also not the same as an encounter so it's a bit disingenuous to blame the actor. They want multiple takes, angles, etc.

[@billyin4c514]

This goes to show you that because porn is so easily accessible, it's a quicker route to excitement than the process of getting aroused by a woman. These guys are not used to the flirtation and the natural process of getting excited about a woman's femininity. There's a process to getting to the point of sex, which is why I like teasing, making out, and everything that leads up to sex.

[@rocketman3770]

don't worry sir, tell him that his next actor is here!

[@GriezmannTuti10]

We absolutely need more people like Andrew, my God, what an example of a man. Besides, who doesnt want to reach his actual age and look as athelic as he does.

[@FearlessP4P1]

Porn is everywhere so now it’s common to think it’s okay. Thank you for talking about it

[@NewLegumes]

SOCIAL MEDIA IS THE DEVIL. EITHER YOU ONLY USE YOUR PHONE FOR KNOWLEDGE, OR TO DOWNLOAD IG ,FB, etc and get distracted and tempted.

[@trevon444]

I’m 24 and I’ve been watching porn every day for 10 years. I haven’t gone more than 9 days without porn. I could list 100 porn stars from memory. It’s a real addiction that i finally realize it’s a problem. Working on fighting it.

[@HisMajesty99]

I’m 23 and I’m addicted as well, not as badly as you are tbh, but we’ll pull through. Just gotta stay strong bro and create goals in our lives. If you make not watching porn your goal, you’re gonna fail. Kinda like how if I say “don’t think about elephants,” you’re gonna end up thinking about elephants. Instead make a bunch of awesome goals in your life and work towards them so that you literally don’t even have time to think about porn. That’s my strategy, hope it helps

[@CookieThug]

been addicted to porn since i was 6 and i’m now 34 and still watching everyday… this needs to stop!

[@KortovElphame]

LSD ..... try it

[@HisMajesty99]

@@CookieThug 6??

[@CookieThug]

@@KortovElphame thank you, i’ll give it a try!

[@Jackhandless]

When I was clean off of porn, i gradually became happier. I'm starting over at day 1 now. Lord help me because my joy went away

[@jordanbballmight]

Porn ruined my sexual experiences as a teen. ED, self hate, depression. These things need to be spoken about more.

[@orlonarsino6729]

I always found real sex much more stimulating. However ED has always been a problem for me since I was 14 with my first girlfriend

[@koopa9815]

same.. in my mid 20s still suffering. its so hard to break the habit

[@markitos3006]

Have you recovered?

[@AmadeuShinChan]

So let us talk about him. ED, who is he? The cousin of ET?

[@dariosso]

did you recover your ed

[@Cdp_999]

Porn is definitely a serious problem in modern society and for young men. I'm on my path of semen retention, and that is definitely the right way: you feel good, you have a lot of energy, you speak to people (especially women) normally and not like a weirdo, your mind and memory are clear, women see you in different way because of your energy, you definitely live better overall. It's not easy cause porn is an ADDICTION like all the others, at the beginning I failed a lot of times, but now I'm fully convinced that all men should practice semen retention and realize that whatching porn and masturbating everyday it's a serious danger for the future. I've always been a shy introvert guy, and since I practice semen retention I feel a lot better, the confidence, the energy, the joy of fucking living a life like a normal person is unbelievable. PLEASE TRY IT and rise again when you fall in temptation, let me know what you think about it once you tried it, I'm sure that you will thank me! STAY STRONG YOU ALL!💪🏼❤️‍🔥

[@johnlocke1113]

Brp everybody normal these days is watching porn. You aint normal. You are a god. Stay on your journey

[@burhaan__n]

Reminder 😭😭

[@dadbodofgaming]

I quit porn almost 2 years ago, and I unequivocally equate that to me having a libido at 40 that’s just as, if not healthier then when I was in my 20s.

[@TheProphegy]

Straight up my libido is almost non-existent. I’m 34 and have been dealing with bad depression and the urge for sex to be very low. I want to cleanse myself and get back to normal again.

[@elguapo3811]

@@TheProphegy work out, eat well, rest, cut down on sugar, strong like bull

[@adminreview370]

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