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@o0mew0o2 жыл бұрын
I used to think and say, "everybody is a bit bisexual" until one day it hit me that people are literally only attracted to one gender. That's when I found out I'm bi.
@itisdevonly2 жыл бұрын
In my childhood I was indoctrinated and bought into the conservative idea that sexuality was a choice and the ridiculous notion that lesbians were just women who hated men and so just opted to date women instead. It didn't seem crazy to me, since I felt like I could choose either men or women (in theory--in practice, I wasn't allowed to choose women because that would be "wrong"). I think maybe when I realized that some (most?) people actually *can't* just choose which gender to date it occurred to me that I'm bi. Lol.
@neoqwerty2 жыл бұрын
@@itisdevonly There's a group that does! it's called political lesbians, they have... uh, they certainly have *a* history, there's a lot of radical, extreme feminism in that movement, but basically they're the female version of gay MGTOWs and they call women who are literally not attracted to women "gender traitors". for... being straight. thankfully they're on the feminist fringe like TERFs. Yeah that was a very strange thing I learned about that day. It felt a lot like when Alex Jones was sort of right about his gay frogs tirade (the chemical he was railing about WAS causing major hormonal changes in a wild frog population where there was runoff, and causing male frogs to become feminize and take on female-mimic reproductive roles, close enough to "gay" in his constantly-on-the-edge-of-a-stroke-angry brain).
@anoukfleur25132 жыл бұрын
Still so weird to me, I can’t even comprehend people being monosexual. Really only reason I have to admit it’s probably a thing is why would homosexuals face all that adversity if they didn’t have to? Unless they all just choose a person that happens to be of their gender over everyone else of course.
@gyara73292 жыл бұрын
I used to believe this while also claiming that I'm straight lmao
@valaya.32 жыл бұрын
...are they really though?
@lemonlizard60262 жыл бұрын
"Find a different career" Shout out to that professor. No one should have to be afraid to go to a doctor just because they don't know if they're going to treat you well or not.
@elix11332 жыл бұрын
When I got to that part I was like "yeah prof! fuck'em up!"
@KyleRayner122 жыл бұрын
I'm a med student, and a few weeks ago, we had a conscientious objection lecture in which we were polled on "controversial" procedures. 20% of my class said they'd have a "conscientious objection" to providing gender-affirming hormones or surgeries. We had the LGBT+ and trans sessions a week later, which was... interesting.
@snjert84062 жыл бұрын
@@KyleRayner12 oh wow. Ouch.
@saltypork1012 жыл бұрын
Parenthood is another role (not a career but still) where a person has no business entering that role if they would feel "uncomfortable" parenting a child who was not cis-straight.
@eileenbutterfly78562 жыл бұрын
@@saltypork101 Yeah, this is a problem up to the point where there are programs just to foster LGBTQ+ kids. I mean, the program is nice, but I don't want anyone to need it.
@kinseydesignsbrands2 жыл бұрын
“In theory I’m bisexual in practice I’m frightened” made me crack up for over a minute 😭 it’s so true for me 🥺
@Hannah-dg1kf2 жыл бұрын
It’s so me
@AnSop2 жыл бұрын
I got anxious today because I realized I don't know how I can get a date with a woman without being on the dating apps. I hate how heteronormative everything around me is...
@Yuukichan1888 Жыл бұрын
in theory I'm bi in practice lesbians scare me
@__Mist__ Жыл бұрын
Me too
@50PH1E_DOE5_5TUFF Жыл бұрын
For me it’s ‘in theory I’m bisexual but in practise I have social anxiety and am a nervous wreck 😃’
@silverandexact2 жыл бұрын
"in theory I'm bisexual, in practice I'm frightened" is the most relatable bi thing I've ever heard
@juratory88762 жыл бұрын
Sis same 😂
@shannonaber1768 Жыл бұрын
Same
@science_bear Жыл бұрын
Nah, Omar mateen is the bi thing that’s most relatable to you bi things.
@Sapph3085 ай бұрын
I sent a pic of that one to my girlfriend
@katphish302 жыл бұрын
"But don't you have a preference?" "Sure, but preferring lettuce to liver doesn't make me a vegan." Best bisexual response ever, from a long-defunct web comic.
@emmynoether95402 жыл бұрын
Awesome!
@luz29492 жыл бұрын
@@emmynoether9540 yes
@saraquill2 жыл бұрын
I've come out to my mom several times as bi. She always says bi people have a preference, hence can't be attracted to multiple genders. Also insisted I couldn't possibly be queer when I was dating a genderfluid friend, I was just experimenting or confused. When I came out as ace, she asked me if I discussed this with my therapist. I considered this an improvement over her past behavior.
@thesleepydot2 жыл бұрын
WOAH THAT P’S SUCH A COOL ANALOGYYYY
@acefeminist72592 жыл бұрын
I love this
@moss88072 жыл бұрын
One of my homies is bi and he’s got a non-binary partner rn who recently decided that they are most comfortable being referred to as my friends boyfriend. And holy shit it makes me so happy to hear my homie say “my boyfriend”! I know he had a hard time coming to terms with his bisexuality so to hear him talk about his boyfriend so casually and affectionately is just amazing!
@dragonsaway97102 жыл бұрын
that's awesome!
@justaspiral132 жыл бұрын
Ghh 🥺🥺🥺
@thequeertelope79412 жыл бұрын
a w w
@PrincessJamiG2 жыл бұрын
*sniff*
@Moon_Thief_4202 жыл бұрын
Thanks for sharing that beautiful story!
@garethscott4182 жыл бұрын
My sister realised she was bi, a few years ago and when she told her boyfriend, he said, "I thought you already knew?" They've been together for several years now and he spent the whole relationship thinking she'd already came out, though he still can't explain how he knew other than it was just obvious to him.
@komori-hime35122 жыл бұрын
That's cute and wholesome ^^
@sluttyMapleSyrup2 жыл бұрын
Sometimes that happens. I came out as trans to my mother and her response was just, "Okay... Okay yeah. Yeah, that makes sense." She thought I was gay when I was little, so it was funny how she ended up being half right. If you're open and honest with someone, and they pay attention to who you are as a person, they'll figure it out, sometimes before you do.
@13JuWeL112 жыл бұрын
That happened to my husband and me😄 been together since we were 15, got married, have a kid and only last year I really realized I am bi. Told him and he went "well, yes... That was always clear to me"🤣🤣
@redtheforgottendragon4576 Жыл бұрын
It's The Gaydar man, don't know what to tell you. Sometimes, people just know.
@sarahwithanh4272 Жыл бұрын
@@13JuWeL11 That’s so sweet!
@Avery_the_Sketchy_Dude2 жыл бұрын
Came out as Bisexual to my friends recently, and when the girls of the group turned to me, I was like, "Don' worry, I have standards."
@lucistired2 жыл бұрын
One of my favorite bisexual experiences is being in a relationship with another bisexual, and just walking around and admiring hot people
@emmynoether95402 жыл бұрын
I love that part, too!
@Pimkly2 жыл бұрын
I WANT THAT TOO!!! How do I unlock that part of life?!?!
@Grounded_Gravity2 жыл бұрын
It's THE BEST!!!
@chocolatecurls942 жыл бұрын
Yes!! It’s the best 🙌🏻
@magnarcreed38012 жыл бұрын
Me and my bisexual roommate. Same sis, same.
@lista23082 жыл бұрын
Some rando (with a wedding ring) tried to invalidate my bisexual self while I was eating a cookie at my uni, the whole "You can't be Bi, you are engaged to a man" bs. I don't know what possessed me that day but Iawnsered back "are you saying I have to have a man and a woman at the same time to be Bi? Because I know your wife is going to love that" and continued eating my cookie.
@innusafar94382 жыл бұрын
Lol!
@lorifiedler132 жыл бұрын
Love the burn.
@Mirkwood-ki6tl2 жыл бұрын
i'm using that in the future
@carolinelabbott24512 жыл бұрын
Li Sta that was the most perfect burn. Love it.
@neoqwerty2 жыл бұрын
@@mrcloud7304 Not because YOUR life is boring as shit that everyone else's is, sweetie.
@demonschnauzer15552 жыл бұрын
“I’m not saying no bisexual person is desperate.” Thank you Jamie, 15 year old me feels seen.
@ZObliteration2 жыл бұрын
For those people who get biphobia from people they were going to date. You dodged a bullet. I went out with a girl who near the end of the date we walked by the LGBTQ+ center and I waved to some friends there. She was confused and I came out to her (I was still newly out and was awkward) she proceeded to tell me how it doesn't line up with her religious beliefs the rest of the way to her dorm. I can't believe I split a cinnamon roll on top of ice cream with her.
@bookaddict18382 жыл бұрын
That girl did not deserve both your company and a cinnamon roll with ice cream
@silverghostcat1924 Жыл бұрын
Well, you didn't know until you knew. Better to know sooner rather than later.
@Ck87JF Жыл бұрын
Can I buy you a cinnamon roll w/ ice cream? I'm inclusive of the letters in our community. 💜
@socialistrepublicofvietnam1500 Жыл бұрын
At least you learned when you were dating and not when you were married
@QueenMegaera11 ай бұрын
I hope you have had many better dates since your comment, but I just have to say ... Cinnamon rolls on ice cream!? I feel like someone just told child-me she could have cake AND ice-cream for dessert!
@melindusfindus16682 жыл бұрын
The biphobia from lgtb+ community is unreal. Like we're literally the B in the acronym, but still trying to prove our existence and validity within the community.
@gateauxq46042 жыл бұрын
Im surprised TERFs don’t come for the B too since bi men might also ‘come for their girls.’ 🤦
@lars.equals.laurentius2 жыл бұрын
it really is ridiculous!! even though i've now realized i'm not bi, it still disappoints me in the same/similar way
@1th_to_comment. Жыл бұрын
Lesbian gay tuberculosis plus
@tami7992 Жыл бұрын
The acephobia and aro in the community is extreme too. So many believe someone who's aroace doesn't belong in the community
@KyleeRotunda Жыл бұрын
I always make the joke of “ what do you think the B stands for Bacon” even though I don’t eat bacon because I’m Jewish my boyfriends response is less nice he uses the B as Bitch
@brianroberts7832 жыл бұрын
First of all, as an ace-spec guy dating a bi girl, the thing about "straight" couples at Pride hit home. Second, the best part about dating a bi person is that you know they like you better than not only everyone of your gender, but better than everyone!
@forestenrory2 жыл бұрын
yesss
@sluttyMapleSyrup2 жыл бұрын
"The best part about dating a bi person is they like you better than *everyone!"* Yes! Exactly this!
@ninafonte95932 жыл бұрын
Im pan and used to date a nb person who was also pan and we looked like a straight couple so yeah, same... and now I'm dating a cishet guy so the internalized "you're faking it" hits hard 🤡
@AnimusBehemoth2 жыл бұрын
Omg this is excellent
@SartorialDragon2 жыл бұрын
that phrase is kind of cute, even though as a polyamorous person, i don't derive love from “being better than everyone“ but just “being awesome to my partner“ regardless of who else they love. The same way that friendships aren't less valuable just because your friend has other friends, too! :)
@WantedVisual2 жыл бұрын
I had a straight colleague try to tell me I "picked a side" when got married. "You love [wife] more than anything. You think she's the most perfect person." "Just because I'm not looking to date them doesn't mean people stop being good-looking." "They did for me." "Really? You don't wanna see Chris Hemsworth shirtless?" "Everyone wants to see that man shirtless, that doesn't mean anything." "Okay. Now imagine there's more than one of him."
@calliemyersbuchanan64582 жыл бұрын
THIS!^^^^ I was bi long before getting in my current relationship, but for some reason I still struggle and feel the need to downplay my own bisexuality because I feel like the more I broadcast and assert it, the more I'm saying "yeah sure I love my husband but he only satisfies PART of me!" which obviously isn't the case, but at the same time, like why does it really matter anymore who ELSE I'm still attracted to if I'm truly happy and committed? For awhile I told people "I used to be bi but I'm now (Insert his name)-sexual" in some strange attempt to reassure him or something. He seemed to find it cute and would proudly tell people of my "new" identity if the topic came up in conversation. I've since dropped it and gone back to affirming my real sexuality when the topic comes up and he hasn't said the old term or mentioned it so I think I'm good there but, yeah it's been an internal battle. I would love to go to pride but that same feeling still bothers me.
@ACreeperMaybe2 жыл бұрын
Just a reminder: You aren't "just confused." You know how u feel better than other ppl do, don't let them gaslight you. Also, erasure is very real, especially when ppl are faced with an experience they haven't seen or interacted with. A lot of the time instead of asking questions so they can understand, they just say whatever ur talking about doesn't exist.
@mariebourgot49492 жыл бұрын
Yep because they are projecting. They are the one being actually confused. Confused about bisexuality/pansexuality, biromantism/panromantism, bi/pan people and so on for other sexual/romantic/types of relationships minorities.
@BeepBoopBee Жыл бұрын
I mean, you can be confused even when you're bi. I'm an enby bi and there are many things that confuse me. But what genders I'm attracted to is not something I'm confused about. No, I'm confused about things like "why do my chocolate snacks keep evaporating so fast?" or "i got 8 hours of sleep, why am I still so tired?"
@hazell13042 жыл бұрын
Always wanna appreciate whenever I'm reminded, Rosa Diaz both coming out and saying the actual word bisexual on TV made me cry. B99 may be about cops in theory but I'm practice it's the most wholesome show
@HiBuddyyyyyy2 жыл бұрын
B99 is great. There’s good representation on there and good role models.
@omribn2 жыл бұрын
B99 is amazing
@AwildTheoAppears2 жыл бұрын
I just paused the episode Rosa came out to her parents because I saw this video came out, it’s my fav episode :)
@kittyfactory22262 жыл бұрын
The best part is that after she comes out holt also has a bi flag along with his pride flag
@mimikyulover34112 жыл бұрын
B99 works ESPECIALLY because they're cops. They regularly call out some of the terrible stuff the police does. Also it's such a comfort show, everyone in there (except hitch and Scully but eh) is so comfy and accepting and I just wish everywhere it could be that wayydhdv s
@MidoriyamaRArekusu2 жыл бұрын
I can concur with the “in theory bisexual, in practice frightened” one. I know I’m bi (or something similar) but I’ve never had a genuine relationship and I have no clue how to get into one and the thought of trying scares the crap out of me.
@LikeaVictorianLady2 жыл бұрын
Same girl. 28 bi here and im terrified of having to start a relationship or dating in general sinds i never been in one😅
@MidoriyamaRArekusu2 жыл бұрын
@@LikeaVictorianLady indeed, I just turned 34 last month, and I’m just massively socially awkward (being autistic doesn’t help) and I’m having to try to learn to engage with people in a social setting without outside help and… well Covid certainly didn’t help with that, either.
@michanone2 жыл бұрын
@@MidoriyamaRArekusu 33 years old and same. I don't think I can have one right now. So I'm giving myself more time. It's not like there's an age at which I have to have someone there. 🙂 Just take your time, you're still awesome.
@bunnykatzen2 жыл бұрын
I'm also in my thirties, pan aligned aroace in theory too. My mom, whom I'm taking care of, has early onset Alzheimer's so I'm not able to focus on relationships now either and perhaps for a decade or longer. Amatonormativity can stuff itself while we all learn to navigate a relationship focused society while we're left here estranged from relationships
@MidoriyamaRArekusu2 жыл бұрын
@@bunnykatzen indeed, my mum is fine health wise but I’ve decided on focus on helping her more with the house and finances after my dad passed last year unexpectedly. So my focus for now is to get into a good place mentally and emotionally, then try to get into employment so I can help more with keeping things together.
@sabrinanelsen8660 Жыл бұрын
Sometimes it’s hard to feel valid since I’m bi but I’m a woman married to a man. So thank you for this! ❤
@TheChellybean85 Жыл бұрын
Just because we have chosen a person doesn't mean we have chosen a side! My own boyfriend doesn't understand that just cause I'm with him doesn't make me automatically straight so don't worry you're not alone!
@cukka9910 ай бұрын
Sounds just as valid to me, though I can appreciate that there would be times of self doubt. My wife's friend once asked her what if she found out her husband (that is, me) was bisexual. My wife said, it doesn't make any difference; we're monogamous.
@kia.tarsia Жыл бұрын
I spend a lot of time feeling erased or even like I'm a LGBTQ+ lesser because I'm a Bi woman dating a man. Videos like this really warm my heart & hug my soul. Thank you, thank you, thank you. 💗💜💙
@lisapeesalemonsqueezah32412 жыл бұрын
My partner is friends with a lesbian couple that is SO BIPHOBIC its ridiculous! They spout such BS that bisexual women are more likely to cheat and they would never date one because clearly they prefer men 🙄 One time I drunkenly told one of these women that she's biohobic but I love her anyway and then she got really defensive and denied it so much for weeks after. It's so uncomfortable being rejected by your own community and not being believed that you like women. I feel that I constantly have to prove to people that I like women because I'm in a relationship with a man.
@jennivamp52 жыл бұрын
🫂 I know the feeling to, I'm kinda still in the closet with a lot of people cos I've been burned by the LGBTQ community before. I'm married to a man so I often feel like I don't fit in the community anymore or that I'm not 'allowed' in that space.
@mcwjes2 жыл бұрын
And then it's hard to find a woman to date so we end up with men and then nobody believes that we actually do like women. It's a cycle.
@mrcloud73042 жыл бұрын
Feminists and lgbts are always like "men bad, i wish i was attracted to women." Meanwhile, most bisexuals, whether men or women, end up with men. I wonder why that is? Lol
@ameliasellers63962 жыл бұрын
@@mcwjes But that's just a cycle...a bi-cycle.
@tashaclarke24912 жыл бұрын
Arghhh, I feel this in my bones!
@saraidempsey31522 жыл бұрын
Pansexual here: the worst is when women will try to queerbait me at bars/parties for male attention. That shit bothers me. I'm not a prop, I'm a human with feelings. Lol definitely heard a lot of negative things like "oh you're just greedy" 🙄 not greedy- I'm just attracted to personalities, not meat suits. Lol
@chrisleneil2 жыл бұрын
^^^THIS^^^ I’m on the Pan/Omni spectrum, & the amount of AFAB people (particularly in my college years) who assumed I was willing to ‘play’ publicly with them so they could bask in the bro-tention was always disgusting. And, back then, confusing. They’re the equivalent of the AMAB folks who would feel the need to tell you, in confidence, how they had, “always wanted a threesome with two women.” *cue look of dull surprise* Straight people, bi/pan/omni identifying individuals are not sex toys. We are not there simply to be used for your enjoyment with no consideration as to our emotional complexity. Inside we have a personality, a soul. Not batteries. Luckily, as of late, the only people I see doing the, ‘Ooh, we should make out to get those guys attention’ gambit are self-identified straight cis women. Hey, knock yourselves out. But also - consider therapy to figure out why you are so desperately competing for the male gaze
@reachandler36552 жыл бұрын
Yep, I'm interested in what's between the ears, not what's between the legs!
@s0Shi2 жыл бұрын
Meat suits 😭
@mozzy29682 жыл бұрын
I'm gay and attracted to both honestly, maybe I'm the greedy one lol
@narcopsy2 жыл бұрын
@@reachandler3655 are you implying that bi ppl only care about what's between people's legs?
@luiza0732 жыл бұрын
Hi everyone! I'm bi and back in the closet after being invalidated so often by people close to me. The "opposite sex relationships make you straight" stigma is so hurtful:( Still I feel so happy writing this and always get euphoria while watching queer content:) Someday I will be validated and will be able to express it freely I hope:D
@nitzanshu46958 ай бұрын
Hey, that's a year old, but i saw this and wanted to ask, how you're doing? Bi stereotypes (and stereotypes overall) are really harmful, it always annoys me when someone doesn't use the logical part in their brain. I hope you're out again, bi power :p -a dumb omnisexual (bisexual subcategory)
@thecoreofmagic2 жыл бұрын
9:17 Always makes me smile to see this one. My household isn’t necessarily homophobic, but they don’t believe I’m bi because I only ever point out men as being attractive in tv shows. I don’t feel attracted to women as easily as men, but it is *definitely* still there. But whenever I did point out women, it wasn’t someone that was obviously supposed to be attractive for the show, so they thought I was just trying to be quirky or something. It doesn’t help that they don’ think that you can be gay and trans or bi and trans or whatever (I’m a trans man), so they just think that I’m a straight cis woman who is being attention-seeking. And I know that they’re not trying to be mean, they are just looking out for me, but they clearly don’t understand and it’s just frustrating sometimes. Anyway, this post always makes me feel better whenever I see it because it reminds me that I don’t have to feel equally attracted to women and men, and that my taste in women is just way more specific than my taste in men. I feel like there is why too much out there saying that you have to be equally attracted to both genders to be bi. You certainly can be, but you don’t have to be, and that’s something I feel is important to remember :)
@aceofspades_202 жыл бұрын
Something I've always said is that I feel too gay for straight people and too straight for gay people. Not sure if that makes sense but it's sad how it's a double-edged sword for us - we get flack from outside and inside the community. And being ace and bi you hear things...but anyway, love these videos because they never fail to make me laugh at how ridiculous some people can be!
@ninawth2 жыл бұрын
I think this is something that Shaaba discussed in her "the bi cycle? is that a thing?" video. It was really helpful for me, who is possibly panromantic, because I often feel like a fraud when looking at myself as LGBT (also demisexual which feels like not-entirely-ace), but I also don't feel completely straight. You might like to check out that video to hear her experiences with (doubting) bisexuality.
@TheMissnola2 жыл бұрын
The whole ace and bi thing is mine as well. I didn't know ace was a thing until later in life, I could just never understand that if there was a persons personality I was attracted to the most I wanted to do with them was cuddle. Perhaps clothed, perhaps not.
@firasjemil2132 жыл бұрын
First world problems
@grumpyoldman34582 жыл бұрын
@@firasjemil213 First World or not, still a real problem.
@actualgoblin2 жыл бұрын
@@firasjemil213 ok and
@Vexic9292 жыл бұрын
Prawn the cat is so cute!!! Being in the bi, ace, and aro communities I've received a lot of hate from inside the LGBT+ community and out over the years and I'm so happy to see so many of the memes today were wholesome! Makes me hopeful that the community won't attack itself forever :)
@fahdkhan19712 жыл бұрын
do you know what part of the aroace spec you are on I'm a aroflux and aceflux and bi somehow
@dragonwoah79832 жыл бұрын
I’m aro/ace but I relate to bisexuals so much when it comes to their aesthetic and the people I simp for in games and shows and such.
@Vexic9292 жыл бұрын
@@fahdkhan1971 I'm vocasexual and aroflux :)
@ebonydarknessdementiaraven46102 жыл бұрын
@@Vexic929 i know you weren't speaking yo me but i just wanted to say that ive never heard of vocasexual so i looked it up and that sounds so cool - a fellow ace 😊💜
@fahdkhan19712 жыл бұрын
@@Vexic929 is vocasexual when you're only attracted to the person's voice
@trans-forming2 жыл бұрын
I remember vividly my mom and some of her friends talking about some people who were "switching teams" and that they said that they were bisexual, but my mom and her friends saying, "There's no such thing as bisexual. They just don't know which team they are on yet. They'll figure it out." This messed me up for YEARS.
@Mockingjay9752 жыл бұрын
One time I told someone I was bi and they didn’t know what it was. I explained and they asked, “Wait, are you lesbian or straight?” And I said, neither and they said “Wait so you’re asexual?” I told them what I was again and they asked if I was confused and I was rolling around laughing but also super annoyed
@draughtoflethe2 жыл бұрын
I can only imagine responding to such a person with, "Well, *somebody* in this conversation is confused, but it ain't me."
@levonn4042 жыл бұрын
Phobia in the LGBT+ community makes no sense. The other day, my "friend" (who is a bisexual) refused to use my pronouns, deadnamed me, and then called me an object. AND THEN BEFORE THAT, HE WAS EVEN CONFUSED THAT I WAS BI??? LIKE, SIR, ITS THE SAME AS YOU???
@VaporRize082 жыл бұрын
Good. People don't have to use language they don't want to
@gabrielpaquette67642 жыл бұрын
Hey darling, ignore the other commenter. They made like 3 comments invalidating trans & non binary folks like us. It’s about them, not us ❤️ I’m sorry your “friend” acted like this.
@sezi9plays2 жыл бұрын
I think you need to get a better friend who is more supportive of your gender identity, I hope you have supportive friends out there.
@juratory88762 жыл бұрын
I think it's time to throw the whole "friend" away. You deserve far better than that.
@vincentfreddoyle7555 Жыл бұрын
@@gabrielpaquette6764 I don’t think it can think. Jessi here is what we call “empty-minded” it once claimed it was ‘open-minded’, but while it was doing some *extreme* mental gymnastics, it’s brain fell out!
@chesh1rek1tten2 жыл бұрын
My doctor/GP had me in today (trans unrelated) for the first time since I changed my gender (and name) with my insurance company. The only question that arose was at the front desk, one staff member to the other "do I confirm this box or do I have to check this to transfer the data?" and making sure I'm me by asking for my date of birth. My doctor did ask if I already had top surgery, but that was very clearly medically related because I was in for chest pain in the area scars would go. Nobody batted an eye or asked anything not related to the issue at hand. 💜
@allister.trudel2 жыл бұрын
that's great, thanks for sharing, it's nice to be reminded there can be wholesome experiences too, gives me hope for the future
@saltypork1012 жыл бұрын
The bare minimum. But also, I'm happy for you.
@snjert84062 жыл бұрын
Happy news. I'm glad it's working out for you!
@BabbinHousing2 жыл бұрын
thats so wholesome
@revolutionary_firebrand2 жыл бұрын
im so happy for you! its great to see you had no hassle in a place where hassle can happen unfortunately. as much as this sort of treatment is the bare minimum, its nice to know that not everywhere is filled with hate
@WinningSidekick2 жыл бұрын
Goodbye? More like good bi!! Jamie's a good bi, doing his bit for the community, and I greatly appreciate him for it 🥰
@umbreoncoredenise2 жыл бұрын
9:00 Basically 100% me in highschool, except with being pan, a bunch a girls for my class were like: them: "so you'd actually date a girl?" me: "girl, boy, non-binary, again, gender doesn't partically matter too me" them: "so would you date any of us?" me: "no I have standards, I'm pan not desperate"
@justinallenlindley97962 жыл бұрын
I'm a recovering biphobe. As a gay man who was treated poorly in my early sexlife by bisexual guys, I let it form a general opinion that later proved to be false as I am married to a bisexual man and I turned out to be trans feminine non-binary. We can always learn and grow. 😊
@p0cket._.void._2 жыл бұрын
thank you! we need more people like you :)
@anoukfleur25132 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your story :) It puts the bad experiences in perspective so they don’t sting as much.
@Ajehy2 жыл бұрын
You are valid, you are wonderful, and I hope others can follow this trail you blaze.
@AC_memes Жыл бұрын
Lucky
@sarahwithanh4272 Жыл бұрын
Glad to hear it!! Not many people are willing to admit that their past beliefs were wrong, glad that you’re able to accept that 💛
@scathannagoodman37962 жыл бұрын
I always find it so funny and weird when people try to tell bi people 'you're just confused', because I feel like it would be *easiest* to know if you're bi or pan, since you would have felt attraction to multiple people of different genders. But if you're only attracted to one gender, or none, then you get the 'you just haven't met the right one yet'. It's also just weird in general when people try to say 'you're just confused', because I daresay we know our own feelings better than some random karen?
@tashaclarke24912 жыл бұрын
It's not easy to know if you're Bi (I can't speak for the Pan experience) at least it wasn't for me, I still feel a lot of uncertainty around it years after coming out. I actually found that Shaaba's Bi cycle video expressed a lot of my feelings around being Bi pretty well.
@wendynecaise24992 жыл бұрын
It's true. I think I'm straight because I've only experienced attraction to men. But maybe one day, I'll meet some woman and be like, huh, everything I thought I knew is a lie. . .
@John_Weiss2 жыл бұрын
Here's something from a t-shirt from the 1990s: “No, I'm bisexual, _you're_ confused.”
@saltypork1012 жыл бұрын
Yep, but the second we tell them they're confused about their own sexuality and that they're all bisexuals in denial, suddenly we're the a-holes.
@John_Weiss2 жыл бұрын
@@saltypork101 Now now, we don't like it when others tell us our sexuality isn't real, we shouldn't do it to others. Unless, of course, it's intended as a "let's see how you like it" counterattack. 😉
@danking99362 жыл бұрын
That first one! My Dad kept telling me that whenever a bi guy was on TV "he's just gay". Sad to admit that I kind-of believed him until a few years ago I realised I had a massive crush on a guy while working at my last job. Then I was like "OH GOSH, they are real, and I am ONE OF THEM!!!"
@KichouSoodo Жыл бұрын
I love that last story. And a shout out to that professor. No one should be in the medical field if they cannot leave their prejudices at the door.
@themisfitowl25952 жыл бұрын
Absolutely love the pizza girl story! As a cis/bi gal, I get really bummed out when there is Biphobia, Panphobia, Transphobia or any other kind of nonsense like that in the LGBTQA+ community. Isn't our slogan supposed to be Love is Love? We really need to practice what we preach.
@cgmanning2 жыл бұрын
Also the idea that bi people haven't "picked a side". Isn't the other big lesson meant to be that sexuality (and gender) isn't a choice?
@themisfitowl25952 жыл бұрын
@@cgmanning Exactly! I think a lot of people can't wrap their heads around the idea that nobody is "choosing" to be LGBTQA+ but that we are instead looking inside ourselves and Discovering who we really are. It's not easy to peel back the layers of hate and misinformation and other garbage that we have been subjected to our whole life. When we finally make that breakthrough of "Now I understand who I am!" other people don't see the long intense process of what it took to get there. I remember not even realizing that bisexuality was a thing until I talked to someone about liking both men and women. I was convinced I had to pick a side and that there was no inbetween. And it still took years to fully come out to myself as bisexual.
@MsAliciaRL2 жыл бұрын
@@cgmanning And now I'm seeing hate because people think bisexuals aren't inclusive enough because they don't label themselves as pan. It's like we can never be good enough, especially when it's based on bogus assumptions.
@200Misaki0022 жыл бұрын
The professor is on point. Not only will they have to treat people with different believes, but they might also have to treat prisoners. If the institution is well known for their expertise, prisons might send very ill prisoners there to be treated. Also gang members or political leaders, etc. If you can't deal with helping people with views/lifestyles different to yours, find a career that doesn't involve human contact (or much of it).
@MargoMB192 жыл бұрын
Such a good point! It's often brought up in the context of race or sexuality, but it's very true that there are tons of different beliefs/morals/lifestyles/religions/etc that doctors may come across when treating patients and it's the same for all of it. Not wanting to treat a gay person, not wanting to treat someone who's committed a crime, not wanting to treat priests or ministers... If you have biases that bad in *any* area you shouldn't be in a field like that.
@kaykeunil2 жыл бұрын
@@MargoMB19 yup! My dad is a neurosurgeon and he’s had to operate on plenty of people from all sorts of backgrounds, some that he agreed with and some not. One week he’d be working on a football player with a spinal injury, and the next on someone who got stabbed. The next week a very old chronically woman, the next a young person. He’s had to do examinations for the court before, and give an unbiased explanation of injuries. Medicine shouldn’t be for people who let their biases control them because then there’s no point to it. Ofc, there are definitely flaws in the system that let this stuff happen. But overall it just, it shouldn’t be a thing. There’s no point in wanting to help heal and take care of people if your definition of “people” is limited to straight, cis, or white people.
@fevre_dream85422 жыл бұрын
Dude, this is like...any ER ever. We get homeless, clear people to go to jail, fix ppl who got messed up _in_ jail, etc. The hardest case I worked was losing a man who'd been shot 3 times in the chest, telling his wife and kids that he'd passed, then having to medically clear the man who shot him. Yknow what I did? Treated the dude and sent him off to jail.
@westzed232 жыл бұрын
@@margaretnicol3423 Yes. Animals can be gay or bi or trans. It's a big, wide, wonderful world!🙂
@westzed232 жыл бұрын
@@margaretnicol3423 I will check that out. 🙂
@PatrickCervantez2 жыл бұрын
4:26 I'm not a haunted house bisexual... I'm an overlooking a foggy shoreline bisexual. And yes: more dragons, more dinosaurs, just more animals and cool stuff on pride flags. I'm tired of looking at pride flags and remembering I need to repaint my house.
@ShadowSentry211 Жыл бұрын
Personally I'm more of a slightly overcast rocky beach bisexual
@logan030910 ай бұрын
I don’t know what kind of bisexual I am
@ArcticNinjan Жыл бұрын
Whenever I doubt my bisexuality, I watch this video, because afterwards I feel really valid ❤️
@science_bear Жыл бұрын
I bet hearing about omar mateen makes you feel valid too doesn’t it.
@ArcticNinjan Жыл бұрын
@@science_bear Who is Omar Mateen?
@science_bear Жыл бұрын
@@ArcticNinjan a bi that shot a gay bar
@ArcticNinjan Жыл бұрын
@@science_bear Why should it? Never even heard of that loser before this
@cukka9910 ай бұрын
In other words, you're just a goofball who thinks the existence of one criminal would somehow invalidate everyone who happens to have a similar sexuality to the criminal? Sounds more like anti-science bear to me. Tell me, would mentioning the name of one straight criminal somehow make it invalid for everyone else to be straight? @@science_bear
@Amanda-09872 жыл бұрын
I feel, as a Demi-sexual, an intense kinship with the Bisexuals. Particularly around my identity being erased or treated as somehow not fundamental if I’m in a relationship...like, I’m still on the ace spectrum...this...this is literally what Demi is, I picked a person and we’re in love...still ace... I feel like the Demi’s and the Bi’s should form an alliance!
@smhmyhead91842 жыл бұрын
My girlfriend is bisexual and demisexual
@rorolilred2 жыл бұрын
I'm bi and also demi - kinda feel like I have a foot in every camp 😂
@kei72642 жыл бұрын
I’m bisexual and Demiromantic (I’m not Demisexual, but I’m still Demi in a way)
@maddythelion2 жыл бұрын
I'm pansexual and demisexual... absolutely support this union! 🥳
@tsukishimakeianypronouns80542 жыл бұрын
Am I making an alliance with myself?
@isiemcculloch85662 жыл бұрын
As a white, cis lesbian, I would like to apologise for the biphobia, transphobia and racism that exists within the lgbt+ Community. It hurts my heart when I hear it. Prawn is adorable!!!!
@squeaktheswan20072 жыл бұрын
You don't need to apologize for actions that aren't yours. You aren't biphobic, transphobic or racist, nor should those bigots define you. That said, thank you anyway.
@missnaomi6132 жыл бұрын
Yeah, you sound kinda like me when I apologize on behalf of unsupportive parents. Thank you! 🙏💗💜💙
@timothyranck2 жыл бұрын
Unfortunately every group tends to have some gatekeepers within it that deem certain people not "insert group name here" enough.
@Lokear2 жыл бұрын
As a white, cis(?) gay man, I second this. Also, are demiboys considered cis? That's why I have the question mark, I genuinely don't know.
@nincure2 жыл бұрын
@@Lokear I've been out as trans for 17 years and I don't know what a demiboy is lol. So many new descriptions of things sometimes!
@Wait.what.I.am.not.here.frrrrr2 жыл бұрын
The sad thing is, I am Bi and I am so scared to tell my parents... They told me like 4 years ago, that they would still love me... But 2 weeks ago I was sleeping, but still hearing... So my aunt, my mom and my dad talked about being a part of the lqbtq community... My dad: "I THINK ALL BI PEOPLE AND TRANS PEOPLE AND THAT SHIT ARE SO ANNOYING! WE GET IT,THAT THEY THINK LIKE THAT BUT I DON'T CARE!" I nearly started crying... I really wanted to run away... What should I do now? 😐
@eliotrix2955 Жыл бұрын
Hey mate, that's really sad :/ I'm sorry you had to hear that but it doesn't necessarily mean that what they said about loving you whatever isn't true. It may just mean that the have a shit fit when you come out but come around in the end. I hope you have people in your life who are supportive and whom you can come out to. Whether and when to come out to your parents is totally up to you. Big love x
@Wait.what.I.am.not.here.frrrrr Жыл бұрын
@@eliotrix2955 thank you so much... You don't know what that means to me... Especially now... and plot Twist I am a lesbian 😂 yeeah...and my Parents litterly hate anything that has anything to Do with lgbtq...but i have 3 friends that Support me 😊
@rage34752 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being so amazing needed this tonight .
@jordanbishop69492 жыл бұрын
As a Welsh bisexual, this flag made my day!!! Found my new wall piece…
@peanutbutterex2 жыл бұрын
I really don’t know what it seems everyone has against bi men. Some of the coolest guys I know are bi and, while I may be biased as a bi woman, if I’m going to date a guy I’d prefer him to be bi/pan/etc. because of the similar experiences and they seem to just be so chill. And yes I am currently dating a pan guy and he is wonderful and I love him so much
@myasmith18202 жыл бұрын
Because they think bi men are secretly gay(this is a stupid thing to think).
@salem16222 жыл бұрын
i am a pan non-binary person and i would prefer my partner to be like bi/pan/omni ect. so we can have, like you said, similar experiences
@yasminechoerryscherry37012 жыл бұрын
I would love to date a bi/pan man because we would both be queer and have shared experiences and we could scream together about hot actors and actresses while watching shows, it's THE dream
@margaretcummings41462 жыл бұрын
Totally!! I've also found that since bi/pan men don't define their masculinity by Not Being Gay, there's a lot more room for them to shed toxic masculinity in other ways too
@dsgosamabinplotting3682 жыл бұрын
Biased I see what you did there😂
@r2Gt062 жыл бұрын
It was a lovely video, but the ending farewell was really the cherry on top! My smile is THIIISSS big! :)
@winternight88132 жыл бұрын
Prawn and also this made me smile. Thanks Jammi!
@ArcherFudge2 жыл бұрын
7:42 I love this but in my case it's my mom and her bf taking me to pride to be supportive. The thing is, they are the gayest looking straight couple i've ever seen in my life. Like, seriously. Oh my god. And then there is me. The one who can't look gay to save my life. People always think i'm some teen who's parents dragged me here but no no. I'm the gay one not them. Yes i know he's wearing eyeliner and cuffed jeans but i swear he says he's straight
@charlie002 жыл бұрын
lol
@momamiandkiddokelsi90272 жыл бұрын
Your family sounds awesome!! 😍
@ArcherFudge2 жыл бұрын
@@momamiandkiddokelsi9027 they're great lol
@waffles36292 жыл бұрын
Lol, that's great
@DivisibleByWaffle2 жыл бұрын
I'm bi (maybe pan? Still figuring that part out) and when I came out to my mom a few years ago, she just told me that it's normal for women to like both men and other women. After all, she feels the same way that I do! ..mom.....that's called being bisexual. You literally just told me that you are also bisexual. I wasn't able to convince her of that though, which is just hilarious to me. She just whole-ass believes that all women are bisexual but that it isn't called bisexuality. I mean, I couldn't have asked for a more accepting response than "yeah lol me too" but I also laugh a lot when I think about this. If you're reading this: love you, mom! That being said, thank you for this video. I rarely tell people my sexual orientation anymore specifically because I am tired of catching shit for it. Seeing your reactions was validating.
@kazikek26742 жыл бұрын
I think a bigger percentage of people are bisexual than we believe, at least in terms of some level or period of attraction, but because the pressures on women and men are different in that regard, women get to explore it slightly more before bending to the social expectations and hence at least part of the 'Bi in college' and 'Women's sexualities are more flexible than men's' happens. There may be legitimate reasons behind these narratives to some extent, I just think a bulk of it is about different societal expectations of women and men (or even, going into differences of treatment and type of discrimination between trans men and trans women, AFABs and AMABs)
@neoqwerty2 жыл бұрын
@@kazikek2674 Also a lot of people misunderstand a fundamental psychological sex difference for "arousal" as being bi: (warning shift to biology terms in 3 2 1) female humans are biologically wired to respond to any sexual stimulus happening around them, even ones not directed at that individual female. It doesn't mean that they're bi or turned on by it, it's just that evolution installed a "just in case" failsafe to try to prepare for getting grabbed by a nearby male who got agitated by the same stimulation. You don't learn about that particular quirk of the reproductive evolutionary arms' race a lot unless you go search for it. (It's also why the human body is stupid and post-menopausal women often need lube despite still feeling arousal, the whole thing is a dumb reproduction process that's only kind of sorta half-heartedly linked to desire.)
@sharo87602 жыл бұрын
I agree with the other reply, that the percentage is probably bigger than we know. I'll just add that I think one way that women kind of get more leeway with it (internally, definitely not as an outward stance) is how our society tends to view women through a (het) male gaze and the media constantly presents women as objects of desire. (I don't mean the feelings are "created" by society, just that when desiring women is the norm, it's easier to confront it within your own thinking.)
@kazikek26742 жыл бұрын
@@sharo8760 Oh, absolutely, frequent sexualization of women helps everyone, not just men, see them inherently in a sexual light and confront those feelings, and many men also think (or are conditioned to think) of two women together as either eyecandy or threesome invitation while two men provoke a different response entirely. Social influences are definitely a factor here from multiple angles.
@Ajehy2 жыл бұрын
@@kazikek2674 I literally had a denial phase of blaming my bisexuality on “oversexualization of women in media”.
@icannotyoutubetoday24082 жыл бұрын
Oh I love that last one. The turn was great! Also love you Prawn, damp little one
@conlon43322 жыл бұрын
1:22 Just want to point out that, as a medical professional, you need to treat disabled people differently sometimes. They have different needs and in some cases treating them the same way as someone who's not disabled could be dangerous. I know this isn't what you meant, but it's important that's recognised.
@hannahthufvesson2 жыл бұрын
This video is like that feeling you get when you breathe in fresh air and realise how taking a breath Can actually feel. A few years ago I was following a lesbian account on Instagram, they were asking people to share their first experiences with being gay, but they kept encouraging people to send in their stories while posting very few. Since there was a clear lack of contributions and I didn't mind sharing my story I thought I would give it a go, despite being bi, or likely pan. My story might not fit on their page, I thought, but at least it would give them an option to share it should they choose to (I prefaced the message with me being bi for this reason). I didn't receive an answer at all, and when they kept asking for stories I wrote them to see if they had received my message. They then wrote me that they wouldn't share my story because they wanted their page to be "a safe space" for lesbians, and that just still takes my breath away. Fair enough if they didn't think it fit on their page, fair enough if only experiences from lesbians were welcome, fair enough if they had simply made the choice to not post it because it didn't fit within those parameters - but to make it out to be _unsafe_ for people for me to share my first feelings towards women, simply because I also possess the ability to have those feelings for men, it just, I can't, I still can't find words for that. Something just goes quiet inside of me when I think of this. It's not a big thing. It's this small, very still little thing. But it is also loud. So loud that it drowns out all other sounds, and that uncomfortable stillness that comes with that lack of noise still takes my breath away.
@Hufflepuff_cookie2 жыл бұрын
oh wow... that is unfair! also, have you ever considered being a poet? that last paragraph is really amazing, your description. edit: spelling
@static_theshapeshifter2 жыл бұрын
holy shit mx i'm so sorry. i can't believe this happened to you.
@komori-hime35122 жыл бұрын
Before I watched this video I wasn't even aware that there's so much hatred within the community. I'm so sorry you had to experience this.
@coralovesnature2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry you had that experience. As a non-binary person I know the feeling you described of a small part of you becoming quiet very well. It happens to me often in cishet spaces when people undermine my existence, but I kind of expect that. It hurts much more in queer spaces because that’s where I’m supposed to feel comfortable and have the ability to be myself to the fullest.
@stack-of-all-trades66892 жыл бұрын
My lovely girlfriend recently realized that they really don't have a preference for pronouns and is pretty genderfluid, which is dope because I was already bi when I started dating her 😂 On TOP of both of us realizing that we're both ace at the same time lmaoo
@sophiejones35542 жыл бұрын
love it when that happens! good luck!
@user.LCW012 жыл бұрын
Hope you both are well!
@kaileypeppard23422 жыл бұрын
The add I got halfway through the video was Jamie doing a read. I really thought it was just the sponsorship read of the video until I saw the “skip ad” button 😂😂
@christianavance91242 жыл бұрын
I know I'm like a month late catching up on videos, but I still thank you and Shabba for all your awesome content and information that helped me research terminology to discover I can shut many people up and educate the rest when I say I'm pan and demi-sexual.
@RB-vo4gi2 жыл бұрын
The “finally found a community” thing works for realizing I was ace and then realizing there’s so much toxicity in the community. (Seen so many posts from people saying ace/aros don’t belong, etc). I didn’t see that one coming.
@IceFireofVoid2 жыл бұрын
So many people saying we don’t belong because we don’t face discrimination while discriminating against us in the exact same posts. The total lack of self awareness is pretty funny at times.
@yasminechoerryscherry37012 жыл бұрын
@@IceFireofVoid Ace and aro phobia are just so present and yet so denied... The a spec in general is just sooo underrepresented, there are people inside of the LGBTQ+ community that don't know what it is to be aro or ace
@Amanda-09872 жыл бұрын
@@yasminechoerryscherry3701 could not agree more. The under representation of ace-spec people is sad. I didn’t realise I was demisexual until I was 29/30 years old because I didn’t know it was even a thing. Having language to use when talking about how you feel and being able to see yourself represented is so important. The moment on Sex Education when Steve is holding a little sign that says ‘I think I’m demisexual’ made my heart sing!
@greenteaslug46762 жыл бұрын
i'm so sorry boo, i'm demisexual/bi and it makes me so angry and confused when people discriminate against other lgbt people (i haven't personally faced it; i'm not out), even though they, as queer people, have likely faced that exact thing before
@thespanishinquisition76032 жыл бұрын
i spent most of my latest relationship explaining to my ex that i wasnt going to leave her just because im bi. She also tried to convince me that I wasnt really bi since I was together with a girl. It was really frustrating and made me question my sexuality alot. But since we broke up Ive grown much more confident in myself and can finally see my place in the LGBT+ community!
@RainWelsh2 жыл бұрын
Mate, same, the first actual relationship I had with a woman (who was a lesbian), I found out through a mutual friend that she’d been seeing another woman (also lesbian) behind my back pretty much the entire time we were together. When I confronted her, she admitted it and said something like “I mean, you’re bi, so you’d have just cheated on me eventually wouldn’t you?” I was both completely faithful and absolutely besotted with this woman, so that was something of a kick in the box. It took a while to get back to the bi pride thing, but what’s helped is rather than getting upset about people saying biphobic stuff, I just laugh at how stupid they must be to believe whatever they’re saying and cut them off completely. Glad you’re feeling better around things too, don’t let the bastards get you down
@sanschmidt54572 жыл бұрын
I don't get the narrative that a person is automatically a cheating or lewd human being only because they aren't cis/white. I mean some politician JUST said about queer representation in Disney movies "oh wow, do we get to see mickey and pluto getting it on now?!" Uh, no?? are you seeing mickey and minnie getting it on?? are other characters more likely to be 'getting it on' because they are not straight/cis? no the frick they're not, especially not in kid's movies! also get your beastiality mind out of the gutter, pluto is a frickin' pet dog. I am straight as heck and even I get it: every individual is a person with the potential to be nice or an asshole. no matter what color, sexual orientation or gender they are. and this white cis male confirmed once more that he chose the asshole-side.
@coralovesnature2 жыл бұрын
I really hate all the hate that bi men get (assuming you’re a bi man based on the context, apologies if not). I think bi men are just so wonderful and lovely and I just want to protect them all so they all feel safe and loved.
@thesunfloweronthewayside49262 жыл бұрын
Thank you! And Prawn is gorgeous!!
@haleemorgan80762 жыл бұрын
The kitty is sooo FLOOFY!!
@justadibruh2 жыл бұрын
2:25 ugh yes. this infuriates me so much. there is no wrong way of liking multiple genders. just because one person likes 1 gender more than the other doesnt mean the other has to too.
@innusafar94382 жыл бұрын
Yessss
@RattCath2 жыл бұрын
"We need more dragons and dinosaurs on pride flags" Me in trans woman being meta: "But what about plushy sharks?"
@mantis6382 жыл бұрын
Sounds like someone is a fan of the click.
@adrianblake88762 жыл бұрын
The "original" lesbian pride flag had an axe, but now the only one you see is a red/orange striped one...
@RattCath2 жыл бұрын
@@adrianblake8876 There's a version of the trans flag with the actual symbol but it never was really used... Even with how boring it is I like the Pink and Blue stripes with white in the middle it is now.
@HiBuddyyyyyy2 жыл бұрын
What about a landshark plushy?
@pinkneko132 жыл бұрын
@@HiBuddyyyyyy now this is for sure a fan of the click
@plumadeprimavera2 жыл бұрын
Prawn is one of the most adorable cats I’ve ever seen🥺💗
@naymeequillo Жыл бұрын
I love the way you laugh, it's very contagious.
@crazymomo3052 жыл бұрын
My partner is a detransitioned (for medical reasons) Trans woman who now identifies with omnigender but presents masculine. and im afab nonbinary. We're both pansexual. But we appear very much as a straight couple. We're hoping to go to pride this year together, so I hope we don't get any shit from assumers
@camiladolorestorales92152 жыл бұрын
As a fellow Beyonce in a straight looking relationship I really needed this video, thanks Jammi. Also your cat is the cutest little thing ever.
@AlphaFX-kv4ud2 жыл бұрын
"As a fellow Beyonce" might just be the funniest thing I've read all day
@nanner32002 жыл бұрын
"Find a different career" should also very much apply to politicians!
@Migkamilla2 жыл бұрын
I loved it SO MUCH!!! And I'm bi and non binary (last part I FINALLY realized in December 😀) I love your content. And this one was my favorite 🌺❤
@shotosgrandma59372 жыл бұрын
I had to screenshot the "in theory/in reality" meme. My best friend is bi, but we live in a VERY conservative area. He is afraid to ever approach a man for fear that he may get harmed physically. Its a real concern
@Lilith-Rose2 жыл бұрын
Prawn is adorable, I still can't believe someone returned him for being "too ugly"
@hellyhellhound2 жыл бұрын
he is beautiful kitty
@revolutionary_firebrand2 жыл бұрын
wait, what???? hes the most gorgeous cat ive ever laid eyes on thats so unbelievable... how could you deny the floof on him???
@Sienisota2 жыл бұрын
Clearly the person who returned him had something ugly in their eye! Prawn is adorable ❤
@alex_blue58022 жыл бұрын
It's more that he has kind of a grumpy face.
@rorolilred2 жыл бұрын
WHAT???????
@DanielledeVreede2 жыл бұрын
First of all, love the hoodie Also, we need more bi-ace-allyship. Loved these
@abigailgriffin-wc3fm11 ай бұрын
Oh definitely sending, love!🖤🩶🤍💜
@renthedreamer18142 жыл бұрын
I love the bi dragon flag! I love dragons and the design in general is so cool!
@Awakening_Sunshine2 жыл бұрын
As someone who recently realized I’m bisexual (or at least biromantic), the “in theory I’m bisexual but in practice I’m frightened” meme is so relatable. I’m terrified of flirting with either gender 😳
@callisto5097 Жыл бұрын
I've been through that too, and I'll give you the advice that two of my friends gave to me. One, everyone is a person. You may think the other is beautiful and fantastic and better than you, but in the end they are a person like you with their flaws and quirks, so if you're nervous about flirting with someone just think that they're a person like you. Two, if you're looking for love, try to catch every chance. Flirt with more people at once, try even if you're not sure the other person would reciprocate, just open yourself to the possibility of love or at least mutual attraction. My own advice is: pretend! If you pretend to be confident, you WILL become confident. It works, all of this works, I'm much less shy since I started applying these pieces of advice
@Awakening_Sunshine Жыл бұрын
@@callisto5097 thanks for the advice 💙
@amurphy614972 жыл бұрын
This was so good!! I am bisexual female in a committed 28 year relationship with my husband. I choose a person for sure. I just choose not to tell a lot of people because I have been in such a long relationship. He knows and he loves me for me. I am glad to see it said that it doesn't invalidate my bisexuality. It makes me feel so happy! Thank you for this lovely video I needed it today!
@T.T.M.602 жыл бұрын
I am a bisexual woman married to a man for 33 years…I can relate!💜💕❤️
@makaylareid5172 Жыл бұрын
I love how you would never force us into anything you don't even want us to feel pressure to subscribe it's so sweet and holesome!!!
@alexlewis65482 жыл бұрын
I love that in Brooklyn 9-9 that was the closed caption Rosa's coming out to her family was my favorite episode
@Sol-Kage2 жыл бұрын
Bi-romantic asexual trans girl here! Took me some time to figure out my sexuality though, but I feel that describes me well. When I was in denial of my transness, I leaned more towards girls but now I lean more towards guys, but I’d still be fine with girls.
@pinkneko132 жыл бұрын
How did you figure out if you're bi romantic though? I'm a double demi and I still contemplate whether I'm romantically attracted just to men or I just didn't find any woman to get attached to.
@bunnykatzen2 жыл бұрын
@@pinkneko13 I'm pan-demiromantic ace. I've thought long about my aro spec identity after figuring out my ace-ness and going off of my own personal experiences with relationships, I've determined I'm demi romantic. As of now, I'm pretty sure I'm pan aligned. That's just how I feel. I'm not in a situation where I'm able to openly explore my queer attraction but my personal feelings tell me I am pan based on how I personally feel about gender. Maybe later I'll figure out I'm not pan, maybe omni, or androromantic, or something else. That's perfectly okay. It might be difficult to be open to your understanding of yourself, that it might change and that labels will change along with it. You don't have to know if you're not attracted to women just because you can't find any at the moment to be attracted to. Bisexuality/bi-romantisim is a spectrum and you can be like 1% attracted to women and 99% attracted to everyone else. You can also look into the Bi-cycle about attraction changing amongst us Bi's.
@Sol-Kage2 жыл бұрын
@@pinkneko13 I can experience physical and emotional attraction to both women and men and enjoy physical intimacy, but I have no real interest in sex itself.
@LennyTheHopeless2 жыл бұрын
Omg a romantic asexual! I finally found another one of my kind lol. Our love lives are really the worst 😂
@bingbozo69692 жыл бұрын
Biromantic asexual transmasc here, I have nothing to say I'm just happy I found another ace trans person lol
@spikey33742 жыл бұрын
I'm Welsh and my school has a whole group of students dedicated to making sure that lgbtq people are supported and welcomed but what this meant is that during pride they get out the rainbow flags with a huge dragon on the front its great
@lorifiedler132 жыл бұрын
I want to see that!
@Yooooojin2 жыл бұрын
That's so wholesome
@jason78022 жыл бұрын
I’m bi and so many of these where so relatable lol, also I love your cat
@eviearch2 жыл бұрын
I love watching your videos they are so comforting for some reason:)
@natashagroves27322 жыл бұрын
I'm bisexual and I just came out to my mom last week. My husband has known for years and supports me for who I am. I am coming out after being married for almost a decade because I am finally feeling comfortable enough with my sexuality to share it with friends and family. Growing up in church and being told you will go to hell if you are attracted to the same sex really messes you up and it takes a long time to get those sort of thoughts out of your head to really start accepting yourself for who you are.
@theinsanelogic2 жыл бұрын
Good for you! I'm bisexual and my husband of 20 years is cis, but who you are with doesn't change who you are! Stay strong my darling!
@MsFitz1342 жыл бұрын
Yaaaassss! Same here, came out my husband a few years back after 15 years together. (5 dating, 10 married). Same situation, being raised in a conservative church really stunted my ability to recognize what was going on. The gaydar meme really spoke to me. 😆
@vivianebrodeur66872 жыл бұрын
I came out while in a relationship with my boyfriend too, everyone around me said that coming out was very “unnecessary” to talk about because apparently that makes me disloyal to my boyfriend. I hope you had good experiences with your coming outs because doing it while in a relationship made so much drama, with my straight, AND GAY family..
@natashagroves27322 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the support. I literally started crying. I haven't came out to my whole family yet. I have told my husband, mom, sister, best friend, one of my favorite coworkers, 1 of my nieces, and 1 of my nephews. These have all been good and safe people to come out too. I think I am going to try to come out to my dad and brother this weekend since I will be seeing them in person. It is just so hard to get the words out. Also I worry that some people won't see my bisexuality as being legitimate because I am married to a man. I am sure I am not the only one that feels this way.
@chocolatecurls942 жыл бұрын
Im so proud of you for finally being able to accept yourself fully!❤️
@maryrivard30472 жыл бұрын
So this is a story my friend told me about today. It has the same energy as the professor and student meme. So it was art class and everything was calm when suddenly a kid named Jax just yelled out of nowhere that he wanted to live in Russia because apparently LGBTQ+ people get executed there. I think he thought this was really funny or something. Anyway the art teacher (a very nice and chill women who hasn't raised her voice once even when's she's mad in all the time I've known her) started yelling at him and had to stop herself from swearing at him. He ended up getting detention for the rest of the year. I love that art teacher even more now.
@pynked12 жыл бұрын
Art teacher a real one
@bookaddict18382 жыл бұрын
Yesss I wish my art teacher was as good as yours
@NoOne-xl5ve Жыл бұрын
At first I thought Jax was saying that he wanted to off himself. Nevermind 😳
@alexklein56402 жыл бұрын
I love your Prawn floof, your content and your videos ❤️❤️💖
@alex_blue58022 жыл бұрын
Prawn is getting so big! I remember when you first showed him on camera and he was tiny.
@Dudette2222 жыл бұрын
I only recently found out that I’m bisexual and came out to my friend two weeks ago. To all LGBTQ+ people, thank you for being my family now❤️ I just wanted to share this🏳️🌈
@melima_2 жыл бұрын
Welcome to the family
@juliaharris14312 жыл бұрын
Welcome, and congrats on coming out!
@k1n5h02 жыл бұрын
welcome, welcome :)
@chocolatecurls942 жыл бұрын
Yay, I’m so happy for you, welcome to the family 🏳️🌈
@sleepingroses7612 жыл бұрын
Yay! congratulations, and welcome to the family! 💖💖💖💖
@louiseerbslisbjerg78542 жыл бұрын
And THAT is why I, as a cis-presenting, non-binary pan-sexual, did not find any support or understanding in the LGBTQI+ community. I'd rather take s... from straight cis-folks, than people who complain about the discrimination and prejudise when they in fact are just as judgemental and hatefull.
@missnaomi6132 жыл бұрын
It still boggles my mind, how any of us can be so unaccepting. I happen to be the bisexual mama of (among others) an ace spectrum trans enby. We're all just people, right?!
@VaporRize082 жыл бұрын
@@missnaomi613 people have different needs and motives and boundaries. We're not a monolith, and it's often not personal.
@neoqwerty2 жыл бұрын
@@VaporRize08 It becomes personal when you take the shit dumped on you by your abuser and you force someone else to eat it for you. It's an abusive cycle and it's not fucking okay and not fucking excusable, not anymore than it's okay to bully the autistic kid at school just because you have a shitty home life.
@allyterps92232 жыл бұрын
OH MY GOODNESS Prawn broke my heart with the cuteness 😭😭
@ledkit2 жыл бұрын
I'm bisexual in a het marriage and I always feel like I need to turn in my queer badge.
@scoutlaceharding2 жыл бұрын
"In theory, I'm bisexual, in practice, I'm frightened." Yeah, that's me.
@Mentally_Unstable_Fangirl2 жыл бұрын
I love your content! After I found your videos, I found out I'm ace, and I also understand my nonbinary and demigirl friends
@lightrayy2 жыл бұрын
Congratulations on finding out you're ace , as a ace person here's some cake 🍰🎂
@lokatla82612 жыл бұрын
Ace here to ! Welcome, glad you find out 💜🤍🖤
@em36032 жыл бұрын
Prawn!!!!! Such a pretty kitty!!!! We need more Prawn in future videos!!!!! 😻😻😻
@eveyrothwell90132 жыл бұрын
Thank you, I've been having a rough time with my bi-ness as of late and this made me feel a bit more accepted. Again, thank you
@charlie002 жыл бұрын
love you bro you really helped me realize I was trans when I was younger and now i’m a month and a half on T :) 🏳️⚧️
@theo-tabbyizcatstudios2 жыл бұрын
I remember watching Jamie's videos and thinking "wow trans people are so cool being an ally is so fun!". Then I got on antidepressants and woke up 🤣
@charlie002 жыл бұрын
@@PolkaDotSpot Thanks!
@mrcloud73042 жыл бұрын
So if it wasn't for this person you wouldn't be spending your money on drugs that alter your body permanatly and make you sterile not to mention a plethora of other side effects? That's not a good thing in my opinion
@charlie002 жыл бұрын
@@mrcloud7304 thanks for the amazingly transphobic comment but this was only one of the many things that helped me put into word what I felt inside.
@jerombe3522 жыл бұрын
Congrats! That’s so exciting!
@dezgasting2 жыл бұрын
been rly awkward to identify as bi when im like 96% attracted to men and 4% to women but the 4% is still there so hi im bi
@vanityinfurs2 жыл бұрын
we stan 👌👌👌
@mrcloud73042 жыл бұрын
How did you know that ? How did you mesure it ? 4%, i mean that's vert specific
@grantwilliams25712 жыл бұрын
Just say you're straight/gay. Edit: I almost forgot: j/
@dezgasting2 жыл бұрын
@@mrcloud7304 i mean duh, i pulled these specific numbers out of my ass. i actually identified as gay for a very long time, but later discovered that im just attracted to a specific type of women, which makes me bisexual. since i'm attracted to both, i'm bisexual, regardless of the ratio. yeah, im a bi dude, shit on that if ya want
@vanityinfurs2 жыл бұрын
@@grantwilliams2571 no-one asked your opinion < 3
@bronteknaupp50062 жыл бұрын
this video was soooo validating!!!
@sarahthesarah2850 Жыл бұрын
I want more of this! And Prawn
@kingevit9482 жыл бұрын
Hi Jamie! I’m a teenage transgender demiboy. (FTM, but on the non-binary spectrum) Recently, I’ve been coming out to my friends and family, but it’s really hard to navigate. My family is conservative and it’s been really really hard. I’ve been watching your videos for two years, and they’ve really been helpful! So I want to say thank you! It really means a lot. Also, are there any resources you recommend? Maybe you could make a video on transitioning and your transition? I know a lot of people who could benefit from something like that. Love you! 😘🏳️⚧️
@Lucas-wj8mg2 жыл бұрын
demiboy?
@shroomnoodlez_2 жыл бұрын
@@Lucas-wj8mg non-binary but leaning more towards the side of boy on the spectrum I believe
@Soph_2522 жыл бұрын
@@Lucas-wj8mg it means you partially identify as a boy and partially as something else :)
@Lucas-wj8mg2 жыл бұрын
@@shroomnoodlez_ Oh okay, thank you
@Lucas-wj8mg2 жыл бұрын
@@Soph_252 thx :)
@xotbirdox2 жыл бұрын
The scene with Rosa always makes me cry. Makes me very grateful that I have accepting parents, and sad for all the other bisexual people out there who don't. :( Hang in there. Things will improve. 💖💜💙
@TierosIsBetter Жыл бұрын
Been out for a while to the general public, but I always love the bi memes. Happy pride!
@converseblue41992 жыл бұрын
the ad i watched before the video started, sounded like kermit was singing. it wasnt even muppets related