Indifference is a Wonderful Tool

[@christieharrison560]

You have just given me a lightbulb moment here Dan. So recently I have started to have a few things in my life pop up that have been worrying me and the old TMS Christie would ruminate on them and stress about them. But I just thought... What if I use indifference for everything in my life? Not just the pain/sensations/emotions? For example, I am moving again soon... meh! I'll just be indifferent to it. Solicitor stuff... meh! Be indifferent to it. Worried about having to cancel on a friend... Meh.. be indifferent to it. I think you are right. You can use indifference for anything in our lives. Anything! I'm gonna give it a try and I'll let you know how I go...

[@PainFreeYou]

That's a great question. For some things, not giving a crap (indifference) can be an effective tool to stress less. In other areas of life, indifference is not a good thing. Being indifferent to a partner says "you don't matter" and can cause things to go poorly. Being indifferent to little annoyances that don't mean much can definitely help us stress less.

[@g.siporin4000]

Amen!! Used to be terrified of my emotions. Now I don’t give them acknowledgment, let them pass because another thought/ emotion will pop up. So yes stay present and focus on and absorb blessings ❣️

[@RudolphManor]

Great Video. 💯

[@PainFreeYou]

Thank you.

[@RudolphManor]

@@PainFreeYou You're Welcome Anytime. 💯

[@CheesusSVT]

Great tips on handling anxiety... Everything will be just fine. We are doing our best. ❤Thank you for the message.

[@susanforeman5325]

This all makes so much sense, thanks Dan. Indifference truly is a great tool, even for everyday stresses and conflicts. I don't mean during, but after when we tend to overthink and ruminate over it till the pain rears its ugly head. Head it off at the pass!

[@PainFreeYou]

Yep - nothing wrong with feeling the emotions or whatever, but be okay with feeling however you're feeling. Rumination sucks. :-)

[@Expansion1111]

I think anxiety is another distraction symptom just like the pain. I notice somedays I will have pain then the pain goes away and I have extreme anxiety. I think Sarno mentioned that in his book. Thanks for the video!!

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad you found it helpful. Anxiety is not a new problem to solve. It's just the physical sensation of the stress response. Adrenaline/cortisol in the body.

[@elaineremains]

lol anxiety and pain.... did i ever tell you, Dan, that i'm hypothyroid? now i have anxiety, nutzo anxiety, that actually SITS in my thyroid lol and to boot, hypothyroidism causes joint and muscle pain... so i'm in a bit of a weird spot, but i'm still here taking your advice, because IT HELPS... when i get a certain pain between two certain ribs, it could lay me out fast, and i IMMEDIATELY start talking to my brain, because that is a signal from my brain that i'm doing something it feels is dangerous and unwise, and we talk about it lol my brain just wants to be heard and as God said 'come, let us reason together' also, to be relaxed and indifferent when possible, THAT helps A LOT.... if you watch Bruce Lipton's stuff on the biology of belief, he goes pretty far down the rabbit hole with it, in that we are LITERALLY creating our reality with what we believe... so even tho i'm hypothyroid, i know that there is a 'bigger me' who is running the show, and what that me believes is bigger than any thyroid problem....

[@angiecameron245]

Indifference is what got the pain down for me. I practice it daily with my thoughts are emotions. Thank you Dan!❤❤🙏

[@PainFreeYou]

Fantastic.

[@AdventureNomadforNature]

I laughed so hard at your words and at myself and how simple this could be. I've been waking up with you balanced on my pillow for the past week or so. I'm a success story, but i need reminders. Thank you so much.

[@PainFreeYou]

You are so welcome! Glad I am able to cause some laughter and simplify things for you. :-)

[@Lunnarin13]

What an awesome video!!!! I've been having a lot of anxiety attacks lately ever since I started my TMS work. This video was 10/10 helpful. Thanks for all the hard work Dan

[@PainFreeYou]

Awesome!!

[@dr.amitabhamukherjee3601]

In my experience the key tool to tackle the pain or the anxiety associated with it is distraction -- finding something concrete to engage in (music, dance, reading, movies, meaningful conversation) and shifting your focus -- rather than indifference (which is easier to prescribe than to achieve, especially in the middle of a nasty flare). The problem with indifference is it can be feigned but your subconscious mind is not fooled :)

[@stacymontes8020]

It's a horrible cycle I cant seem to get out of I'm trying to use these tools but I'm stuck. But thank you for your videos I try to use all these tools

[@PainFreeYou]

You can do it!

[@CheesusSVT]

Had helped me much ☺️❤️👍

[@kalosevillinas]

Great video..woke up feeling sad and angry I allow myself to just be..It passes. GREAT teachimg Dan..

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, the emotions always pass when you allow them to be felt. Cool, right?

[@kalosevillinas]

@@PainFreeYou yes its very cool...

[@maatjederegt7434]

Good video Dan, I will try it, you might be right!

[@bethhenderson9154]

Yes...very helpful

[@PainFreeYou]

Glad to hear that

[@ryanclauson]

I am going use this to try and cure my type 1 diabetes. I’m 36, diagnosed when I was 8. Super sensitive. I’m just interested to see the results. I will track closely🖲

[@PainFreeYou]

Type 1 diabetes is not TMS. Do not stop your insulin. See your doctor.

[@ryanclauson]

Ok, first, how do you know diabetes is not related to TMS? You seem to just repeat the same thing every diabetic is told. See your doctor and don’t stop taking insulin. I’m sorry but that’s not enough. Most doctors know very little and telling me to see my doctor does nothing to help me. We must be our own doctors. as I have been researching this for 20 + years. Seems diabetics are either told to eat no carbs or eat carbs but just track every one and take insulin based on that..... But it so clearly appears that diabetes is related to personality, mood, emotions, nothing makes sugars go up more than stress. When I was 8, I was shy, lonely, and both parents worked and were very busy so I did not get a lot of time with my mom. As a child my mom remembers me saying, “sometimes I feel like crying but I know I’m not suppose to.” My point is you talk about how often TMS first appears with a triggering event. What if I was 8, felt unloved, began having symptoms and was told to take insulin for life by doctors. My emotions were never addressed. My mood, feelings, stress level was never addressed. They say now that type 1s still are having an ongoing autoimmune response. It’s not as if we got sick when we were young and now we are dealing with it. It’s that we have a daily stress response happening in the body, and insulin cells are being killed non stop. This seems like nervous system is in high alert. Many type 1s are perfectionists, and are hard on themselves. I saw a report that some people with multiple personality disorder have diseases and health issues disappear when they change personalities, one even had diabetes. So illness maybe related to our personality and what state we are in. All that insulin I inject into myself daily may come from a belief that I don’t make insulin and that I need it forever. This was cemented into my mind at 8. And there are now stories of type 1s healing themselves. I’m assuming it was hard for you to heal until your mind changed about your pain. Why is diabetes different? Just seems there is a cultural bias that says diabetes is forever just like There is one that says pain is forever I do not buy this. I don’t have the answers, but I think you are awesome, love your tone. I’ve been following Sarno for years. There is a missing piece that may help your clients. Adding in a joy practice. Getting into a space of delightfully happy joy and let go of everything. That helps. The mind body is amazing. Diabetes is as much mind body as TMS in my opinion. And possibly. Almost everything is too.

[@jeanhannah9809]

@@ryanclauson Love this comment. You are very wise. I think this way also about my diagnosis of Parkinson's. Nothing is incurable.

[@mb-bestaging]

So gut!

[@pattis25]

Ja, das finde ich auch! 😊

[@sportsinjuries6593]

Hi Sir !!! If its possible I want you to make a video on all current famous TMS practitioners other than you and how their treatment way is different from one another ,,, what are their common points and what are their difference points ,,, practitioners like Dr Schubiner, Dr Clarke, Dr Rushbum, Dr Stracks, Mr Ozanich, Ms Nicole Sachs, Mr Heller etc

[@PainFreeYou]

Honestly - I don't study everyone else's programs so I'm not well equipped to talk about the differences.

[@sportsinjuries6593]

@@PainFreeYou sir just your views on their treatment plan ,,, i am not saying that you conclude anything ,,, i feel you are pretty much experienced to tell how all these people basically treat ,,, as tms sufferers people often feel confused ,, i know all these practitioners have same basic knowledge but what exactly is their way would be helpful for some people ,,,

[@cdracos1]

@E. Apollo don't forget thoughts can also be felt in the body as symptoms.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@sportsinjuries6593 Again, I don't really look at others treatment plans, so I am not equipped to do a comparison. However, I did shoot this video on how to select a TMS Therapist or coaching. kzbin.info/www/bejne/n3fNoWmEptWdprs

[@Rk-wd5rq]

I m just 25 n I m suffering frm knee pain I used tms approach it got ok Again it started paining I feel like mi knees r broken

[@PainFreeYou]

If your knee was broken, how would it have gotten better? Take the pain test to see if it's TMS: DanBuglio.com/paintest If it is, the solution is in this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo

[@cdracos1]

Fine line with indifference and emotions, be careful not to repress again. I'm assuming one should still take time out to feel emotions with a mindset of indifference at the same time ? Also if you find yourself saying whatever and shifting focus all day in response to every negative thought, feeling and symptoms, is this not over doing it ?. I've been using this tactic today to get through a working day with a few short breaks to calm down and it worked ! Got me through the day !. Tonight it seems my subconscious is infuriated about this ! Ouch !. Invited some rage up , shouted at the wall, feel better. 👍

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes, still take time to feel your emotions. What I mean by indifference is to not judge yourself harshly for feeling a certain way. Be okay with the emotion.

[@cdracos1]

@@PainFreeYou So many confuse indifference, many think its aggressively 'I DONT CARE'!!!!. and ignore symptoms, like a bull in a China shop. I thinks its more a conscious ' oh well ' and re focus on now safe surroundings.

[@PainFreeYou]

@@cdracos1 Yeah - acceptance is similar and may convey what I'm trying to get across.

[@teresapineda4540]

Anxiety panic attack consider tms?

[@PainFreeYou]

Yes. The solution is the same. Teaching your brain that you are already well and safe is the answer. This video maps out my suggestions. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aaetmHWkp815qpo