INFJ Unhappiness in Life

INFJ personality types and INFP personality types are two of the MBTI personality types that tend to struggle with unhappiness in life. For INFJ personality types and INFP personality types, this unhappiness usually stems from keeping themselves small. This can show up in the workplace, in family life, or in a friend group. INFJ personality types and INFP personality types usually play small to protect themselves, and to ensure that they don’t trigger insecurity in others. However, this has a long-term detrimental effect on the INFJ or INFP, as they don’t feel like they can ever really be seen, heard, or acknowledged for who they are.
One of the ways in which INFJ personality types and INFP personality types keep themselves small is by holding back on their ideas. INFJ personality types are visionaries, and INFP personality types are intensely creative, so both types generate a lot of innovative big-picture ideas. True innovation and creativity tend to feel threatening to many other personality types, and so it often happens that the INFJ or the INFP who is trying to express themselves is met with resistance, attack, retreat, or withdrawal by the other party.
If the INFJ or INFP holds back on self-expression for too long, and never feels that their ideas are welcomed, or even considered, by other people, this can lead to anxiety and depression. The INFJ or INFP feels like no one really sees them, and no one cares about their insights. In order for psychological health to be restored, the INFJ or INFP must feel like they can step forward in life being fully themselves.
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[@danie7071]

I really thought I was the only one in this world who felt out of place. I have finally found my tribe, and now I know am not alone. Thank you Lauren!

[@trinabrettnell]

Be less normal 😂.....be myself. Embrace our weirdness. It's hard to let go of those people but it is so liberating once we do let go. Creativity helped me a lot....I write all the time, it's amazing

[@sarahkittelson622]

It really is freaky how all of these things apply to me, and all my life. It's shocking!

[@trinabrettnell]

I get the looks like I'm from a different planet. I get eye rolls. And I've been told I am very intimidating.

[@DarrenEminian-YouTube]

Thank you for posting this video. This has helped answer one of my biggest stumbling blocks in my career path: I get labeled a "maverick" with my problem solving ideas/capabilities. I realize that I encompass far more variables especially the effects on fellow workers/clients when working on solutions that go beyond the scope of what the corporation is looking to fix/improve. I guess the classic INFJ big picture/deep dive mindset just doesn't make sense in the business world which isn't there to fix deep rooted issues/challenges for the most part. I get it and understand - but now I feel vindicated and see I need to understand there is a balance to strike in the working world vs how my mind connects everything and sees intricate, large scale solutions. But the big challenge still remains: how to make my skillset much more profitable and finding a fit that satisfies both the financial side & the INFJ side

[@mariannami8049]

OMG, Lauren, every time I open a new episode, you’re always so 100%spot on about my situation. Thank you ❤❤❤

[@vanessaskin]

Couldn't agree more. glad im not crazy for seeing and feeling this. Takes a lot of baby steps and courage to step into our power.

[@mr.goodwrench8273]

This has happened to me at various places I have been employed at. They didn't want me to operate at my fullest potential and they wanted me to be "just smart enough to operate the machine" so to speak. it's too late. I'm already 25 steps ahead of them on that. Instead of being glad they had employed someone who thinks critically, they got mad that I thought of it before they did.

[@lilsubz06]

Looking at causes of issues... very true! Born to make innovative ideas. I will tell myself this.

[@katerinaf4903]

No matter how many times I have taken the Myers Briggs over the years, I’m always an INFJ. Everything you describe fits me to T. I even remember saying as a child, if I could have any superpower, it would be… invisibility.

[@antieau333]

It is always refreshing to hear from another INFJ who truly knows what the INFJ personality type is. I believe that it takes one to know one in this case. Every word of this video is so spot-on it is almost spooky. Thanks for your content. A grateful INFJ subscriber to the channel.

[@katec9893]

I love your videos, you really understand. I have been struggling socially and I think it's because I say things which to me are obvious truths but which make other people uncomfortable. You're so right about how they get uncomfortable with real creativity. A truly creative approach to work would be everyone doing work they enjoy and getting paid well for it with flexible hours ie 3pm-7pm or whatever suits you best (not 9-5) and a 3 day week. At least two months holiday each year and affordable everything including housing. Instead we live in a capitalist dystopia where a few people keep getting richer while everyone else's life quality reduces. Yet if we point this out people get angry and call us lazy. Buckminster Fuller talked about this, I expect he was an INFJ.

[@emmad4152]

Thank you for all your videos 🙏🏻❤

[@cory99998]

I feel so ridiculously seen

[@claudine9662]

Wow! Yes! You just described how I felt in/about all my jobs. And thank you for talking about WHY, and giving suggestions on moving forward.❤

[@mangledtapes]

Thank you. Really needing this right now

[@JeanneMimi]

I really love how you explain things, it rings so true!

[@cynax7757]

That's so true.

[@sarahellis5312]

Thank you so much. xo

[@jojobuchmannart]

This channel has really opened my eyes to a new level that the things I experienced are not my fault but also that they are still affecting me now. Thank you for showing me and encouraging me to change and live the life I deserve.

[@shehad8]

Just what I needed this morning

[@user-gl2fm4xy2l]

This is so great. Thank you :)

[@Bayoubebe]

Thank you so much for this…I needed this advice…”bringing what’s inside out…turning it into me own creative goal.”

[@nirmaladrieskens4338]

Great video♥️♥️♥️

[@BuzzConnection]

Powerful video, thank you!

[@jennathompson7015]

So accurate

[@mariannami8049]

Lauren, god bless you for the work that you do. It helps me so much on my INFJ journey. ❤❤❤

[@light5634]

I agree completely that we have a different idea of out-of-the-box thinking. I've noticed that whenever sensors think they're pushing the limits, they usually make one step forward, but never break the mold, let alone create a new one. One suggestion: whenever you talk about something common to INFJs and INFPs, you may write " INFx Unhappiness", for example.

[@Jona7Fer]

infj in title will get more views, so it makes the most sense. And she is Infj so......

[@stego2012]

I work alone and it is for the best. It is impossible to have a conflict with anybody while being alone.

[@stego2012]

There are too many dishonest, lazy, vulgar, and vengeful people to become stuck with at a company. They will do whatever it takes to sabotage any success for you when they see you are different.

[@light5634]

​@@Jona7FerWhy do you think it will get more views? INFPs also have their struggles and look for solutions. If someone is searching for INFJ-specific or INFP-specific content, I suppose that adding "INFP" in the title would make it easier and Lauren wouldn't have to answer the question multiple times. Unless there is a construction that I'm unaware about, that seems like the optimal way of doing things.

[@light5634]

​@@stego2012I work from home for a small firm and barely have any contact with my colleagues, so that figures it out for now in my case, too. I've been thinking that self-employment is really the best solution in so many ways for a lot of INFJs, INFPs and INTJs.

[@cocobrownmay]

This needs a dubble thums up button😊

[@lesliegann2737]

That's interesting that many INFJ and INFP are born to narcissistic parents. That was the case for me and my brother (INFP/INFJ). I'm curious as to how you reached this conclusion as I've wondered about this myself.

[@trinabrettnell]

Yeah corporate wants creative sheep......not truly creative. Corporate hated me, it was the worst experience of my life. 😢

[@artistocracy]

Withdraw from where I don’t fit. Hmmm, as INFJ that does not leave me much in the way of company. Laura, you may say, “Take a little more time to find a true match for us”, but that is not a solution. It’s a platitude that insults our intelligence. I can do almost anything I put my mind to, am highly creative and have been an artist/ painter over 30 years. Being enthusiastic is my middle name, and am great at research, problem solving, showing what’s possible……But good company? Being understood when I speak? Rarely. No friends nor new friends. I’m an enigma to everyone, and at my age it’s getting boring quite frankly and rather sad. There is no magic fix and no one should be encouraged to go find one! I don’t belong anywhere except to Christ Jesus and when my life ends I know where I’m going 😉📖🙏✝️💟

[@roben9580]

GET TO THE CORE...YOU ARE SO CORRECT!!!

[@ifrahdirie3273]

I’m infj and I have a friend who is infj too we understand each other I can be myself when I’m with her. We love to have deep conversation which I can’t have with other people even my oven family. The bast two years I began to understand my self after I’m feeling different then most people. Nobody understands me and I understand others very easily even before they talk to me I didn’t know why I do that but now I know why I always felt lonely and weird but I love to be alone all day long. Now I’m mom with husband and three boys. 3 of them are extroverts me and my son is introvert. I people have shallow connections with me at the same time I’m having deep connections in my head to survive 😂🤣 is this normal for infj.

[@TheLillybean12]

Interesting video! Wondering what is the solution for this personality type to find fulfillment and expression of those visionary/creative abilities?

[@cinderling5472]

Sometimes..i REALLY hate being me

[@Margeratum]

the truth is unhappiness and happiness is not on their vocabulary. they are driven by their call. If you are still on that phase making pitying yourself because of how people interact with you... then you are not still waken up. You are still a baby trying to grasp what is going on

[@marks340]

Say what u want society instead of that's opposite day shit women do when it comes to dating. Society is just.... I'm over it. Left-hand path over and over