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@elijo77555 жыл бұрын
Hey. I'm 12 Years old. Fully deaf and I use a cochlear implant. It would make my day if you replied since you are my role model. -Eli???? (can't say my full name)
@jessicaoutofthecloset5 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your lovely comment dear Eli🌸
@elijo77555 жыл бұрын
@@jessicaoutofthecloset oh my god. Thank you so much! You are so nice. An actual youtuber who replies to comments? I'm shaken with happiness. Thank you Jessica!
@zacheryturner86945 жыл бұрын
I always enjoy your videos, and they are a great way for me to smile during a frustrating day. Thank you and cats can be scary.
@shalacarter66585 жыл бұрын
argh! Twitter is giving me fits. I think I am following you there.
@brennacourson28175 жыл бұрын
Educational👏Videos👏should👏not👏be👏demonitized👏
@thatdutchguy28825 жыл бұрын
Here, here !
@waychomawie5 жыл бұрын
louder for the youtube execs in the back!!!
@M00s3r5 жыл бұрын
Careful now. Neo nazis make videos and call them educational too. Blanket policy and judgement is not a good idea.
@summer_the_rae5 жыл бұрын
PREACH HEATHER
@hopegold8835 жыл бұрын
Why did KZbin demonitize it??
@graceshimkus3325 жыл бұрын
I’m so sad KZbin demonetizes videos like this because everyone needs to be educated on human decency so thank you for teaching us!
@tundranone83665 жыл бұрын
I've never used these words in casual conversation, but every time I see Jessica the phrase that comes to mind is "exceedingly lovely."
@maggieholland82023 жыл бұрын
She really is
@adoptingjoseph5 жыл бұрын
Maybe you're being demonetized because KZbin is actually run by cats?
@Nyli.5 жыл бұрын
Shhh you can't go around telling our secret like that!!!
@me49015 жыл бұрын
It's a cat-spiracy
@candy0412minima5 жыл бұрын
@@me4901 omg
@AJ-hg4by5 жыл бұрын
Cats aren’t that mean. Humans are far worse than cats.
@RonnaaFoogle5 жыл бұрын
This is kind of reassuring actually. So, I’m totally able-bodied, I have an anxiety disorder and some attachment issues but otherwise I’m pretty boring. I grew up with two disabled parents, one who had a physical disability and one who had a learning disability. I now work with disabled people, mostly those with visual impairments. There are times when I question whether I have the right to speak up about matters affecting them but actually if they can’t do it themselves then of course I should. For example, a lady I support uses a guide dog who people really like to stroke. She obviously can’t see them doing this and they often won’t ask if they can. So, I could keep quiet because maybe it’s not my place but actually, how are those people ever going to learn that that’s not ok? So, I’ll usually speak to the person directly but get the lady involved in explaining why it’s not ok (because clearly she has more knowledge). It ‘s also quite common that people will speak to me rather than her when we’re out and about, in that situation I don’t ever think it’s ok to speak for her so I just let her answer, and gesture to the individual that they should be talking to her. People’s ability and opportunity to speak for them self is really important and nobody should ever take it away.
@bridgetthewench3 жыл бұрын
It forever blows my mind that there are adults who don't know not to pet service dogs. I was taught that as a child, when I wanted to pet a dog in a store and my mom told me why I couldn't.
@RonnaaFoogle3 жыл бұрын
@@bridgetthewench honestly! Like, it even says it on their harness
@caitlinmoon17205 жыл бұрын
Any time I'm thinking of buying a dress, you automatically turn up in a video wearing said dress. Either we both have impeccable taste, or there simply aren't enough vintage repro fashion companies. It's probably both. 🌈😘🙌
@CazAvery5 жыл бұрын
'In it for the long-haul Lesbian' is a glorious phrase. Also cats are awesome, I'm sorry you find them scary.
@SamiBennett5 жыл бұрын
As a sibling of an autistic person who has difficulty communicating, I want to thank you for including my perspective in your video. Great video, I found your points to be so thoughtful and nuanced!
@lizziejacobdennison52685 жыл бұрын
Same! My brother is non-verbal autistic so I also felt validated. She's fabulous. x
@missblacklily5 жыл бұрын
I’m not disabled, but I have learned so much perspective and knowledge from your channel. Thank you.
@timhutchinson84855 жыл бұрын
The variability of disability (heh..) even happens within a single disability. I have Spina Bifida, and my level of physical and mental ability is widely different from the next person with Spina Bifida.
@CeeCeexx5 жыл бұрын
I have spina bifida too! I dont think I've ever met someone else with it!
@iekikam085 жыл бұрын
I am in the United States, with a working disabled husband, and a disabled mother in law. I agree that nobody should be grouped together. Even though they are both disabled and a mother and son, they both have different illnesses and different struggles.
@WhichDoctor15 жыл бұрын
Jessica will be the most ridiculously awesome grandmother ever some day! :D
@journeyofawesome84735 жыл бұрын
A little late but I now understand that reference👵
@miriamgr945 жыл бұрын
very good! I would add 1 more step: Do not accept "this person/ kind of disabled person cannot express themselves" at face value. Have the infinite number of possible modes of communication really been exhausted yet? The sad truth is, especially for people stuck in institutions, the care and attention has not been taken to support the individual in their communication. This can be due to lack of interest, imagination and/or resources.
@ChrisPage685 жыл бұрын
At my special school, I was often asked to help translate what some of my friends with speech difficulties were saying because I took the time to listen to them. This was before speech synthesisers.
@ThisGirlReviews5 жыл бұрын
I think there's a difference between speaking for someone and speaking over someone.
@swimmyswim4175 жыл бұрын
Absolutely. Advocation versus appropriation.
@shushia16585 жыл бұрын
But she was saying if someone without the lived knowledge of a problem is trying to talk about it on the grounds that they fall under the same 'umbrella term' the person or people with lived experience absolutely has the right to speak over them and say 'in this case I am more expert than you, despite your similar diagnosis. '
@jasonbolding34815 жыл бұрын
@@shushia1658 the idea that lived experiences is somehow prefer to experts ignores that buttload of cognitive bias that humans experience and an inability to see outside yourself. One of the problems with self diagnosis too
@cboyd34695 жыл бұрын
Patiently watching a five minute ad with the sound off waiting for Jessica ❤️
@bellisperennis425 жыл бұрын
An other KZbin creater told me, that we just have to watch the first 30 seconds of the advertisment to make it count as watched. Does anybody know if that is right?
@cboyd34695 жыл бұрын
bellisperennis42 my understanding is watching for a certain amount of time works, but watching all the way through gives the most $
@kirstyfitchett79275 жыл бұрын
If you’ve met 1 disabled person, you’ve met 1 disabled person ! And definitely agree with you. I sometimes need my Husband to speak over me at appointments when I’m struggling to articulate myself. This has taken years for him to do this for me but the journey to appointments and preparing questions usually has depleted all my spoons before we even get there.
@naseerahvj5 жыл бұрын
My mother and sister have asked me to go to her appointments and help advocate for her
@starleencooley77735 жыл бұрын
Me to I have my grandma help me she does all the talking for my because I get so anxious and upset and all those things that I can't talk and if they try to make me I get so upset I end up crying sometimes to such a extent I end up with a break down that can last up to 3 hours after and I can't function during the break down and can't function properly after for quite some time
@Br0th3r75 жыл бұрын
Hey, I was wondering, have you ever talked, or would you be ok to talk about internalised ablism? :)
@b2h3165 жыл бұрын
People forget their manners. Talking over anyone is rude
@kathrynsmith3525 жыл бұрын
I don't think she means literally talking over people, I think it's more referring to people who voice their opinion and claim it is more important/relevant/useful than the disabled person's opinion.
@mrbluesky4205 жыл бұрын
I think it's a very interesting & complicated subject, for me as an autistic person, (also disabled in other areas though), if non-autistic people are discussing autistic issues sometimes I would find the opinions of a person who doesn't have an autistic person in their life but believes in autism acceptance more valuable and helpful than those of a parent to an autistic child who spends every day of their life with an autistic person but doesn't accept them. This is especially prominent with autism specifically but the situation can be completely different for different kinds of disabilities. Nuance nuance, etc.
@Grace-E-215 жыл бұрын
THANK YOU
@jasonbolding34815 жыл бұрын
That sounds like you just prefer to hear who agrees with you. Not even all autistics agree with the same term of "autism acceptance". Take the idea of a cure for example
@Sara-uq6km5 жыл бұрын
Would love that "because gay" merch but im not out yet, and it may make some people just a little suspicious...
@silviapintus65625 жыл бұрын
feel you
@zillionalb4625 жыл бұрын
I love your videos. I understand that they are your opinion but honestly as an able-bodied person I'm glad I have access to a plethora of information and also opinions to educate myself. 😊
@morganrogue53055 жыл бұрын
As I watch this, my cat stalks me waiting for me to slip up and leave my food unguarded.
@Hurt_mama5 жыл бұрын
I see this almost like the discussion I had with a fun fellow who was telling me that it was ridiculous that the restaurant we were at had ramps. As somebody who is able but often have a stroller I told him to go shove it
@peggyallen3265 жыл бұрын
I'm visiting my parents in another city right now, and they have a new development next door (supermarket/hotel/bakery/etc) and they had never realised how illogical the ramp placements were! its fantastic that they were there at all, but the ramp entrances were 25m away from the doors, and were hidden by garden beds and architectural elements. Have fun trying to find them i guess...
@LifeLostSoul5 жыл бұрын
I think there is one situation where the "ally" human speaks instead of the said marginalized human when they are present. The best way I can describe it is where the target group human has just become too tired to speak up for themselves and where they feel scared to impose on people so the friend or loved one speaks up for them. Let's the person know that comment wasn't okay or something like that. Because they know it hurt their loved one but their loved one feels like they don't want to be any trouble.
@PreppyHeiress265 жыл бұрын
Im heterosexual, cis gender, abled and yet here i am a heavy subscriber and LOVING the educational videos (well, your whole channel and vibe, really)!!! I use all of your videos as ways to learn about the varying flavors of LGBTQIA+ and varying degrees of disabilities and their tolls on the humans who live with them (and the humans who love them. Snaps to Claudia!) every day. Keep these coming, demonitization is SOME SUCH TOSH!!!!
@novothesia16195 жыл бұрын
You mean LGBT? what's LGBTQIA lmao
@EricaGamet5 жыл бұрын
@@novothesia1619 No, LGBTQIA+ is correct. It's more inclusive: Queer, Intersex, Asexual. Also LGBTQ+ is used widely.
@novothesia16195 жыл бұрын
@@EricaGamet just keep it LGBT. its easier. Keep the original form.
@EricaGamet5 жыл бұрын
@@novothesia1619 Yes, let's just ignore those people that fall under those other terms because it would just be easier. And easier for whom? 🙄
@novothesia16195 жыл бұрын
@@EricaGamet for everyone to actually say. It's easier. :)
@AnnaBowling5 жыл бұрын
Wonderful video. I have been caregiver for three different relatives (for a while, at the same time, and yes, very different needs and experiences with each one) and appreciate the point that caregivers do live the conditions along with their people. Not the same as having the conditions in our own bodies, no, but aspects as "are these stairs worth it, or do we find somewhere else if there is no ramp?" and saying, with complete love (and a medical proxy) "please speak to me, and I will respond as Loved One would , if they were able," to medical professionals, that stuff, we know. As with much else, love and respect go a long, long way.
@alexmuffett5 жыл бұрын
⭐ As always an informative and balanced opinion 💖 Although the ninja cats might disagree 😁
@starswater5 жыл бұрын
All sensible statements, I completely agree with you. I've run into things like that a lot with my having PTSD related to brain surgery. I've had people tell me "You can't get PTSD from brain surgery," and I've had people tell me "Well I had knee surgery and it wasn't a big deal, so you're exaggerating." I've had people on KZbin pretend to be doctors just to say that I was lying, that you can't get amnesia from brain surgery (which I did, I got severe amnesia from it, that argument had me in tears). It's been fun. And I generally don't try to talk for others either. If I know something on another's disability it's from hearing it from them, and if I relay that information I always make sure to clarify that I heard it from someone's who'd experienced it firsthand and I don't try to pretend like one person's experience applies to everything. And I'm sorry your videos are getting demonetized. That does surprise, but after hearing it.... it also kind of doesn't. Political corectness has gone way too far.
@NM-vp4ql5 жыл бұрын
Reading your comment made me very sad. I have a migraine problem we're sorting out (not the same as brain surgery, I realize 100%) and being called a liar at the neurologist BY the neurologist made me down for a few days now. Brains are strange animals and have all kinds of effects on us. I can't imagine the pain and fear you've had with your amnesia and PTSD. I want you to know, as someone else with a defective brain, is that your feelings and experience is valid
@UnCafeConPanda5 жыл бұрын
I love how you pointed out that living with someone with disabilities is still way too different from living with the disability yourself.
@salientia5 жыл бұрын
I appreciate that you did make a point to say that no one should be speaking over those who can't speak for themselves. A common issue is that some people assume that those who can't speak for themselves also can't think for themselves. That leads them to saying their personal opinion rather than using their knowledge in combination with their patients opinion. There's other ways to communicate without verbal communication.
@salientia5 жыл бұрын
However that's usually the case with people who aren't caretakers. Most caretakers seem to understand that their patients are still human beings with thoughts and feelings.
@Alex-ux8cl5 жыл бұрын
I haven't watched the video yet. I'll explain my current view before watching the video. Talking over a disabled person or a member of any marginalised group is just as okay, in my eyes as talking over a non-disabled person or a member of any non-margenaised group. It's quite rude to speak over anyone Edit: After watching the video, what I have to say is as follows: As a cat person, with first hand experience of cat, yes, they are coming for you
@PreppyHeiress265 жыл бұрын
"And yes im using cats to symbolize Lesbians because SOME CLICHES ARE TRUE!!!" I felt that one, Jess! 😂😂😂😭😭😭
@disableddiaries21695 жыл бұрын
KZbin is so dumb for demonetising videos like this. Hope it stays up cause I love it ❤️
@Canemikat5 жыл бұрын
I'm a caregiver for my mother and it really helps to hear you say that caregivers live with the disability and/or illness as well. Obviously not in the same capacity as the disabled and/or ill person but in their own way. Its really hard for me to grasp that but its very very true. And its validating to hear you say it thank you
@TheTechnoTiger5 жыл бұрын
I’ve been really loving that you title your videos as questions. It forces me to ask myself, and if I don’t have a confident answer, I click!
@L_R21065 жыл бұрын
This was a very interesting watch! Thank you for taking the time to make this video. The issue of who gets to speak for disabled people is always a complicated subject, and I think some people tend to see it as too black and white sometimes. It was refreshing to see someone actually clearly explain the nuance of the situation. And as an autistic adult myself, I really appreciate you pointing out that just because some parents have autistic children, doesn't mean they can shut down autistic adults. Thank you, you're always such a delight to see in my subscription feed!
@honey-nl2xr5 жыл бұрын
Her voice has changed from a year or 2, it sounds so much more elegant and confident
@OuchMouse5 жыл бұрын
SO MUCH THIS 💕 I'm so over being told by people with hay fever that all I need to do to fix my cold allergy is just take an antihistamine and put a jumper on. Just because they're also allergic to someone, doesn't mean they can speak over me when I tell them why I can't and won't take my mask off ❄️👏🏻
@LacedWithOreos5 жыл бұрын
Mmhm. It's not a 'one size fits all' situation for sure!
@jadeauburn92205 жыл бұрын
That is so well said! I have encountered too many people that say " well I have depression too but I didn't get a student loan because like a hard working person, I worked and studied at the same time! You are just lazy!" ugh!
@Nyli.5 жыл бұрын
Good thing is that the other day I re watched some of your older videos that had been demonetized at the time, and there were ads. On the other hand I guess they don't pop up in recommended for people that are not already subscribed. Well, keep up with the good work anyway, Jessie, and we, the lovely people, will always be there to watch !!!!
@aaronlee63615 жыл бұрын
I agree. It is very common for people who have depression and anxiety to speak over other people who have depression and/or anxiety
@ava56885 жыл бұрын
you are literally the prettiest girl ive ever seen omg
@gael47875 жыл бұрын
HOW DARE YOU NOT LIKE CATS (also your points were very good, great video) THEY'RE SO FLUFFY
@clarascats13654 жыл бұрын
Totally agreed (but she’s forgiven😂)
@scoutlaceharding5 жыл бұрын
I always come away from these videos unsure of what to say except, "Yes, that, exactly that, yes yes yes." Thanks for phrasing things so eloquently!
@jacksonlee6195 жыл бұрын
I was expecting this to be a 3 second video where you just say no and then the video is over.
@maru3695 жыл бұрын
I'm from Guatemala, I have epilepsy and I'm so happy I found your videos :D they always bring a smile to my face. You are indeed a lovely person :)
@VelvetVolcano5 жыл бұрын
Another fantastic video! 👏👏👏👏 (and dammit KZbin, stop demonetising excellent content!!) Wish I could afford to join the Kellgren-Fozard club, would love to support you and your content further but can't at the moment.. hopefully in the future! Good ol' expensive disability living costs, eh? 😂
@coolcat0205 жыл бұрын
the best grandma
@Sandreline5 жыл бұрын
We need more innovation and accessibility to allow non-speaking disabled folks to communicate for themselves. Because at the end of the day, I'm just never going to trust the parents/caretakers of disabled folks as much as I would an actual disabled person.
@shawnmccarthy142311 ай бұрын
Everyone gets the chance to speak and then everyone gets to decide what weight to give to their testimony. Telling anyone their opinion is invalid is wrong.
@colettelee11625 жыл бұрын
My cats are squishy and sweet, and they send their non-threatening love...
@quintecence5 жыл бұрын
Love this video. I'm glad you brought up the point on who can speak on someone's behalf because that's one of the issue's I'm currently facing with my autistic brother. He can physically look after himself to an extent but doesn't understand things like how money works. The only person who can really speak on his behalf are those with his best interests in mind like the rest of the family and his social worker. We sort of have to speak over/for him but his situation requires it. Your disability and situation are completely different. You know what's in your best interest so having your family speak for you without your permission is rude to say the least.
@TheSuzberry5 жыл бұрын
You are a delight to listen to and watch. You are incredibly resilient and bring optimism to the challenges of life.
@TheSuzberry5 жыл бұрын
And I am a grandparent of teenagers.
@natgl115 жыл бұрын
Yes!!! Also maybe sometimes I'm just too tired of constantly living my illness, maybe I just want a break and don't want to explain yet again what's wrong with me and what my needs are to yet another stranger, so if one of my friends/family wants to swoop in and deal with all that crap, I am more than happy to lay back (heh, POTS humour) and let them do the talking
@hanna-zk9pv5 жыл бұрын
hi! able-bodied person here. also the able-bodied sister of a younger brother who had a severe speech impairment for the first 9-10 years of his life (severe as in i was one of the two only people who completely understood him). i don't talk about it much in my daily life, it just doesn't get brought up much. last year during social studies we were discussing whether disabled people should go to the same schools as able-bodied people and i talked about my brother for the first time during class. none of my classmates or my teacher had ever seen what kind of strain such discussions place upon parents or siblings. so i talked about how hard it had been for my mother to have every person who thought they were allowed to talk about what school my brother went to - whether that be teachers or doctors -, criticize her every choice. i talked about how long my parents discussed whether my brother should go to a secondary school for kids with speech impairments. i talked about how hard it was for me to see that rarely anyone put in any effort to understand my brother. how could they not see what a carefree and happy child he was? no one in my class was disabled. i'm not disabled. i wouldn't even think to talk over disabled people when talking about topics i'm not familiar with. but i am familiar with this topic and i think no one can take talking about it away from me. thanks for the video, you put a lot my feelings into words :)
@ginger_panapple5 жыл бұрын
Something that really intrigues me is thinking about the spectrum of disability in a fictional world where people with superpowers exist, especially because superpowers are greatly varied. It's very interesting to think about.
@AutisticChangeling5 жыл бұрын
I think you made some excellent points here! I would specify that I think it's important that the disabled person in question is /actually/ not able/willing to speak for themselves, since sometimes parents of disabled people will speak for/over their children even though their children are able and willing to communicate effectively. This is mostly an issue I associate with the autistic community though, so I'm not sure how common it is in other disabled circles
@elijo77555 жыл бұрын
*153 VIEWS!!!* I'm so happy I'm early. To just be able to relate to an older deaf person.
@brynnejewell12754 жыл бұрын
I appreciated what you said about the doctor who may have studied for 50 years on something, but they get to "shut it off". I have Tourette Syndrome and have been to several neuros who think they know more about TS than me because they have a few other patients with it and have read a few lines in a book or even a few articles in a medical journal.
@secretaltruism41745 жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing nuance to KZbin. On a very specific point, lots of people have seen Daniel Sloss's Netflix special about his disabled sister. He's a white, straight male who does not have a disability. But he is the best person to talk for his sister who has cerebral palsy because he knew her best, and that's one of the points of his show. People would get offended at him making jokes involving (but never of) his sister but he loves her and knows her, not some random advocate. And she can't speak for herself (I won't say why because it would spoil the show). He also recently did a new show talking about rape, and particularly a recent experience that didn't happen to him but to a close friend. And he got her permission to speak about it, but he was also well positioned to speak to other males about the topic because they would listen and relate to him. He didn't speak over his friend exactly, but he was speaking instead of her with purpose.
@sarahp65125 жыл бұрын
From my experience with cats (aka the 4 I've lived with) they are sweethearts and would only hurt you as a last resort. They are not as scary as they're stereotyped.
@kailynmiller9655 жыл бұрын
Thank you for including your point on healthcare professionals. It was very validating after a very frustrating endo visit today with a doctor who clearly had no understanding of what it is actually like to have type 1 diabetes. I always love watching your lovely videos.
@Palitato5 жыл бұрын
This makes me feel like you had a traumatic experience with a kitty when you were a child, and that makes me sad. I'm sorry you're allergic to them, and that you can't be around them, cause they're lovely soft little snugglemuffins.
@jimmym38565 жыл бұрын
I love your videos! They’re always very educational and positive 😊
@dragonwings365 жыл бұрын
Well put! I definitely try my best not to speak for other people (disabled or otherwise); because my experiences are mine, and I don’t want to shut down what others think (unless it’s incredibly rude and or hurtful obviously). I have both mental and physical health issues, and am pansexual (but very much not in a relationship because I’d rather not deal with more stress). But I ramble. Oh, and I wish you could have met my cat Bastet (if only over video chat). She managed to charm everyone that met her and was such a sweetheart (who the vets and techs would fight over who got to take care of her because of how much love she had to give).
@juliarose38265 жыл бұрын
Jessica's hair looks especially lovely today.
@amyalmond32965 жыл бұрын
Please adopt me as your grandchild Jessica ❤️
@Nursepractitionerd5 жыл бұрын
Jessica is a breath of fresh air. So much awesome in such a lovey package with beautiful accent sprinkles.
@kpwxx5 жыл бұрын
Oh, also, over 2k views so far and I still got an ad!
@Christine_9905 жыл бұрын
Ohh this videos I got sweeties. I love it. (Ps. I love the little add ins at the end like this. It's a fun way to joke about having made it to the end.) Also, on topic, I agree with you. Even my mom& I have the same condition & while we often present the same n feel the same.. That's not always the case & she has spoken on my behalf before. For example when I was in labor with my daughter. I have degenerative disc disease & arthritis in my spine. My hips are a particularly bad pain area for me. As you can imagine when you already have horrendous pain in your hips the forced seperation as a child pushes out is incredibly painful & I asked for additional medication beyond even the normal additional meds. The doctor took my mother outside of the room & asked her basically if that was just labor-pain-speaking or if I truly needed it. So my mom explained my condition & where my issues were.. Essentially speaking for me/over me at the doctors request. Spoiler: As soon as she explained he was quite immediate on "oh goodness, yes of course she can have more pain meds."
@GeeklingNo15 жыл бұрын
How could you hate cats!?! Cats are always loving and sweet! Just kidding I know not all cats are as perfect as mine 😊
@liarot94205 жыл бұрын
9:14 OMG she sounds like my Grandma!
@suzannemenuet9475 жыл бұрын
Ok, I gotta say that you scared me at first. When you said "talk over", I pictured a disabled person and an able-bodied person talking and the able-bodied person starts raising their voice to be heard over the other. As in interrupting just because they could. Glad you cleared it up lol. I agree with your view point here.
@PhoebeFayRuthLouise5 жыл бұрын
Excellent video! I always love when you rant like this! And yeah, that cat stereotype is true! I remember you mentioned your cat issues in a video a few years ago, so I wasn’t shocked this time! (4.6 views and I still had ads!)
@amberrose59195 жыл бұрын
I love your hair so much! And your accent is amazing. I love British people lol
@old-mad-madum5 жыл бұрын
I love your videos, I'm a student nurse so it really helps me. I can't wait to wear your merch uk
@crisnemitz16065 жыл бұрын
I know this is off topic, but I just have to say that your hair is looking extra lovely today! Beautiful Jessica! 😘
@BeccT5 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I get so anxious and shutdown that it is necessary for one of my parents, who are my carers, to speak for me. Mental Illness is hard and I find that people don't understand because I look ok, and yet frequently I can't leave the house either because I'm so anxious or I'm so depressed I can't leave the bed because it's difficult to get my body to co-operate.
@clevi79635 жыл бұрын
Jessica I love your hair in this video!! I have no idea how to create that kind of look but I'm going to try
@clevi79635 жыл бұрын
Also wonderful video, it was awesome to hear your point of view on this
@silverbroom025 жыл бұрын
Hmm I don’t know how much I agree. My parents and I thought we knew a lot about autism because of my autistic brother, but in retrospect, we were SO misguided and ableist in a lot of ways. While it does seem like many autistic self-advocates forget or don’t take into consideration the differences that intellectually disabled autistic people have, I’d still trust them to figure that out and advocate accordingly, and better than any of the non-autistic “autism parents” that I’ve ever met could advocate. Even if we know my brother’s interests and personality better than a stranger, I still think that autistic strangers could understand him and his needs in a much deeper and more meaningful way.
@DieAlteistwiederda5 жыл бұрын
My partner has ADHD and I have a personality disorder and depression, technically we both have mental health issues but I will never fully understand what is going on in his brain and he will never fully understand what my brain is doing. Even two people who have a similar type of disability don't have the same experience. He has vastly different struggles to me. I also have hip problems and I absolutely don't know how even a person with another kind of walking disability or even just a more servere case of my problem might feel like. I can guess purely on the basis of my own experience with it but guessing doesn't always mean I get it right.
@jacobd19845 жыл бұрын
When this popped up on my notifications, I thought it said “Is it ever okay to talk TO a disabled person?” That’s what I get for only half paying attention.
@susannam39235 жыл бұрын
i know that your cat analogy may be potentially misunderstood, so here's my take on it: lesbians aren't all the same BUT the uniting factor (wlw) is. your disability on the other hand will never be exactly the same as someone else's
@kathyroseperez11005 жыл бұрын
I whole heartedly agree with this. As someone with physical and mental health issues I appreciate when I am able to argue for myself, however there have been times when I wished that my sister or fiancé or brother would have spoken up for me because there are times when I need things and simply don’t have the capacity or spoons to speak up myself. Always have discussions with your disabled friends and family to learn when and what they need/want from you.
@barrelracer125 жыл бұрын
Interesting perspective. Thanks for sharing. :)
@lizziejacobdennison52685 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making this, my brother is non-verbal autistic and downs. x
@shalacarter66585 жыл бұрын
Hello, Jessica! The title of this video is very confusing. In America, "talk over" means to interrupt and speak when someone else is speaking. I am disabled and there are many times I need someone to help me. Paperwork!!! Trying to navigate the American welfare system is exhausting. And all of those deadlines. ugh!
@naseerahvj5 жыл бұрын
Lol I noticed that too. I'm american, but also use British English (my grandmother was from england).
@mariewikiwaka38515 жыл бұрын
Disabled people can have bad takes just like nondisabled people. Just because I’m disabled doesn’t mean I’m not a sarcastic, caustic wench.
@chelseyowens77095 жыл бұрын
Always on point.
@argusgoose87585 жыл бұрын
it’s just not okay to talk over people in general
@musicandmoods93225 жыл бұрын
First off, thank you yet again for another informative video
@412music4125 жыл бұрын
i'm also terrified of cats....im glad you can relate! theyre so cute but if i see one irl i just freeze up
@pixie-jaynepickering17795 жыл бұрын
I absolutely LOVE this video! 😍 I can relate SO much! I have ASD, I've been street homeless and have had same sex relationships along with being deaf and having other chronic health issues, if I'm not there when an issue is raised I would rather someone with experience as near to mine as possible (either personally or from a friend or family member) be the one to 'defend' or counter the issues than it be someone who has absolutely NO first-hand experience or has learned from books! 🤔 Does that make sense? 🤞 I'm absolutely terrible at explaining what I mean in text! 😣😣
@theuniquebean5 жыл бұрын
I am the mother of two disabled children and even within the SAME disability there are differences! This video absolutely rings true! I NEVER speak as to what other’s experiences are or may be, and dislike it when others speak as to what I “should or should not be doing” for my children. Fantastic video❤️
@JennaGetsCreative5 жыл бұрын
If for some reason you ever end up at my house, be prepared to face your fear of cats. My girl Camo cuddles everyone so close you tend to end up sitting on her 😅
@oregondrivingadventures75065 жыл бұрын
You put that perfectly hun. Tell Claudia we say hi from the US.
@daisyblossomflowerchild97025 жыл бұрын
As a person with multiple disabilities (I'm an overachiever 😉), I have had able-bodied people speak for me (without my consent), over me (so many interceptions🙄), and past me (uhmm... I'm sitting right here!!!). When I genuinely need assistance, please be assured, I will ask one of you lovely people, for help.
@Kat.Beanie5 жыл бұрын
Yes this!! I have 2 Autistic children and my son is non verbal, so obviously I need to be his representative and my daughters whether selective mutism prevents her from verbal communication, however I will ask actually Autistic people their views on certain subjects.
@user-wq9di8ro7q5 жыл бұрын
Just be their microphones. Amplify their voices and let them be heard. You're doing great
@nerdwithamanicure5 жыл бұрын
Great insights to this discussion. A lot of the times these topics are so nuanced that it is hard to even have a conversation about them. Thanks Jessica for your very kind and considerate thoughts on this! 😊