Is Social Media Destroying Women? Is Instagram And TikTok Melting Our Brains?

[@Iquey]

I think a good question to ask yourself every day is , "am I using social media or is social media using me?"

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Ooooo good one!

[@BuyLessJess]

Deleting FB and IG was the best thing that happened to my mental health. I was always so dissatisfied with my appearance and living space. I was never actually present. Now I’m very content and actually enjoy my experiences instead of wasting them trying to get the perfect photo.

[@LVCoffeeLVer]

I’m so glad I didn’t have social media growing up. Even MySpace wasn’t a thing until my early 20’s. I don’t let my kids have it either for obvious mentioned reasons but SO many of their friends have it already

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

What a life that must have been! 😍

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Also if I have kids no way are they having social media and even if they do I’m supervising 😂

[@BethVonBlack]

I said this to my husband the other day when looking for youtubers to follow - I can't find anyone I like because they're all the same. Every youtuber seems to have this carbon-copy life - get up at 5am in their perfectly WHITE apartment, make the same drinks with the same supplements (enough AG1!!!) slipping into their same workout gear (again, enough gymshark/alphalete etc etc)... I'm so so bored of boring people. The term 'Individuality' really does seem to have been lost in the last few years. All these 20 somethings and their identikit faces, lives and vlogs. I'm probably too old to be their target audience, but even so, I'm glad I'm too much of an individual to be interested in these girls and their bland lives. It is frustrating that there are very few interesting (aka quirky, colourful) characters on youtube - or at least the dreaded algorithm isn't allowing me to find those people if they do exist. I've always marched to the beat of my own drum, so I'm not worried about losing my own identity, it's the strongest part of myself. But I do feel real pity for the generation below me who will grow up with this stuff. It's so harmful.

[@emskit9344]

Totally 👍 agree

[@emmvee4]

Totally! I'm a hairstylist and I literally had a 19 yr old in my chair that when she talked I thought, this is that voice that all these tubers & vloggers sound like! I thought I knew her at first and nope, I realized it's this 'social media femme personality' that I recognized. So disturbing!

[@Julia36D]

Imagine setting/switching your identity off the back of a photo which is literally the back of someone’s head. People need to do more “real stuff” in life and stop living virtually via social media etc. We’ll all be far happier and more fulfilled emotionally and mentally if we back away from these fake lives we see.

[@KatiePowerful]

I think it’s weird how we watch and follow strangers we don’t know online

[@marlenedistancia452]

I feel like you are describing what I felt for a long time. I'm 26 now. For a long period...I would purchase every makeup product recommended by KZbinrs I followed and watched. There was a point where I realized my habit was becoming problematic so I decided to stop watching those videos....focused on something else for about 1 year and went mia on social media. Unfollowed a lot of accounts. Then 1 1/2 later, I decided to go into makeup stores and just buy things I was naturally curious about and shop freely without all the makeup being bombarded at me via videos and omg my experience was so much different. Peaceful. Not overwhelming. I only purchase a few new things and products I ran out of. I finally understood I didn't need to jump on board with all these trends or new products. I know the situation differs from what you explained but it's the closest experience I can share that I can relate to. I do think social media is unhealthy. It's definitely warped our perspectives and lives. 💔 Also, people are always on it too. Everywhere you go. No more conversations at the dinner table etc,...

[@proper.role.model.819]

It's melted our brains in the sense that we've lost every ounce of respect for ourselves just for attention and likes. Literally, its just for money and likes. So insane. Im glad I never got into this and just watched from the sidelines

[@mheuman]

It's not a matter of social media warping our minds as much as it's a form of escapism. It's a fantasyland because creators curate and filter everything. It's pretty to look at , but it's Not real life. I think it feeds into our sense of dissatisfaction with ourselves because we are comparing our lives with these fantasies. It's not healthy, I agree it's important to listen to yourself and take breaks every so often. Thanks for addressing this, you rock!!!!

[@janehex]

Yikes. I've never and never will use TikTok. And every day I'm grateful to be a member of GenX, the last generation to make it to adulthood without the internet. I can't believe the question posed in this video is even a thing.

[@lexiaussi237]

I had TikTok for like, a week, lol. I deleted it because I figured I might’ve gotten addicted… Instagram is more my speed. As far as losing one’s identity, I couldn’t relate, especially since I don’t follow many influencers. I use it for humor, jewelry, and travel inspo, not to get lost in others’ lives. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@leeplsh]

I don’t have tick tock, twitter or instagram and I don’t really understand this video either. Probably for that reason. It is interesting what you bring up. It sounds like people go online and put on this fake image of themselves and other people watch it and want to do the same… it reminds me of lyrics from’Hageum’ by AGUSTD: “slaves to social media”.

[@ChrissyChicory]

Hey Caitlin, Great video! Things have changed so fast! When I was a teenager, the only place I found fashion tips was in Seventeen magazine. When I was a bit older it was Vogue. But, when I looked in the magazines- I knew those were models. I knew I was looking at a photo shoot, not reality. The difficult thing about social media, is that you are watching “the girl next door”, and if she can do it, why can’t I? Right? Your advice on taking a break from social media is spot on. :)

[@Mackkabees]

Ladies, to compare yourself to anyone else is pablum for fools. Each human being’s life is to unique to be compared to another. Women are caught up trying to outdo each other at being each other. It’s not a tear at women, it’s all call to see through the vail of fake/inflated lifestyles on SM. It’s ok to just be you as unpopular as that might be to say. Cheerio girls!

[@santatra6663]

2 years of cutting off instagram was the best decision i ve ever taken in my life. So much time consuming and waisted away… i do still have instagram but it doesn t interest me that much anymore . Such a big detoxifying in my life

[@sams3015]

Great video Caitlin. I always felt a bit unsure of my self because life at 31 isn’t exactly how I envisioned but then I do have opportunities others don’t get (especially around travel). Also as a man, the concept of being fit I feel gets twisted online. I do boxing 2x a week & I walk etc, trying to do weights now (to offset back issues) but there is idea (at least as a man) if you’re not on a crazy diet, avoiding alcohol and lifting weights and have huge arms & pecs that you are unfit or unhealthy. I had to really cut back on a lot of fitness social media for this reason. A big one is “if only I started this ten years ago I’d be (here)”…I get that with career a lot too ….you get that when you see some 19 yo either built like a house or on 6 figure income, it makes you feel like you already failed terribly

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for sharing a man’s perspective! 💕

[@y.preyer]

I’m so glad that you started YOUR genuine life. True to yourself and far away from fake social media life.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou so much for being here ☺️

[@JediBunny]

I’m so glad this is a conversation being had more and more. KZbin has been the only social media I actively and regularly use for the past few years, and I feel so much more alive and truly tuned into my life because of it. On the rare occasion I do login to Instagram, I feel like a consumeristic zombie lol.

[@pfftxoxo1502]

I also only us youtube, it’s so much easier to tailor and you usually only watch something that you genuinely are interested in. TikTok is so random in these short videos we scroll past and it definitely impacted my attention span grately, I could no longer sit thru a 10 min KZbin video.

[@Cassia_kamm]

6:22 I think there is a fantasy self for most people. An image on the internet can really capture that part of your mind that is dissatisfied with yourself. We all indulge in this thinking from time to time. I agree that being online chronically can really inflame that sort of mentality.

[@MargaretQ]

Untethered is a word that comes to mind - my personal style, spiritual life and sense of identity was so tied up in my social media aesthetic for so long. I like you had the I wish I lived in X place as it’s a natural part of “my aesthetic” I’m off socials now and I like a mix of styles - and I don’t try to dress Pilates princess because I do Pilates, or cottagecore because I love florals, etc. as Meredith brooks says “I’m a little bit of everything”

[@taajahsmith913]

I feel like the trends are also scary! Women don’t have to be modest but I’ve seen some women walk around naked. I can’t believe we are walking only fans because of social media. I hope we stay connected to self because it’s honestly degrading and it’s like we are living facades.

[@dr.gama.psychologist]

Interesting take Caitlin. I do think there is a correlation between social media and identity formation. This is especially for younger people who are in the stage of life where they are trying to find their identity (early 20s). The constant suggestions and promises for who they can become if they did this or that can make young people prone to role confusion. U explain this so well in the idea of people wanting to change their identity every season. This is whats called identity moratorium.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for this educated take I’m going to look more into this 👏

[@dolledupbyj]

Loved this video!! I definitely feel like the "that girl" trend is so ridiculous and at the end of the day, you can still be happy without having an affirmations journal, smoothie regime and pilates membership LOL. But I do like pilates...social media is definitely draining and I've been posting way less because I just don't care to always present a perfect image online every day.

[@benjosh6250]

What’s crazy to me is everyone actually calls them influencers…and they still don’t get it So glad I grew up in the 80’s and 90’s

[@dent5423]

100% agree. Social media and some creators make me think I should have a life like them once I get a certain age. Took me a while to reliese I don’t like gardening and I am happy with my jungle it doesn’t need to be perfectly pruned

[@jenmar9428]

I always take social media breaks. My longest break is now. I haven’t been on Facebook since March 2021. I had enough seeing the most idiotic conspiracy theories about the pand3mic and science. I don’t have TikTok. I just created an IG in April to share photos of my South America trip. I only have 5 followers. 😹 I enjoy KZbin more to see hairstyles for my super curly hair, documentaries, science, interior decor music and social issues/politics. Yes, I’m boring. 😂

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

You are certainly not boring and it sounds like you are thriving!

[@jenmar9428]

@@CaitlinPawlowski , awwww… Thank you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Stylehit247]

I think it’s understanding who you are before going on social media and staying true to that. Posting content that’s helpful and not consuming that which makes you question your own self and life. Everything is about discipline it’s not just social media.

[@larissacain8798]

I LOVE your new content. "Nourishing" is really the best word for it. I agree with so much of what you say, which is rather a novel experience these days!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Aww Thankyou so much for being here 💕

[@jazzyjenkins]

Catlin. You always come through. This an amazing video Social Media has definitely changed my identity. I have always been a very multifaceted person however now I feel like I have to be just one person I can only like one thing. I'm really thinking about doing a social media cleanse you are truly inspiring.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou soooo much 💕

[@OneInAMillion31]

Idk but I've met plenty of girls/women who will copy everything anyone else near them do and then they wind up being jealous and resentful of the person they are trying to emulate. My sil who is 6years younger than me does this to everyone in her life. She has no identity and it's truly sad. She only knows what's the internet or family/friends tell her is important. I hope she and others like her figure it out.

[@niononion4363]

Loving this thoughtful content Caitlin! Thank you for sharing ❤

[@bethellingworth7814]

The other thing is that what you see online is not the real part of someone else’s life, it’s only the airbrushed, glamorous desirable part. They don’t show the nitty gritty not so good part. Love your videos! Thanks!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Very true! Thankyou for watching x

[@ItsOnlyWarPaint]

You live in an amazing country, stay there hunni 🇦🇺 🦘

[@CC-kr3mr]

Has anyone ever watched the movie “Ingrid goes west” ? I won’t ruin the movie but it’s funny and also disturbing about a girl who becomes obsessed with another girl on Instagram

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Oooo I’ll look into that one thanks!

[@agnesjuhasz7715]

I think social media can be so dangerous, let me give you an example: for the last two years, I started to get the idea that I need to have a facelift, looking at all the snatched beautiful filter photos (first point!). So I started looking for plastic surgery pictures, searching for a good facial surgeon. I found several who had beautiful- amazing before-afters on Instagram (second point, never believe that what you see is reality!). And when I picked two of my favorites, I searched online for them, and what Ifound was shocking: all had been reported, all had botched surgery pictures, clients were on reddit sharing their horror stories and how they cannot get any help from the doctors , a few almost died after surgery complications. Just a reminder that social media sells what you want to have, not the reality.

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for sharing your story💕

[@fashionwithfatimazahra]

I think wanting to live in a big city is just being in your 20s and then you move on and start hating big city energy😅

[@mansoor3159]

Omg! Caitlin what a perfect timing and me and my sister really love your videos so so much you are my inspiration and I wish you have a beautiful day🤗💝💫

[@heidijay5902]

Caitlin, this is exactly how I’ve been feeling lately. I just put it down to an early mid-life crisis (I’m 43). My personal understanding of a mid-life (or any time of your life) crisis, is the distance between who we are authentically at our core & who we are trying to be gets big enough to make us really uncomfortable &/or empty inside so we either go within (in an attempt to figure it out), or we try & fill the void with more stuff, or we do a complete 180 & go do something we always wanted to, or whatever. I just finished watching a thought provoking video on how easily we follow whatever we perceive the social norm to be, often without really questioning it (& even openly admitting we’re not sure why we’re doing it). After being on my own personal little journey of figuring out who I really am without excess outside influence for a while now & I’ve rediscovered so many things that brought me joy when I was much younger & hadn’t been told what was luxury or high or low value yet. I’m loving all of your new content, always leaving me with something to think about. Baby Flynn’s little appearance was just too adorable. Give him lots of love from this crazy dog lady on the internet.💕

[@kimszt]

This comment really helps me to put things into perspective in my own life. I'm 33 and beginning to stress about the gap between who I am and who I want to be. You've summed up how I'm feeling and offered alternatives of dealing, which gives me a sense of control that I have a choice in where to go from here. Thanks again!

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou so much for sharing your comment, it’s so nice to have someone like you dropping your thoughts on this platform Thankyou for being here ps Flynn says hey 🤭

[@Gigi44_Bookworm]

I cherry pick the new trends and still keep styling clothes in tune with my personal style. I’m with you finding cities overwhelming.

[@sylvieowen3317]

The “noise” in our lives deffins our inner voice and the constant feeds that we read drown out out individual thoughts. The tell tell sign of failing on the balance of using social media is can you sit alone in a room with nothing but your self. Can you reflect on your life and say it was good?

[@keishatekucheva4346]

I think of course its related. You are distracted from your own life and not spending time with yourself, so you end up feeling like a stranger to yourself. At least thats how I felt and feel if i over consume SM. Thanks for sharing you personal insight

[@ItsOnlyWarPaint]

The internet is a heavy burden for the young to carry, its a great invention, but there is a price to pay

[@wherestheparty_]

I think social media really screwed our value system so the issue is much bigger than just an identity crisis. I love that you talk about this topic, it should be discussed further

[@lifeofjeannebromley2606]

I think it is a natural thing (probably compounded by social media and just everyone being informed/aware) that in your 20s you just have no idea what your identity is, you are thrown into the world as you go to uni/work, you look at all your peers and try to fit in, yet you are equally inwardly battling all the built up shit from trauma/conditioning of your childhood and teen years and trying to break those cycles/toxicities from your life to shape the new and (hopefully) improved you and EFF it's maddening and hard. Me too I jumped from one thing to another, until I realized that having too much make up (halcyon 2012 youtube beauty guru days) and too much luxury stuff (more current in my life) that it's not me, at 34 with two children in tow I am reconnecting to my childhood stuff (swimming, writing, connecting to nature, being funny, silly and carefree, etc) and while yes I will enjoy my jewelry, bags and shoes, these things are nice to have, but they don't define me anymore. I think for me the saddest thing about having all these bags I collected over the years, is realizing lots of them are there to fill a void in my heart.

[@mistykuoha-silva7167]

I've definitely had to take breaks from social media, even unfollowing certain people that helped me going into a spiral. But one thing to remember is social media is not real life. I've really come a long way in how I use social media now, I rarely scroll and let the people's posts and stories effect me now. No one has a perfect life, a perfect body, no one is a perfect mom or wife ect so, just gotta follow the accounts that bring you peace.

[@NeuroPOP1]

I have a friend who became an influencer through stand up comedy, but she now talks about everything and anything on IG. She shifted from minimalism to a new outfit every day. When we talk, privately, she uses expressions that I don't understand. She once said I was delulu and I was like.. . excuse me? We are not even native English speakers therefore imagine shoving 'delulu' as a word within a sentence in Italian. Every time I tell her something private it's inspiration for one of her IG 'essays' where she acts all smartypants, teaching you how to live while making savvy jokes. It's been hard, my life continued outside of social media and her life is now so intertwined with it that it doesn't feel real anymore. Every topic is a topic she partakes in: she is a beautiful woman but hey, she's got a disability too (she doesn't). She's making money but hey, artists struggle too. She's has 2000 (figuratively) friends now, most of whom she has never seen, and hundreds of thousands of followers to whom she speaks with zero authority other than 'Hey I'm in your situation as well' (whatever the situation, from chronic illness to skin problems to work issues...). I am saddened and confused by this behaviour of wanting to be everywhere and nowhere at the same time, which I believe is the very core of social media: a place and relationships that do not really exist.

[@scorpio7938]

Great listening my opinion social media is sweet and sour there are quite a bit not all shows perfect this perfect that i aint buying it i dont do instagram facebook etc i watch a few channels u tube that are real box openings i cant great listening and so agree i see how people can lose themselves on social media and have to find themselves again great video

[@mwedzi]

Yeah, I don’t f with instagram, TikTok, or even Facebook. I feel bad for kids and younger adults growing up with this stuff before their self identity is formed. I was a little kid in the 80s and teen in the 90s and we didn’t have this particular challenge. Everything is so fake, so manufactured now.

[@fashionablelena8696]

Social media is only an issue if you don’t know who you are and where you want to be. Most of this comes from life experiences and creating goals for yourself. Realizing also that goals can and will shift and change. Trying to fashion your life from a picture or a reel is not realistic. Being confident in your true self helps as well. I was always different than everyone I grew up with. While everyone else was Tiger Beat, I was reading Vogue and Town & Country. There was a whole big world out there, and I knew that I would never be able to live my best life and thrive in a town of 1200 people. That’s really difficult to do when you’re a teenager. It also takes parents (or any support system) that support your difference.

[@pfftxoxo1502]

7:32 this is exactly what I’m going thru rn, I live in semi rural Australia and stuck in this mindset of hating it

[@pfftxoxo1502]

Wanted to move to London too I think KZbin knew I needed this 😂

[@darcyvalle7779]

I was having serious body dysmorphia. I would feel like shit about myself and just have very low self esteem. Once I got rid of Facebook and Instagram my self image has improved immensely. Don’t need it at all.

[@biancaaustin5859]

Thank you for talking about this! ❤

[@haiji1996]

Looking at social media may be OK to some extent, but in order to really know who you are, it's important to listen to your own heart. Maybe taking long walks on the beach and thinking to yourself may be a better idea than being on the Internet. Also, experiences in real life will teach us who we are. Experiences through meeting people, through your work, through travelling, etc. This doesn't necessarily mean you have to go to big parties and socialize with a bunch of people. I have discovered that many people don't know who they truly are. Even people in their 50's, 60's, and 70's. So it might take a long time, but in the meantime, it may be a good idea to try being independent both mentally and economically. If you are independent, you don't depend on other people and you're not influenced by other people, let alone social media, which would lead to strength and confidence. Maybe finding a job that you can be passionate about can lead you to a good path.

[@lauranoon]

Your 20s are usually about finding yourself. I think these are probably women just really trying to try on different things and see what "fits"

[@kallistoindrani5689]

I have that with the cottagecore thing I see a lot online. As if buying the dresses and socks and shoes will make me go out more and stop and smell the flowers..... It didn't. 😂😂

[@emisha1425]

It’s all so shallow as well. It’s all about looks. With the cow girl example, yea you may be able to buy clothes to look like one but you don’t have the substance, culture, character that a real one has who has grown up in the community. What people are doing is so fake and disingenuous. And I’ll add often times the real deal looks nothing like the artificial copy. Example “the old money aesthetic “

[@mariaso4real]

Yes,we need to turn into our own selves,looking for what's best and right in our own consciousness focus on a calm complete nervous system and ask Christ Yahushua all those deep questions then wait eventually answers will appear magically in a process of thoughtless meditation they will surface so much internally to heal wounds and in healing you block urself from dark forces from attacking, attaching or controlling a down spiral❤many thanks for posting this video! May many miracles be released to you always and forever!😊

[@aquariuslight1907]

Currently on my 6 months break (except for KZbin)

[@ritaanderson819]

Such a good point❤!

[@SimplyMimiNL]

I deleted my Instagram a few days ago because I felt I was turning into someone else and not myself.

[@aliciavelice3806]

I am 51 so what I feel has a lot to do with just age. However i grew up always being the new kid, and instead of being "normal" and trying to fit in I just created worlds in my head, read a lot and hung out with my horse and dogs. I discovered Social media in 2012? maybe 13. And I did find myself slipping into this place, where I was wanting to be like some of the youtubers i watched. But then I was unhappy with my life, my commute sucked my marriage was not great, and i had allowed him to seperate me from my friends. In short when my life was bad, Social media was an influence, now my life is good, I have my horse, and my friends and books and no commute, and I find myself watching KZbin and thinking ahhh maybe I should have a morning routine, umm I do, or maybe I should exercise more, again I do. But I never find myself wanting to buy the makeup or the clothes or the apartment in NY. I do get sucked in by Booktube however, though i am picky in my book buying lol. I think when young it is easier to be influenced, though watching politics in the US and UK maybe it is just being human which makes us easy to influence. I mean world war II happened because a whole country two countrys were influenced so maybe it is just human nature?

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou for sharing your perspective 💕

[@lannievast5094]

Just released the cause of death for the influencer Jackie O 32 years old she was getting a Brazilian butt lift BBL, and had complications and she died the next day. So sad. We need to embrace what we have. My dad always said smart is forever.

[@Mattaea]

Yes it’s driving me crazy. And most of the time the ones giving the advice on how to be THAT girl are people who don’t even know themselves fully. Some of them are still teenagers just talking about how to be happy when they’ve had everything handed to them. It gives me a headache cause I can’t get genuine advice from anywhere on social media it’s all just spoiled girls who’ve only gone through a breakup in life or people talking about how to be someone that they aren’t even are, they’re just in hopes to be them SOMEDAY so they put the mask on for social media for a second but in reality their parents paved their path and they don’t have any actual advice to give to people

[@Mattaea]

Maybe I am the better right now and I’m being influenced to think I’m not doing enough and I have to be that girl to be enough

[@keemiel4005]

You look and sound so much healthier now. Congrats 🎊

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Yes! Thank you! Xx

[@IlkikurinenHarakka]

I think this crosses the phenomenon of 'imaginary self'. A person or identity you aspire to be and try to achieve by usually buying new stuff. I've had a fair share of imaginary selves. One of the retroactively funniest being 'gothic mermaid' where I bought a shiny tight pencil skirt with scale pattern, that I never wore. Even though I like the 'gothic mermaid' aesthetic, it's obviously not my style at all... 😀

[@drc4168]

Im a 1982 kid. Glo worms, my little ponies, a barbie. Never ever bothered with social media, certainly not Instagram, where women exploit their loved ones (even pets) for likes and attention.

[@aquariuslight1907]

There’s definitely a correlation

[@kaylheecarroll3186]

Interesting perspective

[@Mike_Cosentino]

Yes it is but largely they don’t care one bit

[@DavidKuhn-q1i]

Yes, it is. It's obvious, quit comparing yourself to others. Don't you realize that it's NOT free. YOU are the product that they're selling.

[@Cantetinza17]

I don't think so because women were still this way in ages of magazines and centerfolds. actually even before then. It just seems more massive now because the internet is world wide. Everything is quicker. Women being self conscious and having low self-esteem has stood the test of time. We're always lacking self identity. We just have to get comfortable without imperfections and not having the need to be the IT Girl or a Dime. Being inspired to maybe dress better or step up who you are is fine, but when you change everything that is you to gain the attention of others that's a problem IMO.

[@CC-kr3mr]

I loved this video btw ❤

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

Thankyou! X

[@liliamchang5680]

Great video

[@jamespittman]

Great video.🤩

[@fionnmcnessa]

The answer is yes my friends daughter had a massive meltdown salmming doors and screaming cause she coukdnt get her hair right for instagram. Most women here in ireland have their lips done are full of botox .ost men her have walked away from dating

[@lolipena8051]

i wanted to be the girl, that is always put together. great outfits, nails and hair done. i couldnt keep up. specially the nails. i had to let it go. there are days that yes i will be put together and days i look like trash lol. idk how people find the time or have it. maybe one day. but now, i will continue with what i can.

[@LostSoulSearching]

Just me... Why is every pic of women I see of them arching their backs in an effort to make their rears appear higher and bigger? Why angle the photos to make the rear bigger than the hips or ever their heads? Nobody walks around with their backs arched and stomachs sticking out - its a lie. I say all of that to say this - gaslighting people into believing the exaggeration or untruthfulness of their bodies should be accepted as truth is a psychological manipulation that we are taught is a good thing. Like it's a good thing to live in the real world embracing fantasies that actually make us look foolish, immature and under-developed mentally/emotionally. It's also exhausting for people on the outside being demanded to support and embrace fantasies they know are not real. It screws with people's heads. Which leads to emotional abuse that comes from the person with the fantasy towards the realist.

[@noirdes19]

Girl nooo stay away I love the beach you are in paradise ❤

[@JustTweakin]

Tik tok got females trying to be “that white girl from soho” like be yourself its really sad.

[@yossefworetaw2243]

After you passed 35 year old women you get less attention from the opposite sex diminishes dramatically and most women get depression because of it social media is the reason why most women will suffer in the long term

[@Whoareyoupeople900]

Put down social media and go find a hobby. There's sooo many things you could try. Painting, reading, crocheting, hiking, video games, Legos and so many more!

[@juggernautvixx]

Sure, blame social media 🤣.

[@giedrebey5444]

Ah i am glad that i grew up without social media, but we still were influenced by movies. I believe two movies , determined , me coming to US. It was of course Dynasty and then sunset beach. Now i think its good and bad. Now all world is on social media, good and bad, its up to you, to choose what to consume, its like food. Stores are full of not healthy food, but there is a choice, of healthy too. Its up for you to decide… its good, because the control/ brainwashing that was done before, because you could know what is going on only by media. So now even main media is controlled, but ppl have choice to hear alternative media. Of course if you are teenager, and your parents arent in stealing in you understanding between real and fake world, values, self esteem, leadership, not following feeling, then, its tough, because the guidance, young person can be very confused. Also its so much judgement, that for you, its hard to be yourself, and stick to your beliefs. Its way too much everything connected, and that of course puts too much pressure, on the young person. But on a good note, when ppl were forced to stay home, and their world slowed down, so many started thinking, learning, it was a lot awakening. And because if that, we were able to unite more, and understand who is our true enemy. And all over the world, ppl are realizing, that they can make a change, can stand against the Tirony and draconian methods, they realized that they not alone. It helped create worldwide revolution, and the truth can come out. Actually just watched that one of your country senator’s is pressing charges against bureaucrats, who caused children deaths, because of mandatory vac… here in US one of those were already recalled. No you will not hear that on controlled media, but alternative media here and also i love to watch Australian one 😜, told the truth, which can be checked on fdic website, and because of alternative media, cnn admitted. They might twisted it, as they always do, i dont watch them.. but fact is, because of social media, we are getting leaked truth… So it comes to parents, they need to be involved more in child’s life, to protect him, Have a blessed day🙏💗

[@buntun3670]

notice how often you had to apologize for your choice of words......we have created a world where we can't even express ourselves without wondering who will take offense. Ask yourself this, is that the real you then?

[@CaitlinPawlowski]

I am the first to admit I am scared to share my opinion on certain topics because I know it’s unpopular and the mob is horrendous Anyone who has experienced online bullying knows this feeling Thanks for watching xx

[@BrandonPoirierBlair]

Exhibit A: It's cool that you're waking up to the fact that instagram is everything but real life but you look exactly like what every other white girl is trying to look like (refer to that lack of self-identity you're talking about). It's hilariously sad that you gasp at the idea of not being on instagram for 6 months, truly sad that people associate their self-worth to a glorified blog.

[@MissYoMaMa]

Perfect and sexy women didn’t use to be in our livingroom all day, everyday. Today they are and they makes us insecure. Did we use to always see all the hottest girls on the beach, non stop, everyday? No. Did we always see the hottest sexy girls at clubs, in bikinis or body con dresses, at every event? No. Did we use to see all these perfectly curated healthy girls at the gym all day everyday? No. Is everyone irl always in their best life stage like the women on social media? No. No,no, no, girls at the beach are of all body types, sizes, and ages. Girls at the gym are again of all sizes and ages. IRL they aren’t alway living their best life and wearing their most flattering clothes. We are now, all day, everyday comparing ourselves to hot sexy stripper like girls, super muscular healthy bodies in perfect settings and with perfect clothes, hair and makeup. We see women slaying life as girl bosses, in extravagant lifestyles everyday. But irl, like maybe we know 3-4 girls like this. I’m mostly living my best life now, and my best life now is irl, not in my tablet. 🫶