Is waiting until marriage realistic?

[@itsbeeminet]

I just turned 22 and still a v. I haven't even had my first kiss and I am not ashamed of this. I have been watching Tony's videos since I was a freshman in high school. I am so thankful to have gotten the game at a young age, and saved myself from so much heartbreak that I see my friends endure. When you want different in life, you gotta move different. I know that choosing to abstain, I lose nothing and gain so much. Thank you Tony!

[@jenniferthompson5146]

🙏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@boineelobats9143]

Yess girl and keep it that way dont allow any boy to come into your life trick you to sleep with him iam about to be 26 and iam still a v there was a gu that tried to deceive me but he failed and I just left .ive seen the women close to me turn bitter and hurting because of what men had done to them so I wont make the mistake they made. Boundaries protect you from bad guys and it takes maturity and self control to enforce boundaries. Dont let anyone make you feel bad for choosing to abstain.

[@itsbeeminet]

@@boineelobats9143 amennn!!

[@Iamaaliyahdesarae]

So proud of you ladies 💖💖 im not a v. But i met this great guy. We recently started dating and he flew down to see me today for the weekend... I will see him today after work...Im trying my best not to do it. But our chemistry and bond is 🔥💥 Never done anything yet 🙏🏽 I think if i can get through this weekend no s3x. God has answered my 3rd conformation if he is the one. We both new from day 1 we wanted to date to marry.

[@aishawf]

👍🏿🙌🏿👍🏿

[@DD-mg2se]

The more partners that walk away without sharing my body, the closer my husband gets to me. I've always seen it as a blessing when they leave..like thanks bro, your lost. Be blessed.

[@ashleybeverly7328]

Ohh, I love that mindset!! Man, I love that sis! 🌻

[@DD-mg2se]

@@ashleybeverly7328 thanks sis

[@FutureAttyInTheMaking]

Agree! 🙏🏼

[@anthonynosike]

Amen, keep going

[@beckyjade8931]

I agree also the relationship will be stronger and filled with true love

[@ak-47intelligence75]

I am still a v at 29. Many men just want to hit it and quit it but I want to stick to obeying God. So I will wait till marriage.

[@strawberrycheesecake7912]

Same

[@stephaniemensah1858]

Me too sis 32 years old and still waiting. God will see us through 🙏🏽🙌🏽

[@aishawf]

I respect you sis 👏🏿🙌🏿👏🏿

[@Meredithlovification]

I’m 29 and a virgin too! Proud of ya! ❤️✨👍🏻

[@kilimanjaro5537]

Proud of all of you 👏🏾👏🏾.

[@Msshachoo]

I became celibate and even though it’s hard, it weeds out the wrong people with bad intentions for you. You start to see their true selves and motives

[@Kenken91156]

It definitely removes the wrong ppl.

[@PeaceBeStill-]

Amen sis 🙏🏾

[@stargoldqueen5894]

For sure.

[@breannasharisse2008]

So true!!!! Weeds a lot of ppl out which is great!

[@Adefunke16]

Yes Sis , I was really liking this guy , he "tried" me I turned him down now haven't heard from him in 2 days.. Imagine how low I would have felt if we had sex and he stopped talking to me. I thank God that even though I was tested he gave me a way out.

[@arthipodder2165]

Men will only wait only if WE as WOMEN make them. Y’all are giving it up to grown dogs after the 2nd date at McDonald’s … of course men ain’t gonna wait!

[@shutit4024]

They will probably get it from men then lol jk but I agree with you

[@tiffanylane0]

👏🏾

[@LadyAngela678]

True

[@ieshjust16]

That part. 💯 As long as they can get it with zero commitment or no emotional attachment (which some women brag about) they will not wait...

[@Dman03_]

Not true for everyone lol, I am literally waiting for marriage myself and don’t plan on having sex outside of it. Both sides need to make that decision for themselves

[@GabyDee7]

I absolutely believe that the man for you will "wait until marriage". It is the plan of God and it's based on how He wired us and His desire to protect us from all the consequences of having sex outside of marriage. God will bless those who honor Him with obedience.

[@Followmybliss777]

Yes, the price of getting a woman mind body heart and soul is the mans protection love and commitment. 💖

[@FutureAttyInTheMaking]

Agree! 🙏🏼

[@brendabeautiful3096]

I agree...100%

[@ashleyspurling5701]

I used to believe this...until I got married and found out when I tried to finally have sex that I have vaginismus from abstaining for so long. No matter how much I want sex, I can't physically have intercourse.

[@violet7752]

@@ashleyspurling5701 if you don’t mind me asking how long did you wait? I’m 44 and still waiting for marriage.

[@talk2alex]

I think its so inspiring when I hear people are waiting for marriage. Even if theyre not virgins 👏

[@brittanyfyi]

I know men who have said they will wait. The sad thing is they’ve never had to because it’s so easily attainable in today’s society which is sad & disappointing honestly.

[@Timwinful]

SO TRUE! The reality is:- You go on a first date with someone and he's already got at least three numbers in his phone of women who he can casually sleep with if he wanted to. A guy once told me, within NO TIME he gets his leg over. 😳🙄

[@ashleycbla]

Yeah it’s crazy. But at least you know he wasn’t your husband because those men words don’t match with their actions. Even though society is doing one thing the man for you will have the discipline to follow his own path to be a better man for his wife.

[@brittanyfyi]

@@ashleycbla i agree! Lucky for me i don’t have a problem in this area. All i can do is continue to pray, & be a good leader in this screwed up generation ❤️

[@ieshjust16]

It's easy attainable because of us women.. We can't put it all on men

[@brittanyfyi]

@@ieshjust16 maybe you should read what i wrote again dear.

[@merinajalaya740]

I was a virgin until I was 23, my plan was to give it to my husband. We wound up giving in to our desires a few months before we got married. I do regret not waiting until marriage but I am happy that my husband is the only man I've ever been with.

[@wshelby83]

I get what you mean but I’m so glad it worked out for you!!! I’m 22 now but I’m hoping I find someone soon after I finish nursing school

[@rae7269]

Sometimes men leave their fiance after having sex before the marriage.

[@dannylovell7876]

​@@rae7269 sometimes women leave their husband after waiting until marriage. People do all sorts of shit. What a brain dead comment lol

[@sirfarro5871]

My wife was told that a man like me do not exist, because she was asked, what are you looking for in a man. They laughed at her and told her that I do not exist. She said, the only reason they got her to even answer that question is because they would act like me and after a day or two, she could see that they were just acting. After we were married, everyone of those boys would run up to me and say WHAT UP BRO, HOW HAVE YOU BEEN!?Did you ever find that dream women of yours, laughing, I told you that you should have knocked those girls back out who was chasing you in school, but I am glad you passed them on to all your boys. Too bad, you still waiting for that miss right. You will have to lower those standards of you bro, because she don’t exist. Than I would go open my passenger door of my tented BMW and take the queens hand to help her out and their eyes would get wide and they shut complete up. My wife you look at them with an evil smirk and call them by name. So how have you been. They would ask us how did we find ear other? My Queen would ask them, why did you tell me he did not exist? You clearly knew him because you acted like him for a day to get me to even have a conversation with you. Their answer was always the same, pure truth, “I was trying to get you to lower your standards.” Than they would look back at me and see my mean look and, literally, run. My wife and I got so used to that reaction, we would have fun joking about, they should have been on the track team. Please do not lower your standards for anyone. It is not worth it. The look on the face of those who tried to get you to lower your standards is priceless.

[@ishaw9894]

Amen

[@Blahblah44433]

You can honestly tell what a mans true intentions are when you abstain

[@ButterCookie1984]

Very true!! I have learned to slow myself down in that area, and you see things mor clearly. Sex clouds the brain and privides distractions.

[@lisae3357]

🙌🏽🙌🏽

[@bribri4275]

I was 18 when I naively decided to ditch my virginity for the sake of fitting in. From there it took me having 3 partners in 3 years before I noticed the pattern/path I was setting and began to abstain. But still, it was only a talk from Tony that got me the courage to commit until marriage. Today I’m over 6 years strong and renewed by this reminder that I too can be worthy of God’s best!

[@kilimanjaro5537]

Amen

[@rae7269]

Me too!!!

[@staciethegreat2917]

I feel like I’ve had enough meaningless sex in my life to know that I can wait until marriage now. Sex ain’t allatttt lol. And I rather know that the man I’m giving my body to actually deserves it & that man will be the man God sent to me & he’s going to be my husband. Thanks big brother TG 💜. You spoke nothing but the truth ‼️.

[@Longliverey]

7 years abstinent this month. When I was approaching 7 years I started to get discouraged in how long it’s been and just praying the Lord would be gracious to me to not let me see 10 years 😂 but I began to switch my mind and focus not on the amount of time it’s been but rather on all the things Jesus has spared me from (STD’s, soul ties etc.) Stay the course everyone because it’s possible

[@Longliverey]

@@earthreign thank you sis ! Im very outgoing and have no problem getting out and letting myself be seen looking my best. Honestly my standards/preferences are not out of this world and at my age of 27 I find myself a lot more relaxed with them then I used to be. The biggest issue I feel is that 90% of men that pursue me come off as having Christian values, but in the end don’t want to abstain from sex before marriage and cross my physical boundaries. I definitely rather be alone then settle for someone who causes me to sin, and doesn’t honor my body before Christ for fear of being the lonely cat lady. Like Tony said those men just aren’t for me so I’ll continue to wait 😌

[@patwilson1257]

Some people don’t want real relationships anymore, they just want some sex, from somebody different after a period of time. Not many people wants to get to know you and have to get to know them. They just want some sex, and whatever else they can get out of you, to use you. BUT, like Tony said, there are women AND men that WILL wait for a person with standards. Because there are a precious FEW of those.

[@dublingirl1691]

So true.

[@Jerseygirl515]

True

[@irlandaise5631]

I feel it is true that is why I stay single, I have had men approaching me and not being interested in getting to know me and dismissive if you try to talk about something and then change to themselves ..and then mention the S word or S content ..either right away or after few months..but you cant get to know them really and they dont want to get to know you..I keep them as friends only...

[@ieshjust16]

Hit the nail on the hammer 🔨

[@deborahtchester686]

Needed this Tony. As a 29-year-old virgin, this was really encouraging. Thank you. I have faith that I will get God's best. My prayer now is to remain PURE (NO watching porn, masturbating, kissing on the first date lol , singing on no microphone & letting nobody eat each cobla ) hahahaha - AMEN ! Staying the course.

[@Faith.Fashion.Food.]

Amen sis, we got this! Staying the course

[@moriahdiggs612]

Cobla?

[@ashleyspurling5701]

I believed I'd get God's best too if I abstained and didn't even touch myself as well. Only to finally get married and found out I had vaginismus and can't physically have intercourse from waiting so long.

[@ashleybeverly7328]

As someone who has been abstinent for 8 months and dedicated my abstinence until marriage, it is possible. God and Jesus are what keep me motivated, and when I feel weak and I feel unloved, knowing that our purity honors God keeps me motivated. For anyone who feels that they are overlooked and unloved because no one will wait for marriage- I am here to say they are not for you. 🤙🏾

[@ashleybeverly7328]

@@yow2363 Yesss!!! Leave immediately!!! Flee immorality, just like Apostle Paul said! We can NOT entertain it not even a little!

[@Florenge777]

8 months without sex is nothing....🤣 compared to 12 years....

[@Gwaycee]

@@Florenge777 It's not a competition about numbers. It's about trusting God a day at a time until the time accumulates with each day to 8 months, 12 years and beyond depending on God's plan for your life.

[@Florenge777]

@@Gwaycee I know but some girls are showing off because they are maybe thinking that they did an exploit whereas there is still some girls who are waiting more than them with no sex. It is like Fantasia, no sex for just one month before marriage ! 🤔 and you are proud ! It does not mean you clean your soul body and spirit ! It is a lack of wisdom and humbleness according to me.

[@anthonynosike]

Amen, keep going

[@nickdiso7031]

25 and waiting with my girl 💪🏼

[@d_vee1843]

“If you wanna test drive then ya nasty, ya nasty.”🤣 Tony this is all facts but man are you funny!🤣🤣

[@breannasharisse2008]

This is great! I thought I was weird bc since my ex left I decided to save myself. Soon as a guy says or mentions something sexual and I call it out and they get mad it automatically block & delete! I refuse to compromise my standards and I know God will honor that. Thank you for your messages

[@kilimanjaro5537]

Yes, it is an automatic turn off when the first conversation a guy has with you involves sex. Automatic deletion of number.

[@breannasharisse2008]

@@kilimanjaro5537 yes I completely agree. It’s become so normal for some men they think it’s acceptable and it’s not. Very immature and disrespectful

[@Dr.Elaine1]

“Okay! Somebody won’t wait on you, they not the one for ya!” TG

[@FutureAttyInTheMaking]

Agree! 🙏🏼

[@terrim8572]

33 still a virgin. I decided to save myself for marriage. This culture made me think my mindset was a failure. Here I’m thinking something was wrong with me and no one wanted me 😔. I was getting ready to cave into the world standards. I was getting ready to become sexually active. Thank you so much for this word. Thanks for this video.

[@Nitra813]

Stay strong sis. You are a gift to any man that you choose. Wait for your husband. ❤

[@carolynlockett8756]

I have 2 daughters. One is 31 and the other is 33. They are both virgins. Nothing is wrong or has ever been wrong with you.

[@TheBritfashionista]

34 year old virgin,here.Its not easy,but I know its all God's plan.I am currently dating a man right now who respects my decision.He is a sweetheart.But there are times I do want to jump his bones.But I just pray about those sexual feelings and thoughts.

[@ange2122]

​@TheBritfashionista it's spiritual warfare

[@danzdow88]

I had to experience heart break to finally listen to God and follow his will for my life. Trying God's way getting better results .

[@DesCoop]

I had to come back to this video to remind myself . A guy literally just went off on me saying I’m disrespectful for not putting in my dating profile that I’m abstinent…. Says what all men say “no man will wait, if they wait they’ll cheat” ect I have to stay grounded and prayerful

[@jespera8103]

To not think your husband would wait for you till marriage is low self-esteem

[@Tia__minu]

It’s hard especially if you’ve already had sex and you have men who say things like “well you’re already tainted. Why would I wait if this man didn’t have to “

[@JesusIsMyEverything-John1633]

@@Tia__minu I hate that type of mentality. A man like that feels entitled to your body because of your past. No need to engage with someone like that ❤️

[@RocSkater09]

AMEN! I'm encouraged brother! Thank you Tony Gaskins! God Bless You!

[@NiqsOboOgie]

Amen! 🙌🏾

[@Melissa.Universally]

That's right!!!

[@dace3783]

I wish would’ve continued to save myself..I waited up until the age of 25 and lost my virginity last year amid the stress of the pandemic and just being tempted by today’s standards and lifestyles promoted in the media. The person I lost it to and I aren’t even together anymore and for the longest I’ve beat myself up about it.. now it’s been almost a year of celibacy for me and although it is hard, I know I’m making the right decision.

[@hizpoohbear]

I'm sometime looked at like my children and have 2 heads or 3 eyes, (son will be 30 in Oct. and daughter 27 who are still virgins). I have been practicing abstinence since my divorce 4 years ago. My daughter wears her "Purity ring" with so much pride and I'm so very excited to see the day she she meets the man God has for her, when she surrenders that ring for her wedding ring and there's a story (or meaning) to the purity ring.

[@roshandawilliams3689]

Im a 30 year old virgin waiting for marriage ♥🙏🤞 my man has been talking more about us getting married

[@lavonnmonique5382]

I needed to hear this message. I'm 27 and have a son. I've come to realize that you should not just be sleeping with any and everybody who wants to sleep with you and that really I should be married enjoying that special moment with my husband and not just a boyfriend. I met a guy who came to do work on my home and he started talking to me after that and he invited me to spend time with him and he tried me and I refused to do anything with him, and he pretty much ignored me after that. I felt played but shortly after realized he wasn't the one for me and that maybe God was protecting me if he was that quick to try to sleep with me within a short amount of time of knowing each other. I heard Tony voice telling me to gone bout my business and don't feel bad about the situation anymore.

[@1_creative_queen652]

Many people will try to make you feel a certain way because you are not a virgin and now you are choosing to wait. The right one will wait so continue to love yourself and GOD❤❤🙌🏽

[@asahiasmith]

I’ve heard plenty of men even promiscuous men say that they’ve been with women that if she wanted to wait he would do it. Ladies we help set the tone too!

[@venda1008]

I have no intention of giving it up 2 years plus and I'm happy , helps u see clearly,sex clouds a woman's already emotional mind

[@V18-u9u]

Love this message. Especially the part about raising your children to stay pure in this day and age. Lord Jesus Christ bless you and your family Tony

[@rubysfastfitness8740]

I know coming across your channel was not a coincidence. I’m a born again Christian and I feel so happy to hear your valuable messages. Thank you for sharing your truth with us. God bless you🙏

[@kristinbrittanysmith535]

I needed this refresher course on waiting until marriage! Sending up daily prayers for those that want to be the 1% waiting until marriage! The struggle is real, but the reward for overcoming the struggle is also real! Thanks TG!

[@ashleyspurling5701]

I struggled and made it to marriage. But there was no "reward" for it. Only pain, misery, sadness, and depression.

[@maribelrt9489]

Information always existed. But sex Ed taught us about STD's and early pregnancy. Preachers talked about fornication and adultery " Don't do it" but why was not explained. Society had/has no respect for the covenant of marriage. Definitely, hard to have any questions about sex in the past 70's-90's. Thank you Tony for making it REAL for this day and age! Be blessed 🙌 Save yourself being faithful to God and Yourself!

[@Adefunke16]

I needed this so much , it's hard but must remember we have to flee from sin , wages of sin never fail.

[@ms.mtruth6169]

“Listen, ya nasty” 😂😂😂love it

[@valeriel7544]

When you said ‘’”Well it was nice knowing you’ and you gonna cry in the car, cry in the car, cry in ya pillow and go about your business” it’s real 😭 it’s worth it but so hard. It ain’t easy being a 1% ‘er especially with kids cause they feel like you should be - desperate baby mother. Like Sir I have kids and values !

[@sylviasalcedo8569]

Screaming with BLOCK!! That's right Tony!😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@DW-tt8si]

Thank You! Very encouraging coming from someone in their 30s waiting until marriage.

[@itstimefortea4582]

I agree with Tony points. I also notice that you have to be careful when telling men you want to “wait” because some men will use it against you in the worst way. This is why he tells us to allow a man to court you and attract the person that’s really met for you!

[@sha2408]

Tony speaks nothing BUT the truth so help me God! When you turn these men down when they try you, their true colors show every time! It shows you their true intentions, and just like he says, “you’re going to cry in the car” but in time you’ll see it was the best thing you could’ve done. Those men were not the men for us.

[@chowbay-la4248]

There was a time I abstained for 4 years. Basically 2 years twice. Slipped up one time in between the 4 years. And sadlly, I started back being active. And I can whole heartedly say that being abstinent was a much much better life. I was healed and able to focus on God, my purpose and my children. I could barley talk to my friends cause I could no longer relate to their issues. But the moment I was back active, I was drawn back in to toxins. I am now on my 3rd round and I feel great already. I was just telling my daughter how my experiences just prove that all our God wants to do is protect us. The things that He forbids is to protect our hearts. Cause like His Word says, we must protect it cause out of it flows the issues of life. So, yes I know Tony's word is bond.

[@TheTrademarkGuru]

It happens sis. Dont beat yourself up because God still has His best for you!

[@Mariamk1995]

I feel so fortunate to have stumbled across your videos just yesterday for the first time and I’ve lost track of how many I’ve already listened to. I typically feel so alone and crazy for waiting until marriage. I just turned 27 and although I am not exactly pure by God’s standards, I am technically still a virgin, if you know what I mean. Ppl do not understand why or how I’ve held out this long. and I’ve been dumped and ghosted more times than I can remember because I just can never bring myself to go all the way. Sometimes I desperately wish that I didn’t have this conviction and feel like I would be much happier and have a partner right now if I could just “get it over with.” Even tho I’ve been far from God for a couple years now after kind of losing my faith in Him, this conviction has never left me. Not to sound vain or anything but men approach me left and right & whenever I tell them I’m not having sex with them, they either try to convince me that they will take it or they just completely leave and drop me. Who I am inside, my personality, my morals, and even my looks are just not enough to keep them interested in me. And that has hurt me deeply and has caused me to constantly question if waiting is actually the right thing to do. Feeling like I will never get to have sex cause feels like I’ll never meet someone who wants me and who will wait till marriage. pretty much the only thing keeping me from staying a virgin is that I know that if I just give it some random attractive guy now, I will feel horrible after the deed is done. I know I need to wait and give it to the one man who will commit to a forever with me and will never leave me. At this point I keep my head down, & headphones on at the gym (so I’m less likely to be approached), cause 99.9% of guys that hit on me just see me as a piece of meat, and I can’t really take it anymore. It is very hard to be celibate, but I’m going to keep trying to believe that it is worth it and keep holding out. Sorry that was long, but just had to express that I appreciate your videos so much and will keep them on repeat.

[@Nitra813]

There is definitely an awakening that happens after giving yourself to a man. This is a biblical “knowing” That’s why In Song of Solomon 8:4 We are told to not awaken love before it’s is the right time. Conviction, guilt, shame and or deceit will follow having sex outside of the covenant of marriage. I had to learn this the hard way. Save yourself the heartache because once you open that (sex) door, nothing will be good enough, you’ll have a stronger desire for more. Let God keep you while you’re still a virgin. Wait for your husband. It’s gift for you and him.

[@Tia__minu]

I’m also glad she touched on how hurtful your personality, charm and good looks not being enough to keep someone interested is. It feels like a rejection of my essence. And like I’ve been lowered to just that thing I have. Sometimes it makes me question myself and my own worth and it sucks. It also makes dating and male attention kind of a burden as well. Especially after failure after failure

[@jespera8103]

i have been abstinent for over a year and a half from watching your videos Tony, and let me tell you. It gives you superpowers. Your discernment goes through the roof! Grown boy repellant and grown man attracter! (sometimes in the same person).

[@ashwlove321]

I needed this. I’m starting to like a really great guy and so far he’s communicating as you suggested and that has been real hard finding that consistency. Now it’s this issue of liking someone more - and feeling those feelings . I know prayer has been my bf and I kno if I continue to feed my spirit w what my goals are I’ll be ok . Thanks

[@lcwisdom1]

Thank you Tony I really need to hear that I'm a 68 year old woman (I just turned that age yesterday) that really keeps yourself up I have a lot of man coming at me even at my age but when they find out that I am waiting until Marriage they back off so I've been very discouraged wondering if I meet anybody so this was so encouraging thank you in God-bless.🥰🙏🏽

[@dn-cp6sh]

In his video how to make a man fall in love Tony said if a man's in love with your mind you could be terrible in the bedroom and it won't matter. I always found it hard to believe that every woman who is married is swinging from the chandeliers for her husband. Now I know that's not true and the reason why. I agree with everything he said here. Thanks Tony.

[@anthonynosike]

Sexual compatibility takes time to grow and develope.

[@marleyhill34]

I was married before and the best sex I ever had was in my marriage. And there was absolutely no chandelier swinging in our marriage. That's because most of sex is in the mind unless there is a biological problem. No one ever tells virgins this. I wasn't a virgin when I married because my mind was/is unwell. If I had less mental defects, I would have stayed a virgin. I have Borderline/Emotionally Unstable Personality disorder. As I get older, I am put off from the more physical aspects of intimacy. If a man doesn't understand my mind, I want nothing to do with him.

[@emmyslim1164]

I’m 24 and still a Virgin This is encouraging. Thank you.

[@scentpreux8481]

Tony, you saved my life with this one. I’m waiting and it hurts but I’m trying to stay the course. I want to give up but I came across this video and I believe that God made me watch this. You’ll never know what this video did for me. You were right on time!!! 🙏🏾

[@tdb4God]

Stay the course! Fast, pray, and read the Word, it will build you up so that the flesh temptations will not overcome you.

[@Adefunke16]

@@tdb4God Amen

[@keishonwilson4796]

Hi Tony I’ve been abstinent for 2yrs now,I’ve been watching you for about 2yrs as well,and you speak straight facts so I decided to reframe from sex until marriage.I’m 44 but I’m jus waiting my turn and if not then I guess it wasn’t meant to be.Thx for ur inspirational videos I do love them.

[@nonsocialfam1933]

I loved this video and it made me feel so much better about myself. As a 23 year old muslim waiting until marriage, I truly believe that it is the right path. However, sometimes I feel like I'm the only one on this journey and it becomes difficult from time to time but watching this helps remind me why I made this decision.

[@je39981]

It's easy by the help of Jesus and the Holy Spirit. I can never give myself all the credit because I know the flesh can be weak. On the other hand, it's not an easy task because as much as I love God I do have my desires but I'am willing to be still and have patience. If I made it this far in my journey then I must say that God is good because chileeeee. lol.

[@cindeed4422]

God is a sustainer. He will sustain you. It’s easy to do. Waiting on him. He told me too serve him first and foremost. And that’s what I’m doing. And I have peace of mind.

[@anitaeast9201]

@@cindeed4422 AMEN!!!! ❤️

[@Queen._sam_]

I just have to comment again! You don’t understand how much I appreciate this message ❤️🙏🏾 I’m so happy and thankful that you posted this video. God bless you ❤️🙏🏾 and your family ❤️🙏🏾 this is amazing. I love this !

[@Dr.K.Harris]

This was phenomenal....especially the end....I'm reminded that "comparison is a calling killer." Walk in your own purpose and watch how God will move on your behalf! 🙌🏾

[@jmacann580]

This is pure wisdom and so so timely for me. I have my V card and 42 but the struggle is REAL!! I avoid dating coz the temptation factor. It feels like I can never meet a like minded man who is the same as me and someone I'm into. You're right though, the alternative is horrible and will lead to worse pain than loneliness and sinning against knowledge. Satan has been tempting me through someone lately, Christian people please pray for me!!! Thanks Tony🙏🙏

[@jenniferthompson5146]

YESSS! I have been saved from so much pain and risk as a virgin, and yes it is definitely a realistic goal.

[@Kellietu]

I’ve chosen to save myself for marriage, not for my spouse or any man but for obedience to God. God has sent me a great man and even if this man leaves…I’ll stay obedient because I know better will come. God is always good!

[@cindyhuggins-hb9px]

me too sis! God always has a plan for us as long as our faith is restored in him 🙏🏽 I've been with my partner for a year now and were both waiting for marriage by the grace of God it all goes well, he's amazing too! how long have you two been together?

[@stephanie1611]

Tony, thank you for your respect towards women and uplifting us. I get so many negative comments from people because I’m waiting til marriage. It can be discouraging some days. Thanks!! Tony

[@azizabydesign]

Thanks for sharing/making this video. It's very encouraging and reassuring to be reminded that I am doing the right thing for myself. I've been celibate 10 years this past August. I've been tempted but stayed the course. The great thing about being celibate is just what you said, I don't have to worry about diseases, soul ties, unplanned pregnancies. So for that I am thankful. I am believing God that I will meet a likeminded Godly mate. Stay encouraged ladies! So glad to have stayed the course!

[@londymhocho421]

Reporting live🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂that it gets better 🤣🤣😂😂like fine wine... Thank you!! I've been celibate for 5 years now going to 6 in few months from now... And your videos give me the strength to endure, it ain't easy but God is been protecting me... Even from Men who ain't good for me...

[@ARareGEM2890]

Truth in love is worth the wait for me. 💌

[@officialwatchamber]

Present for Class ✍🏼🔥 I know Tony bout to drop these jewels!

[@terrim8572]

Through God using you, I’m saved 🙌🏾. My initial thoughts of obeying God are renewed. Continue to let God use you.

[@ericajohnson2149]

I love this message. I could have saved myself a lot of stress had this message been available when I was younger. I can however, allow this message to be a blessing to me now and I can use this message as a guide to help my two girls and three boys. Thank you Tony! This message will have a positive generational impact on my family. I can teach them more than what I was taught about sex; which was to just not have sex. This message explains why it’s important to do things the right way/ God’s way.

[@sharlitawilson6503]

Tony, thank you for your transparency. You told the truth and gave us what we needed to hear. I am so glad that you are here to keep it real with us. God bless you and keep you going strong.

[@miraclenaddior]

Heck yes it’s easy especially after you’ve had your heartbroken. I’m totally against sex before marriage

[@nareacecox5538]

"It's gonna come on time when it want destroy you" ... You have a lot of wisdom young brotha... May the Good Lord continue to bless you & your family!!

[@Jade-yu8mh]

I’m a teenage girl going into college and I’m scared because everyone is doing it and I don’t and sometimes girls make me afraid to wait because “you’ll never know how it is with someone else” or “what if you’re bad at it” and I just don’t want to disappoint God, myself, my parents, of my future husband. Please pray for me!

[@lizs1572]

God bless you . You are worth the wait

[@jovialjae]

Stay strong. It is hard, but you can do it. As Tony mentioned, a lot of people don't talk about what happens with carefree, no strings attached sex.....unwanted pregnancies and/or STDs (condoms don't protect against herpes), & tying your soul to a person that doesn't have your best interest at heart, & only want to take advantage of you and your resources. Waiting eliminates a lot of unnecessary heartbreak & disappointments.

[@kilimanjaro5537]

I’m also starting college in a couple of weeks, small world. But I will definitely keep you in my prayers 🙏🏾.

[@heyyashleyyy2669]

Aren’t college classes remote now?

[@aspiring...]

I can assure you, everyone is not doing it. You will meet people who share the same beliefs.

[@Dimples3434]

“It’s the Wisdom for me “Thank You Tony 💐

[@Adefunke16]

Iv'e literally watched this 3 times , need it to sink in , one other thing Tony mentioned . I need to do is eliminate secular R&B all they talk about is sex and toxic relationships . Christian R&B or Rap is lit !

[@mercybadoe3086]

It is realistic. But it’s not easy by any means

[@TheRealBlackPanda]

It's pretty easy, if you thinknabout it a lot then yes the temptation is there but sex isn't everything. I was celibate first by circumstance but now my choice for over 3 years. I'm not saying I've never considered it, but it doesn't run my life and sex isn't really that much anyway if it's not with the man or woman that is meant for you.

[@ky184]

This message was so good and so on time!! I’m 5 years abstinent! This message really helps! No lie, It gets kind of hard when you look around and see others getting married or in nice relationships who are not waiting. I’ve had so many talks with God about the topic. And basically it’s just what Uncle Tony is saying, God will bless you, in his time! We can’t jump ahead or get weary on the journey! We just have to continue to wait and know that our waiting is not in vain! Praying for all of you who are in your waiting season! 🙏🏾❤️

[@earthangel6116]

I’ve actually been hearing some young men say they are abstinent and I’ve heard some men in their 40s say they are abstinent… so I think if that’s really what you believe and want for yourself, it can be real if it’s real to you.

[@ShiaGirl18]

When I watched Paternity Court on KZbin, it made me see a lot of young women and men having children before they were ready. I felt sad because they got into something they weren't ready for, and it could have been their environment or the individuals they surrounded themself with contributed to the decisions they made. Each time I hear the stores I often say to myself, "This is why Tony keeps saying stay off your back. Close yo' legs."

[@tulip4169]

Tony you know you preached on this! I feel the anointing on this video. Thank you for letting God use you. Blessings and blessings to you and Sheri! 🙌🏽 I am in my early 30’s and I’m a virgin. I’m waiting until marriage and lately I have been a little discouraged feeling like “What’s the use?” Feeling like no man will want me or wait for me. I know it’s the devil lying to me and trying to deceive me. Thank you for your righteous example! ❤️

[@tulip4169]

@@earthreign I think Pastors can share wisdom and advice, but ultimately it's the Holy Spirit living in us that leads us to the right mate.

[@Waridi23]

@@tulip4169 thank you for this! I feel many Christians have substituted the work of the Holy Spirit with their pastors who are human. They're work is to guide and advise but the one who will lead us and work on us personally is the Holy Spirit

[@jespera8103]

If you notice young men get the message of how to choose a wife based on how SHE sees respecting her body. Women who respect their bodies are more valuable! upgrade the music you listen to the shows you watch the books you read the ppl you hang around. SAVE your body!

[@allthingsdelightful8565]

Its refreshing to see a black married man endorsing waiting til marriage. You don't see a lot of that these days.I can honestly say with the times I choose to have premarital sex I regretted it. Clearly my conscience activating. At some point you just have to resolve yourself you are going to follow Gods instructions and stopped bumping your head into the wall. I am 45 about to turn 46 and men look at me like I am crazy like why are you abstinent. I care less about what others think of my stance but more importantly value what God feels about me because that is more important to me.

[@phyllisdennie4746]

Thank you so so much Mr. Gaskins for this video. ❤

[@christineporter9914]

God bless you Bro Tony on this message is waiting until marriage realistic . Teach it 👏🏿👏🏿 on point. Boy, this is so good tonight. 🤗

[@shereewhite4828]

Oooh Tony Gaskins you done preached today!!!🙌👏🙌👏 Everything you said is so on point! You're funny but still come with the knowledge & truth! God bless you for educating us on SOUM...."SAVING OURSELVES UNTIL MARRIAGE!"

[@melissacalderon1515]

Wow this is extremely powerful! I’m definitely waiting myself to marriage and it’s not easy because not everybody walks in that path but I want my life to be testimony for Gods glory and I choose to wait to find a men that wants to pursue purity and saving there self till marriage and I love myself too much to lower my standards give away something cheap 🙏🏼

[@DayaTom]

Born again virgin here, almost 3 years and counting. I'm determined to wait and have made peace with the possibility it might never happen for me, but may GOD's will be done in my life. The worldly way doesn't work. Thank you Tony, you helped bringing me back to God in the winter of 2019. You're definitely saving souls and lives.

[@SL-xf5re]

Same here, keep it up!

[@perspectivelysingle2573]

This video blessed me so much, to keep holding on and pressing forward with what I know is right to do.

[@aneshrathomas]

Queens you are worth waiting for 👸🏾🤞🏾 if he’s not willing to wait then that’s God’s protection.. he not for you

[@Melissa.Universally]

Exactly! There is no compromising the truth!!! Let’s keep it thorough

[@latanyar9377]

Great Point when you said ' It takes time to drop all your guards'. So true because people expect you to have everything perfect right away and move around too quick when it's not that way.

[@brittanimarie]

Thank you for this! I had to subscribe because mannnnn if I could go back in time I would. I appreciate you ! I am in school working towards my Master's degree. Just got out of an abusive relationship. I decided to focus on me and my life has been flourishing ever since. Thank you for preaching the truth.

[@valinemoraa593]

"...It's going to come when it won't destroy you...", such a powerful statement.

[@saradigota7201]

Intimacy is more than the body. Its the combination of mind body and soul

[@Queen._sam_]

Thank you 🙏🏾 so much for this message ❤️ I’m waiting and I’m so happy that I am. Let’s go 🥳 this is what the black community needs! Marriages ❤️🙏🏾 waiting until marriage!

[@parispatterson6478]

Dope video. I agree it is important to have people on your side who are on the same wave as you.

[@foreversweetqueen286]

I really need to hear this, something just draw me into watching this episode today. I felt like I was doing wrong by keeping myself and save them myself and waiting for marriage because what was around me and felt like something was wrong with me that I wasn’t giving myself to just anyone. And hearing this today just made it even more 10 times clear that I’m on the right path and I need to stick to the right path and if those wanna leave because they just want that one thing for me. I’ll take that as a blessing because at the end of the day I’m dodging that bullet. I felt like I was at outcast because I lost my V card to someone. Thank God I didn’t experience those things of catching anything or being pregnant, but having to deal with a soul tie. When we broke up it was hard but I did the work to heal and being where I am today. Learning from that I know now , I know I’m doing right by wanted to save myself to marriage and I’m going stick by that. Thank you so much Tony for the inspiring message that you sent fort. I’ve been watching you for almost about a year now and you definitely helped me along the way while I was dealing with my break up,so thank you for all your words / messages keep doing what you doing. 💯🙌🏾🙏🏾

[@emaf.]

I love love this video!!! Thank you Tony for giving me so much hope . Much appreciated!!! ❤️🙏🏽 Been abstinent for four years now and waiting until marriage 🙏🏽

[@ulricka2131]

This Tony bro is 100%.. So transparent. I never get tired of listening to him🔥🔥

[@kishoflife]

Omg!! How did I miss this. I am so waiting until marriage. I am a reborn VIRGIN..ITS EMPOWERING, I encourage this behavior, it is learned and takes time to be genuine about not fornicating. Tony , you are on point.

[@yourfutureisnow6480]

My insecurity is actually BELEIVING a man will wait for me but at the same time sneaking sleeping with other women.

[@PJ-fl3do]

Mines too

[@angelb2412]

What is not God ordained will NOT last💖

[@yourfutureisnow6480]

@@angelb2412 Thank you for that reminder 🙏🏼 💗 this is the second reminder today I've gotten about God being the center of it and thats in his timing not mine.

[@angelb2412]

@@yourfutureisnow6480 Yes ma’am. There is no obstacle or undesirable circumstance to the mind of God. What God has for you it is for you!! 💖

[@beckyjade8931]

I fully believe when we do what God wants we experience Heaven on Earth praises to the Most high God 👑 forever and ever worthy of praise and worship