My least favorite tactic by far is the circle argument. It gets so frustrating when you are trying so hard to voice your concerns and 5 mins later you realize you are having a completely different conversation. I was mad when I found out later that this was intentional.
@AyukaXD2 ай бұрын
Having manipulative and narcissistic traits is very common. It's okay. I landed into a situationship with a guy who turned out to be a manipulator, my friends tried to open my eyes up but they couldn't. He was avoidant too. He triggered my anxious side and I couldn't trust him. He sometimes made me feel guilty or judged me or had words to make me feel unworthy. But these were sometimes very subtle I just felt worse and worse with him but i could not cut out the guy I tried to leave him by some manipulative tactics, i am not proud of this. He never loved me or wanted to date me seriously but he used me, he everytime came back when we split up. In my pain I gave him ultimatums a few time, I never expected I can get something with ultimatums, i just wanted to make him admit he can't do this and that. So i can leave him finally. Sometimes shit happens, but it is not okay to manipulate others when it will surely hurt the other person.
@sofiakiwi19972 ай бұрын
Hi, @AyukaXD! 😊 Thank you for the comment and for sharing your experience. You are right that a lot of people have narcissistic and manipulative traits but it becomes a problem when those qualities are dominating. Also I want to point out that manipulative and narcissistic people are experts at being subtle. That’s usually how they start out and it’s the reason for why it’s easy to get deep into a relationship with them. This person you are talking about probably came back because you were his energetic supply. Manipulators, abusers and narcissists have a tendency to try and reunite with their victim. Unfortunately it’s tempting to give them a second chance in hopes that they have indeed changed or that things will be as great as they were in the beginning of the relationship. You are totally right that it’s not okay to manipulate others and it’s great that you have realized who this guy was. You unmasked him. Bravo! 🎉 I know that memories about this situationship and the very fact that it happened to you can sting but I sincerely hope that you have cut all ties with this person. It’s for your own good. Anything he said or did was not your fault. It was HIM not you. Sending you a big hug 💕
@zackfairthepuppy2 ай бұрын
Thanks so much for sharing your wisdom on this topic. Also love the top! Where from?
@sofiakiwi19972 ай бұрын
Thank you for the compliment! 🌞
@yuqiwang92072 ай бұрын
wish I could find this a few weeks ago, I would be so much better talking my boyfriend out of the situation with the manipulator Ex!! She is such a classic manupilator!! Luckily he managed to walk away for now, but I'm pretty sure she would come back at some time. I will pull the transcript and use it word by word 😂
@sofiakiwi19972 ай бұрын
Thank you for the comment! 😊 I am happy to hear that you find this video helpful. Regarding the ex, she most likely will return as manipulators love playing their games so remember that your boyfriend should stand strong. Take care ☀️🌺
@papercoolcat2 ай бұрын
2:35 An extreme example?? I heard this almost every day for 6 months before I woke up and ended it. Thank you for this video, it has been a rough couple weeks because I was in deep enough that they've made me feel as if it is wrong for me to walk away. This video has helped solidify my thoughts, feelings, and decision.
@sofiakiwi19972 ай бұрын
@papercoolcat Thank you for your comment! ☺ I am happy to hear you found my video helpful. First of all, I want to applaud you for ending it with this person!! 🎉It's so easy to blame yourself after being in a toxic relationship. Manipulators are experts at guilt tripping and putting the blame on you for their actions. Anything that person said or did to you is NOT your fault. I sincerely hope you will feel better soon and most importantly don’t leave any ‘’window’’ open. Block, delete, mute. Throw them out of your life completely and don’t doubt that you made the right decision.❣ Sending you my virtual hugs 🌺
@papercoolcat2 ай бұрын
@@sofiakiwi1997 You are too kind. Thank you
@tariqdandoune96962 ай бұрын
Amazing 👏✅
@sofiakiwi19972 ай бұрын
@@tariqdandoune9696 Thank you! 🌞
@noorsajee73762 ай бұрын
Keep moving
@sofiakiwi19972 ай бұрын
Will do! 🌞
@Settlepetal2 ай бұрын
Everyone is a manipulator, it’s normal
@sofiakiwi19972 ай бұрын
@@Settlepetal Thank you for the commoent! A lot of people can be manipulative but to different degrees. It's good to be aware of the behaviours of manipulators 🌞