It Ends With Us (2024) - I Want A Divorce Scene | Movieclips

[@MissJen-78]

I’d never ask for divorce while my abusive husband is holding my newborn

[@jasmineprince]

That’s a really good point lol 😂

[@ToniEagle-nt8kl]

Facts

[@sarahally2821]

💯

[@goldfinch9761]

😂

[@lindaprivito4354]

Exactly

[@DawnKellyMedia]

I feel like this is unrealistic. Abusive men dont just say "ok" and leave her alone. If a woman threatens to leave an abusive man, he becomes more violent. There's no way he would just accept this. It's lazy writing.

[@sam905]

Yeah..I totally agree...And Like she's going to just bring this up while he's holding their brand new baby too...Thats not how it usually goes

[@web-headsassemble9415]

@@sam905well remember Blake had a lot of changes made to the movie and Justin (ryle) the director didn’t know until much later, so maybe this was part of it

[@tianthee]

The thing with abusers though is they are often completely unpredictable. I do agree that in a real dv relationship, this scene would never happen, especially in a room alone.

[@anapiermont6957]

And WHAT battered woman tells him she wants a divorce while he is holding the newborn!? Totally unrealistic. Not even if the child is in the same building do you tell him that!!!

[@bekkar25]

this is how it happened in the book so blame the author

[@sarahj30]

You don’t ask for a divorce when your abuser is holding your newborn. And he sure as hell doesn’t just say “ok”. This is so unrealistic.

[@_Risa1992_]

She let her abusive husband holding the baby while talking about divorce? Hell no...

[@laurendaley2503]

Shee probably thought it would not give him a reason to get physical.

[@mikekillagreen9432]

​@@laurendaley2503 True

[@jacquannawilson]

I would not have trusted him to hold that baby

[@E-user-n9s]

Have a nice journey in life without men weirdo 😂

[@KarenThomson-yg6tw]

well I hate to break it to you but its a movie....... so up not real

[@BeatrizCosta-zd4wk]

That is not real!!! You can ask ANYONE who has been with abusive men, they will tell you this: the momento he was the most dangerous is when i wanted to leave him. He is a neurosurgeon and she owns a flower shop, he would never let her go this easily. Never

[@beecasssoutherngal8974]

There are exceptions to the rule, while they are rare, they do exist.😢❤

[@mommyfebo3027]

I agree i was disappointed not enough thrill

[@mommyfebo3027]

And like you said not realistic with the ok

[@bernardsoul5186]

What does him being a neurosurgeon and her being a florist have to do with anything?

[@soniabhatia4135]

If you've read the book you'll just know it is frictional . It's a. Frictional movie so you don't have to relate it to the reality or real life incidents

[@Jennifer-wk3xe]

My experience was different. I didn’t put my son’s dad’s name on the birth certificate, I did give my son my last name, and left his dad while he was at work. I would never tell him I was leaving while holding our newborn.

[@maxinetischler9856]

Good for you

[@Laraaa_111]

I think you made a good choice. Hope you and your kid are doing great ❤ love and support ☀️🫶

[@TheSpunkAvenue]

Good that u changed the name to yours.

[@Cleromanticon]

The only thing making this scene even a tiny bit realistic is that it’s taking place where the abuser works. He’ll protect his paycheck in ways he’d never protect her. Abusers claim they hit out of passion, that they couldn’t control their tempers. It’s a lie. Just ask their boss. They can control themselves at work just fine.

[@dayop.6345]

and in public or in intimate gatherings

[@sarvolkskaya]

The laughing is something that I’ve seen a lot of people criticize but I think is pretty realistic. I laugh when I’m nervous and absolutely did so when I was also gently trying to explain to my abusive ex why I wanted us to break up due to his behavior. The paycheck is very accurate. He’d be protecting that and his reputation by not harming her or the baby, as well as there being staff and security who would be called in the minute something happened.

[@bernardsoul5186]

There varying degrees of abusers with a wide range of issues, self-awareness, and empathy. We don't live in a fantasy world where the villains all wear black and muahaha at their own evil plans. How can you make a claim about what's realistic when you don't even understand that reality is nuanced? I'm sorry but you really don't know about this topic nearly as much as you think you do

[@chibacat1234]

Agree with the other comments. Also still shocked by how the whole movie was about DV and Blake Lively went on to yap about flower dresses during the promo... Insane.

[@gabbyjohn737]

Blake is not all that !!

[@irynaprokopenko6438]

I dont feel like its in real DV relationship...she is confident and he is agreeable

[@kelleylegault5115]

She has finally excepted that she can’t change him, and resolutely, excepts responsibility for her daughter. He is crushed by his own reality -and with love for his daughter- understands the comparison, and therefore, the necessity.

[@naspa2790]

Domestic violence perpetrators aren’t that logical. They have anger issues they can’t control.

[@irynaprokopenko6438]

@@naspa2790 agree so its why not sure thay finish it like this kind of happy end

[@Liz86000]

@@naspa2790 Yes, they CAN control themselves. They just WON'T.

[@rachaelgrande3097]

@@naspa2790 i was once told they are the most controlled people. notice how he doesn't abuse you in public, hit men who are bigger than him, hit their boss. they have plenty of control, it is a choice. it's about having the mentality that you are not a person, and they are entitled to use/dominate you as they see fit. but this entire scene just isn't realistic.

[@leslieperkins2722]

I have been in abusive relationships. This is not how it ends.

[@annrodriguez2891]

Absolutely 💯

[@bernardsoul5186]

Your experience is not universal. Even if you've been in a hundred abusive relationships, you can't speak for anyone else's experience

[@wildanimal3737]

You mean to say "that's not how they ended for me"

[@stelladean2669]

lol if only abusive spouses had the ability to self reflect and be accountable…this is so ridiculous and insulting to any woman (or man) who has ever been emotionally mentally or verbally abused.

[@rachaelgrande3097]

"why does he do that" best book on the subject, everyone needs to read it

[@kassiewest]

Lol exactly "what would you say?" lol, abusers would say they were a victim defending themselves. Or their situation is different and she deserved it. It's not like abusers are just sitting around thinking how bad their actions are because someone points it out. They have an excuse for everything. They're always the victim/hero.

[@wildanimal3737]

They actually do. A lot of abusers have actually been the one to walk away from the marriage and sought therapy on their own accord (or religion, in some cases). There have been many abusers who have reformed and some have even made it their life's work to help reform other abusers. Look it up. And it is important to show that, because sadly millions of them exist within our society

[@bernardsoul5186]

I'm personally not insulted, don't speak for me. I think it's good that they showed a different type of abuser and why it was so hard for her to leave him as opposed to the one-dimensional cliche of the domestic batterer that everyone has seen depicted a million times

[@jasmineprince]

Based on these comments…I have no desire of watching this movie. Thank y’all for looking out lol.

[@GabrielleP310]

Most romance movies glorifies all forms of abuse, at least this movie made awareness of it‼️ Just because this movie has flaws in it, it still did a major role of exposing abuse, not perfect but something than nothing🤷🏻‍♀️

[@bernardsoul5186]

@@jasmineprince just so you know all of the people who commented haven't seen the movie

[@SecretSquirrrrel]

No way would this conversation happen with an abusive partner.

[@trinaq]

The film ending is slightly better than the book's, as while Lily still divorces Ryle, she still allows him to coparent Emmy unsupervised with her. Here, she raises Emmy by herself, with Ryle not in the picture.

[@Harry-bn5mp]

He should be able to help care for his daughter who he clearly loves. Even more cruel knowing she named her after his dead brother.

[@Melanie-jy2nw]

@@Harry-bn5mpshe should let a man she knows is an abuser near her baby who can’t protect herself. What happens when he turns his anger on her? Are you truly such a men’s rights activist that you’re okay with men abusing children?

[@assyrianprincess3]

@@Harry-bn5mphe can pay child support

[@Harry-bn5mp]

He needs to be able to bond with his child. Not just be a financial provider.

[@assyrianprincess3]

@ well he should've thought about that before he became a wife beater and a rapist. I promise you whatever he did to Lilly, hell do to his daughter.

[@cess5614]

for a second, I thought he's going to YEEET that baby

[@mexiwolf009]

YEET!

[@p0p-p0p]

Isn't it so funny how those who haven't watched the film have a lot of negative things to say about it? **This is my explanation and understanding of this scene** What you are seeing now in this clip is a man, Ryle, who loves Lily as much as he loves his daughter. Lily trusted him to take care of and love their daughter because that's the only right thing her abusive father ever did in their family, love and protect her-- his daughter, wholeheartedly. Lily, over there, gave Ryle a long time to reflect on himself and cool down after hurting her. Both Lily and Ryle have their traumas. And these traumas didn't go well together... Lily lived in a household with a father who abused her mom but never his daughter. Ryle was traumatized as a child because of his parent's gun leading to his PTSD. Ryle grew up without healing his traumas, Lily on the other hand was able to overcome it BUT would never tolerate it if it ever happened again PLUS she won't ever let her daughter go through the same hate Lily has for her own father. This movie is like a band-aid to my heart who also has an ill-tempered father. Lily ended the abuse and chose herself and her daughter- the right things (I wish to do the same, my father is the best father but not a good husband). Ryle hopefully becomes a father who would never traumatize his daughter and promises to get help (which Lily's father never did). *This is a nice movie.* Will makes us think about the consequences of always following our heart but never the mind; learning from those awful experiences and promising ourselves to never be abused or to abuse. I hope people judge it as a movie they've watched rather than issues behind the scenes.

[@laurateixeira4182]

Totally agree!

[@monikagaikwad1229]

Agree❤

[@maysashaheen189]

Agree

[@KaiRobins-l7e]

Fianlly a positive comment, everyone is so crazy in the comments, thank you for this. This was the best explanation

[@mastiffpeople4868]

There clearly wasn't enough research done for this movie

[@kanchibishtvlogs]

It's based on a book. And the author has written just like this shown here

[@suesmith8372]

She's in a hospital, surrounded by lots of people and security. He wouldn't dare hurt that baby, or her, right then. That was her best chance at it. But if her stuff is not all destroyed or missing when she goes home, I'd be amazed. She's going to have to be ready to move in somewhere else, for her safety, and that of her baby daughter. People are going to have to go with her and pack everything up, and never go back.

[@Claudia.N.Hernandez]

Did anyone read the book? The book provides more details about Lily’s actions and Ryle’s aggression. I love both the movie and the book.

[@imani6938]

For a split second, I swore he was going to smother that baby....

[@matthewmcvey3494]

Im relieved he didn't

[@CherylHarrison-u7b]

Thanks for the clip. I definitely don’t want to see this movie.

[@mikekillagreen9432]

You're missing out. It's fantastic

[@megandurrant4000]

People need to remember this is how the book was written. And the director is in this scene

[@danydazed4314]

This is unrealistic. This abusive controlling guy will not let her go this easily. The innocent baby he will use as a bargaining chip and another way to control the mother.

[@konstantinwetzel9449]

Erinnert mich an meinen alten Spruch: Du willst mich beschützen? Wer beschützt mich vor dir?

[@nurulnadiahazmi1156]

I think when it comes to domestic violence, enough and sleeping with the enemy are the most realistic movies.

[@MsTinkerbelle87]

I am so angry they stole this plot from Waitress…😐

[@DawnKellyMedia]

Colleen Hoover isn't exactly original.

[@terynb4407]

​@@DawnKellyMedia even then waitress isn't even that original, plenty of movies and books about DV relationships. Heck I remember reading something somewhat similar in 5th grade and the book came out in like the 90s

[@LauraRoberts-g6s]

Yes❤

[@laurenelizabeth1390]

I believe the author is claiming it's a true story based on her parents

[@bernardsoul5186]

If it was that similar there would have been a copyright claim. But if you've actually seen both movies you already know how different they are

[@italishgirl5601]

I left an abusive fiancé while he was out of the country. I had to carry a restraining order for 2 years after he returned.

[@cqbarnieify]

I sure wish my situation could have been resolved this easily. My ex threatened to kill me and our children when I wanted out. How lovely it would be if abusers simply said, “oh, okay, sure, let’s break up for the sake of our child”. If only…

[@xchionwilson7246]

People saying this is unrealistic dont understand ryle, he is a surgeon still and he cares a great deal of his career, the violent outbursts were caused by his ptsd

[@watsmaname6189]

It's still unrealistic. I watched the movie and up until this point (and the crib scene) I thought it was good enough writing. There is just no way a woman who is leaving her husband for abuse would hand him her baby, he would tbreaten the child to keep her with him. It's not realistic in the slightest for him to have gone "ok"

[@watsmaname6189]

It's even said that abuse gets worse during and after childbirth, so it is unrealistic. I can't apologise for Ryle despite knowing where he's coming from

[@bernardsoul5186]

​@@watsmaname6189 Incorrect, definitely not "during" childbirth, thats ridiculous lol Abuse is usually cyclical, with long periods of calm, happy, and caring moments interrupted by incidents of abuse. And yes, these incidents increase in frequency during stressful times, and having a baby in the house is a huge cause of stress. But in this moment the baby had just arrived and everything was happy, oxytocin was flooding his brain, and they were in one of the safest possible spaces, so she actually picked the perfect moment to get him to do what he knew was the right thing.

[@jennifersteffan2229]

Blake is a really good actress and scene really shows that.

[@nakes9193]

❤ I totally agree I feel like many people have just jumped on a I hate Blake wagon.

[@raythunder8619]

​@nakes9193 The reason why people don't like her isn't because of her acting. It's her actions. From being mean on behind scenes, taking over projects that ultimately undermind the creators, to bad writing. For example, this scene. No DV situation is like this. There are cases of men hurting their kids or the mother as a power move or a hostage.

[@cathkails]

I legitimately was afraid in this scene. I wouldn't have trusted my baby with this man for one second.

[@GraceSavesGrace]

This movie is so fake. A controlling man who hits a woman doesn't act like this.

[@lexinethegoodskin3989]

This was the best scene in the entire movie when she said I want a divorce. No, no, hold it together, hold it together.

[@dragonloveorchid1616]

Don't watch the movie, read the books. They bring you more emotions and depth of the reality

[@caroljeffords3969]

I cried 😢

[@milkystar4241]

Now that he’s a dad - he gets it.

[@kentonpryor7091]

She's right on every level

[@jennifersteffan2229]

Yes she def is

[@oceanandbee6617]

Just read the book and not the movie, the book is really amazing and deeply emotional and touching. If you watch the movie without knowing and read the book it’s really bad and disappointing. Trust me, it’s one of the best book I’ve ever read

[@mikekillagreen9432]

Everyone saying this wouldn't happen. How many times was the guy holding his infant daughter in this situation. It hits different

[@Ijustlovecatsok]

I mean ... She looks way too happy for someone who is about to divorce her husband on the very day of her child's birth. At least there could have been more sadness and voice breaks if not fear.

[@marniejane88]

This was the best scene

[@samanthasmith8560]

I feel like the writer of these books write like it's a wattpad story. Idk how this was developed into a movie

[@KylaBurnham]

This scene gutted me so bad

[@allydef]

She should’ve just took the baby and left. No way is it ever a good idea to let an abuser near your child. Run away and never look back.

[@eshanaskar8197]

" A person she loved was hurting her ... What would you say to her ? "

[@JustCallmeMJ]

Absolutely 100% scene is unrealistic, but I think the reason why Lily asked the question and it finally took seeing her daughter of her own was because she would promise herself she’d never be like her mother and never be with a man like her father and then she end up doing the exact opposite now seeing that she had a little girl who she would give the world to just to keep her safe, finally opened her eyes as she truly needs to break the cycle.

[@Upsidedownworld2023]

Book was very good read “It Begins with Us” sequel.

[@harrisonhanson2998]

So much for allowing it to end w them!

[@snehabarua]

Most beautiful ending

[@DominickSpano]

I know he was the bad guy really and he was a piece of trash, but I wouldn't have hated it if he said as he left he would go to therapy or just try to be better in general as her father. Again, this may be the unpopular opinion and he was in fact trash, but for the sake of the baby maybe at least say he would try to be better or seek counseling as a form of very minor redemption. IDK, that was just my feelings as he left. Thoughts are welcome. And BTW very good movie.

[@harshitas2571]

He might be saying that he would work on it but that does not mean that she should tolerate it anymore ...if he gets better good for him but in reality if the other person stays the situation gets worse

[@DominickSpano]

@@harshitas2571 I know. I am not defending him at all and it totally undercuts the ending of the movie, but it just stinks he won't do much to get better.

[@C6Wolves]

​@DominickSpano If he was going to consider therapy and self help he could have done that while their marriage was on a break. They have been separated months before this scene occurs and he has clearly had those anger problems for years.

[@assyrianprincess3]

He could have done that on his own time, but she still needs to leave him. Any man who would hurt a women would hurt a child

[@DominickSpano]

@assyrianprincess3 She surely needs to leave him, but I am saying a small glimmer of very minor redemption or maybe the hope to do better in the future may have been good. May have mind you. I am split on it b/c it would undercut the following scene and title of the movie.

[@StephenieHandley]

As a previous dv, it just doesn't really go like this

[@victoriawilliams4266]

No two abusive people are the same. Quit comparing a lpvie to real life! Its a movie

[@wildoceanappaloosawomangay2535]

I don’t like her since I’ve seen her on that horrible interview She’s beautiful talented wonderful husband four healthy children close family no need to be arrogant and rude By the way, what idiotic writing Why would an abused woman tell her abuser she’s leaving while he’s holding their child? 👎

[@lilykhandker6716]

Getting divorced is great but will he keep access

[@Harry-bn5mp]

He does in the book and should. He's her father.

[@Melanie-jy2nw]

In the movie, he doesn’t thankfully. It really is a bad lesson to give abusive partners unsupervised access to babies who have no way of protecting themselves.

[@someone._.]

@@Harry-bn5mp he's also a person with an agression problem, being the father doesn't entitle him to anything if he can't assure the security of his daughter, like he couldn't with his wife

[@laurakelseymusic]

Who offers their very young baby to be used as a prop in a movie? 🤔

[@Harry-bn5mp]

I wish they had co-parented like they ended up doing in the book. He deserves to help care for his daughter.

[@Beachy88]

We have enough lying, violence and abuse in this world already

[@happyslug]

Also Who has a baby and then is like Welp what we gonna call her?

[@loulou9978]

You can tell this is a Hollywood movie lol Abusive men don’t just agree to a divorce. He would more likely threaten to take custody if she didn’t return home.

[@15iannava]

I suppose I’m one of the few who loves this romance drama flick so much. I figured that one way or another she’s going to divorce him no matter what. I couldn’t care less about the writing.

[@Abigurlrox]

I LOVW HIM

[@jennyl.2689]

I saw the movie but it's very unrealistic.

[@bec815]

There's something in my eye.

[@missycitty9478]

And he plots his revenge...

[@FlipMacz]

👎 it doesn't work like this....

[@crystal_crochet_it]

they failed to bring the book to life..

[@kevindonnelly8862]

People on about how ryles is a classic abusive person case and how it’s unrealistic he doesn’t let her walk away . To me he has good intentions but his ptsd with his brother has caused his violent outbreaks. It’s much of a more complicated character arc

[@ECARGZ11]

Its just a story hellooo🎉🎉write ur own book

[@Whitepearl-m7f]

It’s a lovely and romantic movie because the sad thing is him leaving her with his child which is heartbreaking 💔

[@CreativFarmGal]

This is NOT realistic. Theres no way I would say that whilehes holding our newborn.

[@Jessica-ot3du]

Worst movie/book I have seen since Fifty shades of Grey. It is inaccurate and seems more like a storytelling that aimed to make profit on an important subject rather than explain and open a discussion about the mechanisms of abuse.

[@foursidedamico3101]

What? Realistically, this wouldn’t happen.

[@personallyjojo]

This was a book first

[@RagnarKorg3141]

Weddings are so toxic since longtime

[@carlawilliams5132]

totally unrealistic

[@Mel-p9o]

I won’t watch this movie because of the entitled, miserable Blake. Choices people. It’s just a movie.

[@cherrywilson6267]

Yeah cry baby it’s a movie

[@doeeyedkookie]

This is the stupidest most unrealistic scene in history. WHO wrote this garbage?

[@santhoshkumars885]

😭Really Here my life no physical relationship and no girlfriend, no love till now. Because I am short height guy and low wealth. No one girl like with me and not married to me. I am facing many problems and it pain fully my life.🥺😔😞💔...

[@vishjay2092]

Why is that women dump all the nuce guys and choose losers abusers and creeps

[@harrisonhanson2998]

Looks extremely far fetched!

[@27efan]

The push down the stairs was accidental though.

[@JP-ku3he]

All these purple head lefties 😂

[@Beautycomesoutofashes]

🤔

[@dianaalkalaf6989]

فيلم فاشل

[@juliettsstyleglam]

Remember people, Blake and Ryan rewrite the end scene. That's their work. That's how unprepared and ignorant they were of the role Blake was taking.

[@gabbyjohn737]

She made a mistake asking for a divorce. The baby might have brought them together as a loving family. Ryle & Lilly loved each other. You don't kick a dog when it's down.

[@yipeeyay9844]

WHAT!?!?

[@Tanu-s6d]

I'll just say, Ryle was a good man. Lily could've asked him to take anger management therapy, he might have not abused her anymore. If you read the book, you'll know Ryle was good. Lily could have given another chance to him.

[@danydazed4314]

This is unrealistic. This abusive controlling guy will not let her go this easily. The innocent baby he will use as a bargaining chip and another way to control the mother.

[@bernardsoul5186]

Have you actually seen the movie or read the book? Have you read up on the background behind the writing of the book?