It’s Time to Break the Current Relationship Paradigm

It’s Time to Break the Current Relationship Paradigm - In this video, Teal Swan challenges the status quo of relationships and introduces you to a new view on relationships.
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[@deniserosner796]

I’m in my 60’s and I am having the best relationship of my life. I learned during my marriage to my ex-husband for 33 years that at the end what brought me joy in the relationship was to have my own bedroom. Unfortunately, that relationship didn’t last but I incorporated that finding into my new relationship. Me and my partner have been happily together for seven years now and we each live in our own tiny houses very close to each other. We see each other almost every day, eat together, but then he goes home or I go home to my own private sanctuary. I love him a lot, but I love me more! Our friends and family and society at large think that we are crazy but like Teal says, we should be doing what works! I always say, to each their own.❤

[@theartist5844]

So beautiful! I loved hearing this!

[@trippy6183]

Sounds incredible! Wishing you love & happiness.

[@t-maree301]

That sounds absolutely perfect to me ❤

[@jessicawildroselandry8749]

I love this. My boyfriend now would never understand. He already broke up with me once because I didn't want to live together with him as I was going through horrible dark night kf the soul

[@peregrin1969]

​@@jessicawildroselandry8749living in separate spaces solves many of the issues that are happening in society today. I think any guy who wouldn't accept his partner to live in a separate space has trust issues, or is insecure, or wants to control something. Allowing partner to have their own life and space and then they choose to be with me is somehow really gratifying ( for me). I had to learn that tho. Over time. I didn't always think that.

[@stephenflood3463]

When I was a child I always thought I'd have a relationship like my mom and dad did. But the older I grew the more I realized how different we all are and every relationship is so unique. But this comment is to give praise to my dad for being such a caring and loving father and husband. Because my dear mother, God rest her soul, was diagnosed with kidney failure a year after I was born and she had to go on a dialysis machine three days a week for near twenty years. But my Father stood by her all that length of time. For he used to do all the cleaning and cooking at home for us and he used to bring my mother up her changes of clothes, pajamas and fruit whilst she was in the hospital; as well as hold down a job too. Whereas other men might have found it too difficult to deal with and maybe they would have left them in the lurch or even divorced them. Albeit my mom was so lucky to have met a man who truly cared and loved her till the end. She died at the young age of 52. He has inspired me to be like him, and I'd do the very same for the woman and family I loved.

[@jarkachalmovianska7812]

Beautiful story. And it happens a lot. The men like that are just not praised like machos. But actually they are far better they are the real men. Real man is mature adult taking care of their family, woman, kids, parents, friends, the vulberable ones

[@stephenflood3463]

@@jarkachalmovianska7812 Thank you Jarka, it's so true what you say and they deserve the highest of respect. Yet my mom used to do what she could on her days off, but most of the time she'd be sick. She made the most of her life tho. She loved Jiving and Line Dancing and learned herself how to play the 🪗 My dad was a hard worker too, and him and my mom met on a fruit farm where they had picked strawberries together in the 1960s. My dad was also a digger driver draining land for farmers and later on in life he became a jack of all trades.

[@stephenflood3463]

@@carlyofearth Thank you Carly. Every good woman deserves a good man like him. And your right, it's true masculinity. The same praise goes for the truest of the feminine who take care of they're husband's and family too, and so they also deserve to be loved in the most highly respectful way too.

[@danielle7061]

Wow thank you for giving me hope!!!

[@stephenflood3463]

@@danielle7061 Your so welcome Danielle. Hope is better than no hope at all.✨

[@belleofthecamp6530]

I honestly have no idea what my relationship needs are. Except being truly heard and respected.

[@emro164]

You might go online and look around for a love language profile quiz. Once you have the results, you can at least study them and gain an understanding of how you are best able to give/receive love.

[@sacreed1]

Sounds pretty healthy expectations.

[@larrycole1991]

Paradigm work is hard, I had to stop blurring lines on what was appropriate and not for each level of a relationship, from friends to acquaintances, dating to commitment. Once those boundaries are set then enforcing them not only with others but myself... Walking the walk.

[@micap1121]

You just said them! :D

[@larrycole1991]

If you want help with this let me know. My pack really helped me lay it all out to understand myself better.

[@SteveJones379]

In my experience lately I don't think people really know what a relationship is, or seek to have a real relationship. Good quality communication is missing in relationship dynamics I experience. I don't know why this seems to be the case.☮

[@randomelvis3359]

I agree Steve, I think the majority are set to “gain” and not “give”…. To communicate well we “care” about the relationship … if we are just gaining for ourselves this is selfish and indifferent to the relationship a bit “ahh if this fails i will go get another one elsewhere “…which of course is high level narcissism (immaturity to what makes a relationship balanced) ✨

[@joeprimal2044]

You’re right. I think the problem these days often is a lack of honesty. Once a person has shown that they will lie if it’s to their benefit, quality communication becomes nearly impossible because the words have little meaning.

[@Lisa_Fernandezhomeandlifestyle]

I think because people are afraid of telling the truth which means they could 1. Lose the other person or 2. They are incapable of facing themselves. I agree it's so much more kinder to self and others to speak our truth and bring honesty straight into the early dating game. I'm noticing being real means I'm not editing myself. Even thou the other person may not like me anymore.

[@jarkachalmovianska7812]

​@@Lisa_Fernandezhomeandlifestyle truth will set you free. Liberate you. When you lie, you betray yourself in the first place. You pretend to be somebody you are not. And then the people expect you to be what you are not. And you are s c r e w e d forever.

[@joeprimal2044]

@@Lisa_Fernandezhomeandlifestyle I think you are exactly right. That’s the problem in a nutshell.

[@TheMediumChannel]

Very insightful..that same old beast.. social conditioning. At the end of the day the relationship is the mirror of the relationship with the self… each one becomes it’s own entity as each person in the relationship mirrors the other. Don’t let anyone shame you, don’t let society take this beauty away.. stand in your power, stand in your truth and your relationship will transcend all paradigms and reflect that truth.. namaste.

[@Helenheaven22]

As an older woman dating a younger man, I really appreciated this!

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

The problem I'm finding is that there are too many relationship paradigms, not that people are stuck in any. Nowadays everyone has different expectations for how a relationship is supposed to work and it takes forever to figure out what they believe, especially when there is no fundamental basis for their beliefs that you can ascertain. And even if they say they believe something, their actions betray their words. They have no clue, they are a walking contradiction.

[@carolinelaronda4523]

I couldn’t agree with you more

[@moralebooster8437]

Sounds like you need someone with a lot of self awareness, who has given some thought to what they truly want and don't want

[@potapotapotapotapotapota]

@@moralebooster8437 yes that's exactly what I am saying, I don't want to waste my time dating someone only for them to tell me months down the line that they don't want to be with me because of x or y reason when they could have investigated that right from the start

[@waterfall6042]

I am one such contradictory, unfortunately. What I want and need is so hard to figure out...

[@peregrin1969]

​@@waterfall6042 maybe you would like a partnership where the other person is helping you figure it out? I once dated a life coach. Wow! Is all i can say. I chose them, but everything changed after that, and i kept choosing them. Because I got to know myself fast. It seems the more dynamic a situation is, the more ppl for example that I bump against or around, or have to answer to ( and not lie or hide, but be authentic), or the more responsibility i take, the more I learn about myself. And that translates into what do I want? That's the hardest question to pin down it seems. Who do i want to be? Who do i want to be around? What do I want to create?

[@Not11111]

I love the “have a good week” part to your videos. Mainly because it’s something I never hear.

[@TealSwanOfficial]

Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/paradigm/

[@405OKCShiningOn]

Love you Teal!! 🙌🌷💐🌞💫🕊️🥇💯

[@HomemakerDaze]

Sometimes I feel too dumb to understand what you're saying so maybe reading will help lol or slowing down the video

[@randomelvis3359]

Relationships are the vehicle to conscious awareness ✨ If we listen to each relationship it will whisper YOUR truth, which will be shadow work needing attention/work done… Once we become conscious this is EVER EXPANDING so is never “done”… but we expand our relationship type in the spectrum… from “drama/chaos to love and peace”…. ✨✨

[@kingsnurglegurglesonthevik4517]

So the over 80% of males that can't find or don't want a partner should all commit suicide then, for knowing they can only ever fail to reach conscious awareness ? Many are far too obsessed with the intricacies of relationships, because they just don't know how to relax and go with the flow when necessary.

[@chaz7604]

Adore this ❤

[@randomelvis3359]

@@chaz7604 Glad it resonates Chaz! 😃✨

[@chaz7604]

It most certainly does

[@chaz7604]

Seriously gone through breakthroughs in the last few days about this stuff I’ve known for years and years and spoken about and it’s manifesting day by day even more now, but this time I’m settling with it as well so I’m not triggered by the realisations, nor reactions which is my own monumental progress. If that makes sense?

[@NowsNu]

"...the way that a person conducts themselves with you is what establishes genuine security ... The structure of relationship should not be where we are getting our sense of security in relationships from, we should be getting it from the way that a person conducts themselves in relationship with us. ..."

[@MrMarkusbotha]

I'm with ya Teal. Relationships should be more dynamic. There is no one-size-fits-all relationship. I'm a married man. But luckily this suits me. I have few friends but the friends I have I have known for decades and I love them dearly. What I'm trying to say is that even when I was a child my relationship style was monogamous. Lucky me. But for many people out there this particular shoe does not fit. And they have never been told otherwise. There are a-great-many other shoes, and none are better than the next, just different.

[@shamibrown2287]

A lot of ppl don’t know what a relationship is because they came from a broken home, lies, social media, etc. I agree with her Depending on the state you live in, you have to make a certain amount of money to live comfortably. So not every man will make 6 figures and a woman can’t be a stay at home wife. The cost of living is so damn expensive that a haircut alone is over $20. Insane yes. Some ppl should stop believing everything they hear. Sit back and observe. Take your time. It’s like, you’re a coach that says I want to win the superbowl in 2 years. Yet you have 2 wins and 30 loses😂. Time to change that game strategy. Possibly your coaching

[@ieattrees8551]

To someone that could be going through a rough patch in their relationship or is in a very vulnerable position, this sounds like just give up. Just give up and go chase whatever bodily desires you have. There’s a reason relationships are failing, and it’s not because we’re trying to fit into a mold we can’t fit into. There’s a reason Father Mother Child holds so much security. We are not animals. Do not confuse your intuition with your animalistic impulses. If you keep running to the next person, you’ll never be satisfied.

[@Reverendadon]

I do believe Teal is addressing healthy relationships. Which means not hurting each other. Healthy people don't hurt others. We also want open communication about desires of what happiness looks like for each other when beginning a new relationships. Relationships fail because we truly as a society don't know how to take each other as ourselves. Hope this helps

[@ieattrees8551]

@@Reverendadon You’ve been married twice, according to the comment on your profile. Teal has been married and divorced 10+ times. I don’t believe either of you know what you’re saying. Yes, you can learn from your past mistakes. But after awhile the proof is in your actions. Teal also practices polyamory, which is something a healthy person doesn’t do because you’re soiling your ability to curate long lasting intimacy. That’s that animal brain.

[@RhododendronRevamping]

@@ieattrees8551 well said

[@you-vi2tm]

I have just broken up from my partner 3 days ago because I have realized that anything less than full monogamy, marriage and family is just playing to me. I had bought this paradigm of "not one person can meet your needs" and thought open relationship is the way. I have came to realize I don't want any of this anymore. I rather be single than in open relationship. Teal's video is almost saying to me that I made a mistake with this lose-lose situation. But I cannot do anything else. I prefer to lose now than be in a situation that I put myself where I lose because I betrayed myself.

[@Reverendadon]

@@ieattrees8551 both my spouses passed away. You don't know me. I stuck by them both. Till death do us part. I loved them both dearly. You gotta find the person that wants the same things you do. Take each othee as self. What is best for you is best for me kinda thing. I'm not talking about sex. There is a big difference between love and sex.

[@monikadeinbeck4760]

giving people more options to choose their path of life can solve all problems except the problem of too many options.

[@Love_7777]

I am excited to create my own healthy and harmonious relationships regardless of what other people are thinking or doing. I needed to see this now. Thank you for sharing your love and awareness for humanity. I am committed to becoming the best I can be and leave the planet better than I found it. Bless all of you. Amen. ❤❤❤

[@405OKCShiningOn]

I love your comment!! support, agape, peace and grwoth to you!! Amen!! Namaste!

[@jessieollinger]

Amazing 🌹❤️‍🔥🦋

[@bittersweetindustryexecutive]

@Love "I am committed to becoming the best I can be and leave the planet better than I found it." Such a 💎 and inspiring thought/notion. This one really hit me in the feels. Anyway, Blessings to you as well! 🌍🙏 Cheers!✌

[@405OKCShiningOn]

Beautiful!! Be good to others!! 🕊️🌷🙏💯🕊️

[@aaya77]

What means Amen?

[@HomemakerDaze]

I dont want to live with partners, when i have id had my own room and things still got ruined.

[@darkbluedesire111]

I can recognize multiple of these relationship paradigms in my life. While they worked for a while they no longer do and it has left me with a fire inside. Thank you for this video Teal 🥺 this gives me something to work on and I needed it.

[@paige8361]

Personally, I think it is perfectly fine to want a romantic monogamous commitment. To me, I feel like establishing this boundary stems from knowing your self worth and knowing your value/what you deserve and how you deserve to be treated and respected. It stems from self love. Deep down, I believe that is what the majority of human beings want. I believe we settle due to wounding, being let down so many times, or low self esteem so we accept fractions, slices, and crumbs of the pie when we deserve the whole pie. Then the outward relationship paradigm switches to not believing in monogamy which is a reflection and mirroring of internal fear. I think marriage or some form of commitment and the security of being intimate and close/vulnerable to one partner and creating a family together (even if just the two partners) is a beautiful thing. Of course, nothing is guaranteed to be secure but we have to go into it believing the best and knowing we can handle picking up the broken pieces if it doesn't work or falls apart. I do love this because Teal is basically saying to each their own which is beautiful as well. In the end, we all just have to find our "soul tribe" and match with those who want the same things and have similar beliefs when it comes to relationships.

[@charlesnielson7945]

I have been slowly working on this myself for two years. Thank you for the confirmation that my work is not in vain.

[@le15502]

In the right time! I've been thinking about this lately, I've been feeling this energy... This call! I still don't know for sure what to do but I won't stop here. Thank you Teal ❤

[@amagoiai4305]

Thank you so much Teal for opening awareness!!❤🙏

[@seykai]

You are amazing Teal!! Thank you for all your videos they are super cool and I always wait for them every week ❤❤ Makes Sundays really exciting! :))

[@Diamonkesh]

Let us make it normal that there is no normal 😅

[@emalee2027]

thank you once again for an amazing video teal

[@TheyCallTheWindMariah]

Yeah I'm not changing or reinventing my relationship with my fiance, we are happy and want what we have. Why change it if it's working so good and makes us happy? Marriage works if you actually commit to it and respect it and actually desire to have it.

[@daryl9799]

Who says you have to change it? No one if you happy go with it she is just saying there no one paradigm that work for everyone.

[@cosmic.caramel]

Teal I love how you are more laughing in your video now a day xx🎉 love your work,keep on teaching xx

[@Stone46988]

You don’t have to be in a relationship. I love being alone. I have never been more happy in my entire life. Most people don’t even know who they are, or where they come from. I might just go back to source and relinquish identity. I don’t know if I want to be reincarnated for a while.

[@Kerrviii]

I agree.

[@tranquilstillness]

Very insightful, as always. Thank you for sharing your spiritual prowess. Much love

[@rosiegood556]

It's all about preference and compatibility. Find someone that wants similar things.

[@roses6564]

Yes, because you snap your fingers. Key word: "find." Find involves a very small degree of control or agency. You find them or you don't, and even if you do, they must find you too and want you.

[@phoneluke1]

I don’t think that throwing old relationship paradigms out the window is the answer. Instead, we should try to do them much better. Why? The old ways worked much better, for the most part, than what we are doing now in society. Sure people can form whatever relationship arrangements with willing partners that they want, however that does not mean that society will function in a way that keeps the human story going in a sustainable way. There is a relationship between relationship structure and societal stability.

[@aight33]

I'm so sick of this open poly relationship agenda. Coming from people who refuse to take any type of person responsibilities and accountability.

[@sailyx3jupy]

I agree. Teal is wrong. People claim to be so happy in their "perfect" relationships and yet here they are on youtube and still looking for attention and validation for their so called satisfied lives. Relationships require pure intimacy. Never met a human in my life fully capable of that. Because humanity is not there yet.

[@daryl9799]

What do you care honestly? I'm not poly nor would I ever be but different things work for different people if you don't like it then suck it up and be happy with what works for you.

[@sailyx3jupy]

@@daryl9799 um because it doesn't actually work people neglect themselves and therefore other people on the planet deeply by not doing shadow work and or addressing true human relations

[@insanecuckooman8342]

@@daryl9799 some people care because history showed us, that when people switch over to this kind of thinking, it is usually a sign of a declining culture and civilisation.

[@DebNielsen1958]

Thank you very much for this. A new eye opener.

[@lucymziri1130]

Love you Teal!❤

[@dariaaria2576]

Thank you, Teal!

[@douglausbeedles4717]

Love you all 💗💗

[@akashiccode]

I feel like speaking into relationships is a good use of Teal’s gifts

[@Ginge91]

This is brilliant ❤

[@bruceprigge5212]

Thank you 🙂 !

[@oceanwonders]

UGH, this is so important!!!

[@ericv4347]

Being part of the LGBTQ community is kind of a blessing because it's given me the freedom to be authentic about the type of relationship I want. We have so many different types of couples doing their own thing and expressing love in their own unique way, but sometimes I think that if I were straight I probably wouldn't even consider all the different possibilities out there or I'd judge them and view them as something bad.

[@EtsukoAmi]

Im asexual and when i go to our little asexual meet ups, it blows my mind how creative people get about their unique relationship dynamic. Not to mention that open relationships are abundant in that specific circle. I love hearing their stories

[@kokoa9855]

Teal.. your hair is so beautiful.. Love you

[@alistairwilliams9885]

Frequency dating ✨ the perfect match..🤩🙏🏻

[@user-jx7dr5yc9l]

Thank you

[@eatyourbroccoli]

Thanks Tealie. Beautifully said. We need to restructure our relationships and our models of what a healthy society can look like, and it definitely has the potential to improve our lives like crazy.

[@newworldlove7031]

This video reminds me why I choose to be single!! My cat gives me so much unconditional love and exceptance he makes men look like a waste of time.

[@novelaego2404]

yikes

[@newworldlove7031]

​@@novelaego2404Yikes what exactly??

[@lightstream3]

Gratitude ❤

[@israelkanz]

Yes. I'm not a fan of either side of the argument in the social media rhetoric right now. People are just too vastly complex. Same reason I don't believe in "alpha/beta"

[@jayocean2021]

Communicate desires, objectives and boundaries. Very simple in theory.

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

Don't decrease the goal. Increase the effort.🍯

[@andylyon3867]

But don't force it, go to the path of least resistance where that path is positive.

[@sunsetlights100]

+Alignment with universe/god

[@kristenr9398]

You’re just amazing, thanks for always grounding me. Always giving it to us straight no matter how hard it is to hear sometimes! Would love if you can do a video on starseed compatibility. 👍🏻

[@jackthe15headedmonster25]

So what I got from this video is that their's not a relationship paradigm that's meant for everyone. But rather a personalized relationship paradigm that embodies a healthy one that meets both people?

[@StudioLB]

Lovely

[@Bubbles_L]

This is a concept that I never even considered before. Good info! Thank you Teal! 🥰💖

[@mindtheprivacy]

So true....

[@you-vi2tm]

Just 2 days ago I broke up with my partner because I have not been rigid about what I want in a relationship. I was artificially trying to break the monogamous paradigm and always find a win-win with different desires with other people. But I felt like it was a joke to me. Yes, it became a lose-lose situation. But I do it that later I could have a full win-win. You say it might not work out. But atleast I try. My partner called me a fundamentalist yesterday. Your video also tells me to not be fundamentalist. But in my own life, with my own needs and desires, I will be a fundamentalist.

[@ysha3186]

You are a genius 😍

[@danellelive]

Yeeeees girl! 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@msdenisemartinez]

I love you, Teal! I've been watching your video's every Saturday for years. However, there came a point about a year ago that your content became more basic and less deep/ insightful. For example, what I got from this video is that it's ok to have different types of relationships that are outside the norm. I think we know this already. Your older videos have helped me grow so freaking much! and I know you are literally a genius! So I hope you go back to making videos about our subconscious, traumas, how to deal with conflict, and all the real juicy info you know that can create more meaningful lives.

[@EtsukoAmi]

If you watch some of her workshops and Q&A, she mostly focuses on trauma etc

[@martafleischauer1169]

Hello Teal, thank you for this amazing video - insightful as always! I was wondering if you could cover the topic of endometriosis in one of your future videos. It is widely spread amongst women, but unfortunately not explored well enough on the scientific and medical side yet. Women don't know how to help themselves, the birth control pill seems to be the only "remedy" so far. What is your take on this, from a spiritual perspective as well? Greetings from Germany ❤

[@freeearthcitizen7601]

Mexico now has two choices for those getting married: (1) traditional marriage ("until death"); or (2) renewable 3-year marriage contracts - husband and wife must both agree to renew, or it ends. Option #1 guarantees failure and destructive relationship ending for almost everyone. Option #2 mostly avoids these terrible results. Time for U.S. for do the same.

[@ladev91]

Option 2 is not a marriage.

[@Mandance]

The relationship paradigm has never changed, people have made monogamous partnerships since basically we were cavemen. It’s only now in todays society that people are living alternative lifestyles. This could be seen as an improvement, perhaps we are finally evolving but it seems more we are trying to create a lifestyle that caters to pleasure, coping strategies or what feels easy but we all know easy doesn’t = meaningful. There is also this odd opinion now that all people mainly women of the past surely must have been miserable but it’s not the case, I’ve from an Italian family and women are very highly regarded and many of them love their traditional roles they had. Sure anyone should do what they want but they should also deal with their shadow aspects as well.

[@novelaego2404]

exactly

[@gregoryagogo]

My 'relationship paradigm' is to NEVER EVER GET CLOSE TO ANYONE EVER AGAIN, evidently. LOL?

[@ZerO-G-YoGi]

haha... totally relate...

[@torriepenney936]

The degree of effort to be honest is a challenge. Many people hope that their issues will be overlooked. Some issues do cause discomfort...are obstacles to considering simple common sense. How can u keep tripping over a bunch of shoes? This is like emotions. There s one main feeling..And a few related neighboring feelings. It can seem there is a limit...or fear to step beyond the regular pattern. I cant sit and do repeating cycles like this. I make myself go interact with a variety of people. Its a way to not enter with preconceived ideas "how one should be speaking...what the "acceptable" wording is..i like to cut past the formal polite manners...ask if they ve felt bliss...or been really intense about something. I am not scared to say what the experience of the day was...there are dynamics happening all the time. I wonder how people can tend to opt out...be very withdrawn when there is energy moving . I think that blocking these flows takes a lot of energy. There is a less flexible Tone...u should not feel or live...until you are with who you consider to be "congruent". The waiting can be very long until you are in that desired state. Why desire denying your current moment? Its like putting a blanket over yourself. Dont show any hint of your being in this moment. Its a big suppressing theme...i cant agree to being unseen unheard for so many hours.

[@1978rayking]

I can only handle one wife, you can do what you want.

[@Naturally91]

So what are ones relationship needs?

[@andrew5222]

this feels so obvious that i have to remind myself that most people are too sheeplike to get this on their own

[@lilyevangelus6392]

Since I was young I always have relationships problems. I’ve tried many kinds of relationships. And each one is getting further away from the standards of society. I honestly tired of being weird. I’ve always detested the standards of society. And I decided to keep my relationships private even from my own blood family. I didn’t mean that I detest marriage, it’s a good institution to have children. Because the law protects them. But I don’t think it works for me. As private as I am about my relationships, it’s still a lonely place because of course there’s a part of me who wants to be accepted by the standards of society.

[@gregoryagogo]

Grandma used to say, "Marriage is for the Children".

[@annikabirgittanordlander6887]

”We are being called to re-invent how we have relationships. We are being called to change the way that relationships look. We are being called to do away with our rigidity regarding how relationships should and shouldn’t be and who they should and shouldn’t be with. Take some time to think about what the current relationship paradigms are… The ones that society holds and the ones that you, yourself hold”. Teal Swan. Thank you Teal for talking about this.

[@odie420]

I was the 200th like

[@oceanwonders]

LGBT people tend to have a firmer grasp on this, since by definition we are othered by society and therefore, by default, live unconventional lives. With the loss of any hope of conforming to the "perfect" picture of what relationships "should" look like - in other words, since we are free from society's script for how to live life - we have a lot more freedom to choose how we want our lives and our relationships to look.

[@equs1b]

I would love to make these changes. Problem is how to renegociate my marriage to allow for it. My husband is a bit sensitive and will feel like he's not good enough etc etc. So, I then have to deal with his insecurities on top of asking for this which is uber hard too. And with already lacking in emotional support from good relationships, I really struggle with this undertaking 😢

[@TheOdenwryNetwork]

So build him up.

[@peregrin1969]

"Dealing with a man's insecurities". This sounds horrible. And i don't envy women in this position. It seems to me its what most partners to men are required to do on some level. Its not unlike having a child. That's What a large part of the job is: dealing with their insecurities or teaching them strategies to overcome them. But I'm guessing most men don't want women to tell him what to do or how to change. So what's a partner to do in that situation? Ugh. Sounds agonizing "...to have to deal with a man's insecurity" . Hopefully tho if that's the case you can have mostly a rewarding life where the dealing with that...is not such a huge burden.

[@user-wz6ck6qk8k]

Go to an actual couples therapist. :)

[@Lincorn1]

I get exstremely sad teal. I feel so empty. All i wish is a monogamous relationship. Are you saying thats not natural or healthy or possible? I need the exlusive and matter to someone enough to choose me. Ive always felt like the odd one out nobody would choose over someone else😢im so confused

[@EtsukoAmi]

That's not what she's saying at all. She's saying that each person has different needs so we should force one paradigm on everybody. If monogamous, exclusive relationship is what you need and want, then you should absolutely go for it and find someone with the same values

[@laurynassadzevicius8286]

And I'm still chasing this common model although, it seems that it, well, at least it didn't work. Realistically I think I do something alike serial monogamy. Maybe just to stick to it or something, I even accused of it one person, so might be it me, I usually go 200% against anything I am until I accept it and then it turns out the best thing for everyone. Thought-provoking ideas :)

[@natushkhan]

2:10 Downsides to relationship paradigm

[@DonJuanBel-AirAGraDec24NDE]

Hi

[@clint.b.j.5490]

Cut out from under people the soiciological roots out of which civilization grew up, and don't be surprised when it all comes crashing down. When do we take a step back and say: "maybe what I want is not more important than what WE, as a nation, are trying to achieve."?

[@novelaego2404]

i dont think theres any expectation of anything period. I think people are just to egotistical to communicate what they want.

[@Kamila.Khakrizi]

Damn, just before this I watched a video with very much paradigm advises and felt secure, “knowing what to do”. Now… 😂

[@karenferrigno3265]

💜

[@Andrea-Rose]

💕💕💕

[@MoonyMercuryBaby]

💯🙏

[@hopekramer7800]

You're never going to convince me that a nuclear family is a toxic thing. Loyalty breeds security. Children being raised with both parents is the ideal. Partners staying loyal to supporting one another. I think all you really needed to say was that there are different dynamics or arrangments a relationship can thrive, depending on the unique trauma/needs of the individuals. I wouldn't call that a paradigm. A paradigm is holding a belief like "polyamory is healthier than monogamy". This is a paradigm Teal ascribes to and an unhealthy one at that. Why force yourself to heal your trauma when you can just cope with your own lack of moral developments? Do you honestly think every nuclear family has the same dynamic? Why are we trying to undermine the basic family unit? The divine trinity is Father Mother Child. There is a sacred balance here. Maybe its a good idea to ask yourself WHY you want what you want. What about a pedophile's relationship paradigms? Should he lean into his need of using children up and discarding them when they get "too old"? You gotta have nuance with what youre saying. People have distorted needs or relationship paradigms because they themselves have been traumatized into wanting that. Animals on Earth have established mating dynamics that are not deviated from. So why would humanity be so confused about mating? Because we get traumatized and over complicate things. Marriage is a way to protect women, not just "exploit". Having a child with a man is extremely vulnerable because now you are dependent on his ability to come through. He could run away (like a lot of men) and leave her a single mother. Marriage is a way to pledge that you will not abandon your spouse. It is a symbolic ceremony representing 2 individuals becoming balanced with the edition of the Divine. The sacred balanced 3 energy. I could go on all day but Teal has some really unhealthy ways of approaching this topic. Her bias is so toxic sometimes. Like having a pet is slavery and eating is animal abuse/murder but abortion is totally fine. Most trauma victims hates humans and love animals. Its basic but Teal seems unaware that this is a shadow. She also seems unaware that most humans NEED animal products because humans have been carnivores since we started growing big brains.

[@alevort]

I don't think she means that, but maybe you are right...

[@hopekramer7800]

@@alevort Thank you. Could you help me understand what you think she was saying?

[@mollysreadings4845]

Good comment. I am old fashioned, marriage minded. Everybody should be in the type of relationship they want with who they want. I love animals more than people and I eat animals too.

[@fruitandveggies24]

I'm with you. I am pagan and use natural law as the ultimate guide. Just because there are outliers and statistical deviants doesn't change the vast majority of social structures that animals have. Granted, we are so damaged from trauma that I think we do need a bit of flexibility in how to cope with situations that result from those traumas. An example would be the ability to leave your partner that is abusive or even that doesn't support your needs. My situation had me in a marriage for 17 years because I am extremely loyal, but he wouldn't follow through in his promise to have children. Now I am infertile from waiting so long. So yes, I am in total agreement with you in principle, but because life is so screwed up I think we should have a bit of leniency from idealist perfection (as much as it pains me to say it!).

[@hopekramer7800]

@@mollysreadings4845 💜

[@Mushiishum]

❤

[@Amtan.Personal]

I liked everything stated in the video!- except when I heard you say “not one person may be able to meet all your needs”. Honestly- I actually used to think this exact same way, and literally pursued open and polyamorous relationships because I thought that- statistically speaking- one person Probbaly won’t be able to meet my many complex needs. But turns out- when I became the person who fully took responsibility for my own happiness, and when I found the person who displayed all the emotional maturity qualities that I knew were critical to a healthy relationship, and because I always felt safe and seen with this person- I realized I didn’t need multiple people to “fulfill my many needs”. AND ALSO- human beings are not “need fulfilling objects” in our lives. The only reason to want to have multiple romantic partners is because you genuinely love and see each person as a whole and complete person in your life. Objectifying another human being to being your “need fulfiller” is harmful and dehumanizing.

[@insanecuckooman8342]

being with multiple partners is also dehumanizing to them. not to mention unhygienic.

[@Amtan.Personal]

@@insanecuckooman8342 that’s not necessarily true. It is possible to love each person individually. In order to do it ETHICALLY, you love each person equally- but time and attention distribution may vary per partner. it should not be about loving one person and not the other, or loving one person more than the other- that’s a common misconception. Loving one person does not necessarily mean your romantic/sexual/platonic love is shut off entirely. Most people just automatically shut it off because of societal standards- and they don’t know that there are other ways to have healthy and happy relationships. A person’s love is not a finite resource, but it’s a personal choice to engage in ethical non monogamous relationships vs monogamous ones. It is complicated but possible to practice ENM where all members involved are respected, happy and fulfilled. It requires a lot of trust, communication, maturity, emotional intelligence, boundaries and compassion. It is more work than a typical monogamous relationship. It is not better or worse than a monogamous relationship- it is just different.

[@Amtan.Personal]

@@carlyofearth sorry, your "master teacher" is just another lady who made a KZbin video to me, Carly. If me talking about something tangentially is making you react like that and get so weirded out, who's there triggered one?? 🤷‍♀️ Take your guru off the pedestal and stop hurting your own neck idolizing her. If she didn't like my comment she could delete it if she cared, but it looks like you're the one who has a problem with it. 👀 It's fine that you think my comment is weird, go ahead 🤷‍♀️ the comments section will always have annoying and preachy opposing opinions, and that's what it's good for, as long as they're not disrespectful, and i wasn't trying to be. but yeah- I'm sorry that you think you're only a cog in the machine of other people's lives. A puzzle piece that either fits or doesn't fit. You and every human being deserves to be seen as whole human beings- because you are.

[@solfh]

What if my passion is having a long lasting loving relationship and haven’t been able to for 32 years? I don’t care about nothing else than having a partner and don’t understand why is ok to like cooking and say that’s your passion but wanting a partner can’t be a passion… it is mine 💁🏻‍♀️

[@CliffCoultas]

I’m a slaaave for you. I’ll be you house boy Teal Swan. MEOW!

[@DOMOZORROORROZOMOD]

22:27

[@lizzie1896]

Thank you. This is one of my favourite TS videos! Is there even a 'thing' called a relationship? Isn't there only, ever, 'relating' happening? I enjoy going 'beyond relating' and am learning in the process to break from here old paradigms, embracing beautiful and enriching connection from moment to moment. After all, don't the paradigms change over the years?!

[@donni3799]

Is there anyway to contact you

[@ideasandtrucking]

Great video teal

[@thedeadeye1111]

First, I really really love you... You know, you are in a bandwidth which I "feel" violet and teal taste😍, which I love... And about your recent videos... You know people probably hate you for them? I think you know, but also I think you can clearly see how All the old structures and paradigms are crumbling, with unbelievable speed! So I love how you start to teach more advanced teachings... I mean it seems there is no time for a long process of preparation to tell the real lesson(without humans having a panic attack)... Anyway, I adore you and I appreciate you so much. ❤❤❤

[@Gabriela-rg2mq]

the relationship paradigm im trying to break at the moment is eternal singledom

[@kurtvanluven9351]

That is a major one.

[@Samuel96889]

That was good I wish you would speak a little slower though and make longer videos instead but I get that's probably not what most people want

[@visiochannel2]

All i know about relationships styles ,are that people very rarely them self live up to the standards they want others to follow. mostly they just want to be seen as someone following their own moral codes ,but do enything than that as muchs as possible.

[@kal2487]

Man I would love to see you match wits with Jordan Peterson (who I do respect) even though I know that pairing is unlikely to happen.

[@jackiemariano]

That would be great 🎉❤🎉! I love them both! And I can see both sides of this hard situation! Much love 💕 from Brazil ❤

[@danielle7061]

I would love to see this!!!

[@bAa-xj3ut]

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@DonJuanBel-AirAGraDec24NDE]

We match 1😇🥰👌👍💜🌌 🤐

[@405OKCShiningOn]

7:00-8:30 i noted that love was a very new topic pushed on pple void of agape to begin with. I laughed at love concepts givrn to me in my 20,30s, in a artistic sense. I chose to have a experiment and see how guys of my Era act. The trajectory of writing is aligned to your findings too. Great talk to explore this geowing changing roles pple play in relationships. Marriage is not smart today, it no longer protects women and men get too hurt all because our parents had these very unhelpful ideas for how to live for just 20-40 of procreation years. Such a unplanned life and a unhappy set of precarious roles to try to fit that don't fit.

[@TheOdenwryNetwork]

It doesn't protect women? In America it does. All the rules favorite the women. Childsupport, custody, alimony, 50% of possession.

[@405OKCShiningOn]

@@TheOdenwryNetwork but I see that. Ive met, helped, and pulled several men towards better lawyers, money to help them...whats was done to boys and men is wrong too. its no ones fault, we are living thru experiments on our lives in each nation. we are living thru so much change. i support Teals work and I hear you, I believe you and Im aware of it all. you are saying important things I affirm. what about the times the system sets women and men agaisnt teach other? breaks my heart. ...give the nation a decade or two, its all work in good progress. and the law is catching up to how pple are changing their relationships to also then change the courts. when the laws are so outdated, then what? kids? kids are going towards no parents because they are self taught via Tech and are smarter than us, thats the natural progression and how it must be. the younger generation must and did and are taking it farther,, doing it better and just thinking newer ideas. im very old, terrible roles imprinted on me as were roles, ideals and just maladative beliefs forced on men to not have feelings to suffer a great deal. the suffering of men is ignored, called weak, men today are called terrible names that hurt my spirit because its demoralizing them. but im make no sense, i know nothing. all im saying is support to you, support to tealtribe and shes been talking about this topic for a long time. shes aligned with progression and soul development beyond these worlds we live in or are subjected too. always support, care, concern, empathy for men and their plight in all this. Teal knows it all too. Im just thankful to be here to listen to such progression of thought for relationships. give all times a decade or two to shift, grow, change. i didnt mean any disrespect to you sir, I want you to be well, happy, content, living in abudnace, never unhappiness or depression. sir, your a good guy. this is a agape, kind, caring community, be near here. i began with teal in 2013.