These Straights Are Not Okay

[@Quickfire412]

"I hope youre single...not because I'm interested" lol I loved that addition so much

[@UnreliableistYT]

“Yeah, so I, uh, hope you’re single and stuff… -But not because I’m interested or anything!” And here we have stage one; denial

[@ThyLocalBard]

best way to start the video ngl

[@alvis6801]

⁠​⁠@@UnreliableistYTnah who the fvck would want to be with that disgusting guy, I’m 100% Jammi dosen’t want the weirdo, 1 because he’s married to Shaba, and two because that guy is disgusting.

[@yohumanfrisk]

The last part of that quote hit home for me, sadly. . . I'm incredibly insecure. I, too, deserve to be single because of it. . .

[@catluvr2]

I thought I was straight. I was not okay. Now that I know I'm not straight, I'm a lot more okay.

[@AmarisFrede]

Congrats on finding out more about yourself! Glad you feel better. 💖🌼

[@GateKeeper_Systems]

Same

[@Laceration_Gravityyy]

I’m not okay

[@celestialrodent]

i thought i was straight. i was not okay. now that i know im not straight, im still not okay.

[@missnaomi613]

catluvr2 same here!

[@tzisorey]

I'm a man who knows how to sew. And knit. My 6th-grade teacher, Ms McKenzie had all the boys do knitting and sewing, and all the girls do woodwork and metalwork. And this was in the early 80's. She also taught us how to make wickerwork baskets, how to bear-proof our camping supplies, how to decorate chocolates, and how to s laughter a rabbit, dress the car cass, turn it into a stew, and tan the hide. She was the village crazy lady, and we loved her.

[@erinfinn2273]

Gods, I wish all schools had Home Economic classes as good as this.

[@JenSell1626]

We had football player Rosie Grier talking to us about needlepoint and singing “It’s okay to cry!” Never thought the 80s would be LESS homophobic 😢

[@moonlighthowling666]

Honestly, skills like mending clothes, and changing tires should be universally taught but arent simply because theyre given gendered connotations

[@mermaiddiyartist8119]

Great teacher

[@okamiangles7121]

Sounds like an awesome class!

[@carriebryan1211]

My mom cut her hand very badly when a glass jar broke in the sink while she was washing dishes. My dad was in the office, and none of us kids could drive. So, my mom had to wrap her hand in a towel and drive herself to the emergency room. One week later, my dad had a dishwasher installed in the kitchen. THIS is alpha male behavior.

[@hadleyphillips-seatter5975]

The only true alpha male I’ve heard of

[@ClownHoundII]

It actually is! The "alphas" scientist saw were actually leaders of the pack that tended to the young and older wolves by licking wounds, bring food, and huddling them together for warmth.

[@MetalGearsOfThought]

No, that's great, but it's just normal person behaviour. I'm sure a woman would do the same. Does that make her an alpha male? If so, that opens up some interesting questions. I'm just saying, maybe we can dump the whole alpha male thing? Leave it to the podcasters. :p

[@tapijoz]

@@MetalGearsOfThought I guess the point was to show the ridiculousness in those podcasts by asserting actually good quality traits to the description. Also it can heal the term if more common. Good men are out there, make it the new norm. Xd

[@BiDisaster327]

The baby clothes with "Im pro-life, change my mind" is even WORSE considering the "change my mind" guy, steven crowder, abused his pregnant wife before :( These people are the worst kind of human

[@Lee.M.D]

Bro did what?-

[@ard45387]

@@Lee.M.D basically kept her prisoner inside their house. And that's just the stuff we've got on camera. Ex wife now, fortunately

[@Lee.M.D]

@@ard45387 Glad she got out of that situation

[@Sly-Moose]

WHAT?! JEBUS! Time to cut that quote out of my vernacular

[@paulhammond6978]

Is it supposed to mean "I'm a cute baby, did you really want to kill me?" like anyone thinks that would be a good thing to do?

[@paperkay]

What happened? Women no longer HAVE to marry. Men cannot comprehend the logic behind women being able to choose not to be with them, and still choosing not to be with them.

[@kentario1610]

It makes me wonder if they realise this modern world means that women have the choice to marry, ergo did not have the choice to marry back then, and if they care that their "guaranteed wife" may or may not actually have wanted to be with him. They'd be a woman's last resort, not a first resort. Do they want that?

[@IJustAnimateThatsTheJist]

@@kentario1610+ It’s because they romanticize the lifestyle I’m guessing. These kinds of people love acting like reverting to the 1950’s (in terms of standards) would be better than living in the present day; despite most women being hopped up on all sorts of drugs to deal with depression, family molestation being common/openly enabled, and minorities being treated less than nothing. They’re addicted to nostalgia of a time they never even experienced.

[@Tonithemeloni04]

As an AroAce person, I am thankful that 1. I have the choice not to marry 2. I have the choice not to marry these creeps

[@AmaranthOriginal]

​@@kentario1610they don't really care, because they don't *like* women to begin with. They want someone to play mommy for them, but also have sex with them

[@user-blob]

THIS!

[@BryanSchaeber]

Its not "pro life" its "anti choice"

[@Frommerman]

It's pro-slavery unless your plan is to pay people for giving birth. It's called labor for a reason, and they want to force people to perform it without pay.

[@JayLeeBeanz]

@@Frommerman Not even without pay but with hospital costs that could push a US-citizen into debt! If I am forced to give birth, I do not want to PAY 3k on top of having a child I don't want or can't raise. GIVE me 3k a MONTH. And we might talk. That changes the perspective a lot for some parents.

[@jess-mx]

Or anti-abortion

[@LoremIpsum-dp1li]

Or pro-birth.

[@ard45387]

I think the message on the baby's clothing is supposed to mean the baby itself is an argument against abortion, and then the message somehow falls even flatter

[@jamesnelson6656]

Has anyone seen the news about the father with a history of domestic abuse being arrested and sentenced to only 6 years for punching his 2 year old son for thinking he was gay for playing with dolls?

[@unknown_kabashi]

The kid is 2 and that's the dad's response??? 😭

[@Rachel_M_]

Saw it on a a court channel with judge boyd

[@unknown_kabashi]

@@S-yj2eh I- the kid is 1, he doesn't know what being gay even is. The father is obviously assuming and not being logical, like 1 year olds are still blabbing not speaking in full blown sentences

[@Rachel_M_]

​​@@S-yj2eh long story short, thought his 2 year old son was going to be gay because he played with a doll once so he tried to beat the gay out of him. Easy to find on one of the court channels with Judge Boyd. You can hear it straight from the horses mouth.

[@Lunar994]

​@@S-yj2eh There really is no difference between the two.

[@Mz_jazzy]

On the one with the 1 yr old: That is a child, that is literally a baby. If you have a problem with a child that likes colors, food, and a cartoon, you don't need children. cishets please for the love of all that is holy STOP SEXUALIZING CHILDREN!!!!! >:(

[@ard45387]

@@Mz_jazzy the part about sexualizing a baby eating a banana made me throw up in my mouth

[@msmorbid2903]

for real that baby doesn't even know it exists, it's got no concept of anything other than "this feels good/this feels bad", wtf is the father even talking about 😭 (sorry completely unrelated question but do you say "it" for a baby or would you say "they" if you don't know/don't wanna specify the gender? I went with "it" bc in German the grammatical gender of the word "baby" is neutral so we use "it" but then when I typed it out I became unsure 😅)

[@moonflight3806]

@@msmorbid2903 honestly I’ve seen/heard people use it or they for babies, technically they is better since it is primary for objects, but people use “it” for babies and no one cares too much.

[@msmorbid2903]

@@moonflight3806 thank you! :)

[@moonflight3806]

@@msmorbid2903 you’re welcome!

[@TransDragon]

My mom proposed to my dad in 1988, this is not a new concept. My dad loved it and said yes. They're still happily married.

[@BeautyMonster1000]

That's so sweet!

[@inconsistentlysleepy]

The fact that I had to read this twice to understand what was "wrong" with this

[@Finn4thewinn]

I love that for them! So cute! I wish people would romanticize women proposing to men more, its so wholesome

[@theofficialgoofygoober]

That is absolutely adorable, As a man not interested in marriage myself, but also having a girlfriend (we're both not all that interested in getting married,) honestly, if we did ever want to someday and she proposed to me, I'd probably melt where i stood. I am so happy your parents found love with one another in a way that doesn’t care about stereotypes, just pure, true love. Absolutely adorable. ❤

[@AnnaMno1]

1988 would have been a leap year, so I wonder if your mum did the proposal on the 29th of Febuary? Since there's actually a thing for that as well. "Bachelor's Day, sometimes known as Ladies' Privilege, is an Irish tradition by which women are allowed to propose to men on Leap Day, 29 February, based on a legend of Saint Bridget and Saint Patrick. It once had legal basis in Scotland and England" Though I have a feeling the person complaining wouldn't have cared even if it was the 29th of Feb that they saw the women proposing, and ultimatly I believe in a 'To each there own' kind of mindset. So whether it tradtion or not, so long as the people involved are okay with it then it's fine

[@theonlyaprilfunk]

It feels like the father who thinks his baby is gay hasn’t been around any other babies other than his son. All those reasons are just kids being kids.

[@missnaomi613]

Exactly!

[@mydiamonds8912]

The father's whole mindset is so disgusting...I hate when people attach sexuality and/or romantic feelings to a child

[@auntbee6993]

It sounds like he shouldn't be allowed around kids tbh

[@Tustin2121]

Makes me wonder if the guy is self-hating and projecting hard.

[@evanwoodward6376]

I’m Schrödinger’s bi, I’m both okay and not okay at the same time.

[@timothyisstupid]

You're Okay'nt

[@evanwoodward6376]

@@TLM860 Though, I doubt most straight people are as bad as these reprobates.

[@FrozEnbyWolf150-b9t]

The way I see it, bi is always bi, even if in a straight relationship. Because the same is true for aces.

[@SarastistheSerpent]

Relatable lol

[@brodericksiz625]

I've seen so far that, even when in straight-coded relationships, queer people tend to be less toxic about gender roles than straight people. This is, of course, a generalisation

[@tracytigress]

This "hating and/or not wanting anything to do with your spouse" humour is so weird to me but it seems to come from presumption that you grow distant through the years of being together. Been married to my husband for 13 years, and my family finds it strange how we "still" prefer to sleep in the same bed (we push the single guest beds together when we visit, since we like watching funny vids together before sleeping), share a giant duvet and happily spend a lot of time together without either feeling like it's a chore. At least they've finally stopped trying to milk out some tea from me whenever we visit, as if it's a given I'd like to complain about my husband when he's not around.

[@waffles3629]

Yep. I'm not married, but I've been with my partner for 8 years and we still love each other. We don't share a bed, but that's cause we don't share sleep schedules so it works better for us.

[@RAHelllord]

It's mostly a societal pressure thing where young adults get forced (sometimes more or less literally) into a marriage the moment the law allows them to in order to keep the social standing of the involved families intact. Usually this is in heavily religious or otherwise conservative areas and in most cases neither of the kids / young adults were given any say in the matter. They fooled around for a few weeks because hormones and exploration? Family of the girl thinks she's now a broken product and won't be able to marry another decent guy, family of the dude thinks he sullied the girl unless he marries her ASAP. If neither of them agrees to the marriage the kids will get disowned and the families shunned for letting the kids on too loose a leash and not raising them right. Boom, resentment for the rest of life because divorcing would remove them from all support structures, and if they want to appear as a "good" family they'll have to bear it. While that's mostly a thing in the deep religious south of the US, parallels to it exist pretty much anywhere christianity left its mark. Often this just manifests as a "everyone else is doing it, my parents did it and they're pressurine to do the same so they can get grandkids" but the root causes are often similar outside pressure making people think they have to do it or else they're not real adults.

[@myself0510]

I don't sleep as well alone. I'm used to falling asleep alone due to a schedule difference, but it's so much better once he coesm to bed and spooning happens (either direction). My parents have a double bed for us, not a king size. I offered to sleep somewhere else, husband refused.

[@suchnothing]

@@RAHelllord You're definitely on to something there. I think some of it is also left over from previous generations who HAD to get married to live independently. People bring up that women couldn't open their own bank account and whatnot (very true and gross), but a lot of men were also trapped in their family's household until they married and there was immense pressure on them to get the hell out (obviously not as bad as women having no rights but still a big piece of the puzzle). Men and women alike were desperate to marry anyone who seemed remotely acceptable just to get out from under their parents' thumbs. The statistics of older boomers and people from the generations before them are that the vast majority married someone they had grown up within a 10 block radius from. They basically got hitched with the first person they met who didn't make them want to barf, and with divorce being almost impossible to secure, they just had to put up with each other if they weren't compatible. So yeah, hating your spouse was very normal for a long time, which is where so much of that humour originated. And then the humour gets passed down the generations so that people think it's still normal to hate your spouse even though they're no longer obligated to marry someone they aren't compatible with, or to marry before they're ready. So they go ahead and get married just because one side wants to, or because they've been together for a certain amount of time, because they don't think that maybe they could be unmarried, or marry someone they don't hate, instead.

[@rebeccawiens4224]

You and Shaaba help me so much with your videos. I'm autistic and physically disabled, so it can be really hard to work up the motivation to do chores around the house. It all feels so overwhelming until I say "I can clean for one Jamie/Shaaba video" and it makes it feel much more manageable.

[@zakuraRabbit]

With the "the baby is gay" story I can already tell the mom is more loving than the dad making the kid like her more... Just based on the fact that he gets upset about the most random bs... Kids aren't gonna like the parent who gets mad when you're eating a banana.

[@suchnothing]

Fr, that baby is probably a bit scared of his dad, because his dad is probably unpredictable and chaotic. Babies begin modifying their behaviour VERY early in their lives to appease adults and avoid negative reactions. Mum holds him, reads to him, and feeds him (there's no way dad does any of that since it's all apparently "gae"). Dad gets angry at seemingly random things, like biting a fruit, pointing at a picture, touching a common object (lipstick), or looking at a flower.

[@leviholt4557]

When my daughter was one her favorite color was orange too. It's a very eye catching color for little ones

[@hyenacub]

It's my favorite now, as an adult!

[@auntbee6993]

My prom dress was bright orange lol I looked like I came straight from a hunter safety course😂

[@hyenacub]

@@auntbee6993 I bet it was amazing XD

[@GremlinCreations]

It’s been my favorite color for my entire 30 year life! I called orange a “happy color” when I was a kid

[@ChronicNewb]

Apparently I loved blue as a baby because my parents said I was mesmerized by jeopardy (in the 90s)

[@RiveroftheWither]

I can confirm babies and toddlers go through parent favoritism phases. My nephew was all about his mom for the first year and a half, to the point he would have a big fuss if he had to have any one on one time with dad. Now hes 100% team dad to the point only dad can put him to bed, why? Because he has a racecar bed and dad makes better racecar noises. Funny little creatures these children are.

[@ladyyoruichichan9006]

😂

[@myself0510]

Well, I'm number 3 on my son's love scale. My dad is 1, my mum is 2, his dad is 4. I brush teeth better and Daddy does story. I'm better at school pick-up because I'll let him do "silly walking", as in not go straight home. Daddy is the computer person.

[@asthejayflies]

i dont remember where, but i heard that kids arbitrarily choosing a favorite parent has a neurobiological / evolutionary reason - in the event of a life threatening emergency, it’s more advantageous for the child to have one parent to run to for help. wasting time being torn between who to run to could cost them their life in that situation. So thats why kids pick favorites for completely arbitrary reasons

[@myself0510]

@@asthejayflies that's super interesting! I'm not sure how my teeth brushing skills would save my son, but I'm the designated teeth brusher. Daddy is the designated "get changed" nagger.

[@Smogget]

That dad who thinks his 1 year-old is gay is not just toxic, it's frightening. His wife needs to take her son and run and that man needs to be put on a watchlist.

[@meepmoopiethe3rd]

I work in a small southern american town, which means having to deal with a lot of The Straights. But one of the guys (25) was talking about how his wife is away on business for the next 6 weeks and just kinda being sad. And like 6 of the older (45+) guys jump in and start saying how he's free and unburdened and can walk around nude and play CoD all night etc etc etc. And this dude is just like, "Yeah, I guess," and one of the chicks in the office (who's about 40) comes up and goes, "You miss her, huh?" And homeboy starts tearing up and saying she's never been gone this long and she's like 500 miles away so too far to go visit. And the older guys are on about how they wish they had his problem, where the woman consoling him was assuring him he's a good guy and saying she wishes she'd have found someone that caring when she was young. So yeah. Sometimes the straights are ok. And sometimes they're like my older male coworkers who view the women who bore their children as nothing but a nuisance and a maid.

[@Lemellowfellow]

1:59 Jammie not knowing what cooked meant was so cute (and British)😭

[@raineypupper]

I remember being forced to walk at a pro-life rally when I was 4. It was a frigid, rainy day in March and I had to stand in a muddy field without an umbrella for hours. My legs started to hurt so badly that I began leaning on my dad. He got annoyed, so he quickly stepped aside, allowing me to fall face first into the mud. They really don't give a shit after you're born. They made me go to those things every year until I was in high school... and I hated every moment of it every time.

[@angelcollina]

😢🫂

[@joypomeroy1452]

You're right

[@rauhillah3884]

When Jamie saying "Whenever something fun happen, she's the first person I tell, whenever something bad happen, she's the first person i go to to support." Its stir something inside me, a simple happiness can give you unexpected amount of hope to look upon.

[@jamesgoodwin1741]

1 year old: *eats food* dad: "stop letting him be gay"

[@UnreliableistYT]

They’re putting chemicals in the cereal that are turning the friggin kids gay

[@cryochick9044]

​@@UnreliableistYTTHE CEREAL HAS RAINBOWS

[@Sly-Moose]

@@cryochick9044"It's all those dang Marshmallow Froot Loops!" Me: Fine. More cereal for me 😂

[@Justlurkin_lol]

The idea of men replacing dating women with dating robots just highlights the fact they only see women as objects to be owned, used, and potentially replaced once it degrades and the new shiny one comes out

[@DanielFinn-l5q]

I hate how so many people (usually straight men) feel entitled to a relationship simply because they’re successful. I know at least I’d die before I sold my heart away

[@AlastorsShadowDemon]

And then, if a woman does marry them for their money, they still get mad. Women are gold diggers, b**ches and various other things. 🙄 You can’t win with some of them.

[@Mark-qj6fx]

The assumptions made by the father about his year old son say way more about the father/ husband, certainly, than the child and he needs to confront his own demons, whatever they may be.

[@jayfalcon-rw3qc]

He's gay. The husband, not the kid. He's paranoid it might be genetic

[@Toni-lo9ms]

17:52 that dude is assigning sexual thoughts and feeling to a literal BABY. Not only should divorce be the mom's first priority that man should never be allowed near a child.

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

That dude falls into the same catagory of men as those that think breastfeeding is gross because only guys should be touching a woman's boobs with their lips. These guys were clearly abused and damaged as kids and it shows.

[@dietotaku]

jamie i gotta say, as a woman married for 12 years next month... i want that bed. not with the electric fence bit, but i like having my own space to sleep and my husband likes using me as his personal body pillow =__=; i have spoken to many women who have saved their marriages from irreconcilable resentment by straight up sleeping in a separate bed, whether to maintain their own personal space or because he snores or because they just have dramatically different sleep schedules. we don't need to feed into the narrative that a couple must share a bed in order to have a happy, healthy marriage :)

[@undefinederror40404]

While yes, I agree with your point, the original joke of the post was placing an electric fence specifically. The joke was harming your partner, so I think Jamie was right that it's awful. But yeah there are fine reasons to sleep seperately

[@jess-mx]

Yeah I feel you, if I'm ever in a long term relationship again I'm insisting on seperate bedrooms. I'm too light of a sleeper and sleep is too important for our health to sacrifice it over social norms

[@cryochick9044]

It's the electric fence and hating each other that does that If any if y'all know Rooster Teeth, Jeremy Dooley and his wife never sleep in the same bed together. She's a loud sleeper and he's a light sleeper. He literally can't sleep with her it's not an issue, the issue is the joke if HAHAHA hate my wife. Jeremy never makes those jokes.

[@YellowFreesias]

My husband can't sleep without the radio or TV on, and I need complete silence and dark - but we 11/10 respect each other. These one note boomer jokes are so 🙄🙄🙄

[@elaexplorer]

This bed is actually so that unmarried dating couples can share a bedroom without worrying any hanky panky is going on. It's from an Amish type community, don't know if it's specifically Amish though.

[@friendshapedbees]

Backstory for the Olympics proposal: The woman in the image had just broken a world record for her event and had promised herself beforehand that she'd propose if she succeeded in breaking the world record. I thought it was incredibly sweet.

[@cherylfeather9408]

The divided bed is called a courting bed, it is used by the Amish and others for engaged couples to sleep together without allowing sex. It seems to be to give them private time to talk or get use to beingtogether. An odd old custom that came from the Germanic areas of Europe and has ties to old Jewish customs as well.

[@Star1412s]

Probably better than the custom where they used to let an engaged couple sleep in the same bed the night before the wedding. The catch was they pinned the sheets around the man so there wouldn’t be sex early.

[@mayonasepizza]

I dont even think im okay, I just watched a documentary on Nazi treatment of gays, i dont know why i do this to myself, it never fails to bring my mood down.

[@erinfinn2273]

I send you comfort and support. If I could, I'd give you a hot chocolate and a pastry.

[@jayfalcon-rw3qc]

Look up the Nuremberg trials, and hope you feel better

[@domodesu5932]

Why is sewing still a stereotype for “womanly duties”…. as if people don’t throw that shit out and replace it the next day with the same thing

[@Sly-Moose]

But the moment that man becomes a tailor, *oh THEN it's masculine!* 🙄🤦

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

@@Sly-Moose Someone told me if the skill can be turned into a job that pays money THEN its a men's job. It's only the women's if its free. Not sure what messed up generation that came from but it sure as hell wasn't mine(Gen X)

[@Sly-Moose]

@@starscreamthecruel8026 Also them: "Men shouldn't be nurses or professional figure skaters!"

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

@@Sly-Moose Yeah its a weird standard.

[@alexdavidson7498]

What happened is that women no longer need men in order to get bank accounts. Also, marrying for reasons other than reproduction is relatively new.

[@milabirch7356]

obvious misogyny aside, I can't help but wonder what percentage of men get married just because that's what's expected of them. CompHet applies to more than just orientation.

[@DeRien8]

CompHet combined with a heavy dose of religious guilt meaning that marriage is the only acceptable outlet for sexual desire. Plenty of people that don't really know each other, but are just horny and want to have sex, just have to get married. And then later, they end up with a messy or strained relationship because one or both no longer wants the other. Frequently straight men given differences in expectations of sexuality, and an often higher value on sex than love compared to their partners

[@AstronomicalJelly]

amatonormativity is one hell of a thing

[@FunkyLittlePoptart]

What's expected, and what's supposed to be easier. They're all raised to believe a wife will do all the chores, and when they get the certificate and realize she absolutely WILL NOT put up with him being a lazy dog, then they get mad because none of them have listened to anything women have been saying since the 1970s.

[@mackiephoenix]

My folks were always so supportive our expressions, identities and preferences and that really helped us grow up a lot more open minded and accepting. The freedom I got from being able to be true to who I am was such a liberating feeling. I love watching you as I get to learn a lot more information that has been so lacking in my life and also have a lot more information and understanding of what my friends have had to endure simply for being them. I also see a lot of antiquated and misogynist treatment in the area I work in sometimes and its truly heartbreaking people still cling to such a skewed mindset of how heteros should be, act and behave etc. AHHHHH

[@ttintagel]

My parents had the exact same size feet, and it was super convenient. He worked odd hours and never had time to go shoe shopping, and she could just pick up an extra pair of sneakers for him whenever she saw them on sale. He loved it!

[@EnbyCatboyGF]

I actually have a story my girlfriend told me. At her work a woman and her husband came up to her, the woman spoke with her and then turned to her husband and asked if he could go get some clothes for their children from the store while ahead talked. After she gave him the measurement and he left, the woman turned to my girlfriend and said “I gave him the wrong measurements so I can get mad at him later” implying she did this on purpose to say “you never listen when I talk to you.” All my girlfriend had to say to me after she told me this story was “why are straight people like this?”

[@hyenacub]

I can't understand why you would out and out lie to someone, much less someone you love, with the sole intent on making them feel terrible. How can you love someone and want them to be hurt?

[@Shade_Dragon]

That's expensive... also the kids will be wearing the wrong clothes... that's so toxic.

[@YellowFreesias]

That's toxic BS 😮

[@missdarque]

Gaslighting alert! Ugh

[@kristin4160]

While that's not a healthy thing to do, why doesn't he know his own kids' sizes?

[@Yenboy-x4j]

Recently my mom just said that queer people don’t need equal rights Idk how to feel I’m bisexual gender-fluid. ( she knows I liked a girl once but she seems to FORGET?) In a country where I have 0 rights Hope everything is going to be okay

[@angelcollina]

🫂

[@love_life_leafeon5955]

Nope. Glad I quit it.

[@Yell0wStarbvrst]

Same here

[@Lexicorn52]

Yeas!

[@Funnywolf394]

Based being straight was boring

[@OzzyonStrobber]

For realll

[@love_life_leafeon5955]

Ikr like being a straight guy is just like nowhere near as fun as being a lipstick lesbian

[@Kattlarv]

I can see the utter irony of that shirt. Like, the parents ignore the kid as it lay there screaming it's lungs out. While they occasionally yell at the kid to shute up. Then return to saying how they are SUCH good people for endorsing child abluse.

[@errantwinds-up8uu]

I like that that one guy seems to think dishwashers are a brand new invention or something.

[@zefiro6829]

As a heteroromantic asexual (but really just a person in general), I watch AreTheStraightsOK videos and breathe a sigh of relief my life circumstances didn't have me end up being featured in them. It's one of those "I know I'm not a bad person, but what if...?" scares.

[@starscreamthecruel8026]

Gah. As an Aro/Ace(who grew up wondering why everyone in the world was a sex addict), I've only ever had ONE relationship with a guy. I call it my blip, where the rest of my sex hardware had a day where everything was suddenly online and it just latched onto the nearest target it had made a connection with. Started puberty at 9, first and only relationship at 20. Eighteen months good, the rest hell on Earth and nearly lost my life. After, I got diagnosed with BPD, found out I had an underactive thyroid(Lack of sex drive well that explains a lot) then went on to develop inflammatory Breast Cancer where the meds eventually killed it dead and probably made me infertile, the universe kinda underlined the: Na, you're not having kids and that's final, idea :)

[@5PctJuice]

Not only do children go through phases of preferring one parent to the other, there's a decent amount of research showing that in homes with a mother and father, infants form their first attachment to mom because she's usually more involved in the very early care of that child. So a 1-year-old being more attached to his mother is not only not a sign that he's gay, it's actually something we would completely expect to see!

[@Cr3Ek_l0v3R]

"A rainbow on clothes!? NOOOO!" "That girl will marry he"

[@1st1anarkissed]

"Guaranteed a wife?" What? Forever single has always been a status of many men in a community. This is one of the causes of war.

[@dietotaku]

literally and if the "young cute women" were marrying the fugly losers then who were the overweight single moms marrying? and who was marrying the fit hotties with money? this dude is literally just mad that he doesn't get a bangmaid as a participation trophy for being alive. you're not entitled to a wife because we don't need a man to survive. if cis-het men need a woman to survive then it sounds like we've figured out who's actually the weaker sex, lol.

[@cryochick9044]

Also 50 years ago women couldn't open a bank account My grandma couldn't manage money as a young adult. Most of our grandmothers couldn't. Assholes got a wife cause women had no choice. It's why divorce rates for older generations have skyrocketed

[@FunkyLittlePoptart]

Ah, yes. The age-old male prerogative of taking out their unhappiness on a strange woman. Invading a country to "acquire wives" isn't marriage- it's long term kidnapping and mass grape. Quit talking about it in a way that privileges perpetrators of assault.

[@elaexplorer]

Right, so many men who were on the lower end of the social scale didn't get married and lived out their lives as the groundskeeper or such

[@ttintagel]

It has always been a status of many women, too.

[@calamityjean1525]

Regarding the man who thinks his one-year-old son is gay for stupid reasons: If the boy's mother doesn't want to divorce immediately, she needs to be very alert for any indication of physical hostility by the father toward the son. Badly misinformed men like that father have been known to abuse their sons, sometimes to death. Mom needs to be prepared to flee with her son at a moment's notice for the next eighteen years.

[@coasttocoast2011]

If you breastfeed your child, then while you are breastfeeding of course you’re going to be the ‘favourite parent’ but once they get older and interact with the world more it’ll change

[@jacquelynsmith2351]

I proposed to my husband. I knit him a sweater, put a ring pop and note in it when I folded it, and put it on his office chair. I also planned the upcoming honeymoon. His parents follow a very traditional religion, and my dad was raised Catholic, and they all think it's great. Well... my dad thinks the ring pop was weird, especially since it was a skull-shaped Día de los Muertos ring pop that my friend gave me for the occasion, but we're weird, so it worked.

[@Shade_Dragon]

Men in the military used to get a ration of wool instead of socks because they were expected to know how to knit. Gendering preparation of food and making and maintaining clothes is stupid if you wear clothes and eat food. Now if you're eating clothes and wearing food, that shouldn't be gendered, that should be explained, because now im confused

[@BrighidsForge]

Your definition of "pro-choice" is EXACTLY the same as mine 😎 They "care", but only until birth; it's all about control of women's lives.

[@Sly-Moose]

Wrong word there. Typo 😅 -Prolife- Anti-choise is the controlling one

[@Luubelaar]

"If you're pre-born, you're fine. If you're pre-school, you're f**ked." - George Carlin

[@witchytaedragon]

The proposal is really sweet. Alice Finot finished fourth place in the women's steeplechase final. She said that before the race she decided that is she ran in under nine minutes (because nine is her lucky number and her boyfriend and her had been together for nine years) then she would propose. And she did. She didn't even have a ring, she proposed with an Olympic pin.

[@AzureHart]

I am a woman that cannot sew or knit. Woe is me! Bless their hearts and very narrow view on gender roles.

[@ErisIsAnAbomination]

The thing with the “change my mind” crowd is that you literally CAN’T. They’re the type of people who only invite you to debate so they can block you out, shout over you until you give up, and then take you walking away as a sign they “won the argument”. The only way to win their game is to not play at all; your life will be better off if you just refuse to engage and ignore them.

[@thegrinchsendshisregards3542]

THIS!!

[@Livixen]

The only issue with the Olympic proposal is I hope they agreed beforehand because he could feel pressured into saying yes because of the crowd

[@CrissaKentavr]

We usually ask where 'the last' went because we misplace the last coke, candy bar, etc into the fridge or pack lunch instead of the shelf where the box goes. There might also be another new box waiting to be brought in from the pantry!

[@naonao9528]

My cousin, his girlfriend (now wife) and I all lived together when I was in college. We all wear the same size shoes and it was iconic.

[@markstanley6565]

On the men with beards as a comparison to women with makeup, I remember someone created a meme making exactly that point, showing Rhett McLaughlin with his long curly hair and full beard (giant handsome lion of a man) and a sad-looking Rhett with short hair, photographed immediately after he shaved off his beard for a part. (Still handsome but much more ordinary-looking, with a less prominent chin.)

[@fionnaandcakecosplay]

Omg yes Rhett is the perfect example

[@diveblock2058]

yeah beards are just cheating

[@ReaderInSeattle]

That "gay" baby post... wow. Yeah, that dude should not be responsible for raising a kid. Re: the "I hate my wife" trope, I remember attending a cis straight couple friends' wedding about 10 yrs ago. The groom was the youngest of 5 kids by quite a gap--I think his next closest sibling was about 8 yrs older--and all his older siblings (2 brothers and 2 sisters) and their spouses gave little speeches offering advice for a happy marriage. Basically they were all saying, "never argue with your wife," and "just say OK to whatever she says," and "make sure you've got a place to hide when she's in a bad mood," blah-blah-blah. My friend, to his credit, said, "my partner, and now wife, and I actually talk to each other about things, and make decisions together, and like each other as people," which got a mix of cheers from the younger crowd and derisive chortles and snorts from the older people. I think this is mostly just an older generation belief that men and women are just soooooo different and can't possibly relate, and you get married to whoever you can because you have to, no matter how unhappy you'll be. It's really weird, and I'm glad to see it's getting less common, and rightfully mocked! Oh, and both of those older brothers have since gotten divorced!

[@NightItselfSince0000]

If you think ANYTHING even REMOTELY inappropriate or s3xual when you see your CHILD doing something, that child should be taken away from you. Change my mind.

[@gramathy999]

I'm straight and I'm not okay but it's not for ANY of the same reasons these people are Not OK

[@wormsign2637]

I really don’t get why certain guys marry a woman and then just endlessly complain about being married to a woman. You fully consented to this and likely are the one who moved the relationship forward. If they hate it that much why don’t they get a divorce? Or even just marry a guy, they sound like they’d be happier that way.

[@raelogan]

As a cis woman who has a US Size 12 in women's shoes, I honestly feel bummed out whenever people act like women can't have big feet. I've have bigger than average feet since I hit puberty early in high school, and I've always been self conscious about it. That said, I've noticed a wonderful increase in quality cute novelty socks in my size these days that I can finally buy off the racks without being a special order, and my Mom theorizes that it's because the median measurements of womens feet, thanks to our lovely trans sisters, has led to a shift in the market, and I'm all for this. EVERYONE deserves access to quality cute novelty socks and fun shoes that FIT. We all deserve the clothes we want.

[@joysjourney19]

growing up by mom always played the game of asking questions She knew the answer to just to test if I would be honest. The problem came in when sometimes she would ask me a question of what happened to something and genuinely I wasn’t the one who ate it, or moved it or whatever the case may be. But she never believed it, and to this day a lot of my family labels me as a “liar” because of my moms games that she would play. She still does some extent, but not nearly as much as I was growing up.

[@MizTameRumors]

He thinks his 1 year old has a crush on a book character? ONE YEAR OLD. That man needs insane amounts of therapy.

[@Eddysig]

I love how much of an effort Jamie makes to protect our peace. How careful he is with showing us hate. I totally get it man, stuff takes a toll

[@charliemcsa]

The one with the punk guy showing each of their dates I always assumed it was about him getting sober so it's never really bugged me.

[@ThePkmnYPerson]

Maybe that bed divider isn't for couples who hate each other, but couples who love each other and need something to stop them from having too much sex.

[@carolinelabbott2451]

😂😁

[@erinfinn2273]

Honestly, I think it'd be good for dealing with bed-clothes hogs, or chronic tossing-turners.

[@pablopereyra7126]

chastity cage? nah we got the chastity WALL

[@robertabarnhart6240]

My impression when I saw it is that it's a museum piece, featuring a Puritan bed for engaged couples. They would sleep in the same bed, but to show they weren't having sex (or remind them "hands off till the honeymoon!") they would put a rolled up blanket in between them. I guess if you were rich, you could afford a wooden barrier like the one pictured. I don't remember what the tradition is called, something like bundling or trundling.

[@ThePkmnYPerson]

@@robertabarnhart6240 Yeah, that's probably it. 🏹♠

[@gavinisdie]

As a straight man, we are very much not ok

[@xRoseWitchx]

Hi @Jammidodger my friend recommended me to your channel and I just want to thank you for putting out content like this, going through my trans journey has been hard with harsh comments while I'm just going about my daily business but your videos have truly helped me ignore the hate and carry on being me ❤

[@UnreliableistYT]

I’m not straight and I’m still not okay The duality of man I guess

[@GrumpyOldSoldiers]

That husband who is paranoid about his son being, well, I think you said the same about him as I would have. The mother needs to get far away from that man.

[@sunshinesquares]

Two years already!! That’s amazing! Congrats you two.

[@PossumMedic]

2:29 - I'm terrified of marriage! I'm fine with the commitment but wearing jewelry 24/7 sounds like sensory hell! 😅

[@theofficialgoofygoober]

FINALLY. someone else gets it holy shit, I like rings to fidget with, but wearing a ring all the time, or maybe for years/the rest of your life, your body changes a lot in a span of that long, imagine gaining weight or losing it and the ring not fitting properly anymore? If you don't have the extra cash to get it tailored that sounds like sensory hell (not even counting the sensory hell of wearing a ring 24/7 alone, the size changing is just a bonus issue!)

[@vividdreamdiaries]

i wanna get a permanent bracelet instead, if the ring falls off that's thousands of dollars gone

[@Star1412s]

Me and my husband just don’t wear our rings much honestly. It’s traditional to wear them forever, but it’s not required. There’s also silicone rings for exercise or dirty jobs. My mom uses them sometimes since her rings stopped fitting. There’s lots of options!

[@NyizGobi]

My family is cishet except for me and they did a thing where they would try to turn me to the “normal side” I’m nonbinary and attracted to other nonbinary people

[@tacotamer]

straight off the bat, I feel attacked. Big feet = mens feet. I live in Asia, I have size 26 feet and I was told from a shoe shop that they only carry up to size 25 (25.5 in a very small selection) and if I wanted size 26 I had to go to the mens shoe store across the mall.

[@MaryAlice08]

I've been saying they're "pro forced birth" lately instead of "pro life"

[@sharlharmakhis280]

15:50 I can honestly see "why* kidlet prefers his mom to his dad, his dad is *weird AF*

[@hyenacub]

Kidlet! I love it!

[@jaredbrown3726]

People who think children (especially any child being so young) are being sexual needs to be put on a watch list

[@TalonSky]

The "hating your wife" trope is largely rooted in people who grew up religious and married the first person they had sex with, either out of guilt or desperation to have said sex. Not because they actually gel well, and they certainly didn't live together to see if the relationship would be viable first.

[@MadiganinPeach]

The one towards the end about the "gay" baby is genuinely upsetting. Like I had to get up and do a lap around my room from how quickly that turned. Absolutely not.

[@theespers5263]

Dire straights

[@thelESC18]

You win the internet today Well done

[@robertabarnhart6240]

Money for nothing and your chicks for free, I love that song!

[@okamiangles7121]

What if his gf has same size shoes because his feet are small? 🤔

[@robertabarnhart6240]

Or her feet are huge, like mine? I'm a cis woman, but I could probably fit into small-medium men's shoes (I wear women's 11 1/2 wide). But since I'm ace, I don't have or want a bf.

[@elaineb7065]

@@robertabarnhart6240 Cis woman with UK 9-10 feet here so yep, I'm Bigfoot lol

[@thelESC18]

I don't like the whole attitude of "change my mind" And it's usually not worth it to actually try

[@erinfinn2273]

What the words mean: "I want to debate this." What the people who say 'Change my mind' actually mean: "I WANT TO FIGHT SOMEONE! PLEASE TALK TO ME AND DISAGREE SO WE CAN BOTH BE MAD!"

[@iantaakalla8180]

I suppose it is fitting then that those words come from the 2010s, then. An era where we were all expected to engage as much as possible because it was fun and it could lead to communities and it could lead to wacky trends. It legitimately feels that the 2010s, legitimately, was metaphorically a drunken bender that climaxed in the ultimate political argument that ruined everybody involved in the drinking party.

[@AlexQuinn-f2r]

As someone who hasn't been straight or ok for 15 years at least- I am not concave

[@PAN-ickmode247]

I wish that for once the straight would be okay

[@Toni-lo9ms]

There is a subreddit about straights being okay but it does have far less material to draw from apparently

[@beatrixishere]

Me and my wife have the same size shoes. It's super handy. I'm trans btw 😊

[@Toni-lo9ms]

That is handy. Especially if you were together before your transition.

[@beatrixishere]

@@Toni-lo9ms yeah, I'm transitioning now and we've been together for 17 years. So we've always shared shoes 😊

[@jessicaholscher4097]

My late grandma was born in like 1925, so she's old, but she's not like "here's a sheep and a duck for your daughter" old. She was born and lived in America (her mom was an immigrant from Sweitzerland, and I have no idea about her dad's side), and her parents tried to do an arranged marriage, but they did give her two options. She rejected them both and eloped with my grandpa after my grandpa's brother proposed on his behalf. My grandpa was very shy, apparently. My grandma first tried to get his attention by stealing his wallet while they were picking berries. She figured he'd come demand it back, and she'd get to talk to him, but he was too scared, so she had to go back and be like "here's your wallet."

[@drago3036]

Awn, so cute

[@callisto5097]

5:32 I laughed a bit at the idea that an American entertainment TV program can apparently change all of Western society

[@redjaw751]

As someone who has a beard to hide the fact that I have basically no chin; you're not wrong, but it still hurts to hear it out loud.

[@j.apenrose7896]

I was at Church yesterday, and was chatting with a friend and her six month old lil boy. The boy's aunt came over and started cooing over him, the usual cute stuff. And then started talking to him about how HE would get married one day. Maybe the girl wasn't born yet though! But they'd have lots of kids together, etc, etc. I was uncomfortable because, like, dude. He's only just discovering he has control over his hands. Why are you daydreaming about this kid getting married and having babies??? And also I dread that the poor kid will probably be raised in such a high-pressure to get married and settled down environment. (Ace and panromatic myself, so, I felt very weird on multiple fronts.) It was just odd. I don't get it

[@fred2310]

Happy anniversary!! :D

[@nathryl03]

This is your regular reminder that you're all awesome, beautiful and valid little spuds, just the way you are ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Love you all ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@Andrew-h3q6b]

Now I know why I am gay, it is because my mum tought be to cook and sew... And I thought it was because I was given a pink teddy bear. You live and learn!!

[@_silverface]

im queer and im not okay, what does that make me lmao

[@thelESC18]

Still probably more okay than anything shown in this video

[@undefinederror40404]

The norm Ba dum tis 😅 I hope mental health issues in our community stop being as prevalent a they currently are.. :x Edit: before anyone sweeps in with misinformation, mental health issues are prevalent in our community because of the amount of hatred that we either personally face or see in the news. It has been researched, analysis has shown that this is (by far) the biggest cause.

[@AEHelephant]

I proposed to my husband, and bought him a ring afterwards, as my proposal wasn't planned. 🥰😅

[@miniveedub]

Not only were my feet slightly bigger than my husband’s but I was also an inch taller. We connected instantly the night we met and were very happy together for more than forty years before he died. We had pastimes we enjoyed separately and ones we enjoyed together and we looked after each other always. Thank goodness neither of us had that odd mindset about what size we should be or what constitutes male and female roles.

[@CelesteMinerva]

The shoe thing reminded me of these really comfy converse I got because they were a little too small for my husband but not too big for me. We also can end up getting shirts mixed up because we wear the same shirt size.

[@martibee8984]

I'd tell the parents that I don't have to change their baby's mind. Give them at most ten years, and they'll have done it for me. If she doesn't get her baby away from her homophobic husband he IS going to abuse that child in one way or another. He is sexualizing a baby for starters. That is a huge red flag. There's more than one reason why that can happen, but his words make me think this man "likes" little boys, but hates himself for not liking girls instead. Even if that isn't the issue, he will bare minimum emotionally traumatize his son with the things he's saying about him. A lot of men who are that homophobic are not verbally, or physically, kind to their sons. If he gets physically aggressive while his son is still small there's a good chance he'll maim or unalive him.

[@reganregan2760]

I used to watch these and think “I’m straight but I love these videos”, I’m not straight

[@wokecommunist3095]

The phenomenon of weaponised incompetence absolutely baffles me. I've always felt embarrassed about things I was incompetent at, I can't comprehend why someone would want to weaponize it, especially when you consider the fact that class societies are very ableist. You have to be severely privileged to weaponize your incompetence.