Struggling to Accept Life’s Disappointments? (Watch This)

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A woman who wants to adopt her foster baby
A mom in need of boundaries with her irresponsible adult daughter
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[@AliciaMcIntire]

The first guy is leaving things out. He probably went back to her over and over in those 3 years. He needs to own up to his part of this train wreck.

[@erikak128]

Absolutely, how is someone a squatter in your home for 3 years?! He could've filed to legally evict her and had her out of there in 30 days, the Sheriff's dept. will absolutely enforce that. He didn't do it for a reason and got back in contact with her after his move for a reason. Whatever it is, he's getting some sort of gratification from it. Poor guy, but I don't feel too bad for him if he's going out of his way to keep himself in a bad situation 😕

[@jeromehenry4484]

Caller mentioned she is bipolar. Most guys that have that experience say it's the hottest sex they ever had, so that's the hook that makes them come back for more.

[@ninijellybeanie6853]

I can almost guarantee that he is leaving out a LOT of information… selectively. 🙄

[@chancepeace2064]

​@@jeromehenry4484,😮

[@yourgirlfae]

@@jeromehenry4484 yuck, you’re yucky. I bet your kids are embarrassed of you

[@Hen-of-the-Month]

Dr. John's call with Tracy is so heartwarming. She's just lovely and reminds me of my wonderful work mom. We all need those special people to keep us afloat ❤.

[@Cheeseburge40718]

She loves that baby! That’s a beautiful thing.

[@Molly.Blaylock]

As soon as Tracy got on the phone, so did Delony’s Texas accent 🥰. Love it.

[@pimaggot]

😂 exactly I was like their it is yall!

[@sidehustlevikki1066]

Dr. John sounds like an adult kid and you can’t help but love him! I know he keeps the Ramsey solutions crew laughing all day!

[@ChantelBartges]

I love this man !!!

[@Clic03]

Loved hearing from Dr. D's inner circle.

[@mrg-k2r]

i have had numerous disappointments that were more than just trivial--- child abuse by my brother in law, spousal abuse from my first husband, then after he quit drinking and quit abusing me, he was killed in a helicopter crash and i was left to raise two sons alone., then i married a con artist who took all my lawsuit money from my first husbands death. BUT- i hung around for the " rest of the story". through everything, i had 3 fantastic sons. i now have 7 grandchildren. and have been married to my third husband for 21 years now. btw-- all three names of my husbands have been " mike". just a funny side note lol. but i turned to God and feel that God is faithful and works all things together for good.

[@Gina_Marie_Cavazos]

Wow. I'm so sorry for all the heartache you've had to endure. God is so good and I'm so glad you are now reaping the blessings he has in store for you and your family.

[@janethartmannjones4781]

States that have strong tenants rights require legal pathway to evict. Once you let one live in your house you have estsblished a contract. When our kids moved out we had them sign a paper that their tenancy was ended. Lots of back story but it is super wise to take care of yourself. I'm not saying I disagree with these laws, tenants have too often gotten the short end of the stick. You need to know the laws where you live and take care of your family. First caller should have filed eviction papers the day he got divorced and ex wife wouldn't leave.

[@k4xxxminecrafter792]

And I absolutely love John’s honest open candor. We need more people in the world like him ❤

[@larissaalcorn3406]

It sounds like the foster dad never wanted to even foster in the first place let alone adopt. She came to him saying she regrets not having kids. This was his way of compromising with her suddenly wanting kids after 35.

[@jeromehenry4484]

That caller needs to get ready for divorce papers but also ready to support that child on her own. Essentially, she really needs to be serious about holding down that job to have income because her current husband will not be responsible for child support or alimony.

[@donnaallgaier-lamberti3933]

This is right in the spot I am currently standing. I am age 72 with some growing health issues and my husband is age 78 and has cognitive decline, CMT (neurological mobility decline) This is not at all the "golden retirement" we were lead to believe we would be having. Stress, ill health and financial decline as well as our marriage suffering. Yes, it is a struggle to accept life's disappointments.

[@snail2734]

I am praying that the Lord Jesus Christ protect and heal you and your husband and provide you with the love care and support you need. Praying the Lord Jesus Christ surround you with His angels and uplift you and yours and be with you always. I’m keeping you in my thoughts and prayers - my husband suffered mental decline but not as severe as condition as your husband. Sending you hugs & love ✝️💕🙏💖💖💖💖👼👼👼👼👼👼👼👼💕💕💕💕💕

[@2crowwoman]

Donna I’m sorry and going through the same… I’m 71 and my guy is 79.We have both done yoga for years me for 50yrs.We have only been together for 3 years… I have been thinking about calling in to the show because I am at my breaking point. I’m the full time caregiver and just worn out. I have no joy in my life,haven’t seen my daughter and her babies since right after Covid started,because I can’t leave Bill alone because he’s epileptic 😞

[@christiana5757]

@@2crowwoman If you are seeking some kind of sign that it is OK for you to end a relationship that is not serving you... it's OK. You need to see your daughter and your grandbabies. I would be devastated if my mom chose to take care of her new (relatively new in the grand scheme of things) boyfriend and then she herself got sick and had no time left to spend with me and my child! It's so honourable of you to take care of him, but not at the expense of your daughter. Honestly, think of what you would want in his shoes, if your partner never discussed this before he needed this care. You'd never want someone you loved to miss out on their family to care for you, right? I'm sure your husband would want you to enjoy your life and be there for them too. And if he DOESN'T, he's an ass. Make time for yourself and your own life.

[@Phor0phor]

@@2crowwoman sending you a big hug from Oregon. I hope you get to see your family sooner rather than later

[@sunnybeach103]

I live in hawaii and yes the police do absolutely nothing to help. Me my husband and kids were all assaulted in our apartments by other tenants. Thank god they moved out after 2 years.

[@emopalsy]

Praying for this guy, he needs to put his foot down. Physical abuse is never OK, but I think he has more power in the situation than he realizes

[@kellibuzzard9431]

He's as dysfunction as she is, it seems.

[@fullbattlerattle2493]

All he had to do was serve her with eviction notice. 0 common sense

[@Mmmmkaaay]

Men stay because they want a mommy and blow up doll. They will suffer through anything just to have their base needs met whereas a woman asks for a divorce because she wants to grow as a person.

[@sarahp8937]

I'd love to know how Tracey went with her daughter. I don't think John pushed enough that by giving boundaries her daughter will be forced to develop life skills!

[@elaineventer9531]

Zack - what were you thinking... lessons are supposed to be learned and not repeated...

[@batemanlife]

Tell you what doesn't disappoint... John D

[@fh1980ram]

Kelly is a milf.

[@sharonbarlow1506]

She might not be honoring herself BUT she is not honoring their choice they both made prior to this child. How can he be at fault at all to say , my heart has not changed? She knew that from the get go and he should not have to cave because her heart did. Yes she should be honest and tell him but I disagree with Dr John’s take on him if he says, I’m not in!

[@debbieanderson6740]

Thank you to the woman that made the decision to foster. I've been on the CASA side of the equation watching the foster parents falling in love with the babies. Believing they were going to adopt....then the bio family gets the baby back. It is a reality that is tough. Only saying there is no guarantee.

[@vanmamawannabe6360]

That would be gutting!

[@kita3256]

Dr Delony is so easy on the eyes, and Kelly knows it. She was having a little moment 😊

[@kendrarhodes6425]

I think they’re more like brother and sister lol. She keeps him in line. 😆

[@tonyaferguson4838]

He is so, so handsome! 🥰

[@HopLowHops]

On the first one, that is incorrect, in Texas, he will have to legally evict her.

[@stacyhughart9363]

In my state, you have to file an eviction notice. It gives them 30 days to get out.

[@bffoxjr]

Caller 1 is precisely why so many men are terrified of marriage.

[@analogmesaman]

I think portraying the guy as not caring because he doesn’t want to raise someone else’s kid is unfair. He stated his boundaries ahead of time. It’s fair to uphold them

[@kendrarhodes6425]

If they adopt the baby and he doesn’t want to then he’ll probably resent her. If they don’t adopt and that’s what she wants then she might resent him.

[@ChristianOne]

That's EXACTLY why they have to be 100% honest with themselves and each other and sincerely seek a win/win solution that can satisfy them both. They may need to get really creative to do that with this issue and if one decides to sacrifice their desire...they need to be ready to FULLY give it up without regret or resentment. Thus is a cross roads type of issue and it can go many different ways depending on what they each choose, so they better be fully authentic. Any self deception at this point could destroy them later.

[@stolen3moon]

the first story is just.. well, it doesn't sit right with me. first of, this person is mentally ill. why is that not taken care of properly? secondly, why did he get back together?was he leading her on? sounds like he wanted to be in a relationship, then he did, then he didn't...

[@MaryGlover-sx1fl]

It’s not that easy to evict someone who is there. If they have spent one night there or have their clothes there you have to go through the process of eviction. It doesn’t matter if you own the house or you and she are divorced. 😂

[@Mmmmkaaay]

"Second ex wife..." That's all I needed to hear. Why do men monkey branch to a new relationship after divorce instead of hopping into therapy to find out why he chose poorly? Are they really that afraid of eating out alone?

[@arlysanhawk]

Hello from HTX Dr. Delony!

[@feersty]

Today it’s 97 in San Antonio!

[@brandonyzaguirre1476]

John you are awesome!!! I love your show!!!

[@Phor0phor]

He didn’t interrupt Tracy. How interesting

[@Jss766]

Lol it's Jon's family calling in to make a show

[@OlgaSuner-dx7fq]

I respect people from Texas girls are always put together, smell good, have manners and are very traditional reminds me of my country and girls from my place.

[@briannecaswell6204]

In Vegas we hit 118-120 🥵

[@TroubleActual]

Was this on post or civilian cops?? I been through commander's orders also. If you have court papers, she needs to go. Are you a marine?? Holy crap you don't have balls! Yep, you invited the devil and all the snakes in her head to come back into your life.

[@John-du2mq]

Can't believe he even disobeyed his CO for this she devil

[@lsgsrob2102]

For the first caller, if that isn’t a clear representation of why men are not getting married anymore then I don’t know what is. The female 1st primary social order. Absolutely insane that the cops “can’t do anything”. If the roles were swapped, he’d be in prison.

[@jeromehenry4484]

She should already be in prison/state mental facility for 1st false accusation. Just because she has a bipolar diagnosis does not give her the right to destroy a person's reputation and possibly false imprisonment. Caller needs to ask an attorney about pressing charges against her.

[@edenjennings8395]

Does the last call exist in its own post because I would love to share it.

[@InfernoKillZone]

Second caller is a joke

[@tinam761]

Zach … please 🙏🏼 take your safety very seriously. This woman has NOTHING to loose. And that can be dangerous for you. I would not be surprised to find out she will break into your place, damage your car, go to your job and try to get you fired … she do some real damage to your body that is hard to come back from. Consider moving again. Change all your passwords, she probably knows them or can figure them out, change your phone, make sure no mutual friends EVER tell her anything about you. You need to disappear off the planet 🌍 from her. While you are coming out of it, you are STILL operating from the mindset of someone that is/has been domestically abused. 🙏🏼 please 🙏🏼 get the police involved and get a restraining order. Record conversations and take screenshots of texts to help you get the restraining order. Your safety is in jeopardy with this woman. You can not love her enough to make her better. Let her family do that. I hope you find safety and peace soon.

[@hansonallie]

Zack’s ex sounds like a real peach.

[@Mysterious_Moon]

Zach’s has some boundary and self-worth issues. Sounds like he needs to move again… then change his number, change his emails, privatize all social media accounts, tell all his family and family not to tell her anything. WitPro status 💯

[@hansonallie]

@@Mysterious_Moon 10-4 on that!

[@brightpage1020]

111!?!? That's 'spring' in Palm Desert, CA ;) Try 130! I dare you! Good times are sure to be had. *note - visit CA, don't live there these days* We moved away for good reasons ;) So...many...good...reasons. The heat was not 1 of them, because: less bugs! Phew! Weirder bugs, but less of them. For that reason, it was worth it for that decade.

[@TroubleActual]

Guilty conscience?

[@aprilwashington3150]

Tracey (the second caller) is doing the bait and switch and her husband knows it. She's being deceptive every step of the way. 1. Foster to adopt. This was always her hidden agenda. She just waited for the right foster first before saying anything. 2. Trying to emotional manipulate by putting the baby in his arms while the baby is sleep. 3. THEN.....THEN....THEN..... she says, "He doesn't want me to quit my job. I'm not even approaching that [YET]". Any conversation they have is pointless because she's dishonest. She keeps having one more thing up her sleeve deceptively inching him into the vision in HER HEAD. Next it'll be a bigger house, a nanny, a second child, all on her husband's single income. The husband sees it, and THAT'S why he's not for the adoption. She and the husband has already talked about this. She called to ask John how can she get her husband to change his mind, and clearly the husband was willing to consider adoption provided she doesn't quit her job, BUT NOOOOOOO, she wants it ALL HER WAY. If he was my brother, I would tell him to file the divorce papers now because if he doesn't give Princess Barbie what SHE WANTS, he's gonna have hell to pay in that marriage. She's wrapped up in her own little fantasy and he's a prop in it. RUN HUSBAND RUN!

[@DaleRFetz]

Whoa! There is truth on both sides.😮

[@mariscalf2412]

Huh that doesn't say on the bible...

[@brightpage1020]

At least he's not Californian. Right?

[@unknowncomment85]

guy made one mistake - got married

[@k4xxxminecrafter792]

Oh my gosh- I love the Tracy call ❤.

[@seanporter6431]

This is the definition of a weak man, he could have left her but he wanted her to stay.

[@hansonallie]

Addicted to the “crazy”

[@princess199799]

​@@hansonallieaddicted to the sex

[@show_me_your_kitties]

Yes