Men Have a Hard Time Not THINKING ABOUT YOU When You Tell Them This

[@JonathonAslay]

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[@1991windsor]

The fear for me of jumping into another relationship too quickly is getting entangled with another narcissist. Hands-down the worst experience of my life. Anyone that's been through narcissistic abuse will agree that it changes you forever.

[@MiAowWow]

I know exactly what you mean. I prefer being single for life than ever be in a relationship with another narc.

[@honesty247]

Same

[@jadegreen1554]

Apparently one needs to be deprogrammed and go through intensive heave trauma therapy to even have a chance after such experience. Most times people end up either rushing back into another narcissistic situation or so burned they stay emotionally uninvolved either getting into a strange situationship or just stay away from relationships altogether and alienate. Healing after narc abuse is necessary or else one carries it around to everything else.

[@loribatchelder9156]

Yes! I can relate to being forever changed by being in narcissistic relationships!

[@bigmama818]

I completely understand that , I was raised by two narcissists . It was absolute hell .

[@jcool4358]

Men and women are so different, I am always astonished when 2 people do make it work.

[@JonathonAslay]

Indeed

[@lauriemorales7605]

Absolutely

[@motowngirl5891]

Very rare

[@laurielewis3031]

Hi Johnathan, I am 57 today, I was diagnosed with a terminal illness in 2016, with a year to live, I don't act or look ill these days, I'm very active, and attractive, adventurous and avery positive person, I work hard, and have a healthy diet, and a lot of love to give. I'm sure that's why I'm still alive LOL , but I'm not sure how to go about finding a prospective husband to live my life with,. I try to hide my illness, until they get to know who I am first, but still in fear that they will go the other direction. PS, I don't look at my present or my future as.... I am dying,! I look at it as, I am living! 😁

[@JonathonAslay]

Happy Birthday... sending light and love your way.

[@laurielewis3031]

@@JonathonAslay thank you Jonathan.

[@bonnygoldberg5852]

WOW! GOD BLESS YOU!

[@OhioGalReads]

I agree. "In love" is something so indescribable. Once you have it, you realize what you've been missing.❤

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly

[@aurorawalls3177]

Sometimes, showing the love ❤️ for each other is a million times better than all the talking. Mi American husband and I am Spanish (he passed away) and couldn't talk to each other's, but we were crazy for each other more than when we could speak each other's languages.

[@yvettepreen6458]

I have definitely felt that vibration, I met my partner on Match after 4 years of saying I wouldn't do dating apps, things are amazing between us, I definitely believe I have found my soul mate, I have never felt like this before in a relationship even with my ex husband of 25 years, who I had my 3 children with 🥰❤️xxx

[@jenniferl1908]

Wonderful to hear this. You give us all hope. I know many friends who say they never felt connected to their ex spouse who they were married to for 30 plus years.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@labab1048]

Me too!!! But only had 2 kids. Didn’t think this was possible, but it is, we are both 61, we met while both eating dinner alone at a spots bar…amazing connection ❤🙏

[@patriciawhite9509]

My condolences on the passing of your son. I lost my only child 22 yrs ago. He was 4 yrs.

[@agnitagregoire8699]

It's not easy to loose anyone especially a child whom you expect might outlive you. I lost my son 8 years ago. He was 21

[@Joy-mm3cz]

I LOVE this topic. I “like” VERY few people. It’s SO telling. My ex couldn’t receive love. He didn’t like himself very much either.

[@randomreactions16]

I'm a woman and I have a hard time receiving love, but the paradox is that I crave it more than anything in the world. I've just learned through personal experience that whenever the word "love" is mentioned in a relationship, everything goes south. (which constitutes 90% of my attempts at relationships over nearly 50 years)

[@kelligray1848]

I said I like you to my new man and he lit right up. He blushed and said he liked me too.

[@lauranugent9039]

My father was old school 3 daughters 2sons I remember him asking me before he walked me down the aisle I will never forget what he asked me Do you like this man not do y love him but do y like him & he was right…like everything you’re saying

[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*Communication is key, and knowing what impacts a man's thoughts is empowering. Let's embrace this knowledge and strive for meaningful connections.*

[@staywellandstrong4199]

A man who fights every good shining thing about you that drew him to you in the first place ~ is wrestling with his own issues and self worth. And, over time, the closer he gets to your beautiful bright spirit, the more he sees and is frustrated and angered about what he lacks. It's called projection. Either he deals with it, or he stays sorrowful ~ and becomes angrier over time at you for choosing not only his strengths, but especially his broken-ness. No one can thrive in pity due to what's lacking. No one can fix it, but himself.

[@olafriday]

Well said!

[@taleandclawrock2606]

Brilliant insight.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Well said!

[@angelah9413]

It's about personal integrity, and your level of commitment towards the person of interest.

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly

[@jfdrie]

There should be more men like you. I like you , Jonathon! You help so many of us. ❤️

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe... thanks ☺️

[@sherriflemming3218]

I admire and respect men that arent pick up artists. 👍

[@JonathonAslay]

🙏

[@karinesavard2016]

My condoleances with the loss of your son 😢 I lost my dad 2 years ago, now THAT was a very likeable man 🤗🙏

[@angelah9413]

No it doesn't need to be hard work , it's about, like you said... personal comfort in the relationship. Being polite, generally concerned for the other person involved, and fighting fairly without using their past against them. Just saying.

[@LisaGemini]

Exactly, Angela. Tough to find an emotionally mature guy these days, though. I'd say less than 10 percent are out there and still single.

[@sherriflemming3218]

Indeed

[@JonathonAslay]

Exactly!

[@christinan1252]

Well put Angela. I have been married 35 yrs now and me and hubby agree its been easy for us. Too many things in life are 'hard' already. Kindness, being polite and respectful, being generous and authentic with praise and complements go a LONG way. Putting each other FIRST and actually wanting to do so is real, true love❤

[@jenniferangela8]

Definitely experienced the vibrational friction that went from anxiety and awkwardness to super calm and easy on the 5th encounter. We're not dating. He's my mechanic. We have very good chemistry. We've been crushing on each other all summer. He completely changed from his boyish flirting on the first interaction to being a perfect gentlemen now. I think he realized that I am his future wife and is taking it slow. Definitely telling him I like him on the next visit!

[@taleandclawrock2606]

Please update us on your mechanic!

[@jenniferangela8]

@@taleandclawrock2606 still working on his confidence! He made sure my last appointment wasn’t cancelled even though they were short staffed. He did the oil change himself. He got such a rush of energy when I walked in there! I wore my faux leather yoga pants just to provoke him! 😜He’s almost ready!

[@jadegreen1554]

For sure, before telling someone you “like” them, you must really mean it. And if you really like someone, it is so important to still remain unattached about the person until you figure out how much you could really like or dislike everything or the most important aspects about them. Before you could say you like someone, the whole process involves getting past figuring out if the person is someone you can even trust, that is a big segment, values you agree with (they don’t have values that freak you out).

[@saharagold]

You are such a beautiful and articulate soul, Jonathan. Your videos and advice mean so much to us. You express the male psyche so well. Thank you so much for your content. Means so much. You have helped me and many countless other women in personal development and creating positive change forward. Love from Melbourne, Australia.

[@JonathonAslay]

Wow, thank you!

[@tinyproject6388]

I think real love is effortless and unquestionable, while actually there is a lot of spending time together and a lot of effort 🤗 sending You hugs Jonathon

[@JonathonAslay]

Acceptance takes effort because no two people are alike.

[@lc-fu6xy]

Great and timely show today Jonathan! I'm gaining confidence in radical honesty. Also wanted to add that we put too much expectation on approaching men to "flirt." I used to be so shy, but after managing conferences I became very accustomed to speaking with loads of people I don't know. Just go up to the guy and talk like he's your brother. You'll know right away if he wants to continue talking. And if not, no worries. You didn't lose anything by speaking to a cute man. 😉 I think some of us were taught not to be desperate and chase. But I've seen women who go after what they want, get it! Just don't be a stalker 😂

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing...

[@user-neeneebabydoll]

I was in security and there was someone performing that I had to check in at his own performance , and thought he was married like 21 yrs ago, but never was, he looked like he was married because of the way he carries himself as so independent, over the years watched videos of this artist, but compared him to how three people look and carry themselves two being celebrities a COUNTRY MUSIC Star and a movie star. I literally shared with him that he could do a HALLMARK FILM of his life and bringing out his songs into an live experience. Now we are sharing things of a future, I just kept shaking my head over how me and him have in common being the oldest being into moving around and love beaches and tropical places so much, I really was not into hanging out with one bf he really never dated females long terms in school. It's wild how much he now thinks of me, I told him that I kissed Mickey Gilley and my mind thinks of him carrying himself much like Mickey Gilley. If I tell too much of this people will put too much into and realize how he is and obviously know who exactly he is, and it's not suppose to be revealed just yet.

[@janetwebb1507]

Johnathan..Just wanted to mention ur bookcase, displayed books & plant look VERY NICE 👍 Thank You for ur Caring about our Cultural stupidity & need for goid advice in these times.

[@JonathonAslay]

So nice of you

[@libbyfransen7053]

Been recently dating a new person and tried the I like you and it was super nice to hear it back. 👍 But I don't think I could have gotten here without healing my past. I am an empath and those narcissists like me. The last person I dated was one, my ex husband was one, my continuous picking of the wrong guy had me look into why. I took an 8 week class on narcissism and codependency that helped me see what to look for... the terms and tools to assist me. I'm free! I finally got the self awareness and self love to not draw in that kind of person anymore. I took time to heal, year and half of no dating. Met this man through common friends, it's going nice and slow, no love bombing and it feels much different than before. Thanks for the tips!

[@cathyannhill8024]

“ I like you”, means I’m not really attracted to you. Just want to be casual friends. Men and women can carry toxicities including narcissism, ptsd, adhd and others. Yes. For me, ten years in and out of a toxic relationship. The last year and a half i have been healing and in transformation. Loving myself and creating authentic boundaries to separate from this toxic, non committal relationship that is extremely one sided.

[@private8767]

I don't think that is the point Jonathan is trying to make. I guess there are so many factors determining delivery as well as receiving message. I'm just dating and one guy is holding my interest more than others.....when you're new in a "getting to know" status I thi k it's perfect.

[@NDiaz-et6hc]

Jonathon - The Notebook - is an incredible movie. The story is so beautiful.

[@JonathonAslay]

I know, right? :)

[@Fox1nDen]

Back in the 90s l had the sensation of falling into a man's eyes. I was weightless there was no fear. The crush was mutual but he was committed to someone else and stayed with her. I respected that. So a physical response to someone does not mean that much. If you plan a life together you do need to be comfortable with each other. As you explore compatibility, honesty is the key. Just be yourself. Things will naturally progress.

[@glenyshill72]

@Fox1nDen I wouldn't have wanted to have been his partner !!

[@OlderWomenRock]

Yes adults definitely have separation anxiety that’s one reason I find it so hard to let go

[@gailfroelich9633]

You really explained it all. Even he said or relationship goes back to our early connection. We say to each other….no walls between us. I feel glued to hiby a couple different things. Butasyou now, I at ties feel that uncertainty. You have such a level of understanding. I started a new diary, and answering all these things you put forth has helped me. Much love💙Gail

[@eleanorarman6888]

I like you ! I'm learning to like myself at age 65. Low self-esteem.🎉

[@ABRASILERA17]

It only applies if he has a functioning soul, an intelligent heart, a desire to serve and adore you and learn

[@JonathonAslay]

Most humans are hurting on the inside...

[@trishsutterpmp2963]

To be in love you must be willing to make yourself vulnerable to another.

[@OctoberLalique845]

😂😂😂 You're so refreshingly honest Jonathan. I think every man I've ever met was ruled by his little head.

[@JoySpirit888]

When we pass we go to God Amen 💞💞💞💞💞

[@UrsaBella]

Kindness, gratitude, attraction...my recipe. Great video. Vibration and energy are important....feeling comfortable and being yourself...

[@JonathonAslay]

Well said!

[@MariaMedina-lj4kt]

I have said it. Oh, he probably loved it, because it was a boost to his self-esteem, but that was as far as it went.

[@MM-lp3gc]

Jonathan I like you and I admire your honesty. You give me courage to be more open and have these important conversations.

[@JonathonAslay]

👍🏼🙏✨️

[@InDogsITrust]

I have MCS and synthetic fragrances are a trigger -I get physically ill from perfumes, air deodorizers, mainstream laundry products, etc. It’s awkward sharing this info before dates, but if I don’t, many dates would be over as soon as they started.

[@JonathonAslay]

I hear ya

[@GinWenner-kb5bo]

My boyfriend of 2 years who loves me dearly said that recently … I Like you. Totally resonated for both of us.

[@JonathonAslay]

Oh wow!

[@sism3028]

Jonathan, I love listening to You. You are so insightful. Thank you for your channel.

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that!

[@jenniferl1908]

I missed the live but thanks for another great video. I live in NYC and there are tons of men but finding the right fit for me personally is the challenge. I know many single women in NYC who are frustrated with the singles scene. So much dysfunction. I also know so many women who settled and married men for their financial status and lavish lifestyle - they could care less if their husband has affairs, treats them badly, etc. It is sad honestly. Hard to find a man willing to go the distance with you and the divorce rate is so HIGH - I think this is why people remain single.

[@JonathonAslay]

Paradox of Choice is why...

[@jenniferl1908]

@@JonathonAslay do you think people really choose to be single? As I have said it before in some of your previous videos, this is why women put up with bad behavior because we are programmed to accept this and there are more single women in the world then men so we have less options then men. I would imagine that dating is California is much different in New York - people aren't as laid back you guys. New Yorkers are intense - I am being radically honest! That is why I practice yoga - to work on it.

[@JonathonAslayForMen]

@@jenniferl1908 It seems to me humans make a lot of choices based on fear and in the case of choosing to be single, sometimes it's a lack of options.

[@OlderWomenRock]

Isn’t it astounding in a city this size

[@jenniferl1908]

@@JonathonAslayForMen true this is why I know women in uhappy marriage - they can't be alone and are being financially supported by their husband. And choosing to be single indeed a lack of options.

[@melaniegavami7136]

I told him I like him and his style and he told me he likes me too. We have been dating a little over a month. I started dating him two years ago and got spooked. Not him, it was me. He found me a little over a month ago on Facebook messenger and we reignited.

[@ConnieCoerper-jj2xl]

Yes just give a smile say hi. And right. I'm not sure of this machine.... Be honest. And. Basically. Folks. Like. Meeting. Good folks!

[@kimm5555]

I like you.....your real, emotionally intelligent, and yet your still manly. Well rounded!

[@calistew2766]

I agree 6-12 months if you are both ready and dating with intention of a committed relationship but sometimes you meet when one or both aren’t quite ready and because of the unresolved stuff we bring it can take longer to realize its safe to fall in love. You can still love each other through it all though.

[@JonathonAslay]

Love is a beautiful energy and has power to heal.

[@KiKi-te9yd]

Sorry to hear about your relationship J x

[@TheKrispyfort]

Most meaningful partnerships I've had were borne out of established friendships 🙂

[@JayP-kd5rc]

I had said to myself that "I like you" would be the phrase you were talking about before you even said it.

[@JonathonAslay]

👍🏼

[@ellenstern2590]

Everything you've said in all your lectures I've listened to, have held true to the man I was with. One day he got mad at me because he invited me to his daughter's for Easter and that ended the most incredible relationship I've ever been in. I'm so broken hearted. You just reinforce that he loved me. All I can guess is he got afraid. We are both widows/ widowers.

[@JonathonAslay]

Fear is the enemy to love 😔

[@cathyannhill8024]

I am ready for my first date in so many years, I’m not sure exactly how many years that is. My challenge is, the area I live in. Seems that many men who have moved here have some kind of toxicity. I believe it’s called baggage. Jonathon, I have been following you for awhile. Really appreciate your experience and insight with the subject you talk about on this video. Love and hugs to you ❤

[@907patti]

Such good information Jonathon, I've never thought about just saying I like you! How sad is that, lol. I will do this from now on, when there is a guy I like, just saying, "I like you"! Thank you for all you do!

[@JonathonAslay]

Go for it!

[@dreams4real750]

Wonderful video, Jonathon. Thank you for your openness. Yes, cologne and perfume are a big turn off. I get a headache and congested. I always ask the guy if he would mind not wearing cologne for our date.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing!

[@heathermj3620]

Johnathan, you are so strong!!! Thank you for sharing your life and knowledge with us. ❤❤❤

[@JonathonAslay]

You are so welcome

[@alibrough8780]

youre videos are getting better and they're already great Jonathon youre so grounded its fantastic

[@JonathonAslay]

WOW, thank you 😊

[@marybethprocaccini8295]

Didn’t know about your new book. Excited to read it.

[@LBB2622]

Yes, I’ve been there. My husband and I were comfortable with each other from first time we spoke on the phone, it was so easy.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@SuperLiliana1973]

I like you, Jonathon! Thank you for your advices! Greetings from Norway!

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for watching!

[@sharonhazelden5834]

I like you too Jonathan......alot! You talk so much sense & help so many people. I hope I meet a guy like you in the future who understands women & me.😘🤗❤️

[@tinapregelj3730]

Dear Johnatan some of previous videos I didn't like too much, but with this one you hit me. I like it really much. Thank you. 🤗

[@anthoniqueellis5626]

I like your advice and I am learning.Seriosly

[@lindseyray67_76]

I like you! The importance you are to us all. You are more important than you know. Thank you Sir!!

[@JonathonAslay]

I appreciate that

[@melisssturdy9272]

I like you, too , Jonathan 🎶 don’t our hearts expand tremendously, when we lose a child, as I have,as well. Thank you for your sharing and teaching 🎶

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for listening

[@georginafronda496]

👍👍 vibration on point and felt we knew each other. Very relaxed with him and vice versa.

[@TameraEdwards]

I love the notebook! What a great story of true love ❤️

[@liudmilashakurova296]

Hello,I really enjoy your way to be, thank you soo much for many reasons: for showing a very sincere feeling and share these ones with us, to speaking about even delicate things in such a clear way,to wanting to help as much as you can to many of us...I like you indeed!

[@JonathonAslay]

Thank you so much!

[@shonajhunjhnuwala2804]

Wow such true 😮 insight .. about the abandonment factors… (& how we all have experienced it as a child in some form or other in little spots) this is genius 😊 & how it needs us to feel wanted and close in love & life.. always !

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@shonajhunjhnuwala2804]

@@JonathonAslay thanks

[@user-neeneebabydoll]

James Gardner reminds me of my Dad, and his name is Sonny just like Gardner was named Sonny too, but my dad's side of the family was really like the notebook with my grandma having Alzheimer's, after my grandpa died of cherry cement poisoning had cancer spread to his back, drowned in his blood being inside his lungs. My grandma was calling his name everywhere, hanging all the clothes from the closet in her and my grandpa's bedroom our on the fence just a lot of reminders of my dad's side of the family compared to the movie The Notebook makes me want to remember my life as that very same way with someone to be with for the rest of my life , no other way.

[@emacedo3708]

I think you are a boon to us ladies because you remind us about how men think ( I agree with you.).

[@loribatchelder9156]

I have multiple chemical sensetivies (MCS), and anyone wearing fragrance makes me feel sick. This is a major turn-off for me! I feel awkward asking people not to wear fragrances, but I need to advocate for my sanity and wellbeing.

[@bonnygoldberg5852]

I also have MCS. So I can understand what you go through.

[@Doodledo7]

I used to have MCS. You should consider investing a chemical and heavy metal detox. Often MCS is caused by toxin overload. Our soap, shampoos, lotions, candles, air wick, laundry detergent, hairspray, cleaning chemicals, etc. all build up and eventually our bodies say enough is enough. I was healed of it this way.

[@aumlove2542]

I have sensitivity for chemicals/ perfume too and not even my own family, my parents understand/ accept it. Luckily most guys I date are more understanding than my parents ☺

[@aumlove2542]

The people who will not be able to accept/ or be respectful about it when you make your request, then you know where you stand with them. I wish you both all the best 🌞

[@felicitypaulse7965]

I have been listening to your videos for a long time now...i like you 😊 Jonathan!!!

[@theresa9516]

I will tell him that..was an instant feeling there..working with distance but do spend quality time each month..a week or 2

[@eleanorarman6888]

I dated a guy a few years ago and I shared a part of my past . He broke up with just this past month he has reached out to me. He has helped me with small things I needed in the house. I did give him money for helping me. He did come over after I got out of the hospital. And spent a couple hours here with me. But I feel like there's something going on feels like he's ghosting me half the time. He doesn't return tex.

[@lindaalfonso9065]

Felt that comfort and ease. Nice!

[@tharris1923]

Question: I find many people have trouble loving themselves based on the types of low vibrational/toxic relationships they have experienced. What is the best encouragement one can give when that person isn't even there yet? So what's the lead in for them that allows them to begin to evaluate?

[@karinesavard2016]

Cologne or perfume is fine when not too much but natural 'sexual' body odor is the best when selecting a true partner.

[@elizabethcurran-xf7sn]

I love you Jonathan…. as I sit here listening to you…wiping your eyes…talking about the movie “ The Notebook”… I Love your insight, your vulnerability… and I LIKE You.. love your show and your knowledge ❤. Thank you for all you offer us

[@JonathonAslay]

Wow, thank you!

[@elizabethcurran-xf7sn]

Thank you. My pleasure… just speaking my truth

[@JanetTuttle-cb3xx]

I like you, harder to open up to others, not sure what they are going to feel? Your videos really help get things in perspective.

[@MitziaSedras]

Hi Jonathon thank you for very insightful answers and advice. I like that you are so real no pretending or know it all type of guy , but you are wise and knowledgeable. I appreciate your advice and mostly your honesty. One of the things that really puts me off is lies and deceit. I also appreciate the respect you show to everyone. Communication and being real is important factors yes I like that about you.

[@JonathonAslay]

Glad it was helpful!

[@donnaalbertson987]

I was thinking,,, I like him alot before it was mentionrd! Great show!!

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe... thanks ☺️

[@lisabrazell8246]

Yes, I’m sensitive to strong fragrances and perfume. Hairspray, cologne, perfume become activated with sweat at gym and make me move locations.

[@JonathonAslay]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@ronniefalzon5885]

Using your advice…Hi Jonathan…would love to meet you

[@JonathonAslay]

😊

[@kathyduer7108]

I love how blunt and real you are. You are hilarius. 💩 or get off the pot 🤣 I really like you too.

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe... thank you 😊

[@JessicaPolman-i2p]

I don't. I think Jonathon can sometimes he can be highly offensive and misogynistic.

[@eleanormartin6923]

I like you Jonathon- you just get better and better. I like you!! One of your best talks. The Note Book- I loved that movie too. True love. I get teary o all those things too. You are a beautiful human. I wish I was younger as we are perfect together. You a such a gem.❤ On another note, I got back with this guy I was on/off for 6 years. Initially limerance in the 4 catch up meets, however I used this time to heal from upsets when he ghosted me. Surpriseingly he was happy to also discuss. I thought great! Then we had a big day out, ending up in bed yet again but!!!! I queried him over a text about a song he loved. A different drum- Linda Ronstandt…. I said are you suggesting something through this song. Well he got irritated and said I just like the song and this is what I cannot stand how you make assumptions. So now I see if he hates that then he is not accepting me as me. I was stupid to assume etc. Now, I no longer want to see him because if he can’t accept me he can never really like me. He has intolerance… I just let him blow off and think that’s him… still like him wArts and all. So this has been really an eye opener….. he will never change and our relationship has no point. Yet I nursed him through prostate cancer… but i know he would not do as much for me. It says a lot, so I am happy to put him behind me and move on. xx

[@JonathonAslay]

WOW, thank you 😊

[@McCoysOakHillFarm]

Raises my hand I have. It is frustrating when it is all they do. They get upset with a person when you try to get them to think about other things more important in the long run. I agree with the building of the deep roots of trust many will not even work on it. Yes! An emotionally available or grown-up man. A 'real man' seems to be thrown about quit a lot anymore. I feel has negative affect on men in general. I had guys like me on the dating sites. I have asked why they liked me. Some answer and others don't. I am a generator on the human design. I wait for the opportunity to show itself and I make a decision then. Oddly I have done this all my life. I try anything else and it never works out. lol Don't feel bad about the cologne and perfume thing. I am sensitive also and always have been, especially when people wear a lot and it is super strong smell.

[@JonathonAslay]

Agreed

[@deanamcdougall7192]

All in love is when one is week the other one is the whole.

[@melissalindo5186]

Yes hate most artificial perfume on women and men. Sometimes I use essential oil based perfume if I want to smell nicer.

[@hollyharte7831]

Synchronisation was there. It didn't last long though 😢 it is a dilemma. Intentions. Yes 🙏

[@lilywucain8836]

I like you Jonathan. You are a beautiful human being.

[@carlabrotherton7197]

What can i so to help mysel ro be a total receiver of his love,I REALLY LIKE this guy.

[@debbiefrantti6552]

The man im spending time with let me know he can't " get it up" kinda in a rip the bandaid off kind of way. But now i know that's off the table going forward .

[@JonathonAslay]

Sadly, this happens to a lot of men...

[@karenoyama8950]

Yes. I have experienced it! I thought, wow! What was that?

[@alinaavram9945]

You're a wonderful man! I like you! 😊

[@JonathonAslay]

WOW, thank you for the kind words, you just made my afternoon. Much appreciated 🙏

[@user-neeneebabydoll]

The NOTEBOOK TOTALLY MY FAVORITE MOVIE!

[@christilehman-starr4428]

I like this. Think it’s also important to bring I like me to the equation 👍🏼 it’s something I’m presently working on to get to an appropriate place to be in the dating game. Then I will know when I am ready to be a mature partner. 👏

[@JonathonAslay]

Well said 👏

[@karinesavard2016]

Question: do you believe a relationship requires 'hard effort' or can it be effortless? In good times, when it takes a lot to even stay together, imagine hard times (disease, financial downfall etc.)

[@JonathonAslay]

Individual effort is required

[@vamp8903]

That's why the marriage vows include for better or for worse...

[@karinesavard2016]

@@vamp8903 indeed, well said! 🙏❤ thanks for this comment 👍

[@whoekm]

You are the best Thank You so Much Jonathan 🎶🙌🏼🌹 A Big Follower from Greenland 🇬🇱🇩🇰

[@JonathonAslay]

Awe... thank you 😊

[@debbiebrown646]

Johnathon i love how u can show ur feelings ❤

[@robinberry4957]

I like that it’s about like connecting and laughing, and having the same sense of humor. It’s so big for me it’s about wanting to hang pictures on the wall together. It’s about wanting to watch the same type of movies together. It’s about not saying to me oh, how dare you? That was my heart and money after me spending 20 years with him like and getting beaten and cheated on and fed breadcrumbs, basically knowing bedbugs and mice and cockroaches for the first time when the guy doesn’t even do drugs. It’s about being rejected by his family that he brought up from Perú for years, including, and to this day it’s about him going to his ex-wife’s house as if they’re still married for every single birthday party and every single holiday still it’s about the fact that he made me think that my infant son was going to be brought up by a fine stepfather because he acted the part and bought diapers. What woman wouldn’t want that type of thing he would give me money without me, asking him to force me to take money. I didn’t know he was married then he divorce is eight days later he’s kicking me in the back of the legs in the place that we rent the Buffay, open, elderly persons, house and throwing strawberries, and throwing me into the shower, me slipping, and do it on the strawberries, and telling me to clean my Effen mess up like you gain my trust For four years and this is what you do to me? I think if I forget, I forget I forgive and then I find out years later he’s cheating on me and I’m doing the best I ever had in my life? No smoking no drinking no drugs. Nothing kill me. We all grow up. You know at the age of 39 now I’m 47 but I still have people looking at me. But they only want to use me for my vagina and my mouth off most likely my butt because they’re all disgusting pigs, I don’t care what anyone says. If you are into the Internet, you’ve seen the porn and you will be addicted to it specially, if you’re a man and you are single and then you’ll expect your woman to really enjoy being choked by here you know what are you kidding me man? You really believe this in your heart of hearts? Or that you need mental help And then you get mad that a woman turns gay yeah exactly turns gay when they say I was born this way maybe they were but I don’t think I was. I just would rather be with a beautiful woman than an ugly cheating gross beer belly just disgusting man farting bad breath just absolutely disgusting. Just wants to stick the dick in me it’s it’s absolutely sickening to me. All they want to do is use me and then be on dating sites and have 2000 filtered models on their Facebook account not having me on it saying that it’s because, he didn’t want to be associated with the very person that he cheated on me with and spend paid rent like she had a girlfriend like this is just insane. I can’t believe it I can’t get out. He just ruined my credit again by taking all the money out of his pension, he already spent 200 grand all alone when he’s with his Annuity union carpenter all alone in a year I got a Lexus out of it. It was 5000. He crashed it after gambling now there’s a car payment no I’m working two jobs at 47. My son’s father died and the reason why I wasn’t with my sons father because he didn’t want to get married, didn’t want the kid to have his last name, and he was the one that pushed me to go and meet this guy because this guy was I’m not gonna get into it OK I just it doesn’t matter if he was an addict this guy that I’m with that I have a separate room but he just doesn’t he he only get a ream of paper that I need for school to print things out if he wants sex and he’s not gonna get it anymore OK I don’t care if it last two minutes which is great because I can’t stand that you are using my vagina for pleasure and you don’t care about my needs you don’t care about my worries you ruined four of my credit cards, and every card was paid For five years quadruple the minimum and never missed a payment all of a sudden capital one Bam so I’m out of 3300 in school and I’m so in debt working my ass off worrying about the car payment worrying about the electricity worrying about the Internet that I need for my job worrying about Carmen Sherance because it’s Doordash and Brenda secondary job worrying about the Internet because I need it for school worrying about everything financially because I just don’t make the cut I don’t make what he used to make. He would make $100,000 a year and one time $200,000 a year because of overtime where did it go? Where did it go? It went to hookers and gambling and I had no idea and now? If there ever was a good sex life because I didn’t know him and I could do no wrong it’s the worst vanilla sex I’ve ever had in my life and I know it’s still in me even at 47 I still get my period and if I could just laugh with someone watch a movie with somebody but I don’t even care really it’s not my desire I just want my son to be happy I could care less about meeting another human being, male or female, I just want to get right with God I want to get right yes I’ll say yes you are. Yes I will see Jesus Christ because he is coming soon. The wrath of God is being poured out on all these people are robots that just don’t get it they don’t want to know and if they do know they don’t care and I can’t wait and I know I just say I might not go to hell but I’m certainly living a hell and it’s all up to me? Will you try being me wanting to escape being on the section 8 waiting list after being in emergency housing for battered women when my son was two years old now he’s going to be 18 in two months. I’ve been on it for 16 freaking Years. Look at my picture. Can you take a guess why? Yes I will be blunt all of you. Yes I will.