Jordan Peterson: how to spot good friends

[@mohammedibrahim-vl3jv]

If you can't share this video with your friends, this video is especially for you

[@nd3701]

Prolly helped wake a lot of people up. Nice comment

[@therihias9173]

I've only got one friend and this video is why

[@captainswan3079]

♥️♥️

[@eongb7593]

Underrated comment, I just realized that I couldn’t send this to any of my so called friends.

[@vohemiq]

If you don't have a friend whom you can send this, you don't have a friend.

[@taron-armanKasparyan]

After watching this, I found out that I have no friends. Thank you. I need to walk away and find friends

[@smcha4]

be happy that it happened sooner rather than later bro.

[@masterdaveedwards]

You always have a friend in Jesus...He came that we might have life...He is a friend that will be closer than a dear brother if you were so blessed...some brothers are not so special. God's Shalom

[@Galasholet]

I found out how few friends I really have in the most brutal way.

[@budeiri123]

Being alone temporarily beats being with bad company

[@Thesamurai1999]

And ofcourse you also have to be that good friend to your new friends.

[@manishsuvarna6239]

Instead of trying to search such friends, try to be one.

[@MegaUtube99]

I like that

[@ellerylewark4591]

You can do both!

[@MrMctwisted]

That’s actually really good advice

[@geirmyklebust]

My first thought too.

[@Chrispullin_]

Who in the hell search for some friends anyways 😂

[@nixdapogs]

A typical friend that I’ve noticed is that generally, they want what’s best for you... just as long as it’s not better than what they have.

[@lucygoose6237]

Yep

[@j.o6885]

You are your best friend. Sounds scary,it isn't. Its relieving

[@gauravtributes5023]

Simple solution for that is to stop comparing yourself to others. Your only competition is you, strive to be better than before.

[@peacemekka]

I just realised that sounds like me.

[@AverageAngel]

That's what I found too. Consequently those were not real friends then. If you end up doing better in life and they are envious of it, that doesn't seem like people who truly want what's best for you

[@ivancaisin795]

When others realize that they don't have friends, I realized that I'm not a good friend.

[@Thesamurai1999]

You probably are or could become one, because most folks will only find flaws in others and never themselves. A person who can reflect upon his own flaws will always strive to become a better individual. That's rare, and valuable.

[@craie]

Yup and Idk y but I truly cried my heart out today I lost my one of a dear friend of mine because of dis and I just hate myself because of dis well lesson learnt the hard way . Gonna strive for better now.

[@alexmash1353]

It seems it isn't worth trying to be a good friend with the absolute majority of people. They won't appreciate anyway, so what is the point?

[@sililtatchu]

@@alexmash1353 you are a pessimist

[@Papa-Squat]

@@sililtatchu did that sound like a constructive response in your head?

[@uploadanythingarmy]

I'd rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies. - Al Capone

[@CertifiedFreshMemes]

That line is suprisingly potent

[@mexicanakinskywalker6762]

I’m 27. I’ve had the same 5 friends since I was a young teenager. They’re like my brothers. I’m lucky

[@seanbrent8294]

You’re 27

[@mexicanakinskywalker6762]

@@seanbrent8294 yes I am

[@Jason-im3pz]

You're very lucky, the group I knew from growing up were scumbags and it took me way too long to realise. I cut off everyone that wasn't good for me, family included, and now it's pretty much me, the dog and dirt bike...

[@mexicanakinskywalker6762]

@@Jason-im3pz thats all you need sometimes. It’s better than having people that lead you to trouble. you can always find people worthy of having around

[@Jason-im3pz]

@@mexicanakinskywalker6762 easier said than done, I'm not much of a fan of socializing. But yeah, definitely still an improvement

[@bad0ne975]

Quality over quantity

[@rossphillipgerard]

I'll always take more real friends 🤗

[@publicserviceannouncement4777]

Anytime!

[@apet9859]

Always a good rule of thumb

[@ummagumma00]

Definitely! I've had "friends" who only wanted the best for themselves and try to use me to that end. Gotta keep eyes open.

[@csanadignat8360]

My dad told me when I was young that I'd be lucky in life to have 2 or 3 real friends. I thought that was ridiculous, because I thought I was popular, and I thought I had hundreds of friends. Fast forwards to today when I'm 40 years old, and I only really have 4 friends who I can talk to about anything, anytime and ask for any favor. And my dad was right, I do feel really lucky to have them as friends. As the years go by, you start to realize how valuable those few real friendships are.

[@alfredchojnicki3598]

No comments on it because so damn on spot

[@izaakgregory3525]

I literally have no close friends i can talk to at any time lol

[@stealthyrat]

@@izaakgregory3525 Same, it’s very lonely but it gives us time to work on ourself and better ourself, i wish you luck my friend 😊

[@sabinejane14]

Yes!!

[@SOA_3T]

You are on a good point

[@laurasiloac1296]

I realized I haven’t been a good friend to some. Then I realized how someone I considered a best friend wasn’t really a friend...over the last year has even turned into a bit of a stranger. I can’t deny it hurts but I need to learn to let go

[@concettinalewis6053]

Same here

[@lemarfouriesos8634]

Quit panicking, i will help you out. But I am not drowning with you

[@deporlover]

Iam 40 years old and I had only one friend that traveled to another country 15 years ago and iam only able to see him once every 4-5 years Not easy life

[@Amateur_Pianist_472]

Need to join groups of some kind like a sport team or do a class.

[@jaywhoisit4863]

Get a hobby. People meet like minded people through their hobbies.

[@preston2395]

"If you're offering words of wisdom to someone in the genuine attempt to help, and they treat that with contempt then SHUT UP. Because you're throwing away your words by offering it to someone that does nothing but reject it."😍 love that

[@seth.heerschap]

This also goes the other way: Do YOU feel bad if your friend feels bad? Would you go to the rescue to your friend if they're in trouble? If something good happens to your friend, do you feel happy for them? Good friends are empathetic.

[@codinginflow]

The metaphor with the life guard was really good

[@akash1508]

That's a true thing....... Not just a metaphor

[@Millennial_Gardener]

I loved it!

[@mymetaphysicallife369]

I trained as a lifeguard as soon as I was old enough after twice almost drowning as a child. He is absolutely correct in how lifeguards are trained. I’m 52. I’m still a lifeguard, though I’ve not been watching people in water. ☯️

[@leooisin6198]

I'm a current lifeguard wonderingabout the friends in my life, this resonates

[@everythingnessawesomeness5886]

In fact-the video is amazing and friendly and the only bad thing about it I didn't like was the life guard analogy!!

[@bugrilyus]

Jordan peterson doessnt need those cheesy motivational musics to enhance its effect, it is not 2012

[@michaelfranks2844]

You got that right. I been clicking on videos with his name a lot here lately.

[@paradanmellow]

The author of the video is pianist.

[@IGamingStation]

There's a difference between a friend and a best friend. If you've met their family, spent time at their house, know their personality, and if they're willing to help you in your time of needs, they're your best friend.

[@shikyokira3065]

@Friendly Koala while i disagree with your way. But... its ok but average if it is what you want Its ok to do normal things if it is what you want Its ok to do what most people do if it is what you want Its ok to not good friends if it is what you want

[@abdwad1559]

This man is a true gem

[@lucygoose6237]

💯

[@DeNekx]

I got rid of my old ''friends'' I've been with.. for almost for 10-20 years. Finally realized to accept these Guys were never been my friends. I was delusional enough to accept how they treated me. It was weird,but they was my closest people i grew up with. At the End there was betrayal and talkin smack behind my back. I threw them away and they still wondered why i get rid off them.. Weird Times..

[@01rai01]

The weird thing is, people go for quantity over quality, when it comes to friends.

[@dylanlundberg9609]

You forgot to add some people, istead of people. I have two good friends and that’s it

[@dickmullen3750]

Why you state this as a fact? Because its not true, at all.

[@MarcelH666]

There's a name for that: the social media syndrome

[@lolawelch7235]

After watching this, I realized that ending a long friendship was long overdue.

[@evanwang5553]

Same for me

[@kendramay4402]

i felt bad spending more time with my boyfriend than my best friend. now i realize he’s my tru best friend. he pushes my goals & success. he’s a tru friend unlike who i thought was my best friend. it’s okay to grow distant with others and come vulnerably close with someone who actually helps u & u help them

[@gmy33]

Thats a classic ... good that you realise this..

[@jellydarling1008]

This happened with my sister and my husband. It’s a good realization but it’s also very sad. I hope you are in a better place

[@annaeverette8960]

That's how it should be, tbh! All the best to you both ❤️

[@redhood255]

Now, i realize that i was never a Friend while I have Good Friends, Thanks Jordan 🔥💜

[@theelderelk5582]

I tried to quit smoking and a number of people would try to give me cigarettes. I won lol.

[@parabola1212]

Good job, f*** em!

[@theelderelk5582]

@@parabola1212 I'm a very stubborn bugger 😂

[@javirebeld]

fuck yeah man!!

[@salimalbitar]

Congrats ❤

[@Cyril_cj]

This is me with vapes! Not quite there but nearly lol. At least it's only a puff everyone now and then, but still that's no excuse is it

[@SmiteKite]

Is there a version without sentimental music and images?

[@mexicansoutherngirl]

Yeah go watch the Jocko Willink interview this is where most of the clips are from... I like Jocko...

[@thinkchip]

Here's the first part at least: kzbin.info/www/bejne/mYCWdn-bfrajic0

[@dylao83]

Stupid song

[@gmy33]

Its cheesy .. but it works generaly ..

[@iwanttosurvive3992]

Rubin Report Jordan Peterson

[@pr5pr]

why is it so hard to find real people with non-mediocre mindset and interests

[@noneyaratman714]

Because people who do hard things are busy.

[@thecurrentmoment]

What Noneya said is true, and most people are average, by definition, and there are some who are good, and very few who are great. That's how it is. Also, people who are not mediocre have to give up quite a lot to be that way and many people just choose not to, and fair enough

[@gmy33]

Its not .. maybe you should leave the mediocer path yourself more

[@bradspitt3896]

If you follow this line of thought you'll inevitably get into conspiratorial history. Basically the 1st world economy is rooted in addiction. We've lost our virtue and only consequences will teach us.

[@urbaneriksson9781]

@@bradspitt3896 that's exactly what our culture is almost all about, consumption wich to a great extension is addiction.

[@krnatsu]

This advice really helped me last year when I was really down and depressed, it made me realise who my real friends are. My friends are the people who are happy to see me happy and who hate to see me sad or upset, I may have learned the hard way that some frienda aren't those people at all, but that doesn't mean I was alone I still have friends who want me to be happy and I always will. And I will always be the friend who wants mine to be happy as well. Jordan Peterson, thank you for giving us hope when we begin to lose it

[@dhruvdatta1055]

I'm only 18 but I already have three friends like this.

[@shikyokira3065]

may your friends think the same and work towards the same goal

[@rosabel8453]

WOW SAME. I'm 17 (almost 18) and I have at least 3 true friends

[@rosabel8453]

I feel really lucky

[@cyka132]

@@rosabel8453 Bro me2 almost 18 and 3 true Friends

[@parabola1212]

Damn, if you guys are 18 and listening to Peterson (and hopefully reading his books) then you’re way ahead of the game.

[@cjuiner12]

I cannot get enough of Dr. Peterson's videos!

[@nick45135]

Watched this hopefully to avoid toxic people/frends. Then recognized elements of toxicity in myself ! Glad I watched!

[@ren.8137]

Its easy to want this kind of friend but its hard to be this kind of friend.

[@tanmayarora6659]

Yeah i have have experienced this.. Till 1 year back, i was around toxic people and consistently declining in my life.. But today i find myself much more valuable and working upon my goals..due to good and aspiring people around me!! Literally, Your 5 best friends around you decide your future.. It's right..as someone said-- Show me your friends and I'll show you your future.. ❤❤ All the best to everyone who is hustling to become someone that no one has ever imagined ✨✨

[@hklinker]

I have a term for people I grew up with. I call them legacy friends. They remain in my life because they have always been there. But sometimes they are not close. I remember being hesitant to tell some of them I had bought a house, and sure enough a couple didn’t really want to know about it. It says something about them and about our relationship. I have no illusions.

[@seedsiv]

The idea goes both ways: of course you have to learn how to be a better friend, but if you try and there is no reciprocity at all then try moving on. Finding the right friendships is a long journey only few are willing to take. Knowing which bridges to keep or to build and which to burn tells a lot about your personality. Every friend you have (be it good or bad or anything in between) is like a mirror to your own psyche. A friend is either showing who they are, or, consciously or not, who you are. Figuring out which case it is, is essential for your self-worth. If you start believing the things bad friends say about you, your self-worth will crumble.

[@irlandaise5631]

the problem is that I have friends who can be there for me but they wont listen to me much and revert the conversation back to them and I put up with it ignoring it or even text my friends or speak louder to cover their voice . the issue is that once I paid attention and shut up , no one let me talk. Most of my new friends wont listen to me long enough but in the past I had friends that would listen to me and all I feel is like im listening to them more but now I stopped listening long because they dont do the same to me. I think its hard to find people who truly want to listen and I find it hard to even speak .

[@elizabethpowers7540]

I've found the good news thing to be the most significant part. I've found it's often pretty easy to find people who will help you when you're down - at a cost. The cost is their having to broadcast to you and the world what a fabulous superior person they are to take pity on poor wretched you. What is much harder to find is the person Dr. Peterson is talking about who will genuinely share in your joys. That is how you know you have a real friend.

[@phillipburnap849]

It is truly astounding to see the amount of hate this man gets when his main message is to encourage people to take more responsibility for themselves.

[@StarWarsomania]

There's that word -responsibility. They don't want to take responsibility, so they attack the person saying they need to.

[@NootNoot67]

Nailed it!

[@nathanielartosilla9110]

Professional Children, all of them. Their combined value to society is irrelevant compared to what Dr. JP brings to the table.

[@Gogeta2501]

He is awesome Very knowledgeable and Badassman

[@phillipburnap849]

@@VentureHolly Who said anything about "More than any other public figure"? Jordan speaks responsibility to men and women who's lives are not what they could be. That has nothing to do with "systemic issues", which obviously he'd have a different opinion about. You're obviously just one of the people that hate this man.

[@vincentcrowley5196]

This is so true, I've noticed that when I changed the group of people who I was associated with I was doing better .

[@iamheidari]

I am So happy to watch this and know that I am surrounded by not Only Good friends, but great parents! God Bless!

[@thestig560]

I needed to hear this. It helped me see both sides of the coin. Recently I had an interaction with two of my best and wisest friends and left in turmoil. Now I see that I took the harsh, constructive criticism the wrong way

[@masterdaveedwards]

Thanks for the reminder...may you find friends in this life that point you to Heaven and the strength to say no to the friends that point you to Hell. Shalom

[@casualnerd4615]

0/10 would not use this to find friends.

[@Galifamackus]

One of my favorite quotes relating to Peterson’s first points in the video is “You can’t help someone who isn’t willing to help themselves.” If they’re not at all willing to help themselves become any better in life, will your help have any drastic non-temporary effect that they’ll learn and advance themselves off of? What about you? If they’re not willing to help themselves or react to your help, then how likely is it that they’ll turn around and help you? Surround yourself with people that want the best for the both of you.

[@timothyn4699]

love the way Jordan explains things

[@nouhabhy3067]

This is so damn deep!!!! He meant that not only you can but you HAVE TO !

[@donm2067]

The worst is when you finally realize your close friends are just using you, it hurts, you become jaded.

[@bTheNomad.]

I hear you.. something about the solitude tho, but lonely for sure

[@annaeverette8960]

Friends who are only around for the good times.

[@donm2067]

@@annaeverette8960 Or do everything in their power to keep you down, because they dont want you to succeed past them.

[@ronaknanda6175]

Set boundaries even in friendship

[@leboblack]

I’ve been searching for this wisdom.

[@camiloguzman1801]

I had to listen very well, cause if i want good friends i have to learn how to be one.

[@elijahjacob8551]

I can’t find anyone with these qualities. All of my friends kicked me when I was down. And I am not weak. I am better than them. Which is actually what makes life difficult. Everybody goes for the throat of the alpha. Everybody wants the status without the work.

[@elijahjacob8551]

@@playingcasual2024 God bless you. I was drunk when I wrote that ☝🏻

[@caine23]

Some "Friends" are Stupid, they don't recognize you are the real Friend but they choose to be ignored

[@it-ke9od]

If they fail to realize you are a good friend after so long, walk away; but before you do so, communicate with them ❤

[@dancingin2024]

I had to walk away from all of my friends because I wanted to be a healthier, more spiritually aligned person. Now all I have is my family - but it feels more genuine and real ✌🏻

[@akashkant8635]

I learned something about myself today

[@Johny40Se7en]

I love that thing about the lifeguard, it's bloody awesome 🙂

[@captainswan3079]

Thank you for posting this.

[@BlueRice]

This is what we wanted. All support. No hidden jealous. Real words.

[@jaydendivision1638]

Jordan Peterson is a hero 2 the people of the world He is making people's lives Better

[@KathrynLiz1]

Wise words, from s man who knows more about what makes us tick than we do...it's his job. Happily I have a bunch of such friends, and I cannot think of any that are arounds that do the opposite. I try to be such a friend to those people too, and I hope that I succeed in that... I think I do a lot of the time. My friends are a treasure in my life and I love them..... One of the ones I had to walk away from was one of my children...that hurt a lot, but for my own sake I had to do it...

[@OG-dungeon-skeleton]

After watching this, I found out I actually have good friends. Not that I doubted them to begin with.

[@bdoeden64]

Jordan, Mr. Peterson, Thank you.

[@allisnotwhatitseems.]

I had a great friend from 5 years old. I'm 43 now. His marriage broke up. We were there for him. We spent every weekend with him and did our absolute best to help him. He got back with his wife and never answered my calls ever since. That was almost 5 years ago. He even blocked us on social media. Never a cross word. Life's strange.

[@breakingthemasks]

Ouch man. Sounds like his wife is threatened by him having any emotional support besides her. That's not a good sign. Not good at all.

[@traceytansley1659]

He's embarrassed by what you both know and just can't bare to face you. Stay a true person, do not become bitter. You did the right thing helping, what a TRUE friend/person you both are...there is a lesson in this for the person you helped.

[@killakode1]

I really have one best friends who has checked in on me out of all my 'friends'. Then again I have become very very distant; not replying in group messages and not going out anymore. I haven't told anyone that I have been depressed for the past 3 years. I have even become distant from my family, not because I want to... It just feels like I'm slowly drowning and have become okay with it.

[@BenZen333z]

cookiemonster66 Stay strong friend! I believe in you.

[@traceytansley1659]

Reach out for help, if depression takes away your energy to do that, just find enough strength to tell the one friend that checks up on you that you need help but can't go get it...tell them y. Blessings and LOVE to you, there IS a way put, a hand up, a light at the end of this tunnel, you CAN reach it w help. 💙

[@tobiasgordon1363]

Happy New Year to every beautiful soul in this comment section. If you are here like me because you have no real friends I hope 2021 brings you happiness in yourself and hopefully we will all get the real friend we deserve.

[@christopherwithers9019]

I am so very thankful for Dr. Jordan Peterson. Thank you for sharing all your amazing work with us. God bless you, sir.

[@DT-hx4gz]

Thank you for this video

[@TheorySchoolForgot]

You’re welcome 🙂

[@blueraventv]

A friend is not just someone you like or spend time with. Its someone that you made a part of your life because you love them and want to do whats best for them

[@maggiesamson337]

Be the change. Be a good friend and choose people capable and willing to reciprocate good friendship.

[@MT-gm2zh]

I learnt this late in my teens and that's why too this day in my thirties I still don't have friends I've got colleagues and acquaintances but no real friends.

[@jamieheald4988]

When jordan speaks its like he cuts through all the bullshit even his language is so direct and full of purpose. I believe in 500 and 1000 years he will be spoken of.

[@dreambig6304]

u re 100% right from my experience .

[@jangeisler6961]

I’ve heard another good tip for this. “Two beers and a puppy”. Genuinely decide if you’d enjoy having a beer with someone, and then if you’d trust them to care for a puppy over the weekend. Beer+puppy people are keepers, try to be one. People who are neither should be avoided. Beer people are fun to have around, but be cautious of them. Puppy people are important, as they take responsibility.

[@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006]

What if you don't drink beer and are allergic to puppies? Does it still count?

[@zachary4376]

@@weneedmoreconsideratepeopl4006 two margaritas and a ferret?

[@lemonnlimelight2760]

Valuable "LIFE'S LESSON" I learned a valuable lesson when I watched and listened to this video.

[@danak2230]

It feels so good getting rid of a bad friendship. I had to end a friendship earlier this year. It was painful because this friend wasn't a bad person. I felt like I had to pretend I was a better person than I am when I was with her. She didn't try to get me to be a better version of myself but a better version of her and her values. She'd get this taken-aback look when I said something that didn't align with her views. It made me feel an inch tall. But she valued the friendship and wanted to work towards a solution and that's what made it hard. But I stuck to my guns and I felt amazing once the friendship was over. Jordan has it completely right. You need people who make you a better person. She made me a watered-down version of myself.

[@sethswaggerty3928]

I cared so much for a friend that he thought I was judging him. Pity I became an enemy and not someone who cared enough to tell him the truth. Ty

[@dickmullen3750]

People cant handle the truth, thats why I rather keep my mouth shut. Let them find out for themselves the hard way. It costs me far too much energy and for what?

[@ninepuchar1]

I would be lucky,if I someone actually gave me the bitter truth.

[@awkwardzoltar3529]

Sometimes I feel like my family just love to see me lose. I often wonder that about my sister mostly, she always been very manipulating to everyone, sometimes she seems so fake.

[@MarcelH666]

Call her out. Every time you notice this behaviour towards you. You're smart enough to see that manipulation, trust your gut feeling.

[@Cupid__Star__Cupid]

This man is truly wise and decent human

[@claytonheathscott3819]

I love the friends I’ve met I used this as a way to treat them better thank you

[@RainingCatsAndDogs1975]

A true friend will tell you what you need to hear, not necessarily what you want to hear

[@Beagletheami]

I told one of my friends that I wanted to join the army . I was really expecting them to support me. He helped through a nasty breakup and showed me what it meant to have fun again after going through depression. I was surprised and disheartened when he couldn’t see how big of a decision this could be for me. He’s been there for me and yet he couldn’t support me on this. I really am puzzled and not sure how to cope with this

[@breikowski]

U love them for who they are. And good luck! Sounds like you are on a path forward!

[@cameronboden]

99.9% of people can count on one hand how many of these types of people are in their lives.

[@jayko5703]

I love my dad but I wish this guy was my dad just for the knowledge I needed that I had to learn way to hard

[@Greenlady131]

This way you get both tho (:

[@TheorySchoolForgot]

im looking for ways to improve my channel, do you have any advice?

[@nvtbl56]

As long as JBP is involved you'll have a following lmao

[@nvtbl56]

This was a great series of clips tho, thank you

[@FredChen-f4i]

Subtitles!

[@SmiteKite]

No music, just raw lectures and interviews

[@w.ib.3632]

Maybe you could remove music and some videos out of context 🤔

[@HK-mw1ym]

I’ve been the one on the downward spiral. Finally went to hospital last night and getting help. I want to be better. I haven’t been a good friend or partner for a while now. Lost myself somehow over the years sadly.

[@traceytansley1659]

Hang in there Hannah! 💜

[@hannahs6379]

in conclusion: i have no friends.

[@lonewolf3776]

I’ll be your friend I don’t have many either by choice

[@hannahs6379]

@@lonewolf3776 sure thing

[@jbirdwis]

@@hannahs6379 as an extrovert. Sometimes it is literally that easy to make a friend. Doesn't mean they will stay, but at least it's a start.

[@hannahs6379]

@@jbirdwis oh its easy to make friends. the hard part is finding good people.

[@akash1508]

@@hannahs6379 couldn't agree more 😀

[@michaelprice3040]

Gotta be confident in yourself to know how to walk away. The fear of loneliness can keep you in the clutches of bad people.

[@RA-iy9hb]

Very emotional videos. Real friends = real actions

[@TheorySchoolForgot]

hope you liked it!! if you did please leave a like and subscribe

[@jeffgo5742]

There’s a lot of people in the comment section with no friends or their admitting to being a bad friend. Let’s hope this video helps those people

[@ZMondoHype]

Echo Charles popped up and I was like 👀 god bless those two!

[@marcm83]

I agree with most of this except for the part about if you tell someone bad news and they tell you something bad that happened to them. If it stops there then yeah they’re not listening but if it starts there it works a lot of the time. In the military privates would view you as infallible and wouldn’t want to open up about personal issues so you had to lead with relating to them to get them to open up. With soldiers you had to start the conversation with it’s ok to feel feelings, I feel them to. I know that sounds strange but most vets will get what I’m saying.

[@quester6801]

I came here to see if I have good friends. Stayed to learn how to be that good friend coz I don't have many. At least I can be one to many.

[@sarahloucow1]

You count your true friendships on just the one hand Takes time to aknowledge but now understand The words that my dad would repeatedly say Has turned into gospel with each passing day If you’ve made me feel guilty for making a choice Or made me feel shameful when I’ve used my voice you’ve heard things about me, not asked for my view Not bothered to check in if these things were true If you’ve stood right beside me and acted sincere But secretly smiled when I’ve shed a tear When things turn out well you’re nowhere to be found But first one to speak if my head hits the ground I’ll always respond when you cast me a smile aware that I’ve known my true friends for a while If you change your opinion on others demand. You do not belong with the friends on my hand I’ve walked away from friendships that caused me doubt and negativity. I’ve been chastised for doing so. But I’m positive and so very content now. I wrote this poem when I realised it. We have strength sometimes we can’t see. But there’s always someone that does. X

[@harrysandhu4136]

At first I thought you took it out of some poetry book, it's an amazing poem written by you. Wish you well stranger.🙏👍

[@sarahloucow1]

@@harrysandhu4136 it’s indeed mine. I write what I feel. My love and well wishes to you. Thank you xxxx

[@BigFiliGiant]

I love Jordan Peterson so much! He’s teaching us what the Bible teaches us without even realizing! If you’re reading this and are interested in learning more about the Bible, drop me a message and we can organize a Bible study together 🤗

[@xandercorp6175]

"Without even realizing"? You need to check out Jordan Peterson's Bible lectures, I think.

[@jeremyrogers1247]

‘You want to surround yourself with people who want the best for you”. I understand what Dr Peterson is saying, but for me anyway that is a hard goal to attain. Many people have friends who are really good acquaintances then true friends, and it’s not always clear they want the best for you.

[@Kapil.Sakhuja]

Attachment and developmental trauma from childhood blinds our ability to sense whether I am with someone helpful or harmful.

[@barsnacker]

😣😣😣

[@chelseagirl278]

Same here, I understand

[@Red_AIert]

It sucks to be around someone who constantly sucks the life out of you especially if it seems unintentional. 😕

[@allablr5765]

How do people didn't know that?? I knew it for ages. I let go a good amount of people also a few family members for being phony. I never looked back or felt sorry. I now have 2 friends I know love me. The others just loved themselves.

[@salmasoso2055]

I might need advice to know what do i truly need Im person with social anxiety i feel uncomfortable sometimes when my friends start joking about stupid things and talk like an idiots and they dont listen to me when i give them advice also they expect for me to overcare about them and to treat them like they are the only person Who are sad i feel like im under pressure like i need to be how they want me to be also they act immature about how they take their choices and wherever we go they act like teenagers and we seem more noticable by people but they see me as i am their best friend but sadly i dont feel like i truly belong to them sometimes.

[@reizaaguirre6956]

Leave them there not your real freinds

[@Bloodark124]

In case anyone need some courage to walk away from toxic people - I personally walk away from my mother who though wanted good, but ultimately did many harmful actions instead, not only to me but also to my siblings. It's understood that she herself had problems and gone through her fair share of problem. But what tipped it over was that she refuse to listen to anyone, even though she claimed she isn't self-righteous. It was a tough and hard decision as I left with nothing but some money I earned hard working before I was even 18. And yes I had to work hard and can't go on holidays like many of my peers who do while staying with their own parents, spending so much time having "fun" and parties. Do not wonder about how unfair it is to you compare to others. Rather, accept the cold hard fact that life is never fair to anyone, that you were disadvantaged and more on. Don't think anymore than that as it'll drag your mental state down and hinder your focus. As shown in the video - if you feel it's the right thing to walk away from your family I'd say do so after a good and long thought, with a solid plan. Have a plan and stick by it til you are fully independent and come out as a full-fledged adult. You'll end up more mature than your peers and most likely, ahead. It's not impossible to come out the otherside looking like anyone else even you had such a background. No one knew what I had done except very few close friends whom I trust over the years. Everyone else just assume I had a normal childhood life and family.

[@trema12345]

Don't think I've ever met someone that hasn't tried to mention their own experiences when you have a negative/positive yourself

[@maciejlewicki9084]

can't stand the music and pictures though...

[@shikyokira3065]

same. That's why i watched it while sitting sorry for the dad joke lol

[@myeyesaredrymylove]

@@shikyokira3065 Hilarious, mate.

[@awkwardzoltar3529]

I’m not use to being social, I’ve been quiet all my life, but now that I far away from other antisocial people in my life, I have moments of loving talking to people. Sometimes I want them to watch me, so maybe I can make them laugh. Sometimes, I feel like taking that step to make a new friend is a big and bigger for me because I still have got my life fully sorted out yet. My social battery doesn’t really last that long either. I don’t know if I should just go out throw caution to the wind or if maybe that’s dumb and I might get myself killed.

[@dickmullen3750]

Maybe stop using drugs is a good starting point.