His book Never Split the Difference is brilliant and absolutely worth the read
@firehorse_44alpha-omegaАй бұрын
Agreed, NEVER SPLIT THE DIFFERENCE is a must read. I find myself referring to it often in daily life !
@aclaylambisabirdman6324Ай бұрын
1,000%
@jacobmate1537Ай бұрын
Thanks for the recommendation
@christopher2206Ай бұрын
Whose book? The negotiator or Petersons?
@solutions4tenants141Ай бұрын
@@christopher2206chris Voss the master negotiator book called never split the difference
@kahea2018Ай бұрын
For those who missed what he was trying to convey about what he learned about how to listen, here are a few key points he made: -There's a difference between silence and actually listening. -Learn how to dial in (get focused on/connected to the conversation). -Focus on the feelings/emotions/mood being conveyed more than the words being said. (ie someone says they're fine but you can hear in their voice that they're upset.) -Check to see if the words and emotions are aligned or not. Does the alignment ever shift in the middle of communication? Look out for things like that. -Check body language if you can. -Try to anticipate things when possible. -Negativity clouds judgment, so listen for negativity (so you can deactivate negative thoughts). -Genuine listening, genuine connection, genuine thought provocation is more long lasting than bare manipulation. -That listening is about the nuances of human communication.
@williammurray3125Ай бұрын
@@kahea2018 I think you nailed pretty much all of it. I learned long ago that most of the time that you are talking to someone, they arent listening so much as they are waiting for you to stop so they can tell you what they want. I started really paying attention. I think quickly because of how I was raised. So I try to listen to whats being said, and I process it in my head as if I'm reading it or it's a movie. It just helps me slow my head down.
@kahea2018Ай бұрын
@williammurray3125 You're absolutely right. Great techniques too! ❤️❤️❤️
@kristinasteininger8121Ай бұрын
Thank you 😊
@williammurray3125Ай бұрын
@@kahea2018 thank you. Im a musician so connecting with my audience is important to me and when I started doing that, I was blown away with how different things started going. My band was all of a sudden skyrocketing upwards in popularity.
@shafaa1Ай бұрын
This was an advertisement for his Black Swan company....disappointing.
@CaldoHitsАй бұрын
I watched Chris Voss' Masterclass. This man is brilliant. Absolute pleasure seeing him here😮
@aclaylambisabirdman6324Ай бұрын
Same! Incredible stuff
@blsterling9367Ай бұрын
Um, not all think that way about him, however, he's got experience and details down. Amazing how people react to a man's public persona and how they're viewed behind the scenes. Interesting interaction between two extremely diverse individuals.
@ericp999328 күн бұрын
Agreed! The reason I actually listened to this. After the Masterclass, I wanted to see what this had to say here. Excellent stuff
@Suggon.D.SnutzzАй бұрын
Im sick of all of these Jordan Peterson haters. They aren't his fans These same people are available to listen to on podcasts with regular people with regular intelligence. Go watch mainstream podcasts. What is this, the speech police? Who is to say that he is overcomplicating it? Lmao. There are plenty of us who appreciate hearing Jordan Peterson speak, and it's precisely why I listen to these guests on his podcast and not on somebody else's podcast. Jordan is a pearl before swine, diamond in the rough one in a billion.
@fatalheart7382Ай бұрын
He is. Yes.
@ElliotBrownJinglesАй бұрын
I totally agree. Their comments are robotically predictable.
@QNoland28 күн бұрын
100%. I can’t even listen to a Jordan Peterson video over the roar of idiots who think they’re smarter than him rambling on in the comments. All just predictably repeating the same thing. Nobody is forcing them to listen.
@a.s.242626 күн бұрын
Yes, haters aren’t fans by definition.
@armatian24 күн бұрын
You made me laugh on, "haters arent his fans"
@JcarrozАй бұрын
I did this same training for a class I college. It was probably the best/most useful thing I learned outside my study abroad.
@philipedwards9129Ай бұрын
Jordan Peterson has such depth, he could lose me but never overcomplicate.
@JohnnyArtPavlou17 күн бұрын
Sometimes I wish he would just speak like a normal human being😂😂😂
@RazearАй бұрын
This is why it's so important to develop the ability to read body language/non-verbal cues. It's much easier for someone with ulterior motives to manipulate you with their words, but it's way harder to put on a flawless act while they're being grilled in a high-pressure situation unless they're a genuine sociopath.
@ChristopherDwigginsАй бұрын
I'd say what's sociopathic is needing all that to converse just to tell if they are a predator rather than common sense to communicate and connect properly.
@user-oo8xp2rf1k4 күн бұрын
I was a dishwasher at 18. It was 1989. The boss (a Californian) made the (new) restaurant feel like a rock band in which we were the stars and he was merely the tour manager . It was a new place and after a few months he got us all down together round a table with food he'd cooked and beer and told us - we are always full - but we are not making enough money - the food goes out too slow. He then didn't tell us what to do he said " what can we change in the kitchen, on the menu and out front to make things faster. Everybody themselves into it - waiters, bar staff and kitchen staff brainstormed. We changed the menu, bought a new cooker , got rid of another - completely transformed our whole way of operating. Huge success , everybody bought in 100%. I was dish washer in June but by December I was cooking and running the place in his absence. It was a great feeling for an 18 year old to have that responsibility ( progressively) given to them . The pay was terrible . But I didn't need much pay because the job had ( for a couple of years) become my life.
@paolamura349724 күн бұрын
Loved the bit when Jordan said "if I am better at verbally manipulating a person and think that the other person will not get back at me, I'm an asshole". So true. We all have power, in one way or another.
@CUSELİSFANАй бұрын
Having read about both, I can comfortably say that negotiation and psychotherapy have more in common than people realize.
@beckerhambabe25 күн бұрын
I love listening to Chris Voss. A fascinating guy! 🙏🏼
@jitsutrader742010 күн бұрын
I am involved with sales somewhat, the "Durable" adjective he uses is spot on. I like how Dr. Peterson intertwined that with micromanaging. This is so true... I have never thought about it from this point of view. I definitely understood the "Durable" part but I used the term "Hot Weld".... A hot weld is when the material of the two pieces you want to join gets hot enough to accept the weld as apposed to a "Cold weld" where you kind of 'blob' on melted metal to two cold pieces. The Cold weld is going to fail more often than not. Love this.. I am going to check out his book.
@1igoninАй бұрын
We can then conclude that Christ was also an Hostage Negotiator Who tried to convince us, not force us, to free ourselves from our own prison of sin.
@bensonbrett30Ай бұрын
What is sin?
@1igoninАй бұрын
@@bensonbrett30 To sin is to not submit to the will of God but to follow instead the desires of ones body and of ones ego.
@bensonbrett30Ай бұрын
@ what is god?
@1igoninАй бұрын
@@bensonbrett30 God is the Omnipresent, Omnipotent, Omniscient Creating, Ruling and Perceiving Supreme Consciousness that promotes Harmony and Expansion in all energetic planes but dwells in the highest energetic/frequential Plane there is (not perceptible by us as imperfect or high density/sinful frequential manifestations).
@bensonbrett30Ай бұрын
@ what evidence do you have for said deity existing in factual, peer reviewed, incontrovertible reality for all humans?
@BitterTast3Ай бұрын
With enough psychological knowledge, we'll all become programmable. Beep boop
@DeepBlueWaves27 күн бұрын
I had a client low-balling me, saying “listen, i think we can achieve a lose-lose outcome”. I responded with “No. in that case, there will only be one loser”.
@iamtoddpreston18 күн бұрын
0:40 - Dr. Doofenshmertz HECK YEAH! 👊🏽
@magolide7 күн бұрын
Doofenshmertz Evil Incorporated🎶😄
@iamtoddpreston7 күн бұрын
@@magolide😂
@mosesbarron4200Ай бұрын
Stop reading the comments and listen.
@siyasamente9590Ай бұрын
Richard Bandler & John Grinder via their book Frogs Into Princes was my formal introduction into interpreting nonverbal cues, active listening & establishing rapport to induce behavioural change. When my best friend brought this book & the concept of Neuro-Linguistic Programming to my attention 10yrs ago I was blown away because it reaffirmed & expanded what I had learnt from observing people & the world around me as a kid. Short vid feels like there's a longer chat somewhere out there
@MrRayban_00724 күн бұрын
Thank you Dr Peterson!!! 🙏🏼
@ericp999328 күн бұрын
His masterclass is eye opening!
@andrewprettyquick20705 күн бұрын
The most powerful knowledge
@leemcdaniel3151Ай бұрын
I hear you!
@XtraSparklesPlsАй бұрын
Great clip. Definitely will look at whole conversation. 👍
@roryadendorff8151Ай бұрын
Jordan for president of Canada 🇨🇦 🎉
@antonyshadowbannedАй бұрын
Peterson is brilliant and everything but could definitely use more listening and less talking over his brilliant guests.
@cwr8618Ай бұрын
Constantly
@sandsparАй бұрын
Wasted half the interview
@Suggon.D.SnutzzАй бұрын
You haven't read his book or watched any of his other interviews? Why should every podcast be the exact same with the same conversation? Jordan is brilliant.
@jamesg1974a21 күн бұрын
In fairness, the interviewee also spoken circles. It took forever to get the answers with irrelevant detail details.
@tomlewis632Ай бұрын
A good skill to have to be sure. But in my lifetime of working. I personally believe that the ability to plan well. Is at the very top of the list. After working for the Walt Disney, lockeed Martin, and other large corporations. As well as mom and pop small companies. Those who had that skill set. We’re constantly the best managers. But it seems to me, that this is something that cannot be taught, but must be “caught”. By being around those who have this skill.
@jq897428 күн бұрын
“… because you’re human.“ Refreshing words these days.
@icescrew126 күн бұрын
Going to watch that master class.
@vishmanify28 күн бұрын
I was always curious about these two meeting up.
@malay353Ай бұрын
Sir please talk about the traits a victim has that make people choose him for being bullied
Ай бұрын
Based on our research, it's the internalized message "I deserve this, I caused this" and it happens because the person keeps asking themselves, "why do they do this TO ME, what canI do to stop this person", instead of repeating in their mind, "this person doesn't know how to treat me well and I dont deserve to be mistreated". It's a huge change in perspective when you put the responsibility on the person who is bullying instead of the target of bullying.
@MH3GLАй бұрын
Interesting perspective... Thanks for sharing
@dheemanrajkhowa2866Ай бұрын
The victim is in a 'me' self frame instead of an 'I' self frame of mind I.e looking inward especially on their own inadequacies instead of outwards." I am not good/worthy enough" . The bully picks on this lack of self worth and checks if they can enforce any boundaries, which the victim mostly can't effectively since they are too preoccupied internally and noone taught them those skills and what it means to have healthy boundaries. This emboldens the bully and the bullying escalates.
@philliphickox4023Ай бұрын
"How to listen" is something I learnt decades ago.
@c3N3qАй бұрын
Really? Did you take the "vac cine" for " co vid"?
@philliphickox4023Ай бұрын
@@c3N3q What's that comment to do with learning to listen? The lessons I learnt were in the 1980's long before covid.
@c3N3qАй бұрын
@philliphickox4023 Because if you really learn to listen you know when someone is lying....
@philliphickox4023Ай бұрын
@@c3N3q Learning to listen is a whole body experience, I learnt to listen to what my body was telling me. I referred to it as my radar unit.
@farshadmn4273Ай бұрын
Thank you 💯
@thefunksoulplumber22Ай бұрын
Great info. Ty
@home86308 күн бұрын
The problem with active listening is it becomes one way, imbalanced, because usually one is being active, while the other has to be passive. When it is imbalanced, it makes people switch off, because they are not interacting. Interactive listening is better, which means those in the communication/negotiating are participating. Its the difference between monologue and dialogue.
@wdtaut565010 күн бұрын
Interesting how Jordan directs the conversation engaging Voss and how Voss manipulates us.
@Fynn-Victus21 күн бұрын
My first job at 15 was at an army camp as a dishwasher 😅. Discipline is a requirement
@helifynoe9930Ай бұрын
Negotiator: "Okay, I am here as a hostage negotiator. You are the hostage, and so I am here to negotiate with you. It won't help you much, but it's a job at least for me."
@mysticat7652Ай бұрын
You can listen to what people say, but what they say & what they mean are 2 different things. 😂
@shabadooshabadoo49189 күн бұрын
"But it can also happen when you make a poor agreement with someone. Because they they are looking for a way out instead of for a way to do the task." Just described every min wage job
@hughmann587229 күн бұрын
This is one of those clips that inevitably leads to more clips if you want answers.
@Eagle-e4lАй бұрын
So,.. I still don't know what to do.? but would love to learn.
@richardriemer8859Ай бұрын
supplied emothional intelligance i'm listening
@joshuashank3806Ай бұрын
I imagine this is what the one-eyed exam instructor from Naruto would be like
@honorablevesselАй бұрын
5:05 If what Dr Peterson says here is true, then I now feel even more alienated from my fellow humans. If I were suddenly (magically) made so that I could only really do any thinking when I'm talking, I would consider it an EXTREME handicap. I don't think I would even be myself anymore.
@danielledills1922Ай бұрын
I need an appointment
@dufourrichard856Ай бұрын
I don’t think I know how to listen better after listening to that guy
@richardshelor56429 күн бұрын
Add Trump & Elon and you’ll have every person I want to listen too!
@universalmotherАй бұрын
Narcissism gets in the way of listening. You must first heal the disease before the body and mind function properly.
@dr.gregory13259 күн бұрын
Chris starts talking like a bit like Joe Biden, eating his words. The opposite of Jordan. But the content is amazing
@OhmanwhyyourfeelingshurtАй бұрын
I feel like Jordan knows about tone thats why he uses the kermit the frog voice because no one knows what his emotion really is, lol hisanger, sadness and normal talk all sound the same
@rebeccalavanture9741Ай бұрын
That’s hilarious!!!!
@lukeforks91348 күн бұрын
Say silent and look at who is speaking. Later, let the memory work for you.
@cujimmy136625 күн бұрын
The illusion of choice.
@iamgc36914 күн бұрын
Wow I never understood how much you don’t listen Chris Voss’s Tactical Intelligence is amazing.
@OrigenisAdamantiosАй бұрын
NLP 🎉
@kevinhornbuckleАй бұрын
Best dating advice ever! Be a good hostage.
@rockcrazygal5166Ай бұрын
Nowhere in this video, was there an explanation from either party on how to listen???
@InTheHookJohnАй бұрын
Jordan should listen more.
@cesarsaladspful18 күн бұрын
I think every cop should watch this video and learn from it too much arrogance out on the streets
@mistermotoki4 сағат бұрын
Turn on that Late FM voice
@marsjokesАй бұрын
Almost thought i was listening to Morgan Freeman
@FirstLast-zk5owАй бұрын
Jordan. You're over complicating it. Also, when people come to watch a negotiation expert speak, don't go on a long diatribe of how you interpret what they are saying. Just listen.
@biddydibdab9180Ай бұрын
You beat me to the punch! Jordan DOESN’t know how to listen and learn!
@FirstLast-zk5owАй бұрын
@biddydibdab9180 he doesn't listen to understand. He listens to respond.
@S7AN7ONАй бұрын
Maybe y’all need to listen more. Jordan IS a negotiation expert from his 20 years of clinical experience alone. You can see Jordan was taking notes about what the guy was saying. This is a video of 2 expert negotiators with different applications of negotiation.
@cahlendavidson2921Ай бұрын
Fr. What a bunch of delicate flowers @@S7AN7ON
@FirstLast-zk5owАй бұрын
@@S7AN7ON The poor guy was put on and addicted to psychotropic medication. And went through the most horrible withdrawals a person could ever possibly imagine. And instead of taking the time off to realign and strengthen himself. They drew him out with whatever they could to not allow him to reestablish and recenter himself. And while they are attacking his cognitive abilities, his psyche and his beliefs. Those he aligned himself with, Daily Wire, are just sitting back and allowing it to destroy him. Trust this.. If you pay attention to his latest interviews and discussions.. It is obvious that their aim is to psychologically destroy Peterson.
@danielbell99Ай бұрын
👂
@AdamJKSuperChannel12 күн бұрын
What kind of razor does JP use? My wife hates that I don’t shave every day… sorry, I’m distracted. But I want to know.
@Zer00n32 күн бұрын
No.1 use 👂🏻👂🏻(true story)
@RUNNOFT7112 күн бұрын
Everyone in the comments are all of a sudden listening experts.
@vincentleone183326 күн бұрын
Hostage Negotiation is almost like the most effective form of Psychology or therapist.. The hostage taker is basically miserable much the same way as a psychology patient and probably doesn't even know it. They want help and don't know it. one way or another, they wouldn't be doing what they're doing if they were in a better place.
@josemelrose546526 күн бұрын
Jordon suppressing the pangs of cringe every time the other gentleman says “emotional intelligence”.
@hopaideiaАй бұрын
It is frustrating how Jordan Peterson wants to give a lecture and an answer to his question at the same time, leaving the person who he invited, speechless.
@wparke110 күн бұрын
i got about 2 mins in and my mind stopped listening
@BadEnglish-y6m7 күн бұрын
Some people need "Schooling" Some People just need street smarts & life experience. I have never trusted the ones that know for good reason. Humans are easily trained!
@gofiodetrigo8756Ай бұрын
thought peterson said there's no such thing as emotional intelligence sorry comment 101 here
@marcelomarquina29115 күн бұрын
Half of the time Its Jordan talking…just to demonstrate Voss listen skills
@SamuelBarton-b6x26 күн бұрын
because were all human.
@CT-ob2bwАй бұрын
Welp, the Negotiator just exhibited the technique of….Listening.
@looseunit918029 күн бұрын
An example of Jordan not listening 😂😂😂😂
@Someoldguy76Ай бұрын
if you close your eyes, you may see Christopher Walken :D
@MrEvannelson19 күн бұрын
This would be more informative if he actually talked about the literal skills instead of talking about what the outcome can be.
@VelkePivo22 күн бұрын
Sounds a bit like Al Pacino
@1truthpleaseАй бұрын
Jordan . We want to hear your guests please.
@officialpsychicloungetvАй бұрын
No one is asking them; ARE YOU OK?
@m.m.199Ай бұрын
Nesretna sam...
@officialpsychicloungetvАй бұрын
You professionals make EVERTHING TOO COMPLICATED!
@_DtK_25 күн бұрын
Would love to hear the the guy who was taught how to hear.. uhh hmm.
@icescrew126 күн бұрын
White ear buds are distracting
@armatian24 күн бұрын
As interesting as the topic is, i felt somewhat dissapointed for the lack of specifics.
@icetroll73411 күн бұрын
What 8 skills? Bloody politician. Speaks without saying anything
@username6894967 күн бұрын
Former beat cop here...Watched several "negotiaters" try this verbal judo...all resulted in the death of the "suspect"...You civilians are so ignorant of what goes on when a mental person who has a weapon is engaged by police...We want to go home to our wives and kids...Err on the side of that "suspect" being in a body-bag everytime...
@lebaggins109 күн бұрын
He did not answer the first question directly but in an obtuse way as he clearly does not want to distill his knowledge into one answer and give free advice. Knowlege is power, grifting is for money.
@MostlyBuicksАй бұрын
I did not learn anything. He did not get to the point.
@johnpaul531628 күн бұрын
Maybe you should listen, then. Try again.
@marioquinonez275327 күн бұрын
That's because you are not listening.
@a.s.242626 күн бұрын
It was a sales pitch for his Black Swan training I presumed.
@jamesg1974a21 күн бұрын
I hate when people like this takes so long to get to the answer of the question. I don’t care how he showed up to training… Jordan asked a question, answer the question.
@lukamiokovic131719 күн бұрын
basically he just learned to speak about people who are not listening well with people who can protect him from danger and he claims that there is enough of resources for everybody to be shielded from danger but it is not so and during his conversation with Jordan he listened to absolutely nothing
@Skybaby79Ай бұрын
Wow that told me nothing..... Thanks
@ZannaWeems28 күн бұрын
This sounds like using logic to pretend being empathic. 😅
@sexywarriorwomen29 күн бұрын
Hahaha something Jordan is having a hard time with these past few years. Lol
@SteveR-h6hАй бұрын
More talking around "how to" than specifics. ALL negotiations hinge on "buy-in", all parties need to express what's in it for them. OK, that's not unique. The "buy-in" comes when one side asks the other ... how does (what you're asking for ) impact you? your organization? your family? why haven't you gotten there, yet? What got in your way in the past? This is getting beyond "opening positions", and starts a genuine conversation/discussion. You can't ask all these questions at once ... of course. But, if it's a real negotiation and both/all parties are sincere, all will be communicating at a deeper, more authentic level, and there will be greater opportunity to exchange/trade - the basis of a true negotiation - rather than bargain - beating the other guy/s down in price or the equivalent in other dimensions. The "solution" to the dishwasher problem is: 1. tell the dishwasher your experience with other dishwashers - late, not properly dressed, etc. That way, he/she knows what they're being compared to, what the requested (vs required) start time is, and ... (the clincher) you get a 10% bonus EVERY MONTH just for being on time: one week too short, one year too long. Also understand that UNLESS THE DISHWASHER DIRECTLY IMPACTS GETTING FOOD OUT, being late is NOT a critical failure as the dishwasher can process & deliver clean dishes faster, potentially much faster, than chefs can turn-out food. In addition, in order to further "harden" the dishwashing process, cross-train someone else to do the dishwashing ... AND PAY THEM EXTRA FOR THEIR ADDED SKILL AND AVAILABILITY. There is a cost to not having a dishwasher on a critical shift; paying to cross-train someone recognizes that their skill avoids LOST REVENUE AND CUSTOMER DISSATISFACTION.
@yl_ohmeohmyАй бұрын
I don’t like Jordan because he can’t listen he just talks at you. Reminds me of my father in law
@anastasiyavinnikova8193Ай бұрын
If you have listened to Jordan long enough, you will most likely better understand these 'interviews'. When he does these, it's more of a discussion. As a scientist, he gets excited about listening to the other persons expertise. But he doesn't just ask simple questions. More so, he often presents a thought experiment to find a truth. That requires him to set up a scenario or explain where his thinking is in order to get that person to apply their knowledge to the topics that he is presenting. He isn't trying to be rude or talk over him, he is trying to get a very deep answer.
@jjwurtzАй бұрын
Hope your he or you wife doesn’t see this and share it with him 🤪
@Thunderfirelighting14 күн бұрын
Which medication did you miss while making that comment? This is a Jordan Peterson channel…
@yl_ohmeohmy7 күн бұрын
@ I missed the 8th booster shot hopefully fauci forgives me
@catherineparkinson93298 күн бұрын
Oh my god..get to the point
@jukeboxwarrior536720 күн бұрын
Crap, what did they say? I wasn't listening.
@res1204Ай бұрын
He said a lot but never actually answered the question.
@a.s.242626 күн бұрын
No substance really from the guy. More of a thinly-veiled pitch for his program it seemed like.