The Beauty of Marriage

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I love this kind of content from you Dr. JBP. Listening to your lectures about aspects of life has really improved me

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Salute to you Sir

[@CynthiaCampbell0316]

Thank you Dr Peterson.

[@andreab1144]

I’ve been married 47 yrs. When I realized we are ONE… it changed everything. If I win an argument and he loses, I lose anyway. Every argument comes down to what’s good for us. His happiness is important to me. My happiness is important to him. I can’t imagine it any other way

[@Aureora]

this is truly amazing approach. 👏

[@anniamarie3809]

In a perfect world thats beautiful and the way it should be...but its hard today when men are already addicted to instant gratification and porn, theres no way they can love a woman properly.

[@Feezwa]

​@anniamarie3809 Pray. And have faith in God's guidance. Let the Holy Spirit work in your life thoroughly. Go to a church you can bare fruit. There are good men and women but they are "hidden" and held by God's hand. Not everyone can see them and reach them. Be yourself the women you want to marry if you were a man. The same applies to men: be yourself the woman you want to marry. Godspeed!

[@FlyFish4x4]

👏👏🙌❤️‍🔥

[@brandonjohnson1968]

​@@anniamarie3809Can't really lump all men in that group.....your literally saying 50 percent of the population is broken and not marriage material. On the flip side though most women have been ran through quite a bit these days, and offer very little in a marriage these days....both sides can do better too....

[@sannakarppinen4163]

I have been 17 years in marriage. And the feminist said that you don't need a man is a lie. To me it is comforting to know that you don't have to cary everything on your shoulders that you have that special someone who can help you cary lifes burdens with you. And been married has given me protection and security. Expecially when i have mental illness my husband has been my greatest support and rock i could rely on.

[@HiKasandra]

Kiitos for your sharing. It helps. Have a good day. X

[@dalidzucheredi2495]

The feminists who are not crazy say you need a good supporting man.

[@mightymouse1005]

My late husband and I had the same kind of relationship. I miss him every day. He calmed my anxiety and panic attacks.

[@mollesmart]

The caveat is the right man, a man who will cherish you, respect you, protect you and love you for who you are.

[@nistaffsubs6787]

Marxist people lie in every way they can to manupulate and divide people to make them weak and anger...

[@gardeniah9900]

I married late in my 30s. Before I met my husband all I do is work and work and care about my appearances and eating out. Life was like a roller coaster, it was fun but at the end was sad and lonely once it calm down. Now I’m married and have son, my life is well calm and relaxed, I able to take new challenges like cooking and focusing on someone other than myself, my son whom I love dearly. My husband who teach and support me. I don’t know how other women feel about marriage but for me, Im blessed to meet my husband

[@nkosinathingwenyareacts]

May God bless your souls🙏🏿❤😊

[@gardeniah9900]

@@nkosinathingwenyareacts thank you 😊 may god blessed your souls and love ones

[@liannemarie2504]

I constantly pray to and thank God for my husband ❤

[@denisefarrar826]

Married 44 years and have grown children and 18 grandchildren! What a wonderful 44 years!

[@maralsahedova4197]

Did you work during your marriage?

[@ooj100]

@@maralsahedova4197 Grown children who have produced 18 grandchildren. I am sure that happened with no “work” from her 🙄

[@mollesmart]

@@maralsahedova4197 I get where you are coming from. I had to divorce someone who expected me to be a cash cow. I'm never doing that one again. If a guy cannot support you, he does not deserve you.

[@karenk2409]

Congratulations!

[@Charybdismoon]

How many times did he sleep with another woman? And how many times did you almost divorce?

[@traceycurtis1005]

My marriage is the rock and greatest blessing in my life and I cannot imagine life without my husband and kids.

[@TheConqueror009]

Because you would be homeless on the streets

[@dearbrave4183]

@@TheConqueror009 Do women live on the street before they get married?

[@sofiabravo1994]

@@dearbrave4183 as a woman no I was never on the streets sadly men are though…

[@sofiabravo1994]

@@TheConqueror009 we get it you hate us women

[@winner1264]

God bless you Tracey 🙏😊

[@bgt2848]

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[@thecomeaufamily]

Was absolutely blessed to find a wonderful husband. Through his sacrifice and hard work, I was able to stay home and raise our son. I homeschooled him and maintained the home. We wouldn’t have it any other way. Our son is in university now (close to home) and finding a girl with his same values is challenging! If you’re considering homeschooling, I highly recommend.

[@ep5185]

I am happy you are happy. I do hope you both know that your life is possible because of sacrifice and hard work from both of you. He is not the only one making a sacrifice, and certainly not the only one working hard. Blessings.

[@thecomeaufamily]

@@ep5185 thank you. 🥰 I guess we never see work as work when we’re doing things we enjoy.

[@Vin-vk5tz]

Would you still loved him if he didn’t earn enough for you to stay home? I’m asking genuinely

[@liannemarie2504]

I'm blessed that my husband works hard so that I can stay home and homeschool our three children.

[@Cocoisagordonsetter]

@@Vin-vk5tz I don't speak for her, but when you make the choice to stay at home, you often choose to go without a whole lot of stuff and you make it work. So to define "enough" is a huge wild spectrum for different people from different backgrounds. (I have raised 3 now adult daughters at home. I loved my husband before we had children and I had a job first because I didn't have a guarantee of a spouse as a birthright.)

[@Victoria_Loves_Jesus]

"A cord of three strands is not easily broken." Ecclesiastes 4:12

[@theryanatomy]

Nah, it's pretty easily broken. I don't condone a threesome/polygamous marriage. Yuck. Even with C in the marriage, it is W that typically breaks it. C is fundamentally useless garbage in a marriage, and makes it a threesome. What G ultimately eluded to from that verse is Himself being in perfect relationship, the 3-in-1 - that is pretty narcissistic. Please reread your bible and note that the first thing Eve did after being created is to hangout with the dvl, plot her upgrade process to G status, and manipulated A. This is F nature before consuming "knowledge" and before the fall. Wake up my anti-Christ.

[@sonyapetroni6459]

Amen

[@arisauchida6300]

Ecclesiastes 4:9 two is better than one

[@patrickfarrell5615]

Amen

[@AJayQDR]

He doesn’t say it in this video but he often says something he learned from Carl Jung: you are not in it unless the exit door is shut. If you still have the option to pack and go it’s not a marriage.

[@mmmppp555]

Wtf, no tnx... You understood it very badly, also there is a psychotic nuance in your interpretation.

[@AJayQDR]

@@mmmppp555 I am pretty sure that’s what he means, he explains it in detail on many occasions, he says if you are with someone but don’t want to get married you are basically keeping your options open and seeing if a better option comes by… marriage means shutting that door, there is no other person and no more searching.

[@tylersoto7465]

There shouldn't have to be a exit door when you married the right person and if you know this and believe this in your heart and mind , you should be able to take the challenge and devote whatever it takes to make the marriage succeed

[@nbo9026]

@@mmmppp555 no and no.

[@scarletlady3727]

Tell that to a woman who’s husband beats her and molests their kids….so theirs no exit door?!

[@oliloolilo4467]

I like that it’s a story about how we are one being when we work together in marriage as a team using the strengths of our “separate” selves to the benefit of our whole self as a married couple. Becoming one flesh even in 2 autonomous bodies where one can have something happen but the other can impact them so much. She impacts the prince in that he suddenly feels devoted to her (his other half) well-being and he impacts the princess in that she cannot stand alone against a world once she sees her potential other half. When one of “us” is weak we lift the other up essentially. We inspire each other to do great deeds.

[@p.rogers5625]

This is the most truthful and concise definition of marriage I've ever heard, bar none. My partner and I are both severely traumatized people from serious early childhood abuse and neglect. I have yearned for a rigorously honest, fully committed relationship since I was a teenager but I have consistently chosen damaged men who never fully commit in our marriage. My partner and I both love Dr. Peterson and the wisdom he so generously shares resonates with both of us. I can't wait to share this video with him because if anything can penetrate his 10-years-and-counting avoidance to showing vulnerability, despite my unwavering demonstration that I will not betray him, this video, from this source, may provide sufficient proof that my years of sharing my desire for the type of relationship Dr. Peterson describes is motivated by an authentic, loving wish to collaboratively create what is best for our "oneness" rather than a desire to trap or own him or to gain power over him. Please send us your best wishes if you are moved to do so.

[@silvergibson2656]

Respect the way Jordan breaks the truth for all of us in such an easy way.

[@LifeHacks_Central]

Wow, this video beautifully captures the essence of marriage! It's all about the ups, downs, and everything in between. The way you portrayed the journey, the challenges, and the love shared was so touching. This reminds me why marriage is such a special bond. Thanks for sharing this amazing perspective!"

[@techguy651]

I told my wife that i had shackled myself to someone just as horrible and useless as I am so we could grow as people and she almost went irate. That was not the kind of romantic statement she wanted to hear from me when she asked why I was with her.

[@DaveJMorten]

😂 This comment is underrated

[@Blake4625kHz]

Imo u won the internet today LMAO

[@angelpilot9081]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Christifit406]

😂

[@debbierncde]

There are times when women (and men, too) just need some supportive validation. Telling the unvarnished truth, being sarcastic or snippy just does not help. Then there are times to work out problems. When I want to discuss a problem with my husband, I let him know that I would like us to talk in the next day or two. When he is ready, we sit together on our best comfy sofa knowing that we need to be vulnerable and really listen to each other. It always works out so much better than when, in a difficult moment, we let our tempers get the best of us. Learn to tell which approach is needed. Timing is everything!

[@metalted6128]

Great video, love Jordan, My wife is not perfect, I am not perfect, But together, 24 years now. We help each other, get closer to perfect ever day. Marriage is as special as life!!!

[@karenk2409]

That's the path. Good for you both.

[@honeyricci]

In my first year of marriage and I’m quickly realizing the truth in all he said as time goes by 👏🏾👏🏾

[@cristaylor1399]

Mhm

[@wesfin]

0:55 7:04- can’t leave, you are one, but that’s good because you can tell each other the truth (reveal/share literally everything about yourself, that’s intimacy) 9:08- must find and work out an answer to every problem, must keep going/trying, can’t quit

[@72151]

The spouse is someone who witnesses your life in a way the individual cannot. By being a part of one's adult life, the two people who choose to be together learn to complete the unity into one.

[@adityasangore5323]

Yes absolutely true marriage is about witnessing things

[@nette9836]

We've been married for 5 years, together for 10. It is so true that a successful marriage is one where both parties contribute and support the marriage itself instead of just the individual needs. Selfishness, self-importance, immaturity, and greed have no place in a marriage. If you struggle with any of these vices, DO NOT get married until you have resolved these problems in yourself. Through our hard work and the grace of Adonai, my husband and I have been incredibly successful in our marriage and intend to remain strong, resilient, loving, and humble until the end.❤

[@RadiusG60]

62 years old, you are describing a situation that rarely occurs because humans are not perfect. Maybe 15% of the time at most. The institution of marriage needs to be more robust to accommodate real human beings. It has not held up well to modern forces, such as urban living, leftism, education system, media, advertising, legal system etc.

[@JonCrs10]

My favorite lie Ive been told is that I'm "not mature enough for marriage" when the entire point is that marriage matures both parties. You're not mature enough? Well now you'll damn well be mature whether you like ot or not. If I desire to mature, don't discourage me from a catalyst for it

[@josy.p]

"If you tell someone the truth about you and they don't runaway they weren't listening"

[@seriouslycat6056]

I love 💕 JP when he laughs at his funny comments that he makes! Just great!

[@zoehutchinson8053]

Go JP! I love this bitter and twisted side of you! The way you kind of explore the topics with the audience and don’t have notes puts your public speaking skills in a league of their own. Even if I don’t always agree with what you’re saying, I can always appreciate your truly masterful use of languag.

[@FeminineDevourer]

I was pretty scared the past 2 months realizing the marriage I'm in it's uh.. complicated but I thought I was being a terrible Husband and have been rooting out things that have happened to me just to dig and get rid of the problems for her and well with her help of course and More terrified and confused and hurt by the fact that she uh.. knew about these issues.. and I was feeling for the longest time I was self loathing feeling undeserving of her until recently I realized that well.. This.. This is marriage and I'm doing it right, I was scared the terrible things made me undeserving that she deserved so much better which I was telling her the truth I couldn't admit to myself, and she still fucking loves me and wanted exactly *that* to happen for me to grow and become better since I had absolutely nothing that was before her she knew that, if it wasn't for her I would of rode down a terrible path. It's of course not all sun shine for us but boy do we know how to kick a hurricane in the nuts when we are together. Thank you JP for showing me that well.. This is marriage and we are doing it right!

[@Dylithia]

Same but I'm the wife with all the issues. I'm so glad to see how much Jordan is helping us all.

[@geoffreyokrongly916]

Your wife saw that you cared about your flaws. Bad husbands don’t care about their flaws, they only look outward and lash out. Congratulations on your marriage. With your attitude, I’m confident that you will make it to the intended conclusion of any successful marriage.

[@FeminineDevourer]

@@geoffreyokrongly916 Wow I didn't see it that way, thanks man! Much love!

[@darbyheavey406]

Bishop Futon Sheen wrote a book called Three for Marriage- God is the transcendent light that both the Wife & Husband aspire to.

[@pamelaJ9237]

Wish so badly our culture understood the meaning of marriage. It is for life. We grow through things we stick together. We see all the ugly. Not a game you can quit. At some point you will let down your spouse. Be a burden be hurtful. It goes both ways. Never leave and be faithful.

[@judymcmillan8693]

55 + years….we’re imperfect but it’s a covenant….commitment! ❤️

[@Pilgrim182]

The beauty of listening to Jordan.

[@jeremiahnoar7504]

For me, that's the coolest thing about symbolism. A fact is true but can represent ONLY one true thing at a given time. A symbolic idea can represent a number of true concepts at once. In some ways it's more efficient at explaining our world than a fact. There are some stories that aren't any longer than a paragraph and contain as much truths as full text books.

[@MisanthropicSeraph]

Wow, thank you for changing my mind on marriage.

[@musicbyanou]

this reminds me of Susan Jeffer’s “put down the magnifying glass and take a look in the mirror” and i want to extend on that point to be relevant to this video. when we are alone and with a delusion belief that we are ‘perfect as we are’ or worse yet with someone who feeds into that belief, we will occupy ourselves constantly with the magnifying glass, picking at the flaws of others and blaming them for our woes (victim mentality). when we decide to be humble and be with another just as humble, we both know we are deeply flawed, so we don’t need the magnifying glass for we are too occupied now with the mirror. we see this other person who holds up a mirror and motivates us to be better so we spend the rest of our lives improving ourselves because it is a never ending task. it’s a destination we never reach. but we are rewarded love that remains with us until we die.

[@unomene]

Beautiful! I appreciate the way Peterson articulates this dynamic. 👏🏼👏🏼

[@Kamikaze_Star]

That’s your mirror basically, showing you your triumphs and your bad behaviours and you can either face yourself (as one) or you can keep running. The amount of work is actually the same, having a twin flame sounds more rewarding though 🔥♥️

[@eleanorrigby1629]

Married for 10 months and look forward to my future with my husband like nothing I've ever looked forward to. The sentiment is true: I can't wait to grow old with him.

[@ladycactus110]

I lasted 38 years. It was incredibly lonely and frustrating for the last 18. Good luck… it’s not always in your purview to make it work. 😢

[@sierratim6023]

It's a journey together that is well worth the effort. 52 years of marriage and counting; 4 strong and independent children and 6 wonderful grandchildren. Me wife has made me a better person through her love. I can't imagine a better life.

[@peterjordan5122]

So, marriage is a Being that guides us like a light to our truth? May I add an idea for what that truth ultimately is? That alone we are lost, but together we have a chance at re-membering our Being. I am sure it doesn’t have to be a civil marriage, all relationships are a marriage, a reflection of what you believe you are.

[@bernardguynunns5658]

Goes against everything Jordan just said here.

[@ponggaaa4854]

He didn't touch as much upon it in this clip, but civil marriages present a unique paternal and maternal combination that gay marriages will never ever achieve. Further, a child NEEDS that parental love from both a mother and father. Each is so vastly different and they complement each other in critical ways.

[@eatsalad728]

if you're religious, you already know what truth is

[@heatherreddish9286]

This moved me. It is so true.

[@stuff247]

Whoa ! Every single thing he said literally is my life right now . To the jealous mom to the frustrations and wanted to sleep and never wake up I’m 27 and I’m in a life crisis mentally emotionally even physically. I’m lost

[@gardenjoy5223]

That's hard, to grow a spine later on in life, when your first one was removed ever so diligently. The most important people in your life inadvertently 'told' you, that you cannot cope. That you always needed their help. Thus making you some sort of victim in the world, without them fixing everything. That's simply crippling. BUT, you can grow your own spine! And you start with anything, that interests you, that is a small challenge, but not too hard. For instance: go volunteer at the local pet shelter. Find out, that the doggies look up to you and are grateful for your presence! Take the time to drink that good feeling in of being needed yourself. Your self-confidence will grow bit by bit. Just start with something you can imagine to like doing in a way that makes you serve others. For in serving others, be it handicapped children, lonely elderly or abandoned doggies, you'll find that you ARE having worth! For me, personally, it helped tremendously to start to understand the gospel of Jesus Christ. That God actually Wants me. So much even, that He paid a very high price to call me His own child, by the shed blood of His Son Jesus Christ on that cross, where He bore the sins of all that believe in Him, to be who He says He is: the only way back to a proper Father: father God. To love God above all else and learning to love others as myself, I grew out of adolescence.

[@sofiamagra]

It's been almost a year since you wrote this, so I hope you're doing ok. I just stumbled upon your comment. And I wanted to tell you: no, you're not lost. You're young and have more than one chance to get out of any crisis. If 11 months ago you were here in the middle of a crisis watching this kind of video, it was because you had an impulse to get better. I really hope you are better in the present moment, and I also wish for you to listen to that impulse and take those chances. Good luck, friend!

[@bufficliff8978]

There's a channel called HealthyGamerGG that's kind of cleaning up with Jordan started for me. Jordan showed me what was wrong with my philosophy, so I knew I needed help, and that other channel has given me the pragmatic understanding to make real progress. For a lot of people Jordan is enough, but not for me. That other channel is another licensed therapist. His passion point is helping gamers, but his stuff is helpful to everyone. He answers Reddit posts, has live therapeutic conversations with streamers who consent to having such conversations live so we can all learn together; it's a great resource. He has a yt channel and streams on twitch. I hope your life is better

[@JayGee_areWe]

Thank you for giving us hope..,

[@kstepk5003]

This is truth. Love JP

[@fancypants90210]

Try shackling yourself to some air, or water...see how long that holds you down and gives you the support needed at desperate times. Be real careful who you choose, ladies and gents. If you fell for The Lie, it can be difficult to accept and forgive your own stupidity. But never ever NEVER give up on love. It is, without a doubt, the most amazing mesmerizing feeling out there. No drug is as good

[@DSN262]

Love is imaginary

[@shaina--musician]

Frozen resonated with me very much as a young woman in todays day and age.

[@DaveJMorten]

What exactly resonates with you?

[@shaina--musician]

@DaveJMorten I grew up in a very strict religious home, that did not allow me to express my personality and eventually realized the only way to grow and feel good about myself was to leave and discover myself outside the constraints and pressure of the community. Elsa's story was about identifying the problem in her life, leaving a situation that was oppressive to her, allowing herself to discover her talents. Even as she discovered her talents, she still felt bound somehow to the world she left behind, so in frozen 2, she had to venture off and discover how she is even more unique than she first believed. She eventually grows into her own and fully embraces herself to the point where she is happy with her relationship to herself and the world and really thrives. That is my goal.

[@DaveJMorten]

Sounds like you got a good take-away from the movie. Thanks for sharing. @@shaina--musician

[@shaina--musician]

@@DaveJMorten sure:)

[@TalkItAllShow]

Lol it’s so funny when he said frozen is a piece of rubbish. I mean I know what he means, but I’m a singer, and I absolutely love the music in that movie.

[@yeboscrebo4451]

Not built into the text? “And he shall rule over thee” sounds pretty built in. Also Paul understood this clearly when he said “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.” The female submits to the light through first submitting to the male.

[@brentchristensen3546]

Love your stuff! You keep chirping and I will try to learn something. Thank you sir!

[@andysedlak1534]

Oh, you call it chirping. I call it endless babble.

[@youreadingleberry7434]

@@andysedlak1534 then don't listen ya dingus

[@Robert_H_Brown]

Thank you Jordan Peterson

[@Daneiladams555]

I am 50 yrs old and havnt been in a relationship for longer then 3 years I'm beginning to surrender trying anymore It's sad and I'm ok with it at the same time Marriage isn't for everyone

[@JavierGomezX]

I mean, I don't know anything about you. But you could ask yourself why that is happening. Sure, you can half-hazzardly come up with an unproven explanation like "maybe it's not for me", but I doubt you could learn much from an explanation like that. It's ok though, you are not obligated to learn anything from that, as long as you have something else that is a worthy source of light that you can attach yourself to.

[@Daneiladams555]

@@JavierGomezX I've spent much time thinking about it, I have a lot of childhood trauma, by the time I cure it I will be dead if that's even possible to cure it

[@DarkownerMinimalist]

dont give up! never! send you some ♥! greez from a random guy from switzerland.

[@JavierGomezX]

@@Daneiladams555 Then maybe seek hope in another source. I am biased since I am christian, but in my experience and that of millions of people world wide, attaching yourself to God and seeking his wisdom can bring you that fulfillment. He is the one that founded the intitution of marriage after all. Regardless, I hope you find what you need, but you need to keep seeking in order to find. To quote some of the wisdom I am telling you about: “Keep on asking, and it will be given you; keep on seeking, and you will find; keep on knocking, and it will be opened to you; 8 for everyone asking receives, and everyone seeking finds, and to everyone knocking, it will be opened." Matthew 7:7, 8.

[@Daneiladams555]

@@JavierGomezX im a taoist,i don't believe in god

[@attor90]

I don't have anyone to tell the truth to but I have camera to record me and after couple of days I ll listen to it back. It works 👍

[@JordanBPeterson]

Very creative.

[@attor90]

@@JordanBPeterson I know. 😎

[@kaizenborntowin]

Thank you!

[@einarkeyser1763]

"I can't do it."

[@mumsie8578]

Another clip I watched yesterday from JP.... Made md realise my bf isnt going to ever marry me. Kinda heartbreaking and now idm what to do. Pick your partner wisely out there fams

[@coolslimm5105]

have to watch this a couple times

[@mihaelahanko1871]

I just love him!!❤

[@lonewolf01gd54]

8:47 all the way to the end is my favorite part, that is EXACTLY what I was thinking. great minds think alike ;)

[@AlexS-bi7of]

4:37 is that an allegory for him getting what he wants and disappearing?

[@angelaguirre9453]

Why doesn’t KZbin let me rewind the clips. All clips??? So many things I don’t get so I rewind to listen. KZbin don’t let me 😡

[@stephaniefortney22]

To Be Subordinate To the Light …The prince isn’t just a man…Marriage is a bet…You bet me on and I bet on You, as You shackle to one as imperfect as me, We can straighten it out or suffer through it, for the next five decades- what a choice, As you remind yourself whom do you tell the Truth to?…. Theres a reason why he hit on every nerve, for truth can hurt, as we are all imperfect - J.P. Has no problem speaking the truth…Do not forget the most important part…the brilliance of His wisdom, that which creates…a Beautiful Gift, Absolutely Grateful❤

[@thorstenmarquardt7274]

Peterson grew up during a time without dating apps and onlyfans

[@latt.qcd9221]

Peterson says some good things, but he's entirely inconsistent in regards to marriage where, on the one hand, he will rightly point out how unbelievably devastating the divorce process can be on men and the dangers they face and then, on the other hand, he'll shame people for avoiding relationships involving legal contracts by claiming they don't "trust" each other and that they're "planning for it to end." His care for young men and their suffering is in stark contrast to his seemingly cold, judgement of their avoidance of suffering onset by marriage. He's pushing for men to slay the dragon, get the gold, and share it with the community, not realizing that there is no longer any gold, and the community worships the dragon. To continue advocating for men to slay the dragon, regardless of the reality of the current situation, is morally wrong. Marriage, in its current form, isn't the institution he fantasizes it to be.

[@mchristr]

@@latt.qcd9221 When you say "marriage in its current form", do you mean our modern Western concept of marriage? Then reject that concept and look for something immutable. Are you looking for guarantees? A man goes forward without them, knowing there are greater purposes in life than self-preservation or the avoidance of suffering.

[@latt.qcd9221]

@@mchristr You can't simply "reject the concept and look for something immutable" because marriage is inextricably linked to the State, no matter how you try to arrange things. Signing marriage documents? You're linked to the State. Live together for a long time without a marriage document? You're linked to the State. Not to mention, marriage today offers absolutely nothing for men and women don't bring anything to marriage. You can fantasize about a new "concept" of marriage all you want, but that won't mean it will exist or that such women will exist. If you're signing a contract that says that the woman will be rewarded if she breaks the contract, then, yes, I'm looking for a guarantee that she *_can't_* do that because that's wrong. It's impossible to completely avoid risk, but it's foolish to take on unnecessary risks that bring no reward.

[@MegadetHx92]

This is cruely hillarious. I love it

[@Porshewithnobrakes]

He is awesome

[@fotisvon9943]

By not having a child i dont recognize the true importance of such an idea. But im glad to store it away for later to ponder on

[@ExecutiveZombie]

No running away, Jose! Shackled.⚔️🧟‍♀️

[@willowstarfeather]

Until it isn't. My ex abused me. Constant putting down so I felt worthless. Not caring if I was sick. Used to put headphones on or stay out of the room. Forced me to grovel to get anything. Even a few extra dollars to pay for nappies for the kids. Had 10 yrs of that until I got out. Had another 7 yrs fighting for my independence. I won in the end and haven't looked back. Well much anyway. It's getting easier. 24 years later I'm still waiting for a good guy. I listened to your lectures on personality. I know where I went wrong.

[@JordanBPeterson]

Very sorry to hear this willowstar

[@willowstarfeather]

@@JordanBPeterson I struggled for a bit but then I found I could do more each time. I don't seem to be able to change who I am. It's a good thing because I like me. I was worried this trouble would harden my heart but that's not happened. I did lack some direction though. I've found a path I intend to follow. Things I've learnt listening to you and others have set me straight again. I still find I'm living outside of community though. I don't fit in anywhere. Which makes finding another mate really difficult. I talk to people with ease just I think they look at me as though I'm too much. I find a lot of men very superficial.

[@jon2067]

Are you white?

[@willowstarfeather]

@@jon2067 why?

[@jon2067]

@@willowstarfeather just curious

[@franacha]

What a trolling move from the algorithm to show me this

[@cledosliop4175]

I really appreciate the way he interpreted the sleeping beauty.

[@highervibration6255]

People leave when you tell them the truth even when you're married. It's called divorce. 50% of relationships end up that way. Marriage doesn't magically make it better what makes it better is 2 people who actually want to grow and change over the course of their lives

[@amyb7823]

Yes, but up until so many years ago, most people didn't divorce. Especially not at the rates of today. Why? Because people valued marriage. They respected marriage for the lifelong commitment that it is supposed to be.

[@rosieposie9564]

@@amyb7823 That is not the reason most people did not divorce. Today, most divorces are initiated by women. In the past, many women could not leave awful even abusive men because they were financially dependent on them. People still value marriage today but they also value not staying in an awful relationship just out of tradition, duty or lack of financial options.

[@amyb7823]

@@rosieposie9564 Yes but why do women initiate divorce more of the time? Much of the time it's due to infidelity. And why is that? Because there are lot of women out there who are willing to have sex before marriage and sleep around. There is also a lot of temptation online- OnlyFans, access to prostitution, pornography etc. This is not good for marriages and for families. Another reason is that women are in the workforce now along with men, not staying at home and tending to the children which is a full time job in itself. A lot of women don't receive help from men in this area because historically women are the ones who tend to household responsibilities. You can blame men for this or you can look at it as society being so critical of more traditional ways of living, critical of men being the leaders of the household and women being stay at home moms that cook, clean and tend to the home that it puts a strain on marriages today. Truthfully, society has also changed economically to where middle class society requires both mom and dad to work full time. That's also an issue. I also don't think it's fair to just blame men and just say well men are abusive and it's all their fault. It's also more socially acceptable to get a divorce now and it's just too easy to give up, divorce and start over. There's no incentive to stay and work out any problems. Women just feel excessively liberated and unwilling to work out the issues. Why should they? They can just get a divorce, get alimony, get child support and start over. I don't believe it's an exclusively men only cause for the problems with marriages today. It's an overall societal issue.

[@tylersoto7465]

I also love the story of sleeping beauty but not about the love story part etc but about maleficent herself and the power she holds , if she wasn't evil she could of been something even far more than just a powerful "fairy God" but a promise of a better tomorrow , she could of been a light in the world , bringing peace and joy to the world , and unleash great wonders and beautiful to mankind and bring a golden age to last the millennia

[@shmuel6]

On the flip side once you are Shackled you can take your partner for granted as we are seeing with many relationships today. Knowing that your partner has options keeps you working to being the best you can be.

[@jd3jw]

I think that happens because a lot of people see getting married as the start of "happily ever after". They buy into the idea that marriage is the end state, rather than the beginning of something new. And if once you get married everything is just supposed to work out perfectly, why would you work on yourself any further?

[@karenk2409]

It shouldn't be like that. Marriage should never be a competition with the outside world, There's no "shackled." You totally don't get it.

[@dalton7425]

Thank God for Jordan Peterson

[@apm9507]

Amen!

[@thedarkfox9851]

I'd rather thank his parents for fucking cause thats more realistic lmao

[@mandulathrimanne8400]

Amen!

[@Tigerhearty]

You mean thank the rabbi apparatus that rot intentionally both side of the political aisle by joo bols h evick on the left and jo o zlonlst on the right, launching the wrecking ball of destruction of the west a little further to the extreme every time ?

[@drushing92]

I disagree on some of this, but always enjoy listening to you just the same. You always get me thinking. Thanks for all the post!

[@piplupsuper0]

Yo dawg talk about mikhalia's ex on this topic

[@raminMTL]

Andrew Tate?

[@off6848]

Wutt?? Who cares

[@РафаэлаХендрикс]

LOL

[@lorrilewis2178]

Research into couples who live together before marriage is more nuanced that that. Studies now show that if two people live together out of convenience or because they drifted into it, they are more likely to divorce. But couples who consciously made up their mind to commit before moving in together, are less likely to divorce.

[@joepisacreta3822]

If you've made your mind up to commit than just get married. This is circular.

[@lorrilewis2178]

@@joepisacreta3822 Where did you get the idea they weren't getting married? I mentioned studies about MARRIED PEOPLE and the effects of prior cohabitation on divorce rates. I'm talking about people who move in together AFTER they commit, but BEFORE the wedding. The study found that prior cohabitation does not raise divorce rates for those who committed before moving in together.

[@mmmppp555]

@@joepisacreta3822 We will do whatever we want to do, weirdo.

[@joepisacreta3822]

@@mmmppp555 Yes you will I have no doubt. Godspeed.

[@joepisacreta3822]

@@lorrilewis2178 I don't doubt the statistics - and that's good news as far as it goes. My point is that the category of people who don't move in together before they are actually married (not planning) probably overlaps almost completely with the those who take marriage and sexual union to be a sacred thing, and I think there is good data to suggest that these folks have more fulfilled and longer lasting marriages *citation needed* I'm aware and I can dig a couple up and post them here.

[@jenniferb557]

I'm a Swede and I have never heard of this candle thing.

[@swedishjester777]

This is great

[@kirtley4660]

Can someone fill me in on what people are talking about with Mikhail's ex

[@charlesaustin566]

She got pregnant out of wedlock, married the guy and he is the one that actually helped them get JBP treated in eastern Europe because he speaks Russian. Then she decided to divorce him but he seemed like a good father. There were rumors that he had psychotic/delusional tendencies tho.. but that could be a crock of shit. People are largely under the impression that she dumped a good man simply because she "wasn't happy with the marriage" like so many other women these days. But who knows what was really going on..

[@jenniferespiritu2172]

But nothing is good when you tell your partner to dismis yourself in a appropriate manner , that surely both of you will understand clearly and respectfully grant each other a good farewell :)...God bless Professor Jordan Peterson and more power

[@JayVal90]

There’s nothing good about such a farewell. Work it out, snakes.

[@faithburns8379]

Goodness. I love the analysis of the fairy tale! Deep

[@Lana.JesusSaves]

This is beautiful ❤

[@marcoesteves4367]

Absolutely overwelming

[@hannahdewinter5515]

I won't stop believing in love and marriage.

[@channel-gt1cb]

Yeah but living together before marriage is a legitimate opportunity to observe a partner's living habits and part of compatability profiling.

[@ladycactus110]

Except many people are good actors.

[@channel-gt1cb]

​@@ladycactus110 I agree. I'm a struggling actor myself. The public have unrealistic expectations because of television. Thank you for being down to earth, it's refreshing.

[@JColas1]

this is brilliant, nothing else to say...

[@jenniferwgraham2740]

Wow, profound!

[@MeRA-1675]

What an amazing lecture ❤❤❤

[@Aakash30794]

What would be the ideal age for a man to get married iam just curious i know in modern day times it varies alot, but i would genuinely love to find a partner and build a wonderful life with her iam 29 years old presently

[@shanesambo5633]

God bless JBP's heart

[@ashen8046]

This was great... but the quote was Groucho Marx not Woody Allen.

[@starseed1014]

I'm 47 I'm getting a divorce after 10 years. No kids. His kids are grown and not very friendly towards me. I have a bf but he has three daughters by three different women. Am I getting re married? Would like to but I'm in a different place than he. He's looking at working hard for the next 10 plus years to pay for child support. I'm looking at hardly working and retiring in Mexico. He's not too pleased lol. You either makes kids or money my adopted dad would say.

[@DSN262]

Love is a fancy word for lust. And lust always fades

[@beets0978]

What did he mean when he said " if someone loves you that should immediately disenchant you with them"?

[@ezekielagboola7419]

As individuals, we have a good side and a bad side. We show the good side to everyone everyday but reserve the bad. Anyone in their right sense won't love a person whose bad side is revealed

[@ananndavinci]

There is always a two sides. He sees the beauty in a marriage I see the only the beast. The beast in me helps me to bear the pain of being a man.

[@BigBiteDoughnut]

11 years married and it was the worst decision of my life. Sex and cleaning and never soeaking is not my idea of love or life. Its a punishment and hobestly i cant wait till its over.

[@jpetras16]

Americans have to settle for roast beef lul

[@Revitalization4241]

Lmao

[@mcchickenmuhchicken]

@@TheStraightestWhitest tell me you have never seen a vagina...without telling me you have never seen a vagina.

[@dalibofurnell]

Excellent

[@lilyoseiakoto1370]

I love you JP,you're awesome... But why don't you like Frozen? I want to understand

[@rationraw5017]

When people looked at my mom’s puffed face out of mental depletion and vocational depression, and sexual harassment from various social life, of course in your world there isn’t a term as “sexual harassment”. I think after 100 times she finally ceased thinking about how to handle out a plausibly nice answer, which behind that failed marriage is that she had an really conservative mother, and an extremely vain father like you, oh she misses them a lot. She didn’t know how to stand fair ground for herself against an aggressive man as my father, who couldn’t move in front of a beautiful woman as my mom in her 20s, what an romantic things, if both of them, also me, forgot that as soon as she delivered a girl, that was me, my father went out looking for his missed opportunity and youth, probably because of that he was expected a son. And I think my dad has another little daughter behind his magnificent life, even though I don’t know the truth, you know, a nice father like him would never tell his good daughter things like this. If that was true, oh another miserable little girl, unlike me, she even couldn’t have a plausible father-daughter relationship, the big daddy is too busy about being a good man, what a shame, I felt bad for my mysterious little sister occasionally. Oh look what nonsense I’m talking about, you and your daughter have a wonderful relationship! Look how sexy she’s! Men would be crazy for her, look how intelligent you’re. You know, when that day comes, that you dying in you bed, and you beautiful daughter sitting in the bedside gripping your hand, she must be terribly appreciative of having a father like you in this life.

[@SleepingAwake28]

I am a female and often see myself becoming to naive and chaotic… I know very well this means that I need to be more like a man 😆 It’s all about balance 🤗☯️

[@artugert]

You’re a woman. Why would you need to be like a man?

[@MontyQueues]

sometimes having both aspects about yourself can help you in life, yin and the yang @@artugert

[@GMizza]

The Beauty Of Marriage... for women. The Beauty Of Divorce... for women.

[@nowie4007]

Damn

[@TheConqueror009]

Coach Gang!

[@dearbrave4183]

The Beauty of accountability for men. Why are women running away from you?

[@dearbrave4183]

@Blaster If women were that much motivated by money they would be the first to climb the success ladder. They would make more with less stress and quarrels. There's something else. Among the families living under the poverty line 40% are single mothers, 8% two parent household. So it's not a win for women. Again, there's something else.

[@dearbrave4183]

@Blaster Yes they are hard wired for that. But they are also hard wired to want masculine presence around. Are you saying that just to get the man's money they will be willing to be a single mother with all the stress and problems it brings? I would like to think that a married woman has more access to her husband's money than a single one. A married woman has both the man and his money. It seems like a much better deal. Did you go through a divorce?

[@AnaRanja]

Happynies and frendship.No allowed even think at other partener.You are one with youre spose, traid youre spose traid youreself. You have such a marriage?

[@DungeonAesthetics]

I, for one, would like to hear from Mikhalia's ex on this topic, Juden Peterstein?