KEN READS: EPISODE 29: THEY BROKEUP AND CAME BACK TO ME

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@Ievasliog Ай бұрын

Thanks you for sharing your knowledge and experience in professional manner. That statement that severe avoidants who don’t work on themselves will never change and there’s no hope for better future was empowering to kill that small hope. That’s bitter truth, but it’s much more better then these millions of videos how to get that avoidant back by killing your personality and tiptoeing around child at emotional level.

@barbara6840 Ай бұрын

Bravo for this! Ken your videos have cracked me not wide but wise open. I finally feel seen! I'm 48 and have poured my authentic self into men that made me contort like a Cirque de Soleil performer. I've become pissed off as I knew it wasn't me! I am feeling a savageness in myself now brewing where I will start telling these emotionally immature men...."Listen I am trying to build a healthy relationship with you, but I am seeing patterns that you may be too emotionally immature for me. Basically before you play your card 'You're too good for me'. I will stop you right there and say yes I am! Exit stage left. Leave the door open for the gentleman waiting after you as now it's his chance. You had yours. Thank Ken. I believe we all need to find our strength to stand on our good character and integrity and hold these bad behaving people accountable.

@jdprettynails Ай бұрын

“You need to compartmentalise your emotions, like me” “No” I’m sorry this made me smile. So badass.

@dr.default5159 Ай бұрын

Hm, I'd like to provide some clarity on FAs coming back like nothing happened. For me, I was like that because that's how I was conditioned. Growing up as a child, it was fairly common for me to be emotionally abused, invalidated, gaslight, or blamed by my parent. There was never any emotional validation nor acknowledgement about the abuse, I was instead blamed for it. So, when you go years without any validation for your emotional pain so, eventually I got used to that pain. Then I'd continue to be exposed to that emotional abuse repeatedly over and over again, so I never had time to process any of my emotions. I simply had to get over it because I had to prepare for another round of emotional abuse. Hopefully that makes sense, and honestly, I genuinely believed that other people got over things quickly just like me, I did not realize that people actually hold onto that pain until things are resolved. That was quite a foreign concept to me, because I never had that option to hold on.

@tarkov_6 Ай бұрын

I think people blame themselves due to the idea of someone suddenly changing for no reason is just too hard to believe to be factual

@SUNNYchanceofRAIN111 Ай бұрын

"You know your healing when THAT is no longer your type" evolution! Perfect! I dont even think I know 'normal' any more

@music0326 Ай бұрын

The fault finding is so disgusting. Like when breaking up telling you that you need better photo's on your profile, while saying I love you a few days before that. It's nauseating.

@SUNNYchanceofRAIN111 Ай бұрын

Thank you for the bit about compassion and sharing your personal vulnerability

@juliebosnich4283 Ай бұрын

Two of the best on this topic 🙌

@tawnyloveless 19 күн бұрын

Thank you!!! 🖤

@dorcusmunduru4471 Ай бұрын

Beautiful content, thank you, beautiful Tony and Ken.

@Moonie787 Ай бұрын

I love it when you have Tawny on, she’s phenomenal ❤ thank you, Ken, for your quality content as always. Much love & gratitude 💖🌸

@tawnyloveless 19 күн бұрын

Thank you! Always an honor to share the screen with Ken. 🖤

@ClaudiaKuzniak 29 күн бұрын

I love Tawny!

@tawnyloveless 19 күн бұрын

🖤🖤

@TheFilmfan22 Ай бұрын

I think Matthew Hussey has good intentions but ohhhh yeah he’s avoidant 😂. I did find his advice on confidence useful but not on dating. Always invalidated feelings of hurt and rejection

@skromnyasha Ай бұрын

Ken, I need your tea on Matthew hussey ✋

@tinalu4695 Ай бұрын

Right? Did he say M.H. is an avoidant?? 🧐

@TheFilmfan22 Ай бұрын

😂😂 my ears perked up when he said this…. Oh no he didn’t… yes yes he did

@sarahquinn6776 Ай бұрын

ha I feel like an avoidant bingo card would actually be a really helpful resource

@sapnapandey5922 Ай бұрын

These avoidant people are so manipulative

@spiritwanderer777 Ай бұрын

that's the thing, most are not, because in order to manipulate you need to know what you are doing and majority of avoidants I met lack any self-reflection/awareness. like drones they follow same path not knowing why, what for, and where it's going. sadly even if you try to be the voice of awareness for them they will hear it as a controling behavior and fly away fearing that it will crash them. narcissists on the other hand are a different story even if it feels very similar.

@jojop.418 Ай бұрын

@@spiritwanderer777 unfortunately intention does not override impact. someone's behavior can be manipulative regardless if they have self-awareness.

@sapnapandey5922 Ай бұрын

@@spiritwanderer777 you are right.

@spiritwanderer777 Ай бұрын

@@jojop.418 totally. i've been long term with a narcissist and avoidant before and it hurt equally bad, but i'd say breaking up with the avoidant hurt a lot more because it felt like the love was real, at least in the beginning.

@tarkov_6 Ай бұрын

@spiritwanderer777 That is BS. awareness does not even factor in when talking about manipulation.Tell me, what is pushing someone away so that the other person ends things if not manipulation? What is avoiding even talking so conflict be avoided if not manipulation? They know that in the past that A resulted in B, they want B. THAT IS MANIPULATION.... your same arguement can be used to say that narcissists are not manipulative....