Kevin McCall Confronts His Mother's Anger and Violence | Iyanla: Fix My Life | OWN

[@promisesmithee943]

Sorry but his parents didn't raise him right. Treat ur kids badly and it will come back to bite you.

[@promisesmithee943]

Everyone always blames the child and doesn't see how the actions the parents make causes it

[@GoogleAccount00]

Promise Smithee I agree 💯

[@sheilaj4084]

I don't agree that a parent needs to acknowledge their bad parenting, they should but they don't "need" to. If you wait until someone acknowledges their wrong to you then you maybe stuck for a very long time. What if they died, or don't see their wrong are you going to continue to be a victim or are you going to move past it? My parents didn't acknowledge nothing...well maybe my mother a little but my father no that will not be happening so am I to live my life based on his lack of acknowledgement? No I am going to figure out how to live my life and be happy in it with or without their apology. We are responsible for our own lives once we become adults and trying to get someone to do what we think they should do is a waste of time and energy.

[@GoogleAccount00]

Sheila Jefferson I think there may be a misunderstanding. We can agree to disagree :-) I hope you have a Happy Thanksgiving Shelia!

[@sheilaj4084]

No misunderstanding but yes, you have a wonderful Thanksgiving also!

[@tishapink19]

I can't stand a parent that makes excuses after being a dead beat and horrible parent.

[@Shawnmyrelle]

Tisha Pink I can't stand with people look at the family from the outside and make irrational comments spreading their ignorance in the air.

[@yourmomzgynaecologistdr.d1068]

+Shawn McKenzie real talk

[@beatrrixkiddo2294]

It looks like she was opening up pretty well, and she acknowledged where she went wrong. This response doesn't apply to her.

[@waytoorealtv6568]

Tisha Pink he lying

[@rifoist]

That's part of the deadbeatness.

[@lisabrightly]

I know she's still abusive because she pulled one of those "if I meant to hit you I would have" lines. That's classic abuser speech right there!

[@charlesgibson7299]

She said that in reference to the father. We don’t know what the father put her through.

[@blackhaze7350]

@@charlesgibson7299 Is that supposed to make it okay?

[@charlesgibson7299]

@@blackhaze7350 I don’t know. None of us has enough information to know. If the father was abusing her, then yes. If not, then no.

[@KingComp67_-io3iz]

@@charlesgibson7299 If a women feels like something doesn’t go her way Doesn’t give her the right throw a knife at someone man or woman. If a man Threw a knife at a woman in the home will you use “we don’t know what goes on in the home” excuse or automatically accuse the man he’s the abuser which makes you a hypocrite???

[@charlesgibson7299]

@@KingComp67_-io3iz Like I said: we don’t have enough information to know. If the father was putting his hands on her, she had every right to defend herself with that knife. If you disagree with that, then you go ahead and support violence against women. That’s your right. I don’t support that. And I never will. If the father wasn’t putting his hands on her, she was wrong for throwing the knife. We don’t know enough about what happened to make a judgment call. Maybe y’all think y’all do. And that’s fine. I don’t.

[@autumnrose6370]

I love Iyanla response to his mom reaction. You are angry - I'm angry - you make me pay for the behavior you demonstrated to me. Own it. Children are a reflection of their parents.

[@REDMICRADIO]

And even when confronted about her bad behavior she still cant say she was wrong.

[@o13sweetboy]

THE KNOWLEDGE BEAST Don't you find most bad mothers never can admit that they're wrong. it's in breaded in them.

[@REDMICRADIO]

Daniel Bailey women are not responcibile for their actions. This is why the White Man don't want a woman president

[@o13sweetboy]

THE KNOWLEDGE BEAST Not only that Which Is why I don't place a Woman to be above a Man in anyway.

[@Indyluvsme23]

THE KNOWLEDGE BEAST remind me of my mom

[@triamoore2931]

I know them 🙄and I’ll just say this some of you are great judges of character... I try my best to not make decisions that will cause my kids to grow up and say you are the reason... you created this monster.... Going to Christ doesn’t mean you’ve gone over night nor does it mean the damage you’ve done disappeared most Christians miss that

[@akalavon1]

This seemed phony The mother did not seem genuine at all This is why Kevin still having issues She seems very judgmental and unaccountable In her core she still feels like she don’t have nothing to do with Kevin being the way he is Just disgusting smdh

[@MickeyJaymz]

Zee SharSaudiGoddess "This seemed phony" My thoughts exactly, good call, you went all the way the bottom of the truth.

[@graciaxxl8808]

Yes I couldn’t agree more! I can’t believe people are making excuses for her in the comments and saying well she admitted this. No! All she was doing was saying that yea she had an anger problem and she got “help.” Lol like “ yeaaa I did that.. soooo 🤷🏾‍♀️” is how she was looking and talking about it. Like all that matters to her is that she “found the lord” and “growth.” I don’t think she was genuine either or even fully understood in that moment all that she has done, it’s like she wants to fade anything out that she has done and what it has caused... and because she found her growth somehow all her actions and their consequences are wiped clean 🤦🏾‍♀️ lol smh

[@talkswithali]

You just explained my mother to the T

[@divinewisdom1862]

She doesn’t want to accept accountability for her actions.

[@nyafisher10]

I agree and that is what creates that toxic viscous cycle. Acknowledgement is the first step! Some parents just can't do it. Go through this with my own parents. Finally moving on for myself.

[@turshaimaultsby8741]

He seems like a happy child again when he heard his mother's apology ❤️

[@joimonae4090]

i said the same

[@naketathomas7731]

Kevin is beautiful but damaged...

[@beautifulbrandy6203]

Naketa Thomas I see why he is so angry with his daughters mom Eva he has issues with woman because of his mom

[@fatimaamitaf4184]

HE'S 8N JAIL RIGHT NOW FOR BEATING ANOTHER WOMAN

[@lasheemaford8318]

Beautiful where?! Toxic is what he is

[@katlap3101]

Lasheema Monroe, aesthetically pleasing lol, but scary his actions are, it’s hard to wish him well knowing he abuses women

[@nubiacairo8835]

I hope Iyanla can help him so he doesn't pass on this behavior onto his children.

[@sheritownsend7525]

I love shows where people have to face what they did. Pointing fingers is never going to get anybody anywhere.

[@aderlinejohnson8566]

he pointed the finger at her the whole time

[@raymondweston8997]

I always find it funny; how people in general. Once they "find Jesus" or "find the Lord" (You were lost, not them); they expect that all of their prior transgressions are wiped clean. As if Christianity, is a magic eraser.

[@AandP4dummieslikeme]

That, or just saying, "I'm sorry" or "I have to live with what I've done"-as though that is all that is required.

[@DJANTTV]

Preach

[@bbzblessed]

Raymond Weston 20yrs is a long time for anyone to grow. Who doesn't pick up something from the adults around us. The point his mother made was that she has grown throughout the years. And that she has changed for the betterment of herself and her family. She has even learned from this experience... She has grown since then.

[@raymondweston8997]

Brenda Scott When she first admits, to her transgressions; then she has changed and evolved. Until then; everything else out of her mouth, is "white washing" her past, under the banner of the cross.

[@kjoh2751]

Ummm ok. But when you're 30 years old nothing that happened in your past matters. You can't stand in front of a judge and say that I have a violent past because I saw my mother throw a knife. The world doesn't care about our childhoods. The world expects us to cope and thrive in spite of our past.

[@raymundofantastico]

Many parents like to hold their children too accountable for the deplorable stuff that they have done as criminals or as simply "bad people" without realizing that they themselves are mainly responsible for their upbringing.

[@shukmabegum3955]

Raimundotyy Laurencia

[@angeliaimeanttoloveyouharr8404]

Raimundo Laurencia right

[@jasminevaliente96]

Exactly how she say you're too focused on who I was before growing yet that's who tf you were when raising me I didnt get these so called mature woman when I was having knives thrown around the house as a kid

[@tanisha.r.thomas]

This is so my mama. Kicked me out at 17 but left me in jail when I was stealing to have clothes and food.

[@ItsmeCR-g8j]

Does she realize that he was a kids “before her growth.” Regardless of what time in her life he witnessed the negative behavior, her child still learned that behavior.

[@BethJehovah]

The traumas a child saw and felt is never "20 years ago". It is muscle memory forever.

[@Keishafromdablockk]

The mom low key looks like Octavia Spencer

[@radiowhatsnew]

Keishafromdablock 💯

[@bonnieblanco2840]

Yup

[@nae7379]

Keishafromdablock 🤣🤣🤣👌🏾

[@nyokaharper8504]

Yesss could be sisters..

[@ajileadams2483]

Keishafromdablock I thought it was Octavia Spencer

[@deejohnson2229]

Clearly he needs long-term treatment. He needs to heal so he can maintain healthy relationships with women and co-parent his children.

[@kangoocutee1198]

Facts!

[@loveislove8741]

He grew up in a turbulent household. His mother and father really let him down.

[@ricomarcelmusic]

Im sorry, but this man has amazing skin lol

[@jamarkajohnson5924]

Rico Marcel GAY

[@KamalasNotLikeUs]

Uh oh. Another one with mommy issues. Now he can only take it like a girl. Rme

[@wemdoto4201]

I agree (it’s not gay to compliment a guys skin)

[@t.5021]

You are right

[@kimanderson2342]

Rico Marcel he has amazing everything...face, teeth, hair, lips...all of that!

[@Gavin_Gavalli]

Now let’s talk about the apology you need to give to your daughter for dis owning her on social media

[@JewelsR4ever]

So because she got a relationship with "the Lord" none of what she did matters anymore?? I don't get it.

[@tixa1ify]

the nerve 🙄

[@kenyattawilliams8359]

It does matter

[@CherryBlossomBlyue]

A lot of born again Christians feel that way

[@emericas9]

My pops the same way 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@shake1602]

But will tell YOU to pray to your god to forgive you 😂😂😂

[@promisesmithee943]

Chris Brown needs this

[@senaittewolde6429]

lmao

[@ediththompson30]

Yes Yes yes

[@lifeofdyme4057]

Promise Smithee he sure does

[@onesequentglove]

He goin go off on this woman. No, lol I think he is a nice guy like most black men but are put down by everyone.

[@parisdavis7673]

Promise Smithee YES LORD HE DOES

[@henrique2011ish]

Parents are stupid! He will grow with age and wisdom. But the damage is done! Now it's time for mom to look in the mirror! It's easy to build a strong man. It's hard to fix a broken one!

[@dontdomeboo81]

Hen Bee. agree with hard to repair a broken man...

[@divinewisdom1862]

Hen Bee True

[@malikabryan329]

Deep.

[@taneabree]

Hen Bee it’s not for everyone

[@hoekravitz]

He’s over 30 years old lol

[@dontdomeboo81]

he fine.... i kno thats besides the point..

[@AandP4dummieslikeme]

IKR-but we have to say it anyway-LOL

[@jenbroccoli861]

Random Ish 😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭❤❤✨✨

[@dindaroelovesyou]

😁my words exactly.

[@SuckerPunch92]

Girl I was just about comment and say that. 😂😂 he is fine.

[@birdchoyce4332]

Tay Boone I don't see his beauty because he seems to be very angry and dangerous. I believe his mother and father played a major role in his violent behavior, but it seems that his rage is more towards his mother.

[@1blessedbrotha]

to all the "thirsty" females out there, fine ain,t nothing if you are broken inside!!!!!

[@louise-yo7kz]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@BlkMagickGaia3]

"Females"?? You refer to women as 'females", tells a lot about your mentality.

[@meelee280]

Amen

[@testedtried1233]

@@BlkMagickGaia3 Now that's stupid. WTF

[@davoaxwell7349]

@@BlkMagickGaia3 be gone Karen.

[@unalteredbeauty1246]

All of these “he so fine” comments are blowing my mind! 😳🤨🧐🤯 To hell with looks when the behavior is trash! Anger and violence will make the best looking person look like a monster.

[@chocolatenikki]

Unaltered Beauty Right. Smh

[@jasminevaliente96]

Girl bye you can acknowledge someone fine and also know they're damaged and in need of mental help

[@jasminevaliente96]

@LivingThe VeganLife right swear anybody said come give me babies lmao dude is fine and he got a couple fine brothers behind him too

[@diedrawashington9695]

Thank you for saying that! I was sickened by those comments!

[@bksqueendee718]

ColouredNatural4c so we can’t be human and look? I’m asking for a friend lol

[@gorgeouslady5612]

I HAVE BEEN CLEAN AND SOBER FOR 23 YEARS!.

[@TheShortee44]

26 years from the post I just read on being 23 years. You're still sober, right?

[@heybhabe]

I’m sorry but how is this relevant 😥

[@taureanspiritualgoddess4449]

This is why i left my son's dad. I didnt want him to see any fighting. I wanted him to be raised in a 2 parent household but i didnt want him traumatized for my selfishness. Thank God i left.

[@aprilnicole8096]

Same here

[@victoriamiller7738]

Why is it that bad parents think they can justify and dismiss their behaviors that affected their children by saying it happened a long time ago? That doesn't mean it didn't have a negative impact on your child. Smh.

[@tixa1ify]

the nerve, I was very mad

[@devonstewart9376]

They know it but it's hard for them to swallow that they had something to do with their child's lack of growth and mistakes. Many parents don't want to see that, they can barely see their issues at hand.

[@denny3280]

This was truly a beautiful, heartwarming moment between a mother and a son. I don't watch this show but I think that's going to change real soon.

[@MsTouchofclass]

he looked very happy to see his mom carrying the weight for his acts of violence.When Iyana pointed the finger at mom his face lit up like Christmas

[@priscillachristie8422]

Yeah!! I thought I was the only one that noticed that

[@treneiceselles2705]

@@priscillachristie8422 oh... believe me. I saw it too... the sickness of it all. Like what the hell?

[@Artisticiris1256]

Lol well it was a burden she passed down

[@yungluke09]

I was looking for this comment.. lowkey kinda scary how he caught excitement tho.

[@bibibello2181]

Exactly!

[@smithieboy10]

Iyanla doesn't let anyone off the hook. He can't unsee it he can't unhear it... Well done. Cos these born again ppl always act like, why you want to bring up the past, I'm different now. Iyanla says, Apologize. Love it

[@jhiion4]

this is in a lot of black house hold's

[@MrJaylaw15]

jhiion4 truth be told, it’s every where. Black People’s problems are just the ones put on display

[@eMrsFreakyy]

Jalen Law THANK YOUUU!!! 👏🏾👏🏾 I'm sick of everybody putting all the bad traits on black people when all races have them

[@phyllismoore8983]

And White, Mexican, Chinese, Russian, Sami, Honduran, Nee Zelander......

[@natashabrogan3207]

Sad but true

[@livb3420]

Very true!

[@IsxiahzMemes]

I just love you! You are doing so much work with our brothers and sister who are so broken for lifes reasons. God Bless you...and Thank you

[@Kirstenmarshall]

YASSSSSSSSS SHE IS. THis women is showing us what God wants us to know. She is the Queen of QUEENS.

[@nice1cool]

If you can acknowledge you learned a bad trait from your parents, you can take steps to unlearn that behavior.

[@iwalkawayfromlove3840]

Exactly...zero accountability...

[@jayre24k3w2]

@@iwalkawayfromlove3840 yeah it's as easy as quitting heroin after you are addicted to it for a long time. Easier said than done,

[@aGwEENapple]

One step at a time. One can be done and so can the other.

[@nowmowcow5191]

Wow, you must be the perfect human huh?

[@epicpoliticsgirl229]

I don't think she's sorry. that's why religion is so awful. she said sorry to God instead of her children so now it's ok

[@youngmo77]

Kindly keep religion out of it. Our Christian and Catholic brethren have their methodology and us Muslims have ours. Us Muslims have to seek the forgiveness of the person we offended first, then seek the guidance of God Almighty, on our path to becoming better and avoiding to make the same mistake. Peace 11

[@TM-se5jf]

Lol...yea it's religious fault because somebody misuses it

[@marqiawalker2866]

Deep

[@youngmo77]

@@TM-se5jf Nope, looknat religion like common law, civil law. But here, if you break it, you may be sentenced in this life and the next one. Simple.

[@youngmo77]

@@marqiawalker2866 We try to stick to the truth the best we can. Blessings.

[@NeNeFay]

This man is so gorgeous.

[@JudgeHill]

I love Iyanla more and more - she really lets no one off the hook and makes us all more empathetic and accountable

[@mrs.s6212]

And he still beating the mess out of females. I'm glad I watched this while prego with my 1st born. Now I know my actions will shape his.

[@buddyraw9778]

You didn't know that before you saw this?🤔

[@ingridbee335]

He hasn't learned a damn thing. He's a sociopath. He finesses situations and manipulates people. He was saying what he needed to say.

[@kianaanderson8482]

Ingrid Bee exactly !!

[@GoddessEnergy0306]

Yep to be the victim basically he pulled a “well she did it too”

[@u-knobreezy4035]

He learned from her. Point blank. Raise a child in violence then raise a violent child. We don’t realize how much damage can be done as parents

[@u-knobreezy4035]

LivingThe VeganLife Exactly! Both his parents sound jacked up

[@jasminevaliente96]

@@GoddessEnergy0306 that's factual though how yall expect him to be any better than who raised him. A child that can grow up mature responsible kind with integrity in a home with knives being thrown is insanely rare. He got some growing to do for sure but he had all right in a therapy session to explain the root of his issues.

[@Ayommari]

Love it. Kevin seems like a sensible dude out of everyone in the house - he seems very willing to change. I hope that now he and his childrens' mother can work things out for his kids' sake.

[@latoyaharvey1853]

You must DIDN'T read the follow-up ??

[@Ayommari]

Latoya Harvey Sorry? I must didn't? What does that mean?

[@Ayommari]

Latoya Harvey I haven't watched the most recent episode as yet. Only saw this clip so far.

[@AandP4dummieslikeme]

It said that he has gone back to his old ways of being aggressive and acting out.

[@Ayommari]

justcallme... Hmmm okay that's sad to hear. I'm watching an interview with him now. He seems a bit calmer. He mentioned getting counseling from Iyanla and some other people.

[@sozamoza895]

She'll never admit to her wrong doings. I hope he gets his life together and just severs ties

[@laughlight1]

"...me before my growth." Oh do I love that hopeful summary. Real. Yesterday. So glad I saw this today...thank you...all. Forgiveness for the flawed role modeling we do as parents...powerful.

[@tabbmartin2698]

yes because so many of us mess up and admitting it to our children start their healing

[@dance4life1208]

Well he still out here beating women and he looks borderline crazy

[@REDMICRADIO]

This is why We shouldn't expose our children to disfunction. Look what happens

[@dindaroelovesyou]

He looks crazy but he is not. This is why they say everything ain't what it seems. He's a damaged souL that does not have the coping ability to be able to combat this character flaw of rage...and you cannot play both sides of the fence when it comes to which master you are choosing to serve....nobody is perfect and everyone needs to correct their character in one way or another.

[@gcade3974]

Letmesaymypeace could be true. But he could also be a psychopath. They are very good at manipulating emotions

[@LadyBrittanyNicole]

Barbara Augustin if y’all don’t shut the hell up, he in jail for putting his hands on yet another woman..That’s self growth for you losers

[@gcade3974]

@N S don't need one to take a guess. Only need one to make an assumption.

[@MA-ec9tu]

Omg this one hit home. I'm in tears. I beg for forgiveness from my babies daily!!

[@latoyaharvey1853]

I was REALLY rooting for him...VERY disappointed in the follow-up...BUT I believe and pray for change in his life...He really seems to be a good guy unlike the other dude that left in a cowardly way .. You are a KING my Brutha. .Reclaim YOUR throne and YOUR life! # God Bless you my brutha...We ALL are praying for you

[@promisesmithee943]

Kings don't beat their girlfriends

[@promisesmithee943]

Latoya Harvey I think you are projecting here, other wise you would not be so defensive. A true king does not put their hands on any woman period. The only king worthy of honor is God not man.

[@latoyaharvey1853]

Promise Smithee​ Projecting HOW? We as BLACK ppl can't continue to KILL, belittle nor stick our noses down on our own just bc you feel his sins are worst than yours....Take a look @ your hands baby girl, you got dirt on them too. We all have backslide numerous times BUT God forgives and DOESN'T judge...And you can point out and keep picking@ that ONE flaw you continue to preject...BUT EVERYBODY deserves to be given another chance . NOW, I DO NOT agree when ANY man puts his hands on a woman for w.e reason..Ijs, I feel that MY ppl are Kings and Queens...PERIOD ! And we ain't gotta get super DEEP about God...Bc I place NO man above thee

[@mmulematjila2565]

Amen Latoya Harvey

[@2MeNew2]

+Latoya Harvey I agree

[@PushaTeeDot]

Powerful! I empathize with both of them. Now he is responsible for his continuous healing journey

[@mantiilove]

Right once you’re aware you can no longer make excuses . Yes you can blame the mother all ya want but now has to take responsibility so he won’t end up like his parents . So anything that happens after that is his problem , sad case but that’s just how it is .

[@RuizMrs]

He is just so 😍😍😍

[@lifeofalady]

Nastacia Ruiz he is beautiful. Yes ma'am

[@tanishamourid2202]

He will beat those hearts smooth out of your eyes too. He's abusive!

[@ohhweeeee]

Tanisha Miller Girl that was real but hilarious😂 but girls will still open their for this man.

[@tanishamourid2202]

😂😂😂😂

[@destinybolling7836]

Tanisha Miller girl stop! 🤣😂🤣.....u right tho

[@antoinettemccreath6138]

Omg he's so freaking beautiful its unreal

[@sheikdawg9]

Love Ms Iyanla 🖤 tough lady 😳

[@cynthiapetty520]

That was so beautiful the world would be able to heal, if we had more families, talking instead of blocking out the truth and not yelling because pain is all this world knows.We need peace now.

[@firesign4297]

Dear Bro. Kevin McCall ..you are in alllll our Prayers!!!...Please reach back out to Iyanla..and all the STRONG BLACK MEN...who helped you get threw....Please don't. ..Black Slide...You! sir were our...FAVORITE!!! (Smile)...

[@ilovesunshine8124]

He needed to hear that, you could tell hes been waiting 20 years.

[@t.kuykendall517]

I don't know who this man is, but he is sooooooo handsome.

[@amberdelivered06]

T. Kuykendall he sang deuces with Chris Brown.

[@AandP4dummieslikeme]

Yes, indeed :-)

[@Nicole2023]

His ex fiance eva said he was abusive to her while she was pregnant

[@alexandria4401]

Wow he’s very known in the hip hop & r&b culture

[@justicethomas109]

Kevin McCall he did scrip with Chris

[@BabySpit]

Before you have kids please acknowledge that they will be the worst and best reflection of you.

[@akuasalaam490]

The way his mother attempted to dismiss her horrific behavior, UGGGHHH... Parents make me so damn sick sometimes.

[@iamlegallyhype]

Kevin Is my frat brother and a beautiful soul which made me think about my moves as a single mother. We never know how our hurts and frustrations can affect our children

[@yakiniholloway5563]

Don’t you hate when parents act like they don’t remember their behavior. No she don’t get that ... I can’t stand his mom and parents like her

[@Cyndi72]

Kevin McCall is still crazy. He needs a part 2, 3, & 4.

[@See-if_I_care]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@sexytrinny52]

Rome wasn't built over night. And instead of your being Messy, Dishonoring, devaluing and Dismissive. Pray you don't do your kids the same way.

[@m.magdalenedieujusternfutu3309]

This show is not a cure. It s tool/s , awareness,healing,hope, blind eyes open situation and more. And when people understand years of damages doesn't go away in a few days/months than that when the negative comments will stop. This show is so needed. Thank God for growth.

[@deeplydeeplydope1111]

Powerful is what this is

[@ayashayisrael9050]

The beautiful thing is that they got the lesson. None of us are going to do everything right but keep growing and attempt to be a better version of you every day.

[@marsha-madness-super-badness]

Right? I hope they've continued to make progress.

[@MzYumYum69]

I've always had sympathy for Kevin McCall because I just knew in my gut that his type of crazy was the result of childhood trauma, not a result of chemical imbalance or innate mean spiritedness. I also think he picks women that are like his mother when she was young. Attractive, feisty and not taking accountability.

[@M0J0_]

But this was beautiful. I love to see this in our community. We need more of this!! So many broken black families need to heal so they can rise up and become stronger together

[@sewcraftylion]

Except he didn't heal, he got worse

[@keionajones4614]

Hi own! We (caribbean viewers) need to be able to get your channel. Salivating over each of these snippets. We need some more Iyanla in our lives lol. Hope can be able to view more soon

[@natashadorleus2536]

I feel so sorry for him because he’s so handsome

[@daughterofzion9017]

I feel for this man because she did not even properly apologize to him...This isn’t a grown man, that’s a traumatized child sitting in that chair...I hope he heals and can transition to being a healthier man...

[@lasqtst328]

I pray for Kevin daily. God has put it on my spirit to keep him in prayer, along with all the other people I pray for. Remove his tragic memories and his pain, God. Make him whole again.

[@lusyn2927]

That’s why control myself in front of my daughter when I get mad. I don’t want her to learn it then become the person that I don’t want her to be

[@brianthomas3249]

I’ve been saying this for years. It all starts at home.

[@keepitallthewayfunky3448]

Being brought up in a similar situation made me act the opposite. I didn’t want to be the screaming , yelling , hands flying boogie man to my own kids. He ain’t right regardless.

[@monicaunity3838]

That's beautiful...i pray that the art of healing and forgiveness as demonstrated here in this video should glow thru every home and every prison

[@sudanesgal]

This man is a narc. He loved the fact that iyanla instantly shifted the blame on his mother.

[@goldenaura949]

Exactly!

[@peacockrose9631]

but how did he become a Narc.. I mean where else was the accountability suppose to go

[@nik-at-nite]

Tee Xplanation right. It’s a relief to see the person that hurt you be held accountable. He’s a product of his mother’s behavior.

[@lovelythomas8837]

What??? Are u serious she hurt him now she needs to hear it period

[@heybhabe]

You look like you bully children and have angers issues too tho but Idk it’s just the vibe I’m gettin

[@a.8774]

My mother was like this until she was 80 and the only thing that stopped her outbursts of anger was an illness and surgery on her heart. Instead of her lashing out at me with her rages, she just simply ignores and rejects me and never ever calls or spend time with me. I just simply let her go and released her to God. Now she is 83 and will be 84 in 4 months.

[@copperlight]

Ugg she is so....smug. And Kevin sitting their with a smirk like “thank you, tell the people the truth”. They are not good after this mom’s fake apology.

[@kyradingle4900]

My mother is the same way. She has no regard nor care about how she was as a mom affected me as a woman and parent. But she constantly comes down on me

[@madwalka6402]

I guess Iyanla didn't fix his life!!

[@promisesmithee943]

Lol uhm oh why u say that

[@Thinkem29]

Madwalka - IYANLA FIX MY LIFE is referring to the client doing the the work not Dr / Pastor IYANLA doing only what the client can do which is "fix their life!"

[@karenmay9396]

Only Jesus himself can fix his life!

[@tparker8370]

Change2be1 ......we know only God can heal the situation but it gives them a platform to be able to express themselves and hear each other and even if it doesn't help them it may help someone else hearing their story

[@jasminenicolec]

😂😂😂 Right

[@nubiacairo8835]

Parents don't realize the impact their behaviours have on their children. Children live what they learn and children learn what they live.

[@curlyvirgo58]

Beautiful moment.

[@patwilson7596]

I'm so glad he told his mom..git it from you...and also probably saw his dad treat mom bad. Parents should always set a good example in front of their kids...

[@believensee8621]

It is sad to me that this guy is so violent and abusive in his speech/actions and all people can talk about is how "fine" he is. Do better black people!

[@Bcarv615]

It’s so important to acknowledge your own behavior in any situation. Owning it as Ms. Vanzant states

[@sinosakambana]

It’s her saying it was 20 years ago for me.

[@teisasterling4797]

GIRL.... MAMA... MOTHER. YOU GOTTA ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR BEHAVIOR. ACKNOWLEDGE HIM. HEAR HIM. FEEL HIM. That’s all we want as children- to be heard and to have our feelings acknowledged.

[@YTD07]

Alot of parents are going to be held accountable for how these adults act today smh

[@barrowbarre6411]

This mama and her son will never be the same again

[@asandakhathi]

Kevin has this evil smile on his face when people can't see. It's frightening. He's that type of person, when you push too far, you see yourself

[@roddy243]

This is so amazing God will rise ...amen yall got this....blessings in my prayers...

[@aGwEENapple]

I hate when you bring up the wrong things your parents did and they try to bring up something else and deflect. She said "that was 20 years ago" and the door. STILL WRONG.

[@black50736]

respect to you mamma anything that will keep our black together is well accepted by me and others like myself so please keep up the good work because you are inspiring and gifted

[@o13sweetboy]

I don't understand why people go onto these shows to get so called help but after the show they just go back into their crumby ways..like what's the point. you might as well go on Love & Hip hop.

[@dontdomeboo81]

Daniel Bailey thats cuz well people need to maintain therapy it mental maintenance

[@mvpattinson3529]

but y on tv thoe its a private matter

[@dontdomeboo81]

MVJ PATTINSON very true i wouldnt be on 📺 doin this...

[@dontdomeboo81]

MVJ PATTINSON idk why they on tv doin this its beyond me... not for the the world to kno. only you your fam who is in therapy and therapist......

[@dindaroelovesyou]

Have your life be publicized and we'd see how fast this comment would be erased.

[@indigoearthangel888]

I'm glad he and his parents are healing. Thanks Iyanla

[@erict7093]

This dude is fine!!!!

[@wisediva9807]

Eric T he fine af

[@mugrad25]

yes he is...omg

[@lyric2439]

😂😂

[@Jbecyou]

This healing scene made me cry, you have a chance to change everyday 💕

[@dowardwashington9958]

You can't teach your son how to behave badly "20 years ago" and expect to be able to run and hide from him when he becomes the monster you created.

[@I_am_milan]

I 1000% blame his mother for his behavior. Guarenteed! She modelled this behaviour for him. And this was before I clicked play.

[@rainawills2771]

A violent parent is unfortunate but it doesn't excuse HIS behavior.

[@lisasmith1798]

"Where does love come from? Where does it go when its gone? What takes it's place and why does that space turn hard as stone?" -never fallin' Living Legends. I think he def has no room for love undoing all that rage and anger will be the hardest thing he's ever going to do.

[@nosbigem]

The apology should’ve been first thing

[@keishafromscratch]

And he’s still damaged. Hope he heals one day

[@Bnizzofashizzo]

Beautiful ending. One thing. People spend 20 years being abhorrent then they “ grow” and want you to pretend like you forgot.

[@da-gamada-gama2704]

This why I always control myself in front of my son, I don’t want him to copy any of my bad behaviour!!

[@wilrodz7406]

Amazing help